Free to be me
There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.
The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?
Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?
Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?
Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?
How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?
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SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:04 pm
And a new hairdo.
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
3:05 pm
@ Jamoca – Stop ackin’ silly now! You making my shrimp and grits, for real! Don’t make Auntie Mae call you out! Girl, she is the one that said outloud during the family bbq “If ya’ll screwing, ya’ll aint friends” when she meet the ex.
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:05 pm
Cee
You remember kiddie pools when we were little? Those things were the next best thing than beach time. Or maybe that was waaaaayyyy afer your time.
ha, ha, very funny…lol
I actually remember having one of those kiddie pools. I think that my parent’s used it as a primer. I remember us getting an inground pool around the time that I turned 9. The funny thing was that I went to Camp Calvin (I grew up in the Clayton Panhandle) more often. They had high diving boards too.
In coming back from a bad ankle injury, the pool came in handy for conditioning.
The best cardio exercise that I’ve ever done was getting in pool of waist deep water and running from one end to the other. It is hard because you work hard to move maybe 3 feet.
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:06 pm
I love ankle bracelets! Actually wearing mine today.. I think wearing an ankle bracelt on your right foot seems a little wh*rish but I could be wrong.. I think the same about red lipstick..
Tazzee - countdown to NFL season
June 22nd, 2009
3:06 pm
I need a personal chef.
Kym-10 days and counting!!!
June 22nd, 2009
3:07 pm
@PoppaG could you do a portion of my homework please? I need to find an online deposition company in the Atlanta area.
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:07 pm
Ared-
Sexy-
:Lol: 
-W8©
June 22nd, 2009
3:08 pm
@Ce- Burn me copies please and we will figure out a way for me to get them
@SexyCool- any reproduction
kimmie(Sheree)
June 22nd, 2009
3:08 pm
Raqi – You are telling it like it is. Everyone is not going to be young & cute forever. You do what you have to do & if something is not as “perky” as is once was, what’s wrong with a little help in whatever form it comes in and whatever works for you & yours? And love is all all that matters.
That’s why I constantly preach not to allow someone to waste your “cute”, prime years. They don’t go on forever!
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
3:08 pm
We all just got to hope and pray that the one we are with at that time it is someone who loves us beyond all of that.
People that run when life happens (now and later) are the ones that live in fantasy land.
Raqi – That right there ^^^^…Yes maaa’am!!! I concur.
Ballwood Baybeh – That was Paw-Paw, not you or rather…you have yet to find out. But dang, Paw-Paw was puttin’ it down, huh? Lol Besides, folks’ diets back then were a lot different. A lot of foods weren’t so processed as they are now to include several other factors. Shoot, I’ve heard of men in their late 30’s very early 40’s…having trouble getting it up and keeping it up.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:08 pm
And a new hairdo.
SexyCool – I like your cut. Has anyone ever told you remind them of Toni Braxton? Not like you look like her twin, but kind of that vibe…
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:09 pm
Lioness, I love how you are easily amused. I am too.
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)
June 22nd, 2009
3:10 pm
Okay W8 just let me know what time and I’ll be front and center.
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:10 pm
Ared-
-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:10 pm
HURRY UP FOOTBALL SEASON
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:12 pm
Random thght- Why don’t people cover their mouths & noses when they cough or sneeze? I was in a restaurant having lunch & this chick was coughing away from her food but towards every other diner.. MANNNNNN……
-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:12 pm
LOL@ Perez Hilton getting his azz whooped…I
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 22nd, 2009
3:12 pm
POPPA…
I am not gay and I was born female! I have always loved them as a child and always trying to catch them. I love bugs & lizards too..but not sure if they’d make a good tattoo.
CEMEELI…”Epiphany is hot, but it’s hard to get with the break-up songs while I’m in a good relationship. I guess that is why I can’t belly dance to love songs!
Some of the girls suggested one to a Heather Headly song. I love her…but I would not feel the song enough to dance to it. Now give me some Gothic music…and I come to life! I have one to Sweet Dreams by Marilyn Manson…HOT! Oh well…go ahead W8…call me She-Devil. 
