Forgive and forget?
When you are fresh off a painful break up you aren’t always thinking clearly. If your ex has been particularly grimy and awful to you, you probably want them to feel the same amount of distress that they inflicted on you. This is when you need a voice of reason (not a partner in crime!) to talk you off the crazy cliff.
I’m not the type to exact revenge on men who have wronged me. I’ve done my own dirt and karma has visited my address, plenty of times. Sometimes it’s really best to let go and move on.
I have to admit that there are those moments that I think about getting revenge on an ex-boyfriend though. I dwell on it for a few hours and start cooking up some crazy idea to make him miserable. Do you ever think of an ex who you hurt you? How do you let all that go?
Have you ever done something crazy and irresponsible to get back at an ex? Did it make you feel better at all?
How do you learn to forgive and forget without taking revenge?
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blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
11:39 am
@Melo – a wtf moment
Man caught smuggling 18 monkeys at Mexico airport
MEXICO CITY — A man with a mysterious bulge under his T-shirt was stopped, searched and detained at Mexico City’s international airport after authorities found 18 tiny endangered monkeys in a girdle he was wearing.
Cabrera told authorities he was carrying the monkeys in a suitcase but decided to put them in his girdle “so the X-rays wouldn’t hurt them.”
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 20th, 2010
11:39 am
he bought his dance partner a diamond ring and a diamond necklace
he gave a real BS answer and the crowd did not clap or say anything.
I don’t think his answer was bull hockey I think folks didn’t clap cause it wasn’t what they wanted to hear. But he said ultimately the show is about him and he’s going to appease HIM. When he said that chile people were looking like
and clutching the pearls in disbelief. I was shocked that he used the word appease correctly, myself.
It's me....lurker
July 20th, 2010
11:39 am
Raqi – It’s me…lurker, so it is safe to say that we all have our breaking point. LOL One thing I believe about the flawed human being is we all have our points. That point that will bring us to tears. That point that will bring us to violence. Even a point for those that feel that life is utter depression. There is something that can shed a ray of sunshine over them.
Raqi I agree everybody has a breaking point. I’m a big girl now and the high road is the road for me, whether it’s work, relationships, family, friends. As they say with faith you can claim it a hundred times over but you won’t know until it’s excercised. My point being for our experiences of getting our buttons pushed or being brought to our breaking points, you won’t know until you’re dead in it. How mad can you get? How crazy can you get? What will break your spirit?
blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
11:40 am
@kimmie – lmao. there was some steamrolling yesterday wasnt there….
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 20th, 2010
11:42 am
Not to mention he has a banging body O M G.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oooh yes he does…his body just doesn’t stop…lawd hammercy.
Leggs
July 20th, 2010
11:42 am
@czB ~ I’m here, I posted this morning. How are you? I don’t have any revenge stories. I see no point in it. Well, I do understand it can make a person feel better for a moment, but its shortlived and often times regrettable after the fog clears!
I am whatever you say I am
July 20th, 2010
11:42 am
Carlito, at your 9:50.
I didn’t say that I practice revenge.
That was geared more towards those that have their minds up on that’s what they want to do.
czBrat
July 20th, 2010
11:43 am
gina, that’s one thing that always keeps me looking forward. if i thought this not-quite-right situation was all that, how amazing will the truly right situation be! now i say that with one word of advice … know when to stand and work to make that not-quite-right situation better rather than always thinking the next one will be THE ONE.
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 20th, 2010
11:46 am
Cabrera told authorities he was carrying the monkeys in a suitcase but decided to put them in his girdle “so the X-rays wouldn’t hurt them.”
Awww then…bless his heart… Sometimes all you can do is shake your head.
Melo
July 20th, 2010
11:50 am
I feel sad for the lil baby that lost the head of his dycck in a botched circumcision..ajc headline….
To lose ur wang chips like that as it relates to the wang_sensory glands??
no amount of compensation can bring back the joy..and that kid will be a financially rich kid but sexxually angsted and scorned adult for the rest of his lyfe .
Its a shame……
blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
11:51 am
@Leggs – got my Sheila E, along with some other stuff. been playing air drums all morning, had to switch up for a bit tho, doing B.o.B. – Airplanes now…..
I am whatever you say I am
July 20th, 2010
11:51 am
Monkey in the girdle !?!?!
