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Defining Moments

It’s been surreal the past 24 hours. When news broke yesterday that Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson passed away, I got pensive. I usually become this way around birthdays (mine is Sunday!), just to reflect. However,  growing a year older just as the pop icons of my youth pass away, I definitely begin to recognize my own mortality as much as theirs.

I think we all have defining moments in our lives that shaped us who were are as people. It may have been good or bad, involving love or hate, but it had an impact on us. I think one of my defining moments involving romance is my first heartbreak. When someone I cared about did something unforgivable, I think it transformed my ability to trust.

When you have someone you thought you loved do something horrible to you, it makes you second guess yourself. It was a defining moment that I continue to work through. What’s an experience that’s shaped how you are today?

If you don’t care to share your defining moments, feel free to talk about what’s on your mind. Think of today as a day to reflect, laugh, and appreciate life. Life is beautiful. Life is short.

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Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:30 pm

if I ever start back cooking I will have to try it out.

i f u ever have to start cooking?? Proff??
i thoght u were looking?
:lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
4:30 pm

PG – He tagged her. He admitted it. He’s guilty. *bangs gavel* :lol:

You’re over here talking about her affair, where is your proof on that? You weren’t holding her vulva were ya. :lol:

I’m just saying sounds like you’ve formed a judgement based on Mrs. Sanford based on what you’ve heard and don’t know for sure.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:31 pm

lol@Duke Whitey…yeah bro sounds like you need a white sheet next..lmao

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 26th, 2009
4:32 pm

Kym – you are cracking me up with James Brown references! Esp about you having to watch :lol:

Speaking of watching nonsense – that OJ car chase (stroll). I remember I had got the only copy of our choir competition from the choir director. I watched and then let another friend watch it – why did that nut tape over it with the OJ tape. Our director was H-O-T with me!

Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:33 pm

One more thing proff,the pumpkinn leaves have to be pruned/peeled of the scratchy lining on them that makes the leaves hard.
Got do that first be4 u put them on the stove.

Professor

June 26th, 2009
4:33 pm

@Beautiful…wow 8 years that is a long time. Girl I hope you find someone else and the two of you make it.

@ Melo what you thought I was looking for? Be easy on me I don’t need all that XXX stuff…lol

Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara

June 26th, 2009
4:35 pm

SWISS..ok…how about Prince Whitey? No white sheet needed! :lol:

KYM..I was home in NY when they had James Brown Funeral….it was so crazy…I mean people were in line in that bloody cold for hours. I went just to see how many it would be. Then I took my Black a$$ home! :lol:

Professor

June 26th, 2009
4:36 pm

@Melo actually my mother’s garden is nice and she plants everything from pumkins to peanuts and all types of herbs and veggies. I will probably drop by her house this weekend and grab some things or better yet just eat whatever she cooks. I am going to have to take a closer look at these leaves

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
4:37 pm

@Professor
i ‘preciate you, but please don’t hope for me. if it happens, it happens. we’re in different times now.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:38 pm

AR

I could care less about those hypocrites. Biblethumping GOP

What I do care about is presumption of innocence.

I just don’t like the whole Guilty until Innocent.

That is something that I am extremely passionate about.

It is where my passion for the law lies. period. point. blank.

Kym-Smooth Criminal eating Varsity for Lunch

June 26th, 2009
4:40 pm

@Tazzee I am sorry but a funeral, homegoing, memorial whateva should only last one damn day. Not a month. Girl I say forced. They took over the tv and wouldn’t turn it. 3 hours of watching his daughters dance, folks talk, folks sing, it was just too much. Bury the man..put him in the ground..scatter in the ocean..whateva..just don’t take up all the airtime with funeral coverage. He dead he don’t know he on tv.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:40 pm

she plants everything from pumkins to peanuts and all types of herbs and veggies

where she at??

Pumpkinn leaves are ion season right now and the only place i get them is the buford hyw frmers krt,not dekalb,i dont of Forest prk.
I guess us africans have smething in common with the mexican amigos and asian tigers they cater to over there.
BRING me some fresh from ur mama garden Proff!

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
4:41 pm

hi STAC! my step-son’s name is XIOMAREE.

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 26th, 2009
4:42 pm

StaceyePrince Whitey is better…. But what’s wrong w/ Captain Whitey? It has kind of a superhero ring to it — like I could leap tall corporate ladders in a single bound & raise interest rates by willing it to be so…

mytw♥cents...butterflies

June 26th, 2009
4:42 pm

I don’t know what the blog monster is up to, so one last try…

Peeking in and no plan to comment but the topic made me fondly recall something. A great defining moment for me happened after taking a deep breath and walking into the hospital, which I hate, but it was where I had to go since my mother asked to go. Knowing that much spoke volumes b/c she also hated it and having fought cancer as it travelled throughout her body for a number of years, had been one too many times. Anyway, they call me “mommie.” And she just looked at me and said “Mommie, I’m tired. Is that okay?” I smiled and without hesitation, said “Absolutely, Mommy.” And I meant it wholeheartedly. It was a few weeks before my 28th birthday but the first time I truly felt I owned my womanhood. Giving my mother permission to die was both the easiest and hardest thing I’ve ever done. And if she hadn’t always ingrained in me that tomorrow is not promised, I can’t say that I could’ve… Have a lovely weekend, y’all :)

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 26th, 2009
4:42 pm

He dead he don’t know he on tv. :lol:

Yeah, I can’t go for all that nonsense myself. Speaking of, I keep saying I need to finish my will…I have to make sure my family doesn’t use my $$$ for any nonsense when I break camp.

