Wealthy Men Do It Better? Seriously!?
A reader sent me a very interesting article that puts a new spin on the appeal of men with money. Yes, the researchers have spoken (again) and apparently rich men provide more of everything, if you get what I’m saying.
I don’t know how much I actually agree with this. What does this say about the link between money and physical intimacy? What do you think, is “money the ultimate aphrodisiac?”
Ladies, we all know that we seek security in men, does this happen to add to the bedroom activity too? Have you ever noticed a difference in your man’s “performance” when he is having financial difficulty?
Guys, do you agree with the thesis? Do you perform your best when you have more money in the bank? You know what they say, more money, more problems. Does the saying mean that is added pressure on you to perform in life and the bedroom?
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Rell - it is trickin if you got it
July 14th, 2009
8:29 am
WOW should be interesting…
mytw♥cents...A Woman's Worth
July 14th, 2009
8:36 am
WHATEVA!!!
Good Day
Hope You All are Well…
Professor
July 14th, 2009
8:39 am
Good Morning All:
Hmmmm interesting I think I will just hangout and lurk for a minute. I will say this maybe the money brings more confidence, which helps out in that area. Who knows?
Grace
July 14th, 2009
8:44 am
YES YES YES YES! I had a lingering liason with an account director, when he made a sale it was on and poppin’ but when he wasn’t closing any deals, he morphed into a whole other person. It was light night and day. So, yes I think money is an aphrodisiac for some men.
Rell - it is trickin if you got it
July 14th, 2009
8:47 am
money brings lot of things….first thing on the list…OPTIONS..with that comes WOMEN…..and thats when things start to get fuzzy….there are a segment of women out here who love the dollar more than the man attached to it….to them giving of themselves to gain a material item is no big deal…whats a big deal is this a coma(,) followed by 0000….men with money get it twisted when they think that just because i have the gold the rules dont apply to me anymore…we could go into countless examples of this downfall in real life and film….
no on to the question does BIG FACE HUNNINDS….make you a lil more active in bed…maybe…but not really..having money takes the stress out of meeting women….thats what it does for men…because with money you are more incline to be more aggressive with your approach and more confident as well…the bedroom is ooooooooo nother issue….
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
8:50 am
Morning lovelies -
I would imagine the less stress you are under, the better you’d be in bed. If you’re not worrying about paying bills or providing for your family, it’s easier to focus, for both the men and the women.
Though, I would assume if you are a wealthy guy, you don’t necessarily HAVE to be good in bed, there is usually a woman out there who is willing to turn a blind eye for the security begin financially established brings. Just like beautiful women aren’t always the best lovers cuz they don’t have to be. A guy will always be willing to sleep with her just to have a pretty woman on his arm.
Grace
July 14th, 2009
8:57 am
I work with a lot of high rollers, when quarter end comes around I’ll take notice of the ones who didn’t do so well and the few who made it big. I see high fives and congrats all day on the BIG deal that person closed and the next day their back on the grind working on that next big deal.
Rell - it is trickin if you got it
July 14th, 2009
9:01 am
If you’re not worrying about paying bills or providing for your family
- whats funny red is this…most men like control..i know news flash but get this…when men are stressed about money or whatever we turn to the one thing we can control..our nut..men under stress or with money problems will go hard to get that sexual release….carry on affairs..or spend there last hard earn money on a female…trust me it happens
Mike Jones (who)
July 14th, 2009
9:05 am
Money gives options Period. So instead of doing the do on a dirty mattress, it could be on the balcony of a top floor suite. So that may add a little bit to the experience.
Money can give confidence and financial security. But that won’t help you put it down in the B.R. Unless you say something like girl I’m going to pay your rent and car note. She might get off from that!
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
9:08 am
Unless you say something like girl I’m going to pay your rent and car note. She might get off from that!
I have a friend who was told that and she gave it up the first night.
-W8©
July 14th, 2009
9:08 am
I really don’t have a clue on this one. I know sex is a great stress relief when with the right person so if you are having issues..”you can work them out”..and if everything is fine..you may have good sessions also…but then again if the pockets are fat I could see some folks caring less on if the woman enjoyed it or not.
