Not new to this
Single people can be a creative bunch. We come up with the most unique excuses reasons not to date someone. I’m talking about the “relationship resume” that some people prefer to be long, detailed, and has proof of commitment. You say you are a good candidate? We’re going to need references!
While some prefer not to date a previously married person, others would just like someone who is not new to the relationship thing. I can admit that dating someone with no real relationship experience can be challenging.
You may have to become a virtual relationship guide and exercise a little more patience. It’s not necessarily impossible to do but I am pretty sure the inexperienced person would have to put up with something too. That’s why it’s called a relationship.
Do you think those post high school and college relationships really make a big difference in our relationship resume? What do you think is important in a person’s dating history?
What was the relationship from your past that you think helped make you a better person?
Which one do you think actually created some emotional baggage for you?
Would it bother you if you were dating someone who has never had a long-term relationship before?
I want to remind you that the Misadventures in Atlanta blog will be closed on Friday.
Happy Monday!
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THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:00 am
F your past Baby cause I’m your future anyway. You just need to let me know if you were working for Pimpin Ken in your former city, you know alot of people come to Atlanta running from their past.
On the BET awards.. Monica upstaged Keyshia.. Maxwell killed it. Where did they dig up Tevin Campbell, Aaron Hall shouldnt have danced that hard and tried to sing, Tiny dont need to say nothing anymore the rest of her life(She sounds so ugly and nasty by the mouth), Don Cronelius should have stayed in retirement and Eddie Levert cussing was the funniest.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:01 am
Chris Brown should have been there.. Jay Z should not have been able to keep him off the show. Cause he kills that Micheal Jackson..
SexyCool - Taking off my cool, letting you love my sexy.
June 29th, 2009
11:03 am
DK – I HAVE to agree with you on Tiny and the mouth thing. And Eddie Levert cussing was the ABSOLUTE funniest.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 29th, 2009
11:06 am
The guy in the OxyClean commercials has died. He was 50!
Where the heck did they find Tevin Campbell???? I enjoyed seeing him on stage!
I have been friends w/a man for 30+ years. Friends w/his wife and daughter as well. Hung out at their house many times and never anything in appropriate between the 2 of us. I was friends with him before he married. Well, now that I’m divorced she has called me and ask that I no longer communicate with her husband. Asked why and she told me that I am now single and eligible to date and she doesn’t want single women around her husband. I spoke to my friend and told him what she asked of me and told him I have to honor her request.
AmazonRed™
June 29th, 2009
11:06 am
but never asking them to change their relationship.
EPO – To each his own. I have guy friends I love like family, but if a life mate came into the picture and had a valid concern about the closeness of our relationship, I’d absolutely scale it back.
These guy friends have done things like taken me on cruises before. It was fine when I was single, if my guy and I are talking marriage, it’s not appropriate.
I absolutely feel I have the right to express my side and hope that the nature of the relationship changes. People have a choice. And if the choice is made to not change a thing, then I can walk away.
What would be the point of “sharing my point of view” in the first place if nothing was going to change?
Professor
June 29th, 2009
11:07 am
Melo I agree about asking questions and all, but at this point in my life I realize a person’s history can be whatever they tell you. Also I know a lot of “go getters” I am one, so while a lot of folks were dating and making babies and stuff I was climbing the career ladder, which limits some things
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
11:07 am
@SexyCool- your first high school crush is now 42..and you are my age..ummm what were you two doing in High School at the same time? Shoulda known back then..lmao
@BET Awards- First time I felt sorry for the death of MJ was when I saw Janet speak…tough losing a family member. NeYo can sing..so can Jamie. and the OJays tribute was nice..Monica and Taraji–looked great.. Maxwell- great
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
11:08 am
Not to miss Mo & W8 Hey!…I thought about giving Micheal a louder blast this weekend while i played the music in my car. But you know my current car has nothing on a real Kenwood with the trunk rattling da speakers…so only my passengers and maybe lane cars heard my many times “repeat” of “Lady Of My Life”.
