cross out that last statement….I was moving too darn fast

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As far as being honest and emotional…I can’t deal with that. I mean will you tell me my butt looks big in those jeans and then apologize profusely when I give you the evil eye?

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IMO I don’t think we want to hear the truth…we’d take a lie and believe it than hearing the truth and accepting it – Jack N. imfamous line – U can’t handle the truth!

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Have you ever been friends with someone for a long time and then became romantically involved?

Yes…I think I shared this story a while back so I will spare you all a re-run.

Why can’t a man and woman be friends and be in a relationship?

I want and need the friendship in the relationship. I don’t consider myself to have had many relationships, but I will say the healthiest relationship I was in we was friends and that made all the difference in the world. I think the friendship carried us during the valley of the relationship.

Are we sure we want all that honesty? You are doggone right, I want the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

@Ared I love the line from Judy Blume, very fitting.

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Morning Bloggers! I’m friends with 2 Men from my past…so it can be done if you “allow it” Have a great day everyone

http://www.blackthen.com

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I failed to add my disclaimer in this whole discussion. I have never been the one for casual relationships or casual sex, so I value having a complete relationship and friendship is apart of that package.

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Demi you got me rockin’ to that song. Ohh that used to be my jam!

***There are few things that’s forever, my lady
We can make war or make babies***

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Kym…I gotta let you know this…now climbing on blog crate…Happy late as hellz 25 birf’day Boo!!!

Kim is now drop kick Demi off blog crate

Kim: SUCKA!!

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I genuinely like my significant other as a person. We laugh and joke about just about everything, sometimes until we are in tears. We have the most fun when we go in a store, so much that we irritate the people around us who don’t understand our public interaction. But I can say that we were not friends first in the sense that I’d known him for a while then we started dating. That’s never been a requirement of mine (i.e., we must be friends for 180 days before I can see you in a romantic light). Anyone I’m interested in for more than friendship, I know fairly soon. Once I see him that way, being “just friends” doesn’t interest me.

I will say, though, that we certainly do not have the same type of friendship that I have with my two male “just friends”. I’ve known them longer, one I’ve known for 13 years, the other, 8 years. There’s no pressure involved, no threat of breakup there. So I don’t expect it to be the same…and it’s best for me that it isn’t.

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I like jeans that make my butt look big. Can y’all share with me where a sister can get a pair like that? LOL

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Pretty wings all I can say is yep on that 9:20

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Professor…Boooooooy, it has a new meaning now…LOL

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Rell – I’ve never used the term let’s be friends first, the way I think, I will keep the guy in the friendship zone and will not get a chance to move from there.

I would have to say yes but baby they dont look bad because they accenuate your hips -Infamous – good boy

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Foots…Aha!! Foots aka pancake booty…Where is Sean J when you need him??

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As far as the truth goes, most women don’t want to hear the truth.

Do these jeans make my butt look big… “No your butt makes those jeans look big”
Is she prettier than me…Survey says yes

I think you can tell someone the truth but its all about how you say it. No one wants to hear the bold blantant truth but if you have a way with words then you can say anything.

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@MJ…women with alot of male friends and limited female friends…are straight up attention w hores….

@Prof/Grace….i have meet alot of women that want to use up my time and all my knowledge of fun stuff to do…i hear “i like our friendship, why mess it up with a relationship”….or “i like to go at my own pace, stop forcing it”….but then turn around and say lets go grab drinks today…or what are you doing this weekend….NOT YOU LAME!!!…lol….

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Demi I am happy that you found love! So I you are taking the leap, huh? Good for you! Now I need to find someone and take the leap with…

I am with Grace I don’t say friends first I date smart men I really feel you can form both at the same time if both parties are honest.

For me I know if I am forming a friendship/relationship with how I communicate and disclose. I was seeing someone and I found myself sharing with him some issues that was on my plate at the time…I knew I was focused on him when I found myself sharing information and the stuff I shared I would normally tell my friends, but the key is I was developing a friendship/relationship with him.

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(The trick comes in when you can be honest with yourself about how you feel about the person, not matter what outside influences may say.)

In ignorant speak:

Imma do me and you do you…BISH!!

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Tell em Rell

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I have 39″ hips

- NOW WHY DO I NEED THAT IMAGE IN MY HEAD THIS MORNING…geeh thanks ms new booty…..some of use are not spreading 39 inch hips at the moment..so the mere mention of hips…size…conjures up images that i dont need at 10am….lol….

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@ Foots – Squats! lol…

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Demison Auh, wedding bells?

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Rell I don’t play it like that if I am getting at you I don’t put you in a friendship box and I don’t do all of that pacing and timing either. I feel like if we are both free let’s work on getting to know each other in all capacities…

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Ohhhh Demi Demi 70s style wedding that is what’s up!!!

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Rell – If a smart man can’t outwit a dumb woman, then he highly overestimates his own level of intelligence.

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if you ain’t feeling it, PUH-LEEZE get the eff on so i can find your replacement. just be polite and respectful when you do it. and don’t be mad if i decide that i don’t like yo’ a** very much afterward.

anonymousella…say it with me sista…”my puddy is golden…my puddy is golden”…LOL

Cemeeli…only if our relationship last more than two years. I will wife her up then.

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Good Morning.

I believe friendship is by far the most important unit to possess in a relationship. Friendship means we like each other aside from loving each other.

From my honest experience I do know that it is more difficult to accept a negative implication coming from a mate/spouse than it is from a friend. It doesn’t even matter how long we were friends before the relationship and what things he said or implied back then. Sometimes hearing them now that he is my mate/my husband makes it feel a little less constructive and a bit more critical or judgmental.

It’s not even that he says things that he didn’t say before or even say it differently. It’s just that we tend to look to our mate to be the one that embraces and reassures us. Anything negative said by them tends to touch deeper than when we were just friends.

Now on the other hand, there are things that he does and can do that are different because I am now his. It could be something that I wear or someone that I befriend or want to have lunch with. While it was totally innocent back then, it can be taken as a slap in the face now, although still innocent.

Dang, I always tends to take it to the left…let me get back on the topic.

Yes it is harder accepting the honest truth from a love one that it is a friend. If feels less off-putting…because you know he is my man, he should be saying those things to me. But friendship is like that. We tell each other just how it is. Real friends, that is.

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Cee – Girl, I’d rather just buy the jeans. LOL!

Rell — So sorry…

anonymousella – I think that the key word there is “expectation”. Somewhere along the way, we’ve been told that our mate “should be” our best friend. I think that mates should definitely like each other enough to have established a real friendship that can exist outside of romance, but I no longer have the expectation that he should be my best friend. Once I let go of that expectation and realized that with him, just like with my other friends, there are things I want to share with him and things I’d rather share with someone else because that person will know just what to say, and even things I’d rather keep to myself.

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*sigh* and i really need to proofread before hitting the submit button.

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(I have a gf who will go thru the wilderness for her girlfriends but when it comes to her husband, he gets the shaft..)

Grace, she just doesn’t respect dude that’s all…married for the wrong reason.

Cee…you know I is old…your brother turns 30 and started thinking long term. This is a weird feeling.

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Why can’t a man and woman be friends and be in a relationship?

I think you can’t have one successfully without the other….meaning that any fruitful relationship should start off as a friendship and build from there. If you are truly interested in gettng to know a person romantically or otherwise how can you do that without becoming/being friends first?..that should be the corner stone.

Why do women say they want their man to be honest about their emotions, then get upset when they say something that hurts their feelings? Are we sure we want all that honesty?

While there are SOME women that can’t handle the truth they ask for please know and understand that not all of us are so fragile. I would want to know otherwise I wouldn’t ask and if that means that I may not like or accept the answer then that’s on ME…..I’ll be okay eventually but I want the truth. That’s what I give and that’s what I’d like in return….why should honest be so difficult?

