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Forgive and forget?

When you are fresh off  a painful break up you aren’t always thinking clearly.  If  your ex has been particularly grimy and awful to you, you probably want them to feel the same amount of distress that they inflicted on you.  This is when you need a voice of reason (not a partner in crime!) to talk you off the crazy cliff.

I’m not the type to exact revenge on men who have wronged me.  I’ve done my own dirt and karma has visited my address, plenty of times. Sometimes it’s really best to let go and move on.

I have to admit that there are those moments that I think about getting revenge on an ex-boyfriend though.  I dwell on it for a few hours and start cooking up some crazy idea to make him miserable.  Do you ever think of an ex who you hurt you? How do you let all that go?

Have you ever done something crazy and irresponsible to get back at an ex?  Did it make you feel better at all?

How do you learn to forgive and forget without taking revenge?

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Purple Rain

July 20th, 2010
3:35 pm

Melo, if she comes back while I am gone tell her that I am not embarrassed by it. LOL :)

Leggs

July 20th, 2010
3:35 pm

@Lady ~ :lol: :lol: In your case, rock on to you. You graduated in order to get to graduate school. When I typed that I was thinking of one of our four who let a dude come between her and her schooling. She dropped out.

Lady-Resilient!!

July 20th, 2010
3:35 pm

yes ma’am your right! :)

kimmie

July 20th, 2010
3:37 pm

Leggs/Lady – I feel blessed because I feel like I got some of all the college experiences. I got the HBCU experience by growing up around the Atlanta Univ center. My first summer job was at the AU center library. I had family that were professors and administrators there and my sister is a Spelman alum, mom a Clark alum and both younger brothers are Morehouse men. I am the lone rebel in the family! I wanted a big university experience and UGA had outstanding programs in what I wanted to major in, and GSU as well. I had a great college experience!

Dirty Diana ♠

July 20th, 2010
3:39 pm

Lady,

You better watch out Melo is watching you!

Leggs

July 20th, 2010
3:40 pm

That is fab, kimmie. I hope mine has a great experience as well. All the bumps and all the smooth sailing of dorm life. I feel like I’ve missed out on the college dorm life, but everything happens for a reason. I too may have gotten sidetracked if I wasn’t so sheltered in my own apartment! Who knows.

Lady-Resilient!!

July 20th, 2010
3:41 pm

i feel you kimmie!!!!!!! you know I am all for a well rounded balanced person!!!! I can’t say UGA ROCKS though GA Tech YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;) LOL!!!! Just glad we went somewhere and continued pressing forward with our education! :)

blue-7/30

July 20th, 2010
3:42 pm

@PR – always hit it off with the bad boys, dont know why…..ah well.

somebodys birthday around here, all i know is theres cake, and its chocolate…yum!

Lady-Resilient!!

July 20th, 2010
3:42 pm

DD I laughed so hard I see the watcher is watching the watcher lets see what we see! LOL

Lady-Resilient!!

July 20th, 2010
3:44 pm

now grad school traditional vs non traditional I am all for what goes with your schedule as an adult and possible parent…..But i tell you silently GA State is on my mind (If I transfer)…….lol….small thought…….lol

kimmie

July 20th, 2010
3:44 pm

Leggs – She will do just fine. And you didn’t get sidetracked because you were self-motivated and wanted to succeed. That is something everyone needs to have to be successful, I think.

kimmie

July 20th, 2010
3:46 pm

Lady, okay imma let that GT thing slide cause I like ya. Don’t let it happen again, though!LOL!!

Melo

July 20th, 2010
3:46 pm

@Lady J??

I know DirtyD is listening but i hope she wont take this convo to the big wigs in the big conference room….

any of females or guys have ever banged in the office after the other staffers were long gone….

and u stayed behind on the pretext of catching up?? :lol:

just standing against the cubicle with the back of ur skirt raised and the nikkers to the knees…..while buddy was working it…
:lol:
I think Slimone proly went there :arrow:

too much office sexual angst can do that to u…………

Lady-Resilient!!

July 20th, 2010
3:52 pm

ok kimmie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

melo you need to stop and i do be catching up july has been and will continue to be a bad blog month for me i will be on the regular after labor day LMBAO!!!!! That’s all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lord Velonese

July 20th, 2010
3:58 pm

Vengeance isn’t so bad, it’s easier to accuse all than trying to weed out the one in blame. That way the masses destory each other to expose the culprit. Works really well when someone does something wrong, steals, breaks equipment and etc on the job and no one wants to fess up, so I say punish everyone. Besides forgiving and forgeting is like saying what the person did is ok and can do it again or makes it ok for someone else to do it. Our society is too used to slaps on the wrist and that crap stops with me, I don’t care who are or who you know, I say it’s high time for people own up to their mistakes and in some cases those of others.

