Free to be me
There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.
The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?
Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?
Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?
Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?
How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?
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Mo (aka Moeisha-waiting for wednesday)
June 22nd, 2009
1:16 pm
W8 – LOL @ cat burglars. UknowwatImean…..
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:17 pm
trip
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
1:18 pm
I’ve never seen a tattoo on a woman’s arm or upper back that looked classy. But I haven’t been particularly geeked to see em on men either.
Kym-10 days and counting!!!
June 22nd, 2009
1:19 pm
Oh yeahh and I have never worn or desired to wear..weave, braids or wigs. I am not a make-up wearer (well mascara, lipstick.) but mostly I wash my face slap on moisturizer and keep it moving. I have this great stuff that a friend turned me on to for washing my face and moisturizing. And I like liptints from Bath and Body.
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:21 pm
@Kym- That’s what’s up
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
1:21 pm
I remember Janet Jackson being on Oprah talking about her ta tas being pierced. Said she loved it because a simple wisp of air blowing on her blouse will have her tingling and she liked the feeling.
I agree, all women should have a belly ring. They’re sexy!
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 22nd, 2009
1:22 pm
I hesitate to bring it up after some of the posts here, but I like pretty feet on a woman. As stupid as it sounds, I may go out with a woman with ugly feet, but I won’t keep her. It is one of the first things I notice. Can be one more errogenous zone. Just my thing.
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:23 pm
I laugh when I here women talk about fake dudes..driving cars he cant afford, dressing above his means..etc..When they wear weaves, push up bra’s, fake nails, jeans that mask your true shape..LMAO
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
1:25 pm
Cee – chica, you know the drill. My mother used to put braids in my hair. Man! She would braid them so tight…no lie, I just wanted to bite the ish out of her kneecaps (you know the stance…babygirl sitting in between Mama’s legs on the floor with a throw pillow for cushion). And don’t get started on that doggone hot comb or “candy curls” . LOL Remember those??? I”m telling you, the things I wanted to do to my folks, when that steam would get a hold of my scalp?? Those were the days….
I used to have a tiny nose ring, but took it out at least 6 months later. I’m glad my tat was done by someone who drew lightly. It tickled, more than it stung…glad it’s well hidden (without much effort). Little cherub gal kinda looks like me, while resting her little cheeks on her hands, with her little head titled to the side…Heyal, I forget it’s even there most times. And I can’t say that there’s a reason to get another one…
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
1:26 pm
Kym – I’m with you there. I think I wore braids in school, but that’s about it. I’ve seen some nice weaves, but never been a girl to go there. Same with fake nails.
As for makeup, I feel it’s best to show the world what you’re working with up front. After doing my brows and putting on some lipgloss, my work here is done.
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
1:27 pm
Melo You got jokes too, i see. FYI my son’s paternal grandmother is caucasian. I ain’t gone lie, while i was pregnant I prayed to GOD that my baby would be a nice DARK chocolate….i was proclaim the look like my dad…dark and tall. But nooo…them genes swayed. It’s all good though.
Lioness Girl, my mom was pleading with me around my 5th month pregnant, for me to take that ring out my belly. She was bothered…it got on her nerves when i wore fitting clothing. But only the people that knew i had one could see the imprint. Then one day i took it out, never to return.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
1:27 pm
I’ve never seen a tattoo on a woman’s arm or upper back that looked classy
generally agree altho the beauty of the woman and the shape and attraction of her bootey to me will come into consderation as well.
Now the tats that really gross me out are the ones women or men put on their side leggs or necks.
Cant understand that lack of class!
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
1:27 pm
LOL @ N8…could be labeled false aaaaaa…oh lemme hush. I tell this here is deja vu…
Don’t start. Lol
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 22nd, 2009
1:29 pm
Also I personally do not care for tattoos on women…I like soft skin too much (although have to admit a few “tramp stamps” pointing to where the action is have caught my attention).
Nose rings, nope
…belly rings, depends on the belly
…toe rings, sexy on the right feet
…ankle bracelets, big turn on for me.
These are mine, everyone else needs to do their own thing. “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”.
kimmie(Sheree)
June 22nd, 2009
1:30 pm
W8 – But what’s even funnier is when yall men CHASE after that woman that’s wearing the weave, push-up, fake nails, etc…!
It’s kinda sad if EVERYTHING about you is fake. But I see nothing wrong with “enhancing” or helping out the look. For example, if gravity has taken over, what’s wrong with wearing a push-up to look nice in an outfit vs going under the knife & getting a lift? Just another way to look at it.
