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Free to be me

There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.

The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?

Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?

Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?

Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?

How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?

679 comments Add your comment

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
12:14 pm

lol@Page you should become a Hawks fan then I will talk basketball with you…booo Lakers..lol

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
12:16 pm

(Demi- That time shouldn’t have much of an ordor at all! Can only speak for myself..)

Lioness…my nose is very sensitive…even the light flows (beginning of the womanly cycle) bother me…i be like, ‘it’s that time,huh?’

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:17 pm

Ared- What brand of wipes do you use with Witchhazel in them?

I usually just buy the generic version at Wal-Mart or Target, but you have to get them in the hemorrhoid section. I used to use the regular femine wipes (Cotonelle, Stayfree) but they are too busy using fragrences and stuff. I just want the best one out there that can keep the kitty fresh!

Kym-Game On!

June 22nd, 2009
12:18 pm

@W8 I am with you on football. I will be especially glad when comcast and the nfl sign all their funky paperwork so I can get my NFL network back without adding the sports pack for channels I will never watch. Pre-season is in the air. I am so ready!!! The Steeler Nation can always do with another ring.

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:20 pm

What do you do with your feet since you think rubbing feet is so gross????

EPO – Uh…what are some other options? Cuz I just say leave em alone. :lol:

And actually, I said rubbing on random folks feet is gross. What if you got a fat foot with corns and cankles? :lol:

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:21 pm

Ared- :GIRLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are tooooooooooooo Funny!!

Lurker- Appreciate your honesty! Keep getting those pedicures & wear the right size shoes!

Demi- I feel you BUT I was referring to the type of fishy smell Melo seems to encounter when leaving the EXTRAS on him & the misses after their sessions..

Kym-10 days and counting!!!

June 22nd, 2009
12:21 pm

@Leggs..don’t tell me you are in a blog fight..girl I look to you when I am about ready to go high and to the left sometimes on here. Its the heat..here have a mimosa..here have two.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
12:22 pm

Now I will tell you what is embarassing..lol

At the store and you buy a box of condoms and there is some little 12 year old girl with her mom right behind you…lol..that was funny or..stopping at the gas station with your homies and you walk in and look around then as the clerk Hey where are the comdoms..you go get them come to the counter and then you realize that you are buying condoms with another man…LMAO

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:22 pm

Ared- STOP IT!!! Cankles ain’t NO JOKE!!!

I think if more women should sip on some wine & dance in the mirror every day!

Rell

June 22nd, 2009
12:23 pm

the whole foot thing must be a new fad…saturday at OSS i seen a cat rubbing some chicks feet when they stopped dancing….last time i went i seen a dude holding the purse of the chick he was dancing with…wtf is going on!!!!!!

Alvin

June 22nd, 2009
12:23 pm

(What if you have ugmo feet)

You better be a dayum good cook…tight head game (speaking of intelligents)…and a great sex game…most men will over look flaws of a women, if she has other pleasing qualities about her

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
12:23 pm

LOL @ me being a Hawks fan. Lakers and Suns only! Speaking of the Suns….I saw a Steve Nash bobble head at the Dollar Store, so of course, I bought all of them. lol

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:24 pm

** I think more women should **

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
12:25 pm

When I see some tats I am like what were you thinking..it took me two years to do research on my tatts and placement is key

I concur W8/N8….mine are tastefully placed and you can’t see them unless I’m wearing something revealing or if you hittin’it from the…. um never mind. They all have meaning and are sentimental to ME which is why they are where they are on my baaaawwwwdy :)

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:25 pm

What if you have ugmo feet? What is a girl to do?

Lurker – Trust, someone out there will like your feet.

I don’t particularly care for mine. Even though I’m long and lean, my toes rather short and stubby. I didnt’ like wearing open toed shoes when I was younger and I’m from CA!

