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Free to be me

There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.

The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?

Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?

Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?

Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?

How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?

679 comments Add your comment

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
2:00 pm

lol…tiger maul.

Man those are “war marks” lol…They are badges of honor for some ppl. That’d be baby doing it not only b/c some folks with weight strech marks. Like some ppl that have never birthed a baby.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

June 22nd, 2009
2:03 pm

I’m with W8 on the breasts also. Personally, I don’t get off on huge “Anna Nicole” breasts or plastic hooters either. They look out of place on a slender gal. I admit I do like ladies with sensitive nipples (okay, TMI I guess). At that point in my life where pleasuring the lady is 80% of it for me (I know I’ll get mine, LOL).

Leggs (Karyn)

June 22nd, 2009
2:04 pm

@RandyT, I have heard of blowing it up as well, but never experienced it. I have too much energy for old men. A lot of men in their late 50’s are having hip trouble, newly found diabetics, low energy, loving the couch and remote control with a beer on the card table next to their recliner. Sure, I’m exaggerating to a certain extent. I have to stay clear of those folk. Along with having a penal implant, he might windup needing a pacemaker.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
2:04 pm

@Ared- they could wear boy shorts..but if I see them in a bikini i aint mad…but thats just me

@SheDevil/Leggs- LMAO

kimmie(Sheree)

June 22nd, 2009
2:05 pm

Tazz – I’m pretty vanilla too – only earrings. I love blush & a little powder to keep the shine off, & gloss. My hair is my own. But I have no problem enhancing what God gave me. How are you dealing with acceptance of your man’s tattoo’s?

Kym-10 days and counting!!!

June 22nd, 2009
2:06 pm

Tazzee the stuff I use is mail-order but very reasonable and works great. It is for people of color and those who have acne prone(which I do I get those fine bumps.)
It is made by a black dermotologist out of Chicago. Here is the web link..so you can read more about him…

http://www.dr-earles.com/html/dermatology.html

Rell

June 22nd, 2009
2:06 pm

where pleasuring the lady is 80%

- I hope you are talking about between the ears!

i like tall women with nice bodies….thats includes t/a….5′8 and up is my happy space…..but if they are short i like them petite and short..

Jamoca

June 22nd, 2009
2:06 pm

LMAO @ Demi and the callout! That man must truly be in my subcon today! But naw mayne…just saying…just saying.

LOL @ Leggs 1:48! Hey there! …you good now, sis? Lol Speaking of your previous post…you know what tho?…on a serious tip, if I were really into the man, where it goes beyond the external presentation. And I mean, I’m really caring for him, loving him….just geniunely interested and concerned with his overall well being, I can honestly say the man’s got me in his corner. Imperfections and all. No need in masking them when it’s just the two of us…or at all for that matter. Like I said before, I want that man at the very core.

Cee – I’ll be lookin’ out for it Thursday, sis. :)

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
2:08 pm

@Ce- if youve birthed a baby its cool for the stomach, but if you are just a lazy azz

@Leggs-lol I hear you,lmao,

Poppa Grande

June 22nd, 2009
2:09 pm

W8/Staceye

Butterfly is a generally recognize symbol of transgender or transsexual people. Butterflies represent change (once a caterpillar).

Think back to Buffalo Bill in Silence of the Lambs. He raised the death heads moth. Buffalo Bill (the killer) wanted a sex change but we denied the opportunity. So he decided to make a suit of human female skin. There was even one shot in the movie where the guy tucked himself and took a picture of himself. Hannibal even acknowledge that butterflies represent change.

If it is a rainbow butterfly, it is generally stands for gay pride.

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
2:10 pm

(If it looks like a tiger has mauled your stomach it aint happening with you and me)

Oh..brain on the belly, is what I call it…

Melo…i was at platinum 21 on friday.

Note to self…since we ain’t getting none…stay the HELL out of strippa clubs…the temptation is too great for even I to handle.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
2:12 pm

I just started back on P90X this morning..If anyone needs a copy I have all of the disc and will burn them for you for FREE!!

When I was in New York I put on 12 pounds most in the midsection..I looked in the mirror Sunday morning and decided to get back right…P90x will get you there on the real…do some research on the program and if you want it i will burn it for you for free

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
2:13 pm

flat chest,not here!!

melo – I’m okay with you feeling that way…truly. :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

June 22nd, 2009
2:13 pm

@ Rell … actually between the ears is one area, but I am talking about between the…and everywhere else on a woman’s body. Just believe one can make a woman’s whole body quiver, as well as the normal spot (although that is where one “ends” obviously). I like making love, not just screwing (will that get through the censors?).