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Foots – Why do you and I have about the same hip size?

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….my theory on that one

Infamous I think it is because we tend to place more demands on a spouse or mate than we do a friend. We tend to expect more of a mate (which is often warranted) than we do just a friend. Things changing can feel like a burden as been added when actually it is possibly what is right.

Some people have a hard time be accountable to someone else after moving the friendship from one level to marriage.

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kimmie — I should have read your post while I was typing mine. I feel the same way about friendship and relationship growing at the same time.

Amazon — And you’re like 5 inches taller than me too, right? Sizes are funny. My mom is 5′2″, weighs 136 pounds and she’s a 10. I’m 5′6″, 140 and I’m a 6. You’re probably a 4. I guess the height difference accounts for the difference in weight distribution.

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Just curious…the same with me and my high school sweetheart, but he still keeps in touch. It is nothing for him to call me, in fact I have heard from him twice this week. The thing is so much has changed since the 10th grade and it gets on my nerves…

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Pre’T Wingz…Thanks!! I am just being a jack rabbit right now…thats why I called my verison, “Ignorant Speaks”.

(A man/woman does not need outside inflences to validate what they see in each other)

Tell me about it…She is dang near my mom’s age and I am dang near her son’s age…This ia going to be some ish, LOL

Bey was like, “Young Buck, lets ride” LOL

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Foots – I’m a size 2. I can wear jeans in that size as long as they get a little stretch to em. I’m pear shaped for real. When I order bikinis the bottoms are two sizes larger than the top.

Yeah, I’ve got about half a foot on you as well.

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the same with me and my high school sweetheart, but he still keeps in touch. It is nothing for him to call me, in fact I have heard from him twice this week. The thing is so much has changed since the 10th grade and it gets on my nerves…

Professor – I’m not friends with any of em…just various stages of “cool.” I wouldn’t necessarily contact any of em, but if they wanted to contact me, I’d probably be okay depending on who it was.

If my HS sweetheart found me on FB or something, I wouldn’t be mad or anything. I just don’t feel the need to seek my exes out or work on building a friendship when it’s all said and done. I feel people do come in your life for a reason and it’s okay when it’s time for them to go too!

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Friends before dating, It’s possible but i always put it out there in the beginning ” I am not trying to be stuck in the friend zone or the big brother role” I have found my best relationships have been the ones when we worked on the friendship and the relationship at the same time without stressing each other out. We just fit each other well, same sense of humor, liked the same things, loved each other…if the relationship ended so did the friendship..no need for that awkward situation.

On mean and women being friends..I have alot of female friends some for a few years some since childhood. It can work, do to the fact that I am not trying to sex the women that I call friends they feel more comfortable around me because they know I am not trying to “get at them”. When I meet a new woman and she and I are going to be in a relationship she meets my friends male and female…now my female friends are very protective of me..but I like that..sometimes..lol..but anyway I have dated women with male friends and I have met them also…I guess I am confident enough that I know that she is my girl until she gives me a reason not to think so

Now what gets me is that women want men to be all 100% honest but they are not 100% honest themselves. They want you to be all 100% treating them like you are all in in a relationship but when you ask that to be reciprocating they hold back on the feelings, honesty and truth and as soon as you start to pull back you are the one doing wrong? What the heezy? You want me to treat you like I am the best boyfriend in the world and keep tabs on me..while you are just treating me like a friend and you are still flaunting your independence? Sorry sweetie, game recognize game even if there is nothing said. Long story short “some” women expect all honesty all the time but they always keep some of their truth in reserve for themselves. And if a woman has more male friends than guy friends…beware of that “I get along with guys better than girls” Well hey sweetie guess what “I get along with women better than guys” but that doesnt make it right (guys will say to themselves..she hangs around to many guys…guys dont want that girl) ..hmmmm if you cant function or comfortable around your own kind….and then fellas if she doesnt introduce you to those male friends or if you even detect a slight change in her demeanor around those males friends…just beware..what else..lol..IF your female friend has a myspace, facebook..etc.. and has a bunch of male friends but WONT add you…hmmmmmmmmm..lol…good morning

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Raqi – No I know Marriage changes a friendship because the expectations change. Oh I know this.. Those words “But youre my Husband now” or “But Youre my wife now” changes the dynamic in a friendship/relationship so much its crazy. Expectations are a mother.. I’m on some new ish. I dont expect nothing but what you give me and if its something I can deal with cool.. If I want something more then I know youre not for me.

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Have you ever met someone so special that the friendship option was the only option to choose for fear of losing them to romantic love?

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Asking your lover if you look fat in something is just stupid

kimmie we only ask to hear NO. Like you said I know if and when I put on a few extra pounds. I only ask when I need to be made to feel better…sexy…pretty. Heck it is human nature.

We all like compliments and reassurance. Especially when we are feeling a little off.

Or maybe it’s just me…

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Good morning everyone. Too much here to read.

I have been best of friends with a man for many years before becoming romantically involved. We discussed everything under the sun, moon and stars as friends. Once involved, our honesty took on another level and it was extremely refreshing. Unfortunately, family tragedies on his end had him moving away.

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@W8 Game recognize Game huh? I keep hearing India Arie in my head “Beacuse He is the truth and he is so real and I love the way that he makes me feel and If I am a refection of him, then I must be fly”

Agreed, the ability for women to do locker room with each other is essential to balance.

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@kimmie…lady, let me apologize for that….i will not go off…your friends experience is my experience at least 70 percent of the time…i meet the former f reaks…..ALL THE DAY UM TIME…its aggravating…but i dont understand why women feel that witholding is going to change a mans behavior or somehow magically change him into this stand up dude….thats why i said yesterday that women think that ” h oe cave” will change the world…IT WONT…dude is going to be who is if you giving it up daily or not….please explain ladies if you will why you think that holding out will make a man change and respect you more!?!?!?!

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Raqi – When I need compliments or reassurances, I just ask for them.

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Ok ladies.. A dude is not a friend if in the back of your mind you like him or you know he likes you. There is nothing worse than breaking up with someone and finding out the dude that was so called her friend that you had met is now dating your ex.

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(please explain ladies if you will why you think that holding out will make a man change and respect you more!?!?!?!)

Is she holding out as in…Imma sit on this puddy until that kneegro starts acting right.

or

Is she being respectful of herself…about what she is looking for?

and

And Rell…what path are you taking for the puddy?

A quick rump/booty call or relationship?

I think women react to what a man is putting out.

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@Sexy Cool I agree with your 10:55am. Tell me I am cute, beautiful, smart it makes me feel good.

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@SexyCool ~ thank you for your 10:02 because I too was thinking he can’t be very smart.

@ARed ~ like the Judy Blume reference and will remember it.

@Cee ~ your reference to Demi still being on formula made me chuckle. That was cute!

@W8 ~ you were warn yesterday! Take heed!

@Sassy While there are SOME women that can’t handle the truth they ask for please know and understand that not all of us are so fragile” THANK YOU!

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@Dk – No, not to say that I would not want the relationship to evolve, but dayum, I don’t want it to be a casultgy of love either. Crafing that darling will take “a no matter what” attitude on behalf of both parties.

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But you know Infamous sometimes those expectations are rightfully expected.(LOL) I think that is where a lot of the trouble starts. Things do change. We are accountable more than not on the other side.

While it seems often ridiculous things like that should be discussed before going into a relationship and marriage. We can both assume what the other will do as a wife or husband, but it’s best to make sure you are on the same page.

I would have a problem with my husband spending time with other and/or strange women even if it is innocent. (See lurkers reason why), but as my just my “boyfriend” if he chose to do so there wasn’t much I could have said about it. Now as my husband I would have much to say.

