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Where is your label?

Sexual orientation can be a touchy topic among single people on the dating scene. Some people want to know immediately; some try to guess, while others make a fool of themselves with assumptions. Do you think it is rude and impolite to inquire about sexual orientation?

I am a pretty friendly person so a lot of times I like to get clarification about whether I am engaging in friendly chat with a stranger or if we are checking each other out for potential romance, number exchange, or whatever. I have simply asked outright. Not in a malicious way or to offend, I just put it out there so I can get clarity: Do you date women, men, or both?

Do you ask people their orientation when you first meet them? Have you ever been asked the “which team are you playing for” type of question? How did you react?

I have known women who consider themselves bisexual. I am not sure if it means anything, but they currently are seeking/are in relationships with men. Their attraction for women is still there and they openly tell men about their past experiences and it does not seem to impede them.

Guys, what do you think about women who have had relationships with both genders? Could you see yourself in a serious relationship with one?

Ladies, if a man admitted to having prior experiences with other men, is that an immediate turn off for you? Do you feel comfortable discussing this type of thing with someone you are getting to know?

What do you think about sexual labels: straight, gay, bisexual..etc. Are they necessary or not important?

Touchy topic, so let’s keep the discussion adult and clean.

864 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
3:33 pm

PG hit it on the head, no need to turn down the physical attributes you possess, just let ‘em know that you bout yo issue in the approach and they’ll get it

Dan and PG – Now we all know that there is sexy and there is “in your face sexy.” Not like I’m the type of girl to get mad because I have on a short skirt and guys look at my legs. But the stuff in question IS attention getting. I can’t lie about that. Just because I can pull it off (apperently) doesn’t mean it doesn’t give folks the wrong idea.

I’m just saying it’s made me cognizant of the power.

And to be real, if a woman is not getting the TYPE of attention they seek, they need to look within and see what they are doing to contribute. So that’s all I’m saying.

But I’m not about to start wearing a nun’s habit or anything. :lol:

Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!

June 24th, 2009
3:34 pm

Cafe- By the “Swirl” I mean, do you date outside of your race.. I have no clubs/bars to refer you to.. Sorry :(

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 24th, 2009
3:34 pm

Tonto, jump on it, jump on it, jump on it…
Kemosabi, jump on it, jump on it, jump on it…
Custer, jump on it, jump on it, jump on it…
Apache, jump on it, jump on it, wowowowowowowowowo!!
A-hunga-hunga-hunga-hunga

Cafe

June 24th, 2009
3:36 pm

@Cemeeli – I agree with you!!!!!!!!!

Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!

June 24th, 2009
3:36 pm

DK- Yous the fool for today!!

blah

June 24th, 2009
3:37 pm

Dan, again I respectfully disagree.

Gay marriage has been illegal in Georgia since 1996. When we voted on the constitutional amendment in 2004, it was not about gay marriage, since that’s already illegal. It was about gay people’s dignity, our humanity, both of which were roundly rejected.

There are many people, including some posters on this blog, who think we are disgusting vile threats to america and to the family. they think we are sinners who are gettin to incur the wrath of a vengeful god. When you hear those messages, and for hundreds of years those were the ONLY messages gay people heard about themselves, that is indeed an assualt on one’s humanity.

Cafe

June 24th, 2009
3:37 pm

@Spoiled Lioness – yes – I do date outside my race – I do not discriminate. Believe it or not, a lot of other races do NOT date outside their race. LOL

Kym-may still be under the effects of the Texas Gold-nawww

June 24th, 2009
3:38 pm

@blah you don’t know me so you don’t shyt about what kind of person I am. Now did I once say anything about you other than to point out your itchazz behavior? But you are one of those who likes playing victim so play on Rainbow Bright..play on.

Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!

June 24th, 2009
3:38 pm

CAfe- That is wonderful! Since 4?? WOW, that is young..

Beautiful

June 24th, 2009
3:38 pm

@Foots
where you @?

Poppa Grande

June 24th, 2009
3:38 pm

AR

You know my mantra – “Do You.”