SEXYCOOL….. “It’s easy to have killer abs when you ain’t got no meat on your bones.”
I notice that SOME really skinny girls always gotta show their abs because there is nothing else to grab attention other maybe a pretty face. I used to be friends with 2 of them..and I said it’s looks desperate that even in the winter you rocking a half top because you need a neon sign that says look at me..I got abs. Now some peopel are skinny but have a muscular build. Those abs look more defined. Then yes those are deserving of compliments. Well hopefully if you are skinny…you should have abs. 
Well I guess we can so if you are a big girl you had better have big breast…but I have seen some women who are big…but they rock a 46B bra! So I digress. Well Beyonce has big hips and no a$$ really. I thikn she uses some enhancement..because I have seen sometimes where when she turns sideways you wonder where the booty went!
LEGGS…I LOVES me some Teena Marie….ever since I was a child.
SEXYCOOL…”you could count my ribs and you could poke your eyes out on my clavicles.” OMG…
Yougeta time out fro that one!
LIONESS…ankle bracelet on the left means you are married. Melo correct me if I am wrong..but I was told that it was an African tradition that a woman once married had an ankle band and not a wedding ring. Is that true?
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:13 pm
Can’t wait til my burfday!!
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
I’ll take a personal masseuse.
Tazzee - countdown to NFL season
June 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
Amen! that’s to W8’s 3:10
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
I agree w Staceye on the hair thing. I leave for Orlando on Saturday and no way in heck would I go to Orlando in June/July without weaving it up lol. I will also be in Phoenix and Las Vegas in August so ummm…with natural (no perm or relaxer) thick hair, that wouldn’t be a good look at at all. Staceye, it would be like that hughe afro I wore on Halloween, remember? lmao.
As for working out, I do kick boxing 4 days a week and omg it is really good. One hour of belly dancing every other week and yoga and pilates Saturday mornings when I can make it is what I do. A friend of mine is a 90x salesguy and he has a lot of clients now and is very successful. I really miss swimming now that I live in Atlanta. Too bad my subdivision doesn’t have a pool, so the only other option is to hit up people who have pools lol.
On the topic of fake nails, I do have real nails with acrylic overlay
Jamoca
June 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm
Shrimp n’ grits, Cee??? Ya’ jokin’ right? Lol…smh And yes, I remember Auntie Mae. When I crash the next family get-together…I’ll just make sure I’m solo. …she can’t be calling me out, while my mouth is full of ribs n’ chicken…lol
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:15 pm
and I said it’s looks desperate that even in the winter you rocking a half top because you need a neon sign that says look at me..I got abs.
You gotta work with what you’re given.
But I do miss half tops. I can still wear em, I just think I’m too old for em.
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:15 pm
Stace – >>>>HERE<<<<
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:16 pm
Staceye- WORD? Shyte, I ain’t African & I don’t believe any one else believes that cause I went to pick up some food Friday night & this older dude came out of the CLEAR BLUE SKY and grabbed my hand & said “I just need to know if you are married” .. Pissed me off! If his ignorant tail would have known that rule, he could have easily found that out by looking at my ankle bracelet
Tazzee - countdown to NFL season
June 22nd, 2009
3:16 pm
I could go for a personal masseuse too. Wait, I got one of those
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
3:16 pm
OMG I just had to use Purell hand sanitizer on my tons of mosquito bites i got on saturday. ugh lol. but it has alcohol in it, so it’s working for now lol.
Rell
June 22nd, 2009
3:17 pm
says look at me..I got abs
- LOL..now that is funny
For Real
June 22nd, 2009
3:17 pm
Where is Musing I need him to develop a apparatus to prevent Vaginal dryness. Here is the commercial starring Magic Johnson:
Hi I’m Maggit Johnson are or yore luved one sufferring from Vagginal Dryness? Welllll suffer no mo my friends. This new mirroracle device will get rid of VD for good. It’s call Dry No Mo!!!! Alway you got to do is insert Dry No MO in any dry azz va-jy-na and squeeze your knee together 3 times and whala!!! KY is dispensed in that dry cooda cat and it showtime!!!!
