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Free to be me

There are certain relationship milestones that women look forward to. We’re sentimental enough to relish the one year anniversary. We get giddy at the house key exchange. It’s something in our DNA that loves when a relationship reaches the next phase. What we – well, what I don’t look forward to is when our guys let it all hang out, literally.

The burping, farting, dirty jokes, or going to the bathroom in front of us. It is a romance killer sometimes. Why, I’m not sure. I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three! Perhaps I just prefer to keep the mystery as long as possible, but what’s wrong with that?

Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?

Guys, do you really notice when your girl has become comfortable around you? Do you like it when it gets to this point? How soon do you let down your guard? Are you pretty much the same as when you first meet her? Is it a turn off if you see your woman doing “human” things like burping?

Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?

How much “free to be me” do you think we can really even handle in relationships?

679 comments Add your comment

Turd Ferguson

June 22nd, 2009
8:42 am

Burping, farting, crapping in the floor, peeing in the shower etc. These are just things that occur naturally with a womans body. All I ask is she cleanup after herself…ya know…spray some air freshener, cleanup the floor, scrub out the shower.

As long as the women cleans up her mess then Im pretty flexible.

Grace

June 22nd, 2009
8:48 am

crapping in/on the floor? that’s a new one LOL

Kym-Game On!

June 22nd, 2009
8:50 am

Good Morning All,

Is this one of those me or my rep type blogs today? Heck I feel like I am me everyday. In the words of Tina Turner..”What you get is what you see.” Now while I have all the social graces and will not pick my teeth in public. If have to burp, I will burp. I remember the first time I passed gas with this one guy..we were lying there naked and laughing at something and I just let one fly I couldn’t help it. At first I was a bit shame and said excuse me..then I thought about it and I looked at him and said hey my bed my rules. At which point I laughed even hard..nothing cut loose that time..but it would have been a riot if it did.

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
9:09 am

LOL @ crapping on the floor. WTF?!

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
9:14 am

Morning all!

Yeah, I’m never really comfy with letting natural bodily functions fly…around anyone. I’m not that embarrased about burping, I just try to do it discreetly. Everything else, I’m trying to be in a totally different room! Growing up, even though it was 5 folks in a small space, we gave each other space and room to do their business, it was just respectful that way.

In my last relationship, my guy thought it was funny to drop the stink bombs when we were alone together. I would laugh it off, but it was pretty gross.

If I had to go, I’d always use the guest bathroom at his place. If he was in mine, I designated a guest bathroom for him to “blow up the spot.” Sometimes he used it, sometimes not!

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
9:31 am

Manners, Manners, Manners…you have the occasional slip up but just say excuse. Even if I am alone and burp or fart I still say excuse me. I try not to fart around the woman I am dating ever I may do a light burp but I still say excuse me. The dirty jokes…well the women I date usually share my same sense of humor so thats no problem. The lady farting…I know she does it cuz everyone does it..I have just never caught one of them doing it…burps happen…sometimes its a fun game…lol..On the bathroom usage..I always shut the door..I have dated women who just walk in while I am using the bathroom..she is like go ahead dont pay attention to me “pee”…now if i am having a bowel movement that is the one time in life that I know I want to be alone…get the hell out. I don’t know why some women think it’s cool to walk in while I am going to the bathroom, maybe it’s comfortable for them…you know women going to the bathroom in groups and all, what happens when yall go to the bathroom in groups anyway..lol

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
9:34 am

Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?Ladies, at what point do you let your lady guard down? When do you feel that you are free to be “regular” around your man. When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?

Morning blog fam :)

I’ve dated someone who was attracted to that firey side of me but after a while it was obvious that he couldn’t handle it so in an effort to make him feel more comfortable I tried to “calm it down” ….soon after he made the comment “you lost that fire..what happened to that” and I told him a wet blanket fell on it and ended the relationship soon af ter. I’m not certain I ever let my “lady guard” completely down b/c there are some things I do that don’t require an audience and I prefer to keep it that way. I know I’m comfortable when I let my man see me ready for bed(scarf and all) and/or early in the morning or anytime I might deem myself “not cute” and that’s about as regular as I would get. As far as the spice is concerned that should be an integral part of a healthy relationship because it keeps it just that “spicey” ;)

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
9:36 am

LOL W8 now you know a woman can never reveal her secrets about why women go to the bathroom in groups lol.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
9:45 am

A lady is as a lady does. I mean we’re all human but I make it a point to have manners and act accordingly. When it comes to bodily functions there are some things that don’t require an audience(going to the bathroom, flatulence,etc)so I leave it that way. When I’m comfortable around someone I’m dating they may see me ready for bed(yes WITH the scarf) or early in the morning when I’m “not cute yet”.

