Free to be me
There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.
The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?
Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?
Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?
Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?
How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?
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Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
2:36 pm
Cee- I don’t understand people who let themselves go PERIOD! Kids or no kids! Just cause they make clothes in that size doesn’t mean you should continue to eat the way that you do..
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
2:36 pm
It’s easy to have killer abs when you ain’t got no meat on your bones.
Yeah, but abs don’t stick to bones.
And no one else in the family got em like mine. Naturally muscular too. Don’t hate.
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
2:37 pm
Ared-
Girl if you don’t STOP it today 
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
2:37 pm
I’m wearing white linen Tazzee
I’m treating Anthony like i’m going to the EMF to see MAZE, heeheheh. And wearing the flattest sandles i can find.
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
2:38 pm
Neecy – All that I could picture in my mind with your 2:32 phrase of “ain’t got no meat” was your term of —> “slavemeat” LOL…dunno why, but my gannie also came to mind as well. Lolol…
Wise Diva
June 22nd, 2009
2:38 pm
Goodness, Melo, even for you, you are over the top today. What’s with you, man?
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
2:39 pm
His jeans front were inflated.
melo – I’ma need you to not look at other dudes jeans like that.
Demi
June 22nd, 2009
2:40 pm
AmazonRed…LOL, you ever notice…while getting “virgina clean”…guys tend to rub on them gently…while moaning softly…LOL
Issssh…we be dang near bout to bust one, LOL
W8/Rell/Melo/For Real…are now water boarding Demi, for telling one of MLB’s guilty pleasures with women
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
2:40 pm
Leggs- Mail Call
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
2:43 pm
(Thinking to myself, i should have charged for this P90X, but I got it for free so I refuse to charge anyone else for it)…LOL
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
2:43 pm
Leggs
I hope that Lady T does well with this new project. I am glad that she is no longer on Cash Money records. It didn’t seem right that she was on the same label as Lil Wayne and Baby.
Now she is on Staxx, which I thought was dead long ago.
I’ve long considered her the queen of blue eyed soul.
Ballwood
June 22nd, 2009
2:44 pm
What Blog Fam!
I saw W8 giving away copies of P90X and I just wanted to let everyone know I have copies of Darren Dance Grooves part 1 & 2 if anyone wants it.
Raqi: “Vaginal dryness” – You are wrong for that…. DAYUM!! Messed up my day.
Tazzee - countdown to NFL season
June 22nd, 2009
2:44 pm
Cemeeli – unfortunately, I’ll be wearing whatever I wear to work that day. Unless I’m blessed enough to leave early. We are going to dinner before the concert though.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
2:44 pm
@Mo, where’s my pic????
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
2:44 pm
Cee Ummm, that dream was long ago prophetized, missy.
Just as long as MyTwo and I have not been demoted of our titles as the official wedding planners…then we’re good.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
2:45 pm
Also, Teena Marie did her part of Fire and Desire from a hospital bed and in one take.
Rick James wheeled her out of the hospital to do her part to that song.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
2:46 pm
I’ma need you to not look at other dudes jeans like
i was looking at her and then at him,then i start thinking and wondering if that were real,stunt or what untill i said,wait a minute,if it were me doing that,i wld be all wrkd up,so hw is Jamie taking it?
Thats when i zoned to hiz pants.
His nice and expensively tailored jeans were stretched! altho he passively tried to hide it by folfing his amrs in front of his zone
Thats when u know,a bre internal temp is high!
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
2:47 pm
@ W8 – Somethings are a blessing to you so that you can be a blessing to others.
You know how that goes…
PoppaG Hot as Hades man!!! U at home, i beat you’re not on the porch looking at mailman today!
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
2:48 pm
@For Real/Ballwood- Please tell me you are joikng about Darrens Dance moves..lmao
@Ce- How am I going to get the “plus” from you? Is it muscle confusion also?
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
2:49 pm
i start thinking and wondering if that were real,stunt or what untill i said,wait a minute,if it were me doing that,i wld be all wrkd up,so hw is Jamie taking it?
Thats when i zoned to hiz pants.
melo –
Stop it.
Wise Diva
June 22nd, 2009
2:50 pm
Very funny! Give me your wife’s contact info, you need to be punished, LOL
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
2:50 pm
AmazonRed…LOL, you ever notice…while getting “virgina clean”…guys tend to rub on them gently…while moaning softly…LOL
Issssh…we be dang near bout to bust one, LOL
*stammers* Err….ahh…. thanks Demi for letting me on one of the trade secrets.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
2:50 pm
Vaginal dryness – menopause is unavoidable
Raqi,waving the white flag!!
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
2:51 pm
@ Jamoca – I had another thought. South Florida near Tampa maybe and you my sister in law is my stylist anyway (she really is a stylist). And all i need is a small gang of flower girls…you have 3 (plus my 2 nieces) 2 & 5 years old. No maids, at all!
But all my “sisters” are color cordinated, or not. Long as your butt oversee the cooks.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
2:51 pm
@WD, thanks for the laugh. You would come on here saying “if only I had a nickel for every time someone asked ‘what’s wrong with you Melo?’” Now, here you are saying the same thing. That was funny.
@PoppaG ~ “I’ve long considered her the queen of blue eyed soul.” SO HAVE I, SO HAVE I. ^5!!
