Broke, Cheap, or Not Into You?
I have heard many single women say that they are becoming more flexible when it comes to dating men in a recession. Although, they are more lenient about a lot of things some are beginning to think it may backfire. One of my friends said that she did not want to look up later and discover she is with Mr. Cheap. We are all buckling down and trimming the fat out of our budget, especially if we have solid financial goals.
How do you distinguish between who is being fiscally responsible and who is outright cheap? There are a lot of ways to date and mingle without spending loads of money, we’ve gone over that a lot. I wonder though, is being cheap grounds for dumping?
I had a guy ask me out to a movie, then later called and said that he could not afford to pay for both of us. He said that he still wanted to go, so I agreed to meet him there and pay for myself. I honestly thought it was one of those “how spoiled is she” tests that men toss at me. I didn’t behave like a diva (shocking, right?) and I went and enjoyed the movie. I noticed that he not only bought his ticket, but purchased food from the concession stand, and paid for a meal later. Not offering me anything. Interesting.
If a guy can’t pay for a lady, wouldn’t it be better to find something they can both do? For the money he spent, we could have split some ice cream and gone for a walk. I did not dump the guy but I admit that I’m on high alert. Am I dating Mr. Cheap, Mr. Selfish, or someone clueless about how to treat a lady?
Ladies, if a man does not pay for you, would you put them in the friend category? Have you ever been in a situation when a guy could not cover the expenses from your date? Did he tell you before or during the date?
Guys, when a man is not able to finance a date, do you let women know upfront? Do you put any effort in finding alternative ways to spend time with her so that you don’t spend a lot of money?
What does it mean when a guy pays for himself but does not offer to treat the woman? Is he broke, cheap, or not really interested?
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Dan
July 9th, 2009
8:29 am
Okay, let’s see if we can finally get to the differetiation of the “independent woman” with her “traditional values” and see where and how that line is drawn.
Good one, WD.
Good Morning all.
Professor
July 9th, 2009
8:42 am
Good Morning,
This is an interesting topic. I do not focus so much on how much a guy can pay for a date, but more on how creative he is. WD, I agree he could suggest ice cream and a walk in the park, which probably would have been refreshing. One of the guys I dated in college always found creative inexpensive things for us to do, but he would save his coins and we would go out on a more expensive date from time to time (I thought that was sweet and still do).
So, I will sit back on this one. One thing I do know making an effort goes a long ways, and I don’t think it has anything to do with not having, but has everything to do with not trying.
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
8:46 am
I had a date tell me that she was old fashioned and that a man should pay when he takes her out. I said to myself ok…Well if you are old fashioned does that mean you are going to clean my house and wash my clothes also…I’m just saying if you are going to be “old fashioned” don’t just do it when its convenient or when the bill comes! lol
Rell
July 9th, 2009
8:47 am
@diva….its really not that complicated…his game is….let me see how fast i can get in your pants without spending money…the whole i cant pay is he did not think you were worthy of that type of treatment…sad, yep…but the truth yes….trust me men are not that deep….
the movie date is lame…you spend about 50 dollars for two people…a cheaper date is fellini’s….who does not like pizza, patio, and some convo…or mexican food….movies are more than both…go figure
Grace
July 9th, 2009
8:48 am
Good morning,
WOW! WISE I think you’re dating Mr Selfish.
Have you ever been in a situation when a guy could not cover the expenses from your date? Never. I have been out to lunch with a guy who paid with a bunch of pennies, dimes and quaters though LOL.
I usually don’t go out on a date if my own funds are low and when I order I order as if I’m paying for my own food.
Professor
July 9th, 2009
8:50 am
Dan I think the independent woman with the traditional values are the best of both worlds.
W8 I have you in my thoughts and Prayers on this difficult day.
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
8:51 am
@Rell…Its not always a Man’s intention to get in your pants! Is it on our minds YES but is that our only Goal No. Thats like saying women are only interested in whats in your bank account. True in some cases but not all.
Rell - watch your benchs
July 9th, 2009
8:53 am
Okay, let’s see if we can finally get to the differetiation of the “independent woman” with her “traditional values” and see where and how that line is drawn.