Have you ever dated someone and felt that you weren’t really free to be yourself?

I did that one time and it was a killjoy b/c at first he was attracted to my firey side and later on complained about it. I had to “scale back” and it became boring b/c I wasn’t being true to myself and HE asked “What happened to that spark you had”…I waited and said “YOU”. We parted ways soon after. I know that at times I can be a bit much to handle but it’s only a problem to those who can’t deal or don’t know how to…..

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 22nd, 2009
9:52 am

Hey…I’ll about being real! Now will I purposly fart around you. Nope…but if I do…after I die of laughter…I will say excuse me! :lol: But I had an ex who thought it was funny that one of my quirky talents is being able to burp on command!So he used to ask me to spell his name in one long burp! :lol: Ah…those were the days.

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
9:54 am

When it comes to bodily functions there are some things that don’t require an audience

:lol: Word.

And now that I think of it, I don’t think I’ve ever let any guy see me with the scarf on. I’ve never cohabitated with anyone so I haven’t had to deal. And typically if a guy is spending the night, it’s only once or twice a week, so I can go scarfless those nights.

Now if it were a regular thing, I wrap the hair up. I think most guys are used to seeing the scarf so I don’t think it will be a big deal, but I just assume it’s nice not having to see it if they don’t have to.

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
9:57 am

Methinks there was an influx of to small daisy dukes and “feet hurt’n stilettos” flooding the scene this past “Greek weekend”. Atlanta has harbor?

But, so that no one could see the different facial expressions, and the left eyebrow raised, look. That’ll be why i wore my “too phat” pair of Marc Jacobs sunglasses all weekend to protect my eyebrows from the sun’s incineration. :wink:

…this blazin’ backwoods Bama heat might of, just maybe been a little bit hot for my extra crispy.

Hope everyone enjoyed it though. :)

Morning!

Leggs (Karyn)

June 22nd, 2009
10:00 am

Good morning everyone! So glad this weekend is over. Rough 2-day track meet. The heat was NOBODY’s friend.

Although it is natural to burp, fart, etc., if humanely possible I won’t do it in front of my man. I will always, always close the bathroom door while using it. If one should slip out, I shrugged, say excume me and state “it’s only natural,” all the while laugh. I truly try not to do this, but stuff happens.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
10:04 am

@Cee- I had a great weekend….a great weekend…did I say a great weekend…whew!!!!

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
10:06 am

Cee- I know my fellow Greeks were “doing the most” this weekend lol.

Shasts (Creme Soda)

June 22nd, 2009
10:07 am

mmMMmMmmM…gimme gimme! *POOT*

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
10:13 am

I don’t remember having an embarassing moment like farting, burping or whatever in front of my dude, but there was one time when I spent the night at my bf’s house and of course, Aunt Flow decided to show up that day. So, I was headed to his house with my bags packed and plenty of “plugs”, and since I am a light 3-dayer type of woman, I thought I would be fine. Well, when I woke up the next morning I was mortified to find out that tampax pearl’s are not leak-proof! OMG i was sooooo embarassed and I was immediately on the phone texting my girlfriends asking them what the heck I should do. Anyway, I had to let dude know and he was cool about it and it was not big deal. It’s a natural thing, but I couldn’t believe that in all of my years, this had never happened to me, even at home, so to discover that it happened at a dude’s house, no less, I was mortified.

Shasta (Creme Soda)

June 22nd, 2009
10:15 am

I can deal with a lot from my sloppy clientele’, however, finding used prophylactics tossed in the backseat floorboards is kinda disgusting.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
10:24 am

@Page-10:31–ewww TMI

Grace

June 22nd, 2009
10:24 am

I’m myself from the beginning to the end. No need to “fake” it. Bodily functions happens at the most inopportuned moments, but the silent but deadly ones is always a killer LOL ewwwww. You don’t hear it but you sure smell it :lol:

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 22nd, 2009
10:25 am

Some things should remain a mystery. Forever.

