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One size fits all

A little tip to the men: women like to feel as if she is special. Yes, we know that it can be annoying to you at times, but it is the truth. If a woman is dating a man and he doesn’t make her feel special, chances are he will lose her interest.

One of the ways we like to feel special is knowing that the man has put some real effort into getting to know her. Then doing thoughtful things that shows he, in fact, paid attention. It’s all really simple, actually. If you have some routine that you use that has worked on previous women (and by worked, I mean it got you laid), it doesn’t mean that your object of desire will like the same things.

I think some women can tell when a guy is going through the motion, using his same tired wooing techniques. Some of which are horrendous and don’t work. One size fits all does not apply to dating all the time. Mix it up, listen to her likes, and let her know that you think she is special by her special, customized treatment you give her.

Ladies, do you think single men use the one size fits all approach to dating and relationships? How can you tell when that is happening? What would you do if you noticed a guy doing this? Do you try to switch things up when you are seeing a guy?

Guys, why do some men use one size fits all? The same lines, routine, dating destinations, etc. Is it because it works so well? Perhaps it is just easier? If you meet a wonderful woman that you want to impress, do you make more efforts to make her feel special? Have you ever noticed a woman who tries to use the one size fits all approach with you? How did you know?

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Tmac

June 25th, 2009
1:58 pm

WBK,

“Women play and then settle for what you should have taken in the first place. Men, who are charming, good looking, and physically attractive usually get the women first. The rest get left overs.”

That is so true man. only few smart women realize what they need or want early in time. You said, later they get what they should have gotten first place, I beg to differ, majority of them find themselves behind the game and rush for decision and settle for way way much less than they could have gotten the first place. I tend to feel pity for people’s misery especially woman but some I just enjoy. This (I am the hottest the smartest chick) sorta girl way back seven years ago broke my best friends heart. He by no means any guy but someone who deserve to be with her. AFter wandering around, she started dating this guy for six years and when she thought she was about to marry him, he dumped her and left her hangging. She is 36. If you know what it means to be single at that age in African community, you would understand. She now has nothing. No that young gloomy features, at this age she pretty much not wanted by the guys in the our community at least.

Me and my buddy laughed our ass off the day we heard. I know its mean but hey you get what you deserve.

So yea, only lucky once settle for what they should have settled a while back but some end up in missery (except the Staceye types who cant make it a day in African community)

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 25th, 2009
1:58 pm

Bucket List:
Drive Across the Country
Visit Greece, Italy, more parts of Africa
Run a 10k (5k is on my 40 before 40 list)

Where’s Lioness today?

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
1:59 pm

@Raqi- Calm down..lol..wooosahhhh

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
1:59 pm

Leggs

You can have the attention w/o sex, but I gotcha point.

Who said that he had sex with her this weekend? This thing has gone on for a while. The Columbia SC newspaper has had those emails for nearly 6 months. So, this isn’t new. All that he said was that he has been unfaithful to his wife. He didn’t specify when.

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 25th, 2009
2:00 pm

“do you know where to get orange watermelon? I was telling my son about it and he thinks I am kidding.”

Raqi — Dekalb Farmers Market usually has some. Can you pick me up one while you’re there? :-)

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:00 pm

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:04 pm

Are there any lactating mothers out there who wants to feed my baby just one feeding? I need to go take a cold shower before I attempt this.

You all make me bad. Imma leave yall alone. LOL

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
2:04 pm

Bucket List was good!

AmazonRed™ - in SC signing the anti-sloppy pimpin bill

June 25th, 2009
2:05 pm

Girl have you ever had a man blow on your skin? That’s an experience to be had

Raqi – My college boyfriend would leave wet kisses on my neck, and then blow on that spot to give me a little chill and make the hairs stand up.

I had to steal that one from him. :lol:

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:05 pm

Thanks Cheddar

Let’s see, My Bucket List…

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 25th, 2009
2:05 pm

“question what should i do..live under your thumb and paint your toenails.”

“Rell Yep. That is so freaking hot when you do with patience and grace. Approach it like you love it and then pucker your lips and blow them dry.”

Rell / Raqi — I guess I’d be in danger of having my man card revoked if I admitted that I paint Swiss Miss’s toenails, huh? :lol: Then again, that give me a good excuse to keep her legs in the air afterward while the polish dries… :lol:

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
2:05 pm

lol@Raqi- woooosaahhhhhhhh

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
2:07 pm

Woohoooo- I get to shower and shave today..been dang near living in a van the past 48 hours

Rell - anti-simp machine

June 25th, 2009
2:07 pm

@simpin azz tmac….man whats up with men crying ova deez hoes…if the chick cheating on you or leaving you…SHE DID YOU A FAVOR…dude there is not a women alive that does not want to belong to A MAN…maybe your boy should have kept his nutz in his boxers and not in her purse…lol

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
2:11 pm

PoppaG/W8 – You know you’re a native if you remember getting the fruit from the Frut man in the Westend.

