The Truth Is, You’re Sexy (For Now)
My friend Ian was talking about the two women he was interested in recently. One of them is kind, has a lot going for her, and is attractive. The other is “stunning”, a little distant towards him, and is giving him mixed signals.
I asked him which one he got along with the best and he said they both are cool. But he thinks that Ms. Attractive has the potential of losing her looks. At first, I thought this was an extremely shallow way of thinking. Then I thought about Ian and his obsession with his own looks.
I believe a lot of people have this fear about themselves and sometimes they project it on others. I suppose it’s a real concern for him personally, therefore, he thinks the same way about his future wife. If you are seeking a long-term partner, do you ever worry about their looks fading?
Perhaps you’ve heard the following before: If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, Never make a pretty woman your wife. A man is only as faithful as his options. So basically the theory is that when it comes to relationships, the more attractive you are, the less likely you are to be a good partner. I don’t know if I agree with this or not. What do you think?
Do extremely attractive people make bad partners? Do you think that you invest more in a relationship if you are less attractive (or think you are) than your partner?
Where and how do you think a person’s looks and their character intersect?
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Sassy Me...juicy fruit needs to be seen....STAT!!...code 10...man down :-)
July 23rd, 2009
1:35 pm
Jamoca I’ve never heard that breakdown before and that dog don’t hunt….I soo don’t beleive that. Even if it WERE true that’t still nasty wrong.
Cialis and that “Niagra” got them confrused…..maybe they’ve never heard of priapism.
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
1:35 pm
Hey Demi.. Starting that ish I see!
I am going to blame my rape case on you!!
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
1:35 pm
@For Real- You forgot Chopper/Choppa= AK
@Melo- I stopped smiling back in Jr High..lol…I dont know why..lol
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
1:38 pm
…i’m not even going to visit Zulu’s list…i wont…i wont.
Raqi He is so adorable. I’ll aske Will about his new babyboy portfolio. Dad sent pictures of babyboy via email. We’ve been talking about him the entire lunchtime today. Amongst one other guy here wife is due this month.
Babies everywhere.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit needs to be seen....STAT!!...code 10...man down :-)
July 23rd, 2009
1:38 pm
Dammit Demi….I tried to be nice yesterday when you and Lioness started with all of those old-school-used to sweat my perm out-backbreakin’ music y’all started with yesterday…..almost mademe backslide and call somebody. Now you gone start with Maxwell and it’s not even 2 p.m. yet…..y’all makin’me weak.
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
1:38 pm
lol@For Real
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
1:38 pm
JAMOCA Don’t leave yet. As a result of your playing one of my songs yesterday and finding the scrunf to type Raheem DeVaughn’s name, thru your UNwarranted rejection of him… the Kneegrow Clarifiyah found herself channeling ol Rasa Devi…
“Jamoca Jumps All In”. Picture it.
TampaAtlanta, 2010…My2: How come you been so scarce, Moca?
Moca: What had happened was..I was walkin dcross the parking lot and and all I heard was Now if you wanna roll with me, then here’s your chance..Doin eighty on the freeway, police catch me if you can Forgive me i’m a rider, still I’m just a simple man All I want is money, f**k the fame I’m a simple man…
My2: (Rolling eyes) He finally came back to life?
Moca: He ain’t dead, chick, he ain’t dead! Dude kinda reminded me of him too, so I knew right then, this was sumthin speshaa
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
1:39 pm
@Ce- Zulu’s list is nice..lol
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
1:39 pm
Mytwo I cain’t even go with ya’ll on that, for real. I’m so outdone at the contents!
Jamoca - Brown Skin, Up Against My Brown Skin...need Some Evry Now&Then
July 23rd, 2009
1:39 pm
The clothes she wears, her sexy ways,
make a old man wish for younger days
She knows she’s built and knows how to please
Sure enough to knock a stronger man to his knees
Disclaimer: My 1:24 is in no way advocating an underage girl being with a grown man…or vice versa Just provided the analogy, because even in today’s society it doesn’t surprise me that an older man lets it be known that “he may be old, be he ain’t blind” …like the next man; young, middle-aged or old.
Rell - tell groupie to get over it!
July 23rd, 2009
1:40 pm
you forgot
toast
heater
ooo wop
my bench
Not Judge Grace :)
July 23rd, 2009
1:40 pm
I always suspect somethings up with a smiling man. yeahhh somethings always up
Jamoca - Brown Skin, Up Against My Brown Skin...need Some Evry Now&Then
July 23rd, 2009
1:41 pm
Correction: Doesn’t surprise me that an older man lets it be known that “he may be old, BUT he ain’t blind”.
