Free to be me
There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.
The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?
Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?
Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?
Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?
How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?
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Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
10:46 am
LOL @ Buckshot. OMG wow. No comment:)
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
10:47 am
with the amount of time we spend together
Tazzee exactly. If two people spend enough time together it cannot be avoided. You should not be obnoxious but it is inevitable in life.
A little off topic but not so much, my husband watched our daughter be born. When she crowned the doctor told him to look. The next day the nurse was joking with him because all he could say when he saw the top of the baby’s head was “ouch”. LOL The only other thing more real than that is…Wow, nothing.
Bobby and Whitney do not count.
Spoiled Lioness- May The Best Man Win
June 22nd, 2009
10:48 am
Demi- Goodness!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
10:48 am
Raqi — I apply the same standard to myself. I don’t want Swiss Miss anywhere around when I’ve got to take care of business either. Like I said, of course I know it happens, but I don’t have to be there when it does.
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
10:49 am
Ooops… sorry for the all bold. Forgot the closing tag….
Spoiled Lioness- May The Best Man Win
June 22nd, 2009
10:49 am
Swiss- WOW!! I know A LOT of men that enjoy sexing during that time but that is the first time I have heard THAT!! Glad she is marrying you cause you are special
Couldn’t let my man do that..
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
10:51 am
@i’m swiss, you are truly crazy!
@Mo, you cut your hair! You said you would. Send me a pic. Oh, and thanks for the compliment on my shoes!
Kym-Game On!
June 22nd, 2009
10:52 am
I feel a topic switch coming on…
Spoiled Lioness- May The Best Man Win
June 22nd, 2009
10:53 am
Kym-
You KNOW you & I can’t wait 
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
10:54 am
“I try to be cute about the burping thing but once we are cool, cuteness goes out the window!
uh hunh..after a while you start making musical sounds together…ugh. lol
abc
June 22nd, 2009
10:54 am
They’re going to be ‘free to be themselves’ sooner or later, better sooner.
When I was a teenager my pop described to me how I’d be able to tell if it was really love. He said, “if you’re shaving in the morning, and she comes into the bathroom, hair in curlers, and sits down on the commode right in front of you to take a pee, and you’re not completely grossed out, then it might be real love.”
‘Course, Pop’s other piece of valuable advice amounted to “know when to keep it in your pants”.
If the man farts, burps, picks his nose, whatever, right in front of you, it’s a sign that he’s let his guard down around you, at least. That’s a good thing. If you’re not completely disgusted, it might just be for real. Pay attention.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)
June 22nd, 2009
10:55 am
<emI put my mouth down there..
I hear you heavy W8. Sexy Cool I run the water while I’m “going” b/c I hate to hear that splash,too….sometimes I flush/pee/wipe in one fell swoop.
I would continue to do anything I would normally do to her (and I do mean anything) if she would let me. I got no problem coming up for air looking like a vampire…
OMG SWISSIE you run red lights,too. Is it any different than any other time?…..I can’t do it….just can’t.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
10:55 am
I never knew about running water while you pee to mask the sound until recently. During my girls trip in Miami, one of the girls announced the bathroom rules and that was one of them. We told her to go somewhere with all of dat. No one was trying to nasty up the bathroom in the first place.
abc
June 22nd, 2009
10:56 am
Then again, I brought my girl home a ‘Privacy Please’ sign to hang on her bathroom’s doorknob, and I lock the door when I’m in the bathroom. We’re not all that interested in going there. Having 4 bathrooms helps.
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
10:57 am
abc I agree with all of that except the nose picking. Get a kleenex. That’s what they are for.
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
10:58 am
Demi – You call it “throne”. I call it “meeting”.
SexyCool - I dance like I've got diamonds at the meeting of my thighs.
June 22nd, 2009
10:58 am
Funny thing is….I do it without even thinking about it. I had some company recently and had to go to the bathroom while he was there. Now that I’m reflecting on it, I realize that I turned the water on without even thinking about it.
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
10:59 am
Cee, one of my girlfriends calls is “going to the library”. lol
Mo (aka Moeisha-waiting for wednesday)
June 22nd, 2009
10:59 am
SexyCool – asked me why I run the water while I’m in the bathroom….I do the same thing chica!! LOL! I thought I was the only person to do that.
Swiss – well alrighty then…..LOL! Never heard that before
SexyCool – whats you email addy? Yeah I cut it this weekend and I feel so good!
Demi – thanks Chocolate Baby
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
10:59 am
I got no problem coming up for air looking like a vampire…
Blow Me
June 22nd, 2009
10:59 am
Good Morning!! Cute Topic too cute
Yes I am not gonna mess my hair up for no one! I am going to sleep with my scarf on to keep the wrap flawless…The dominician mommies work will not be in vain. lol! He can have it one or 2 ways….either except me looking a hot mess tonight or ALL day tomorrow. My hair is not right after I go to sleep without wrapping my hair. Sorry gotta keep the hair fierce…I do not have a problem whipping that out! Trust!
But POOTIN and POOPIN..nah not me. I will handle that the first thing in the morning. Pooping and showering…..Turn the shower on and POOP away! lmao! I flush as soon as it hits the water..I am like that when I am alone..I still feel it’s unladylike to have that thing funked out! lol!
I have the POOPIN and SHOWERING all down pack! He isn’t the wiser!
Only time I guy will hear me POOT is when I am asleep…yes sometimes I do let out a stinker or too…Hell then I can’t help it!
But POOTIN AND POOPIN….Nah I just cant let out that FURY all willi nilli!! lmao!
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
11:01 am
(We put our mouths on most of those places)
Which is why I don’t understand folks being grossed out by the sound or sight of someone peeing.
