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Where is your label?

Sexual orientation can be a touchy topic among single people on the dating scene. Some people want to know immediately; some try to guess, while others make a fool of themselves with assumptions. Do you think it is rude and impolite to inquire about sexual orientation?

I am a pretty friendly person so a lot of times I like to get clarification about whether I am engaging in friendly chat with a stranger or if we are checking each other out for potential romance, number exchange, or whatever. I have simply asked outright. Not in a malicious way or to offend, I just put it out there so I can get clarity: Do you date women, men, or both?

Do you ask people their orientation when you first meet them? Have you ever been asked the “which team are you playing for” type of question? How did you react?

I have known women who consider themselves bisexual. I am not sure if it means anything, but they currently are seeking/are in relationships with men. Their attraction for women is still there and they openly tell men about their past experiences and it does not seem to impede them.

Guys, what do you think about women who have had relationships with both genders? Could you see yourself in a serious relationship with one?

Ladies, if a man admitted to having prior experiences with other men, is that an immediate turn off for you? Do you feel comfortable discussing this type of thing with someone you are getting to know?

What do you think about sexual labels: straight, gay, bisexual..etc. Are they necessary or not important?

Touchy topic, so let’s keep the discussion adult and clean.

864 comments Add your comment

Melo

June 24th, 2009
12:11 pm

i wish i was bi…i’m guessing because life is more simple for them. how great is that to be with a female who knows what you’re talkin’ bout and feeling

that qualifies u to be bi-curious.
Try it,u might like it but understand that u perpertusting debauchery and heathenism!!
I wld rather sin, phlucking str8!
Just me.
:lol:

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
12:13 pm

If a bunch of women are at a place..say Barely’s and start grabbing each others breast..is that a lesbian tendency..cuz if I say a bunch of guys grabbing other guys crotches I would thing that would be a homosexual tendency…lmao

mytw♥cents...la di da di

June 24th, 2009
12:15 pm

Are we still talking Straight GLBT? Mytwo Theory# 4080. “Every gay man kinda wants to be a Black woman.” One time this guy (a friend of a friend who was way outta the closet) was being flirty. I was like you’re not serious so stop practicing on me. After like 5 mins of claiming to only be there for “networking purposes” he broke down & was like well can I study you and your friend, you girls are divalicious! hahaaaa But what was said was the pics of the wife & 2kids in Alabama he showed us.

I’m real okay- no, better than okay- with folk being who they really are. So if/when I ask it’s in a very humane way and most ppl can easily divine that you can tell .02 anything & it probably won’t faze me. I’d expect for a dude to be taken aback, MAYBE slightly outraged, but would be irked by a homophobic response.

Grace

June 24th, 2009
12:16 pm

Corysta the information I obtained from my GBF, spooners only cuddle no penetration, they get pleasure from just holding each other…..top, bottom and flip floppers are self explanitory :)

M'

June 24th, 2009
12:16 pm

@Blah

You do not read very well nor comprehend…I never said that the gay culture was secretive arse…and I also stated that I have been involved with male friends in the gay culture for 31 years…so I am very familiar with it…thank you queen of tude…what I stated was that there is no guaranteed way of knowing who is or is not gay by appearance or behaviors…what I have stated is that there is a strong association of ATL with a prevalent DL scene b/c of the long held gay underground culture hear and associated STD clusters with that activity here…both facts…and btw, the problem for me is not whether or not a man is gay…it is the men who are not honest and still play like the heteroinguisehomosexual…that is the deception I abhor.

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
12:16 pm

W8 – Why do grown men slap each other on the booty? :lol:

(yeah, but I personally ain’t down for the boobage grabbing thing… :lol: )

Beautiful

June 24th, 2009
12:17 pm

@INFAMOUS
if i were to visit the swingers club, i would just be there to watch. lol. and if i were bi, my chick would be a beyonce’ type. butches wouldn’t be my type. and i’m not really wanting to experience it. i don’t desire to be with a woman like that. i’ll stick with dizzle, thanks.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
12:18 pm

@Ared- I played sports all of my life HS, Collegiate, All Army..we Hi-Fived

Demi...Fromer Proud Lesbian!!!