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
1:41 pm
Demi, Melo check your text and get at me please
Page1908
July 23rd, 2009
1:42 pm
Ok, of course I don’t know the topic, but i think i saw somebody talking about dating older men/women? Those ole dudes have those Christmas tinsel pubes! *gross*. lol
I think it’s funny when older people say “well, i don’t look old so i don’t date older men/women”. it’s like ummmm ok. that is so not rad. lol
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
1:42 pm
My2: He made you feel a certain kinda way, huh? He must speak to your spirit, serenades your soul?
Moca: Many nights he was alone.. Many, many, many nights… His light was so bright that they turned away..And he stood alone… Every night and every day… Then he turned to me… He saw his reflection in me, And he smiled at me, when he turned to me..Then he said to me… How good it is, how good it is. How good it is, how good it is… I’m an Orange Moon, I’m brighter than before. Brighter than ever before, I’m an Orange Moon and I shine so bright ..Cause I reflect the light of my sun… I praise the day, he turned my way, And smiled at me… He gets to smile and I get to be orange…
My2: OKAAAY! You are just dewy and glowing, girl. This gotta be it!
Moca (blushing): Yousa muufuhhh, Mytwo! But yeah, I had no reservations once he hit me with this – I can’t stay away from you too long…Even if I do I’ll always call … Checkin’ on you make sure you’re ok… Be the one to brighten up your day… And the point of it all … Is I love you.. My days seem long whenever we’re apart, It’s like someone had thrown away my heart… You’re a major part of my life, And no matter what the storm may bring, I’m fine with you, And the point of it all… Is I love you… And the reason for it all…Is I love you
My2’s heart smiles
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
1:44 pm
W8 I came back from lunch and hit the refresh button, saw Mr. Melo’s list and was like.
“aauuuuwwwwww……daaaaaang”…I know mytwo sitting looking at her screen, and about to fall completely out cause she tryna catch her breath!
I’m so done!
Melo
July 23rd, 2009
1:46 pm
i hit u back playa!
Demi
July 23rd, 2009
1:48 pm
Lioness/Sassy…Bare with me ladies, I am only listening to R&B right now. I will step my game up next week and play some death metal for Staceye…hard core rap for Rell/DK/W8/For Real…and R&B for myself…HAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHA…
Well, my bey turns heads all the time…well, we both do…oh well…we look good together
now suckin on a blow pop…like I am sucking on the ‘little girl in the boat’
Melo
July 23rd, 2009
1:48 pm
W8,dont mind my swagg/pretentions on here,im a prisoner and slave at the same time!
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
1:49 pm
This is song the old men folk bump to:
Pumps and a bump, Pumps and a bump, we like the girls with the Pumps and a bump!
Pumps and a bump, now many say a big butt
But if you’re hip you know that it’s a phone crud
It’s making the brothers go crazy in the 2-G
Shake like a bottle girl fine as wine G
So when I here I got a step (to a fine thing)
Never been a coward (cause it’s a eastside thing)
Just step right up to the girl with the big butt
Tell her what’s up you got the pumps and a bump
Bridge:
Men: Ooooh! Everyone for the rest of your life there’s a girl f*cking tight!
Ladies! All everyone there’s a man who is tight who can hit it all night!
We gotta get the pumps!
Demi
July 23rd, 2009
1:50 pm
…been a while…gotta practice!!
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
1:50 pm
“Those ole dudes have those Christmas tinsel pubes! *gross*. lol”
@Page- How do you know that? Let me find out you out there entertaining wrinkled wangs..lol
mytw♥cents...Lambiquitous Negro Clarifier
July 23rd, 2009
1:50 pm
SASSAFRASS Somebody said sumthin earlier about a chick not wanting to mess up her hair? That’s one of the few reasons to sacrifice a fresh do, tho.
CEE Stop actin afraid all yo life, gal. He was very complimentary and restrained. You know our Zulu can behave. At times…
CUTIE You are very liberal with the rape & molest terminology. That might be for me, what ‘hate’ usage is to you.
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
1:52 pm
@MY2- I dont know why Ce acting all soft now a days
@Melo- i got ya..lol
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
1:52 pm
Mytwo- RESPECT
For Real
July 23rd, 2009
1:52 pm
Old Dudes theme song:
Cause’ we like her
And we like her too
Sassy Me...juicy fruit needs to be seen....STAT!!...code 10...man down :-)
July 23rd, 2009
1:52 pm
now suckin on a blow pop…like I am sucking on the ‘little girl in the boat’
Well alright then
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
1:54 pm
Lemme see.