- man you know that is out here….women love to run that BS to you how they are independent…but traditional…my mother was traditional…she would invite me over to cook…i remember because she would say you going to grandmothers and she has plenty of food over there…this is for me and such and such….run that today…or if you so independent and new age…you take me out….run that today on one of these “divas” and see what you get….lol….funny to me
on a much sadder note – mcnair was sleep when that chick shot him
Rell - watch your benchs
July 9th, 2009
8:55 am
@mike…i know that, but re-read what diva typed and you tell me
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
8:58 am
I have a number of different opinions because there are a number of different scenarios here but… for the most part I believe that if you (male or female) cannot afford to date you should not be out trying to meet people to date. OR… find free activities in the city. They are plentiful but most people do not want to take the time to figure out what they are.
In addition, if a guy asks a woman out and then lets her decide what they’re going to do – he possibly puts himself in bad position. BUT, if he says “hey baby, I’d really like to see you this week; how about we go to grab some ice cream and then see XYZ at Screen on the Green this Thursday”. When they get to the ice cream spot, he can fake like they don’t have his all time favorite flavor, pass on his scoop and just pay for hers – she’d be none the wiser.
It is SO easy to get labeled as a gold digger these days – I’m tired of “talking” on eggshells on dates trying not to give the impression that you’re after his money. But thats a whole other topic…
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:06 am
Morning all –
Cheap is the guy that tries to sell you the line that he doesn’t believe in the term “dating”
Cheap is the guy who offers to pay, then gyps the server on the tip.
Cheap is the guy that pays for you at Applebee’s then tells you “you got the next one.”
Cheap is the guy that always complains about the cost of things, but never suggests low-cost or free stuff to do.
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
9:08 am
@Rell…He was obviously a lame dude to tell her he can’t pay for her and then order a bunch of food. He couldn’t have expected too much after that date.
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
9:08 am
Its not always a Man’s intention to get in your pants! Is it on our minds YES but is that our only Goal No.
Mike im going to have to disagree. I would say 99% of the time during conversation with a guy who is showing interest in you – whether you’ve just met them in the club, during a phone conversation, or when the date is coming to an end – some kind of way sex is covertly worked into the conversation. And if you think im exaggerating, maybe I am, but I’d venture to say that 97% is accurate
Professor
July 9th, 2009
9:14 am
Peach404 you said it right at 99%. BTW I find it annoying as hell b/c you just met me and I do not give that kind of vibe off at all.
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
9:17 am
Word @ Professor
Not to take it there (but to take it there) I almost prefer when we do something hella cheap or free because then when you make the move for the a$$, men tend to take NO a little better. Men who spend a lot of money on a date can get REAL stank when they find out they aren’t getting any…
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
9:18 am
@PEACH 97%, thats a bit much I think! If you have been grinding on a dude for 20 minutes in the club then his convo is not going to be about World History! lol We are more likely to bring up the subject of sex but it is on a woman’s mind just as much. If we think about it 97% women think about it 96%, yall just don’t let us know it is! If I’m wrong please correct me, but I think I’m pretty close.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:18 am
WiseDiva’s movie story brought up another one.
Cheap is the guy who chats you up all night all while continuously ordering drinks for himself, but doesn’t at least offer to buy you one.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:23 am
Ladies, if a man does not pay for you, would you put them in the friend category?
Only if he didn’t tell me such a thing up front. I know “dating” is loosely defined now, but if you want a woman to take you seriously, men should just accept the fact that a man is still supposed to pay on a first date.
Have you ever been in a situation when a guy could not cover the expenses from your date?
No. But I had a guy tell me upfront after the first couple of dates that he was in a rough spot financially. He let me know he liked me and wanted to continue seeing me, but he was carrying two mortages as his house out of state continued to sit on the market. I understood that completely and respected him for being honest with me.
Professor
July 9th, 2009
9:24 am
Peach we are on the same page today…I find it crazy when a grown man gets upset about sex…and those that spend a lot on a date and get stank that is another convo.
Professor
July 9th, 2009
9:25 am
ARed, I put a check mark on each of those listed on your 9:06.
Well gang I will try to check in later I am headed off…
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:26 am
I have been out to lunch with a guy who paid with a bunch of pennies, dimes and quaters though LOL.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:32 am
for the most part I believe that if you (male or female) cannot afford to date you should not be out trying to meet people to date. OR… find free activities in the city.
