Not new to this
Single people can be a creative bunch. We come up with the most unique excuses reasons not to date someone. I’m talking about the “relationship resume” that some people prefer to be long, detailed, and has proof of commitment. You say you are a good candidate? We’re going to need references!
While some prefer not to date a previously married person, others would just like someone who is not new to the relationship thing. I can admit that dating someone with no real relationship experience can be challenging.
You may have to become a virtual relationship guide and exercise a little more patience. It’s not necessarily impossible to do but I am pretty sure the inexperienced person would have to put up with something too. That’s why it’s called a relationship.
Do you think those post high school and college relationships really make a big difference in our relationship resume? What do you think is important in a person’s dating history?
What was the relationship from your past that you think helped make you a better person?
Which one do you think actually created some emotional baggage for you?
Would it bother you if you were dating someone who has never had a long-term relationship before?
I want to remind you that the Misadventures in Atlanta blog will be closed on Friday.
Happy Monday!
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Leggs (Karyn)
June 29th, 2009
11:57 am
And that’s the number one thing (could be the only thing) I like about Tiny…she stands by her man and supports him in all that he does. She appears to be a great support system for him.
Rell -
June 29th, 2009
12:00 pm
She appears to be a great support system for him.
- that right there is worth more than money….you think T.I. would be where he is today with out some of her unyielding support…dont think so…specially when i meet the dude back in the day on campellton selling cd’s at the gas station….
Dan
June 29th, 2009
12:00 pm
@liz
Po baby. Go with your gut.
And if that hasn’t been working out, go against your own grain
Melo
June 29th, 2009
12:00 pm
I dont like it when people go out of their way to be ghetto.
dont she have some bit of money from her singing career and T-I’s.
Maaan,u cant take the ghetto out of her,that chic.
Its worse when u ghetto in looks,speech and walk.
Thats what uall call a combo,right!???
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
12:00 pm
Ce – Yeah I was messed up about Mike..
I wasnt speaking about that I was talking about these folks sneak dissin on the Blog..
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
12:00 pm
*you’re so dramatic* so.
SexyCool - Taking off my cool, letting you love my sexy.
June 29th, 2009
12:01 pm
More from me on Tiny – I just think she is interesting. Mostly, because she doesn’t fit the ‘usual’ standard of celebrity and instead seems to personify the term ghetto fabulous.
But you know what, I don’t know what this woman has been through at this point in her life to make her who she is. I had one eye on about two seconds of the preview show that they did last night and I do know that the fact that she is dealing with her father having Alzheimer’s humanzied her for me in some way. Also, seeing Toya get on her mom about her lifestyle said a lot to me as well.
Regardless of what our personal opinions are about these chicks, they are going for theirs. Maybe in a way that we don’t agree with, support or the embarasses us “As Black People”, but their getting ish done. And coming from the backgrounds that they do, they get mad props for that alone. So, what if it’s for being somebody’s baby’s momma?
And WHEN are we going to stop making entertainers the representatives for all of BLACK people? Naw, all black women aren’t Tiny and Toya, but we know some. It’s whatever….Breathe, Shake and let some of that tension go. If you don’t wanna watch it, turn the channel.
Only GOD can judge.
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:01 pm
If Joe can’t show no emotion bout losing one of his youngest, that tells me more about what kind of “man” he is(not).
Dan – Are you with him 24/7? Good grief. Some folks are simply more stoic than others. Some folks have gone thru so much, or have dealt with enough death that they don’t turn in to basket cases. Some folks recognize that sometimes death is a better solution than life because that person is hopefully in a better place. And that brings comfort.
Sorry he didn’t perform for you on command.
kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess
June 29th, 2009
12:02 pm
If that’s not who you are, don’t perform for the cameras.
Amred- I agree. I just had an issue with him promoting his new business, kinda tacky. But everyone does grieve differently. Don’t manufacture any tears to put on a show for tv.
Personally, I don’t think ALL the blame for the messed up childrearing should be put on Joe. She stood around and allowed him to abuse her kids and continued producing more kids with him. I know I would not let any husband of mine abuse my kids. It’s my job to protect them, even if its from their own dad. He would have H— to pay.
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
12:02 pm
Some men are from the school that men dont cry or show emotion..not that its right
At my big brothers funeral..My dad didnt cry nor did me or my other four brothers…but my sister and step mom did..we got home later and shot basketball and bbq’d..My dad is an excellent dad in my eyes
Earlier this year at my lil brothers funeral- My dad didnt cry again nor did me or my other 3 brothers..but my sister and my step mom did again..we played spades and sat around telling jokes..then went fishing the next morning…
SexyCool - Taking off my cool, letting you love my sexy.
June 29th, 2009
12:02 pm
Beautiful – My grandmother used to cut sections of water hose to beat us with. We used to call it “Green Jello.”
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria but I'm also a Thriller :-)
June 29th, 2009
12:03 pm
Tiny?? she needs to be quarantined to that bankhead area zip or find her a spot on cleveland avenue.Daaaaaamn,TI dug himself a Big hole there.Yeeiiikes!!