East Point's Own
July 14th, 2009
9:08 am
Rell @ 8:47 is right on Money does not make me better in bed… but it allows me to be more aggressive in trying to meet women and get them to bed
Knowing that I can do whatever and not be worried about how much it costs makes going out a whole lot more fun, and rejection a lot less painful.
When you have low-medium funds it feels like people are watching your every move, when you have money you don’t care who sees you… LoL
But if I am dead broke but a chick is trying to jump in the sack… my performance is not affected, cause money is not on my mind at that moment NTwayz…
-W8©
July 14th, 2009
9:10 am
There is a reason why “ballers” wives step out on them..and umm it aint the money..
Mike (Money Bags) Jones
July 14th, 2009
9:14 am
AmazonRed**
Thats a whole different topic that I’m going to “try” and not get into!
Professor
July 14th, 2009
9:17 am
I am in agreement with those that mentioned the options money brings. I remember dating this guy that was an artist, and things were so good when he sold some of his art. Literally we went from eating at the Beautiful to dining all over Buckhead (sometimes leaving ATL all together). Just the options that the money brought made things a lot better on all levels. The lack of money brings stress to a lot of people, and having money brings stress (it is a different type of stress).
I will say that money can increase confidence, which adds more depth to a person as well
Professor
July 14th, 2009
9:20 am
**I have a friend who was told that and she gave it up the first night.**
Wow!
SexyCool - A Dollar for a Dream
July 14th, 2009
9:23 am
Three Words Daily – Outwit. Outplay. Outlast.
Rell - it is trickin if you got it
July 14th, 2009
9:27 am
increase confidence
- you know i read professor…that the same high is obtain when you do charitable work or help someone out….funny right…we as people can gain confidence in so many ways….but your right on the different stress levels of money….i had it and lost it…so i know first had what both ends of the spectrum look like…
rejection a lot less painful.
- i agree EPO….i was the living breathing cliche…money makes you more of what you already are…when i had a lil change in my pocket…i was a big A hole…if you think i am one now…which some of you do…then you would wanted me dead back in the early 2000’s….i would do all types of stupid crap….like i would go to the dollar store before i went out and by the sappiest card i could find…slip a rubber and a 50 dollar bill in the card…go to the bar or club hit up a chick…then hand her the envelop with my name number, condom, and the 50 inside….lol…it worked about 10 percent of the time…but it was fun watching the WTF reaction on there face…lol….money makes you do crazy ish like that…..and thats just one i will share…i am more humble now and not as arrogant…but i have my days
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 14th, 2009
9:27 am
Well, it does make sense on some level. Stress can result in a variety of negative physical effects, including sexual. Finances are probably the most common cause of stress for most folks; so, the more comfortable you are financially, the less likely you are to be stressed, I suppose. That also plays into confidence, which can certainly help with performance.
Of course, that’s overlooking the obvious: hot (and easy) women tend to gravitate to money — and it’s pretty easy to get fired up over a hottie. And then, of course, they can afford more Viagra.
Papa Grand celebrating Bastille Day..Oui
July 14th, 2009
9:31 am
I have no clue.
I have a feeling that this is more of a matter of perception than reality.
While the sun rising in the east can be an aphrodisiac for many men, money may be many females’ aphrodisiac.
Hondo-
July 14th, 2009
9:33 am
Good points PG
SexyCool - I'm a Survivor.
July 14th, 2009
9:34 am
Having dated men with money and those financially challenged. I can’t say that this had an effect on the skill of lovemaking one way or the other.
A lame f#ck is a lame f#ck regardless of what your bank account balances are.
Hondo
July 14th, 2009
9:41 am
“A lame f#ck is a lame f#ck regardless of what your bank account balances are.”
lol@SCool…oh so true “I think selfishness ties into that equation..I’ve been on both sides of that coin…I’ve been selfish(lame) before and have dealt with women who were lame also…money had nothing to do with it”
Oh and thanks for the new blog name…I like it
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
9:41 am
Morning swiss –
I chuckled when I was driving in this morning. They had a PSA on how officers are ticketing folks who “follow too closely.”
Apparently, when a small car collides with a tractor trailer, it isn’t pretty.
Just wanted to let you know that!
