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One size fits all

A little tip to the men: women like to feel as if she is special. Yes, we know that it can be annoying to you at times, but it is the truth. If a woman is dating a man and he doesn’t make her feel special, chances are he will lose her interest.

One of the ways we like to feel special is knowing that the man has put some real effort into getting to know her. Then doing thoughtful things that shows he, in fact, paid attention. It’s all really simple, actually. If you have some routine that you use that has worked on previous women (and by worked, I mean it got you laid), it doesn’t mean that your object of desire will like the same things.

I think some women can tell when a guy is going through the motion, using his same tired wooing techniques. Some of which are horrendous and don’t work. One size fits all does not apply to dating all the time. Mix it up, listen to her likes, and let her know that you think she is special by her special, customized treatment you give her.

Ladies, do you think single men use the one size fits all approach to dating and relationships? How can you tell when that is happening? What would you do if you noticed a guy doing this? Do you try to switch things up when you are seeing a guy?

Guys, why do some men use one size fits all? The same lines, routine, dating destinations, etc. Is it because it works so well? Perhaps it is just easier? If you meet a wonderful woman that you want to impress, do you make more efforts to make her feel special? Have you ever noticed a woman who tries to use the one size fits all approach with you? How did you know?

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Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
3:15 pm

Sassy Yes, i asked about that at a bbq. And the guy was like i use mesquite coals. ummm…a lil different taste to it.

Kingford rules the grill world.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
3:18 pm

Cee

I actually won my Weber. I bought a couple of raffle tickets for some group’s fund raiser and the grill was the prize. So, I bought 2 tickets for 1.00 a piece and got a $600 grill.

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 25th, 2009
3:19 pm

“Plus for u singles,dekalb is the ultimate meat market,go there saturday morning,u be confused, :arrow: shopping or hunting??”

Melo — I wish I had known about that place years ago… Every time I go there, I get approached by at least one helpful chica (usually an island chic), who warns me that those habaneras are hot now, sweetie:lol: Just an added benefit of not eating like a white boy… :lol:

Beautiful

June 25th, 2009
3:20 pm

i’m dating a new guy named KEITH who is a Sagittarius. yea, i’m in trouble! lol. since i’m needy, i feel that he doesn’t do enough to make me feel special. but of course i don’t whine bout it, cause he prolly thinks he’s doing ok with giving me the attention i need. *sigh*

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:21 pm

Aint no colleges in Colli Park

East Point's Own

June 25th, 2009
3:21 pm

AmazonRed definitely go before you try to take a date to the Forest Park/GA Farmer’s Market… its just different… sort of a drive through grocery store..LoL you shop from your car until you see something you want to pull over and buy… Well at least that’s how it used to be… but either way, you need to not make your date think you are a fruitcake… LoL

AmazonRed™ - in SC signing the anti-sloppy pimpin bill

June 25th, 2009
3:23 pm

uh ohh sounds like we going to have a ‘cue off…mm hmmm

W8 – My taste testing skills are legendary and as I tell my friends who are chefs who want to try out new recipes, I’m NEVER on a diet. :lol:

Leggs (Karyn)

June 25th, 2009
3:23 pm

@Melo, come here, I need a hug too! {{{{HUG}}}}!

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
3:24 pm

I’m so glad my silly butt can fire up a grill
Cemeeli me too. I had the grill burning last night.

Another one of my corny stories…

When the man came home yesterday there was an open can of Ravioli on the counter. He looked at me and asked if I was okay. Yeah I am fine. Why you ask? He picked up the can and asked “what is this?” I chuckled and told him that’s the boy’s dinner, here…lifting the foil from the plate where his rib eye was sitting marinating…is your dinner. The coals on the grill are getting hot.

He had to laugh at himself for that one.

Poppa I put Mase a potato on the grill but I cut some strips of zucchini and squash (I like to cut them the long way) and put on the grill for myself. I also cut up some bell peppers and placed them on there. I don’t use the grill basket, I just put the right on rack. I lightly cover the rack with Pam and put my veggies on there.
A couple of times I have made a foil pocket with veggies sealed in and put that on the grill but that is usually when I want more of a steamed veggies instead of roasted. I also like to use the foil pocket when I grill fish.

Sassy I do not like mesquite. I prefer hickory. Mason went to that bbq place on Edgewood shortly after they opened and brought us dinner home. It was okay but I could tell it was mesquite and not hickory.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
3:24 pm

Cee

My barrel grill cost 80.00. I used to have neighbor that made them. And sold them for 80 bucks. So, I got one.

I have a friend that live across the street from a guy that makes them and he says that they are 80 bucks, too.

I guess that I assumed that they were all 80 bucks.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:24 pm

Get a lot of fresh flowers from the Forest Park farmers market

Leggs (Karyn)

June 25th, 2009
3:27 pm

Damn Beautiful, how long you’ve been dating this guy? You talking like you guys been dating over 8 months. You used the operative word “new.” What do you want him to do differently? If you’re already sighing, it will only get worse. Tell him cuz as you say he thinks he’s doing alright! S

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:28 pm

W8 – My taste testing skills are legendary and as I tell my friends who are chefs who want to try out new recipes, I’m NEVER on a diet.

LOL- Okay I nominate Page’s house the dy of the 80’s party for the ‘cue off…thanks in Advance Page

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
3:28 pm

I actually won my Weber.

PoppaG

My friend won her Weber from Home Depot contest. Well they actually gave her $500 giftcard at HD and she bout a Weber i think she got a 300 grill. But it’s nice…we used it Sunday night.

In the summer i live where the grills are fired up. I just buy stuff for grilling when i’m at the marked.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...feeling more like Pandora :-)

June 25th, 2009
3:28 pm

Raqi I actually saw that place on Edgewood on the public broadcasting station on a show about the best bbq in the “A”. I heard it’s pretty good but I’ve yet to go.

SexyCool - It's why I move slowly.

June 25th, 2009
3:29 pm

Bucket List – One year with absolutely no schedule, letting the wind blow me and mine to new destinations off the beaten and all the regular attractions. Hours on end of making love whenever we feel like it. Days and days of watching the sunset over the ocean.

Ultimate Expectation – An unhurried life.

Page1908

June 25th, 2009
3:29 pm

Wow, Angie. Well, what would you like him to do instead that he is not doing? Is this a LD relationship?

abc

June 25th, 2009
3:29 pm

Raqi, I never even heard of ‘orange watermelon’ before, but I’d think you could find it at Harry’s or Whole Foods.

Smart Azz! :-)

AmazonRed™ - in SC signing the anti-sloppy pimpin bill

June 25th, 2009
3:29 pm

Angie – Good luck with that. You seem to sensitive to handle a Sagittarius but hey, you’ve gotten this far so anything can happen.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
3:30 pm

Raqi

I have never cooked a regular potato on the grill.

However, I roast sweet potatoes on there all of the time.

I’ve done your method of veggie, too.

I’ve grown my own zucchini the past couple of years. I didn’t plant any this year.

However, I have way too many tomatoes already. I had tomato sandwich earlier today.

Fried green tomatoes will be in works soon. I guess that Mrs. will make some tomato sauce soon.

Habernos, jalapenos, and banana peppers are all plentiful too.

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
3:31 pm

Poppa we have a barrel grill, a propane toy LOL, and a ground pit. The pit was originally built to be just for sitting around enjoying the outdoors in the cooler late fall early winter months. But it has become the bbq pit. Mason keeps saying he is going to get a small hog to put on there. That is going to have to be a party event ’cause that’s a lot of meat.

You know what maybe I can do that for his b-day. His brother can help me, he knows how to do that. Or maybe I can invite his former college buddy that lives in Florida. He grilled while we were down there. He may man the hog for us.

Page1908

June 25th, 2009
3:31 pm

LOL @ The ‘Cue Off Taco 80’s Party @ my house. Ugghhhh I need a grill. I haven’t gotten one yet *shrugs*. Ok, cool, I don’t mind a cue off. But I will not be eating anything beef! *gags*

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...feeling more like Pandora :-)

June 25th, 2009
3:31 pm

Gotta go…gotta go. Read y’all tomorrow, my niece and I have a date :)

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:32 pm

lol I caught these old men trying to steal my grill up in NY almost a month ago

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
3:33 pm

Cee

In the summer i live where the grills are fired up. I just buy stuff for grilling when i’m at the marked.

You know that area in which I live. (the hood) We have grills going even when its not summer.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:34 pm

@Raqi- Hog is the way to go…When I lived in Hawaii the locals taught me how to do it without a pit..just a hole in the ground, Palm tree leaves etc…best tasting meat ever

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:36 pm

@Page in the 80’s us black fols form the southeast werent eating taco’s unless the cafeteria was serving taco salad…90’s borught about Ranch sauce, Calamari and Talipia..in the 2000’s we messing with Sushi now….lmao

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
3:39 pm

W8

Hog is the way to go

I agree whole heartedly. I’ve seen it done with just a hole in the ground, too.

I guess the Texas Beef Farmers wouldn’t like us too much with all of the pig talk.

