Not new to this
Single people can be a creative bunch. We come up with the most unique excuses reasons not to date someone. I’m talking about the “relationship resume” that some people prefer to be long, detailed, and has proof of commitment. You say you are a good candidate? We’re going to need references!
While some prefer not to date a previously married person, others would just like someone who is not new to the relationship thing. I can admit that dating someone with no real relationship experience can be challenging.
You may have to become a virtual relationship guide and exercise a little more patience. It’s not necessarily impossible to do but I am pretty sure the inexperienced person would have to put up with something too. That’s why it’s called a relationship.
Do you think those post high school and college relationships really make a big difference in our relationship resume? What do you think is important in a person’s dating history?
What was the relationship from your past that you think helped make you a better person?
Which one do you think actually created some emotional baggage for you?
Would it bother you if you were dating someone who has never had a long-term relationship before?
I want to remind you that the Misadventures in Atlanta blog will be closed on Friday.
Happy Monday!
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Jamoca
June 29th, 2009
1:48 pm
correction: may not like.
Awww, don’t get me wrong, I think some of those dances are fun to do, when ya just wanna let loose…but even I can say folks still look goofy doing them…Lolpeople don’t dance no’ mo….all they do is ‘dis…all they do is ‘dis… Heyal, my daughter has caught me dancing in my room a few times…and I get the “Mommie, who taught you how to do that?! -or- Ut-oh…Maaaa” I just stop and fall out laughing at myself! Lmao
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
1:49 pm
lol @ LEGGS. what i do now? that was e-mailed to me. it’s a good piece of info.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 29th, 2009
1:49 pm
@ lurker re: 1:36 comment…I totally agree. I never once said my thoughts were not screwed up…that is why dating is a pain in the backside, we have built walls. Hellz, it is really hard to get past the inital “screening”. That was my point.
Jamoca
June 29th, 2009
1:49 pm
Lurker Hey chica! Liked that 1:36…brain tickler indeed. How have you been?
Leggs (Karyn)
June 29th, 2009
1:49 pm
Poppa Grande
June 29th, 2009
1:49 pm
Dan
I know that they’ve date off and on for about 10 years. Tip didn’t have deals and such back then, though. He was breaking into the biz.
My uncle worked at the airport and one of his co-workers was the father of “Q” from 112. They all had some Cleveland Ave clique going on when it came to the music biz.
SexyCool - O Most Fabulous One
June 29th, 2009
1:51 pm
Compared to the other Housewives, NeNe is a GIANT!!!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 29th, 2009
1:52 pm
@ lurker re your question about “why still dating in my 40’s”…because my marriage ended in my 40’s. I was married a long time. Sometimes the magic works, sometimes it doesn’t.
By the way, if I had read my post I would have asked the same questions.
Poppa Grande
June 29th, 2009
1:54 pm
Melo
So either, she just real about her ghetto ish or that her money cant seem to polish and finese her ghetto ish at all.
From what I hear, her dad is really sick with Alzheimer’s. SO, a lot of time really goes to dealing with that and dealing with her kid’s. I think that she probably lived up the life and may not have managed all of it well, either.
My wife actually stayed up and watched the premier last night of her show with Toya. I didn’t want to do that.
Dan
June 29th, 2009
1:55 pm
@PG
I was trying NOT to say roadie for the folks…so I chose “work” but, yeah, Tip but in his dues at LaFace.
As for LaFace, in the early 90s that place a temple of inquities and music…all the major artists that hit with the label had been there for a while. LA didn’t play “going into the studio and doing your thang” he was trying to teach them the whole business.
But those were the good ole days….the “talent show” crews were fantastic…
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
1:57 pm
Compared to the other Housewives, NeNe is a GIANT!!!
Hey hey there my fellow vertically blessed sister. The rest of em are just midgets.
Melo
June 29th, 2009
1:58 pm
W8,the Ride it like a soldier girl aint even pro at it.
I think a better endowed biaatch wld have given a better show.
I know there are black heifers who better than that!!
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
1:59 pm
@LEGGS
did you actually read it?
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
2:01 pm
@Melo- biaatch..heifers??
Jamoca
June 29th, 2009
2:01 pm
Heavy W8 – That Ride it like a Soldier vid (gal)…she kinda weak and off beat. Just sayin’…LOL
Now Rell – That second link…whitebread tearin’ it up! Gon’ head! Lmao
kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess
June 29th, 2009
2:01 pm
Melo – Sometimes you really sicken me. Have some respect for the ladies, will you?
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
2:02 pm
@Jam- I have been half way around the world and back and only 3 hours sleep since friday…it looked good to me…today…after a nap maybe not so
Professor
June 29th, 2009
2:02 pm
@ W8 The peach milkshakes are sinful…the strawberry, vanilla and cookies & cream shakes are wicked as well. So have one on me it is worth it.
@ Staceye I know I am messing up by answering that one…lol
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
2:04 pm
PoppaG I did not see the listing on ticketmaster for Chrisette and Maxwell showing in SAvannah.
More info please….
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
2:06 pm
@Professor- My favorite shakes are Mint Chocolate Chip with hot fudge mixed in…or Pineapple Shake with Hot fudge mixed in…or banana milkshake with hot fudge mixed in
Professor
June 29th, 2009
2:07 pm
Melo what is up with that 2:01…biaatch..heifers?
Jamoca
June 29th, 2009
2:07 pm
Heavy W8 – Quit whinnin’…Lol…you’ve thrown that around enough as it is. Like your monikky says —> Sleep is for the weak…and gon’ head and get ya’ blog confession on McGruff…you’sa stuartist on the side. Lmao (j/k) Lololol…
Melo
June 29th, 2009
2:07 pm
Have some respect for the ladies, will you?-KIMMIE
give me a break!!!
