Where is your label?
Sexual orientation can be a touchy topic among single people on the dating scene. Some people want to know immediately; some try to guess, while others make a fool of themselves with assumptions. Do you think it is rude and impolite to inquire about sexual orientation?
I am a pretty friendly person so a lot of times I like to get clarification about whether I am engaging in friendly chat with a stranger or if we are checking each other out for potential romance, number exchange, or whatever. I have simply asked outright. Not in a malicious way or to offend, I just put it out there so I can get clarity: Do you date women, men, or both?
Do you ask people their orientation when you first meet them? Have you ever been asked the “which team are you playing for” type of question? How did you react?
I have known women who consider themselves bisexual. I am not sure if it means anything, but they currently are seeking/are in relationships with men. Their attraction for women is still there and they openly tell men about their past experiences and it does not seem to impede them.
Guys, what do you think about women who have had relationships with both genders? Could you see yourself in a serious relationship with one?
Ladies, if a man admitted to having prior experiences with other men, is that an immediate turn off for you? Do you feel comfortable discussing this type of thing with someone you are getting to know?
What do you think about sexual labels: straight, gay, bisexual..etc. Are they necessary or not important?
Touchy topic, so let’s keep the discussion adult and clean.
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Leggs (Karyn)
June 24th, 2009
2:32 pm
@Jamoca ~ sssshhhhssshhh!
Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!
June 24th, 2009
2:32 pm
Ared- I’m afraid NOT **shrugs**
Cemeeli
June 24th, 2009
2:32 pm
Melo Given the break…ditto.
Beautiful
June 24th, 2009
2:33 pm
**“That’s all that I have to say about that”.** lol.
@LEGGS
awww. thanks homie! and about the pic of lil booger, i wonder if the new mommy approved that. hmmm. i doubt it since i busted all of the windows out her car. *snicker*
i got my hair done yesterday and today it’s so flowy and airy. i wanna flip it right and left. where’s AMAZON?
and babies aren’t born gay!!! lawd jeezus.
blah
June 24th, 2009
2:33 pm
I’m sorry Poppa — I misunderstood your earlier posting…I thought you said that those who hide it don’t hurt society; I was making the point that they truly hurt themselves. Having re-read your comment, I agree that it is also hurtful to society for gay people to not be honest about who they are.
Dan, I completely understand why many black people are uncomfortable with the comparison to gay rights. I think it is one of the most distasteful aspects of our movement that we are so quick to say, “well it’s just like if the KKK said to black people,” or “This is no different than what Hitler did to the Jews.” These are lazy arguments that turn off more people than they convert.
I think comparisons come so naturally, mainly because the arguments used against gay rights are the same that were used against blacks. Read about Loving v. Virginia, or Brown v. Board of Education…The arguments are identical (i.e. protect the children, God’s plan, yadda yadda), and so often times it’s important to inform folks that you were wrong back then, and you are wrong now.
Finally, the black civil rights movement in America was one of the most successful social justice campaigns on the face of the earth, and shines as an example for all peoples who are striving for liberation: women, gays, Iranians, the list goes on. We must continue to use the valuable lessons that the Civil Rights Movement has offered, while not pretending that our struggle is the same.
AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...
June 24th, 2009
2:33 pm
Lioness – Nothing is in my inbox…
Jamoca
June 24th, 2009
2:34 pm
Black and gay people are the same..you sucking on something for real and it is not dizzle <—- Dayum Kym! See that there is a “Cheryl-type chick”…fits you perfectly.
Oh Rasa Devi With how my inna “Pusha Guhl” was feeling, I’ddah wrestled n’ slithered with a few of those Burmese pythons we Flaw-duh folks sent ya’lls way myself. I’m dangerous around this time of year…those 25 foot serpents ain’t nuthin’ on me. And again, may the lawd have mercy on him Lololol
AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...
June 24th, 2009
2:35 pm
I’m so glad you had to opportunity to witness Future Greatness..
Er…okay DK.
MrHughes
June 24th, 2009
2:35 pm
@Spoiled Lioness
We are in agreement there.
AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...
June 24th, 2009
2:36 pm
where’s AMAZON?
Angie – What are you calling me for? I ain’t bald headed.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 24th, 2009
2:37 pm
“If u tell me u obseverd with ur own eyes those dogs actually phluckking and they are the same sexx,i wld give u props.”
Dude, that’s exactly what I’m telling you. I’ve seen, w/ my own 2 eyes, a male dog mount & hump another male dog — and this same dog shows no interest in the female dogs. Now, I didn’t get in there to check if there was any actual penetration happening, but hey — even dry-humping another male dog seemed gay enough to me…
I’m just sayin’…
Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!
June 24th, 2009
2:38 pm
Ared-
Check again
AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...
