Free to be me
There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.
The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?
Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?
Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?
Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?
How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?
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-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:25 pm
but not overbearing confidence
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
3:26 pm
Lioness – When is your birthday?
Staceye Are you kidding? Girl i am a dancer. I will break out the “Reebok” during a country song.
Music is universal…i listen for beats and hooks when i’m dancing…
Reebok = Old dance.
SexyCool - Channeling Ms. Angelou
June 22nd, 2009
3:26 pm
You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
and with that…I’m out. Been at work since 6am – mad love to all the plebes in the place…
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:27 pm
Staceye
I am not gay and I was born female! I have always loved them as a child and always trying to catch them.
I am not saying that you are gay. I am just stating that the butterfly, like the rainbow, is a symbol for a particular group of people.
On another note, Mrs. PG has a tattoo of a jalapeno. I should have been warned of her spicy-ness right when I saw it.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:27 pm
Who gives a friggin flip about what is happening in Iran? Why should we?
abc – I was in a meeting last week with a Republican that I had talked to about the election last fall (he was thinking of voting for Obama). Out the blue he turns and ask me “so what do you think of the situation in Iran?” Though I know about it, I’m like “I thought we were meeting on this agenda item dude!” lol
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:27 pm
W8- Your 3:25 comment is REAL Talk! I love when people talk about they are sexy & they are far from that
-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:28 pm
Who else is glad that friggin Perez Hilton got popped in the eye? About time. Somehow, it’s nice to see a photo of him crying.
Who gives a friggin flip about what is happening in Iran? Why should we?
@abc- I am glad that lil fudge packer got punched
On Iran- on a global scale it’s important to America
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:28 pm
Sexy like beauty is the eye of the beholder.
SexyCool - Channeling Ms. Angelou
June 22nd, 2009
3:28 pm
One more time for the plebes:
But still, like air, I’ll rise.
Rell
June 22nd, 2009
3:29 pm
Also, I am of the opinion that every chick that is thin or skinny or whatever, ain’t fine. She just ain’t fat. And model thin is NOT sexy. It’s just not fat
- SOUNDS LIKE SOME HATE TO ME….LOL
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:29 pm
Good thing there is no one standard of sexiness. Cuz model thin can absolutely be sexy.
Those Victoria’s Secret Angels commercials are hot!
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:29 pm
Cee- July 31st & ir is on a FRIDAY!!! I con’t know WHAT I am going to do with myself
I was thinking Miami or Antigua,, Not sure but I am turning 31 on the 31st this year.. YAYYYY!! I am ECSTATIC!!
mytw♥cents
June 22nd, 2009
3:29 pm
Y’all are schizo an probably ten topics away from when I peeked in…
W8 Let’s always just burn me a copy of errythang, you move, k. And make this one the beginnerls version. Smooches!
Hope everyone’s having a sunshiney day!
-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:30 pm
Republican right here who voted for Obama
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:30 pm
RELL-
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
3:32 pm
PoppaG Lil Cee thinks open outside pools are dirty adn unkept. He’s will do some. Doesn’t care for White Water to much.
He just thinks hard on the pools. I just like to float around….it’s cooling.
-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:33 pm
@My2- I will get you a copy also…and stop calling my phone and then disappearing..we have to have a phone conference and pick a venue because more deposit money is due..I am getting into the non -refundable range now
You can tell who is sexy by how one blogs..marinate on that..now what does sexy mean to you?
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:34 pm
Cemeeli I wish I could get in the pool. Mi marido was out there Sunday and I was so jealous. I put my feet in but that was about it.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
3:35 pm
..but I was told that it was an African tradition that a woman once married had an ankle band and not a wedding ring. Is that true?
anybody who tells u “it is an african…blah blah” is proly lying unless the tell u from which specific country the practice they allude to is p[racticed.Africa is not homogenous:52+ countries,1000+ tribes,muslims,christians and hindus over there so there is nothing really culturally that can be generalized as african coz all those sub groupings have disticnt practices,lingo,dress etc.
I have never heard about that as far as southern african cntries(where i come from and more familiar with) but i cld be wrong..talking of zimbabwe,south africa etc.
