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Defining Moments

It’s been surreal the past 24 hours. When news broke yesterday that Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson passed away, I got pensive. I usually become this way around birthdays (mine is Sunday!), just to reflect. However,  growing a year older just as the pop icons of my youth pass away, I definitely begin to recognize my own mortality as much as theirs.

I think we all have defining moments in our lives that shaped us who were are as people. It may have been good or bad, involving love or hate, but it had an impact on us. I think one of my defining moments involving romance is my first heartbreak. When someone I cared about did something unforgivable, I think it transformed my ability to trust.

When you have someone you thought you loved do something horrible to you, it makes you second guess yourself. It was a defining moment that I continue to work through. What’s an experience that’s shaped how you are today?

If you don’t care to share your defining moments, feel free to talk about what’s on your mind. Think of today as a day to reflect, laugh, and appreciate life. Life is beautiful. Life is short.

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Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:11 pm

Melo
It sounds like she had him by the short hairs before this affair.

She had the money and the power help him get what he wanted. To get with the big wigs, you have to have money and power.

Her family is the Skill Power tool family. They were millionaires. He may have had some money, but she had more money and power too.

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
2:11 pm

Amazon stating what one believes to be true does not make them hateful or a bigot. We all have right to speak as we see it.

There a folks that believe MJ was a child molester and should burn in hell. That’s their opinion and some would say it is hateful. I would say that statement is going a bit far.

I believe he was a child molester but I hope he made it right with God before leaving this earth.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:12 pm

**To tell him to stay away from his own kids during Father’s Day weekend is wrong**

jus like i told my ex, he shoulda thought about that when he was gettin’ in good!

idiots.

Kym-Smooth Criminal eating Varsity for Lunch

June 26th, 2009
2:12 pm

Okay what did I miss?

Melo

June 26th, 2009
2:12 pm

Blog qstion ladies and OFF topic:
do u take kindly to ur SO/hubbies adverse comments on ur hairstyles,esp when u ask!
(u spend so much time on them,i figure)

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 26th, 2009
2:13 pm

WD,how old u turning,u been 34 for a loooooong time now????!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

June 26th, 2009
2:14 pm

Off subject…is there some kind of unspoken rule or corollary of Murphy’s Law that states that someone will always ask you for something unreasonable on a Friday afternoon when you want to lave early. Every week, I swear it.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:14 pm

Amazon stating what one believes to be true does not make them hateful or a bigot.

Raqi – True. But then sometimes folks are just hateful and bigoted. Let’s not act like that doesn’t exist in this world either.

If folks think he’s a pediphile, so be it. I don’t have a problem with it. To start ranting about a race of people in association with it, is hateful and bigoted.

Plenty of black folks can call a spade a spade when it relates news such as this.

Heck OJ did it.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:15 pm

@MELO
i only take two mins to do my hair.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:15 pm

AR

He certainly seemed to take the news well. Flying to Argentina and all.

That is a pretty cold attitude. Wow. He went to where he could find comfort. It doesn’t mean that he had sex this weekend.

How would you like to be a mom and the father took the kids and prevented you from seeing them on Mother’sDay? He is still a human first.

I hope that you are joking. That is the kind of thing that would definitely keep a guy from truly being honest with you.

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
2:18 pm

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:18 pm

@POPPA
was that to me? you kiddin’ right? there are consequences to every action you take.

M'

June 26th, 2009
2:19 pm

@Melo

I got locks…so no time investment here…lol

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:19 pm

I hope that you are joking. That is the kind of thing that would definitely keep a guy from truly being honest with you.

:???: No I am not joking. And clearly he wasn’t telling his wife honestly about his wearabouts in the first place.

Yeah, I’m sure he didn’t have sex on his trip. :roll:

And yeah, I don’t buy the whole “preventing” story. I believe he was asked and he complied. And I’m sure he could have found a way to make it happen had he really wanted to. And I think he had other things on his mind, like his mistress.

If he was truly trying to honor the rules of his separation, staying out of Argentina was probably a wise choice.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:21 pm

AR

PG – He should have just divorced her then! Yes, I know divorce is frowned upon but so is this mess he’s gotten himself into.

Divorce isn’t an instantaneous solution to the problems. They take time.

Even with divorce, they have to deal with the kids. They would still have to interact.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:21 pm

melo – Elaborate on “adverse” comments.

