Free to be me
There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.
The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?
Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?
Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?
Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?
How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?
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Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
11:20 am
LOL SexyCool Mason said watching her be born did not freak him out but “ouch”. LOL
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
11:20 am
Raqi- LOLOL @ using the word “menses”! Dang, I haven’t heard that in a long time. lmao.
lurker
June 22nd, 2009
11:20 am
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lurker
June 22nd, 2009
11:21 am
When at home alone, why do we close the bathroom door?
Spoiled Lioness-
June 22nd, 2009
11:23 am
Melo- It shouldn’t smell funky UNLESS something is wrong with the two of you.. Bacterial infection has that scent too..
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:24 am
So is it going to humid all week?
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
11:24 am
When at home alone, why do we close the bathroom door?
Lurker – With that i’m a freak of habit.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
11:25 am
Raqi — Peeing doesn’t bother me. Neither does blood. (And for clarification, my earlier statement was a bit of hyperbole — I will lick/suck on my girl’s cl!t with surgical precision during that time, but I’m not diving in full-bore.) But crap — don’t want to think about that.
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
11:27 am
LOL Page my grandmother was a nurse and she would say menses instead of period menstruation or menstrual cycle. I picked it up from her.
But Swiss is disgusting. Blood is not supposed to be ingested. Especially human blood. I wonder if he realizes the menses is the lining of the uterus shedding.
lurker
June 22nd, 2009
11:27 am
Why when you blow up the bathroom you can’t smell it? I hate that. LOL.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)
June 22nd, 2009
11:27 am
So is it going to humid all week?
From what the meteorologists have said thus far, W8 it’s like this all week…can’t wait to get back to South Beach in August.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
11:27 am
Bacterial infection has that scent too
Sassy,that chemical reaction is funnky to me.
Cam,which answer i gave u?? I said watch ur man?? Dip dry,what u referring to?
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:28 am
@Swiss- do you kiss her with the blood on your mouth?
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:29 am
@Sassy- I am just putting random things out there to talk about..cuz um even though I am inquisitive this convo is gross..lol
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
11:30 am
Swiss- No that sounds more like it!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)
June 22nd, 2009
11:30 am
okay Swiss…point made..point taken…just be careful…k boo boo……awrighty then.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
11:30 am
Ared- I agree with your 10:55 comment.. I would have told her to kick rocks
Lioness – We certainly did! She looked so crestfallen. We had to remind her that she was an only child. Privacy galore. The rest of us had siblings. We know how to share a bathroom.
lurker
June 22nd, 2009
11:30 am
You leave the door open and walk away. Then five minutes later, you’re like DAYUM!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
11:31 am
W8 — No. I don’t really get any blood on my mouth (see disclaimer in my previous post — I stay above the flow)
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)
June 22nd, 2009
11:32 am
W8/N8 I agree….we’ve had much much more titillating convos that the onw poppin off right now……..
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
11:33 am
Swiss we had some lumber left over from work we had done and I am going to build a “blog time out” corner. You will be the first one sent there. LOL
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
11:33 am
@Swiss- do you kiss her with the blood on your mouth?
Swiss is like a hyena when on heat, so the answer is YES!!
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
11:34 am
LOL Raqi yeah I haven’t heard that term since like high school science class. I usually just say “the curse”, “the rag”, “aunt flow”, “monthly gift”, “the dot” or whatever lol.
OMG W8! *gagging* @ 11:28. cochino!!
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)
June 22nd, 2009
11:35 am
AAAAAAAAA!!!!! Sassy clicking her heels, eyes shut hell-a tight saying “There’s no place like home”
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
11:36 am
Swiss – Im still not over your vampire comment.
How can you say this: There are things I do to her body that I would not be able to do if I had those images burned into my brain.
And then say this: I would continue to do anything I would normally do to her (and I do mean anything) if she would let me. I got no problem coming up for air looking like a vampire…
But then ding your ex for this: My ex, on the other hand, used to want me to come carry on a conversation w/ her while she was on the d@mn pot. Not a good look. At. All.
Just all azz backwards for me. Help me out!
