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Free to be me

There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.

The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?

Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?

Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?

Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?

How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?

679 comments Add your comment

-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)

June 22nd, 2009
3:57 pm

@Rell – Praying aint a game for me. I’ve been with plenty of women i did not care to pray for or with..matter fact if i don’t bring God up she can tell that I am probably not serious about her

Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!

June 22nd, 2009
3:57 pm

Tmac- As long as the feet fit in the sandals and weren’t clawing the ground!

kimmie(Sheree)

June 22nd, 2009
3:58 pm

Tmac- Be happy with what you could get!

Lioness – LOL!!!

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
4:00 pm

Lioness – You’d love lil cee. You would. He has a kncak of witty banter with my cousing with he no having kids self. She aske about his world all the time. They are like thick and thin. He takes on to women that don’t have anykids. She calls him her lil buddy instead of cousin cuase she talks to him about the latest trends and he can hold or carry the conversations.

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
4:00 pm

LOL @ Lioness at 3:57. OMG there was an email going around at one point about women who wear shoes with their heels hanging off the back or their toes hanging off the front. the ugliest thing is to see the asian ladies at the nail shop with their sandals on and their pinky toe dragging on the ground lol. i don’t know why, but the pinky toe is always sticking out and dragging for some reason. lol ctfu.

Poppa Grande

June 22nd, 2009
4:00 pm

Leggs

I saw Rick James and Teena Marie at some panel thing at The GWCC years ago and they told that story. They have also told it on the radio to Ryan Cameron when he was on 107.9.

Melo

June 22nd, 2009
4:01 pm

I have this thing about lightskin long and skinny finers and feet…..

so whats up with going on date wit this chic,hw come u qualify her?

Tmac

June 22nd, 2009
4:01 pm

that is the first thing I look at a girl…..her feet and fingures. Ok with anything but turn off for me is shorty shorty fingures and toes…

Rell

June 22nd, 2009
4:01 pm

just watched the trailer for 2012…..WOW is all i can say just WOW

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
4:01 pm

sorry for tag.

Lurking

June 22nd, 2009
4:02 pm

What is a plebe?

abc

June 22nd, 2009
4:02 pm

Yeah, but all the media hype and jive about Iran is beyond getting old. ‘Course, I ignore most of that anyway… but, regardless the outcome (and the outcome is obvious, and no big surprise — and it should surprise us least of all, given the US’s preponderance of election fraud in 2000 and 2004) the scene there is still all about what happens when we leave. But then, we’ll never leave. If we ever leave, Iran will overtake Iraq creating a new Persia. We’ll never abandon Israel to that extent.

Now, how about the same amount of media attention to Darfur and the 10’s of other places where the government commits atrocities? What are we supposed to do about it anyway? We already know what’s going on. They could dream up some other news event, I’d think.

Here’s about the only thing that’s striking about the deal in Iran right now: is it the comparatively primitive nature of life there that creates citizens who will risk their lives in a futile protest against a corrupt government, while Americans, in all our civilised advancement, are so complacent that we just give minimal lip service to it?

mytw♥cents

June 22nd, 2009
4:02 pm

Hiya, CUTIE W

Tmac

June 22nd, 2009
4:03 pm

Melo….never seen her toes before and found out hight short doesnt necessarly mean short fingures and toes. Some are just good hight and happen to have these little fingures and nails and this girl happen to be one of those deciving one :)

-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)

June 22nd, 2009
4:03 pm

@Ce- You know mine almost had me crying yesterday…she sang me some song by Beyonce called “Daddy” That I had never heard before..I had to man up real quick…and we still did “skin the cat”..you are country if you know what that is..lol

Beautiful

June 22nd, 2009
4:04 pm

hey blogsville! what’s shaken?

just got in a lil while ago from taking a drive to the coast and visiting an old hs friend. should of stayed my tail at home. but if i didn’t accept their invite, i would have never made it. we’ve been trying to get togetha for years.

y’all have a good w/e?