Mike (Money Bags) Jones
July 14th, 2009
9:42 am
Question for the women
So if a guy has money would that offset the fact that you may not be attracted or have any interest in him?
SexyCool - I'm a Survivor.
July 14th, 2009
9:53 am
Mr. Jones – Tried that. It was a no go.
Professor
July 14th, 2009
9:54 am
Hey Rell!
I agree confidence can be attained different ways, but there is a certain confidence that money brings. Money and possessions that are associated with money brings a certain “swag.” I have seen boys in high school walk with a different level of confidence when they got a fresh hair cut (small, but big for a guy that did not get a hair cut often). Hell I twist a little bit harder when I put my mink, or if I am wearing or doing something extra special. Although I am accustomed to these things I am looking better so I feel a little more confidence. I feel confidence when I volunteer, but it is a different level when I look in the mirror and I am looking like I just stepped off a runway. BTW, I think it is a good thing to know what both ends of the spectrum looks like, if nothing else it allows you to understand and empathize with others.
SexyCool - I'm a Survivor.
July 14th, 2009
9:55 am
But it seems like 2620 chicks do it all that time.
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
9:55 am
So if a guy has money would that offset the fact that you may not be attracted or have any interest in him?
Mike Jones – Just because a guy says he has money doesn’t mean he does!
I did agree to go out with a guy who I wasn’t initially attracted to, in addition he was too old for me. But we had a nice conversation and I did want to know more. Our next convo lasted over two hours. Anywhoo, on the first convo we had he owned a plane. I like to fly.
But after a date or two, the lack of physical attraction couldn’t make up for the fact he had money or good conversation. I can’t keep up a front when it’s not there.
So to answer your question, money might open a door that’s not otherwise there, but for non-gold diggers there needs to be more there.
One other thing to note that it isn’t always about the money. Guys who have money are often quite powerful. Men in power is an afrodisiac for many women.
Professor
July 14th, 2009
9:58 am
Mike Jones, for me attraction and interest is everything, I like fireworks and passion. I hate…absolutely hate wasting my time, and therefore I am stingy with my time, so I cannot even fathom spending time with someone that I am not attracted to or interested in. At this point in my life I would rather use that time to make my own money instead of chasing his. Guess what? The confidence that I have in myself I know I can make it happen.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit callin' out all fakes :-)
July 14th, 2009
9:58 am
So if a guy has money would that offset the fact that you may not be attracted or have any interest in him?
No that’s not offsetting jack shyt……for me the first attraction is physical(but that alone will not keep me),and regardless of how long his pockets are if I’m not interested in him his money will not make me stay. I think along the lines of “Well that’s HIS money……I want MY own money”.
A lame f#ck is a lame f#ck regardless of what your bank account balances are.
Weeellll…..you going for the throat early this morning Sexy…..and why is it that sometimes the lame ones don’t know…or at least they ACT like they don’t know.
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
9:58 am
Lawd, the lack of sleep is showing in my posts.
Professor
July 14th, 2009
10:00 am
BTW Mike Jones we should define money. I have heard people say, “he makes good money.” Guess what dude makes 60K a year. Money to her, but not to me.
mytw♥cents...A Woman's Worth
July 14th, 2009
10:01 am
Financial stability as a single element inside of a loving relationship is one thing. That can certainly add to an overall pleasurable life. But I believe it’s still trickin’, even if you got it. If you have to lead with anything beyond mental to get her/him to yield physically, you’re doing something wrong. If you can’t give it freely to someone, you have no business giving it at all.
Basically, if there’s a bill of sale attached to your booty…don’t kid yourself. There are lots of women whose stuff goes “ca-ching” with every stroke — that ain’t got nuthin to with his sexual prowess, but it’s got everything to do with her whoreness. (Ooh, just made that one up!)
Now lemme go re-read the topic and see if I’m misinterpreting. And I’ll start reading the comments, cuz I haven’t. No clue who I may have just labeled a trick or a h….. (JAMOCA, cue the music
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 14th, 2009
10:02 am
See now, ARed — I had almost gotten over that, and now you’re gonna get me fired up again…
So, the PSA tried to suggest that following too closely will somehow lead to me colliding w/ a tractor trailer, huh? Let me guess — in the PSA some dude in a little sports car gets decapitated when he slams into the back of a tractor trailer? That’s not following too closely — that’s not paying attention. Truth is, I could be 2 inches from the back of a tractor trailer & as long as I’m paying attention, there’s no way that big ass truck is going to stop before I can. Now, if they had it the other way around, it would be more legit. Bottom line is this whole statewide traffic “crackdown” has exactly zero to do with public safety and absolutely everything to do with generating revenue. If they would just have the ballz to come out and admit that, I’d have more respect for them. But as it is, they can all suck on my white chocolate salty ballz….
See what you started, ARed?
Mike (Money Bags) Jones
July 14th, 2009
10:03 am
Thanks Ladies:
So I guess its similar to how we are with pretty women. A pretty face or other uhmnnn assets will get you in the door. But it won’t keep you there. hmnnnnnn
Rell - it is trickin if you got it
July 14th, 2009
10:04 am
we had a nice conversation
- I had to relearn this recently…sometimes less is more…meaning all that talking puts you in a qualifing position with the women…so shut the hell up and keep her talking…if she wants to gab…she can talk with her girlfriends
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
10:05 am
I just wanted to let you know that there was indeed a crackdown going on. I didn’t want you to think you were targeted for DWS (driving while swiss
)
Hondo
July 14th, 2009
10:05 am
Money.. If your bills are paid,everything is taken care of and you are comfortable in life
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
10:06 am
White chocolate though?
Mike (Money Bags) Jones
July 14th, 2009
10:06 am
Professor
So what is good money to you!
SexyCool - I'm a Survivor.
July 14th, 2009
10:06 am
BTW, Hondo, you are quite welcome.
Just as an FYI, in order to keep from confusing the ‘blog natives’, most blog name changes are accompanied by an ‘official announcement.’ LOL.
Raqi...Blame it on me
July 14th, 2009
10:08 am
Do wealthy men make better lovers??? I doubt it.
Can being financially well off affect your mindset in the sack??? For some??? Maybe.
For me it’s like this. It is not so much as him being a better lover when it comes to the financial state but more about my mental state of having less worries and anguish while at play. It is easier to engage with a mind free from “how we gone pay the mortgage” than it is to push pass the concern while trying to engage.
I am a worrier by nature. When I get deeply preoccupied over certain matters I tend to not be as open other things as I would if not having the worry. It has nothing to do with his skills at that time but more of where my mind is.
I read this article or one very similar several months back and by take on it was somewhat different that how this one reads today.
But that’s just me.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit callin' out all fakes :-)
July 14th, 2009
10:09 am
One other thing to note that it isn’t always about the money. Guys who have money are often quite powerful. Men in power is an afrodisiac for many women.
Now there is something to be said about men in power that also have control and the confidence they exude that is soo sexy…not arrogant or pushy but an “Alpha male”…not a fake that’s constantly tries so hard to convince others and that he becomes obvious but the true Alpha who just is ’cause he is.
Guess what dude makes 60K a year. Money to her, but not to me.
Okay that’s fine for you but maybe depending on her past and present station in life 60K just might be big ballin’ to her…who’s to say?
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 14th, 2009
10:11 am
breathe in…. and release…. breathe in…. aaaaaand release…..
ARed, this calming process will go a lot faster if rub on the Matterhorn. Just sayin’…
And, yes, I said it — white chocolate
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
10:11 am
Just as an FYI, in order to keep from confusing the ‘blog natives’, most blog name changes are accompanied by an ‘official announcement.’ LOL
Yes, help a sista out here…
Hondo
July 14th, 2009
10:12 am
lol@ SCool- ..i’m sure I will say something so that people will know…
Hondo
July 14th, 2009
10:13 am
@Ared-nope!! (u should know now)
AmazonRed™ - workaholic
July 14th, 2009
10:14 am
ARed, this calming process will go a lot faster if rub on the Matterhorn.
swiss – You are sooooooo FIRED!!!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit callin' out all fakes :-)
July 14th, 2009
10:14 am
And, yes, I said it — white chocolate
I’m okay with the white chocolate Swiss…it was the “salty” part that got my attention…..you sweatin’ over there?…