You have to look and that face in the mirror.

I don’t give a flying Fig Newton about what others think. I guess that is just me. But I know it is and I am comfortable with it.

Cafe

June 24th, 2009
3:39 pm

@blah – THANK YOU!!!!!! You said it well! My parents always tought us that until you walk in someone’s shoes, there’s no way to know their experience.

Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!

June 24th, 2009
3:39 pm

Kym- :lol: :lol: :lol: Consistently going hard!

Tmac- Dude, are you stalking Staceye?

SexyCool - Laughing again.

June 24th, 2009
3:39 pm

Last I checked, we were all the human r…never mind.

kimmie(Sheree)

June 24th, 2009
3:39 pm

Kym – Yeah, you puttin it down! Preach fellow native ATLian!

Cafe

June 24th, 2009
3:40 pm

@Spoiled Lioness – yes – I have a few extra “godmothers” – they were all the beautiful women at church. I would charm them even then. LOL I was told at 9 that I couldn’t charm them any more. LOL

Melo

June 24th, 2009
3:40 pm

Don’t let these horny arse men out here stop you from being you-Leggs

Leggs and u chics on the blog: u have us men in a conundrum,tell yah!

We get horny, u sayits bad and u go deregetory on us,
We go flat and all wrinkled,non responsive and non risers/non-hardened,ohhh gholy(hands in the air,wailing!!!), they on too much medication messing up with the wangs,cant have that!!

What is is u want us men to do!

Go on,get Cafe and Blah then since thats the topic today, lets see what use u have with them 2 shims??

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

abc

June 24th, 2009
3:41 pm

Okay then, one more time on the 3/5’s compromise.

At issue in the 1787 Convention in Philadelphia was how to apportion representation in Congress. Population was the obvious metric. The Southern states wanted to count the slave population toward the amount of representation they’d get in Congress; Northern states wanted the slave population to not count at all in that regard. After all, they were slaves and abolition was already well underway at that time; and slaves couldn’t vote. The North didn’t want the South to have a slave state mindset affecting legislation and law on a national basis.

The compromise was to count the slave population at a rate of 3/5 per person. That limited representation to enough of an extent that the South couldn’t override Northern influence on legislation, due to slave population in Southern states. Southern states wanted to propagate a slave-based economy; Northern states did not.

It is NOT a statement of human worth. The 3/5 compromise served to limit Southern influence in Congress.

For Real

June 24th, 2009
3:41 pm

While being buckket nakked For Real is now pulling Scool’s skirt up and spanking her with a mixture of baby powder and KY.

blah

June 24th, 2009
3:41 pm

Kym, your disfunction screams louder than your ALL CAPS POSTINGS. You’ve been nothing but ugly while other people tried to engage in respectful dialogue. You are a lost cause. Gay or straight, I hope you find someone who can love such a dejected heart.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
3:42 pm

imma do meee..imma do meeeeee

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
3:43 pm

I don’t give a flying Fig Newton about what others think.

PG – It’s not about that. Cuz I don’t care what folks think. Especially if they think I’m sexy.

It’s about getting what you want out of life and how your actions may or may not be contributing to that situation.

I’m already used to folks staring at me in 3 inch heels. Now they’re 4 inches and it’s a different type of attention.