And it ain’t got nothing to do with being insecure. It has more to do with what’s right and expected. If some one he or I meet is not heading toward an “our friend including their mate” situation then neither of us should be out just making side friends all willy nilly.

Disclaimer: This does not include business related instances. Although you have to watch those closely also. LOL (t-in-c, but not really)

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Ok ladies if ya’ll like compliments why we cant give ya’ll the compliments we want to give you. Cause ya’ll aint ready for the truth.

For ex:
Babe your Ta tas look nice today in that shirt makes me wanna do it with you right now.
Or Owww you Arse looks so good in those jeans it makes me wanna do it with you right now.
Or Baby that cameltoe just makes me wann do it with you right now.

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I dunno, maybe it’s me but I don’t need stroking by way of compliments. I already know. It’s nice to hear but not needed.

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If I say lets be friends they usually stay in the friend zone. If I want to take it slow I say lets take it slow but I am really feeling you. I don’t have 1 ex who I am still friends with. Most of them either still want to do something..mad at me….moved on…and then there is that rare gem that I wish I could hear from just to see how he is doing ..oh well.

I can say my SO is one of my best friends we go through bouts of jealousy and etc but as a person he is basically just a good guy…and I can’t be mad at that.

Shoot female friends can make friendships “emotional” and I limit my interactions with those types..because I am more vulnerable with my SO so I expect some sort of the roller coaster but friendships should never be so emotionally taxing.

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@DK if I have on a new outfit and I say or rather state “This outfit is stunning on me yes?” That means Dude say yes. It does not mean “Damn your tits look great in that outfit.” But, I have come to expect that or something else that a man think passes for a compliment and keep it moving. I knew the job was dangerous when I took it.

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Leggs – I got a compliment for you.. My Cheri Amore lovely as a summer day.

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Infamous – The 1059a and the 1104a compliments both work for me. But I’m just real like that.

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It’s simple just speak life into one another.

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Okay…Roll Call

Melo…Lioness I am getting ready to mark you as tardy.

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*** man how in the heck did you catch feelings after 10 years of knowing her***

W8, this wasn’t Gerald? Lol

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Boy, stop.

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@ Professor – I’m stuck. thinkin. reminded me – i need to do roll call with someone myself.

hummm

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See I hear all yall but guess what. I’m not talking about if I know you already and we r shagging. I’m talking about if I just met you. Cause 9 times outta 10 thats the compliment we wanna give you. See our truth and your truth is totally different.

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I gotta woman,
so right,so tight,so fly,so off the chain
I gotta woman,
so real,so trill,always down for her man
I gotta woman,
so bad,much class,much cash much azz
im givin up the thuggin, im gettin to the lovin
all my figgas say im trippin cuz im givin up the pimpin

in the kitchen in the mornin
cookin up a meal like a real good woman
you bring me joy
Joy Joy
coz whenever im in your presence there is no stress
let them know im your man and you are my best

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I enjoy giving compliments as well as receiving them. Also, I have no problem asking how something looks or feel. I want to know, so I ask.

Sometimes it’s like that W8. Maybe he suddenly saw something in her that sparked an interest or just maybe he was secretly loving her all those years and couldn’t hold it in any longer professing his undying love for her

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Kym…why thank you!!

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Kimmie – Yeah some woman told me I looked Yummy the other day and I think I might have blushed it caught me so off guard. I couldnt do nothing but smile and studder “th th th thank you”

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Cee I am thinking, but something just caught my attention so I am not any good right now. Give me a few minutes…

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so right,so tight,so fly,so off the chain

W8 Okay!

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Morning Folks!

Cemeeli – been in meetings and just caught up.

Don’t have much to add to this convo except to agree that I don’t expect my mate to be my best friend – but we are building our friendship along with our relationship. We really do like one another.

Now it’s time for lunch – going to Fresh 2 Order

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REll- Women like emotional security<– That is true.. On the real, who doesn’t?

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Kimmie – If you got that red snapper we aint trying to go no where. We cant wait to get back to it.. Now here comes some truth.. If you got some ok but youre good in all other areas then we might have a jumpoff that performs in that area but sucks in all others..

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Demi

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As I have said before… women never believe you unless you are lying to them… Of course this statement is half joking, but it rings true wayyyyy too often. I can not count the number of times I have told the truth and women have refused to believe it.
But like Cee Lo said ” You don’t wanna hear the truth, so I’m ma lie to you.. make it sound fly to you…”

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more than one lurker posting today

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Sexxsay- It’s like when I say to mine, “I wanna feel on you.”<– I do that TOO!! But I say”I want to molest you” YUMMY

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Amonella – You said in few words what I was trying to say in many! So true!

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Kimmie- ****Personally, when I feel secure in the relationship & the respect the man has for me, I’m all over him!****<– Me too!!! If I don’t feel this, I WITHDRAW BIG TIME!!!

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(****Personally, when I feel secure in the relationship & the respect the man has for me, I’m all over him!****)

(Kimmie I totally agree…I am going to give him more than he can handle…he will be calling timeout, but I don’t do the casual thingy so the freak in me is not something I share with everybody.)

thinking to self: I have myself a winning hand

i want to freak in the morning
a freak in the evening just like me
i need a roughneck ‘igga
that can satisfy me just for me
if you are the kind of man
cuz i’m that kind of girl
i got a freaky secret, everybody sing
cuz we don’t give a damn about a thing
cuz i will be a freak
until the day until the dawn
and we can pump, pump
all through the day to the early morn
come on and i will take you
around the hood on a gangsta lean
cuz we can pump, pump
any time of day it’s all good for me

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Sexxsay- Even grown folks??
Hows about if I ask him to molest me??

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Demi that song is very fitting…

I have always felt that it is not necessary for me to freak 100 plus men…I just need to freak that one 100 plus ways with no inhibition or boundaries…

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Professor- That is the main reason I haven’t had but a handful of bf’s.. Can’t have dudes running around craving me all the time when it is ova..

My motto: Do it like you are doing it for t.v.

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E. P. O….Yeah, MOST women loves snakes…ask EVE.

thousands of years later…MOST women are still falling for the same old lies: Gen. 6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it

The lie is often more desirable then the truth…This goes for men and women.

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EPO – Ceelo killed it with that I lie to em but make it look fly. Ceelo Green is a Monster Baby..

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@W8 – On the alpha female – Yep, Im gonna inspect what I expect!!

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Professor…yes ma’am!!

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@Lioness, I can definitely see you saying just that. Wanting to molest someone (LOL). Nothing wrong there!

@M, how are you? Glad to see you posting. Please check email

I stroke my ego every morning while getting ready for work. Don’t need my SO to do it. If so, I prefer he does it voluntarily and not because I asked. Whoever said they see themselves everyday and know what they look like, I concur!

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@kimmie, these songs are bothering me too! It’s good to know I can still be bothered and haven’t frozen over (LOL)!

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LOl.when i have a lovey dovey conversation or if i speak with my heart to a woman i get all icky form the mushiness…I have to go clean my guns or work on the car or something…ewwwwwwww

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DK- That is my SOWNG!!

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@Kimmie- Yup and umm the week is almost over…got pie? lol

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Cee- When I want him to.. Maybe.. I can be sexually aggressive at times..

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ummm okay I drop in and THOUGHT I was catching up….has the Blog gone freaky already?!?! Its not even friday yet.

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W8 – The next time you get the muchiness from being all lovey dovey, you can work on my car, I need an oil change, all the fluids topped off, and my tires need rotating oh and my car detailed

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W8- I LOVE when you type “ewwwwwwwwwwwww” So manly! Makes me all tingly inside

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Grace…LOL..You like being full service, huh? LOL

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@Mo No Freaky Fri just Wild’n out Wed.