I co-sign on that…..
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:04 pm
And that’s the number one thing (could be the only thing) I like about Tiny…she stands by her man and supports him in all that he does. She appears to be a great support system for him.
Leggs – That’s the one and only thing that I like about her too.
I’m don’t think T.I. is all that either. Lil gnome
But I can see why some folks think he has a swagger about him.
Tiny has just gone down hill since Xscape. Probably too many burdens.
kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess
June 29th, 2009
12:04 pm
Talking about Mother Katherine Jackson, case you didn’t figure it out.
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:05 pm
W8 – Loving your 12:02.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
12:06 pm
S Cool – you know I aint judging Tiny.. Her voice literally aggravates me. I dont judge anyone.. I’m sorry. I havent said anthing about what type of person she is.. Her voice just aggravates me.
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
12:08 pm
Kimmie My girlfriend had to remind me of the BET awards. I was staight chilling with my spinach dip and chips when i got in lastnight. had totally forgot.
Jaime is stoopid.
Infamoust My my my… did i dance (with the kids) like Micheal at the pool and had a crowd or what? I still got it mayne!!!
SexyCool - Taking off my cool, letting you love my sexy.
June 29th, 2009
12:08 pm
I know, DK. Me too. And I think she holds her mouth funny. But those are just observations about physical characteristics – not judgements about her as a person.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 29th, 2009
12:09 pm
I can’t even imagine the “Green Jello.” I’m so thankful for my tiny, thin limbs back in the day.
kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess
June 29th, 2009
12:09 pm
Kimmie My girlfriend had to remind me of the BET awards.
Cee- Mine did too!! I was watching the NJ Housewives Reunion & Army Wives!
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
12:13 pm
Oh yeah Ciara sucked…lol
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:15 pm
Oh yeah Ciara sucked…lol
I didn’t even recognize her…
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
12:15 pm
CIARA is just a pretty face.
Jamoca
June 29th, 2009
12:20 pm
Hello…hope everyone had a pretty good weekend.
Btw, that was just a beautiful moment right there, JtJ…congrats missy!
…and thanks, Demi…right on time, mayne.
So I guess that I’m the only one who did not watch the BET Awards show?…can’t really remember the last time that I actually did. Lol
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
12:21 pm
and i heard a rumor that Mrs. Obama is pregnant. i hope it’s true.
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
12:21 pm
and I would prefer for Beyonce to choose is she evolving or just jumping around?
Beyonce, Sasha Fierce or Diana Ross Beyonce
She should have performed Ego…lol..I would have walked out on stage and just sat on a stool while she sang to me..lmao
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
12:24 pm
Ciara is more than a pretty face.she has a nice body also…she has just been pigeoned holed to a certain type of R&B and that has hurt her career…girl can sing when she makes an effort and is a great performer also
Melo
June 29th, 2009
12:25 pm
Madoff gets 150 years in the slammer.
I wish him a long,loooong lyfe!
Melo
June 29th, 2009
12:26 pm
Madoff gets 150 yrs in!
Wish him good health and long,looong lyfe!
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
12:27 pm
Interview transcript between Michelle Obama and Oprah:
O: Well, you look better than ever – despite the rumors that you’ve got a baby bump.
MO:[Laughter] I know – I was like, “Baby bump? As hard as I work on my abs?!”
O: By the way, nobody would be happier if you were pregnant than Gayle King. Out of nowhere, she’ll tell me, “Oh God. I really hope Michelle gets pregnant – and that it’s a boy!”
MO: [More laughter] Here’s the scoop. Not pregnant. And not planning on it.
O: Not pregnant.
MO: Not pregnant.
anonymousella
June 29th, 2009
12:27 pm
for folks my age, i think they make a difference. if you’re 30+ and you haven’t had at least one significant relationship that left you boo-hooing on the sofa clutching a bottle of 80 proof liquor, you’ve been doing this love thing ALL wrong. i can COMPLETELY understand never being married by 30 or 40. but if you haven’t had a relationship with someone you thought might be The One or one that left you so heartbroken that you vowed to NEVER EVER EVER AGAIN IN LIFE love again, like i said: you’re doing it wrong.
my relationship with The Dodged Bullet created some serious emotional baggage for me. that’s why he’s got that nickname. what’s weird is that The Intended met him and wondered whether he really cared about me. and he didn’t. plus he had kids. and while i understood that his kids would always be his #1 priority, he made it clear that i would never even be #1b.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria but I'm also a Thriller :-)
June 29th, 2009
12:28 pm
Beyonce, Sasha Fierce or Diana Ross Beyonce
Which one was she last night?……inquiring minds would like to know ’cause I’m confrused……
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:29 pm
MO: [More laughter] Here’s the scoop. Not pregnant. And not planning on it.
Thank goodness. The woman is 45.
SexyCool - You lead. I follow.
June 29th, 2009
12:30 pm
My mother used to say that my stepfather (who has all girls) is a man that should have sons. She says the same thing about Mr. Obama.