For Real

June 24th, 2009
3:43 pm

“Dan, I have to disagree, specifically with the constitutionality of the hate directed at both groups. Black people were made 3/5 of a person in the constitution. Gay people, across this nation, have been repudiated in state constitutions via anti-marriage amendments. Of course, people will view marriage as a luxury or something that doesn’t deny the existence of gay people, but it is still an extremely powerful expression of discrimination for a government to include it in it’s constitution, no matter who it is directed at, for whatever reason.” – First you are comparing the US Constitution stating that Black people are only 3/5 of a human to gay’s right to marriage. (No comparison you should state your case for marriage on its own merits.) Second, the only thing that State recognized married does is give the spouse access to each others money/property and the right to add them to their medical insurance. Now, I believe every American that pays for medical insurance should have the right to place anyone that they choose on their medical insurance regardless of their marital or relationship status.
“I think there is no value in “comparing” discrimination, to see who has it worse. And I think that’s the trap we fall into as gay people, saying our discrimination is the same as other people’s, and the mistake we make as black people, believing we have a patent on discrimination. Discrimination comes in many unique forms.” – To describe what Black people face as “Discrimination” is sinful. There has been and I do not believe there will ever be anything comparable to Slavery. Lets not forget that an entire country was founded upon Slavery. With that being said, I agree comparing discrimination is pointless and no Black do not have patent on “discrimination”. However, every discrimination that gay people face stems from their choice. Everyone has to be responsible for the consequence of their decisions whether those consequences are right or wrong.
“The main problem I have with gay people comparing our struggle to blacks is that many, many gay people have absolutely no interest in equality and ending discrimination, they have no interest in the black civil rights movement, until it can be used to bolster their case. That is insulting and misguided. On the flip side, as black people who have endured outright discrimination and subtle oppression, I think we could show more empathy to a group that is enduring outright discrimination and subtle oppression, and it quiet honestly hurts that so many of my brothers and sisters reject our reject our experience or belittle our oppression, simply because they have not endured it firsthand.” – Here is what’s so difficult for Black people to understand about gay people. Black people had no say in the discrimination and oppression that they experience. Then you have a group of people that make the decisions they know will cause them to experience discrimination and oppression. It just doesn’t make sense when you can be gay as you want to be and no one has to know. Oh and you will have to show me where gay people are being oppressed cause I haven’t seen gay oppression anywhere.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
3:43 pm

Got myself a Kim sandwich over here…
Kimmie/W8/Kym

Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!

June 24th, 2009
3:43 pm

Melo- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Cafe- Are you the female in your relationship or the male?

Blah- Same question for you too..

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 24th, 2009
3:43 pm

ooh..wow..yeah..

You are a bad bad Mrs.
In them skin tight britches
Runnin’ folks in ditches
Baby about to bust the stitches, yeah

Skin tight (skin tight)
wow skin tight
(doo doo doo doo doo)
Skin tight
Hold tight!

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
3:44 pm

PG – In addition, I’m not clueless enough to sit there looking like “a bimbo” and then wonder why no one takes me seriously.

Cemeeli

June 24th, 2009
3:44 pm

@ Cafe – Auh…thanks. Lol

@ I’on know why aint no body dancing with me and this “It’s Over”…i like to be jammin’ by myself…but i invited ya’ll this time! :)

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
3:44 pm

I love living in the Bible Belt sometimes..and don’t let Atlanta fool you take the crap 30 miles outside of 285 in any direction and you will have a rude awakening

Demigod33 (via PDA)

June 24th, 2009
3:44 pm

I would like to see a video of tazz and wise Diva…with jazzyone playing the role of mother

Cafe

June 24th, 2009
3:45 pm

@blah – THANK YOU!!!! Once again! LOL could be a closet case you know. So much hatred is very sad.

abc

June 24th, 2009
3:45 pm

Poppa, yes, women counted less than a full person as well. But the only application of all that was to limit representation, and entitlement to federal funds as well.

It’s a hot button topic, but people should realize what it really was about.

Beautiful

June 24th, 2009
3:45 pm

@BLAH
she always like that for NO REAL REASON at all! dayum shame.

Dan

June 24th, 2009
3:45 pm

@blah, Cafe

And here’s where you lose me.

To equate not being able to “get married” as assault in anyway similar to the assualts suffered by Black in this country TODAY, is a complete fallacy.

You can’t participate in a civil or religious ceremony to state your love….and you’re saying that equivalent in anyway to:

-me being followed in a store (regardless of the amount of money in my pockets);

-the term “No. 1 male (used all over the country)” to describe a Black man;

- DWB -driving while Black, being pulled over, harrassed, detained, and emabarrassed for being in the “wrong” neighborhood?

Not to list them all, but those DAILY assaults on my dignity and intelligence is equivalent to an amendment to the Constitution of the State of GA no allowing you to marry? Really?