Dan
June 29th, 2009
11:09 am
@DK
When I saw Monica with K.Cole, I knew that pairing was gone be bad, because Monica can actually sing. Ciara disappointed me a little too…
@SC
I don’t think it was the tribute to MJ as the revamping of the show and the lack of coherent direction. Whoever directed that show may never do so again.
And whoever ran the censor button should never be allowed to do that again either.
Ohh…
Who got jokes for Don C?
Ya wan joke, joke pun me! Don C ez de Godfatter of Soul man! Who wan it? Bombaclot!
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
11:09 am
@ Leggs – Bill Mayers was only 50? I thought he was older. Too many deaths in such a short time…
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
11:09 am
*I have to honor her request*
i would do the same.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 29th, 2009
11:09 am
Oh, btw, he’s mad as heck w/his wife, but that’s between the two of them.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:10 am
W8 – Taraji was nice and Keri can get it too.. Alicia had them gams shouwing last night. But I dont know if you saw Amerie in the pre show.. She shut em down..
Melo
June 29th, 2009
11:10 am
Monica upstaged Keyshia
The 2 of them looked like ghetto queens anyway.
My 2nd wife was in a class by herself.
Tiny?? she needs to be quarantined to that bankhead area zip or find her a spot on cleveland avenue.Daaaaaamn,TI dug himself a Big hole there.Yeeiiikes!!
T-Pain did a better job of hosting last yr than Jamie did this year.
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
11:10 am
Maxwell CD will be bought and tickets to see perform. Definitely!!!
Professor
June 29th, 2009
11:10 am
@Leggs that is a long friendship and I admire you for honoring her request (that’s what I would do too). The funny thing about it I can kinda see her point, but dang part of me thinks she should have spoken to her husband about it and told him where the line should be drawn.
SexyCool - Taking off my cool, letting you love my sexy.
June 29th, 2009
11:10 am
w8 – We went to the same church, sang in the same choirs. So, I had the crush on him when I was 16 and in high school.
Just realized – his arse could have so been sent to jail. Wow.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:11 am
ANd Joe Jackson looks a little too happy about his son dying.. Maybe he got a peek at the insurance policy..
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
11:12 am
jamie did a horrible job!
AmazonRed™
June 29th, 2009
11:12 am
Where the heck did they find Tevin Campbell???? I enjoyed seeing him on stage!
Leggs – How much did I love, love, LOVE Tevin Campbell growing up?! It was great to see him.
One of my happiest childhood memories. I was 16 or so and had a summer internship with Warner Bros Records. I was sitting at my desk and get a urgent call to come to one of the execs offices. I was scared as I had no power, clout or anything…what did I do?
I walk into the office and Tevin Campbell is waiting for me! My bosses new how much I loved him and they arranged for us to meet that day. He was totally nice!
I was on cloud nine for the rest of the summer.
East Point's Own
June 29th, 2009
11:13 am
AmazonRed OK, I see your point, I was thinking more along the lines of express your feelings and see if your mate takes the initiative to scale things back on their own… if they do not, I would take that as a sign to walk away.
But you have a point I can see the benefit of asking specifically for waht you want.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:14 am
Jamie was a fool last night.. Neyo killed that Lasy in my life..
SexyCool - Taking off my cool, letting you love my sexy.
June 29th, 2009
11:14 am
Dan – the reason they sped through the early part of the show was to give DonC enough time to get through all he had to say. I know he has always talked slow, but um, somebody had him on frame-by-frame mode last night. LOL.
(Oh and that teleprompter gave him H#LL!!!)
AmazonRed™
June 29th, 2009
11:14 am
Taraji looked great til she opened her mouth.
Naw, I didn’t like her birds nest hair either.
Dan
June 29th, 2009
11:14 am
Maxwell always kills it, great performer.
And Tevin Campbell hasn’t put out an album in years, but soulja boy and drake have? My goodness, what happened to being able to sing?
kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess
June 29th, 2009
11:15 am
Morning Blog Folks
Had a very fun weekend. Kids are back & in full effect!LOL!! To top that off, SO bought them a waterslide. I’m thinking it was going to be just an updated version of the old-school Slip N Slide. How about it was this huge thing that took up half the backyard! He needed to be charging admission! He invited some of the neighborhood kids(along with their parents) to play on it. I told him his house was the official “cool house” now! After playing on the slide they came in and watched a movie in his new home theatre & we served them popcorn & drinks. Yeah, the new cool house!