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
4:04 pm

PoppaG Teach your child to day “i gotta go” inspite of the good soothing water DOES NOT mean you are okay to use it in the pool, and we’d eliminate the “in the pool mishaps”.

Eeewww.

Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!

June 22nd, 2009
4:04 pm

Cee- That is SOOOO ME!! I Love kids!! I get all on their level :mrgreen: Genuinely interested too! I could spend the ENTIRE day with a couple of kids..

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
4:05 pm

Lol @ skin the cat W8.

Your baby can sang!

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
4:06 pm

Ummmmm…Staceye…just a few months ago you were talking about losing that a$$’n'tight…now youre in this bish talking down on the skinnys? That’s some bullish!!

And question…was that middle finger the same one you use when…

realizing where Demi’s freaky mind was going…Staceye is now attemping to put demi’s eyes out with her chop sticks

Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!

June 22nd, 2009
4:08 pm

I miss my godson soooo MUCH!! He is 8 and is the Love of my LIFE!!

Page- Girl, I have seen some ish BOY o BOY!! Just wear your size no matter what size your feet are..

Tmac- A person’s hands are the SPLITTING image of their feet!

mytw♥cents

June 22nd, 2009
4:09 pm

TIE That was sposed to say What’s a-happenin hot stuff? *Who doesn’t love Sixteen Candles?*

CEE Down with La Croix! I’d rather have tap water… Are you up to the usual shenanigans?

Poppa Grande

June 22nd, 2009
4:09 pm

abc

It is about oil. You remember how high the gas prices were last summer and how it basically hurt the world’s economy. Folks watch that oil and disturbances in that area around oil affects it as well.

I’ve always felt that if we used diamonds to fuel our cars, houses, etc, Africa would get more attention.

Even Clinton turned his back on Africa, but attacked Yugoslavia. What did he do for Somalia and Rwanda. Not much. So, it isn’t new either. Mugabe is just as bad a Milosevic was.

-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)

June 22nd, 2009
4:10 pm

@Beautiful- Hey!!

@Ce- You know I was calling everybody so they could here my baby singing..yeah at 5′11 I am still doing “skin the cat” with her

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
4:11 pm

Lioness You sound like Lisa. She calls MY phone and aske for lil Cee like he’s grown.

-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)

June 22nd, 2009
4:11 pm

@PG – It’s also about positioning and forward bases in certain geographical areas for global straegic means

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
4:12 pm

Angie, what happened during the visit that makes you say you should not have gone?

-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)

June 22nd, 2009
4:12 pm

Somalia was my baptism by fire and to this day I still hate Somalians

Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!

June 22nd, 2009
4:12 pm

What are yall doing for your bday & her bday? My friend’s bday is July 12th.. I don’t think I want to be here since this weather seems like it is going to be miserable ALL summer :(

Leggs (Karyn)

June 22nd, 2009
4:12 pm

@PoppaG, I was watching a documentary a long time ago when he told that story, and I never forgot it. Now, when I hear Mariah Carey state she likes to record first thing in the morning when her voice is raspy I think of the Blue-Eyed Queen of Soul. When Rick came back on the scene (look at me like I actually knew him). When Rick James came back on the scene I swear I must have asked everyone I knew how did he get to be so light skinned. I do not remember him being that light.

Anyway, back to working out…let’s do the damn thing!

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
4:12 pm

W8 – That’s sweet. That’s your baby girl!!! Betnot nobody mess wit her EITHER!!!

mytw♥cents

June 22nd, 2009
4:14 pm

LOL This Arden’s Garden detox has me mistyping. I swear, I’m sober.

Poppa Grande

June 22nd, 2009
4:14 pm

Cee

I agree with you 4:04.

If I rule the world (the song with Lauryn Hill and Nas is on right now), kids would get out of the pool and make doodie somewhere else.