Peeing doesn’t bother me as much, for whatever reason, but farting, and dropping a deuce… I know we all do it, including Swiss Miss, but I don’t want to see it, hear it, smell it or think about it. There are things I do to her body that I would not be able to do if I had those images burned into my brain. :lol:

Same goes for me. If I have to fart — I leave the room, step outside, something. And when I’ve got to do #2 — I don’t even want to be in the same part of the house. I’m talking fortress of solitude — I don’t want anyone else around.

Fortunately, Swiss Miss & I are on the same page in that regard. My ex, on the other hand, used to want me to come carry on a conversation w/ her while she was on the d@mn pot. Not a good look. At. All.

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
10:26 am

LOL W8- Well, sorrrrrrrrry:)

Raqi

June 22nd, 2009
10:29 am

Page I find that more men are comfortable with that than a lot of women know. Mason knows the color of the box and brand that I use because I had him pick some up for me I know twice while we were dating. After the baby was born I gave him a honey-do-list for the store and I had “Always” on the list. He called while at the store and asked me was I sure I wanted those because I always use the other things in the blue box. LOL He knows me well. That’s comfort.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
10:29 am

Wow 1908 I’m glad your man understood that…my ex is so skiddish he probably would’ve fainted or something. I’ve never had that happen to me before but I’m glad it turned out good for you.

Spoiled Lioness- Currently Attending Nippickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
10:30 am

Cee- Hey Mama! LMAO!! I went out Friday night & it was WAY TOO HOT too be in my clothes! I felt EXTRA sorry for people in jeans..

Need a trip Miami ASAP!!

On topic: I have NO problem AT ALL with pee’ing with the door open & I don’t care WHAT my man has to say about it BUT if I have to do anything other than pee, if I am @ my house, I will use my half bath downstairs..

Raqi

June 22nd, 2009
10:32 am

WiseDiva wait until you get married. LOL But yeah while you are just dating you should keep all that under control.

When you are comfortable with a guy, do you still think it is important to retain a little of the spice that first caught his eye?

Hell yes it is important. Just because you become comfortable in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to stop caring about the things that got you there and that made it hot in the beginning. But being accepting of human actions should not kill the spice. Now if he ever burped in my face while we are doing the do, then we would have a big problem. That’s just rude.

When it comes to just being human, men tend to be a little more comfortable letting it flow than women. Heck most men as little boys relished in their “best (body function)” championships. It was all natural to them. When you get to the point of sharing your personal living space with someone every single day you witness each other in your truest, barest form. Now that Whitney and Bobby episode, that was just too much.

While I don’t enjoy the sights and sounds of nature at its best it is what it is. But I will not tolerate nasty habits. The number one disgusting habit…nose picking. That’s not a body function, that’s a nasty habit. I would never put up with a grown man that has nasty habits.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 22nd, 2009
10:32 am

W8 whatever man…lol. Weren’t you married?….so you’ve probably had to pick up some “Always”,too…… :mrgreen:

Spoiled Lioness- Currently Attending Nippickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
10:33 am

Page- That type of stuff happens! My man would HAVE to be understanding simply because I would feel embarassed.. Dude, clean it up while I am in the shower :lol: :lol: :lol:

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
10:34 am

On women products, I will by the all day long for my significant other and my daughter…When I shopp I keep a upply for my daughter at the house..I just don’t need to know the particulars..flow levels, what plugs what, what has wings etc..I am not embarrassed to buy them.I just don’t need to know the usage procedures.

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Raqi

June 22nd, 2009
10:34 am

Before we remodeled our bathroom watching a grown man pee was an every day norm. It stopped bothering me a long time ago. Now I just see the back of him when he leaves the door open. LOL

One way I see it now is our space is our personal space. The place where we can be the most comfortable. If you can’t be comfortable in your personal space then you are not at home.

