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Defining Moments

It’s been surreal the past 24 hours. When news broke yesterday that Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson passed away, I got pensive. I usually become this way around birthdays (mine is Sunday!), just to reflect. However,  growing a year older just as the pop icons of my youth pass away, I definitely begin to recognize my own mortality as much as theirs.

I think we all have defining moments in our lives that shaped us who were are as people. It may have been good or bad, involving love or hate, but it had an impact on us. I think one of my defining moments involving romance is my first heartbreak. When someone I cared about did something unforgivable, I think it transformed my ability to trust.

When you have someone you thought you loved do something horrible to you, it makes you second guess yourself. It was a defining moment that I continue to work through. What’s an experience that’s shaped how you are today?

If you don’t care to share your defining moments, feel free to talk about what’s on your mind. Think of today as a day to reflect, laugh, and appreciate life. Life is beautiful. Life is short.

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AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
3:45 pm

Yes melo. Ross and Rachel are characters on the tv show “Friends.”

Carrie, Big and Aidan are from the tv show “Sex and the City.”

I like my sitcoms.

mytw♥cents...butterflies

June 26th, 2009
3:46 pm

Enter your comments here

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
3:46 pm

lol@Ce- you knew what I was talking about..lmao

Melo

June 26th, 2009
3:48 pm

Guys,do u eve do play this in ur minds whilst at the club(i do,i wish Demi were here to give me an honest opinion):
U see a phine lady,she looks real good,nice booty,bountiful tatas,just ripe for ur type of lay,u think.Problem,she got her man.
And u size them up as they dance and whatnot and kinda feel jealous.
BUT in ur mind, u say, i think if i lay my pipe on her, i do a better job than this lame dude she got?? :lol: :lol:
Ever feel this way guys???

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
3:49 pm

AR

PG – Wake up dude. He lied to a host of people about his wearabouts. He got some tail. Let’s be real.

Don’t you start being controlling, too. :lol:

Were you there holding his sack for the lady? You wanna be real. The only people that know for sure are the ones that were there.

Do you think that I feel sorry for him? Not one damn bit.

Do I feel sorry for her? No one damn bit.

Do I feel sorry for the people of SC? Hell naw. The voted him into office. They get what they get.

Do I feel sorry for the kids? Yes.

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 26th, 2009
3:49 pm

Melo – I have been saying since I ever ’stepped foot’ on this blog that while cheating is a horrendous act in the eyes of women, there are other things that women do to men that are equally as horrendous in the eyes of men.

And I do believe that keeping a man away from his children is wrong. If he’s a good father, using the kids as a pawn because he hurt you is wrong – it’s dead a-double-snakes wrong.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
3:51 pm

just figured out what dead a double snakes wrong means

Cemeeli

June 26th, 2009
3:51 pm

W8 – Come on. I put in my days…

ha!

Page1908- The Countess

June 26th, 2009
3:53 pm

LOL @ PG asking and answering his own questions.

Melo you are disturbed.

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
3:56 pm

The only people that know for sure are the ones that were there.

Well duh.

And I believe a reasonable conclusion is that they had sex. More likely then them not. Especially since it wasn’t clear at the time he left that he’d come back to a fire storm.

But spin doctor, spin.

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 26th, 2009
3:56 pm

W8 – LOL, I’m trying not to cuss ;-)

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
3:57 pm

Don’t you start being controlling, too

By the way, I told you to explain yourself and you did which kicked off this whole discussion. :twisted:

So dance puppet, dance!!! :lol: *evil laughter*

(just kidding don’t hurt me. :lol: )

Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:01 pm

And I do believe that keeping a man away from his children is wrong

u right Tazz.In this instance,coz she had known of this for the past 5 months,i kind dont understand her tempestousness at this juncture.
But i will absolve a woman who does that if shes just known.She will calm down after she comes to her sense but initially,she may go those extremes.
I feel for these southern thumper wives.The pompousness and the high road their husbands proclaim in public is in stark contrast to their pvt and secret lyves.
When they discover,they get crushed and their lyves go dwon hill.