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@Grace-lol you dont even want to know me like that..lol

@Oracle- That’s very true…thing is some women dont want to truly be all in

@LIoness- i am for real..mushy lovey dovey makes me feel weirf..once I realize its going on I get to grining and crap then I try and change the subject quickly

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Mo..just foreplay

**** W8- I LOVE when you type “ewwwwwwwwwwwww” So manly! Makes me all tingly inside ****

No Lioness that is CUTE when he does that…

Oracle…I concur…

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Do not waste yours or a man’s time if you do not know self first. Take time to self identify your basic needs. Once you know self, the man will appear and you will know how to react accordingly.

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snappy…Lawd, that word is making a come back, LOL.

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Mo- Some people may be backed up..

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@Wise Lurker, I think this post is probably one of your best post’s..kudos to ya!

I thought it was very interesting that mostly women chimed in first, with regards to comments!

My take on this situation is this…..Men and women can be friends, before a relationship, but the problem is nobody is taking the time to establish a friendship, when they meet someone of real interest! Most folks jump from “how ya doing” to the bedroom, within a matter of a week to a month and don’t know anything about the other person!

Women tend to meet men and size them up pretty quickly, then put them in either the HELL NO category, POTENTIAL CATEGORY or the most dreaded FRIEND ZONE otherwise known on the street as “FZ” No man wants to evvvva fall in the latter, but most do because (a) they run they mouth too much and blow their chances of advancing to round two (b) they offer too much advice on ish and become that dude that women want in their corner to find answers and solutions to solve problems with other men or (c) they have long-term potential, but are not where that woman needs them to be at the point they meet.

I have said it before and I will say it again, for the newbee’s…..”Women control when and if dating happens, men control when and if marriage happens!” There are no grey areas in these two!

A man may be interested in a woman to date, but ultimately that woman has control over who she will date to a certain degree! But on the flip side, just because she is interested in a particular dude that does not mean that dude will be interested in her!

She also has in most case control over the pace of the relationship and the building process of that relationship! If she stands out and sets herself apart from the previous women that man has dated and clearly shows that she is an asset and not a liability, in most cases, that man ( when he is ready, willing and able ) will offer to marry her!

So in closing, the woman should set the tone as to where the friendship should start and where the relationship should begin! If she allows that man to fast forward past this phase, then there will never be a foundation in the relationship and most men will loose a certain respect for her, because she did not outline the boundaries of building a friendship first and a relationship last.

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Demi- That is what I thought.. Pretty wings is thinking about Shaggy’s lanky tail

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@Prof/Lioness- boooooooooooo

@Demi- Snappy is making a come back? Snappy Nappy Dugout?

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@lioness…time to up your DJ skillz bey:

I’m what you want
I’m what you need
He got you trapped
I’ll set you free
Sexually, mentally
Physically, emotionally
I’ll be like your medicine
You’ll take every dose of me
It’s going down on isle 3
I’ll bag you
Like some groceries
And every time you think about
It you gon’ want some more of me
Bout to hit the club
Make a movie yeah rated R
Pulled up like a trap star
That’s if you had
(In the car)
Have you ever made love
To a thug in the club
With his sights on?
87 Jeans
And a fresh pair of Nikes on
On the couch, on the table
On the bar, or on the floor
You can meet me in the bathroom
Yeah, you know I’m tryna go…

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Lioness – LMBAO! Maybe…

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If you have been dissatisfied with certain areas of your life, you should take time to consider what thoughts, speech and feelings you are giving your energy to.

You will have what you say and if you continually dwell on that which you do not have, you will not have it. Your situation today is only a temporary situation. You have the power to create your reality because reality is not real, it is what you make it.

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Thinking back to the days before our coupling the marido and I talked a good bit and confided in each other as friends. After awhile we began to exchange quite a bit of compliments. The talking and sharing with compliments randomly put is what got us into each other in the first place. Those same things should be a part of what keeps us together.

Men like to be appreciated by their woman. One of the best ways to show appreciation is thru compliments. Women (this woman) likes to be adored by their man. One of best to show adoration is thru compliments.

And compliments ain’t even solely about the physical but can also be praise on an accomplishment or deed. They are just nice to give and receive just because and not just because.

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I need to something good for lunch, and nothing is coming to mind.

@Demi you are on point today…I need to tip the dee-jay.

@W8 ****How are yall so horny in the middle of the week? geesh…lol****
Our weekend “limp” is wearing off so it is time for the next dosage.

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Lioness – I just listened to that song!

W8 – that is what I was thinking, aint it too early in the week for this! LOL

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M’ it’s a new moon tonight.

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I failed my mission I didnt give out a weekend limp…nor did I get one…
but I better before I go to Spain..cuz if I dont I am not coming back…lol

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W8- WOW!! Your lady is SOOOOOO LUCKY to have YOU

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@PurrrtyWings ~ “No Freaky Fri just Wild’n out Wed.” That about sums up the morning conversation.

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Do not be afraid of or deny your sexuality. It is a gift from the Creator.

Learn the fine art of self satisfaction and the cues of your mate’s arousal and you will be able to travel to a state of true oneness. Use the energy within you to creatively express emotions and you will have your own measure of power.

Learn submission, but submit only to him who is capable of leadership and who has vision. Trust in his ability to lead. He will take you to the Promised Land.

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What up Blog Fam! I’m at the bar in PF Changs. The first 3 rounds of water are on me!

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For Real- answer your phone…lol..lmao..did you get that text 2 days ago? you are worse than me when it comes to phones..lol

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THE INFAMOUS DK check out the poem at the end of this video clip of cee-lo on the wake up show
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yf-czOxQVKE

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Hello you all…

ON TOPIC

Yeah, pretty much agree with a few others on the growth of friendship/relationship blossoming at the same time.

Kimmie/Annon – You ladies summed it up really well with your posts regarding how some women decide to take a different approach…especially with a man of REAL interest.

However, I would like to add (IMO)applying a strong and sturdy harness to my intensive charms, has nothing to do with the man, but everything to do with the ME…well at least in the initial…the whole getting to know stages. Because if the man is paying any attention, then it should be obvious that the attraction/undivided attention from my direction, is being reciprocated in other ways.

Best believe if I see you as “just a friend” I’mma show it…and you’re going to feel it, way before I speak it.

Some men mistake the decision as her trying to be seen as a virgin Mary…not hardly the case. At least for me, when I set my eyes, my mind…and lastly knowing my heart will come to play in all of this…my actions will speak so loud, that the man would not be able to hear a dayum thing I previously said anyway. Because by then, I’m making it known, I’m ready and willing to go out of my way and all the way down to the wire for his azz. And the icin’ on the cake is what I’m throwin’ down when it comes to the love-makin’, which is the desired effect at the end of the day.

I mean, is it so terrible for a woman to have the desire to see her man as so much more than just a good ph-ck? Really?

Oh…and cosignin’ the emotional stability.

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@Raqi
What Bob Seeger say….blame it on the moonlight…lol…or in this case the phase of the moon…affects me from time to time.

@W8

Now why you wanna rock my song…Sara Smile…why you wanna do that to me…you on the list…lol

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Mo- I have a question about that!!! Please email me you so I can ask a question about it michellecamille@live.com

W8- Glad that you missed me BUT hate to inform you that I found someone BIGGER & BETTER to play with while I am online.. You will miss me pinching your tail though TRUST!!

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the cues of your mate’s arousal

Now see that statement goes back to what I was saying about compliments.

There times when you have to ask, but there are times (or should become a time) when your mate can sense you need it. And then there are times when they just feel the desire to give it to you.

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@MO- you are an angel don’t let these heathens get you to talkin about your woman parts…LOL…but I prefer a razor myself…Dont yall judge me.!!