Cemeeli

June 22nd, 2009
10:34 am

We got that BAMA heat this w/e ya’ll…

…an looks like today is going to follow…

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
10:35 am

LOL Raqi- I’ve never needed a man to go and purchase them for me, thank goodness. Luckily, I have a Sam’s Club and Bj’s membership, so I can buy them in bulk lol *wink*

Sassy- Yeah, i thought he was gonna be pissed but actually he wasn’t. Like Raqi was saying more men are comfortable with that than women are. He was in the kitchen making something and I was like “Ummmm (face turning beet red, which for me is not hard to do lol) I had a freak accident in the bed” and he was like “what…your P3eriod? no big deal”. LOL. OMG, I was soooooo relieved. Then when I talked to one of my gf’s, she was like “girl, that has happened to me umpteen times, who cares”. lol

Mo (aka Moeisha-waiting for wednesday)

June 22nd, 2009
10:36 am

Morning All!

Hope everyone had a great weekend!

This topic is a funny one! I already agree with most who have mentioned bathroom issues. I try to be cute about the burping thing but once we are cool, cuteness goes out the window!

Page1908 – I would have been mortified too! The horror! LOL!

Tazzee - countdown to NFL season

June 22nd, 2009
10:37 am

Morning Folks!

It was a rough weekend – but I still hated to see it end.

I try to maintain my real at all times. I don’t like for my guy to hear me pee so I’ll turn on all the fans and turn up the TV if necessary. I try not to burp or pass gas around him, but sometimes it just happens. Usually when I’m feeling gaseous, I’ll tell him – just in case he wonders why I need to get up and leave the room. But whenever I tell him, he likes to rub my belly to try to get it out – that never works. The funny thing is, with all the warnings I still haven’t passed gas ‘in front of’ him but there have been times when we are walking and I tell him to walk in front of me. But that’s about it. Hey…I eat a lot of broccoli. I’m pretty regular so with the amount of time we spend together, I’m bound to have to go #2 when he is around.

Now him on the other hand – the only thing that annoys me is that he has no problem leaving the door open when he pees.

Melo

June 22nd, 2009
10:38 am

I remember when a guy used the bathroom at my house with the door ajar. We weren’t even to date number three

U are kidding right??
U comfortable with him coming to ur house but not for him to download,smething which comes naturally.And if a guy is invited to ur crib then u and him know,Smash is Big possibility,he proly has condoms in tow!
Get off ur phluckking plastic/fake persona.
Farting,n#2,blurping etc,those are all things that come naturally.Grown ups in their 30s must know this and keep it moving,as long as the other party is respectful.
A big,loud yawn or loud fart is inexcusable tho.If ur fart smells like rotten eggs,then move urself to the bathroom or well airetted space for a minute.
Page1908,accepting a dude’s invitation the the crib for the 1st time when u know Auntie Flow is almost knocking is a no no and insensitive and bad timing on ur part!!
Crib visitations are reserved for jewel testing.The angst is high,the crib red carpet is laid out speciifcally for u and there is ample drinks and food in the house bought for the big doo.That kind of boobo will have the guy look at u in a not so loving way,depsite that he may not voice it.
That is the ultimate romance killer!!
In my days,such women would be relegated to warm the bench.

-W8©

June 22nd, 2009
10:38 am

@Sassy- Like I said I dont mind buying at all no problem, walk right in there buy them buy a magazine and a six pack. Just when I pass them off I dont need to know what happens after that. Maybe it’s just me, but I dont want to hear my woman peeing, I dont want to see the baby birth any of that. Why because I get intimate with my woman’s vaginal areas and I dont want to see it put of shape with a baby coming out or hear about the blood flowing during the period cycle..etc…I know it happens but I don’t want to see it or hear about it..I put my mouth down there..I dont need to hear that stuff..so as a man i will say EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW again..lol…I hate it when you are about to be intimate and the woman goes..Hold on I have to go to the bathroom…then you hear it…ewwwwww that takes me out of the mood for a quick minute..I guess I am just different in my thought process..lol

Raqi

June 22nd, 2009
10:38 am

I know we all do it, including Swiss Miss, but I don’t want to see it, hear it, smell it or think about it.

Swiss and you men folk say that women are the ones living in fantasy land.

While no one pulls up a chair to watch or hear such actions, to say that you don’t want to think about it because she is a woman is pure fantasy. You are trying to keep her in your mind as something she is not.

Tazzee - countdown to NFL season

June 22nd, 2009
10:40 am

On the period issues – that’s another area where my guy is nonchalant about it – I guess it comes from him having been married and having two daughters.