June 24th, 2009
2:38 pm
even dry-humping another male dog seemed gay enough to me…
swiss – Right, cuz if a guy said, “naw, I’ve never kiss or sexed a guy, only dry humped him…” he’d certainly get the
and not pass go with me!!! 
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 24th, 2009
2:39 pm
Looks @Ce- Kym is rolling strong today, I like the way she drives
Dan
June 24th, 2009
2:39 pm
But blah,
Those that make that comparison are using a flawed logic.
Prime example: even at the signing of the Declaration, Black people were not people we were counted at that time as 3/5 of a person = less than human (which is what bugs me about PETA, but that’s a whole nuther story).
In today’s society your rights as an individual (couple) are being quesitoned, not your humanity. Not your right to exist.
Black people have fought to be considered people first, members of society 2nd, and equal members of society 3rd.
No gay person has had that struggle.
So in that respect, they are NOT the same.
Add that corrollary to the “lazy argument” column
kimmie(Sheree)
June 24th, 2009
2:40 pm
Mr Hughes – Well call me small-minded then, because past behavior does matter to me when something could potentially kill me. The only protection that is fool-proof is abstinence. Also, again call me small-minded because putting all the potential HIV aside, I am of the mindset that once a guy has “gone there”, there’s always the possibility. I can’t fullfill a guy like another guy can. I only have experience being a woman, being with men. And I don’t buy the young & curious argument either, cause I don’t have to try jumping off a cliff to know it will kill me & I knew that at a very young age.
So I wear the small-minded title with pride when it comes to this subject and my health. And I’m entitled to my opinion and how I chose to run my life. I don’t live that lifestyle but I don’t knock others that do. I stay in my lane.
Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!
June 24th, 2009
2:40 pm
I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO GLAD I am Taken & LOVED cause I couldn’t handle that type of truth AT ALL!! I would need the bottle after that convo! Shyte, during that ENTIRE convo!!
Cafe
June 24th, 2009
2:40 pm
@BLAH/KYM – I think the only point I was trying to make with regards to being gay and being black is that DISCRIMINATION of any kind has a negative affect upon the recipient. I agree with Blah, one’s sexual orientation CAN be hidden to avert those discriminations and skin color can not be. However, in both instances, hate crimes do occur, jobs are denied, adoptions are denied, possibly financing is denied (although I don’t think I’ve ever experienced this one but that doesn’t mean it hasn’t happened) housing is denied, etc…. the end result is the same – regardless of the type of discrimination. Its still discrimination – which – constitutionally – is illegal.
AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...
June 24th, 2009
2:40 pm
Lioness – What game are you playing gurl!
Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!
June 24th, 2009
2:41 pm
Kimmie- I agree 1 million %
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 24th, 2009
2:42 pm
There would never be a gay president….just saying
Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!
June 24th, 2009
2:42 pm
Ared- NONE
Send me a test one then cause I am baffled..
Cemeeli
June 24th, 2009
2:42 pm
I can’t function in my mofo guise when all these dang pineapples are around me…
SexyCool I tagged.
Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!
June 24th, 2009
2:42 pm
W8- If there were one BEST believe we wouldn’t know JACK ISH about it!!
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 24th, 2009
2:43 pm
Kimmie- you are so small minded…and I am ignorant
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 24th, 2009
2:43 pm
I’ve been watching you
Can’t take my eyes off of you, girl
I’ve been watching you
I’ve been watching you (aiii)
The way you move your sexy body
I’m liking the things you do
The way you move your sexy body (aiii)
You would like you too
If you knew
How you move your body, yeah
Poppa Grande
June 24th, 2009
2:43 pm
blah
I understand the comparisons. I am in law school. Comparing and contrasting cases is the essence of practicing law.
I just don’t that argument. Arguments turn on the facts of specific cases. I just see some fundamental difference.
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 24th, 2009
2:43 pm
@Lioness- Yes we would but we couldnt talk about it
Cemeeli
June 24th, 2009
2:44 pm
“just saying” Shut up!
SexyCool - Laughing again.
June 24th, 2009
2:46 pm
Ce – If you’re cool, then I’m cool and we’re cool. (singing)
abc
June 24th, 2009
2:46 pm
Well now, women wouldn’t expect a truthful answer about whether a man was bi because they themselves would be most inclined to lie and be secretive about anything that would negatively reflect upon them. Chicks are the champeens of portraying what they want to be perceived as rather than what they are.
Big surprise, a DL man might show some feminine qualities, in just the same way.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 24th, 2009
2:46 pm
@ARed, why you toning down your sexy??? Don’t do that.
Beautiful
June 24th, 2009
2:47 pm
@SEXYCOOL
this is something i feel you would put down on paper:
**singing**
**Cause I’ll pull down a cloud for you
I’ll circle the stars and bring you one back
I’ll walk through the sun for you
Cause there’s somethin you do
That got me walkin on the moon**
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 24th, 2009
2:48 pm
@Ce- leeeb me alone
Poppa Grande
June 24th, 2009
2:48 pm
W8
The sexual orientation has been questioned about a couple of presidents. They had wives children and all that.