Amen. I understand that guys are trying to make women “prove” themselves, but the fact of the matter is, dating costs money, relationships costs money. If you are trying to get somewhere with someone, money will eventually come into play as you will need to start “providing” at some point. Accept that fact and life gets a lot easier, and the “games” fewer.
Leggs
July 9th, 2009
9:36 am
Good morning everyone!
First, WD he called you and asked you out to the movies. To call back and say he doesn’t have enuf for the both of you is beyond tacky, in my book. Yes, it could have been a test and you rose to the occasion. But, to go to concession stand and get a meal later and not offer you anything is pure d selfishness. It’s time to get back to being creative when dating.
Rell - watch your benchs
July 9th, 2009
9:37 am
supposed to pay on a first date.
…..i wonder what women are SUPPOSE to do??????
Grace
July 9th, 2009
9:38 am
It is SO easy to get labeled as a gold digger these days – I’m tired of “talking” on eggshells on dates trying not to give the impression that you’re after his money -IMAPEACH the men I’ve dated always put their wallets and bank account out in the forefront. Letting me know how much they make. One even showed me his w-2 form as proof. Then turn right around and say I’m with him for his money.
Pretty Wings
July 9th, 2009
9:38 am
Good Morning all!!! My workout this morning was really good!!!! All those edorphins have really got me going!!!
@ Grace – I don’t go out without funds either, but really depends, if a man has taken me out and paid for meals, movies etc, I really don’t mind returning the favor or If I am aware of his financial situation and I still choose to go out then that’s not being cheap. I don’t care who you are, if you ask me out then you are in essence agreeing to pay. If we mutally agree, thats dutch and if you never have money and don’t let me know up front……..not only is that cheap,but deceptive.
Character counts as much as money!!
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
9:41 am
Mike straight up… that number is accurate. I do everything in my power not to talk about sex, give off a vibe like sex is even a possibility, I don’t dress with all my business hanging out and I never turn around and back that thang up – I dance face to face only. I don’t even like to lick my lips! But somehow, someway…
I wish I was lying, but I’m not. True story.
Red a lot of brothers wouldn’t even let you know their situation due to pride. As you, I would have totally respected and understood his position. When someone is honest with you like that, you’re 100% more willing to work with them. Two thumbs up for that brotha.
As far as dude who paid with all the change, I probably would have laughed because thats what I did when I read the post. It wouldn’t have bothered or embarrassed me at all. I also think guys should use coupons more often! Lol. Those $25 Entertainment books that come out around the end of each year can really come in handy
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:44 am
He was obviously a lame dude to tell her he can’t pay for her and then order a bunch of food. He couldn’t have expected too much after that date.
Mike Jones – You said it.
You men know that azz is never guaranteed, but your actions and behaviors will determine if you’d get it or not.
Rell - watch your benchs
July 9th, 2009
9:45 am
creative when dating.
- to do that leggs meaning you would have to be inspired…the problem is folks need to choose better and stop settling for a warm body….you know ” have something to do”….thats the problem…you can tell a man that as really meet the women he wants and you can tell by a man action he just with a time filler or somewhere to get the dizzle wet….sad but true…thats why there is no creativity or things are so bland…folks are just playing a numbers game…no one really knows what they want anymore
abc
July 9th, 2009
9:45 am
There is such a thing as not being able to afford a woman. A man who cannot afford a woman shouldn’t put himself out there as if he can. A woman should recognize a man that can’t afford her and leave him be.
A man that can’t afford a movie is not a candidate, WD.
Cemeeli
July 9th, 2009
9:46 am
Good Morning.
I didn’t behave like a diva (shocking, right?) and I went and enjoyed the movie. I noticed that he not only bought his ticket, but purchased food from the concession stand, and paid for a meal later. Not offering me anything. Interesting.
Date yourself. Do your thang, cause he doing his. Don’t fret. I would have enjoyed his company (if company is good) and did my thang.
But question Wise….Is this the Cougar hunting young man that you meet at the Movie?
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
9:47 am
@LEGGS – I agree with creativity in dating. Movies and dinner is so easy… think of something different and interesting.
@RELL – why don’t you answer you own question because I’m really curious of your POV… what do you feel like a woman is SUPPOSE to do?
@GRACE – OK!!! Lol… his W2? Come the eff on!