But even though I don’t count them as my best feature, I still get compliments on them from time to time. So there is something out there for everyone! :lol:

Jamoca

June 22nd, 2009
12:25 pm

Hello…

LOL @ the topic of going with the “flow” literally of the crimson tide and N8 (along with several folks) desperately trying to change the subject…hahahaaa…don’t blame you. This is definitely deja vu…

As for the original topic, as it has been stated…one should use their own discretion when it comes to such things. I’ve never been so liberal with myself and mother nature, and if I can…I’ll go through a few hoops to keep those moments at bay. However, if it happens…who cares???… its nature. Say excuse me, freshen yourself/the place up (if possible) and go on about your business.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
12:25 pm

@Rell- I was at Atlantic Station and this young dude was rubbing his girls feet on a bench out there then he started kissing them right there. I was like these dudes now a days…I mean if her feet hurt thats different but just trying to be flirty and spit game..keep that crap for the bedroom

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:26 pm

OSS?? I need them to switch up the music.. Same stuff every month.. My homegirl works there and I don’t even bother going cause I know they are playing the same music they played when I was there in October..

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:26 pm

One compliment I got on my feet was “girl, your feets are niiice…no corns or anything!”

I’m like, “wow…I guess some folks just expect corns.” I was really taken aback!

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
12:27 pm

I dont like my areas over populated or for them to become to trendy.

W8 Would that be the 30 or 35 and over? I like those places. ummmm…thinking about letting the Wine Bar go cuase i just sit there while my girls network.

Kym-10 days and counting!!!

June 22nd, 2009
12:28 pm

I can not stand for my feet to be touched in a sexual manner. Yes I get my pedi but even then I am a bit squimish. All that slobbing on my toes will get you a kick to the face.

In the words of King Julian..”No one is to be touching the royal feets.”

East Point's Own

June 22nd, 2009
12:30 pm

AmazonRed I meant what do you do with your feet to make them so nasty that the thought of people rubbing feet is gross to you.

Secondly what about witchhazel smell fresh? in my book that is not something I would want to smell either. Walkign around smelling like an old lady somewhere… LoL

but that’s just http://hispointofview.com

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:30 pm

I LOVE tastefully placed tattoos!!!! YUMMY!! I want 2 more.. Maybe I will ask my man where he would like them :mrgreen:

I was on line @ a 24 hr Walmart @ 12am with a can of Whipped cream & astroglide.. Mind you, the line was EXTRA long..

Leggs (Karyn)

June 22nd, 2009
12:30 pm

HAAAAAAAAAAAA @Kim, no blog fight. It’s settled.

Gulp, gulp, gulp, gulp. Whew, I needed that. Thanks (LOL)!

Melo

June 22nd, 2009
12:31 pm

Christopher is dark like Melo’s nephew

CEE,U seen my nephew??
Which one??

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
12:32 pm

ARed, one friend of mine in San Diego has 2 corns on like 4 of her toes. She sometimes uses pancake foundation to cover them up or toe rings.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
12:32 pm

@Ce-yep thats the age range and the people are real, they are not on any bullshyt…off the beaten path but yet still very nice and upscale..just grown

@Kym- Why did I recognize that line from “The Penguins Of Madagascar”..lol

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:32 pm

I mean if her feet hurt thats different but just trying to be flirty and spit game..

:lol: W8 – Maybe that’s what it was. Cuz I don’t see a guy trying to spit game that way. But I could see him trying to help her out after a day of walking around and shopping.

In public though IS a bit much. My foot betta be damn near about to fall off!!!

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:32 pm

Raqi

June 22nd, 2009
12:33 pm

Levels of being free and comfortable include those bad hair days. Those tee and sweats afternoons. Those no makeup and accessories days. I am not talking about letting yourself go but just merely being comfortable enough to just be comfortable. It’s a misery life to try and be dolled up every second of the day that you are around your love interest or mate.

I make sure that I am clean and smell good. I may not and can’t always look like I just stepped off of a runway, but I will always smell good and be clean. If a man couldn’t work with that then he couldn’t work with me.

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
12:33 pm

Lioness, I don’t have any tats. Just a belly button piercing.

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:35 pm

I used to like hanging @ the Geisha House & I was pleasantly SURPRISED when I went one day & they were charging to get in.. That was my last time chilling @ Atlantic Satation

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:35 pm

Ared- STOP IT!!! Cankles ain’t NO JOKE!!!

