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Defining Moments

It’s been surreal the past 24 hours. When news broke yesterday that Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson passed away, I got pensive. I usually become this way around birthdays (mine is Sunday!), just to reflect. However,  growing a year older just as the pop icons of my youth pass away, I definitely begin to recognize my own mortality as much as theirs.

I think we all have defining moments in our lives that shaped us who were are as people. It may have been good or bad, involving love or hate, but it had an impact on us. I think one of my defining moments involving romance is my first heartbreak. When someone I cared about did something unforgivable, I think it transformed my ability to trust.

When you have someone you thought you loved do something horrible to you, it makes you second guess yourself. It was a defining moment that I continue to work through. What’s an experience that’s shaped how you are today?

If you don’t care to share your defining moments, feel free to talk about what’s on your mind. Think of today as a day to reflect, laugh, and appreciate life. Life is beautiful. Life is short.

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Been Thru It All

June 26th, 2009
1:21 pm

Borrowing For Real style again….

BTIA: what’s up ma…all them your children…

girl: yea…this makes six…

BTIA:(lookin crazy)…six…you planning on stopping….

girl:well(while poppin on gum)…I really like to fugg and I don’t want to give it up…

BTIA:(left speechless)…well there you go….

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:22 pm

Then I turned on the radio, listened to some of his music and did the moonwalk on my kitchen floor……

That’s how you do it Sassy! :lol:

If you watched Unsung with Shalamar, Jeffrey Daniels claimed to have created the moonwalk first. He called it the backslide. :lol:

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:23 pm

For Luther, yeah – I cried a little, but Luther could hit a note to melt your troubles away.

Dan – I don’t think I’ve quite accepted Luther’s passing even today. Luther was my favorite male artist PERIOD.

Besides, he was supposed to stick around to sing at my wedding. :lol:

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
1:25 pm

Poppa sad but true. However as you know just because I am not found guilty does not mean that I am innocent.

Dan how does my saying that a person is something condemn them? Please explain that one to me.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
1:26 pm

@AMAZON
i have to admit that i like his style. some of the men i date, like my ex, have ran the streets when they were younger. but now professionals. the streets have never left them. i’m attracted to their swaggerness.

if that gets to you . . . GOOD!

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:27 pm

if that gets to you . . . GOOD!

Angie – You still think I give a flying fig about what you do with your life. I don’t.

I figured you liked thugs. No surprise there.

But no hon, I have not been “got” by that. It affects me NONE.

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 26th, 2009
1:28 pm

she is by far my most favorite artist. But she still was a crackhead. :lol: I’m a Whitney fan too.

AmRed – I admitted to tearing up a bit. Not because I was such a big fan, but it was like the end of an era. Honestly, I don’t know why I teared up. Got a little emotional at the announcement of Farrah too. Just reminiscing about my youth and how I loved Charlie’s Angels.

I need to catch up on my Unsungs – Just watched DeBarge the other night. I’m stalling with watching Minnie Riperton – I know I’m going to cry on that one.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
1:30 pm

you funny AMAZON. lol. you figured? i told blogsville a long time ago.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
1:33 pm

Dan

Not only that. Lawyers are taught to make as many allegations that wouldn’t be considered frivolous. That way if you can’t prove one thing, there are other ways to win money for your client.

For example, Mick Vick had battery charges, assault charges (they are separate causes of action), that were all part of that sexual assualt/VD case. Even if one thing couldn’t be proved, there are others in there to win or hold as leverage towards a settlement. I don’t know if his VD test results came back positive or not, but there were other allegation in which he could settle. Most settlements don’t specify what counts that they are settling.

Johnnie Cochran, who represented MJ in the 1990s cases, was good enough to get specification in those early 1990 cases that MJ denied the sexual assault charges.

Sometimes, it is like throwing stuff on the wall and seeing what sticks.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
1:33 pm

Dan

Not only that. Lawyers are taught to make as many allegations that wouldn’t be considered frivolous. That way if you can’t prove one thing, there are other ways to win money for your client.

For example, Mick Vick had battery charges, assault charges (they are separate causes of action), that were all part of that sexual assualt/VD case. Even if one thing couldn’t be proved, there are others in there to win or hold as leverage towards a settlement. I don’t know if his VD test results came back positive or not, but there were other allegation in which he could settle. Most settlements don’t specify what counts that they are settling.

Johnnie Cochran, who represented MJ in the 1990s cases, was good enough to get specification in those early 1990 cases that MJ denied the sexual assault charges actually put in the settlement agreements.

Sometimes, it is like throwing stuff on the wall and seeing what sticks.

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
1:34 pm

LOL Tazzee I love listening to that crackhead. Girl can sing. Her drug situation have never made me love her any less.

Heck I had a child out of wedlock. But I still strive to be a good mother, wife and friend. And I will also be a woman that had a child out of wedlock.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:34 pm

Tazzee – Yes, Luther was my favorite male. Whitney my favorite female. I like to remember them in their prime. I don’t think I’d go see Whitney even if she came back in concert. I’d rather just listen to her albums.