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:47 am
Red a lot of brothers wouldn’t even let you know their situation due to pride. As you, I would have totally respected and understood his position. When someone is honest with you like that, you’re 100% more willing to work with them. Two thumbs up for that brotha.
Peach – Yes, his stock definitely rose with that one. Then on the next date he listed his “demand” including me never having a drink again, and I had to let that one go.
We still hang from time to time tho.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:50 am
Grace – His W-2?!? I had a friend that had that pulled on her. Turns out he was a con-artist. The W-2, or the name on it, wasn’t his.
The worst I’ve had is the guy who happens to leave his luxury car keys sitting out in front of you while he talks you up. Or the one who always talks about his material possessions, then says he’s looking for a “real” woman.
Pretty Wings
July 9th, 2009
9:52 am
I have a real healthy respect for men who are creative daters,if they have a lot of money or a little money. Truth is if you have no money, you really should not be dating but working on getting your resume up.
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
9:54 am
It’s always something Red lol. Oh well…
HA! They love to pull those keys out. I forgot about that one!!!
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
9:54 am
There is such a thing as not being able to afford a woman. A man who cannot afford a woman shouldn’t put himself out there as if he can. A woman should recognize a man that can’t afford her and leave him be.
A man that can’t afford a movie is not a candidate, WD.
Message…
Leggs
July 9th, 2009
9:54 am
Weren’t you “inspired” when you asked for the date?
kinderbabe
July 9th, 2009
9:56 am
@abc i have to agree w/you there. this goes back into yesterday’s blog convo about being prepared to receive a man/woman. not being able to pay for a movie (men)or fill whatever traditional role is desired in a relationship (women and men) means their not ready.
i think it goes both ways for men and women. if cleaning, washing clothes and cooking is a foreign concept for women and regarded as something that won’t be done…is it reasonable to expect men to fulfill traditional roles such as paying for dates? the scales have to be balanced.
@WD that guy sounds like a loser and extremely selfish. there’s someone better out there.:)
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
9:56 am
Peach–Well maybe there is just something wonderful about you that makes guys think of sex! (Meant as a compliment!)… You should worry when guys aren’t sexually attracted to you.
Rell - watch your benchs
July 9th, 2009
9:58 am
@leggs..i dont suffer from that problem….hell i had a date last for grant park screen on the green..but the weather killed that….so instead we worked out..walked the mountain..talked..then went and got custard from rita afterward….problem solved
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
10:03 am
Did I mention I drive a 2010 Lexus, with 22’s! LMAO
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:04 am
Did I mention I drive a 2010 Lexus, with 22’s! LMAO
Just curious though, do guys think rims really do impress women? I guess it’s because I’m not into cars, but rims have never been a selling factor for me.
Cemeeli
July 9th, 2009
10:06 am
@ Kinderteach I’m in disbelief that a solid dude would do such patronizing behavior.
When I was a child….I spoke like a child….I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child….
Just silly.
Grace
July 9th, 2009
10:08 am
AMRED you shoudda seen the waitress, she had this what the…..look on her face
I was too embarrassed 
Cemeeli
July 9th, 2009
10:08 am
lol @ a text asking me not to preach today…
Dan
July 9th, 2009
10:08 am
Let’s look at the “he’s not that into you” option for a moment.
A man that is sincerely interested in a woman will put his best foot forward (even in these difficult financial times), he will exert the energy to figure out something, within his budgetary constraints, to do with a woman that he likes.
In the converse, if the vibe, or his interest, isn’t there, he’s going to do the bare bones minimum on that date because….why not?
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:08 am
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
10:09 am
“SOME” women go nuts over cars! I’ll never forget seeing a girl damn near get hit by a car to run across the to talk me and some friends because we were in a SUV with rims! She took her shoes off and ran like she was in the Peachtree Road Race lol
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:10 am
A man that is sincerely interested in a woman will put his best foot forward (even in these difficult financial times), he will exert the energy to figure out something, within his budgetary constraints, to do with a woman that he likes.
Exactly.
Or he could just be cheap and lazy. Some folks have a bar set pretty low. Just depends on your exposure level.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:11 am
She took her shoes off and ran like she was in the Peachtree Road Race lol
Grace
July 9th, 2009
10:12 am
AMRED/IMPEACH certianly so! dude was all giggly with it too. For some men money is power, the more money he have the more power moves he can make.