:lol: Lioness, I’m just not a foot person, so trust if I had been born with cankles and flat feet my feet would never see the light of day, I’d wear boots year round! :lol:

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
12:35 pm

Lioness…oh, i think Melo, is talk about the way puddy smells after cummin…creaming…got worked…during and after the act…I love that smell as well, LOL

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
12:36 pm

(Lioness, I don’t have any tats. Just a belly button piercing.)

Page…word? I gotta see it…and when can I see your nipple ring?

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
12:37 pm

“Levels of being free and comfortable include those bad hair days. Those tee and sweats afternoons. Those no makeup and accessories days. I am not talking about letting yourself go but just merely being comfortable enough to just be comfortable”

@Raqi- that is the sexiest to me,,that is that natural beauty..all of the lingerie is fine and dandy yada yada yada..but when it is just her…mmm mmmm mmm..I like the natural!!!!!!!

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:38 pm

I meant what do you do with your feet to make them so nasty that the thought of people rubbing feet is gross to you.

Nothing…like I said, some folks aren’t into feet, I’m one of them.

As for the witch hazel…it’s not soaked in it. You can’t smell it and it evaporates. :D

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
12:38 pm

I don’t have any tats. Just a belly button piercing.

I have one of those,too….had it for ~12 yrs and I loves it.

Sassy Me goin’ to the gym…read y’all in a bit……

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:38 pm

Page- I have one of those too.. Had mine for 11 yrs.. Get a tat.. They are addictive.. I have five myself :mrgreen:

Mytwo- WHERE YA AT??

Demi- Okkkkkkkkkk.. He mentioned fish though :evil:

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:39 pm

I was on line @ a 24 hr Walmart @ 12am with a can of Whipped cream & astroglide..

:lol: :lol: :lol: Get it girl.

Melo

June 22nd, 2009
12:40 pm

Just a belly button piercing

Page,can i see it??

Lioness's Man (not Demi)

June 22nd, 2009
12:41 pm

(Maybe I will ask my man where he would like them)

I want you to put a tattoo on the nipple…lower back…and slightly above the clit…

Any ladies on here with a clit ring?

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:41 pm

Page- Nipple Ring?? WOW!! You have both pierced? Piercings aren’t my thing but you never know..

Ared- I’m just not a foot person, so trust if I had been born with cankles and flat feet my feet would never see the light of day, I’d wear boots year round!<– :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

SexyCool - I dance like I've got diamonds at the meeting of my thighs.

June 22nd, 2009
12:42 pm

I will disagree on the addiction to tattooing. I’ve had ONE for 16 years. No plans on getting another – EVER!!!

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:42 pm

can not stand for my feet to be touched in a sexual manner. Yes I get my pedi but even then I am a bit squimish. All that slobbing on my toes will get you a kick to the face.

EPO – I agree with Kym on this. Pedicures are not particularly enjoyable for me.

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
12:42 pm

LOL Sassy and Lioness. I got mine back in 1997 before it was even “hip”.

Demi- Ummm no dude, I couldn’t get a nipple ring.

Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
12:43 pm

Demi- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: I do sexy to the MAX!! Actually, some of those places you mentioned have already been inked..

SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?

June 22nd, 2009
12:44 pm

How many tats do you have to have before you run out of “tasteful” places to put them and officially cross over into just d@mn ghetto?

East Point's Own

June 22nd, 2009
12:46 pm

AmazonRed aiight den.. I was wondering about that witch hazel.. LoL

And I was not saying that everybody should like having their feet rubbed, but seeing other people rubbing feet should not gross you out either…

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
12:46 pm

I’ve had ONE for 16 years. No plans on getting another – EVER!!!

I agree with SexyCool. I’ve had mine for 13 years. I did it because I wanted to do it, and I did it with my best friend but my tat carries no significance other than the fact it was something I wanted to do.

I considered getting a 2nd one, but to me, there are only a few places that are sexy AND can be covered by clothing and only one place fit both criteria.