Dig That
July 20th, 2010
11:51 am
@Lady- All good. I’m going tomorrow. Same thing. Just a quick getaway myself. I can’t wait
blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
11:52 am
@Melo – saw that one. his parents say the other little boys are picking with him cause it doesnt look right. poor little guy….
czBrat
July 20th, 2010
11:52 am
LOL @ Leggs. no, i didn’t expect to hear any snapped stories out of you. just leaving you with a quick “hiya” before i head out. s/o asked about you this weekend. we still need to set up a little cook-off between you two
Dig That
July 20th, 2010
11:54 am
@Melo- That is a shame. I don’t say this often, but I feel sorry for lil man
Melo
July 20th, 2010
11:57 am
To Be perfectly honest the worst break-up that I ever had was with my BFF
@Gina??
what did BFF do to u??
blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
11:58 am
@Melo – they mentioned another case like that last year, where they cut off too much (oww).
“The tip of the penis was placed in a biohazard bag and might have been reattached if he’d gotten attention in time”….
can you imagine being hte person walking around carrying the tip of some kids stuff in a baggy…..
Dirty Diana ♠
July 20th, 2010
12:00 pm
That is awful, and when they settle the case I hope the money goes in an account for lil man where his parents can’t spend it up
Dig That
July 20th, 2010
12:05 pm
That is awful, and when they settle the case I hope the money goes in an account for lil man where his parents can’t spend it up
Me too because he is gonna need that for Vodka and hookers.
Leggs
July 20th, 2010
12:07 pm
@CzB ~ funny you say that. I just composed a menu. I’m going to start selling side dishes to accompany a persons main meat dish. I did a big dinner this past weekend that told me I should be making $$ of this (LOL)
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 20th, 2010
12:07 pm
I hope the money goes in an account for lil man where his parents can’t spend it up
I don’t know Di…how can you not touch 11 milli? The parents probably already called their jobs like ole dude did in Harlem Nights after Sunshine whooped that “young lady”(hey D K) upside his head.
Melo
July 20th, 2010
12:11 pm
tip of the penis was placed in a biohazard bag and might have been reattached if he’d gotten attention in time”….
@blue-7/30??
the tip really is akin to the transmission in a car….that lil man aint ever gon get sexual joy…can u all imagine??
unless he switches maybe…this is scandalous..
that money (11 mil$$) aint even enough to compensate for the angst plus humiliation.
Dirty Diana ♠
July 20th, 2010
12:16 pm
Melo,
Maybe by the time he is ready to start using it there will be some advancements in the medical field, and he will be ok.
czBrat
July 20th, 2010
12:18 pm
that’s what i’m talking bout ms. leggs! i’m jetting off to illinois for a couple days again, but i’ll be in touch. you two work the kitchen while i
sipsupply the wineMelo
July 20th, 2010
12:25 pm
time he is ready to start using it there will be some advancements in the medical field
@Dirty??
that gotta be within the next 12 to 15 years and by that time,his emotions wil be messed up…..u hear of all these cases of dudes who are swicth hitters who say they were molested as teens or tots etc…..it starts early coz even as lil tots,the other other tots will be looking and laughing at ur peta(ur word) LOL..calling him girl etc…by 15 he already thinks hes a girl.
hes gon be a str8 up switcher, i tell u!
czBrat
July 20th, 2010
12:32 pm
it starts early coz even as lil tots,the other other tots will be looking and laughing at ur peta(ur word)
um. how soon and how often do you guys start checking out each other’s genitals? and why???
blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
12:33 pm
lets say they dont touch it till he turns 15, can someone just tell em what 12 years worth of interest looks like on 11 million….
blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
12:34 pm
@cz – LMAO, the little smily face was the icing on teh cake, lmao….
Dirty Diana ♠
July 20th, 2010
12:35 pm
Melo,
He should just hide his peta until the time is right.
Melo
July 20th, 2010
12:39 pm
how soon and how often do you guys start checking out each other’s genitals
@Czbrat??
uy know lil boys and girls are curious so there is no “how often” etc coz there is no protocol when u young. u mees with lil girls and they do with u too..thats when uall notice somebody;s peta.
did u never play hide and seek with lilboys and play mom and dad and touch each other??
czBrat
July 20th, 2010
12:41 pm
i plead the fifth. that is all.
Melo
July 20th, 2010
12:42 pm
@czBrat??
I remember being on top of this lil girl when i was maybe 5 or 6,fully clothed and so was she, and mimicking phuccking her and saying aaaaahh, aaaaaaagh loudly as if i was enjoying sex..no penetration,none..i dont know where i got that from! LOL
blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
12:45 pm
just..wow…really?…wow…
czBrat
July 20th, 2010
12:47 pm
i dont know where i got that from
yeah you do! you was a little mud-hut peeping tom. LOL
(you know i’m teasing)
Dirty Diana ♠
July 20th, 2010
12:47 pm
Melo you have been mannish for a long time…hehehe
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 20th, 2010
12:48 pm
i’m jetting off to illinois for a couple days again
I’ll be leaving to go out of town,too cz…but not ’til Friday morn.