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
2:11 pm

@ Raqi – Are u engorged?

Rell - anti-simp machine

June 25th, 2009
2:12 pm

@RAQI..now that is love….bravo for him….lol…but me ioknow bout dat..lol

kimmie(Sheree)

June 25th, 2009
2:12 pm

Hey Sister Cee!!

Oh, and by the way, plenty men have had GOOD women early in their lives and didn’t recognize until it was too late. Too busy sowing their oats and smelling themselves. They were not READY. It works BOTH ways!

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
2:12 pm

@Ce- I will not discuss WestEnd exploits with you..lol

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:13 pm

1. Write a documentary on human un-behavior
2. Pray at the Wailing Wall
3. Stomp grapes in Italy

Leggs (Karyn)

June 25th, 2009
2:13 pm

@PoppaG, I don’t know if they had sex or not, I was only cleaning up something I said in my earlier post. Calm down! (lol)!

Bucket List: (1) go visit Victoria Falls, (2) finish writing my children books (one more to go) and get them published, (3) join the skymile club (J K too risky now), take pottery classes, just to name a few.

I want some sweet, cold watermelon.

AmazonRed™ - in SC signing the anti-sloppy pimpin bill

June 25th, 2009
2:15 pm

She is 36. If you know what it means to be single at that age in African community, you would understand. She now has nothing. No that young gloomy features, at this age she pretty much not wanted by the guys in the our community at least.

:| :arrow:

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
2:15 pm

while looking around for Tazzee…whew, i hope she went to the cleaners for me or sumthin! :) .

W8 – Dat’s why you stank. Let that soap work for ya bruh.

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:15 pm

Nigh Cemeeli. She won’t let me go that long. She eats on time. She is going to start moving in her bassinet in about 10 minutes. Clock work.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
2:15 pm

Cee

You know you’re a native if you remember getting the fruit from the Frut man in the Westend.

One of my grandpas had a spot in one of the sheds at the State Farmer’s Market in Forest Park. So, we got a lot of fruits and veggies there.

We got a lot of groceries at the grocery store at the farmer’s market. I still remember the man calling out the prices to the ladies at the register. Everything was sold in bulk there. It was the Sam’s Warehouse before Sam’s was here.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
2:15 pm

@Kimmie- I know my trifling azz let some good ones get away back in the day..

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 25th, 2009
2:16 pm

Leggs – Victoria Falls is BEEYOOOTEEFULL! But make sure you wear a raincoat, don’t be fooled.

AmazonRed™ - in SC signing the anti-sloppy pimpin bill

June 25th, 2009
2:16 pm

They were not READY. It works BOTH ways!

Very true.

If living single is more a priority in your life then building a relationship, then by all means stay single. Or get a mail order bride who doesn’t give a rats azz about what you do with your time.

Cuz you should want to spend a majority of your time with the person you’re with, once you’re married you will. Even better is to find a Bonnie to your Clyde who likes to kick it and do the things you like with your friends just as you do.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 25th, 2009
2:17 pm

W8 – Dat’s why you stank. Let that soap work for ya bruh.

@Ce- I smell like a man…LUV IT..LUV IT!!!

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:18 pm

Rell what’s wrong with that? It one of those things you do for the special lady. Mason had never done it before but he did it for me. Hot I tell ya.

Oh yeah I did have to clean up the edges a little when he finished but the fact that he did it for me was hot.

He blew on my skin afterwards. :wink:

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
2:20 pm

Raqi Well in 5 minutes you will have already know, because of what your body already will be doing for the baby.

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
2:21 pm

PoppaG My moms likes Forest Park’s Farmers Market. I haven’t been down there in a while.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
2:21 pm

Leggs

Victoria Falls is gorgeous.

The only place that I’ve always wanted to go but haven’t made it there: Sydney Australia.

Kym-is avoiding an issue.

June 25th, 2009
2:22 pm

Tazzeee is that when Comcast will free us and give me my NFL back? Cause I went to bed last night with visions of men in football pants. “Run..Run..run slower..not to slower..not to fast..oh just run.
LOL.

Bucket List

Visit Botswana(read the No 1 Ladies Detective Agency books and it sounds beautiful)
Visit Alaska
Learn to fire a gun(my family and friends are protesting this)
Go to a home game at Heinz field
Go to a Superbowl game

East Point's Own

June 25th, 2009
2:23 pm

Raqi I presonally do not see myself dating after rejection or a broken engagement… Now that is not to say that down the road we could not end up married, but I woudl go my own way after the rejection… if it works out that we end up together… so be it. Although I would be skeptical of her motivation to get back with me.