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
1:30 pm
meant tilted…
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 22nd, 2009
1:31 pm
W8…as I stated..the weave is not because I am bald. I have plenty of hair. But when you dance and work out a lot your hair sweats and it is not healthy to wash and blow it out daily. So sometimes the hair gets’ stressed and requires rest before it breaks. My hair remains healthy because I let it rest for a month.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
1:32 pm
@kimmie, many here have said that a push-up bra is false advertising.
@RandyT, love ankle bracelets!
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
1:32 pm
Kimmie After the summer braiding you and i might look like sisters. Lol…my color stylist say copper is best for me. So i’m thinking….
Mooooca Please don’t bring up the memories about braids when momma did them when we were little girls!
If i had a duaghter she would were braids and spirals all the time. My niece likes when i do her hair. She get’s afro puffs! soo cute.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
1:33 pm
but I like pretty feet on a woman
pretty feet and hands and fingers tgether RandyT.same here!
Cant stand a woman with feet,hands and fingers resembling those of a auto mechanic or plumber.U knw a plumbers’ fingers and hands are fat and messed up.
I like the fingers,toes etc kinda slim and fragile.
Cant imagine fat,spaghetti junction forked fingers rubing on my wang! Hell Gross!!
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:33 pm
@Staceye- You are a bald headed devil and aint no good in you..lmao I know you are a dancer and umm sorry for not showing lastnight…but my sis didnt seem surprised did she..lol
@Kimmie- I don’t lol..I guess I should have used padded bra instead of push up bra as a reference…but if they sag that much she needs to keep that push up bra on during intimacy..lol
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 22nd, 2009
1:34 pm
Hi Leggs
My 21 year old daughter and I were eating dinner, and she said she thought ankle bracelets looked trashy. I had to bite my tongue HARD not to tell her that her old man finds them sexy as hellz. LOL
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
1:36 pm
I had to bite my tongue HARD not to tell her that her old man finds them sexy as hellz. LOL
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:36 pm
I’ve seen some tat’s that look nice…now if you are one race and have another races tribal mark on your body..WTH? are you Asian..no..well why in the hell do you have that writing on you permantley..Did you really need a tweety bird on your breast…so now at the age of 35 those tiger paws on your thighs and breast seem out of place…Why yes a butterfly is a recognizable sign of lesbians…lmao
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 22nd, 2009
1:37 pm
@ Melo … no kidding, LOL. If I wanted a woman that looked like a man, I would switch teams. I like them soft and feminine…and headstrong!!!
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:37 pm
Anyone ever look at a midgets fingers…ewwwwwww
I like nice feet hands and toes…
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
1:38 pm
Why is W8 telling folks which bra?
Ya’ll “Epiphany” is the summer jam! Along with Anthony Hamilton Thursday night…i’m good for summer fun.
kimmie(Sheree)
June 22nd, 2009
1:40 pm
Leggs – Funny! So are implants in my opinion!
W8 – Even padded is not always a bad thing. A well-fitted bra just makes one look nicer in their clothes, in certain outfits. After giving birth, breast-feeding, getting older, losing & gaining a lot of weight, the “girls” most times are not as perky!
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
1:41 pm
Jamoca Oh, sorry you are a Anthony Hamilton groupie with me. Let’s see…keep your phone on deck thurs. night.
@Melo – Do you know where Atl. spaghetti junction is?
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
1:41 pm
…say it Sheree ! I know it’s not all, but many of them tend to go after the chick looking like a my size bratz doll. LOL But honestly, those are usually the one’s I don’t particularly care for either way. So more power to them both.
Shady folks tend to attract like minds, just a real folks recognizing what???
Enhancements are okay IMO as long as we both know what’s up and depending on what their enhancing or in some cases masking. Such as a woman who prefers not to wear a bra. And I don’t care who she is, them jokers aren’t going to sit up like apples forever. And even if they did, certain things need not be revealed while you’re out in public (esp).
So…are they’re a show of hands of who prefers the tatas (no pun) to sit up like apples or those with a little gravity (to allow the aerolas an easy glide on top of the tongue and inside of mouth)???
And no, we are no talking droopy Eeyore tig-o-bitties….
Demi
June 22nd, 2009
1:43 pm
W8…I enjoyed myself..got my drink on…my eat on…got my one dance on…my this red bone sista, withsome mean abs and a beautiful sight to behold virgina…I think my home boy got his ‘blessed’ while there…he’s cool with the day manger…I told him I was good…in no mood to trick off, even if I wasn’t paying for it.
We left a around 430p…MAAAAAyNE!!!! When that hot sun hit my semi-drunk a$$…I dayum near pass out, LOL
I had fun, no complaints.