@Lioness-Happy Trails!!

@M’- What list? lol

@Prof- I know about all that

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(as I think to myself hmm the blog is flowing well today..I wonder why)

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You all already know that I am the imperfect one up in this here blog world, so I will be the first to admit to having a “oh, you want some” I totally missed that moment.

Just like leading with a question looking for compliment.

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Tippy-Toes: iffin you cutting hair again I’m still trying to make a doll.

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No Stress!!!! That’s his name Infamous. That’s the one the use to join in with you giving me a hard time. I think.

Thanks W8.

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Put, not “but”.

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Afternoon All….@ Ared…I loved Judy Blume books also as a youngster ……very profound words indeed.

Friends & Lovers, Lover & Friends…….While I believe you must be friends before you can be true lovers, I am not sure if you can go back to being “just friends” if you have been lovers before. I don’t consider myself friends with my ex-husband, I do have a cordial relationship with him for the kids’ sake. I cannot talk to him as I would a friend cause he always has to make a comment about “what we had” and “how we used to do it”. That’s where I say ok….gotta go and leave. Once you have been an intimate relationship, in a friendly-type conversation, something is always said that makes it uncomfortable. Other than the ex, I have not tried to remain friends with any of my ex’s, some with VERY GOOD REASON!!

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How are yall so horny in the middle of the week? geesh…lol

I’m saying…

But I’ll see you on Friday W8!

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@W8

LOL…the one for ppl who can do something to push my vulnerable buttons…like posting a song full of memories at just the right time…lol…me stay away from them just to be safe…hehehe

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lol….sniff….sigh…bahumbug…

I’m feeling several different emotions today.

Ya’ll still on the subject?

Mo I need a apple jolly rancher right now.

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@Raqi-I am good..lol

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@Lioness- How did you get that I gravitate towards that? All I said was Snappy nappy Dugout in a post to Demi…and Snappy Nappy Dugout means..good puddy..not nappy hair…us guys have our own language..dont try to understand…lmao

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@ W8 – What’s up with the Ashford and Simpson? How about some LL?

When I’m alone in my room, sometimes I stare at the wall and in the back of my mind I hear my conscience call, telling me I need a girl who’s as sweet as a dove. For the first time in my life I see
I need love, there I was….

hold up

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Look at us baby, up all night
Tearing our love apart
Aren’t we the same two people who live
through years in the dark?
Ahh…
Every time I try to walk away
Something makes me turn around and stay
And I can’t tell you why

When we get crazy,
it just ain’t to right,
(try to keep you head, little girl)
Girl, I get lonely, too
You don’t have to worry
Just hold on tight
(don’t get caught in your little world)
‘Cause I love you
Nothing’s wrong as far as I can see
We make it harder than it has to be
and I can’t tell you why
no, baby, I can’t tell you why
I can’t tell you why
No, no, baby, I can’t tell you why
I can’t tell you why
I can’t tell you why

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jes wanna’ta add my .02 for da lyrics and sech…hehehe

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@ W8 – Oh! All ‘at was for my time anyway. lol

Whay thank ya MO!

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Professor- Send me your suggestions.. michellecamille@live.com

Mo- Mail Call

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Otay…does anybody need alterations…hemming, adjustments…a new summer ensemble????…can not find the right sundress???…or linen shirt…missing out on the combo of style????

Let me know…me and my bud have sewing machines, mad sewing and designing skills…and we is truly ready to hook you up…lol…but seriously…we can.

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@M’- I need some buttons sewn on some shirts..real talk..I would rather you do it if its your skillset not some friend offering to do it

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@W8

I have been sewing for 36 years or so…seriously…and my friend that I am staying with is a design major…so we both rock with the mad sewing skills…heck, there is so much fabric, patterns, notions and such in this space now…we trying to get busy…for real, reals.

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I wish there was a emotie that would show looking sideways.

Swiss all i have to say to you is: It’s better to marry than to burn. lol…look that up.

Hey guy!

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W8/Ared- Can we make it a threesome on Friday? I’ll bring the toys but one of yall have to bring the astroglide..

Wow what’s REALLY goin’ on?….

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@M’- Demi has my number get it form him…I will give you a shot with my shirts and pants then if we are good I will let you get the suits..deal?

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Mo- I LOVE pineapples!! all of my tattoos are of fruits It is also wonderful for men to eat too! It helps them get that “Becky”

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Sassy- you could join too but you gotta bring sumthang..

Hey Jam

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Raqi, it sounds like what you’re describing through that story is character. Character is driven by conscience, in terms of conscience pertaining to reason, fairness, certainty, poise. Conscience can be derived from parents and family elders, church leaders, and other role models, from whom one learns expectations, how to do things right. Treating your SO the way your role models taught you to treat others, and the way your SO’s role models taught them to treat people, leads to display of good character among lovers.

I agree with the segment you viewed; it’s something that seems to continue to degrade as time goes on.

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Leggs – I missed that this morning, but I did hear another song of hers. I think it’s called “I Didn’t Know My Own Strength” – she didn’t hit a lot of high notes, but she sounded like Whitney. Can’t wait until her CD comes out.

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It is also wonderful for men to eat too! It helps them get that “Becky”

Okaaaaaay!!!

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Hi there, Lioness. I remembas givin’ ya’ the ‘ol welcum’ baick sistah gal anthem on yesti-day!…and yeen’ say nuthin! Lol

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<em.I don’t ever let my mouth write a check that my body can’t cash…I got mad skills…designing, sewing. cooking, writing, database programming, software specialist…awright.

Tell ‘em M you’se a Renaissance woman…go on with your bad self.

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(I was suggesting that the chica shave that nappiness off.. Waxing may be a bit ROUGH.. No?)

nothing a little skeet won’t help…

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Jam- I DID Mamasita!! You skim over it

Rell- Still trying to get at me???

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@Mo

Yeah…I make custom curtains for my place all the time…and custom shower curtains…I love ethnic prints…african, east indian, oriental…so I make my own…pillows, shams, name it.

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Sassy-

Demi- Goodness..

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@Leggs

cool…you know how to find me…lol.

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Yeah abc we live in a world now where people’s attitudes are “I don’t have to do the right thing now or what’s honorable” because all things are accepted now.

I wish I could remember what it was about. But I know Mason made the statement that he remembers the day when most men took pride in doing. The non-doer was the outcast. Now it’s the other way around.

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REll- Oh ok.. I know you like hood rats but I am sorry that I am not up for the task to be YOUR hood rat.. Couldn’t be an imitation hod rat if I tried

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@W8

A fabric wall is all about the technique of putt the fabric to the wall…staple guns are the most common…velcro can be used to…the only thing I would suggest not to use is any type of glue…as the fabric may not remove as easily once it adheres to the wall.

@Sassy

Chile, now you knows I gots some strong country gal southern roots…take the flour from de sack and makes me some biscuits and cakes…den takes dey sack an makes me a frock…lol

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you could join too but you gotta bring sumthang..

Hmmmmm…chocolate anyone?…I promise it’ll be sweet

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@m’= I am trying to make the wall your task not mine..i sent you an email did you get it?

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Sassy- Now Sassy…sassy sassy sassyy

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I don’t have to do the right thing now or what’s honorable” because all things are accepted now.

Raqi/abc, even if u wanna do the right thing,u scared of being shot at.If u report,ure a snitch and they come back at u,if u let them know theyre being loud and dissrespectful,they dress u down/cuss u out and u end up being the one to wallow in self pity.Nobody will come to ur aid anyway or worse,the culprit jus takes out a weapon and shoot u.
I think we shld blame it on the government laws and the ubiquitous kids with no stable homes and ofcourse the parents,AWOL or Present.

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@JAM…trust when i say my musical taste goes deep…i only like songs i have an emotional connection too…and those two represent a period if you will in my life….and i have a zune full of stuff…when it plays most folks are like WHO IS THAT…lol…i just grin and nod my head…hell i even dreamed a hit song…it was live…if i was musically incline i could reproduce it…cause its been playing in my head since SUNDAY

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Absolutely love some Bilal

Jamoca Bilal had me since “Soul Sista”….where is he?

W8….chocolate is sweet and sweet is as sweet does I’m just sayin…..

M you ’bout to be sewing up the blog in a minute….do it chirl

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@Sassy

Chirl…I will stitch them up…lol

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**im on some other stuff now***

Everytime I see you, I get a bad vibe
Just thinkin’ of someone else in between your thighs
And you thought you were slick, had tricks up your sleeve
But I’m sick of your stupid acts and I know you’re tired of me
That’s why I say

That’s why I say when we were together
We never turned our backs on each other
But now that we’re separated
We can’t stand one another

I don’t wanna be with you, put that on everything I own
I can’t believe I stayed around that damn long
If I never see you again, I won’t be mad at all, no no
Cuz I believe that you’re my downfall
You did me wrong

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Melo and Raqi, I feel like all we can do about it is look after our own families, represent standards of behavior and character that aren’t compromised, separating ourselves from those of lesser standards. It’s something my middle son and I are working on now, separating from his negative associations. It’s a difficult thing to do.

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(Demi- That is TRUE.. Who waits THAT long? Nastiness)

Lioness…girl stop…you be bragging about your skillz…I am you’ve cause a few dudes to pull out…bust one…place back in…bust another…and restart all over again without cleaning up…heat, lust’n and sex’n the person you truly enjoy…will have you forgetting all about the icky stuff on boob, belly, back and kat.

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lol@Wbk- they can and they do

@Sassy- I’m glad I dont have review mirrors

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Now, Cee, you know I was raised in a southern baptist church — no need to look that up, I already heard it. Now, if I interpret that scripture correctly, the big guy is basically telling me I can get as freaky as I like w/ Swiss Miss once she’s actually Mrs Swiss. Good to know god has a little freak in him…

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Sassy- Leaving the building is sometimes necessary.. They need to HEED the warning signs

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I’m glad I dont have review mirrors

Oh really?…..I wonder why THAT is…

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Neg…you are most likely to get a woman preg that way.

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Demi- Yes I have BUT a King bed is necessary.. Shoot that ish over there somewhere

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Friends can have sex.. I think there is nothing wrong with it actually as long as there is an understanding.. Now sexing an ex is a WHOLE notha story.. Not healthy AT ALL!! NO matter how much wang you are NOT getting in your current relationship..

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@W8

The bane of my life is that I do not drive anymore…so pub trans is how I roll…but do not get me wrong, I can get around…lol…pays to be cute

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So what is the topic now? I need a blog break.

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@melo..you scared of some kids…dude pls…tell dem lil bas tards stay out ya yard…..all you ahve to do it tell one time…or walk to the mailbox with your gun so they know what time it is…most kids are just fo show….not fo sho…i wish a lil aggin would…

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Sassy – I wondered the same thing, but I read here a few folks who have the inside scoop to where dis igga’ been hiding all this time. I think I may just checkout his webpage, since I did read that was in the process of dropping another album, but because a lot of his fan base had already downloaded some of the songs for free, it may have somewhat contributed to the delay. Word is that he still does a few live shows. I’d love to see him live myself or with some friends. Because if a man takes me to see him and may be a select few, he better not even bother picking his lips up, asking me what’s up later on that eeed’nin’ (evenin’)…he’d already know. LOL

http://www.dctobc.com/2008/11/where-is-bilal/

Rell – it’s like that for a lot of us. I know those moments you speak of…the speak/sing the same melody to our lives and/or past experiences. I rideout like that on the “innastate” to the lyrics that hit real close to home and can really blow on several of them. Some of my folks get real quite and just listen when I’m singing…saying “I can tell, you feelin’ that song.”

Some lyrics just bring it out of you. Like sitting in the sanctuary and listening to the preacher and you’d think his sermon was being preached just for you. I sometimes feel that way about certain songs/music.

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Yeah, I’m a Taurus…they say that we’re patient lovers…Are you a Scorpio, Cancer, Capricorn? On the cusp?

If you should feel thirsty, I’ll be sure to bring you water
Yes, girl I got candles that will slow burn longer
And I know your favorite love song
and how you like it on repeat
Me, I was born a patient lover
so I’ll start with your feet

it would be like
when hearts beat as one
it would feel like
no ordinary kiss
You and I
now close your eyes
and picture us
breathing life

I’ll do my best to inspire you
to dream of us til we meet again
You may even be encouraged
to take a walk so we can love again
the Most High outdid herself when
she created you
and girl I am thankful
for how our love has bloomed

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And Im out!!!! Peace!!

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im hesitant of even telling tem anything coz im not sure if it will be perceived correctly Melo I’m totally opposit. When I see kids doing something they have no business doing, I tell them and then I ask them where do they live and what’s their moms and pops name. I’ll ask the young men (and old in some cases) to please (key word) pull up their pants while in my presence. Thank God I’ve never had any problems getting my face bashed in, or cussed out. God is truly looking out for me. But to sit back in fear of what they may or may not perceive is not a solution to the problems it still takes a village to raise a child let’s not forget that. If my child was out doing something he wasn’t supposed to be doing I would appreciate someone steppin to him/her setting them straight.

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Demi is amaze at y’all ability to listen to the song on the radio and understand the hellz they’re singing about, LOL…I am getting into R&B now…so I am contently asking someone what’s a song is about…unless I find the lyrics on line

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W8…LOL

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@W8

you got mail

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@Grace/Melo, I too speak up. I have a bunch of kids in the cul-de-sac playing basketball. I always provide them with water because no one else will. Well, just so happen a little boy was sitting on the curb playing with a lighter. I watched him for a while. I saw him pick up a stick and attempt to light it. That’s when I stepped in and called him over to my doorstep. Naturally he put the lighter in his pocket thinking I hadn’t seen him do it. I scolded him about the dry grass and how easily he could start a fire and burn all of us down (had to put a little fear in him). I asked for the lighter and he said he didn’t have one. Told him I saw him put it in his pocket. I was hot at this little snotnosed kid that I wanted to put my hands in his pockets and get the lighter myself. I knew I couldn’t do that so I put fear in him instead! But, I had to hold myself back from patting him down.

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@Raqi why engage in the small talk? If someone is creeping me out I get quiet I dont nod or acknowledge just get quiet and let them talk themselves out. This usually moves them along.

@W8 I am not sure how old you are., but I know the “A” you speak of now was not the “A” I grew up with I am a native. I don’t like the references or the people..especially these NN’s running around blinging and flossing(but that is a whole other Oprah that will get me going.)

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Jamoca…who is the artist?

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Kym…you both are around the same age range…give or take a year or two.

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So y’all peeps get you orders together and email me when you ready to get started…needs some legit work…lol

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Grace- I am a Leo.. Libra’s, Aries & Picese’s are not my cup of tea.. I have a friend that is a Taurus & she is straight up crazy.. My very good friend is a Scorpio & is HIGHLY emotional but she has an AMAZING heart! She will do WHATEVER for me as I will her
I happen to be with a Scorpio now..

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Jam- NO YOU DIDN’T.. OMGoodness.. LAWD!! Girl..

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Sassy- http://www.imeem.com/kimpossible/music/PlGrcDw5/intro-come-inside/

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@Leggs

So true…and so sad…the concept of a village is gone…just warring tribes and such…IMO, the reason that they do not want you telling them about their bad arse chaps is b/c they know that they are not doing their job…did you read about the mother who killed her 4 kids…and an acquaintance testified that she had seen the moms letting the kids (then 3 and 4) smoking pot…WTF!??!??!

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Hey Angie

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I don’t speak to other folks kids unless they are in my house. We are not living in those days anymore. You can get killed trying to correct and discipline people’s kids these days. I don’t have to ask kids out of my yard because we don’t have that in our neighborhood. In fact we don’t have a whole lot of kids on our street.

If a kid is doing something and there parent is there I will sometimes say something to the parent. Like once I was in the grocery store and this little boy was trying to climb the shelves. I told the mother like the idiot she was “I wouldn’t let him do that if I were you. He may get hurt”.

I remember the last time I said something to a woman’s kid that woman looked at me as to say who gave you permission to say anything to my child? So from then on if need be I will say something to the parent.
Now there was a case where this little…sigh…this little girl keep ramming a cart into the back of me while standing in the line Walmart. I gave her that look and she gave me that look make like “I know I am hitting you with this cart and imma keep doing it.” Well I asked the mother “ma’am can you please get your child?” She told her to stop. Now yall know that little heifer was out to get me now. She went to push the cart in to me again, I slyly yanked it and then pushed it back quite firmly, it hit her in the mouth. She stopped then.

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Leggs, i wld do the same.
My kids play with the neighbor’s kids across the road and a few others of their age in the suburb.But not with these.
I wld do the same esp if i knew thier parents,even remotely.I been in the area 10 yrs now.
This house i speak of,they been around,maybe 3 yrs and been watching them.U cld say, i have them profiled and i doubt they will be there for a long time.
U can pretty much tell what kind of a person is or household they are by watching the kids,esp at that age coz we “all” watch our kids closely at that age.
Well,not everybody,in my view.

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“I happen to be with a Scorpio now..- that explains all that dizzle talk…… Scorpios are some highly sexual creatures”

Grace / Lioness — That we are, that we are. Now, could I interest either of you ladies in some white chocolate?

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Hell Jamoca the day they take my authority and hand it to a child…my child, that better take that damn kid on back to the office with them. Ain’t no way some child is about to….(let me take moment).

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Thanks Swiss but I’m good

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@Cee I had to work on my actual b-day..but that Saturday I hung with friends just had a relaxing day of good food, drink and chat. The trip out west was apart of my birthday celebration and then I went out with more friends last weekend.

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White chocolate is not real chocolate. It doesn’t give you that same “oooh baby yes” euphoria like that rich creamy milk chocolate of a man that I am married to that is chock full o’ nutz.

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Alright now Lioness! I had to re-read the post about us Arians. Yes, we are a very cool group of folk. I usually mesh very well with other Arians. You have about 3-4…maybe 5 give or take on this blog.

The first sign of the zodiac…labeled as the poineers…warriors so to speak. Handling most issues head on. And the most passionate lovers of the the zodiac at that!…fiyah (Fire)signs usually are though.

And to you and Sassy – I’m so sorry to mention them, but I loved myself some Intro. Miss them too…woo, woo, woo…

Demi – you caught that? —> That’s that INTRO. I see you’re collecting a few classics for your future playlist. That chick’s gonna be as open and flowing as the Mediterranean Sea by the time you two are on the 2nd track. LOL Be careful now.

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I ONCE told my mom, that I will call the cops if she whip me again…that crazy woman, she whoop the ish outta my a$$…pack my bags…and then called the cop!!

I was like…Maynnnne, this is some bullish!!!

and I got another whooping before the cops came

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Now see Lioness?….the Isley brothers was a low blow…I’m talking down to the white meat low.

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Hey Moca mami, what chu doing to these folks with that musci?!

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Aries SUCKS!!! – @ Demi but I don’t swallow

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Telling yall.. MAN.. Got to repost this

Why go home to an empty bed?
Why try to fight those passions in your head?
We’re two hearts on fire
Fueled by a simple touch
With love and desire we both need so much

LAWD!!!

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RELL- Too bad for you! You should leave the hood rat Leos alone & get with the real FIYAH do it for t.v. LEO’s..

Grace- LOL

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@Demi

hit me up with an email

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Uh, yeah, come inside
Now turn the lights down
Don’t be scared, touch me
I know what you want and all
Tonight is your night
For the rest of your life
So just lay back and relax and listen

There’s somethin’ in your eyes, baby
It’s tellin’ me you want me, baby
Tonight is your night
See, you don’t have to ask for nothin’
I’ll give you everything you need
So girl, don’t be shy, oh…just

(Baby, come inside) Oh, turn down the lights
‘Cause there is something that I want from you right now, ooh

(Give me that honey love) Give me that honey love
(Give me that honey love) I gotta have your lovin’, baby, oh…
(Give me that honey love) Oh…give me that sweet, sweet love
(Give me that honey love) Oh…yeah

Let’s go to the mall, baby
I’ll pick you up around the way
Don’t you worry ‘bout a thing, ooh…ooh…
‘Cause I’ve got all the answers, girl
To the questions in your head
And I’m gonna be right there for you, baby, hey

(Baby, come inside) Girl, why don’t you turn down the lights
‘Cause there is something that I want from you right now, hey
Just like a lollipop
You’re so sweet, yeah
And your body’s like a lemon drop
Sure taste good to me
So let’s lay down
And get close till we become one
And I promise you, baby
Ooh, we’re gonna have fun, alright

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Now if I didn’t contact you or was allowed to speak to you directly to get you up here to fix this A/C unit why do you think it is okay to give me your direct number to call “just in case” we have further problems?

Number A: I don’t believe in getting the hook up for service calls because you are not the only one that gets paid for the service your company provides. And I need a warranty.

Number 2: I ain’t no horny neglected housewife sitting home looking for some side action. I get enough craziness in my life dealing with these blog folks. So if that’s what you are thinking, stop. It ain’t happening.

And Z: If you know what the heck you are doing why would I be having a “just in case” moment? Is your work subpar and I should have called another company in the first place?

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Raqi-

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Memba Dis?

freak me baby aawww yea(4x)

chours-

let me lick you up and down til you say stop
let me play with you baby make u real hott
let me do all the things you want me to do
cuz to night baby i want to get freaky with you

baby dont you understand i wanna be your next man
i wanna make your body scream
then you will just know what i mean
24 karet gold dont want carets to go to hold
i wanna lick up up and down
and then i want to lay you down

chours

i love the taste of whipcream
sprend i on dont be mean
you know i cant resest you girl
ill fly you all around the world
i wanna see ur body true
come on let me take a sip
so come on with your
chours (4x)

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Mo – You see I tried…but could not help myself. Besides, isn’t W8 restricting you from the conversation of pocketbooks and purse-ys)? LOL @ I’m Swiss – you’ve got me using that word now, especially since MyTwo rejected grannie’s term of the “pocketbook”.

Raqi – It’s true. Especially down here. It’s horrible to watch. Like I said, my daughters??? I’ll call the authorities and tell them to pick me up in the next 15 minutes or come and get her, cuz somebody is about to get that behind whupped. A lot of these children are playing against their parents with this bull. That whole “you can’t whup me” attitude. Heck, I remember having to scold and pop my youngest (a few years back) in front of a few folks in the grocery store…since children will test you at some point. I got with her at that moment. Said it so that folks standing nearby could hear and ended it with: “and I dare somebody to say otherwise or call the authorities, but I’m not going to stop being being your mother at home or out in public out of fear!” She was so embarassed and scared out of her ever loving mind.

A city official was just released from jail down here for knocking the shyt out of his teenage son, who not only came home at 4am high as kite from smokin’ like a chimney, but drunk as a skunk…then had the nerve to swing at his father, when he was scolded and chastized for disobeying the rules of curfew. His father got in his behind. And was in jail shortly after…it was all over the local news. Smh.