Leggs (Karyn)

June 25th, 2009
3:41 pm

Hey, just thought about this…we know death usually comes in 3’s…don’t you think David Carradine was the 1st even though his was an accidental death?

Page1908

June 25th, 2009
3:42 pm

*mean muggin @ W8* lol. so are you saying I am not black?

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
3:42 pm

PoppaG I have a crazy grill story..but i’ll share another day. Let’s just say I ended up wearing someones drank all over me that day.

But the barrell pits this guy has are those HUGE ones you see at tailgating. Start at 150 and up if i remember correctly.

Raqi Are you going to tell me i’m spoiling the boy? Cuase i find it a pet peeve of mine to not cook the same type meal for everyone in the house. If i make steak for someone else i make steak for the kid too…

I have a friend that makes the kids something seperate like spaghetti or hotdogs for the kids if she’s making crab boil, steak, shrimps…ect. I don’t understand…why not just make the same? It’s not like her kids don’t like those same meal ideas too. I don’t know why it bother’s me…but it does.

kimmie(Sheree)

June 25th, 2009
3:42 pm

Raqi – I like hickory better too.

Beautiful

June 25th, 2009
3:43 pm

@LEGGS
here’s something else you prolly don’t know bout me . . . i’m impatient too! lol. we’ve been dating a couple of weeks now. **BEAUTIFUL now dodging darts** and i plan to not complain bout anything. he’s a sweetie and i like him. don’t want him running cause i’m actin’ like a baby.

did you get my text yesterday???

@PAGE1908
hiya chica! what is a LD relationship? and i would like more of everything: calls, text msg, emails, etc.

@AMAZON
you right, cause y’all hyper than a mugg and always gotta be into something! i’m such a relaxed mellow type of person.

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
3:44 pm

Did he just call me a smart azz??? Oh no he didn’t. LOL

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
3:44 pm

Grilling in October is the BEST! Not hot and cooler breezes.

kimmie(Sheree)

June 25th, 2009
3:44 pm

Anybody ever done pineapple on the grill? I saw this recipe for grilled pineapple with a rum glaze/sauce on it that looks good.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:44 pm

Remember when we are at barley’s and you were talking to us and you kept using the word we…and I corrected you..due to your geographical location we are the we and you should use the term I..lmao..you are just in a different state now…lol.. You are as black as Obama..half…lmao

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:45 pm

@PG- A pig is okay with me..lol

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
3:46 pm

Cemeeli he had a choice and didn’t want steak. I even offered to make him a burger and he said he just wanted Ravioli. Hey I ain’t one for twisting arms. LOL

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
3:46 pm

@ Raqi – Trust, i have made seperate dinners too. I just don’t make it a point lik my gf does all the time.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
3:46 pm

Cee

But the barrell pits this guy has are those HUGE ones you see at tailgating. Start at 150 and up if i remember correctly.

you may wanna see if you wanna bargain with him. This economy may have affected him too. Some money is better than no money.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:47 pm

@Kimmie- I have..i’ve done them alone…or on salmon with a wood plank…or I will do some chicken breast sometimes with a pineapple bbq glaze

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
3:47 pm

Weight I have seen that before on the food channel. It looks interesting.

Melo

June 25th, 2009
3:47 pm

Swiss,u sound more like a tropical white boy! :lol:

nice place for fresh meats and veggies.Since u got an islander on tow,u will need lots of spices and cheese.Lots of diff cheese varieties in der.U need to keep her on her toes as soon as u sign her on.
We heading to Lake lanier for the 4th of July celebs.I have to go back there and get my quail,rabbit and beef,fish and sausages for the grill.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
3:48 pm

You can get a 55 gallon drum BBQ pit for well under $100. Hell I can make you one for 50 dollars

Page1908

June 25th, 2009
3:49 pm

LOL W8! Ok, so soup for you! Ok, from now on I will say “I” instead of “we”. ughhh.

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
3:49 pm

Raqi – That’s what i’m cool with too. If the did doesn’t want grilled shrimp (which is usually never) you get a hotdog. But ole girl always make something less appealing for her kids.

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 25th, 2009
3:50 pm

Being married is not about being with the right person but a matter of BEING the right person

That was Ryan Stewart’s quote of the day. I didn’t get who said it though, just thought it was a good one.

Beautiful

June 25th, 2009
3:51 pm

**grilled pineapple with a rum glaze/sauce**

that sounds yummy. i’ve seen this cooked on Food Network.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
3:51 pm

W8

You can get a 55 gallon drum BBQ pit for well under $100.

That’s what I’m thinking. $150 seems pricey. Drums don’t cost that much. Unless he does something special to it like add a little fridge to it or something.

Mine is a 55 gallon drum.