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
11:36 am
Off Topic- The state of Florida is making it mandatory that all city workers wear underwear & deodarant..
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:37 am
@Sassy-Yup humid all week..lol
Mo (aka Moeisha-waiting for wednesday)
June 22nd, 2009
11:37 am
Cemeeli – I cut a good bit off chica. I went from down my back to right at the bottom of my ears
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
11:37 am
Ared-
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
11:37 am
Raqi — Not the time out corner! I’ll be good — I promise.
Dang, always gotta keep the token down, I see how it is…
Demi
June 22nd, 2009
11:38 am
(The next day the nurse was joking with him because all he could say when he saw the top of the baby’s head was “ouch”.)
…Yeah, be like, “And I thought I was beating the puddy up…I wasn’t doing ish!!”
Yes…Demi wipe wang after taking a leak.
I am Swiss…Demi is looking at you sideways…but I do enjoy peeing on women…turning and looking at the imaginary viewers: thank r.kelly!!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
11:40 am
ARed — I’ll sum it up for you w/ a little rhyme…
If it’s yellow or red, g’on ahead — but if it’s brown, swiss ain’t down.
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
11:41 am
Demi- Ok.. All that shaking it off & getting it on the seat THEN wanting to get it slobbed BUT it is a turn off if you here me pee is just tooo much!!
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
11:42 am
Lioness – Tag.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
11:42 am
@Mo, sharmyn.kelliehan@opc.com
Demi
June 22nd, 2009
11:43 am
Swiss…how do you deal with the odor?
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
11:43 am
Swiss- You just made it WORSE!!
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:44 am
So those protest overseas are getting crazy..although I respect them for it though..American we protest by sending chain emails and blogging…lol
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
11:44 am
LOL Lioness at slobbing the knob after peeing. OMG! This topic has gone sooooo far left, it’s ain’t even funny. lmao.
MO- Leggs doesn’t know how to open up pictures in jpegs on her work email, which I don’t get why she just put on this public blog lol.
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
11:45 am
Demi- That time shouldn’t have much of an ordor at all! Can only speak for myself..
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
11:46 am
Question to the Men- Do you wipe off after you pee?
Lioness – I learned the answer to this question on the blog and I was NOT happy with the answer!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
11:47 am
To answer you a little more seriously, ARed — the “vampire” remark was hyperbole. I’m not slurping blood. I will service the cl!t and I’m not squeamish about getting my fingers red, but I’m not ingesting a uterus or anything…
Basically, I have a hang-up on poop. Don’t want to think about it in any shape or form. That’s best kept in solitude, as far as I’m concerned.
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
11:47 am
Helping relieve ingrown toenails. Examining folliculitis in the oddest places. Picking up used Kleenex during your partner’s bout with the flu or a sever allergy. Picking up items from the drug store.
Some things just say I love (like you a lot) you like no others.
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
11:48 am
I cut a good bit off chica. I went from down my back to right at the bottom of my ears.
Mo Ooooohhhhh….my baby would say that’s ^^^ blasphemy!
Kimmie – Copper? or Reddish?
Ya’ll know i’m braid queen. I’m getting them done as soon as i get enough energy to deal with my African queen and her tiny fingers in my head all day long. sigh
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
11:49 am
Demi — There really isn’t any. At least not for Swiss Miss.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
11:49 am
Looks like Phil Mickleson might win this thing.
I hate that muthaphluckker!!!
SexyCool - I dance like I've got diamonds at the meeting of my thighs.
June 22nd, 2009
11:49 am
Actually, Lioness – it’s a CITY in Florida – Brooksville – just north of Tampa – that is instituting that code as employee policy.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
11:51 am
If it’s yellow or red, g’on ahead — but if it’s brown, swiss ain’t down.
Swiss…Got it now…thanks!
Spoiled Lioness- Referring My Man To Nitpickers Anonymous
June 22nd, 2009
11:51 am
Raqi- How do you help relieve ingrown toenails?? I feel sorry for folks with that issue..
Question- Since we are sort of on the topic of sucking things.. Do any of yall suck toes? I don’t but just curious
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
11:51 am
Lioness – Tag again.