Dating in the Dark
After watching VH1’s Tough Love, I swore off dating reality shows until the next season airs. Now I find out that there is a completely wacky new dating show set to air on ABC called Dating in the Dark. This takes blind date to a totally new, completely terrifying level!
The cast will have to actually use their *gasp* personality to appeal to each other. When I think about the concept of totally relying on your personality before looks to attract a mate, I think I would fare pretty well. You put me in front of a blind folded man and I am pretty sure he would be impressed and pleased with my personality. How many of us could actually make a man or woman become completely smitten without knowing what you look like?
This also makes me curious about why so many people who try online dating often put up the hottest pictures with little to no personal information. Do they assume that their looks would be enough to garner interest? Is that the type of single people they really want to attract?
Have you ever responded to an online dating profile that had no picture but a wonderfully written description? Can a person’s personality actually make them hotter than they are physically? How does that work?
Would you ever be willing to date in the dark?
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Texas Boy
July 10th, 2009
8:48 am
((Laughing)) what a funny topic.
Leggs
July 10th, 2009
9:01 am
Good morning. This new show has intriqued me! The concept is definitely different. I believe my personality, although it may not make someone “smitten” with me, will intrigue enough to not yell “STOP, I want the lights put on!”
Leggs
July 10th, 2009
9:02 am
HAPPY BIRTHDAY LADY SAGE!!! HOPE IT’S FABULOUS!
Leggs
July 10th, 2009
9:03 am
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, LADY SAGE. HOPE YOU HAVE A FABULOUS DAY/WEEKEND!
Dan
July 10th, 2009
9:09 am
My boy PG said it best yesterday:
Intrigue is what gets the party started (be it physical or mental), but compability is what keeps it going.
Demi
July 10th, 2009
9:24 am
(How many of us could actually make a man or woman become completely smitten without knowing what you look like?)
All the time…issssh, I can start a great convo about tiolet paper if I have to, LOL
Ask Mo…I am forever getting kicked off her floor…Demi will have you rolling in 2 seconds flat!!!
I am ludicrous…I make mean ugly arse supavisas smile, LOL
Demi
July 10th, 2009
9:25 am
>>>>>>toilet paper
SexyCool - Set Adrift on Memory Bliss
July 10th, 2009
9:25 am
As one who has dated online, I would be not so interested in profiles that had really nice looking pictures, but nothing to say or nothing interesting to say in their profiles.
I would also be less interested in profiles with bad grammar, misspellings and excessive typos.
The other hangup that I had would be getting contacted by guys who claimed to be exactly my height or within an inch or two. Come on – we all know that guys add inches to their height and just like chicks subtract pounds from their weight. LOL
At last, but not least, most people, male and female, are rather generous with themselves when it comes to the body type categories. Forty pounds overweight is not a ‘Few Extra Pounds” – try ten. And for guys, having relatively muscular legs with a beer belly is not “Athletic”.
Three Words Daily – Consciously speak life.</strong.
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 10th, 2009
9:27 am
Anybody can pass a personality test because its always your ambassador doing the interview..
SexyCool - Set Adrift on Memory Bliss
July 10th, 2009
9:30 am
DK – Some people should fire their ambassadors.
Professor
July 10th, 2009
9:32 am
Good Morning All:
Can a person’s personality actually make them hotter than they are physically?
I think so, long story short, years ago I set one of my friends up with a guy and I told her he was handsome. After she met him she called and told me he was not cute you surprised me with him….blah…blah…blah I thought we had similar taste in guys etc. Well after the initial meeting he called her and they talked… a few months later I remember her saying something like he is not handsome until you get to know him. I guess I knew him and he was handsome to me, but from the outside looking in he was not handsome to her until the personality kicked in.
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 10th, 2009
9:38 am
S COOL – Thats why I dont do Internet Dating because I like to see, speak and exchange numbers.
DJ Demi
July 10th, 2009
9:40 am
Fatter than fat facts like a dove sack
Showin’ them where that love’s at
So open up your eyes and get a surprise like in CrackerJacks
Punan’ Don happy
Givin’ up that nappy dug out
Get the cut up, then I cut out
Why you standin there wit yo’ butt out (whoo)
And it’s always in the back of my mind
Wherever the place, whenever the time
Even in College Park, after dark, I’ma get my sunshine
Closer than close, closer than most, then I’m all up in ya
Beginner, give me a thigh, breast, and wing like Ms. Winner
And let dinner be served
Can I get it on a platter, shatter your bladder
and put so much light in yo’ life I’ll make the roaches scatter
The wetta the betta, I’m ready to get ya
Gotta have rabbit like that cheddar
So I can freak ya like I just met ya
Hot like a sauna, get comfy like in a Cadillac
Nick nack paddy wack give a dog a bone Jack
Kick back relax and just take off yo shoes
Cuz I gotta tell you what I wants to do (uh oh)
Yea,/i>
AmazonRed™ - is a kitten *purrr*
July 10th, 2009
9:42 am
Happy Friday All! I am so looking forward to getting this weekend started!