Spoiled Lioness- Currently Attending Nippickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
10:40 am

Cee- This weather is RIDICULOUS especially being inland! Also, mail call :)

kimmie(Sheree)

June 22nd, 2009
10:40 am

Morning gang

Had a fabulous relaxing weekend! Hope you all had the same. Stayed cool as best as I could.

On topic – Like W8 – Manners, manners, manners. I got em, always use em. If something comes out unexpectedly, an “Excuse me” goes a long way! No, I don’t want to see anyone going to the bathroom, including my man and I don’t do it in front of him. It’s not cute, though some think it is to “Let it all hang out”. Every human being should have some amount of privacy for such things – we are not animals. I am a lady at all times, and especially around my man and his children. That’s the way I was raised and I expect nothing less from those around me. Shoot, my mother never let my dad see her removing her dentures and brushing her teeth. Diva till the end. And I think a man should never be concerned with how I manage Aunt Flow. Might be old school way to think, but it works for me.

Page1908

June 22nd, 2009
10:41 am

Melo, excuse you but where did I say it was the first time at dude’s house?

SexyCool - I dance like I've got diamonds at the meeting of my thighs.

June 22nd, 2009
10:41 am

My manners won’t allow me to just let loose in front of my mate or actually anyone, period. If at all possible, I walk out of the room to expel air of any sort and even to blow my nose. I don’t even like to sneeze in front of another person.

As to the bathroom sharing, I will sit outside the door and talk to you, but I really dont’ wanna come in and experience that and would prefer that you allow me to solo time in the bathroom. (We put our mouths on most of those places)

AmazonRed™ - off the hook!

June 22nd, 2009
10:41 am

But, so that no one could see the different facial expressions, and the left eyebrow raised, look. That’ll be why i wore my “too phat” pair of Marc Jacobs sunglasses all weekend to protect my eyebrows from the sun’s incineration

:lol: True dat. The sunglasses and the lack of Delta gear made it a much more fun experience. :lol:

Cemeeli, I guess I should probably know this, but are you greek?

East Point's Own

June 22nd, 2009
10:41 am

I have no problem at all with a woman who is comfortable enough around me to let her body function with no restriction…LoL, but I do have a problem when a woman acts childish and giggles or laughs or makes a scene about it… I mean doing those things is no problem, but they are, by no means a form of entertainment.

http://hispointofview.com/2009/06/forgot-or-just-ignorant/

Spoiled Lioness- Currently Attending Nippickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
10:43 am

I’ll burp before I pass gas around ANYONE!! If a person burps or does anything without excusing themselves, that will be the absolute LAST time I kick it with them!

SexyCool - I dance like I've got diamonds at the meeting of my thighs.

June 22nd, 2009
10:43 am

-w8 – I don’t like to hear pee splashing either. All of my past SO’s have eventually asked me why I run the water while I’m in the bathroom.

Spoiled Lioness- Currently Attending Nippickers Anonymous

June 22nd, 2009
10:44 am

Cee- Mail Call

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 22nd, 2009
10:44 am

WARNING: The following post contains an abnormally high “EWWW” factor. Read at your own risk.

Page — In general, I think periods bother girls a lot more than guys. Swiss Miss gets really shy about her period, but it doesn’t bother me a bit. I would continue to do anything I would normally do to her (and I do mean anything) if she would let me. I got no problem coming up for air looking like a vampire… :lol:

Demi

June 22nd, 2009
10:45 am

Mo…love your new hair hair cut…short’n’sassy…hurt’em girl hurt them!!!

I am always myself, whether I am with a woman or just hunging with the fellas…it’s all about being respectful of myself as a man. There is a time and place for everything.

I don’t mind my lady friends walking in on me while I am takng a leak…but while I am sitting on the ‘Throne’…that’s a no-no…This is the only time I have to empty my storehouse…the KING likes to eat!!!

W8…stop fronting, you know you like it…when your girl walk up behind you and aim manhood, while you are taking a leak, LOL

(I think some women enjoy the sensation…one girl said, ‘it feels like a vibrator’.)

ladies from Europe…gotta love them!!

DJ Demi

June 22nd, 2009
10:46 am

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Lovers it curves so freak what you heard
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You don’t even know what the half is
You gotta pay to play
Just for shorty, bang-bang, to look your way
I like the way you work it
Trumped tight, all day, every day
You’re blowing my mind, maybe in time
Baby, I can get you in my ride

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You’re my kind of girl, no diggity
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