June 24th, 2009
12:18 pm

Great topic…bad I am in a rental car with my mom and her two grand-kids….we’re heading to a family reunion…to spend quality time with family members…I actually like

blatino…buck them down for me, LOL

Grace

June 24th, 2009
12:18 pm

W8 If a woman grab/rub my breast she’s a lesbian trying to be slick about it. :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 24th, 2009
12:18 pm

Everybody I have an announcement..

I’m a Lesbian. There I feel so much better. Whew!

Demi...Former Proud Lesbian!!!

June 24th, 2009
12:19 pm

Speed typing on the PDA is no joke!!!

Page1908

June 24th, 2009
12:20 pm

Spoiled Lioness-

June 24th, 2009
12:20 pm

W8- I think it is childish & silly.. But it could be for attention or cause they truly curious about women..
Thanks for the heads up with the “Rainbow Floks” term but I am going to use it anyways.. I see that symbol on cars & knows what it stands for so I don’t think it is offensive at all :)

Leggs (Karyn)

June 24th, 2009
12:20 pm

@Beautiful, a lot of lesbian women will fight you like a dude. They are a volatile group of women.

I literally laughed out loud at you W8…that was funny and yeah, we did it…too funny!

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 24th, 2009
12:20 pm

Beautiful – Ok Babe.. I gotcha. I got Chevy thats blue like a whirlwind though.. Just in case.

Cafe

June 24th, 2009
12:20 pm

I like to ask but that sometimes in iteself can be risky. As a lesbian and with so many bisexual women these days, it’s an important question to ask. Some people are just flirty and/or just down right charming so it’s good to ask. I don’t ask in the workplace though – that’s where it gets risky. The other risk is that there is still a stigma attached to Lesbianism and I think some women will say they are bisexual just to keep their options open. The ones that really get me are the married women with “but my husband knows and is cool with it.” Different strokes for different folks I guess.

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
12:21 pm

W8 – Dang it, OK. :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...feeling more like Pandora :-)

June 24th, 2009
12:21 pm

Does it taste like chicken?……..

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
12:21 pm

It’s amazing how the world tries to force you to be tolerant but as soon as you push back with our own thoughts you are wrong for doing so.

@Atleast “blah” is smooth with his approach..but some are like “IM HERE!!!!”

DJ Sniper

June 24th, 2009
12:22 pm

Beautiful, I know the place you’re talking about. I haven’t been in a while, and from what I hear, the new management ain’t too friendly. Yea, you definitely won’t see two dudes getting down in that spot at all.

Spoiled Lioness-

June 24th, 2009
12:23 pm

Isn’t being hetero & homo JUST a sexuality? Why wear your sexuality on your sleeve?

Tazzee - countdown to NFL season

June 24th, 2009
12:24 pm

Tazzee – I do think we here in America are very secretive when it comes to sex and sexuality. I should be able to say I like having sex on my front porch late at night without being labeled a freak. At least I wait for the children to go to bed. Dang!

Huh??? What’d I say to warrant that comment?

Demi...Former Proud Lesbian!!!

June 24th, 2009
12:25 pm

(My girlfriend have just as much drama with her relationships/dating as I have had with mine).

So true…their relationships can be much more dangerous than straight men and women or gay men relationships…I think the level of emotional investment tend to run higher in lesbian relationships…

SexyCool - I'm so 3000 and 8. You so 2000 and late.

June 24th, 2009
12:25 pm

Demi Former Proud Lesbian? Does that mean you’re no longer PROUD? or no longer a LESBIAN?

Spoiled Lioness-

June 24th, 2009
12:25 pm

Cafe- Welcome! I think it is necessary for lesbians to ASK first before making a regular conversation awkward..

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 24th, 2009
12:26 pm

Taz – Maybe I got you mixed up with someone else. Or maybe I just wanted to proclaim my love of front porch action..

Beautiful

June 24th, 2009
12:26 pm

@CUTIE
yes and no. like i said, i don’t desire to be with women, but you have to agree that we are the sexiest mf on earth!

@PAGE1908
follow-up questions for sho! i’m not down with a business marriage, obligated to marry, arranged marriage, etc. even though i heard arranged marriages have a better success rate.

blah

June 24th, 2009
12:26 pm

M…Again, the shady gay men you associate with may engage in the behavior you abhor, but the point i was making is that the vast majority of gay men in Atlanta are in no way trying to get with a woman sexually. Just because a couple of your friends are messy doesn’t mean all, or even most, of gay Atlanta is.