Cemeeli

June 26th, 2009
4:42 pm

Professor You did not send a smoke signal lastnight, girl! I was down on the floor throwing up the m.i.a. gang sign and drinking Sprite.

You saw me? lol

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
4:43 pm

What I do care about is presumption of innocence.

Is he on trial? He admitted it. Case close. Holla at me when he denies it. :lol:

kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess

June 26th, 2009
4:44 pm

Poppa – I din’t want to get into this, but you still didn’t say where you got the info that she cheated too. Cause that has not come out in the main stream media even. How about presuming she’s innocent until proven guilty too then. Maybe she just spooned too.

Professor

June 26th, 2009
4:45 pm

NP I will check it out and let you know on Monday…my mom plants everything.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
4:46 pm

Maybe she just spooned too.

kimmie – :lol: :lol: :lol:

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:46 pm

Kym
I am sorry but a funeral, homegoing, memorial whateva should only last one damn day.

I feel you on that. I don’t even want a wake, and I told told the wife that if I should go first, pretend that we are Jewish. Have it soon. Don’t wait on none of my family members that should have come see me while I was alive.

Professor

June 26th, 2009
4:46 pm

@Cee sorry I missed you. I was the chick dressed like a rocker you would have thought I should have been at a Bon Jovi concert (besides Prince Bon Jovi is my favorite live performer).

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 26th, 2009
4:49 pm

Mytwo – that was powerful! Thanks for sharing.

Kym – post something else funny so I don’t start crying…

Cemeeli

June 26th, 2009
4:49 pm

Tazzee Gal, you are hilarious today! Your undertones are crackin me up!

Leggs (Karyn)

June 26th, 2009
4:50 pm

@mytwo, that made me tear up. I understand the strength behind saying Absolutely!

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:52 pm

Kimmie

I was reading the State newspaper site in Columbia. Now I don’t see it.

Time for the blog is running out.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:53 pm

I”ll look for it during class.

It didn’t say that it was a recent affair as a matter of fact it didn’t say when it happened. It just mentioned that it was in the past.

Cemeeli

June 26th, 2009
4:53 pm

mytwosense That is THE best big-girl pill that has been the most effective affects i could ever think of.

That was very profound and moving, to say the least.

~Loves Sis~

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:54 pm

“…aint nobody’s business..aint no body’s business..

aint

no

bod
day’s

bizz
ness

but mine and my

bay
bay’s

heee heee….c’mon girl”
(one of my favorite songs..”The Way You Make me Feel”)

RIP Michael Jackson…may not agree with everything but you were a revolutionary in your own rite!!!

Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:55 pm

Hey mytwo,yep that was powerful.
Dont worry about ur missing posts earlier, i lost 4 myself.
They wanted a topic change,we obliged!
good weekend all.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:56 pm

AR

Is he on trial? He admitted it. Case close. Holla at me when he denies it.

Yeah, that’s true no trial. My anger probably is more towards media.

As I said that it is where my legal passion lies. I feel as strongly about presumption of innocence as you do about mexican food. Maybe even more.

kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess

June 26th, 2009
4:56 pm

Well, my royal blog buddies, it’s been real. Have a wonderful, safe weekend everyone!

Kym-Smooth Criminal eating Varsity for Lunch

June 26th, 2009
4:56 pm

Girl, If you dead why do you care how they spend the money..hopeful your hubby will get the cash or if he goes first give all your money to your pet like Leona H. Write a will that says if you can read this ..then you have the best gift of all education..see u on the otherside suckas.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
4:58 pm

So tonight gotta leave that nine to five upon the shelf
And just enjoy yourself
Groove, let the madness in the music get to you
Life aint so bad at all
If you live it off the wall

Have a fantastic weekend everyone!!!

*dances out of blog, with a MJ leg kick* Hee hee. ;)

Cemeeli

June 26th, 2009
4:59 pm

kimmie – Btw – I really enjoyed reading your post this morning. I was so busy trying to check and balance i didn’t holla at you.

You have a good w/e too.

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 26th, 2009
4:59 pm

Kym – LOL! I care if they do some foolishness with it when it can go to a charity.

Have a great weekend all!!!

Cemeeli

June 26th, 2009
5:02 pm

Good Night People! & Be Safe.

Live-on Micheal Jackson, your pop culture will live longer than your short time here on Earth.

~ Cya

Wise Diva

June 26th, 2009
5:07 pm

I’m about to get it poppin at someone’s HAppy Hour! Have a great weekend! thanks again for the birthday shouts!