On topic – I had a few crushes, but didn’t really “date” anyone seriously in high school, thus my innocent status upon graduation. It was easier that way, trust me. I gained experience in college but did not meet The One. I’ve never dated anyone that did not have any experience with a long-term relationship, but I’ve had friends that have and it was not pretty. I try not to judge a person because they’ve never been married or have kids, cause I am so not in a position to judge on that. What matters to me is the entire “body of work” so to speak. If they’ve been in some bad relationships, did they learn from them and are they over them? Are they a goood father to the kids they have? Is there any inappropriate contact with any exes? If those check out well, I have to judge them on how they are with ME. That’s all I really have to go on.
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
11:15 am
@Professor
the way that it should have went down was the wife talkin’ to hubby and the hubby asking LEGGS to back off a lil. but in his nice way.
Melo
June 29th, 2009
11:16 am
so while a lot of folks were dating and making babies and stuff I was climbing the career ladder
i agree,but asking qstions is not necessarily elimination.It is just a desire to know.
But if u say u were studying for ur phd etc and then later on i find out, u have 2 dead baby daddies u never talked about,then i know,u werent solely climbing the ladder but were on other extra curricula activities too.
Thats all.
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
11:17 am
@DK- Keri…top shelf and she carries herslef and speak like a lady..I just remember her when she 15 in Dent’s group coming to the studio and being on the swim team…my oh my how they grow up
ON Don C..no matter how long he takes you got to give it up..No Don C..no MTV no BET think on that..he is Music Television I mean way back then besides American BandStand who else was doing it? Tevin still looks fruity as hell. Tiny please dont talk anymore..lol Aaron dance or sing..choose one and one only..Ralph Tresvant what? BBD..NICE..lol Devoe you are not a Que dog stop throwing it up..
On Jamie Foxx..great job..lmao “camel toe”…”Boa”..lmao
Lil wayne I understand that is Cash Money’s new girl group but did you have to have them on stage while performing “every girl”..noooooooo
Hey@Ce!! Natives Stand Up!!
AmazonRed™
June 29th, 2009
11:17 am
Melo I agree about asking questions and all, but at this point in my life I realize a person’s history can be whatever they tell you
Professor – Good point. One of my friends found this out the hard way. Straight fell for a swindler!
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:17 am
Man ya’ll better stop.. Tevin Campbell with that low cut afro, that old school polyester suit and hush puppies. Ya’ll know ya’ll better quit.
Dan
June 29th, 2009
11:18 am
@SC
You know you gwan to heck right? You don’t clown Don C…
AKeys (I just need to meet her), Taraji, Paula Patton won the night.
But was it just me or did anyone else think that the Monica/K Cole performance was wardrobed by the Greenbriar Flea Market?
jussayin?
-W8©(thoroughbred...sleep is for the weak)
June 29th, 2009
11:20 am
@Dk- I aint mad at Joe people express hurt differently..besides his eyebrows are painted on…lol
@Melo- TIny may not be a looker but she is down for her man…you can’t knock that at all..because that is hard to find
SexyCool - Taking off my cool, letting you love my sexy.
June 29th, 2009
11:20 am
Separated at birth – Tevin Campbell and Jason Weaver….
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:21 am
Then Tevin didnt even put no grease on his low fro.. It was all dusty and carrying on.. Mayne gone.. Dancing all fast and off beat.. I thought he was crazy legs from the beat street crew..
Leggs (Karyn)
June 29th, 2009
11:21 am
Joe Jackson looked like a washing up, shriveled old ass wannabe P I M P!
Shamless of him to try to plug his new record business or whatever it was he was plugging.
Love me some Keyshia Coles, but her and Monica never need to sing together again.
@Professor, I can see her point, but how do you throw away a 30+ year friendship because you are now feeling insecure. I recognize it for what it is and what….keep it moving!