Dry No Mo it’s the all-ta-mit!!!!!!
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:17 pm
Kimmie People need to start realizing the only way to avoid life happening later is to die now. Heck if you are over 40 things are starting to happen now and you just don’t realize it just yet. I know I am at least 15 years away from menopause.
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:17 pm
OH and Stace – “when she turns sideways you wonder where the booty went!”
You will NEVER have THAT problem. LOL
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:17 pm
Mqew- Where are you??
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:18 pm
A’ight den, Taz! That’s WHAT’s UP!!!!
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
3:19 pm
PoppaG I got lil Cee TO the pool Saturday morning, but now IN it. He’s not ready to get crazy with me. SO i bought floaties from Target, he still didn’t budge. I bought pool football and men size trunks, floaties. how am i going to get him in there with me?
Now today the camp went to the Aquatic Center. He likes inside pools.
@ W8 – That guy Tony on P90X is not a friend of mine. When i do plyometrics with the spin jumps. I call mamma a few times i think. It’s waaaayyyy better in a training class witht he trainer and some other aspiring wanna bes. I’m the only black chic and one other black guy. I guess that says some vanilla to my MO. lol
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:19 pm
Kym
I need to find an online deposition company in the Atlanta area.
I know some that have online scheduling. Try huseby.com for Huseby, Inc. or Esquire.
I’m sure that I know one that has depos online.
I’m not sure if I’m answering what your asking. I haven’t scheduled depos in years since I decided to back away from paralegal-ing so that I wouldn’t have to do research for both work and school.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:20 pm
I know I am at least 15 years away from menopause.
Raqi – That’s good news for Elizabeth, maybe she can get a sibling so she’ll have someone to grow up with since her brothers will be gone!
Don’t beat me.
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
3:20 pm
LOL @ half tops.
Cemeeli
June 22nd, 2009
3:21 pm
PoppaG You know i’m kidding with the jokes. You are my cousin from the Westside!
Page1908
June 22nd, 2009
3:21 pm
LOL Staceye. “Baby got backkkkkk”
Poppa Grande
June 22nd, 2009
3:21 pm
Cee
How is the chlorine smell? I hated swimming in pools with a strong chlorine odor. Otherwise, I’m not sure why Lil Cee isn’t about getting in the outside pool.
SexyCool - Does my sexiness upset you?
June 22nd, 2009
3:22 pm
Also, I am of the opinion that every chick that is thin or skinny or whatever, ain’t fine. She just ain’t fat. And model thin is NOT sexy. It’s just not fat.
abc
June 22nd, 2009
3:23 pm
Beg pardon, but.
Why shouldn’t the homeless shelter have utilities shut off it they won’t pay them? Why should they gripe about losing money on account of enabling bums who won’t follow a single rule, and are helpless to support themselves otherwise?
Who else is glad that friggin Perez Hilton got popped in the eye? About time. Somehow, it’s nice to see a photo of him crying.
Who gives a friggin flip about what is happening in Iran? Why should we?
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:23 pm
Amazon I was laughing at Tazzee’s comment about having her own personal masseuse and you made me frown.
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:24 pm
You will NEVER have THAT problem. LOL
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:24 pm
ForReal you are a nut. But yeah…
Spoiled Lioness- All Natural & Loving It!
June 22nd, 2009
3:24 pm
Praying to the Almighty that it isn’t about to there now..
-W8©(insert witty innuendo here)
June 22nd, 2009
3:25 pm
Confidence is Sexy
Sexiness is confidence in yourself…..just saying
AmazonRed™ - off the hook!
June 22nd, 2009
3:25 pm
Raqi – I sowwy.
Raqi
June 22nd, 2009
3:25 pm
“Also, I am of the opinion that every chick that is thin or skinny or whatever, ain’t fine. She just ain’t fat. And model thin is NOT sexy. It’s just not fat.”
Somethings just need to be repeated just because.