One of the current Supreme Court Justices is rumored to be homosexual.
Dan
June 24th, 2009
2:48 pm
@Cafe
please refer to my 2:39
Dan
June 24th, 2009
2:49 pm
@PG
I think I heard that same rumor about the Justice…and it didn’t surprise me
Melo
June 24th, 2009
2:49 pm
even dry-humping another male dog seemed gay enough to me
swiss,we cant argue over perception viz reality can we??
“”Seemed??”"
depends on what the meaning of “seemed” is..(in my Bill voice)
U cant ask a dogg why they are dry humping,can u?? But when u see them phluckking,I would be surpriesed if u still wanted to ask them to know if they are gay??
Ive seen what u descibed,in cows and goats too,if i can recollect.
Neve seen one inside another male tho!
Cemeeli
June 24th, 2009
2:50 pm
Girl stop! I’m on it…got my eyes on the next courier notice.
Poppa Grande
June 24th, 2009
2:50 pm
abc
Well now, women wouldn’t expect a truthful answer about whether a man was bi because they themselves would be most inclined to lie and be secretive about anything that would negatively reflect upon them.
For Real
June 24th, 2009
2:50 pm
I don’t believe there is a gene that pre-determines a person to be gay. It is a decision that one can make at anytime. The comparsion of the gay plight to AA is just an attempt to justify their choice. A GAY PERSON WILL NOT DIE IF THEY CHOOSE NOT TO BE GAY!! Those feelings that are being talked about are manfested by that person because they don’t want to face the consequences of their choice.
Now I have a couple of questions for you Blah,
1. Why is it so important to you that I know you are gay?
2. With the divorce laws written the way that they are why do you want the state to recognize your marriage?
3. What do you suggest a hetro person do when gay people show PDA in front of their children especially if they are not old enough to have had the sex talk?
AmazonRed™ - Toning ↓ my sexy...
June 24th, 2009
2:50 pm
@ARed, why you toning down your sexy??? Don’t do that.
Because now all guys want to do is sleep with me. They’re not even subtle about it anymore or disguise it up with dating first! I’m not even trying to have sex at all now, cuz really it’s lost its appeal.
Then to top it off, my friend’s boyfriend hit on me and that just sucks. I’m pissed.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 24th, 2009
2:50 pm
Yo, this is mood control (yo-ho!)
Saying you might as well pay attention (this is mood control)
You can’t afford free speech
(mood, mood, mood, someone’s funking with the mood!)
Mood control is designed to render funkable
Ideas brought to you by the makers of Mr. Prolong
Better known as Urge Overkill
The pimping of the Pleasure Principle
Oh, but we’ll be pecking lightly
Like a woodpecker with a headache
‘Cause it’s cheaper to funk
Than it is to pay attention
You dig?
Huck-a-buck
A-Lo and behold, someone’s funking with the mood control
Where’d you get that funk from??
Beautiful
June 24th, 2009
2:51 pm
**because they themselves would be most inclined to lie and be secretive about anything that would negatively reflect upon them**
in the beginning, i feel it’s none of yo business and i’mma tell you when i get dayum ready! i’m jus sayin’.
Poppa Grande
June 24th, 2009
2:51 pm
Dan
It didn’t surprise me either.
Cemeeli
June 24th, 2009
2:52 pm
Moca – Maam when i sneak and get the bike and i call you dont’ be talking about you’re scared to ride out with me.
Spoiled Lioness- Been Keeping It 100 Since Birth!
June 24th, 2009
2:52 pm
PG- You ain’t NEVER lied!!
Ared- That is a LAME tail dude!
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 24th, 2009
2:53 pm
@PG- After the military I spent two years Secret Service before I joined the FBI, there are plenty of actual Homosexuals in Federal Leadership Positions that the world does not know about, I stand by my statement that there would never be a Homosexual President
Beautiful
June 24th, 2009
2:54 pm
**I don’t believe there is a gene that pre-determines a person to be gay. It is a decision that one can make at anytime.**
co-sign.
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 24th, 2009
2:55 pm
This is mood de-control
Saying pay more attention
For free speech is high finance
possible funkability?
Ho, Let the funk begin!
Do anybody have change for funk?
Where’d you get your funk from?
Oh yes, this is heavyweight funk
Put up your dukes, haha!
You dont want to funk around with me, oh!
This is mood de-control, yo-ho!
The home of the P.Funk, the Bomb
Mind your wants ’cause there’s someone that wants your mind
When you’re taking every kind of pill
(The bigger the headache, the bigger the pill)
Nothing seems to ever cure your ill
(How do you spell relief?)