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:12 am
lol Mike. omg. thing is, i would think dudes would want women to talk to them because they like them, NOT the car or rims. smh
Mo (aka Moeisha)
July 9th, 2009
10:13 am
Morning Ya’ll
Rell – that walk on the mountain is no joke. my sister and I do that for a work out and GEESH!! LOL! Whats good mayne
W8 – prayers out to you
Whats good chicas of Blogsville!
Cemeeli – I agree with this chica , “Date yourself. Do your thang, cause he doing his. Don’t fret. I would have enjoyed his company (if company is good) and did my thang.”
Rell - watch your benchs
July 9th, 2009
10:14 am
She took her shoes off and ran like she was in the Peachtree Road Race lol
- Seen that before
I have also seen a stank attitude go to positive when you buy dranks for her and her broke arse crew…and sprang for breakfast afterwards….smdh…and the next day or time you get up they will still have there hands out like tin cups…talking about not returning the favor…lol
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
10:18 am
Page–I’m with you on that. I would rather a female think that I’m broke and not know that I drive a 2011 Lexus with 24’s (The rims will keep getting bigger LMAO)
) Because if that money ever goes she will be gone with it!
Pretty Wings
July 9th, 2009
10:18 am
Y’all are really funny……
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:20 am
lol Mike. omg. thing is, i would think dudes would want women to talk to them because they like them, NOT the car or rims. smh
Page – Exactly. I was coming out of Target this past weekend, and this dude in a Suburban was rolling past. He had the rims, and all the windows open and the music blasting so loud folks on Jupiter could hear it.
He yells out to me “how you doin today, sweet thang?” And I just kept walking, with bare acknowledgement other than an eyeroll. There were just so many things wrong with that.
Deeva4Life
July 9th, 2009
10:20 am
What kills me is men always talking about how “traditional” their mothers were (are) when the truth of the matter is when you father was “courting” your mother he took care of everything. He came and picked her up, came with flowers (occasionally) and had her home at a decent hour. Times have changed so it’s not always smart to allow a man to come pick you up, but my point is there was an understood flow of the way things went. So please stop acting like we women are wrong for looking for the correct way of going out on a date. You offer, you pay. Period.
As for me, I’m always prepared to cover my portion of the bill. It’s sad the thought has to enter my mind but it does. What kills me is the dude that asks you out but wants to stress it’s dutch! I gotcha homey…cause we’re just friends and friends go dutch. As stated above you obviously didn’t think I was “worth” the treatment so friends we’ll remain (or not). And lastly, the one’s forever harping on someone being after their money are the main one’s with no money. If you buying a meal (example) is me being after your money then let me help you…save it. I’m good. I’m all for recipriocity so any man that dates me will be treated from time to time; that’s just the type of woman I am.
kinderbabe
July 9th, 2009
10:20 am
@mo hey there! hope your morning is off to a good start.
@cee i know right? that is just shameful behavior for any stand up dude…sounds like a puredee zero to me…lol. and girl, you are so right about childlike behavior. those days are long behind us.
@dan right on! folks do what they wanna do. no effort = no interest.
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
10:21 am
Mike I go nuts over cars. But thats because I love to drive and I’m really into cars. This is one of those topics of conversation that can get you thrown into the “gold digger” category so I choose not to talk about it. In the event that I slip up and say I like a certain type of car I have to go into a long explanation about my love for driving, my lifelong dream of visiting German so I can cut lose on the Autobahn and my secret savings account to get myself to Geneva Switzerland so I can go to the auto show.
Cemeeli
July 9th, 2009
10:22 am
Foots are you lurking?
Raqi
July 9th, 2009
10:24 am
What an absolute perfect topic to see while talking on the phone to my brother a few minutes ago.
I gave him the scenario then asked his opinion. He says the guy is totally not into you for anything worthwhile. First impressions are the most important every single time. He said if it had been him and he was into the woman although something may have happened to put him in a difficult financial situation after making the date the woman would have never known. He said he would have borrowed the money from a trusted partna and showed the woman the evening he promised. If his situation did not get any better he would just plan dates accordingly. No testing or game playing. If a woman cannot get with him during a financial situation then he says he don’t want to be with her anyway.
He did laugh out loud over the phone being that it was just a movie date that the guy showed his pure lameness on. You all could have did dinner first and then went to a $1.00 movie.