Yeah, see, the thing is…the ones who are known for their “personalities” aren’t usually known for their looks. (Ironically, I won best personality in HS so take what you will from that one
). I did a free trial on eHarmony to see what I would get. None of my matches had pics and they were all under 5′8.” I cancelled that service with a quickness.
I’m going to hold out for the entire package cuz I feel I deserve the entire package. Not to say that I couldn’t be with someone whose personality was stronger than their looks, I would probably prefer that. But there are plenty of folks with a good balance of looks and charm. I’ll wait til that bus pulls up.
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 10th, 2009
9:42 am
S COOL – I know.. I fired mine. I dont necessary let a person in right away but what they do get it all me all the time. No secrets and no shielding of who I am. I still leave that air of mystery there because thats who I am..
Demi
July 10th, 2009
9:47 am
(Anybody can pass a personality test because its always your ambassador doing the interview..)
Folks still do that? Too much time and energy being wasted!!
I am so glad I’ve grown to love me for me…the good and bad
Demi
July 10th, 2009
9:49 am
(I’ll wait til that bus pulls up.)
A.red…I heard that!!
Cemeeli
July 10th, 2009
9:54 am
~ morning all
2 things…
W8 I think the post about/to your dad yesterday was heart felt love for him. I hope he knew how much his kids & grands loved him. ~ Thanks for sharing!
To a gem born on a hot summer day (or night), and beautiful red sunset…a Ruby. The birthstone of passion for life, with fiery love. Happy Birthday Kym!
Professor
July 10th, 2009
9:55 am
ARed, you know 5′8 means 5′6. I think I mentioned to you before that I have close friend that is 6 w/o shoes on and the guys around 5′7-5′9 cannot get enough of her, and she is sick of them
East Point's Own
July 10th, 2009
9:57 am
I am a relaxed person when it comes to dating, I have done a bit of online dating in the past, and yes I even went out with a couple women who had a lot of good things to say without posting a photo online. All of them had good reason to not post a pic…. I won’t say much else about it.
Not posting a pic is a huge red flag.
But I would be up for the dating in the dark, I don’t think I would have a problem attracting a woman based on my personality alone. Provided she can accept the fact that I don’t necessarily bend to popular beliefs or current trends. I am me… no matter what is popular at the moment.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 10th, 2009
9:58 am
“This also makes me curious about why so many people who try online dating often put up the hottest pictures with little to no personal information.”
Wise — The old English teacher in me is convinced it’s because a large segment of the population couldn’t write a coherent paragraph if their lives depended on it.
Pretty Wings
July 10th, 2009
10:02 am
Okay, I’m glad we can admit it today – most people have a Representative/Ambassador in the beginning of most relationships.
And because of that,even if you are staring the person in the face, you may as well be dating in the dark.
Melo
July 10th, 2009
10:04 am
Can a person’s personality actually make them hotter than they are physically
YES,but ehhhhh, hot is coded!!
The personality can make the person interesting but “hotter” is a superlative and euphamism at the same time and hot is being used to elevate what is otherwise ordinary! I bet u a chic thats 25 will not call an ugly guy,by most standards but with a lot of personality as “hot” but a 40 year old will.
Timing is key there.
A not so handsome guy with personality when the chick is 25 is okay at that time but could become “hot” when shes 35 +,dated and left clutching straws and kinda,ehhhh ..ehhhh, shall we say, “desperate”!
In most ideal situations, a guy/chic is attracted to the person,body wise and if the personality is okay and there is a semblance of compatibility/settling,going with his/her flow etc,the deal is done.
People who “settle” for personality when her/his looks are not there are doing just that,”settling” and its usually because they tried to get the ideal(looks + personality) and it did not work.
Adult females(mature,they call themselves) have a way with euphamisms!
M'
July 10th, 2009
10:05 am
This topic makes me think about the group Bloodstone…they made the song “Natural High”…mayne, everyone went bananas on the cut…the perfect slow-drag, make a move groove…they sounded so sexy and fine…lol…well, so everyone thought…until they appeared on Soul Train…jimmies, they were some of the most ugmo bros in God’s creation…lol…and suddenly, ppl were like…eeewwwww!!!!!…so, in retrospect…yeah…let’s have some lights…lol
Demi
July 10th, 2009
10:05 am
(…I think I mentioned to you before that I have close friend that is 6 w/o shoes on and the guys around 5′7-5′9 cannot get enough of her, and she is sick of them)
Profess…I am one of the dudes she is sick of, LOL.