That’s why that show Unsung is a little unsettling to me. I don’t really want to know about the off stage stuff. I don’t see what value it brings now. DeBarge’s story was a real :shock:

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:35 pm

i told blogsville a long time ago.

Good for you.

Dan

June 26th, 2009
1:35 pm

@Raqi

You equated that feeling with the mothers of the alledged victims in Mike’s cases after you stated that you couldn’t forgive someone for doing something to your child. And the word “pervert” was in there.

I get what you’re saying all the way round Raqi, my bad.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
1:36 pm

**Sometimes, it is like throwing stuff on the wall and seeing what sticks.**

would you consider this slander?

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
1:38 pm

Raqi

However as you know just because I am not found guilty does not mean that I am innocent.

True, but Johnnie Cochran was at least a good enough attorney to get denials to the sexual allegations put in the settlement agreement.

Why would the parents of the children agree to let him off the hook this way. They wanted money more than to put him on blast.

If you love kids, you wouldn’t want him to get away that easy. Espeically, if you kid is involved.

M'

June 26th, 2009
1:41 pm

When all of the allegations about MJ’s “inappropriate” conduct and interaction with young boys surfaced…my first thought was that there needed to be evidence that he committed a sexually explicit act with them in order to be classified a pedophile…but that was before it was explained to me that a person is classified as a pedophile not for having sexual relations with a young person, but rather because they are sexually aroused by interaction and responses from young ppl…i.e he would be classified a pedophile if he was sexually aroused by the his interaction with young ppl even if he did not have sex with them…say something as simple as buying them gifts and their responses to the gifts sexually aroused him…then he is a pedophile…well, that settled that for me…and there may be some truth in that.

Dan

June 26th, 2009
1:44 pm

@M’

In truth, you can’t prove arousal in a court of law. So…even then.

Like PG said (and we all believe partly) it was more about money than the children.

Because if’n it were my kid and he/she had actually been molested, there’d been a whole lotta memorials a whole lot sooner, damn a settlement.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:44 pm

AJC has done it again. The blog about MJ is filled with 80% hate and bigotry. Blows the mind. *smh*

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
1:47 pm

@M
ok, so . . . ummm that’s not even fair! if a person walked into KOHL’S and thought about stealing a purse but didn’t, then they should be arrested.

how are you gonna prove that that person thought about stealing the purse and how are you gonna prove that MICHAEL got aroused?

seems lame to me.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:48 pm

Jenny Sanford told The Associated Press that she discovered Gov. Mark Sanford’s affair in January when she found a letter from him to the other woman.

WiseDiva – We really should do a topic on sloppy pimpin’ :lol:

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
1:48 pm

im jus sayin’.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
1:48 pm

Sometimes, it is like throwing stuff on the wall and seeing what sticks

thanks for ur perspective on that legal mumbo jumbo that most get confused by.
When u are a celeb and a twisted one at that like MJ,settling was proly the best option.He liked to lya with boys,that he admitted to.So if u make urslef vulnerable like that,in this america,u tossed.
Money lving pple in this country are gonna thrw ish at u to get some of it,they may not succeed if u decide to go to court,but u tossed,PR wise.
I dont know anybody then who cld have survived 3,4,5 similar legal cases like that and not go to jail,even if they were frivolous.At some point,some juries wld have to say(in their minds),u know what,based on the other stuff we have heard,u guilty.Its just human nature.
Jurors aint perfect.
MJ did the best thing to defend his image by settling,in my view.Companies on wall street do the same,and load up the justice dept with loads of money,just to walk away and save their reputations.
If i win the lotto in a substantial way,trust, i am leaving my zip code.Coz all those broke ass households will want a piece of me and will claim that their kids got hurt in ma tree house.
See how MJ is being pilloried for something that neve went to court.
How strange!!
Thats how folks do in america,home of the free!

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
1:49 pm

AR

AJC has done it again. The blog about MJ is filled with 80% hate and bigotry. Blows the mind. *smh*

That is America. It doesn’t blow my mind. It is why I will always have a job as long as there are humans on earth.

People’s attitudes and hatred in many cases will lead to lawsuits.

On another note: Darn, I am eating some Starburst. I forgot how good those little fruity candier are.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
1:50 pm

this ajc blog is eating my posts today,4 SO FAR.
One more time WD,im defaulting to my usual MELO!!

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
1:51 pm

AR

Jenny is ruthless. Ohhh, I probably would have had an affair,too.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:52 pm

One more time WD,im defaulting to my usual MELO!!

:lol:

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 26th, 2009
1:54 pm

“I admitted to tearing up a bit. Not because I was such a big fan, but it was like the end of an era. Honestly, I don’t know why I teared up. Got a little emotional at the announcement of Farrah too. Just reminiscing about my youth and how I loved Charlie’s Angels.”

I think that has a lot to do w/ the emotional impact of the death of the famous — it’s what the icon represented to you… your youth, in many cases. It’s definitely a little sobering to reflect on how much of our lives have passed by & wonder how much we have left.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
1:55 pm

Wise Diva

I wish you a happy birthday.