Now my opinion, I agree with my brother. Had he started with dinner first, charmed and enthralled you with great conversation and company, you probably would have never given a second thought about being taken to a $1.00 movie theater.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:25 am
Deeva – You broke it down with your 10:20!!!
Though I’ve never met a man who stressed it was dutch. Da hell!
I did go out with a guy who stressed it wasn’t a “date” though. So we still went out, he paid. Then after he realized he wanted to get to know me better, wanted to call it a “date.” The whole “loosely defined” thing was a turnoff from the get go, so by the end of the night, I thanked him for the meal, then never took his call again. Wasn’t interested in “dating” him.
mytw♥cents
July 9th, 2009
10:25 am
It’s so funny how we turn regular words into ‘dirty’ ones. I’d gladly be dependent! But to me that’s a zone you only enter into once you’re in a committed relationship or marriage. And if you ain’t there yet and try to stake a claim on dependence, they pull out the gold digger label. We can’t win for losing with some of these fellas. Wondering what’s a more vicious cycle for the guys to try to break die hard independants or die hard dependants. Or do they just throw dueces.
I kinda think it was a test WD and that’s annoying at any age. Reminds me of the episode of Millionaire Matchmaker I caught the other day. He was 40 (if a day!) & tried to test her to see if she was just focused on money. Hmmm how do you sign up for women targeting millionaires then try to vet them… To her credit, she didn’t seem like a vulture but it begs the question — Why are so many men insistent on being seen as a man with means, then get kind of offended that women take stock of this. If that’s what YOU lead with and someone follows…
Demi (Checking my Fresh)
July 9th, 2009
10:25 am
Ladies…feel free to call Demi a broke ‘igga…I only date within my means.
I am not feeling that ‘baller’ trip in today’s economy. That ish ain’t cool. In Atlanta, there are a lot of fun thing to do that are easy on a man’s wallet and will kept your date with a smile on her face, LOL
Rell/Jone…per my blog sisters, manfolks are falling off…we got life easy LOL!!
404 lady…these folks are talking of going on strike!! see me save and count my pennies…one, two, three..LOL
On the real…if you’re broke like me, from buying paint and hardwood flooring…just stay yo a$$ home, HAHAHA!!!
this strike will put a dent in my home improvement plans though…Demi is feeling sad…A.red, do you mind wearing this red satin Victoria’s Secret bra’n’panties set…with matching red Baby Phat pumps…You will, cool…now just stand there and watch me paint, LOL
A.red is now choking Demi with the gifts he brought
Cemeeli
July 9th, 2009
10:25 am
Hey Mo hey kinderteach.
We owe kinderteach a Blog Shower for holding the blog record for not having Shower back in Blog Day 07. Remember we were going to contact Staples for all her decor and shower goods?
lol…
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:26 am
Mike, I drive a 1997 Suzuki Samurai with 8 inch hub caps. Would you go out with me? *wink*
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
10:28 am
Peach I feel you 110%!!! I’m a big car fan also, so I understand where you are coming from.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
July 9th, 2009
10:29 am
He yells out to me “how you doin today, sweet thang?”
ARed — That was you? My bad…
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:29 am
ARed, omg. Yeah, I have seen that, too. Financial experts say that wasting money on cars is the worst investment anyone can ever invest in. I crack up when I see both men and women rolling in Range Rovers shopping at Shoe Carnival in CC Marketplace. I mean, if you have a Range Rover, what are you doing in Shoe Carnival? lmao ctfu. seriously.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:30 am
Cheap is a multimillionaire buying your mistress an Escalade, then sticking her with the payments.
Okay, bad joke I know.
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:31 am
lol @ Swiss. I’m gonna tell Swiss Miss on you lol.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:31 am
That was you? My bad…
*hollers!*
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:32 am
I crack up when I see both men and women rolling in Range Rovers shopping at Shoe Carnival in CC Marketplace. I mean, if you have a Range Rover, what are you doing in Shoe Carnival? lmao ctfu. seriously.
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:33 am
LOL ARed, you know you know about that Shoe Carnival. Girl, on the grand opening, I rolled by and was like ok let me check it out. I saw 3 different Range Rovers with both men and women getting out going in there. I’m like omg let me just get my 3 pairs of New Balance (they had the bomb colors lol) and get outta here. It was off the chain!