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
2:21 pm

Stopping him from seeing his kids not only hurt him it hurt his kids also. We need to start looking at the whole picture before we go flying off the handle and trying to hurt the one that hurt us. Don’t put the kids in the middle of it.

Been there. It’s a bad move.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
2:21 pm

He probably didn’t care

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:22 pm

Angie

What are you talking about? I haven’t address a post of yours since talking about getting my MJ call about 4:35 yesterday.

Cemeeli

June 26th, 2009
2:22 pm

lol @ checking out the Draft during Musiq’s peformance Tazzee :lol: :lol:

Girl you are funny!

Sassy Girl i never got the moonwalk down. You need to teach a sister some lessons.

PoppaG You got any more of those skrawberry Starburst? I have a b-day in 3 weeks.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
2:23 pm

To tell him to stay away from his own kids during Father’s Day weekend is wrong

ARED/POPPA

The man is an amateur pimp at best or hes a good actor and politician.
U dont get mad that ur wife,in a fit of rage,has put u in the dog house.Thats the stuff u recite to ur homies as u sitting by the grill,talkking girl stuff.The wife acted normally,any grieving and upset wife wld.A dog house, couch etc is a fitting place for me if im caught.I’ll take that with some alacrity,to some extend!
He shld have taken days off at wrk,left the leu governor in charge and headed to argentina,either to go break up or to go deliver the good news to girlfriend that the wife is finnaly taking steps to break this thang(if thats what he wanted)Remember,shes saying she discoverd that in January.
If he pretended to be sour and unhappy at his press conference,then hes a good actor but the way he handled his official bizz tells me,hes an ameteur,way laid by the puddsy and beauty of a curv aregentian beauty.

(by the way,he came back home with a lil less weight and a turn,he was wrking and having fun!) :lol:

Melo

June 26th, 2009
2:24 pm

ARED,
she says: u like my hair(after a hair do)??

I say no!

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:25 pm

@RAQI
if you were to go and spend a day sitting in family court to just listen to cases, you will find out that it’s a privilege to be a parent and to see your children.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:26 pm

W8

He probably didn’t care

Thank you. That was my point. I said that in my initial post to AR on the subject.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria but I'm also a Thriller :-)

June 26th, 2009
2:26 pm

Sassy Girl i never got the moonwalk down. You need to teach a sister some lessons.

Cameeli I was in my kitchen moonwalkin’, kickin’ up grabbin my crotch and goin’ HEEEHEEE. My inner child wanted to to show her sympathies and condolences. I got you on the moonwalkin’ lessons though :)

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
2:26 pm

Melo she should have prepared for you to say no. When I ask my husband a question like that I look for yes, no, or huh. No matter which is his response I am already expecting one.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:27 pm

@POPPA
my badd.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:27 pm

He probably didn’t care

:lol: Thank you. Boy, you men can really stick together. :lol:

I mean, heck. Even if she did say he couldn’t have come by, how bout you stay in town just in case the kids whine so much she changes her mind (if only for a day).

If an emergency had happened, they didn’t even know where he was. They’d be combing the Appalachain Trail for his azz.

Leggs (Karyn)

June 26th, 2009
2:28 pm

@Beautiful, I know you’re not mad at me. All I did was ask a question. :wink:

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:30 pm

ARED,
she says: u like my hair(after a hair do)??

I say no!

melo – I don’t ask questions I don’t wanna know the answer to.

I might not like the answer, but I can take it.

Especially if I know my guy is not out to hurt me. Heck I asked.

Now, I hope you just kept it simple at “no.” Knowing you, you probably didn’t!!!

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:30 pm

Melo

U dont get mad that ur wife,in a fit of rage,has put u in the dog house.Thats the stuff u recite to ur homies as u sitting by the grill,talkking girl stuff.

First of all, he probably didn’t care about the wife’s feelings period.

Second, he had options. Maria was an option other than dealing with his homies. I hear that he was a loner anyway. So, that probably leads back to Maria.

If you don’t already have a woman that you know cares for you (the e-mails were pretty steamy), you options are more limited.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
2:31 pm

tan…………

Kym-Smooth Criminal eating Varsity for Lunch

June 26th, 2009
2:31 pm

You know we need someone to ring a bell or flick the lights or something when these blog topics change..I thought we were talking about MJ now we talking about someone not seeing kids and I think cheating..today I can’t keep up. (what was in my frosted orange?)

