Forever?

Professor (Going home to eat my Apple Jacks)

July 1st, 2009
9:09 am

It’s a beautiful morning!

WD, I love that song being from the ATL I am a huge Outkast fan, and I like this topic.

Do you think we should still believe in forever?

I think we should believe in until death due us apart…at least that is what I am striving for and committed to if I become married. And, no I do not think some type of fairy tale exist where I will live happily ever after, but I would not enter into marriage thinking about an exit plan.

Do you think every relationship has its own expiration date?

I laugh at this one only because I knew a lady (she was married at the time), and she told me marriage should be like your driver’s license every four years both parties should have to agree on a renewal, and if both parties does not agree the marriage should be disbanded. She really wanted out!

I-85

July 1st, 2009
9:09 am

Look at Samford, I don’t think forever is attainable. There is that lingering mind after certain years with someone and you always longing for something new. I can say I love my gf forever but I have the desire to mingle and see whats out there, even though I know she is no 1. If something happens I know I will run to her but I can’t say I can be 100% commited to her forever. No. Not possible in this day of age.

Professor (Going home to eat my Apple Jacks)

July 1st, 2009
9:17 am

Is there a way to handle relationships so that they withstand years of ups and downs and still survive?

Maybe I am naïve on this one, but I say yes. My parents were married for 30 years, and my dad actually passed away on their 30th wedding anniversary. So, again I believe if you marry the right person that you can stand the test of time. Standing the test of time takes a lot of things (love, patience, commitment, trust, loyalty and applying Biblical principles etc.) to the cauldron of marriage.

Off topic (I know it is early), but I am proud of Ursula Burns CEO of Xerox!!!

Professor (actually I need some coffee)

July 1st, 2009
9:19 am

Enter your comments here

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

July 1st, 2009
9:19 am

Why not? Why can’t relationships last forever?

All it takes mutual commitment, mutual respect, and 24/7 willingness and determination with or without reciprocity. Therein lies the rub, you need ALL of these.

AmazonRed™ - Time flies

July 1st, 2009
9:22 am

Morning all. I am a Pollyanna too.

Yes, now that we are living longer, forever is a long time. And we have more options than ever. But there are bonds that can span a lifetime and the same can be said for love. That is, if you go into it wisely.

Even in my 30s, I can still forseeably have a 50+ year union with my husband. I really don’t feel pressure to rush into marriage, I’d rather make sure it’s right or not go into it at all.

Dan

July 1st, 2009
9:24 am

Good morning

Having experienced the palatable feeling of “out growing” someone you’re in a relationship with, that “season, reason, lifetime” proves to be an appropriate idiom.

All in all, from my experience, having someone willing to grow with you is best recipe. Relationships take work, but when there’s the added pressure of personal growth apart from your partner, it’s darn near another job.

Cemeeli

July 1st, 2009
9:31 am

Morning!

Perishable vs. Non-perishable <—Okay i wont tell ya’ll what “food” i was going to use today. I don’t do much dairy sooo….let see me stay focused.

“Forever” – Yes i believe in a relationship lasting forever it is certainly obtainable.

“Expirations” – Yep, possible to, exp in those relationships when he/her gets tired at their partners act/facade and “spooning” – usually best used before spoiling.

Because of the representation today’s topic for the Hometeam – Outkast! Yea-yah!! I will not be checking my sanity upon entrance into Blog Lounge today!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit and Trini to di bone :-)

July 1st, 2009
9:31 am

We all change and become new versions of our former selves which takes its toll on relationships. How many of us can really imagine forever with a person regardless of who they become?

Forever..ever? That is a long time but that aside, change is an inevitable part of life but it’s WHAT and WHO we become and how we deal with said change. Some people change for the worse and some for the better and the decision to stay rests solely upon the individual….one person may choose to stay and help their S.O. become better(work through the “bad” changes) or then again they may choose to run for the hills if they deem their S.O as too far gone to help. It’s all about choices and decisions.

Do you think every relationship has its own expiration date? Is there a way to handle relationships so that they withstand years of ups and downs and still survive? Is it more than commitment that makes it work?

Yes and no….I know from experience that people change and grow apart and being in a relationship isn’t as fulfilling as it once was. In these situations I think it’s good to call a spade a spade and end the relationship. Too many times people stay empty relationships for a littany of reasons only to realize years later that they should’ve left waaay back then. Some stay for the children, because they don’t want to “start over” with someone else or they’re just afraid to be alone. Is there a way to handle a relatioships ups and downs with more than commitment…no I think that’s exactly what it takes. Commitment encompasses so many things and can be defined so many ways…can be shown in so many ways. Love,patience,understanding,support, and friendship are forms of commitment that surely has it’s place in a successful marriage…not an always easy marriage but a successful one no less.

Morning blog fam…what it do?

Ghirl

July 1st, 2009
9:35 am

Good morning, forever is a mighty long time. Nothing is forever other than the love of Jesus Christ God Himself. It tickles me when I re read old love letters that closed with love you forever, or forever yours.

Commitment and communication goes hand in hand when it comes to a healthy relationship. You can’t have one without the other.

Cemeeli

July 1st, 2009
9:40 am

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Uh...baby...that ring done expired

July 1st, 2009
9:40 am

Speaking of expiration dates…did anyone else read where Usher’s wife did not even know that he was filing for divorce???.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit and Trini to di bone :-)

July 1st, 2009
9:42 am

Cameeli whatcu talkin’ ’bout?….

SexyCool - Time, Unreplenishable, Non-Renewable

July 1st, 2009
9:45 am

I say all the time that it takes forever to have a relationships that lasts forever.

Happily EVER after implies that no unpleasant thing will ever happen in a relationship. It’s just not possible. There will be the stresses that come with life – and I could name them, but we all know what the stresses of life are.

So, no, I don’t think that I will be IN love with my mate EVERY single moment of every single day. I do know that once I’ve made a commitment, I will be willing to work at it and even on days when I don’t like something he’s done or said and may not even like him, I will still say, “I choose you.” Because that’s really what forever relationships are about continually choosing to be with that person, no matter what circumstances present themselves.

Three Words Daily – Use time wisely.

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

July 1st, 2009
9:45 am

Morning Folks!

It’s July 1 and half the year is behind us. While forever seems like a long time, as I’ve grown older time seems to pass much quicker. Before I know it, I’ll wake up and be 50 years old.

Yes, I still believe in forever, I also believe in the concept of happily ever after because I’m the one in charge of my happiness. Throughout life and experiences, I’ve learned to be like Paul said in Philippians 4 – I’ve learned to be content in whatever state I’m in. With that said – striving for forever/happily ever after with the right person is key. Therefore some relationships do have an expiration date. Like Dan said ‘reason, season, lifetime’

I think I’ve had enough reason/season relationships…

SexyCool - Time, Unreplenishable, Non-Renewable

July 1st, 2009
9:51 am

And speaking of using time wisely, yesterday, I took a “Playa Day” and spent a quite enjoyable day, relaxing in a thoroughly enjoyable way. I encourage more of you to just take some time off.

Stop always saving all your vacation time to try and use it all up in one fell swoop. Take a day here or there, start your weekend a day early or extend it a day. Don’t always wait for a special occasion or a planned trip or holiday. Have a weekend day on a Tuesday.

It can be surprisingly delightful and incredibly refreshing.

Cemeeli

July 1st, 2009
9:51 am