But it’s funny…all of my male cousins are over 6ft, be dont date women close to their height…My dates are often taller than theirs. I am like, that’s bullish!! LOL
AmazonRed™ - is a kitten *purrr*
July 10th, 2009
10:05 am
A.red…I heard that!!
Demi
July 10th, 2009
10:05 am
M’…hey bey, how are you doing?
Pretty Wings
July 10th, 2009
10:06 am
Don’t get me wrong, I like eye candy…………..but at the end of the day who you are and how you treat me is going to trump all that. I once dated a man much shorter than me (which I swore I would not do) because he made me laugh!
-W8©-(thoroughbred....)
July 10th, 2009
10:07 am
“I’m going to hold out for the entire package cuz I feel I deserve the entire package.”
Amen, Hallelujah!!!
(starts to speak in tongues)
Preach..Preacher!!!!!
AmazonRed™ - is a kitten *purrr*
July 10th, 2009
10:08 am
ARed, you know 5′8 means 5′6.
Oh I know it Professor!
That’s why you must be at least 6′ to ride this ride. And that’s being generous.
Not to say I’ve never dated a 5′10″er or two, but if I was doing something like online dating, where I am doing the chosing just based off brief paragraphs and pics, I’m going for the tall ones.
abc
July 10th, 2009
10:10 am
Sounds like it’ll lend poignant meaning to the term ‘the reveal’. I predict that people with appearance deficits will get setup for ridicule. I figure you can presume the worst of reality tv, and if you’re not right it’s because they’ll be even worse. Read a book, play a sport, get a hobby, but stop watching reality tv.
Pretty Wings
July 10th, 2009
10:11 am
Good Luck with that W8! Make sure you vet her ambassador.
-W8©-(thoroughbred....)
July 10th, 2009
10:11 am
Why is a man’s height so important to women? (Trying to help Demi out..lol..cuz I dont have that problem..lol)
Demi
July 10th, 2009
10:12 am
A.red…why should you be…Demi is a wonderful man doll…and I don’t need batteries to get started!
A.red is now attemping to deflate her Demi man doll…six hours later…no success.
AmazonRed™ - is a kitten *purrr*
July 10th, 2009
10:15 am
Why is a man’s height so important to women?
Welcome back W8, I hope you are well.
Don’t you want a tall woman so that you may have tall children? There you go.
I’m 5′11″, everyone else gets to marry someone taller than them, I should too.
Besides it’s the family business. All though my sister who is 6′3″ married someone who was 5′10″ but her height will make up for his.
AmazonRed™ - is a kitten *purrr*
July 10th, 2009
10:15 am
Demi is a wonderful man doll…
I don’t doubt that at all.
M'
July 10th, 2009
10:17 am
@Demi
Hey Demi…doing okay…but I would be doing better if SCool would take her parts-heimer meds and remember to get back to me about my resume…lol…j/k
More seriously…truly, yes an individual’s personality does go a very long way in generating a more appealing and attractive interest…there have been an occasion or two when ppl have asked me why I was attracted to a particular individual that otherwise was not what would be deemed the most physically engaging from first sight…but perhaps the person made me laugh, listened intently to my concerns and expressed a sincere interest in return, enjoyed some of favorite activities…and in the end game these things mean more than the pretty.
AmazonRed™ - is a kitten *purrr*
July 10th, 2009
10:18 am
Amen, Hallelujah!!!
(starts to speak in tongues)
Preach..Preacher!!!!!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 10th, 2009
10:23 am
abc —
@ the reveal. I’d bet $$ that they will actually use that name for the segment….
Professor
July 10th, 2009
10:27 am
Demi I will tell her that you are a nice guy and she can waive the height requirements.
ARed I am 5’5 but I am usually in heels so I like to think that I am 5’8 or 5’9 so I am looking for a 6-footer as well…personality a must.
Here is my short list:
1. Must have a sense of faith and know God
2. Values family
3. Respect others
4. Over 6-feet
5. Can bring in the groceries
Intelligent (read something other than the Hamburger Helper box)
Foots
July 10th, 2009
10:28 am
Cemeeli – I lurked very late yesterday and didn’t get a chance to post. What’s up?
I’ve done a blind date or two in my past, with the last one, I was going off of what my best friend said about him, since they worked together. She warned me that he was short and yep, sure was. I may have told y’all about him. We met out for dinner after talking on the phone for a few days. I informed the hostess that I was meeting a blind date and I had arrived before him. She said “Oh, here’s what we’ll do: You wait in the bathroom and I’ll wait for him to come in and I’ll seat him. I’ll come get you and tell you if he’s cute or not and if he’s not, you can just bail.” And I thought that all hostesses did was seat patrons.
Anyway, her report said he was okay, so we had a nice date. We talked on the phone after the date, half the night, really, then he got ghost. After he resurfaced, he told me that he had been to see his doctor. I’m thinking that dude is sick with something he can’t get rid of and that’s why he avoided me after our nice time. But he said that his doctor was a psychiatrist and he felt like he could tell me what he was dealing with. Didn’t really answer his calls after that.