Tazzee - countdown to NFL season

June 22nd, 2009
2:13 pm

Cemeeli – Epiphany is hot, but it’s hard to get with the break-up songs while I’m in a good relationship. I rock her first CD more. So, I’ll see you at the concert Thursday then…

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
2:14 pm

@PG- How are you doing?

@Melo- I’m adapt and over come all situations, but a woman without huge breast is not a bad thing at all

@Demi-lol brain on the belly…lmao LMAO

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
2:15 pm

That’s why i said the difference in “badges of honor” are different then unclaimed strecth marks. My cousin that’s 1 year difference in age of me has stretch marks and never had and do not want a baby. But when we hang out at the beach you’d think “babies”. But nope.

Rell

June 22nd, 2009
2:15 pm

P90X this morning..If anyone needs a copy I have all of the disc and will burn them for you for FREE!!

dwilliams2022@hotmail.com

thanks in advance

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
2:17 pm

@ W8 – I already offered the P90X to the gang. Catch up! Do you want 90plus where Tony gets stooooopid for us?

I promise plyometrics is the DEVIL!!!

SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?

June 22nd, 2009
2:18 pm

Dammit – Used to LOVE rainbows and butterflies – ticked about having them claimed as gay logos.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
2:20 pm

@Rell email sent

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
2:20 pm

W8 I’m soo interested in P90X if you’re serious about your 2:12 PLEASE burn me a copy.

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
2:20 pm

Jamoca…sounds like your day is going well…

Slow Down, Tonight may be gone tommorow (One Chance!)
So I speed thu life like theres no tommorow (Speedin!)
100 g’s worth of ice on the Auto? (Flossy)
And we in the street life until they call the law(BALLIN!)
I made the whip get naked (What Happen !?)
While I switch gears, Bitch lookin at the bracelet (Got Em)
Step out, show me what your all about
Flashbacks of last night of me ballin out (Harlem!)
1 a.m. we was at the club (What Happen !?)
2 a.m. Ten bottles of bub (Money ain’t a thing)
And about 3 somethin I was thinkin about grub
So I stumbled to the car, threw the drinks and the drugs (Twisted)

We fly high, No Lie ,You notice (BALLIN!)
Foreign rides, outside, its like showbiz

We stay fly, No Lie ,You notice
Hips and Thighs, Oh my, Stay focus

Melo

June 22nd, 2009
2:21 pm

W8,check those….mail :lol:

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

June 22nd, 2009
2:22 pm

@ Poppa Grande

“Silence of the Lambs” is no question one of the best movies of all time. It worked on every level as far as I was concerned. If I am flipping the channels even now and it is on, I still get stuck watching it. Great movie. I think Anthony Hopkins’ portrayal of Hannibal Lechter has to be one of the most penetrating roles in any movie. Shows that the “quiet demeanor” is far more chilling than your normal “run of the mill” slasher. IMHO.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
2:22 pm

SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?

June 22nd, 2009
2:22 pm

Put the p90X with my JPE and we’re good. H#ll, I’ll even spot you some blank dvd’s/cd’s to cover your costs….:d

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
2:23 pm

@Ce- Yeah I want a copy of that “plus”

Email me if yall want a copy so I can just use the DVD duplicator at work: att_rr@yahoo.com

Please put P90x/blog in the subject header..

I already got you Rell and Jam, for sure

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
2:23 pm

it’s hard to get with the break-up songs while I’m in a good relationship.

Tazzee Yes i feel you. And Anthony has the worst of all “I did it for sho” is definitley a break up song.

SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?

June 22nd, 2009
2:24 pm

For moniker related reasons…I am so over people quoting dialogue from Hannibal Lecter to me.

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
2:24 pm

W8 Okay. It’s clearing security now.

Poppa Grande

June 22nd, 2009
2:24 pm

W8

I am well. The weekend was far too short, though. It wouldn’t have hurt my feelings for someone to tell me that today was some federal holiday that I didn’t know about. I defintely can tell that Independence day is getting close. There are far too many folks off and at the blasted aquarium/coca-cola area. Summer vacations are in full effect for someone.

At least I am working from home, listening to the hip-hop classic station of Comcast’s Music Choice. I am diggin’ the BDP that they just played. I may have to dig some KRS-One out of the crates.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
2:25 pm

@SexyCool- I have yours and Wille D’s JPE just sitting in the car so whenever we cross paths I got yall already done

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
2:26 pm

Tazzee – “Epiphany” and “Point of it All” is hotter than hot though. My favs…Well India has a hot one too.

SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?