Respect for women who putting themslevs on youtube doing the nasty dances??.
U give them as much respect as they give themselevs.
Thats a no brainer sweetie!
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
2:07 pm
that TYRESE/JODY skit was hilarious! i hate you JODY!!! lol.
watchin’ it now . . .
Poppa Grande
June 29th, 2009
2:07 pm
Dan
I remember LaFace.
Back in the day, I remember dating a female that worked there. I didn’t hang around the office or anything. However, I do remember meeting LA Reid. Also, I remember spending one New Year’s here in the ATL. The female kept saying that she got us into Kenny’s New Year Eve Party. For some reason, I didn’t think that Kenny that she was talking of was Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds.
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
2:08 pm
@Ce- Try stubhub..here
http://www.stubhub.com/maxwell-tickets/maxwell-savannah-johnny-mercer-theatre-7-28-2009-839275/
Professor
June 29th, 2009
2:08 pm
I need to try one with the hot fudge…I love shakes…the mint one sounds good
Melo
June 29th, 2009
2:09 pm
Melo what is up with that 2:01…biaatch..heifers?
Ref to W8 ’s 1.43pm
Poppa Grande
June 29th, 2009
2:09 pm
Cee
It isn’t ticketmaster.
Try livenation.com
BTW, that was only info was Kimmie.
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
2:10 pm
@MELO
i agree with you on your 2:07, but not the name calling part.
Melo
June 29th, 2009
2:15 pm
i agree with you on your 2:07, but not the name calling part
name calling?? Beautiful??
I wldnt call them that in their face.
U want me to be shot??
kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess
June 29th, 2009
2:15 pm
BTW, that was only info was Kimmie. Thanks Poppa, I was about to let her know.
Melo – First off, I’m not your sweetie. Second, you have a rep for showing very little respect for women, especially AA women for some reason, whatever the women do. So sit your dirty old man self down and stare at your pictures of Daddy & Barbara Bush!
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
2:17 pm
lol @ MELO. hmmmm . . .
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
2:18 pm
Dang…it looks like everyone is safe after that parking deck collapse.
With that being said, I wish my bucket had gotten stuck under there!
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
2:23 pm
@POPPA
i rec’d a claim form (someone at my job sued my employer) stating that i can get a settlement check. will that go against me if i mail it in?
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
2:24 pm
$459 for Orchestra seats? I had those last week at the Fox and were only $85 bucks!!!
Maxwell come on now!!!
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
2:28 pm
@CEE
last night, those seats were $750 at WWE.
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
2:29 pm
@Ce- Yeah they are on the highside….reach in the glove box and get the masks
Melo
June 29th, 2009
2:32 pm
Melo – First off, I’m not your sweetie. Second, you have a rep for showing very little respect for women,
u feeling urself today hah??
I see u had a nice weekend with ur man and u cant stand friendly banter can u??
So sit your dirty old man self down
i see love has a way to make pple feel young dont it??
How old u feel? 21??
just coz i happen to have a diff opinion as u on Tiny that makes me an A woman hater??
How can u have ur logic all in a bunch like that??
Poppa Grande
June 29th, 2009
2:33 pm
Cee
I just passed the information along.
I didn’t even look at price. I knew that it was doubtful that we could go.
On another note, In September, Paul McCartney will perform at Peidmont Park (of all places). That will be crazy.
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
2:33 pm
Might as well see him in Miami for that price
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
2:35 pm
Cee – Are you looking at the Stub Hub site? If so, it’s a resell site and the seller can name their price.
The Live Nation site says ticket prices are $45-85.
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
2:36 pm
Dat’s okay i’ll wait. And the Mercer Theater is a nice spot but…whew…
I love my Fox.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 29th, 2009
2:39 pm
@Beautiful, no I didn’t read it. When I saw the length, I just skipped over it.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 29th, 2009
2:39 pm
Oh my, I just finished eating the juicest apple I’ve ever had!
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
2:41 pm
@Beautiful, no I didn’t read it. When I saw the length, I just skipped over it.
Poppa Grande
June 29th, 2009
2:43 pm
Beautiful
I can’t say without reading it. There is always fine print.
Furthermore, you are in California and some of the laws out there may be out of whack with the rest of the country.
One of my professors groans when she see that a case ruling came out of Cali because it may not be good caselaw anywhere else.
mytwocents
June 29th, 2009
2:43 pm
So uhh… how many teardrops does it take to qualify as sufficiently grieving? Some folks need to GTFOH with insisting everyone process how they do. But then I’m not one to wallow. I may even have to pencil the good cry in (watch Beaches, Fried Green Tomatoes, Set It Off or sumthin) then regain my composure and press on.
I don’t think they EVER had me, but if they did, BET lost me with Cita. I will never, ever, ever, ever, get over their selection of Sambo’s daugther as representative of either Black women or the type of viewers they hoped to attract.
Maxwell…I think we made a verbal agreement a few weeks ago to take that ride to Savannah. Time flies. Does anyone know that venue? What’s a good seat to me ain’t always the textbook definition.
kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess
June 29th, 2009
2:43 pm
Melo – Imma say this and then I’ll tell you to talk to the hand:
What I say to you has zero to do with the weekend & my man okay? And yeah, you call AA out of name ALL THE TIME, not just today, so yeah, TODAY I just felt like checking you on it! You were remarking Friday about how we women don’t take up for each other – well today I can’t write it off as FRIENDLY BANTER!
And you don’t want to go down the AGE road, now do you?
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
2:44 pm
@LEGGS
read it! lol. gurl, you actin’ like i’m the first to post a long one. i found it nurturing.