AmazonRed™
July 23rd, 2009
1:54 pm
W8 – Do you have any friends that aren’t on this blog?
Page1908
July 23rd, 2009
1:56 pm
LOL W8- totally gross no way! gross…..wrinkled wangs! *gagg*!! I remember the discussion on here before about the Christmas tinsel pubes and someone said that even though they themselves are old, they don’t like old dudes because of the Christmas tinsel pubes. *shrugs*
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
1:56 pm
Melo Thanks for the compliment.
Smart Water??? Yea, I bought some. at lunch..’Course FIJI is never on sale. I get this high falootin water for the game ‘cuase is actually cost way less than purchasing a regular bottle of water at the park.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit needs to be seen....STAT!!...code 10...man down :-)
July 23rd, 2009
1:56 pm
Somebody said sumthin earlier about a chick not wanting to mess up her hair? That’s one of the few reasons to sacrifice a fresh do, tho.
Just let it be worth it,though(Hercules,Hercules,Hercules)…..and ummmm I’ll be needin’ some money to get my hair done so he shouldn’t have a problem with that
simple
July 23rd, 2009
1:56 pm
Bad people make bad partners. It has nothing to do with looks.
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
1:56 pm
rock tha boat rock tha boat….work tha middle work tha middle..opppsssss
(this is a hard road I am trying to travel now..gessh)
Demi
July 23rd, 2009
1:57 pm
oooooooh…I have a strong tongue…I am now to the gum…and tongue still isn’t tired…Demi has skills!!!
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
1:57 pm
@Ared- I only have 2 friends and they are not on this blog..
Mike Jones (who)
July 23rd, 2009
1:57 pm
All this talk about old dudes, yall need a young Whippa Snappa such as myself! lol
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
1:58 pm
That is why I wear my hair natural half the time cause this weather ALONE messes up my hair muchless doing the do..
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
1:59 pm
Mike- I got young dude stories too..
What is wrong with Demi & W8??
Cemeeli
July 23rd, 2009
2:00 pm
Hey Simp How are you? You still at Sydney Marcus @ Lenox?
waving
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
2:00 pm
How old is an old dude?
Jamoca - Brown Skin, Up Against My Brown Skin...need Some Evry Now&Then
July 23rd, 2009
2:02 pm
LMAOffff @ The Kneegrow Clarifiyah! Oh my dayum! Chick, please don’t give me any extra ideas, to go along with the motivation, which was given to me by He who inspires The Great Migration! LOLolOLOLol
So Rasa no longer rejects her calling as the infamous one of her teaching of the Kama Sutra and The Lessons of Love. Well it’s about time, missy!
And btw, liked how you parlayed the “Troublesome One” (la,la,la-la,la,la-la-la-bye-bye-all you iggas die AND no he isn’t dead! LOL) to Mama Being so serrus about that gun, to the artist who speaks to my inna sckrunf (strength). LOL
And yes, High Priestess, I confess all my blog sins and that all sounds about right! Hahahaaa I’m gone need you to stop lettin’ folk know the play. But I’m in such disbelief right now that you laid it out like that! Still Lmao!…Dayuuuummm.
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
2:02 pm
@Lioness- Nothing just real and non-judgemental
Lioness
July 23rd, 2009
2:02 pm
Old Dude to me is a dude looking old PERIOD!! No age range..
Sassy Me...juicy fruit needs to be seen....STAT!!...code 10...man down :-)
July 23rd, 2009
2:04 pm
That is why I wear my hair natural half the time cause this weather ALONE messes up my hair muchless doing the do..
I hear you girl…..for me I just put it up in a pony tail(comes in handy) and go to work….my hair is a pretty good length so I do what I can.
(this is a hard road I am trying to travel now..gessh)
And what road is that grasshoppa?….share por favor.
W8©
July 23rd, 2009
2:05 pm
But I recently saw a woman of a 31 year old woman who looks plus 40
Mike Jones (who)
July 23rd, 2009
2:05 pm
@Lioness
I’ve got (older) women stories
Demi
July 23rd, 2009
2:08 pm
Ohh, I started from the top…blow pop now has a crater…the gum feels like a nipple in my mouth…oooohhhh
Melo
July 23rd, 2009
2:08 pm
CEE:
u welcome..whats for dinner?
On the Bluff and zone1,so which area is zone 2,3 and 4.
And the hood names??