Flip the script
I suppose it was inevitable that President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama would be come an iconic couple. A lot has been written about their date nights, affection towards one another in public, and the history of how they came to be.
It all brings a discussion about love, romance, and marriage, especially among African Americans that sheds some light on our attitudes. One particular article that has made its rounds on Facebook, Twitter, and other social networking sites is from the Washington’s Post interactive site, The Root. It was entitled What Single Women Can Learn from Michelle.
Of course it doused gasoline on an already hot fire of debate between men and women, which is always annoying fun and informative. I actually thought the article made some excellent points. I just thought it would be vindictive fun and informative to flip the script a little:
What can single men learn from President Obama?
Do you think that we place too much blame on each other for the state of dating, marriage, and divorce?
Are we not all culpable when things don’t succeed?
Is it important for society to have a couple for us to believe in love and romance? Is it to give the children hope or are the grown ups clinging to the idea too?
*Note this is not an opportunity to bash First Lady Michelle Obama. Let’s keep things adult.
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kimmie(Sheree)
June 23rd, 2009
3:02 pm
W8 – Anytime, Anyplace
Oh yeah!!!!
AmazonRed™ - Getting to my ♥ through my stomach
June 23rd, 2009
3:02 pm
AmRed – that song was released in like 1996 or something like that and it’s been on my wedding song list ever since.
Tazzee – That’s how I feel about Luther’s Here and Now. I heard it when I was 11 and knew that would be my wedding song. Everyone *groans* and says it’s overused, but I have never been to a wedding where someone used it…
Until my sister got married last summer.
Turns out, the resort where she got married only had two wedding songs she recognized so she picked that one. 
Spoiled Lioness-
June 23rd, 2009
3:02 pm
DK- That Adore by Prince is my Wedding Song
AmazonRed™ - Getting to my ♥ through my stomach
June 23rd, 2009
3:02 pm
Any Sade in the house?
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 23rd, 2009
3:02 pm
Whatever you want – Tony Toni Tone
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 23rd, 2009
3:02 pm
@Tazzee dont knock Usher’s Superstar..mmm mmm mmmm it’s not a remake its his own
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZ_OE0wVUJI
@Leggs- I think thats its
@Ce- Where were you going?
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 23rd, 2009
3:03 pm
Sade – Anything
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2009
3:03 pm
DK
Someone posted “Insatiable”
If I was your girlfriend is my favorite.
Adore is a close second.
Dan
June 23rd, 2009
3:03 pm
Isley Brothers….
Melo
June 23rd, 2009
3:03 pm
Raqi,oh i see.
Bad blood ‘tween him and u(u and Mase)??
Its a nice snide tho,in my case,standing here, looking in!
Hes an arsehole for show!(like it,in a nice way)!
Spoiled Lioness-
June 23rd, 2009
3:03 pm
PG- I LOVE Anita & Sade!! Too many songs to name.. Gettin frustrated!
Angie-
Melo- I have NO idea if Raqi is bitter with ol dude.. WTH?
Spoiled Lioness-
June 23rd, 2009
3:04 pm
DK- WOW! That is my song TOOOOOOO!!!
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 23rd, 2009
3:04 pm
Etta James – At Last.. Bitter Sweet cause that was my wedding song but Etta not Beyonce kills it
Spoiled Lioness-
June 23rd, 2009
3:05 pm
Flap your wings- Nelly
Baby Come to Me- Regina Bell
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 23rd, 2009
3:05 pm
Jill S C O T T – I need you
Tazzee - countdown to NFL season
June 23rd, 2009
3:06 pm
AmRed – We ‘rewrote’ the lyrics to Here and Now as our pledge song so you were 11 when I was online? I’m old, LOL! I sang that in my friends wedding back in 2000 but that’s messed up that your sister took it from you.
The first time I heard You by Jesse Powell I decided that I wanted to have my first dance to that song. Still stand by that one (no wedding but plan to have a reception/party)
Spoiled Lioness-
June 23rd, 2009
3:07 pm
How Can I Ease The Pain- Lisa Fischer
I LOVE THIS SONG!!