Thats why us playas lead happy lives.We real,our women are on the prowl,looking and wading off potential heifers and hoes and the adrenalin is awlays high.
If i go to the club alone, i know my phone is ringing every 30 mins or so,even when im dancing with Shaquita on the dance floor.
:lol: :lol:

If she snoozes like Jenny,soon she be like Beautiful,pining for what was! (sorry,i had to take that swing but i luv u)

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:02 pm

@Ce- You are alright with me…even moreso when i get those disc..lol

@Tazzee- I am not going to say how long it took me to figure it out…lmao

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
4:04 pm

melo – I am really gonna fight you one day. :lol:

“Us playas” huh? Dancing with Shaquita? :lol:

I think I hate you. :lol:

Professor

June 26th, 2009
4:05 pm

@Melo on your 3:48 has that happen to you for real? That is some funny mess!

kimmie-Her Royal Highness The Princess

June 26th, 2009
4:06 pm

I heard this was not the first time he cheated.

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:07 pm

AR

(just kidding don’t hurt me. :lol: )

I’m actually cool. I’m not gonna hurt you.

I’m just real believer in our Constitutional rights. I feel that the presumption of innocence is a right that going by the wayside. There are way too many trials by media.

I guess that I talked about Mike with Raqi this morning. Unless she was part of the case (prosecution or defense) she doesn’t know all details.

Same here. Sloppy pimping is judgmental. There are three sides to every story. What he says, what she says,and what really happened. We don’t know the third story.

You never know when you might need that presumption of innocence for one of your loved ones side.

BTW, I know about sassy mouth Deltas, I am married to one.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
4:09 pm

**If she snoozes like Jenny,soon she be like Beautiful,pining for what was! (sorry,i had to take that swing but i luv u)**

not pining, not at all. jus upset that it didn’t work out. i really hope he gets it right on the 3rd try.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:09 pm

@Melo— On your 348…all the time..bro…all of the time

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
4:11 pm

he’s devloping a pattern.

@WISE
topic alert!

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:12 pm

AR

But spin doctor, spin.

Those are the facts. Anything more are Assumptions.

It is called Innocent Until Guilty.

Not Guilty until proven Innocent.

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
4:13 pm

@3:48
ain’t that hatin’. stop!

Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:13 pm

@Melo on your 3:48 has that happen to you for real? That is some funny mess!

if i dont throw in some hypebole,the blog goes to sleep Prof.
Are my eyes cloed u mean,no,i can smell good booty. The challenge is keeping my balls in check,eve day.Thats in the bible isnt it.
I tell Queen,i sleep here everday,even if i go out alone.Thats what i do in practice.
Her eyes aint closed like a thumper’s tho.kNow ur sorroundings jhoever in luv u are to somebody.
Off topic: any southerners here eat pumpkin leaves???
I do and am having some tonite.She called me to ask me what i want for dinner(i luv my Queen) and i said U know what plus that cut of meat in the fridge.

Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara

June 26th, 2009
4:14 pm

Hey guys….just checking in on ya on the blog.

TAZZEE…I have never been to Varsity! :lol:

KIMMIE…you are Dutchess…remember??? :lol:

Queen SC
Princess Xiomara
Dutchess Kimmie
Countess Page

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:14 pm

Patterns don’t mean ish.

The boy who cried wolf lied twice doesn’t negate the fact that he didn’t lie on the last cry for help.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:16 pm

Proff sorry ,yes,everytime!

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
4:16 pm

Sloppy pimping is judgmental.

Good grief…this man is on tv admitting that he lied and that he’s had an extra marital affair. His attempt to keep this trip a secret was ill planned and one of the reasons it didnt work.

These are just facts as they are reported and this is a relationship blog. Lighten up. We talk about way heavier topics on this. And most often in order to state an opinion on given a topic, you have to form a judgement on what you read upon coming to MIA.

I don’t need to hear all sides to have a fun discussion as it relates to blogging. We never get all sides from the topics WD posts. So what is the big deal now?

Professor

June 26th, 2009
4:16 pm

Melo once again, you got me rolling over here. BTW, I am from the south (Atlanta) and I don’t know anything about eating pumpkin leaves. Do you season them with fatback or smoked turkey?

AmazonRed™ - Pretty Young Thang

June 26th, 2009
4:18 pm

Those are the facts.