SexyCool - A Divine Original, Fashioned by God to be Radiantly Beautiful
July 9th, 2009
10:33 am
With the reports of the conditions of today’s eceonomy, the prudent thing to do is to return to a simpler life. It can be interesting to see what simple means to different folks.
At one point, I had a rule against house dating. I don’t think a man has anything to prove by where he takes me or how much money he spends on me. It’s about the quality of his time and his attention.
When someone gives their time to me, they are giving pieces of their lives that they cannot ever get back. Now, I know everyone does not value time in the same way. But for me, it says a lot.
So, I said all of that to say, it’s not always about where you take me, but the quality of the time that you spend with me. And I reiterate, not always because sometimes it may be.
Three Words Daily – Thoughts become things.
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
10:34 am
Page–I’ll take you to the moon and back!!!
I enjoy a woman’s company if the company is good I don’t mind spending. Its not a necessity for every date as long as we are having fun I’m down for whatever.
Demi (Checking my Fresh)
July 9th, 2009
10:34 am
my 2…I seen that episode you are speaking of. That dude has trust issues…doesn’t need to date until he deals with those issues…it’s really not a money thing…Imma call them dudes, “Bag Man”. Forever carrying their baggages date to date…Sad.
Rell - watch your benchs
July 9th, 2009
10:34 am
that walk on the mountain is no joke. my sister and I do that for a work out and GEESH!! LOL! Whats good mayne
- i am good….my energy is high…..
mytw♥cents
July 9th, 2009
10:35 am
RELL (Bench snatcher?!? I can only smh&lol) The thing about your 9:45 that’s a trip is that LOTS of women have a degree of understanding about this. But lots of dudes get offended when we identify that as what they’re doing! How are you gonna be offended that we put 2 + 2 together and noticed you in the market for a “time filler” but notify you that ours is too precious?
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:36 am
LOL Mike. I hope you are not embarrased to roll in my Suzuki Samarai lol. Just paged me and put in 411 and I’ll know it’s you. My pager number is (619) 555-Page.
Elijah
July 9th, 2009
10:36 am
Good Morning blog family!
My condolences go out to all who have recent lost a love one!
Hello Sassy!
On topic: If a man invites a woman out he should pay for the date with only the expectation of having a good time! It is very disrespectful (Wise Diva) for your guy to call you and do not want to pay for anything!
I have always enjoyed dating their are numerous activities to do that are not very expensive! I will not take anyone out on a date, if I detect you are full of BS I will not ask you out no matter how fine you are!
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:36 am
LOL ARed, you know you know about that Shoe Carnival
Page – Heck, I went there before I went to Target. I don’t understand why they are selling flip flops for $50 now. I really don’t. So I figured the cheap stores would have the cheap flip flops.
You know we Cali girls can’t live without our cute flip flops.
Beautiful
July 9th, 2009
10:36 am
hey ev1! just lurkin’ today. have a good one.
Grace
July 9th, 2009
10:38 am
Cheap is a multimillionaire buying your mistress an Escalade, then sticking her with the payments.- uh huh AMRED a used on at that!
Rell - watch your benchs
July 9th, 2009
10:38 am
Cheap is a multimillionaire buying your mistress an Escalade, then sticking her with the payments.
- not really bad…just like wow….the rabbit hole goes deep on that one…but what is really raw is the capped the dude in his sleep then tried to stage so when she shot herself she would be in his lap…crazy…and she was noid…following chicks home she THINKS he is creeping with on the side….what is scary is i have a story that was told to me similar to this….but it was by my soon to be x wife…i knew then….i had to go…and fast
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
10:40 am
Page–Page you?!?! I haven’t paged someone is about 15 years. If you still have a pager then we cannot date! Lol I’m going to need you to buy a Cell phone! ha ha ha
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:41 am
LOL ARed, girl i heard Old Navy at CC Marketplace was off the chain when they had their $1 flip flops! I’m like “ok the regular price is $2.50….I’m not about to catch a case to save $1.50 on some dang flip flops” lol. Of course i have TONS of flip flops anyway lol. you know how we do lol
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:41 am
a used one at that!
Right.
There was a quote by the mistress’ cousin that was like “he liked her because she wasn’t after his money, she wanted to pay for things on her own. And he thought that was refreshing.”