Melo
June 23rd, 2009
3:07 pm
Tazzee – That’s how I feel about Luther’s Here and Now
they looove that song and many by him, in San Fransisco, i think!
Jamoca
June 23rd, 2009
3:07 pm
Ohhh man, you all are bringing up some songs that I had forgotten about…
Oh, and I love Phil Collins…almost anything by him —-> Groovy Kind of Love is still my jam.
Oh and I liked a bit of Red Hot Chili Peppers, specifically City of Angels
And I don’t ever wanna feel like I did that day
Take me to the place I love
Take me all the way
And I don’t ever wanna feel like I did that day
Take me to the place I love
Take me all the way yea yea ye-yea
Oh no no no
Yea ye-yea
Love me I say yea ye-yea
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2009
3:07 pm
Dan
Marvin Gaye Sexual Healing
I am more of a fan of Marvin Gaye’s “Got To Give It Up” than “Sexual Healing”
I used to go out to parties
And stand around
‘Cause I was too nervous
To really get down
And my body yearned to be free
So I got up on the floor and found
Someone to choose me
No more standin’ along the side walls
Now I’ve got myself together, baby
And I’m havin’ a ball
Long as you prove it
There’s always a chance
Somebody watches
I’m gonna make romance
With your body, ooo baby, you dance all night
Get down and prove it, feel all right
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 23rd, 2009
3:07 pm
@Dk- I put “insatiable” a few posts back
@Kimmie- lastime I heard “Anytime Anyplace” i was being beaten with a whip…lmao
Cemeeli
June 23rd, 2009
3:08 pm
ARed – I like SADE!
AmazonRed™ - Getting to my ♥ through my stomach
June 23rd, 2009
3:08 pm
AmRed – We ‘rewrote’ the lyrics to Here and Now as our pledge song so you were 11 when I was online?
Tazzee – That doesn’t sound right. Maybe I was 12 then.
I think you are 8 years older than me…?
Cemeeli
June 23rd, 2009
3:08 pm
@ Infamous – You feeling that Jill too? lol
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 23rd, 2009
3:08 pm
@PG- If I were your girlfriend is the jam also
Leggs (Karyn)
June 23rd, 2009
3:09 pm
@Melo, you can’t hear the joy of being a new mother with a loving husband in Raqi’s voice. You don’t understand what “matching luggage” mean?
AmazonRed™ - Getting to my ♥ through my stomach
June 23rd, 2009
3:10 pm
ARed – I like SADE!
Cemeeli – I didn’t really WAKE UP to Sade til Lover Rock, to be quite honest. But I think her songs take on a new meaning once you really know what “in love” is.
Ironically though, one of my favorite songs by her is “King of Sorrow” and that’s about pain.
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 23rd, 2009
3:10 pm
Sade- Cherish the day
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2009
3:10 pm
Lioness
I LOVE Anita & Sade!!
So do I. And Mrs. PG knows how much.
We took a trip to London just to see Sade in concert there.
We took a trip to NYC to see Anita in Madison Square Garden
Dan
June 23rd, 2009
3:10 pm
Lest we forget the homegrown
Babyface – Everytime I close my eyes and (one I can’t think of off hand)
TLC Red light Special, digging on me, sumthing wicked this way comes, waterfalls….
MusingLee
June 23rd, 2009
3:11 pm
Hey er’body…Just stopping by showing some blog love.
Cemeeli
June 23rd, 2009
3:11 pm
W8 I went to the FOX. I had the valet treat my car well, I ate well and enjoyed that night.
When i got back to the car – SAME MOOD! Jill had me on that stuff that night.
Melo
June 23rd, 2009
3:12 pm
You don’t understand what “matching luggage” mean?
no,i was concentrating on the meaning of what the sore ex said,but school me on that meaning?
Cemeeli
June 23rd, 2009
3:12 pm
Usher’s – Dot com will catch a mood too.