I will admit tho that there are plenty of things about africa that i dont know anything about coz so there are so many diff tribes etc that do diffnt stuff.
Malawi chics(where madonna is adopting from), im told they flip their men in bed real baaaad and are taught as girls hw to do it right!
(disclaimer,ive neva phluckkked a malawi chic myself,that is a legendary story i grew up being told)The process of flipping a man in bed(like a pan cake) is called CHIKAPA
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:36 pm
Weight sexy is in the eye of the beholder.
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:37 pm
Mytwo- Hey Girlie
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
3:38 pm
July 31st is my cousins birthday. We are like sisters. That girl spends sooo much money on shopping and entertainment. She give the BEST GIFTS! I am so glad my b/d is before her’s mine’s llth…7/11. I can give her a photo book with a collage of us and she’d LOVE IT! I’m practical and sentimental with her gifts, but she always go waaaay out for me. Her love me…lol.
Are you like that Lioness?
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:39 pm
On Iran,
As long as we are dependent on oil, middle east will be an issue for us.
I think that Obama is playing the cards correctly. He ran on a platform that the US shouldn’t have stuck its nose in removing Iraq. He can’t say that Iran would be a different story.
I am more worried about North Korea. We can talk tough all we want but they do have two american reporters that they sentenced to 12 years of hard labor that they can use for leverage.
Lil Kim (that is what I call him) is crazy and doesn’t really care what we think or say.
He is truly gangsta. They are basically saying that they have nuclear weapons and will use them to defend themselves. So, step over here if you wanna, but you gonna limp back.
They have already shot missiles that made it to Japan. Even Dubya knew not to mess him Lil Kim. Think about it….between fighting the Taliban (who fought the Soviet’s tooth and nail) and Lil Kim. He chose the Taliban.
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:41 pm
Cee- YES MA’AM!! That is MEEEE!!! Maybe that is why I heart you
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
3:41 pm
Raqi – Saturday morning around 11 -2 was perfect for bronzing and pool time. I loved it. My son ran all my phone calls and interuptions will i read and dranked high falootin sparklin’ water like a bourgeois.
mytwoTNT La Croix is great. Want some? Lol
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:41 pm
Cee
Doesn’t care for White Water to much.
I don’t care for White Water either. I didn’t care for it before the 1997 E-Coli thing that killed a few kids or made others sick. I definitely don’t care for it now. I refused to take my neices and nephews there.
Melo
June 22nd, 2009
3:42 pm
PG
and they say North Korea can obliterate Seattle/Hawaii if they want to.Their missiles are rumored to reach there.
Dont depend on what the CIA tells us,at least not completely.
They got it wrong on Iraq and WMD
-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:43 pm
Sexy isn’t a physical attribute to me.
For Me:
Praying together, that’s sexy. Working out together because you care, that’s sexy. Being balanced and exercising restraint at times, that’s sexy. How one carries herself, that’s sexy..A woman being a LADY, that’s sexy….I could go on…but in my world sexy is totally different than how someone looks now that I think about
Demi
June 22nd, 2009
3:44 pm
(Republican right here who voted for Obama)
Yep Yep!!!
Staceye…i once dated this chocolate brown slim…108lbs fully clothes…baby had a swag on her…that took even the hardest butch breath away…the memories…
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:46 pm
Melo
They got it wrong on Iraq and WMD
The rest of the world is basically scared of North Korea. We still send them food. We attack Iraq for the thought that they MIGHT have nuclear weapons.
Meanwhile, Lil Kim says I got nukes, what you gonna do? Barbecue or Mildew?
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:46 pm
Cemeeli as soon as this thing is over, hopefully in a week or so, I am out there. It is so freakin’ hot these days. I dip in the pool is coveted right now. LOL
As for White Waters, my sons love it.
mytw♥cents
June 22nd, 2009
3:46 pm
W8 Stop being unavailable when I call…and then expect me to be free when ya get back ’round to me
Shall our secretaries make the arrangements? (BTW Black Republican was gonna be my song today but it’s too late for a sound track.) Now who’s sexy-bloggin across your screen?
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:47 pm
Melo- LAWD!
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:47 pm
Also, they are sending more battleships to the Hawaiian area just in case.