Please tell me you’re joking

Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!

June 24th, 2009
3:45 pm

flying Fig Newton<– I’ve GOTS Ta use this

Poppa Grande

June 24th, 2009
3:46 pm

abc

It is NOT a statement of human worth. The 3/5 compromise served to limit Southern influence in Congress.

Not totally true. While your primary point is correct, there are secondary intents.

If it was just about slavery, women would have been counted. That was not the case. It was free white men.

For Real

June 24th, 2009
3:46 pm

Ared as your platonic friend let me see you in those 4″ heals wearing some boy shorts and matching bra and will give you my honest platonic friend opinion.

Cafe

June 24th, 2009
3:47 pm

@Spoiled – I’m neither – I’m in a partnership – when one is weak the other is strong – can you dig that? We don’t do roles – no one person is required to be the “dominant” one and no one person is required to be the “submissive” one – we are equal and in a partnership.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
3:47 pm

Ce get you azz in the back seat aint nobody tryin to hear that today…lmao

Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!

June 24th, 2009
3:47 pm

W8-30 miles outside of 285 in any direction and you will have a rude awakening<– You ain’t lying! I live it everyday!

Blah & Cafe- Ya’ll know each other?

abc

June 24th, 2009
3:47 pm

You know, it’s not outside the realm of possibility that in a Republican country, such a compromise could come to pass again. This time around, it could be a way to limit representation and/or funding of states that allow gay marriage.

There’s a book idea in there someplace. Any takers?

Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!

June 24th, 2009
3:48 pm

Cafe- I respect that!

Melo

June 24th, 2009
3:48 pm

blah as a gay male,what characteristics/mannerisms etc in a man do u fins attractive?? What turns u on??

Im trying to go opposite on that just in case.

(altho im still wondering and perplexxed that u wld actually go hard on seeing me and my azz walk by u etc but go flat on sight of Staceye’s/Ared or Lioness’ azz!) :lol:

AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...

June 24th, 2009
3:49 pm

Ared as your platonic friend let me see you in those 4″ heals wearing some boy shorts and matching bra and will give you my honest platonic friend opinion

For Real – You are SUCH a good friend and I appreciate your willingness to help me out! :lol:

abc

June 24th, 2009
3:49 pm

The Northern argument about slaves not getting to vote was countered by Southern arguments that women didn’t get to vote either. Since the end result was that Northern states lost no influence in Congress as a result, women were included. Strictly political; but, point taken, the best legal and political minds of the day saw nothing wrong with writing such a compromise into our Constitution. It’s a poignant indication of the times.

Cemeeli

June 24th, 2009
3:51 pm

While climbing over the bucket seats in the Chevy throwing up the westside signs…

Auh, can we swing by Zesto’s on Ponce, and pick up some chicken wings and a bottle of hot sauce?

For Real

June 24th, 2009
3:51 pm

“I’m neither – I’m in a partnership – when one is weak the other is strong – can you dig that? We don’t do roles – no one person is required to be the “dominant” one and no one person is required to be the “submissive” one – we are equal and in a partnership.” – I’m calling BS on this statement. We are human beings INCAPABLE OF PERFECTION!!! 50/50 is perfection. Thus someone is the leader.

-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)

June 24th, 2009
3:51 pm

LMAO@For Reall

blah

June 24th, 2009
3:52 pm

@ Beautiful…I didn’t take anything she said personally. It’s obvious she is just a spiteful spirit, willing to do everything she can to make sure as many people in the world are as happy as she is.

For Real—I don’t feel obligated to explain to you gay oppression; I posted on here to talk about dating, I never meant to engage in such a spiraling conversation about gay existence, That said, for argument’s sake, I’ll give you an easy example: Thousands of gay men and women have served this country in the Armed Forces, gone to Iraq, Afghanistan and many wars before then, performed admirably, suffered injury or loss of limb, and then returned to this country to be dishonorably discharged because they were gay. This is just a small example, there are many, many more.

Tmac

June 24th, 2009
3:52 pm

Spoiled Lioness-

Stacking?……WTF