I can guarantee you that when you were in Django, one or two men might’ve been concerned about you recognizing them from a straight setting, but the hundreds and hundreds of other gay men who were there probably didn’t recognize your existence — that’s how unconcerened they are with women, or with trying to maintain a front.

@Amazing Red — Stay encouraged! Django only host gay (aka “fun”) parties on Sunday night :) so most other nights it’s frequented by heterosexual men and women.

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
12:26 pm

Sassy you are FIRED! :lol: Please pack up your stuff! Your last check will be mailed to you!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...feeling more like Pandora :-)

June 24th, 2009
12:27 pm

Or maybe it tastes like bologna….

Spoiled Lioness-

June 24th, 2009
12:27 pm

DK- You are a FOOL!!

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
12:27 pm

@Sassy–LMAO are you asking the men or women if it tastes like chicken

SexyCool - I'm so 3000 and 8. You so 2000 and late.

June 24th, 2009
12:28 pm

This North Korea thing is unsettling.

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
12:28 pm

Django only host gay (aka “fun”) parties on Sunday night so most other nights it’s frequented by heterosexual men and women

blah, thanks for the 411. I have only been there on the oocaisonal Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays.

I would go on a Sunday. I don’t have a problem with gays, it’s just that the times I’ve been to django’s I’ve been hit on. So I was all confused. :lol:

Spoiled Lioness-

June 24th, 2009
12:29 pm

Angie- I can ONLY speak for myself :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Sassy- You talking about the Taco?

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...feeling more like Pandora :-)

June 24th, 2009
12:29 pm

AmRed I couldn’t help it…it was like a reflex or something….I towwy….I won’t do it again :mrgreen: :lol: :)

Beautiful

June 24th, 2009
12:29 pm

@SNIPER
trapeze!!! the trap. lol.

Leggs (Karyn)

June 24th, 2009
12:30 pm

@Kimmie ~ Lemonade:

6 lemons
1 cup white sugar
6 cups cold water

DIRECTIONS
Juice the lemons to make 1 cup of juice. To make your labor easier, FIRMLY roll the lemons between your hand and counter top before cutting in half and juicing.
In a gallon pitcher combine 1 cup lemon juice, 1 cup sugar, and 6 cups cold water. Stir. Adjust water to taste. Chill and serve over ice.

Classic recipe, can’t go wrong!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...feeling more like Pandora :-)

June 24th, 2009
12:30 pm

Lioness yes I was referring to the “taco”….I’se just asking…..

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
12:30 pm

lol@ yall talking about Trapeze…lmao…

Melo

June 24th, 2009
12:30 pm

Barely’s and start grabbing each others breast..is that a lesbian tendency

W8,dont pay that too much attn,it just means that those females are waaay too much fun to hang with!

Spoiled Lioness-

June 24th, 2009
12:31 pm

Blah- Why do you think most men that like both are so secrective??

M- I forgot to give you a :lol: :lol: :lol: for your 12:16 comment

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
12:31 pm

I couldn’t help it…it was like a reflex or something….I towwy….I won’t do it again

Sassy – Okay. You’re on probation then….but I saw the bologna comment too you rascal!!! :lol:

Spoiled Lioness-

June 24th, 2009
12:31 pm

Mine doesn’t taste like chicken AT ALL!!

Demi...Former Proud Lesbian!!!

June 24th, 2009
12:32 pm

(Said like a proud Klan member…with 1st grade education)

DK….AMEN BRRRRRROTHER!!!!!!

There is nothing with a man being in a loving relationship with multiple women at the same time!!!!

Now go forth and spread the Lesbiatonia Doctrines!!!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...feeling more like Pandora :-)

June 24th, 2009
12:32 pm

W8 haven’t thought about it from that angle but I guess either could answer….so which is it heavy W8.

SexyCool - I'm so 3000 and 8. You so 2000 and late.

June 24th, 2009
12:32 pm

I would think not. It’s spoiled. (jokes, jokes)

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
12:33 pm

@Sassy- I have never tasted one that tasted like chicken

Tazzee - countdown to NFL season

June 24th, 2009
12:33 pm

Anyone participating in the Atlanta HBCU Alumni 5k this Saturday? If so, I’ll see you there.

FIRMLY roll the lemons between your hand and counter top before cutting in half and juicing My grandma taught me that trick when I was just a tot.