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Complicated

I really dig complex men. Those extremely cerebral types really do it for me. In the past, my questionable choices in men have often backfired on me. I think part of problem was that I was often drawn to the tortured soul. In my head, I glamorized their personality as complex and complicated. Someone who thought deeper, felt intense emotions, and challenged me. Yeah, NO.

The reality was they didn’t think all that deeply, their emotions stayed on the “cold” side, and I wasn’t being challenged, I was being barked at and berated. It took some heart break and a restraining order to realize that crazy is not the same as complicated.

A truly complicated, complex person won’t hide behind empty rhetoric or ambiguity. They may start out guarded, but they will give you access when you have proven yourself trustworthy. Then you peel away the layers and realize that complex can be a very positive attribute.

I don’t want to paint all complex people with the same brush. I still feel drawn to the “complex” type, but I think I have improved my selection skill now. It’s like a hidden prerequiste that I don’t outright tell the men I date that I am looking for in a man.

One of our MIA Blog men, Mr. W8. got me to thinking about this kind of “hidden qualifier”, when he posed a couple of great questions:

What are those things that you know that you want in a potential mate, but you never reveal it? Perhaps you just wait to see if they do (or show) it on their own so they won’t fake it.

Have you ever dated someone and they do (or say something) that you never knew you needed but it spoke to your soul and now you can’t live without it? What was it? How did you handle it?

Is being complicated and complex a liability or an asset on the dating scene?

697 comments Add your comment

kimmie-just being me & that's enough

July 21st, 2009
4:45 pm

Beauty is in the eye of the Beerholder

LOL!!!

Lioness-

July 21st, 2009
4:46 pm

W8- Skinny dudes like big girls! Imagine 225 lbs riding him WOW!!! SMDH!! Got to have the A/c on in the winter while swinging that ep!

DK- You are a DAMN FOOL!

W8©

July 21st, 2009
4:46 pm

@DK- You are wrong for that..lmao..but I aint judging you..lol

AmazonRed™ - road warrior

July 21st, 2009
4:46 pm

Even for the drama and fights that Ared causes a couple times a week, that’s minor to back when Mia was moderating and Wise was a blogger

Hey, any drama I “cause” is on the blog and the blog only. I don’t let such mess spill into my real life. :lol:

Don’t hate me cuz I will just say what folks wish they could say. :lol: ;)

Mo (aka Moeisha-Feeling 'Some Kind of Blue')

July 21st, 2009
4:46 pm

W8 – not “Beerholder”….LOL

Lioness-

July 21st, 2009
4:47 pm

PG- Those leopard drawls.. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

July 21st, 2009
4:47 pm

W8/Rell – He dont know cause chicks aint letting go of no Grade A BEEF in this recession. They are not going to let go of that Phamarceutical grade vitamin D without some pleading, crying and arguin, usually ending with “he’s a dog” attached to your name.

Lioness-

July 21st, 2009
4:47 pm

Ared- Hey momma! Popping in to say your piece and keep it moving.. :lol:

Demigod33 (via PDA)

July 21st, 2009
4:48 pm

rell/w8…I bet yall a shot of don julio he will

Cemeeli

July 21st, 2009
4:48 pm

Dang them NOVAS!

W8©

July 21st, 2009
4:48 pm

Before I get married I am going to ask my girl if I can have sec with a big chick…

SexyCool - The Light of Zartha

July 21st, 2009
4:48 pm

Gerald – As effed up as most of what you’ve been posting is, this right here:

“I was attracted not only by her beauty, but to her light.”

Was some powerful ish.

SexyCool singing – but not to Gerald, This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine….LMAO!

Melo

July 21st, 2009
4:49 pm

That loud rambunctous Babe prolly had a manhole for him and he fell in.

wow..stop u guys,we dont want ACLU on here! :lol:

Cemeeli

July 21st, 2009
4:50 pm

PoppaG – Does it look like it’s running?

Leggs

July 21st, 2009
4:50 pm

@Lioness, Intervention is heart wrenching. Only saw one episode and it was the mother strung out on crack with all her children at the intervention and she walks out….

Lioness-

July 21st, 2009
4:52 pm

Leggs- I watch that RELIGIOUSLY!! People have addictive personalities

Grace

July 21st, 2009
4:52 pm

why are most men intimidated by big chicks? Is it that he is afraid that he won’t be able to “please” her? What’s the deal?

Jamoca's the Sweetest Thing You'd Ever Know

July 21st, 2009
4:52 pm

TwoPieces – chica, I have been in and out…in and out. And a “what up hooch”, back at cha sis. Just tryna keep the sweets from turnin’ sour, by keepin a tight lid on thangs. ;)

…an italian/spinach wrap would hit the spot right now. Let me hurry…

Melo

July 21st, 2009
4:53 pm

I like my chic medium,rare! If im on missionary, i gota be able to slide my left palm down under her butt and pull her up.