I’m at the stage of my life where I recognize the weight gain (I know most do not, but I do). I refuse to wake up one morning and find myself being a size 8 or 10. No, this is not big, but it’s big for me coming from a 3/4. So, to the gym I’m a going!
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
2:51 pm
Ballwood it’s a fact of life. Menopause is in every woman’s future and that my dear is on of its symptoms.
It’s best to realize and accept now that those things are a real part of real life. It does not mean your life will have to come to an end. It just means if you plan on enjoying the intimacies of life in your senior years you better know that things will happen and you will need a little help to make other things happen. Life is real.
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
2:51 pm
LOL @ Ballwood (ForReal)…well it’s destined to happen one way or another…just as you men will inevitably go through “the change” of life (some sooner than others)…by not being able to get and/or keep it up. I wonder on average, at what age does that usually happen? Lol In some countries men eat tiger/ox penis to keep themselves “on point” in that area. It’s a delicacy (literally)…Teeheeheee
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
2:52 pm
A LOT of things make a man splash in a minute..
For Real
June 22nd, 2009
2:52 pm
Yeah that Vanilla Chile new CD is good. I also like Issidore (sp) new one as well. Oh and I have also picked up Elvis new greatest hit CD produced by Dr. Dre.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)
June 22nd, 2009
2:54 pm
So ummm W8 will we be meeting you at an “undisclosed location” so you can divvy out the cds……..I don’t mean to sound impatient(I get it from my mama)….just anxious like Ginuwine that’s all
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
2:54 pm
I am cracking up at the WiseDiva and melo exchange.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
2:55 pm
Cee
We have ceiling fans on our front porch and it isn’t that bad. I’ve been outside most of the day. Now I am reading the ABA model rules of professional conduct for class. So, I came inside for less distractions. the neighbor’s kids are outside splashing, laughing, all that in their little kiddie pool.
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
2:55 pm
LOL@Me.. Illegally Copied DVD’s brought to you buy your Federal Government..Do as I say not as I do!!…lmao I am going to arrest you all for having them in your possession…LMAO…just kidding..but I am sitting here then that thought just hit me..lmao
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
2:56 pm
W8 – The Plus is offered free for us that’s “training” now. I have it on my harddrive here too. But for some reason the tranmit is HUGE, than that of the regular.
Plus is = alot more WEIGHT a pull ups and chess and back focus. We bought several pull up bars for the men to use in class, and then the women just use those rubber bands…
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
2:57 pm
Cee- I made Oxtails on Saturday.. Yummy!
Mo (aka Moeisha-waiting for wednesday)
June 22nd, 2009
2:57 pm
Leggs – mail call
For Real – you had me LMAO! You are so silly!
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
2:58 pm
@ PoppaG – You remember kiddie pools when we were little? Those things were the next best thing than beach time.
Or maybe that was waaaaayyyy afer your time.
Ballwood
June 22nd, 2009
2:59 pm
Raqi: So you saying I will have to carry KY around in a pill bottle when I get old?
Pusha Gurl: “just as you men will inevitably go through “the change” of life” – That doesn’t run in my family. My paw-paw was getting some from Snoop well into 80’s.
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
2:59 pm
LOL Jamoca folks need to realize those things are real. But like I said it does not mean your life will end at that moment. We all just got to hope and pray that the one we are with at that time it is someone who loves us beyond all of that.
People that run when life happens (now and later) are the ones that live in fantasy land.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
2:59 pm
For Real — I wonder if that’s the same Isidore I’m thinking of — the one w/ the lead singer from The Church and the guy from Remy Zero? If so, I love that band….
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
2:59 pm
@ Lioness – Tansmit those OT right now! Forget a P90X when you have oxtails! lol…
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
3:00 pm
LOL @ Heavy N8 pushin’ W8…
Cee – Why oh why, do I havtah’ oversee the cooking aspect?! I’m not fryin’ fish! Lol
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:00 pm
ARed – Everyone has abs and everyone’s abs are “naturally muscular”. (They are muscles; hence, the muscular part.)
Only those with LOW BODY FAT have ab definition. Which goes to my statement of having killer abs (meaning: ab definition) when you ain’t got no meat (meaning: low body fat) on your bones.
When I was a stick figure (5′10″ 125), I had mad crazy abs too. However, I didn’t have any @ss to speak of, wore an A cup, you could count my ribs and you could poke your eyes out on my clavicles.
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:01 pm
w8 – I thought they were only illegal if you were selling them for profit.
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:01 pm
Yep Ballwood LOL. Just put it beside the Lifestyles and Viagra and get your swirve on.
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
3:02 pm
I need a personal trainer
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:03 pm
For the record – no hate involved. Just stating facts.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:03 pm
However, I didn’t have any @ss to speak of, wore an A cup, you could count my ribs and you could poke your eyes out on my clavicles.
Yikes, were you sick?
And yeah, my sisters and I were all stick figures, but they didn’t have ab definition like I did. Nor did a lot of stick figures I knew. Flat stomachs don’t equal killer abs.
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:03 pm
I need a personal stylist.
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
3:04 pm
@Sassy- I just did the math the set is 13 discs and I will be burning a total 130 DVD’s..lol glad we have a duplicator. I am thinking I will just meet everyone in the Varsity parking lot on Sunday evening
My Great uncle age 68 has 18 kids the youngest is 2 years old(dont ask me he old the woman is..she is younger than me)..lmao..no cialis no viagra..all in our bloodline…lol