I have heard many single women say that they are becoming more flexible when it comes to dating men in a recession. Although, they are more lenient about a lot of things some are beginning to think it may backfire. One of my friends said that she did not want to look up later and discover she is with Mr. Cheap. We are all buckling down and trimming the fat out of our budget, especially if we have solid financial goals.
How do you distinguish between who is being fiscally responsible and who is outright cheap? There are a lot of ways to date and mingle without spending loads of money, we’ve gone over that a lot. I wonder though, is being cheap grounds for dumping?
I had a guy ask me out to a movie, then later called and said that he could not afford to pay for both of us. He said that he still wanted to go, so I agreed to meet him there and pay for myself. I honestly thought it was one of those “how spoiled is she” tests that men toss at me. I didn’t behave like a diva (shocking, right?) and I went and enjoyed the movie. I noticed that he not only bought his ticket, but purchased food from the concession stand, and paid for a meal later. Not offering me anything. Interesting.
If a guy can’t pay for a lady, wouldn’t it be better to find something they can both do? For the money he spent, we could have split some ice cream and gone for a walk. I did not dump the guy but I admit that I’m on high alert. Am I dating Mr. Cheap, Mr. Selfish, or someone clueless about how to treat a lady?
Ladies, if a man does not pay for you, would you put them in the friend category? Have you ever been in a situation when a guy could not cover the expenses from your date? Did he tell you before or during the date?
Guys, when a man is not able to finance a date, do you let women know upfront? Do you put any effort in finding alternative ways to spend time with her so that you don’t spend a lot of money?
What does it mean when a guy pays for himself but does not offer to treat the woman? Is he broke, cheap, or not really interested?