Now i don know how i wld do that to some lambaqutiuos butt,overflowing with rump steak.
Give it to me,cmeon,give it to me biaaaatch..thats my bedroom getting off battle cry! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - road warrior

July 21st, 2009
4:53 pm

Ared- Hey momma! Popping in to say your piece and keep it moving..

:lol: Hey back Lioness.

Yes, when I’m on the road I do what I can as far as posting. I know I have eager fans waiting for my posts. :P ;) :lol:

W8©

July 21st, 2009
4:53 pm

@Grace- I am not intimidated by big chicks I have seen some cute ones I just cant date someone who eats more than me..i am a svelte 250lbs..lol

Lioness-

July 21st, 2009
4:54 pm

Grace- I have NO idea.. I still want to know what makes a chick big

Poppa Grande

July 21st, 2009
4:54 pm

Lioness

Those leopard drawls..

It completes a romp on the wild side don’t ya think? It adds ambiance.

The funny thing is that Mia is cool peeps. She is a plus size model.

Grace

July 21st, 2009
4:55 pm

LIONESS one thing I’ve noticed about the characters on Intervention is that most of the ladies have been raped when they were teenagers.

Grace

July 21st, 2009
4:56 pm

W8 I’m a slim one and I eat a LOT

Cemeeli

July 21st, 2009
4:57 pm

Pops! I’m waiting….

W8©

July 21st, 2009
4:57 pm

@Lioness- I dont know..

@PG- i am sorry but “Leopard draws” is the funniest thing I have read on here all day

Poppa Grande

July 21st, 2009
4:57 pm

Cee

it was there on Saturday, but not Sunday. So, I’d bet that it runs.

It isn’t there every day.

I haven’t stopped to look at it.

My cousin wants me to help him work on his 68 Chevy Nova SS this weekend. I’ll supervise. He is younger than me.

W8©

July 21st, 2009
4:58 pm

@Grace- I eat alot..I doubt you eat more than me..but I have the height to match it..lol (rubbin my belly)

Lioness-

July 21st, 2009
4:59 pm

I am currently a chunk bunk..

Professor

July 21st, 2009
4:59 pm

Have a great evening, gang!

Gerald my apologies for not saying, “Welcome aboard.” I think yesterday was the first time I read you…

W8©

July 21st, 2009
4:59 pm

There is a primered 73 Nova for sale on Concord over in Smyrna also

Angie

July 21st, 2009
4:59 pm

i missed my blog fam today! hey MYHOMIE, PAGE1908! was with my boo hangin’ out . . . still am. gotta read tonight what lesson MIA brought to the table.

Poppa Grande

July 21st, 2009
5:00 pm

W8

Why are you sorry. Those drawls were funny!!!

W8©

July 21st, 2009
5:00 pm

What is a chunk bunk?

Elijah ( Satisfaction Guaranteed)

July 21st, 2009
5:01 pm

c’mon shootin up 8 big girls are good for the soul!

What’s up Jam? Queen of the long post everyday!

Well we talk up lioness the other day and w8 release her from the basement! :lol:

Grace

July 21st, 2009
5:01 pm

Stop saying Smyrna, ur making me home sick :(

Cemeeli

July 21st, 2009
5:01 pm

Thanks PoppaG!!!

Be safe folks.

W8©

July 21st, 2009
5:01 pm

@PG- lmao

THis gear is hot this little lady needs to hurry up

Poppa Grande

July 21st, 2009
5:01 pm

This cousin has a 68 Nova SS and 64 Chevelle.

I am trying to get the Chevelle. It is sweet.

Lioness-

July 21st, 2009
5:01 pm

W8- Come see me & I will show you

Lioness-

July 21st, 2009
5:02 pm

Eli- LMAO!!! Funny! Where have YOU been SIR??

W8©

July 21st, 2009
5:02 pm

lol@Elijah- yeah i keep her locked in the basement for sure

Professor

July 21st, 2009
5:02 pm

PG make sure you help him out…I will probably buy me a classic car. The one thing that is holding me back is working on it…

W8©

July 21st, 2009
5:03 pm

PG- I have a Chevelle you can buy

SexyCool - Sticks is my Yoda.

July 21st, 2009
5:04 pm

Not the leopard draws. Oh my!

Poppa Grande

July 21st, 2009
5:04 pm

W8

I used to work on those in my spare time.

I had a 73 Cutless 442 back in the day. This cousin remembers that car. That is why he asked me.