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
2:31 pm

But Amazon if she said no he had a right to go on with his life. Why should he sit around on the hopes that she would change her mind? That’s crazy.

After being married to her for how ever many years he probably knows her well enough to know she would not change her mind.

Cemeeli

June 26th, 2009
2:31 pm

lol @ W8- Walking away from Beautiful.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:33 pm

**All I did was ask a question.** ok, you got me! lol.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:35 pm

But Amazon if she said no he had a right to go on with his life. Why should he sit around on the hopes that she would change her mind? That’s crazy.

Raqi – He lives there. It’s not like he didn’t have other stuff to do or other friends.

I believe he went to Argentina cuz he didn’t care. It just didn’t sound like a guy who was making family a priority with that trip.

And let’s not act like all men do.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
2:36 pm

First of all, he probably didn’t care about the wife’s feelings period

maybe,so why all the seemingly sad press conference Poppa?? Fronting??

He shld have pimped like Bill.I dont remember him giving out a credible apology,not even McGreavy,the 2 pudsy and anus luving jerk,not even Spitzer,the hoe lickker.
They all gave out str8 to the point statements,nothing emotional nor convincing on the emotional side.
This guy was almost crying on there.
GOPs make poor playa i tell u.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
2:37 pm

Dude probably didn’t care for multiple reasons and I am not saying he is right in his actions…but..men get to a point when they are sick of it all…he probably could do no right in her eyes..she may have nagged him all of the time..he may have just entered the situation and if he got away with it great and if he didnt he was ready to face the music…and even though he may end up divorced..he will eventually gain peace of mind without a nagging woman in his ear..evry person cheating is not in a extra marital relationship for sex..most men like a woman who respects him and speaks life into him…i am not saying what he did was right nor do I condone his actions…but he probably just got sick of it all and didnt care

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:37 pm

**Why should he sit around on the hopes that she would change her mind?**

cause that’s what we want. we want them to beg and plead to get back in the house. he simply didn’t care.

men should understand that kissing our azz really works!

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
2:37 pm

It’s not like he didn’t have other stuff to do or other friends.

Is not that what he did? She said no so he did something else. With another friend.

I am not saying it is right but heck I would not stay where I am not wanted either.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:38 pm

Melo

If he pretended to be sour and unhappy at his press conference,then hes a good actor

I agree that he’s probably an amateur. I don’t think that he was like former NY Gov. Spitzer who knew call girl services and such.

I think that Sanford was truthfully sorry. Probably more sorry that he got caught and created the stir that he did on a national level.

I don’t think those tears had a much to do about her though.

AR

Its not about sticking together. Many male minds think this way.

Heck, Halle Berry is fine, but there have been multiple men to get tired of her mess.

When we don’t care we don’t. We get out. Truth says is all of time.

East Point's Own

June 26th, 2009
2:39 pm

Am I the only one who had never heard of Captain Eo until last night????

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:40 pm

I’ve never said that he was right. But, I said that he is human. Every human is imperfect.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
2:40 pm

Dangit she is not going to let me see the kids this weekend…it’s going to be to hurtful for me to be around and not see them..I’m out….besides the best way to get over a woman is to get under another one…(LOL, fire away ladies..lol)…lmao

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:40 pm

Is not that what he did? She said no so he did something else. With another friend.

Raqi – I’m just going off this news article.

She asked him to stay away…he did.

She also asked him to NOT go to Argentina…he went.

Y’all want to sit up here like he had no other options and he was complying with her wishes. Well her biggest wish was for him not to go see that hoe! :lol:

Just shows me where his priorities lay.

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
2:40 pm

RELL!!! Oh, RELL!!! do you see an example of what I was telling you yesterday?

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
2:41 pm

***cause that’s what we want. we want them to beg and plead to get back in the house. he simply didn’t care.
men should understand that kissing our azz really works!***

@Beautiful- You got life phucked up

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:42 pm

Am I the only one who had never heard of Captain Eo until last night????

What? I was there when it premiered at Disneyland. They closed the park down for a private party. Never forgot that day.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:42 pm

MICHAEL was a virgo.