So, that action should tell you the the gov’t knows more about how far North Korea’s missiles can reach than they are telling the public.
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:47 pm
Sexy is who you are to the person that you are sexy to.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 22nd, 2009
3:48 pm
ARED…I do not think you are too old to wear a half top. Quit aging yourself woman! Live a little. Because when you are really old..and those abs are then flabs…you will wish you had let them be seen from time to time. Oh and I have seen the chick with a G cup bra wearing a push up, Her cleavage is beyong her clavicle.
A few of my costume do that to me. I wonder how they breathe…I can’t! 
FOR REAL…you so stupid…Magic Johnson doing anything relating to a vag is NOT a good idea!
But I can picture him doing it now…THANKS! 
BTW…VD is Venerial Disease! 
SEXYCOOL…”You will NEVER have THAT problem”
One of these days my diet and excercise will kick in and my booty will go down!
PAGE…Baby got RACK!
You had FOR REAL having breast feeding flashbacks!
CEMEELI…girl I will come dance with you! I got you…the Kid N Play!
ARED..I think Tyra Bank was the all time best Vicky’s model. She always had more curves than the other girls. She was thin..but had womanly curves. No I am not one those who use the word Curves in place of fat. These days…everybody is “Curvy”. So I guess that is why i get offended is somebody calls me curvy! Now…ehhh. Adriana Lima is pretty..but besides the the face and the boobs that are pushed up to high heaven to make them look larger, what is left to look at?
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:48 pm
PG- E Coli killed children @ a water park? WTHeck?
Rell
June 22nd, 2009
3:48 pm
@w8…i am not mad atcha player…get your game on…lol..you going to get them with the praying together things….lol
Praying together, that’s sexy. Working out together because you care, that’s sexy. Being balanced and exercising restraint at times, that’s sexy. How one carries herself, that’s sexy..A woman being a LADY, that’s sexy….I could go on…but in my world sexy is totally different than how someone looks now that I think about
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
3:48 pm
Lioness – But we fuss alot to. She’s trying to get me to do something SHE wants me to do with my hair and i’m like “no, I’m getting braids” before our bday. She thinks braids are not…auuh…well she had “good hair” and the hazel eyes to go with it. So my lil ethnic looks are a bother for her. She could do a Bohemian look and make you believe she is just that. But that chic loves some me and i love her too. Anything my son ask her for she get’s it! NO having kids self!
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:49 pm
Sexy is just the person.. Being sexy takes no effort AT ALL!
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:51 pm
Throw in how easily Pakistan be taken over really soon. Their leadership is pretty much flimsy right now. They have nukes already as well.
Middle east as always is mess.
There was even a rumor that there was a plot to kill former President Jimmy Carter while he was over there recently. It was reported intercepted and stopped.
East Point's Own
June 22nd, 2009
3:51 pm
Speaking of Africa….. that happens to be my topic of the day
http://hispointofview.com/2009/06/forgot-or-just-ignorant/
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:51 pm
Cee- Awww… That kind of sounds like me.. When we love a person & care for them deeply, we will argue our point to death BUT we can’t stay mad but for a couple of minutes
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
3:51 pm
LOL Staceye. The T and A crew….baby got back and baby got rack! lmao. rad!!
^5 Raqi at 3:47
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:54 pm
Lioness – Little kids that didn’t have the right diapers. So e-coli (which comes from animal intestines) got in the water.
I think that the “swimmers” type of diapers came after that ordeal.
Leggs (Karyn)
June 22nd, 2009
3:54 pm
@PoppaG, too funny. Rick James and crews snuck into the hospital and carried her out into the night. Had her record her version all horse, raspy and sick. The song was a hit.
-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:54 pm
@My.02-Set up the meeting, i’m on cycle tonight but any other time is good..and I always call back u just dont answer..be like Jam she will call @ 5am
Tmac
June 22nd, 2009
3:55 pm
I went out with this chick this weekend and her fingers are almost the length of my toes. I have this thing about lightskin long and skinny finers and feet…..
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
3:56 pm
Tmac, so her fingers were short and stubby?
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:56 pm
PG- Oh ok.. Gross!
Tmac- Be happy with what you could get!