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
12:31 pm
@Sassy- Diana Ross Beyonce
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:33 pm
She says the same thing about Mr. Obama.
We’ll see what God says.
Jamoca
June 29th, 2009
12:35 pm
SCool Dang. Yeah I remember those moments. Ever got a whuppin’ when you’ve just gotten out of the tub and not fully dried off yet?!?! Maaaannn! My grandmother just scared the Buh-G’zus out of us, when she’d go into the kitchen drawer and grab a big butcher knife, go outside underneath that big ‘ol oak tree, and cut down several limbs. Just watching her do it and my cousins and I were running for cover. She didn’t say a word either…well until, she came back in from the back porch…and why do they “talk atcha” while beatin’ yo’ butt??? LOL…and it was sort of to a rhythm almost. Shoot, and she never worried about running out of limbs, she had back up, which is why she gathered so many at a time. Some of them were so “wicked looking” they reminded you of the serpent transforming into Moses’ staff in the Bible. Lol
My youngest got her lil legs tapped with her great grandmother’s switch for the first time when she was 2 yrs old. I remember coming by to pick her up and she just dived into my lap, covering her face with the palm of her hands, and shamefully telling me in her little munchkin voice —> Mommie, Gah’ma whip me with dat’ “witch”… I tried not to laugh, but it was kind of funny. Straightened her right up too.
Jamoca
June 29th, 2009
12:37 pm
meant: just dove into my lap…
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
12:38 pm
*Just watching her do it and my cousins and I were running for cover* lol. uh huh.
M'
June 29th, 2009
12:39 pm
Well, one thing is for sure…there is a market for shows like “Toya & Tiny”…it may be a sad commentary about what ppl want to watch…but there are young chicks out there who truly want to emulate that lifestyle, etc…oh well…one show that I will not be tuning into…I have nothing in common with them…not my cup of tea…lol.
Yepper, Madoff got 150 years…awww…too bad…oh well to that too…now what is his “poor” little wifey gonna do????
And as far a Joe Jackson not showing any emotion…ppl deal with grief in their own way…not everyone is into public displays of grieving…we do not know what is going on behind the scenes…as it should be…it is not our concern…let us all just hope that they find some measure of closure that is beneficial to them all…you could tell that Janet was still in a state of shock and uncertainty…even if he was not Michael Jackson the King of Pop…he was someone’s son, brother, father, friend, nephew, uncle, etc and any family experiencing a loss of a loved one needs time to process the entirety of the loss and the grief.
Dan
June 29th, 2009
12:44 pm
@ARed
I’m not asking anyone to “perform”.
The fact is, being stoic or repressed, is not healthy. That grief is going to come out in some way, at some time, and while it’s on the individual to let that out; I just can’t see a man sit for three hours and look more mad than hurt about the loss of his child – regardless of his stoicism.
I don’t think it’s healthy or natural.
As for Ciara. I know she can sing, I just think she could have benefitted in her performance with a little more practice.
And Beyonce hurts me more than anything. Her “Ave Maria” rendition was sooooo on point, not a note out of pitch or key. And yet she sings “bootylicious”….just wow
Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again
June 29th, 2009
12:45 pm
I thought Janet was the youngest Jackson…folks keep saying Michael was Joe’s youngest.
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:46 pm
it may be a sad commentary about what ppl want to watch…but there are young chicks out there who truly want to emulate that lifestyle
M’ –
At least Tiny used her talent and parlayed that into a brief career with Xscape. I’m not sure what this Toya chick has done.
Wyclef was probably the most inspirational of the night, reminding us all that he went from a hut, to the projects to a mansion. And kept helping others along the way. I hope the lil knuckleheads were listening and knowing it’s possible.
East Point's Own
June 29th, 2009
12:46 pm
NO one here seems to have noticed that someone at BET is making small steps toward making non-celebritites and atheletes stand out in the black community. THey did recognize several doctors, the mayor from Mississippi, and some college students during the show… it was a small step in the right direction at least… Whom ever pushed for them to include that bit of recognition should be praised as well.
SexyCool - You lead. I follow.
June 29th, 2009
12:46 pm
ARed – That statement is simply a compliment to the kind of man that Mr. Obama is. Not HER directive that they procreate and birth a boychild.
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
12:48 pm
The Mayor from Mississippi was a great piece
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:48 pm
My grandparents were into switches. My grandmother would also pinch your ear and take you down that way.
My parents used the good old fashioned belt. My dad had this one that was leather with metal holes in it. Never fun.
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:51 pm
That statement is simply a compliment to the kind of man that Mr. Obama is.
SexyCool – I know it wasn’t a directive. As well, as a girl that has a father with all daughters, I see it as a compliment that also smacks the face for the daughters he already has.
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:52 pm
The fact is, being stoic or repressed, is not healthy.
TO YOU. Again, you don’t know what goes on when he’s not on camera. He can break down like anyone else can. OR NOT.
Glad you aren’t judge and jury.
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
12:53 pm
NO one here seems to have noticed that someone at BET is making small steps toward making non-celebritites and atheletes stand out in the black community.
They should try giving them a show instead.