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:43 pm
@Ce- Cuz i’m an artist and I’m serious about my stuff..lol
@Kimmie-Hey I am only speaking for myself here. Thats like that men girdles for their wastline, chest, or legs they sell now..yeah it would make a man look better in a suit, in some jeans..etc..but once you get that man home and he gets undressed…you will feel like you been robbed a bit once he is standing there naked
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
1:44 pm
Dads – Have any of you taken your daughter’s bra shopping?
My dad had before and he lost it! It was funny as heck!!!
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
1:46 pm
Melo – Do you know where Atl. spaghetti junction is?
CEE,down there!!!!!!
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
1:48 pm
All implants are false advertisement. A lot of men are quick to assert that they don’t like boob jobs, but how many are willing to state they had a penal implant…HAAAA, didn’t think so.
I know, I know some of you young bucks don’t need that, but others do. 
Demi
June 22nd, 2009
1:48 pm
LOL@W8/Jamoca…talking about fake women
kimmie(Sheree)
June 22nd, 2009
1:50 pm
W8 – I feel ya, it’s just different extremes to the whole thing. Most dudes I know can tell if a lady is faking DD’s but she’s really a AA! We ladies can too. As for a dude, I prefer mine to not be so vain – that’s girly to wear a girdle! You can only hold in a potbelly for so long, so may as well just buy clothes that fit but flatter – like a well-dressed lady would do.
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:51 pm
On breast, I am not a breast guy I tend to like a handful and thats about it..I have experienced then all though..except for the saggy ones..flappy skin is not for me..now for some reason stretch marks dont bother me..especially if they are from pregancy..
@Ce- I have taken my daughter bra shopping, no problem
@Leggs- Penis implants..wow…how was that experience…does it still work with an implant..lol
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:53 pm
@Kimmie-Man girdles, man stockings…let me find out..I would be kicking some dudes azz
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
1:53 pm
On breast, I am not a breast guy I tend to like a handful and thats about it..
I love guys that think this way.
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
1:54 pm
Nooooo Melo. Man, you know my comments have NO sexual innuendos. The “spaghetti junction” I was speaking of is a nickname sometimes given to our intertwined interchange that resembles spaghetti.
near Doraville and PIB exit.
At the 1-85N, I-85S, I-285N, I-285S, junction. ANd PIB is the exit that crosses under all that ^^^.
PIB = Peachtree Industrial Blvd.
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:54 pm
man bag…that is a purse…
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
1:56 pm
Let me clarify stretch marks= If it looks like a tiger has mauled your stomach it aint happening with you and me…but the few ones on the low outer ass cheeks we are okay.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
1:57 pm
Club Donkey Booty??
where that at Demi??
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 22nd, 2009
1:58 pm
W8…kiss my a$$ sucka!
“Why yes a butterfly is a recognizable sign of lesbians” No that’s a lie…I got a butterfly as a symbol of growth in my life. And yes it’s my “Tramp stamp”!
Um…a man girdle??? EWWWW
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 22nd, 2009
1:58 pm
@ Leggs… I knew this one guy (kind of screwed up I thought, even before revealing this), who had a penile implant (the kind that you inflate). He said he would pump it up and let his wife ride until she got tired, then let the air out. Really weirded me out frankly.
Tazzee - countdown to NFL season
June 22nd, 2009
1:58 pm
Kym – let me know what you use to wash and moisturize your face. I’m like you – I keeps it clean and moisturized. Right now I’m using Oil of Olay but looking for something new.
I’ve had braids before – the last time is when I went to South Africa. Didn’t want to have to deal with my hair during that trip. The trip was 12 days and the braids only lasted about 8 (well, I’d had them about a week before).
My make-up consists of eye-liner and mascara most days. On special occasions I might put on some eyeshadow and colored lip gloss.
No tats, only earrings…yeah, I’m pretty vanilla. Although I did think about getting a tat right after I pledged. I’m glad I didn’t.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
2:00 pm
but the few ones on the low outer ass cheeks we are okay.but the few ones on the low outer ass cheeks we are okay.
W8 – Would you recommend these women show them off in swimwear tho? I need full coverage back there, even if they are okay in the bedroom!
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
2:00 pm
@W8, Staceye took the words out of my mouth (see 1:58, first line).
Seriously, I wouldn’t know! I don’t do old dudes!
kimmie(Sheree)
June 22nd, 2009
2:00 pm
W8 – Yeah, I’m sorry I’m old-school about stuff like that – purses, stockings, etc, – that’s GIRL STUFF! I like a man to be a man! If you got a gutt, go to the gym but in the meantime buy clothes that fit & pull up your pants! If I encountered a DUDE that wore “enhancements” I’d run!