I met my current online and so that’s kind of a blind date situation. He had pictures up, but he did look so much better in person. His personality won me over before our first date through emails and phone calls though.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
July 10th, 2009
10:30 am
Demi – HEY CHOCOLATE BABY!
And yes you are so sweet, the ladies up here love you! lol!
Never done the online dating thing so I will lurk on that part.
“Can a person’s personality actually make them hotter than they are physically?” yep it happens, personality makes some people who arent ‘as easy on the eyes’ quite attractive.
Demi
July 10th, 2009
10:31 am
(Why is a man’s height so important to women?)
W8…women likes looking up to their man…also I’ve notice a lot of short dudes have a lot of negative energy about themselves, regardless of how sucessful or good looking they are. Which gives a positive brother as myself a mountain to climb…Demi loves to climb mountains!! LOL
Foots
July 10th, 2009
10:31 am
M’ there have been an occasion or two when ppl have asked me why I was attracted to a particular individual that otherwise was not what would be deemed the most physically engaging from first sight…
I must concur. There was a guy like that at school, I’ll call him Art. I’ll call him that cause that’s his real name. Anyway, that dude had an aura about him that was undeniable. He had a nice body, but he wasn’t conventionally cute. But he had a glow around him like Leroy from The Last Dragon. Everybody loved him and he could get any woman that looked his way. I practically gave up the ghost when I realized that he actually knew who I was.
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 10th, 2009
10:31 am
W8 – How are you holding up Fella..
Man I would Date Lisa Leslie Or Lil Kim if we were cool. (The Height Analogy not the Look analogy)
Pretty Wings
July 10th, 2009
10:31 am
I think some women think that whole height and shoe size thing means he’s got it going on…………
Raqi...Just call me Suzy
July 10th, 2009
10:32 am
Awesome topic WiseDiva. Human disposition is one of my favorite subjects ya know.
My sister called me last week and told me while packing to move she came across a book that she bought about 10 years ago and she was sending it to me. She always sends me books. I got the book Tuesday but I didn’t open the package until last night. I was sitting in the bed, I opened the package and starting fanning thru the pages. Oh, the name of the book is ‘Twin Souls – Eternal Feminine, Eternal Masculine. ‘ Just at a glance one passage was talking about matching or twin personalities and being matched with that twin.
Mason was lying there with his back to me and I asked him if he thought he and I were twin souls. He said all in one breath, “yeahyouwannabemysiamesetwin?”. (I am smirking right now to the same extent I did last night when he said that.)
All that to say, likability. You gotz to be likable. It’s in there. I am sorry if you didn’t get it.
Personality is who we are. Our thoughts, our actions and then our words make us who we are. The show that you mentioned I think is a good test to see just how much value we place on the things that truly matter. How many of those couples will find that their personalities are compatible yet they will choose not to pursue a relationship because of a physical unattractiveness.
Eharmony has been doing this for years. Every time I would see their commercials I wondered how true the matches were based primarily on core traits of personality. You enter your information and the system itself match you with a compatible individual. Site unseen.
Your personality is ‘what are you like in the normal course of the day?’ Are you a likable person? Are you about as dull and cold as a dry rock?
A person can tell you all of the accomplishments, extracurricular daily activities and what not. But are they likable? To you? Does their inner self reach out and strum you intellect? Does their exuded air caress your soul?
If you don’t feel connected to a person thru conversation your personalities probably will never match.
Leggs
July 10th, 2009
10:34 am
Don’t forget height can skip a generation.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 10th, 2009
10:34 am
Totally off topic, but I’ve gotta bytch for a minute…
I apologize in advance for offending anyone out there with friend or family who are traffic cops, but… every single traffic cop on the planted (and, in particular, those in John’s Creek) can each pucker up & kiss my lily white a$$.
A little back-story:
The po-po has been out in force along 141 all month (apparently, John’s Creek needs revenue). Just this week, in fact, Swiss Miss — who is a stunningly beautiful young lady — gets pulled over for doing 80 — 80!!!! — in a 55 zone on 141. She gets a warning.
This morning, I’m doing 10 UNDER the speed limit; I’m stuck behind 2 slow cars going the same d@mn speed, taking up both lanes. I pull up behind one, close enough that I can fit into the tiny window left by the other dumb@SS in the other lane, change lanes & pass them. Never once did I exceed 55, but I get ticketed for following too closely. WTF?!?!?!
swiss now kicking rocks, mumbling “F@#K the po-po”…”
Mrs. Aufton Izzabych
July 10th, 2009
10:35 am
At some time in life we need to kill the foolishness and leave that to our future generations to tread thru and learn.