Butt holes and anything dealing with them is where I draw the line on the seeing and everything else. That’s all I got to say about that.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
11:01 am
I got no problem coming up for air looking like a vampire
Swiss,u on ur own there.
I will just give her the pelvic thrust,make some depsits and then visit there later on.
I dont want my wang coming out and looking like a python,with its head smashed and dripping with blood!!
My Queen dont like to hear my fart, and i do fart a lot.I now treat her to the silent missile,fuuuuuuuuuuuuu,fuuuuuuuuuuuu,fuuuuuuuu!
And she will, say,did u fart?
W8,I dont mind her going to pee be4 the doo.The only problem is im not licking there soon after!
And i do like some head game while in the shower,tgether.
The best!
kimmie(Sheree)
June 22nd, 2009
11:02 am
Mo – I cut mine & got highlights last Saturday. A new look makes you feel so wonderful, doesn’t it?!
SexyCool - I dance like I've got diamonds at the meeting of my thighs.
June 22nd, 2009
11:02 am
cscfromajc@yahoo.com
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:03 am
@Swiss-lol@your bloodwings..ewwwww…if I am in a long term relationship and she just has to have it during that time I was sacrifice my personal beliefs and have intercourse with her…but the oral thing while on her cycle hell nawwwwww
@Demi- if she walked up behind me while peeing..that would just get messy..lol..I had one ex ask to hold it and was just curious to see how it all went down..( i dunno what was up with that)
I was married for 9 years and when my baby was born I hung around my then wifes head while she delivered.. I did not want to see down there at all.
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:05 am
Hey- Kimmie getting closer to Football season!!
Spoiled Lioness- May The Best Man Win
June 22nd, 2009
11:07 am
W8- So you rather a chick pee on you while you are sexing? You NEED to get over that silliness ASAP!
Ared- I agree with your 10:55 comment.. I would have told her to kick rocks
Question to the Men- Do you wipe off after you pee?
SexyCool - I dance like I've got diamonds at the meeting of my thighs.
June 22nd, 2009
11:08 am
I was in the delivery room with one of my goddaughters. I was so into what was going on ‘down there’ the doctor was like, “Ma’am? Excuse me.” LOL.
My gf got so mad at me because I looked up at her and said, “Um, wow, Tiff, that thing is HUGE. I don’t think mine’s gonna do THAT.”
(Probably the real reason I don’t have any kids. GNR)
Spoiled Lioness- May The Best Man Win
June 22nd, 2009
11:09 am
Melo- You won’t eat it if your wife just pee’d? This is the most childish ish I have heard in a LONG TIME!!!
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:11 am
@Lioness- where the hell did I say I would want a woman to pee on me or where did I even imply or joke about that? Aint no woman peeing on me..get your mind right girl
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
11:12 am
LOL Lioness. omg.
Mo (aka Moeisha-waiting for wednesday)
June 22nd, 2009
11:12 am
kimmie -OMG yes!! I was in love with hair before she even styled it! I had highlights already but just needed a new look!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
11:13 am
“Question to the Men- Do you wipe off after you pee?”
Sure, I’ll wipe a chick off after I pee on her. What? Is that not what you were asking?
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
11:13 am
Question to the Men- Do you wipe off after you pee?
why dont u watch what ur man does??
u funny Cam…..
Qstion to u ladies:do u prefer to wipe urself and ur man after the do or u prefer to just sleep and roll on top of ur slime and jus enjoy the funkish fish smell of High-grade liquid protein??
Mo (aka Moeisha-waiting for wednesday)
June 22nd, 2009
11:14 am
Leggs- Im sorry, whats your email addy?
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:15 am
@Ce- “the throne” a ‘Meeting” I call it “the stool of wisdom” because you can have some serious thoughts while there
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
11:15 am
LOL @ “get your mind right”.
Spoiled Lioness- May The Best Man Win
June 22nd, 2009
11:15 am
Xtra W8- Here you go silly.. –> I hate it when you are about to be intimate and the woman goes..Hold on I have to go to the bathroom…then you hear it…ewwwwww that takes me out of the mood for a quick minute..I guess I am just different in my thought process..lol <– Rather her hold it & pee on YOU?
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
11:16 am
You won’t eat it if your wife just pee’d?
Hell naaaaW!!
Sure, I’ll wipe a chick off after I pee on her,
go ahead R-Kelly! 
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 22nd, 2009
11:16 am
“…enjoy the funkish fish smell of High-grade liquid protein…”
Dang, Melo. What have you been eating, dude?
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
11:17 am
“bloodwings” W8?! lol omg that’s totally gross! *gagging*
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
11:17 am
@ Page – The “Library” works. Lol
@ Mo – How much is cut off sis? It took forever for you to cut it.
@ Swiss – Man, that act& you is jus nassy!
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:18 am
“Question to the Men- Do you wipe off after you pee?”
Ummm, no…but anything more than three shakes is a stroke
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
11:18 am
Let me get this straight.
So Swiss you find nothing even remotely disgusting about ingesting a woman’s menses, but you have a problem with hearing her pee??? Or even imaging that she occasionally releasing air from her body???
Wow.
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
11:18 am
GROSS!!! Shut up!
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:19 am
@Lioness-Rather her not let me hear her pee
Spoiled Lioness-
June 22nd, 2009
11:20 am
Swiss- You are SILLY!!
Melo- So I guees by your answer that you drip dry.. YUCK!
To answer your question: Clean it up ASAP!! That stuff gets crusty.. GROSS
Mo (aka Moeisha-waiting for wednesday)
June 22nd, 2009
11:20 am
SexyCool – mail call
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
11:20 am
And for the record farts are nasty…queefs are not!! They are sexy