June 22nd, 2009
2:27 pm

Taz – Music is such a huge part of my life and I can so relate different songs to different events/eras in my life that when I was going through my divorce, I refused to listen to music because I didn’t want to associate one of the most precious things in my life with what had been one of the worst times of my life.

I didn’t listen to music from March 1997 to July 1997.

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
2:28 pm

A.red…i will say this…if baby is work li’bitties…she better be slim with killer abs…

Pretty a$$ clothes
Pretty a$$ toes
Oh how I love these pretty a$$ ‘Os
Pretty a$$ high class anything goes
Catch them in the club throwing pretty a$4ows
Long John draws
Long John stalls
Any stank pu$$
Makes my long John Pause
Women on the cell making long John Calls
And if they like to juggle get long John?s balls

SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?

June 22nd, 2009
2:28 pm

Even today, when I hear Master P – How you do dat dere? – I am reminded of my first summer after moving to the A and my reasons for relocating.

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
2:30 pm

if baby is work li’bitties…she better be slim with killer abs…

Demi – Well I do got you there! The abs are on point! I’ve been getting (friendly) hated on for those for a long time! Even my sisters can’t stand me for em. lol

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
2:31 pm

W8 you’ve got mail……

Jamoca

June 22nd, 2009
2:31 pm

N8 – Thanks.

Cee – Chica, if you (and Tazzee :) ) don’t stop with that Track #5 of A.H! …and I love “Her Heart” and “Supaman”…really the entire album. But lately I’ve been on “Do You Feel Me” (American Gangster sdtrk). I love that song so much, that I played it back to back for at least 30 minutes. I know it’s an old one, but I still love it.

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
2:32 pm

Ared-I’ve never seen a tattoo on a woman’s arm or upper back that looked classy. But I haven’t been particularly geeked to see em on men either <– I agree!

PG- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Only if I worked out….

Raqi

June 22nd, 2009
2:32 pm

Just to add my .02 of randomness from the comments I am reading:

Being well aware of the facts that life happens and we grow old and weary, I look forward to growing old with the one I love and taking on and making it thru all the “breaks” life can and will bring. Vaginal dryness – menopause is unavoidable. Sagging breasts – all old skin gets weak and loses it elasticity. Erectile dysfunction – his father died from prostate cancer and so did his grandfather so he is expecting it.
When all of this comes on we will/should be comfortable and familiar enough with each other to flow right on thru not to mention the fact are love will be on a solid foundation of other things. He can just pick up some KY at the pharmacy when he goes to get his Cialis. And the sagging breast? After a while he won’t know if it’s the wrinkles in my breast or the wrinkles in his hands that he is feeling.

SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?

June 22nd, 2009
2:32 pm

ARed – It’s easy to have killer abs when you ain’t got no meat on your bones.

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
2:33 pm

Music is such a huge part of my life and I can so relate different songs to different events/eras in my life…

I feel you there…the first song on the radio…on 107.9…coming up I-75N exit 216…No Mo Play In GA…1999

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
2:34 pm

Ared- You get hated on too?? OMGoodness :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Melo

June 22nd, 2009
2:34 pm

I watched that Award show last nite on Spiketv,where Jamie and Halle Berry got on each other’ lips.
Daaaaamn,that was real.
I could see Jamie,standing next to Halle as she spoke about her award and Jamie was obviously Hard!!His jeans front were inflated.
And Halle was dazzed in the face.Stunt or not,phew,that was real.
Halle is a slut 4show!
Wonder what hubby is thinking,oh maybe they swing!

Poppa Grande

June 22nd, 2009
2:34 pm

SexyCool

I refused to listen to music because I didn’t want to associate one of the most precious things in my life with what had been one of the worst times of my life.

I feel you on that. Unfortunately, I was listening to the Miseducation of Lauryn Hill when I got the call that my grammy died. I even remember that the song playing at the time was “ex factor”. Such a good CD has such a bad memory attached to it.

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
2:35 pm

Jamoca Anthony’s latest has been speaking to my inner inhibtions for about 4 months straight now. Girl marriage is making that brother say sumthin to us!!!

Leggs (Karyn)

June 22nd, 2009
2:35 pm

Teena Marie’s CD, Congo Square, is nice, real nice! I’m so glad she didn’t stay a victim to the drugs! She sounds incredible.

Tazzee - countdown to NFL season

June 22nd, 2009
2:35 pm

kimmie – As long as he doesn’t get anymore tattoos I’m fine. Wait, I take that back – if he were to get another one I wouldn’t sweat it.

W8 – I want that P90X

wow, I thought I hit submit a while ago…