Jamoca
June 23rd, 2009
3:12 pm
Kissing You – Will Downing
I’m Missing You – Case
“Healing” “What You Trying to DO” and “Remedy” – Jagged Edge
“Come Inside” or the remake of “Ribbon in the Sky” – Intro
…anything by Ready For the World
“Foreplay” – Raab
“Looking For Love – Arrrah Kelly
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 23rd, 2009
3:12 pm
“Sex Packets”- Digital Underground
“Freaks of the Industry”- Digitial Underground (YOOO YOOOOOOOOOO)
Jamoca
June 23rd, 2009
3:13 pm
…I’ve got Will Downing on the brain…meant Kissing You by Keith Washington
THE INFAMOUS DK
June 23rd, 2009
3:13 pm
Tony Toni Tone – Lay your head on my pillow
Al Green – Simply Beautiful
Otis Redding – Thats how Strong my love is / These arms of mine
Mo (aka Moeisha)
June 23rd, 2009
3:14 pm
Lalah Hathaway – Im Comin Back
Jagged Edge – Remedy (LAWD GEEZUS)
Mint Condition – So Fine (HAVE MERCRY)
EWF – Love’s Holiday
Rahsaan Patterson – Spend the Night
Quincy Jones – Heaven’s Girl
Johnny Gill/Staci Lattisaw – Perfect Combination
Beyonce – Speechless
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2009
3:14 pm
AR
Sade has many songs about pain.
However, I understand. I have a friend that love Meshell Ndegeocello’s “Bitter”. She played that song so much after one of her break ups that I stopped listening to Meshell.
Beautiful
June 23rd, 2009
3:15 pm
SWV – weak -http://www.myspace.com/sisterwithvoices
DeBarge – a dream http://www.myspace.com/debargeofficial
hi MUSING!
AmazonRed™ - Getting to my ♥ through my stomach
June 23rd, 2009
3:15 pm
TLC Red light Special,
That’s my favorite “strip for him” song. Also help that the video featured Boris Kodjoe which is always a good visual for inspiration.
Tazzee - countdown to NFL season
June 23rd, 2009
3:15 pm
AmRed – after I typed that, I realized that it is possible. I was 19 soon to be 20 when I crossed.
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 23rd, 2009
3:15 pm
@CE- YOu cant forget
“That’s What it’s Made For”- Usher
Leggs (Karyn)
June 23rd, 2009
3:15 pm
MusingLee, MusingLee, MusingLee. Hello!
@Jamoca, love Kissing You by Keith Washington. When that song premiered on General Hospital (?), I immediately feel in love with it.
Beautiful
June 23rd, 2009
3:15 pm
SWV – weak -www.myspace.com/sisterwithvoices
DeBarge – a dream http://www.myspace.com/debargeofficial
hi MUSING!
-W8©(thoroughbred... I dont play nor hate)
June 23rd, 2009
3:15 pm
Not a heavyweight but I go twelve rounds
With a jab and a stick I’m goin’ lick for lick so
Give me the helmet I’ll be the stunt man.
Just relax, and I won’t front.
Like Anita, I’m givin’ you the best that I’ve got,
And I’ll be takin’ it slow, never missin’ a spot
Yes, caressing your back we’re chest to chest she’s kissing on my
freckles.
I nibbled around your ears before I suck upon your neck.
‘Oh Money B,’ yeah, that’s what you’ll be screamin’ and creamin’
But it’s not a wet dream, it’s the real
The freaky dog, dark nasty, never lettin’ a kitty-cat get past me,
Without picking it up, pettin’ it, teasin’ it,
Takin’ it on home and pleasin’ it
Cause we’re the freaks of the industry
Leggs (Karyn)
June 23rd, 2009
3:16 pm
Thank you, thank you, thank you…Red Light Special is such a sexy song. I too have done a good routine to that one!
Poppa Grande
June 23rd, 2009
3:16 pm
On the topic of overplayed songs at weddings:
I asked my wife NOT to play Ribbon In The Sky at the church or at the reception. I’ve heard that song at darn near every wedding. I wanted to break the cycle.
She agreed and replaced it in the song list (we gave the DJ a list of songs so that he wouldn’t play something inappropriate) with Natalie Cole’s “This Will Be”
Melo
June 23rd, 2009
3:16 pm
Otis Redding – Thats how Strong my love is / These arms of mine
DK, i grew up on Otis Redding!