I also knew a man who went jail and did time, because since things weren’t too good in his marriage the wife, videotaped him (and turned the tape over to the authorities knowing he wasn’t trying to abuse the child)for whipping his defiant and disrespectful teenage son, who also tried raising a few blows at his father…his father let him have it…and he wasn’t released. He did time. And don’t even ask what race he belongs to…uh huh. Later on down the line, they brought the story back up on some sort of special…speaking to the man through satelite tv, when learning that the same son he was taken to jail over, was now doing time years later. And how the son…then admitted to his wrongdoings and recited his father saying to him “I discipline you not only because you are MY son, but to keep the authorities from having to do it and to keep you out of jail”. The son then also admitted to how he wished he would have listened to his father and how he appreciated and needed his father more than ever in his life for that very reason.

He later divorced his wife and married another woman as well.

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Okay I’ll read you guys tomorrow.

Jamoca and Lioness I’m surprised noe of you didn’t break out any Keith Sweat…..How deep is your love so we can Make it last forever cause there is a Right and Wrong way to “do it”…….holla

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LOL Lioness.

I had a lady at work tell me one time that a service tech propositioned her once and I thought she was just spewing crap. Now??? Maybe she wasn’t.

When I was living in an apartment complex one of my neighbors was having a thing with the mailman. He delivered to our complex around noon and would take his lunch, break or whatever there. At on days that I would be home I would see his truck sitting out there and he would be sitting there reading the paper or something. I was home one day and his truck was there, it was closed up and he was not in it. I saw it again a few months or so later. I found out he was doing my neighbor.

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Jamoca I am not going to jail for whipping my own child. But if that child getz it in their little devious mind to call the po-po I will be going to jail for kicking somebody’s azz. That child’s.

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Yes Raqi you’re a part of the Pack.

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Everytime I close my eyes
I wake up feelin’ so horny

CAM,i can tell ur relationship is still new.Have uall gone there yet??

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Mo – Chica not Faith’s “Won’t you Come Over”…and the Isley’s Lioness?! Ya’ll stop! Not Jodeci now. Betnot come out of nowhere with Feenin’ either. Jamo now shutting down her computer…

Sassy – I was trying to come back to the light, Caroliiine. But I keep veering off to the wayside with the music.

Demi – Mayne, you betta stop! You know you love yourself some Arian folk, to include yo’self. Say it with me now…”I Ammmmm, Somebody” (Kid n’ Play’s HouseParty)

And yes, loyalty is one of our greatest strengths, but a weakness of ours as well. We have a tendency to ride the wave all the way out, which isn’t necesssarily a bad thing, but it can be for the wrong person. I thank Gawd for being blessed with discernment after some thorough self evaluation.

Cee – I’m over here behaving myself…as best I can. You good, chica?

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what not to say cuz I believe in children being children

Leggs I agree. Mason told my oldest son once, “You stay a child and I will stay out of your collar.”

He had him by collar at that time.

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@Staceye

Cool mami…can do…my bud and I can come up with some mad designs…I will also look at some of your pixs on FB for ideas…and we can rap.

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Jamoca…I know bey, I know…it scares me at times.

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Staceye…sup!!

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Alright INFAMOUS, you must have been reading my mind. I was about to do the same thing. LOL

My name is Mo and Im a Virgo

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Cemeeli Just called your cell and it went to vmail…

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My name is Infamous and I’m an Aquarius

My name is Mo and Im a Virgo

Infamous/Mo Float. Float. Float onnnnn….float on, float onnnn… Lol It just reminded me of that song. Haha!

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DK- I dig Aquarians!! Cool people as well.. WELL, I had one aquarius homegirl that was a pathological liar..

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*Why can’t a man and woman be friends and be in a relationship?* this is a given. what i really want to say is duh!

i’ve tried and tried to be friends with males, but they always managed to f it up somehow by steppin’ over that line.

i am friends with ALVIN though. does this count? we’ve never met.

when i meet men now, the first thing i have us do is to let each other know what we’re looking to get outta this. if he states something along the lines as friends blah blah blah. i’m out. see ya!

most of them are my age 41 so it has been mostly them looking for a wife, etc. i can work with that.

my current boo got me at hello. giggle. i didn’t even have to ask him, he told me upfront on his own what he wanted from me and where we will be in one year. i really appreciated that cause he is not wasting my time and not playin’ around.

a man steppin’ up and taking lead with our relationship . . . very sexy.

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Whoa-oa-oa! I feel good, I knew that I would, now
I feel good, I knew that I would, now
So good, so good, I got you

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Cee – I ranged. Did you find it yet?

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Thanks Lioness! Virgos get some love!

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Found it

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Just called your cell and it went to vmail

LOL Don’t you just hate that? I have done that at home trying to locate my cellphone and it goes to voicemail. That’s usually because I let the battery die. I hate that. LOL

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Laying off the wine in order to look STUNNING in my birthday suit.. Getting back on that Grey Goose Pear!!

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@ Tazzee – did you make it to Traders?

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Cee- I have YET to make it to that place.. Better yet, haven’t been on Roswell Rd in a minute..

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Cemeeli – yes I went, but I wasn’t that impressed. Maybe I didn’t know what to look for, but I did get this great ‘Trek Mix’ cashews, almonds, cranberries, cherries and pineapples. That’s what I was specifically looking for. Eating that now. I did walk around the rest of the store and it was fairly small.

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Rell that is so true. While you all are dreaming we are laying there beside you scheming.

- THANK YOU..you the only one that caught that…everybody was thinking from the mans point of view…good job

@staceye..yea we missed the hate…lol

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Sorry, The Romantics:

When I hold you in my arms at night
Don’t you know you’re sleeping in the spotlight
And all your dreams that you keep inside
You’re telling me the secrets
That you just can’t hide

You tell me that you want me
You tell me that you need me
You tell me that you love me
And I know that I’m right
‘Cause I hear it in the night

I hear the secrets that you keep
When you’re talking in your sleep

That song has a great beat!

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Cancer..and my name is Kym.. Is this horrorscope Wednesday..you know what the world has gone mad because of the solar eclipse..yep that is why all this loopy stuff is happening. Wake me when it’s Football season.

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@lord V…that is G rated compared to this…now this dude here is the devil for real…and scary..where are his handlers!!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6_pV0H5ieiw&feature=PlayList&p=1068F0288D7E8359&index=0

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Fabolous Feat Tamia
Babygirl (I’ll really like)

I can’t really explain it
I’m so into you now
I wanna be more than a friend to you now
When they ask, I mention my babygirl in the interviews now
And I don’t bring the problems from the 90s in the 2 thou
Theres no reason to have a friend or two now
Cuz the kid’s ready to tell you how he feel and a few vows
Maybe I speak in general now
But girl, imma do whatever just to keep a grin on you now
Where I roll, they wear bikinis in the winter too now
What you think about tan lines on the skin of you now?
Why wouldn’t I wanna spend a few thou
On fifth ave, shopping sprees and them dinners to chow
I aint concerned with other men would do now
As long as when I slide up in you, you growl
And any dude with you, he better be a kin of you now
And I aint jealous, it’s the principle now
I’m so into you

I really like what you’ve done to me
I can’t really explain it
I’m so into you
I really like what you’ve done to me
I can’t really explain it
I’m so into you

Come on ma
It’s more than a flashing
I woulda traded it all in orderly fashion
My villa in Florida we crashing
Just off the shore so you can hear when the water be splashing
The Drop top 3 in a quarter we dashing
Flawless diamonds in the water we flashing
The money we oughta be stashing
I make sure ever quarter be cashed in