And to anyone who says “Oh you should be better than that” screw you, thats an excuse for wanting people to be suckers.

blue-7/30

July 20th, 2010
4:01 pm

@melo – wow, once again with the mental pictures….never had the opportunity to be around for that one….altho, fantasy to be that girl is another story……now thinking how can i work that out….hmmmm

Dirty Diana ♠

July 20th, 2010
4:01 pm

Melo,

I am going to tell on you making love on the copier.

Lady-Resilient!!

July 20th, 2010
4:03 pm

dd hot mess! lol

Dirty Diana ♠

July 20th, 2010
4:05 pm

Lord Velonese,

I see you found your way back.

Melo

July 20th, 2010
4:05 pm

I am going to tell on you making love on the copier.

:lol: :lol:

@Dirty??

Im sure u been in that kinda of hearing! :lol: :shock:

bless those ethopian cleaners who see everything after hrs! :lol: :lol:

Dirty Diana ♠

July 20th, 2010
4:07 pm

@blue if nothing else dress up and pretend in your home office. Once you say a few dirty words and take that garter off he wouldn’t know the difference.

Melo Would you not agree?

abc

July 20th, 2010
4:10 pm

Melo, Oxendine is a crook, but he won’t win the primary anyway, I think. Handel is just a sneaky snake with a rancid and vitriolic personality, we’ll all see the scandals come out when it gets down to it. Baker doesn’t stand a chance, Roy will win the Democratic primary. I’ve met Roy, he’s a regular straight up lawyer kind of guy — a lawyer nonetheless, but still by far the best choice among the candidates that are running, IMHO.

Dirty Diana ♠

July 20th, 2010
4:12 pm

Melo,

My favorite one was this thirst, famished, dehydrated cougar made her pounce on this young cat. She worked first shift he worked third shift. When she would leave work at five she would go home and cook for the young lad. He worked from 11-7, and would take his lunchbreak from 2-3 at night. She would drive back to the job and bring him southern soul food at its finest. We noticed her work declining and she would always be tired and broke. Well one day she got caught giving him dessert (if you know what I mean). She resigned after everyone found out she was cooking and bringing him dinner at night and giving it up to him…she was a chuuch lady and that was just too much for her.

Melo

July 20th, 2010
4:13 pm

@Dirty..i agree..

@blue..u need to spicy it up….

we sleep on the carpet dwnstairs sometimes,esp in summer like this when it gets hot in our upstairs bedroom…

it goes down on the carpet floor too…. :lol: :lol:

blue-7/30

July 20th, 2010
4:13 pm

@Diana – i like the way your mind works (off to get garters….)

nite all, time to convince my daughter she cant live at her best friends house. sleepover is one thing, 4 nites in a row is something else……

Melo

July 20th, 2010
4:16 pm

she was a chuuch lady and that was just too much for her

@Dirty??

:evil: :evil: :shock:

i can imagine..u pple in hr witness all the horror stories!

LMBOF

blue-7/30

July 20th, 2010
4:16 pm

…buy the garters on the way home, then stop at best friends house…. or vice versa…..lets see…maybe let them keep the midget one more nite, buy the garters, make everyone happy……hmmmmm…..

blue-7/30

July 20th, 2010
4:17 pm

alritee, nite all!!!

Dirty Diana ♠

July 20th, 2010
4:30 pm

@Blue the garters are super sexy they turn things up a notch.

@Melo I have all kinds of good work stories

Leggs

July 20th, 2010
4:39 pm

@Melo ~ I sure have had a tryst in a conf. room at work. Who hasn’t. :lol:

Leggs

July 20th, 2010
4:43 pm

@kimmie ~ thanks!

Melo

July 20th, 2010
4:46 pm

I sure have had a tryst in a conf.

@Leggs??

smehow im so happy for u! :lol: :lol:

Leggs

July 20th, 2010
4:49 pm

@blue ~ if you have enuf $$, get the crotchless catsuit and surprise him!

Leggs

July 20th, 2010
4:50 pm

@Melo ~ you’re a riot!

Leggs

July 20th, 2010
4:51 pm

I meant the crotchless lingere catsuit!!!

Leggs

July 20th, 2010
4:59 pm

To conquer oneself is a greater task than conquering others! ~ Unknown

Nite!

Melo

July 20th, 2010
5:07 pm

@leggs/DirtyD??

what is the garter uall talking about??