I never felt comfortable with White Water even before poopie-gate 1997. (You know that it law that ever scandal or controversy has to end with -gate. Paying homage to Tricky Dick Nixon and Watergate is a must.)

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
4:15 pm

@ W8 – ..i would not like having a “man of badge” as my daddy. …

Dang! Scare all the guys at a dimes notice. What the feezy!!!?

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 22nd, 2009
4:16 pm

DEMI..I am not downing anybody. I said a thin woman can be sexy if she has curves. I woudl prefer to be a Tyra Banks than a Heidi Klum.

And you are getting a whippin’ fro your nasty thoughts! :lol:

-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)

June 22nd, 2009
4:17 pm

@Ce- You know she good with her hands anyway..she’s used them before..she trained right..lol
ugghhhh I had to here about Devaun from New York again last nite..her little boy crush….Then I had to break down why Daddy doesn’t like dudes from New York…lmao..I couldnt take it anymore..lol

abc

June 22nd, 2009
4:17 pm

There’s no shortage of oil, and they have to sell it to somebody. We’ll not enjoy profitability from Mid-East oil like we did from the late 50’s through the 70’s, even into the mid-80’s, probably ever again, unless we manage to create another coup. We put the Shah of Iran into power, assisting the British; we put Saddam Hussein into power. None of that seems to be in the works.

Poppa Grande

June 22nd, 2009
4:17 pm

Leggs

Now, when I hear Mariah Carey state she likes to record first thing in the morning when her voice is raspy I think of the Blue-Eyed Queen of Soul.

That’s funny because Mrs. Nick Cannon makes mew think of Minnie Riperton since she like to hit those high pitches like Minnie Riperton did in “Loving You”. It is obvious that Minnie Riperton had a influence on her.

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
4:17 pm

(A person’s hands are the SPLITTING image of their feet!)

looking at my hands and feet

Holy Cow Manure…Lioness is right!!

Kym-10 days and counting!!!

June 22nd, 2009
4:17 pm

mytwo are you doing the 2-day detox..I am going to try it when I come back from my trip.

Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!

June 22nd, 2009
4:19 pm

Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!

June 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

What are yall detoxing from? Just go to Publix in the organic section & get the Smooth Move Tea..

-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)

June 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

@ the five of yall…if you dont take me off of your email/reply all list I am going to “donley kong” all of you..I am on my blackberry and since none of yall are talking to me please stop sending me emails…geesh..I have about 30 emails in about 5 minutes….Never should have shown black people the internet

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

poopie-gate 1997

PoppaG – You are hilarious! lol

Poppa Grande

June 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

abc

There wasn’t a shortage last year when it got to over 150 dollars a barrel. Wall Street Speculators drove the prices up. There was product.

Speaking of Nixon (as I did previously) thank him for some of this. Ever since we were taken of the gold standard, oil (and other energy costs) affect us greatly.

Melo

June 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

I woudl prefer to be a Tyra Banks

yeah,she got a nice forehead! Her forehead reminded me of smebody on the blog!
:lol: :lol:

Tazzee - countdown to NFL season

June 22nd, 2009
4:20 pm

A person’s hands are the SPLITTING image of their feet!

Not true – I have pretty hands (or so I’ve been told), my feet…not so much.

Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!

June 22nd, 2009
4:22 pm

W8- I TOTALLY feel you on THAT!! Annoying as HELL!!

Taz- Stop being so hard on yourself about your feet!

Beautiful

June 22nd, 2009
4:22 pm

@Page1908

hey gurl!

**Angie, what happened during the visit that makes you say you should not have gone?**

don’t get me wrong, i had a fab time with LI and her hubby, but the trip wasn’t planned. it’s cute how they wanna hook a sista up. lol. and the scenery was gorgeous!

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
4:23 pm

Hey Angie!!

Staceye…woman you know how I like to be handcuff’n'feathered in the right places (minus the a$$)…lower your height requirement so I can have a fair chance, LOL