Surprisingly I have run into a few people who are married now, but they have stories of how the man had to ask 2 or 3 times because the woman said no. I don’t know if I should admire the man’s drive and determination or if I should think he was being a whipped little puppy who just took whatever treatment the woman dished out.

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:23 pm

Cemeeli they are full but not engorged. I know engorged. It hurts, almost. LOL

Rell - anti-simp machine

June 25th, 2009
2:23 pm

Rell what’s wrong with that? It one of those things you do for the special lady. Mason had never done it before but he did it for me. Hot I tell ya

- no hate lady…its cool you guys can do that…its cool he can submit himself as a man to do that and you still respect

hell some women out here run lil test like that to deem if you are a man or not…feel me….i meet a women yesterday and she told me flat out I WILL TEST YOU TO SEE HOW MUCH YOU WILL LET ME GET AWAY WITH…and this was after i told her to get off the dayum phone she was on my time…she said why you cant be on mine…i said…did i say it in spanish or english..get off the phone…lol….

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
2:24 pm

Cee

My moms likes Forest Park’s Farmers Market. I haven’t been down there in a while.

I took my wife earlier this month. It was the first time that she had been. I hadn’t been since high school.

I got some plums and some ears silver queen corn. Yum!

AmazonRed™ - in SC signing the anti-sloppy pimpin bill

June 25th, 2009
2:27 pm

PG – Is Forest Park just as good as DeKalb? Cuz I think FP is closer to me, and I do want to spend more time shopping organically.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
2:27 pm

Kym

Heinz Field is nice. I love outdoor stadiums for football though.

I hate domes for football.

Melo

June 25th, 2009
2:27 pm

Kimmie/Leggs,the wife is very gorgeous.
On Larry King last nite,Ben Stein joked that if she was cheated by an argentinian,then that girl must have something going on.
I agree.
It must be that southern thang with these southern divas.Plenty kids,nice home but not sexxing up the man coz u content with housewife and all.
If u aint delivering the goods but concentrating ur attn on those 4 boys alone,u be left alone.These political guys are so demanding,in politics and in the bedroom,They luv to be pampered and romanced,smething the baptist preachers are getting right to their bible thumpers,esp women.
Just as well she got money.
But i bet u,mrs argentina got nothing on the wife if u go by looks alone.
But her hips and chikapa/flip-toss are it!! Hence the wife’s loss.
Go governor!!
:grin:

Kym-has confronted the issue and is not sure what the next step should be.

June 25th, 2009
2:28 pm

The couples I know didn’t break up or feel rejected they were like ok so we are not getting married and just kept it moving. Dif folks–Dif Strokes.

Tazzee - countdown to August 1 when I can watch NFLN again

June 25th, 2009
2:28 pm

Cemeeli – alright… I’m assuming you got word that you’ll be able to go tonight????

Kym – yes, August 1 is the date. I had to make sure it was before preseason started when I got Comcast. But I feel like I’m missing so much. Superbowl game is on my list too – but only if the Falcons are there…so they have to go before I die – and before I cut my hair, since Vick can’t keep that promise anymore ;-)

Leggs (Karyn)

June 25th, 2009
2:29 pm

I have this thing for waterfalls…absolutely love them, but have never seen one. I must make that top of my bucket list. Awww to kiss under a waterfall or inside one gives me goosebumps…I’m not kidding!

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:29 pm

hell some women out here run lil test

Rell those women are stupid. I am too old to playing damn mind games. If painting my nails gets me hot…guess what you will benefit from it too.

What’s the difference in him painting my toenails and him shaving my v-spot? (Dang did I type that? LOL) Heck both of them are something a woman does for herself but I bet you I won’t find too many fellows turning down trimming at the V. Man do what is good for you and yours.

And remember I said a “special lady”. Only a trifling trick will be subjecting you to test and games.

Now let me go be a mother.

Poppa Grande

June 25th, 2009
2:30 pm

AR

The forest Park farmer market is affiliated with the state. It has real georgian farmers selling products that they grew. some buy things to sell, too. But most of my life, the stuff sold there was all grown in Georgia.

It is open air (aka outside in the heat).

Cemeeli

June 25th, 2009
2:31 pm

W8 “Phooey” is the word for you today.

PoppaG You should shuck that corn and fry it. YUMMY!

Rell - anti-simp machine

June 25th, 2009
2:32 pm

Only a trifling trick will be subjecting you to test and games.

-lol…yea i know…thats why i ask for my hr back of my time wasted….lol

Raqi

June 25th, 2009
2:32 pm

And one more thing Rell if she shaves your whiskers or shapes you up…what does that say about her other than she is doing something special for her man?

AmazonRed™ - in SC signing the anti-sloppy pimpin bill

June 25th, 2009
2:33 pm

Only a trifling trick will be subjecting you to test and games.

Fo sho. :lol: