After reading reports that have emerged about the young lady that killed Steve McNair, I couldn’t help but feel sad for the girl. Like Ms. Kazemi, I think that there are many of us who are dealing with stress and anxiety but we never show it outwardly. The person we are dating could be under a tremendous amount of pressure and we don’t truly know what it’s about or how they are dealing with it.
When it comes to new relationships, how much do we really share with one another? We would probably be apprehensive to divulge the personal secrets and private matters because it would run the person off. At what point do you let someone in?
Sometimes being too guarded and mysterious hinders a new relationship, and in Mcnair’s case it was deadly. How well do you know the person you are seeing? When do they gain access?
I remember when I was seeing a guy for a few weeks and purposely being vague about where my office was located. He kept wanting to come take me to lunch, insisting that he would pick me up. While it was a sweet gesture, I had to say “Look, don’t take this the wrong way, but I am not comfortable letting you know where I live/work, yet” I did not like how he reacted to this because I thought he would be more understanding. A single woman living in the city can never be too careful. I advised him to be selective in who he shares personal information with as well.
Do you ever worry about bringing the wrong person in to your life? How do you safeguard yourself? After you do the general check for “the crazy”, what other things do you observe about the person you are seeing?
Have you ever met someone who misrepresented themselves completely? How did you handle it?