You thinking they DIDN’T have sex is not a fact either. He’s admitted that he’s had an extra marital affair with this woman. Whether it was today or two years ago, it’s hardly a appropriate relationship for a married man to have.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:18 pm

What the Hell?

..Centennial Olympic Park @ 6pm: the Michael Jackson Thriller danceoff!!

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 26th, 2009
4:19 pm

“Queen SC
Princess Xiomara
Dutchess Kimmie
Countess Page”

Staceye — Can I be Captain Whitey? :lol:

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:20 pm

@Beautiful- No that’s upgrading…your 413 is hating..lol

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:21 pm

kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess

June 26th, 2009
4:22 pm

Staceye – I bullied my way into a higher title!LOL!! But okay, if you insist! When do I get a promotion and does that come with a raise?

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
4:22 pm

**Patterns don’t mean ish.**

i say it does! when i called his ex-wife to see why they divorced w/o giving her the reason for me calling, why did her story match my nightmare?

huh? you know nothing about this here. stay in yo lane.

Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:23 pm

Do you season them with fatback or smoked turkey?

no,just salt and a lil baking soda to make them a lil soft since they are kinda rough.U can then add oil if u like or mix(cook) them with some peanut butter for a different taste and tomatoes!
U just cook them the same way u may cook other veggies only diff is they have to be on the stove for 10/15 mins coz they are softer that kale,collards or other such veggies.
We eat them with fufu(ugali-swahili,sadza-shona,nzima-tonga (i think) etc) This fufu(not the nigerian one) is corn mix like grits(only diff is its harder than grits or reg porridge)
DELICIOUS

Poppa Grande

June 26th, 2009
4:24 pm

AR

You thinking they DIDN’T have sex is not a fact either.

Presumption of Innocence. Not presumption of guilt.

He still has that right.

Whether it was today or two years ago, it’s hardly a appropriate relationship for a married man to have.

I agree with that. But she has had some on the side, too.

That doesn’t make it right for either of them.

Black Mamba AKA Princess Xiomara

June 26th, 2009
4:25 pm

Baron Von W8….I still know Thriller form beginning to end. I could win it! :lol:

SWISS…I now crown you Duke Whitey! :lol:

KIMMIE..you’d have to kill princess and queen off to get a promotion! :lol:

Professor

June 26th, 2009
4:26 pm

Hey Beautiful, how long were you married to him, and how long did he stay with his ex-wife? I hope you do not mind me asking…

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
4:26 pm

**Centennial Olympic Park @ 6pm: the Michael Jackson Thriller danceoff!!**

lmao. oh please let there be videos/pic on ajc.com!

Kym-Smooth Criminal eating Varsity for Lunch

June 26th, 2009
4:26 pm

W8 I don’t care if they shut down and dance in the streets. So long as they don’t do one of those funeral tours like they did with James Brown’s body. Not only that..I had to sit through the whole James Brown service because my aunties would not let anyone turn the tv at the family holiday party. Bury him and do it quickly…please for the children..don’t let it be Labor Day before they bury that man.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:27 pm

Not saying he had sex with her..but if I had a fine women from Argentina…I would..very WELL….lol

kimmie-Her Royal Highness the Dutchess

June 26th, 2009
4:27 pm

Staceye – Dang!

Professor

June 26th, 2009
4:28 pm

@Melo gotcha. I am familiar with the Nigerian fufu…if I ever start back cooking I will have to try it out.

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:28 pm

LOL I think it would be hilarious..if I didnt have plans tonight I would go see it..
This reminds me of the show Martin for some reason….KingBeef always having to dance..lmao

Baron Von W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 26th, 2009
4:29 pm

Dangit I forgot to post the results for the Blog Awards

Melo

June 26th, 2009
4:29 pm

But she has had some on the side, too.

is that confirmed PG?? Really,where??

If true,its a wash!!

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 26th, 2009
4:30 pm

“Duke Whitey”

Dang, Staceye — I mean, I know I’m white, but that sounds like I should be running for grand master or something… :lol:

Beautiful

June 26th, 2009
4:30 pm

@Professor
hey you! we shacked up for 8 yrs. we had everythang but the piece of pp. i’m not sure on how long he was married to her. my guess is 5 yrs.