Looks like she got what she asked for then. Dayum!
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
10:42 am
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! @ RED
So! Wrong!
But seriously… WTF?
She was the stupid one (obviously)… I know folks at D&B aren’t tipping like that!
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:43 am
LOl Mike. Yeah, you have to page me. My Samurai has the pull out sony cassette plater and i also have the bag phone, but the minutes are like $5 per minute, so paging me is easier (and cheaper) lol.
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:43 am
ARed, girl i heard Old Navy at CC Marketplace was off the chain when they had their $1 flip flops! I’m like “ok the regular price is $2.50….I’m not about to catch a case to save $1.50 on some dang flip flops”
Page – Exactly. Yet another thing I didn’t get. I mean, I love a good deal, but to mob a store for $1 flip flops? I’m good. I’ll wait til you mark em back up to $5.
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:44 am
LOL Peach. My friends call me cheap because I don’t tip the nail lady that does my nails lol. I do tip and D and B, though lol
Mike Jones (who)
July 9th, 2009
10:45 am
Page–You are doing way too much!
Page1908
July 9th, 2009
10:45 am
LOL @ $5 flip flops that are marked up.
Poppa Grande
July 9th, 2009
10:45 am
Leggs
Weren’t you “inspired” when you asked for the date?
Not always. Sometimes it is intrigue that leads to a date request.
The wifey’s height was a real issue, but she had other things that countered it. Intrigue to know more about her instead of judging her personality on a short encounter.
Our first date was Original Pancake House in the Cheshire Bridge/La Vista area. Good conversation. There was no inspiration for anything creative, but breaking bread (females gotta eat too) and conversation.
Inspiration came after I knew about her. It was then that I did the pottery class dates, Malibu Gran Prix, or other dates that involve active participation.
Melo
July 9th, 2009
10:46 am
do some guys think rims really do impress women?
They dont impress nor fascinate this guy.What a waste of money!
he can fake like they don’t have his all time favorite flavor, pass on his scoop and just pay for hers
yeah,we used to play that or some closely resembling that.Like getting to the agreed spot earlier than the girl,wait for her and when she does,let her order hers and just pretend u have eaten ur ice cream coz u were thirsty or some!
Broke dudes need girls too,its not realistic to say coz u dont have lots of mula u dont deserve a chat or ocaasional dips.Thats not fair not real but the onus is on the guys to devise ways so as to not make urself look so cheap and broke.
U can eaither date chics in ur lane or if u brazen,try those in the higher leagues but u gotta have a game plan.U can be honest,like the guy Ared mentioned in her post earlier and let the chips fall where they may.If u got charm and humor and a game plan, a lot of times that wins women over and not so much what u flaunting.
The car keys flaunting?? so laaame.Truth is,women do luv material stuff but if u making a BIG effort to make them see it,u lame,ur convo is weak and u proly flaunting what u dont have,trickery u might say.
Rell:on a side note,check,
let me see how fast i can get in your pants without spending money…the whole i cant pay is he did not think you were worthy of that type of treatment…sad, yep…but the truth yes
i thoght u didnt like spending cash on a chic coz its Simping,why is that guy’s play “sad”?? Not that i support what he did but it thoght thats ur kind of play??
AmazonRed™
July 9th, 2009
10:46 am
She was the stupid one (obviously)… I know folks at D&B aren’t tipping like that!
Peach – I’m like, what is the point of being the side piece of a multimillionaire if I still gotta pay my own rent and car note?!
See, the thing is, he probably could have easily paid that stuff for her. He was trying to cut corners. She got pay back.
Moral of the story, if you’re gonna step out, at least make sure the side piece is happy! I mean dang, you are already playing with fire having wife anyway.
The whole thing is just mind boggling!
ImAPeach404
July 9th, 2009
10:47 am
Ok, in defense of the RR at Shoe Carnival – maybe they were buying shoes for their kids. I REFUSE to pay a lot of money for my sons shoes b/c he grows out of them so quickly. Especially when he was younger so… Payless, Shoe Carneval, Rack Room here I come!
Now, what is totally inexcusable – pulling up at the laundry mat in your RR. If you would have held off on that Range for one more month and used that car note you would have paid and bought a washer AND a dryer instead would have been a much wiser decision. Fool…