Beautiful
June 29th, 2009
11:22 am
NE was there? now i know i gotta catch a re-run. it’s prolly on now! i was on my way back from WWE in sac. it was 111 degrees there yesterday. dang! met JOHN CENA in person. i think it was the first time i clutched my pearls.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:23 am
W8 – Well we know Joe beat dat arse, he could show a little remorse.. But hey youre right people grieve differently..
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
11:23 am
Leggs – That sucks you lost a life long friend. I’m glad she was woman enough to call you and tell you to your face, rather than having her husband do it.
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
11:23 am
I only caught about the last 20inutes of the show…I’m still wondering and upset of why Joe Johnson was in the audience no emotional….Jamie is still stoopid – if he said one more time what date he was going to start his Tour, I was going to explode!!…And Lil Wayne still looks like a cockroach to me.
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
11:24 am
Lil wayne I understand that is Cash Money’s new girl group but did you have to have them on stage while performing “every girl”..noooooooo
Very inappropriate!!!Those are very young girls!!!
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
11:26 am
I only caught about the last 20inutes of the show…I’m still wondering and upset of why Joe Johnson was in the audience non-emotion….Jamie is still stoopid – if he said one more time what date he was going to start his Tour, I was going to explode!!…And Lil Wayne still looks like a roach to me.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 29th, 2009
11:26 am
Lil Wayne better chill on that syrup cause they will be having a memorial show about him
Rell -
June 29th, 2009
11:27 am
why in de hell does my stuff get eaten up…every day
TIny may not be a looker but she is down for her man…you can’t knock that at all..because that is hard to find
- for the mods…let me say I AGREE…can you post that
NY2GA, Inc.
June 29th, 2009
11:27 am
On BET…the show got better in the second half. Tyrese, Johnny Gill and Trey Songz tore the O’jays tribute up. I loved it! Maxwell…ewwwwweeeeeeeee. Can’t wait until July 7th for the new CD. Babies WILL be made off that CD.
However, I just shook my head when Beyonce came out singing a religious song with lingerie on. Geez. We don’t need to see her “goods” ALL the time. You mean to tell me that even angels are dressing like hoochies these days? Say it ain’t so. Say it ain’t so…She sang the song nicely though. I just felt like I was watching the Victoria’s Secret fashion show while she was singing it.
Rell -
June 29th, 2009
11:28 am
wow diva guess i am on the list cause my first post was eaten
Mo (aka Moeisha-Nice Pecan Tan)
June 29th, 2009
11:28 am
I am LMAO at everybody talkin about the BET Awards. My take…..
I like that song by Keyshia & Monica but Monica sounded better
Loved Maxwell, NeYo and Jamie
Cemeeli – its alright chica, Im sure plenty of folks in the A represented for you with the kenwood! LOL
Liked the tribute to the O’Jays, mostly Tyrese. I like Trey Songz but he seemed a lil outta place
Was great to see New Edition even though they didnt sound too hot. They always look great though.
BBD/Guy/Keith Sweat….it was cool
Cemeeli
June 29th, 2009
11:28 am
I meant Joe Jackson in my last post.
AmazonRed™ - wearing Citi Trends and drinking Grey Goose, thanks BET!
June 29th, 2009
11:28 am
Very inappropriate!!!Those are very young girls!!!
If I actually bought anything put out by Lil Wayne, I’d boycott.
Apparently though, the girls were his daughter and her friends. Like that makes it better.
Didn’t you just love how they knew ALL the words to the uncensored version (heck, I haven’t even heard that version!)
kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess
June 29th, 2009
11:29 am
The BET awards are always a hot mess to me. They are always just a step up from a high school auditorium or gym, with high school seniors producing it. Always ghetto to me. But what do you expect from a sellout network? That’s always been my beef with BET – not the business decision to sell them, but the quality which has always been sorely lacking.
I knew the world would be paying attention to the awards last night because of MJ.
I do understand, SCool, about artists and how they live in a different world though. You don’t tune into the BET awards or even the Grammy’s expecting folks to be dressed and acting like they are at the Kennedy Center or the Oscars. So I fully expect the wild outfits & haircuts and crazy performances. But the production, the sets, the timing, lighting, etc are always sub-par with BET. And there ARE folks out there that are skilled at that type of thing that they could hire. When are they going to get it together?!!