As a show of my appreciation for you work on this blog for being a single pare..I mean single moderator for this blog, I please accept this strawberry blog starburst. It is my favorite so. It really is an sacrifice. :lol:

Seriously, have a happy birthday.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:56 pm

Ohhh, I probably would have had an affair,too.

:shock:

Explain yourself PG!!! (please :lol: )

East Point's Own

June 26th, 2009
1:57 pm

I felt more when James Brown died than Michael Jackson… I like MJ’s music and all but for real I can ride out more with JB’s funk/soul than MJ’s pop. After Thriller I was not really feeling much of MJ’s music anymore.. I mean maybe 2 or 3 songs off an album here and there but nothing like his old stuff. And I am under 30 so I am not saying that because I grew up listening to the Jackson 5, I think much of MJ’s best mucis was produced before my 5th birthday. But I still will miss them both… I’m just saying tho’

that’s just http://hispointofview.com

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
1:57 pm

Jenny is ruthless.

But I do like the way she didn’t stand by her husband when he admitted the affair like all these other wives do.

I’m a kick rocks type of chick too. :lol:

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
1:57 pm

AR

One more thing, I not so sure if Mark Sanford was sloppy or got to a point where he just didn’t care.

It sounds like she had him by the short hairs before this affair.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
2:00 pm

AR, I think WD is in cohorts with abc and Raqi coz all my crdible rebuttals of them have been tossed to the trash can.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:01 pm

One more thing, I not so sure if Mark Sanford was sloppy or got to a point where he just didn’t care.

Good point. Either way, look where it got him. DUMMY!!!

abc

June 26th, 2009
2:02 pm

Maybe I looked at a different MJ blog than you did, but I don’t see bigotry there. The comments seem a little bit dominated by people who are repulsed by MJ’s pedophilia and cosmetic surgeries, overshadowing his earlier pop stardom.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
2:02 pm

It sounds like she had him by the short hairs before this affair.

why u say that??

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:03 pm

AR

Explain yourself PG!!!

If she was overbearing and as ruthless as it is starting to seem, a man will only take that for so long. Then, he will get what he wants and needs elsewhere or he will fight back. (fight or flight response again).

Rev.Thomas Weeks got to point where he tried to stomp Juanita. Even quiet men, have a point.

Between stomping a chick orcheating on her, I rather cheat because I won’t catch a case for cheating.

It goes to what most of the men on here state. We’d rather have respect over love. Sanford may not have gotten the respect and went elsewhere. Ms. Maria Argentina may have given him that respect and the could have opened the door to love her.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
2:03 pm

WD,how old u turning,u been 34 for a loooooong time now????!
:lol:

MusingLee

June 26th, 2009
2:04 pm

East Point I know that was you I saw sitting on the park bench yesterday wearing a 1987 too tight Mike J shirt singing “Ben.” Talking bout 2 or 3 songs.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:04 pm

Maybe I looked at a different MJ blog than you did

abc – Maybe you did. Cuz the one I read talked about black folks and how they’ll make anyone a martyr even if he’s a pedophile. And of course one can’t go by without brining up Mike Vick. :lol:

Raqi

June 26th, 2009
2:05 pm

abc I sorta figured that. That’s why I didn’t even go look. Anybody that has a difference of opinion will be tagged as being hateful.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:05 pm

Sorry, an :roll: should have been after Vick.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:06 pm

Oh, so Raqi you’re just gonna automatically take abc’s side huh? :(

I don’t make up stuff.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
2:06 pm

AR

Is he a dummy, if he doesn’t care.

He is a human first. That political stuff is secondary.

To tell him to stay away from his own kids during Father’s Day weekend is wrong. (I have read reports that she told him to stay away because she needed to process things, and that includes him not being home for Father’s Day)

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:07 pm

**or got to a point where he just didn’t care.**

this right here is what it’s all bout. they are willing to throw so much away for a secret rendezvous. then when they get caught, they all sorry. i don’t buy it.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:08 pm

Between stomping a chick orcheating on her, I rather cheat because I won’t catch a case for cheating.

PG – He should have just divorced her then! Yes, I know divorce is frowned upon but so is this mess he’s gotten himself into.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
2:10 pm

**WD,how old u turning,u been 34 for a loooooong time now????!** lol.

M'

June 26th, 2009
2:10 pm

I did not establish the definition of a pedophile…I learned about it from a psychologist…I did not even know myself…and according to the professionally and legally established definition of a pedophile there only has to be a level of sexual arousal from interacting with young ppl that determines the classification…period…not any explicit act of molestation…and that is what I thought made one a pedophile…and that is the way it is…imagine that.

So, uh yes Dan…there can be legal grounds for charges based on that definition…never knew. myself…but I got enlighten.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
2:11 pm

To tell him to stay away from his own kids during Father’s Day weekend is wrong.

He certainly seemed to take the news well. Flying to Argentina and all.

He could have song love songs to her on the front lawn. :lol: But at the very least not taken the news lying down….or up under someone else…