Raqi
July 20th, 2010
12:51 pm
Melo, actually the greatest level of pleasure he will be able to receive will only be compared to that he has received. With the head being damaged now as a child his first experience will be what it will be.
It likes a person born blind. They don’t miss seeing the colors red, blue and green because they have never seen it. In their growing process they learned to VIEW objects with their hands and that is how they live.
We as human learn to adapt to our circumstances and surroundings and live well.
I hate that happened to the little boy but he will manage and I believe he will find satisfaction for what it will be to him. You can’t miss what you have never had or experienced.
At least his parents didn’t opt to have him given a gender change like some parents did years ago with the first trials of laser circumcision that went wrong. That little boy should have been given the opportunity to grow up to be a man but his parents took that away from him. Our gender is more than the parts on our body but it’s our inner workings also. That choice by those parents probably has that child confused wondering why SHE like woman when in fact HE is a man.
Dig That
July 20th, 2010
12:53 pm
A little dry humping is how it starts into full blown butt naked splacking eventually. I grew up way too fast. Wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Gina
July 20th, 2010
12:54 pm
@Melo she became very jealous as I started moving up at work and of my other friends then she started spreading lies and got caught.
czBrat
July 20th, 2010
12:54 pm
Sassy, this is another work jaunt though. bloomington is ridiculously boring. i should rent a car and hit chi-town for a day. where you off to?
Melo
July 20th, 2010
12:59 pm
@Dirty??
now talking of stumped limps..back in the day, i knew a dude whose hand hand been blown off from the wrist in a dynamite accident. That had happened when he was a teen….
i met him when he was an adult(28+) and dude always had his hand in his pocket…we always wondered why that was so untill somebody told us that his hand had been blown off and dude was shy to bring it out….so nobody knew exactly how the hand looked……and nobody asked him in public to bring it out….
there was mystery about his hand tho…
legend had it that the only time he wld bring his hand out “comfortably” was when he was alone in the woods,tending to his cows and goats etc or hunting by himself…..now the joke was that still,there was no way anybody could get a clear shot of that stump coz the moment dude heard a slight movement while in the woods..his stump wld move into the pocket like a flash…..u wld need a space shuttle camera to capture the pic,if at all……
One day however,the dude had gone to the woods,tending to his goats,sheep and cows and in the comfort of it all,had also taken a dump…now he had not fixed his pants properly so his zipper portion of the pants was not well aligned and his pockets were not well in place…
some other dude happened to be in the area also looking after his goats and cows and as stump_hand dude heard some commotion,he quickly snapped his stump back to try and fit into the pocket..the pocket was not in the usual place,unfortunately so his stump caught just a portion of the pocket and coz his hand was not well positioned,he was kinda caught still trying to adjust the hand….
other dude caught the action and was like
and short hand dude was like 
and 
at being caught while in the act!
can u imagine the embarassment??
Dirty Diana ♠
July 20th, 2010
1:02 pm
Sassssy where are jetting off to?
blue-7/30
July 20th, 2010
1:02 pm
@Melo – LMAO, stump_hand dude, ROFL……hte pop eyes are too funny….ok, time for lunch….lol
Purple Rain
July 20th, 2010
1:03 pm
Dirty Diana ♠
July 20th, 2010
1:04 pm
Melo,
That was a good one…I cannot imagine!
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 20th, 2010
1:06 pm
where are jetting off to?
Going to Charleston for my class reunion and to sight see @ some of the new shops downtown on King street and some other new places I have yet to visit. Downtown Charleston is the bomb during the summer..I love it.
Dirty Diana ♠
July 20th, 2010
1:09 pm
@Sasssy That sounds like fun. Is this your high school reunion, or college?
@Blue Melo tells the best stories. Do you remember the one about the jar of wangs, or the one about the young guy that got in the chiefs magic viagra potion????? Simply funny!
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 20th, 2010
1:16 pm
I loove science…always have. Noticed in college that I liked anatomy n physiology better than anything b/c it explained how/why we are what we are. I just read an article about a Nigerian couple that gave birth to a white baby girl…not an albino but a blond haired,blue eyed little girl and was like woooow. I’ve read about other women(usually of mixed race) having twins(one white,one darker) but never a story like this…
Okay back to our regularly unscripted(good oxymoron,huh) blog convo…
Sassy Me...Chocolate Cutey :-)
July 20th, 2010
1:19 pm
Is this your high school reunion, or college?
It’s my highschool reunion….I went to college here in the “A” @ GSU. My friends wanted me to go to an HBCU but I was like “ahhh y’all got HBCU money?”…so to GSU I went.