Because He Kept Me Off the Pole
Sunday is Father’s Day, a rare day when some men get as good as they give. If you are fortunate enough to have a father that is still here, I urge you to spend time with him. If that is not possible then I think a card or phone call can go a long way!
I am so thankful for my Father, for always being there for me. He has been such a great example of what a good man is. I remember listening to comic Chris Rock joke about being a father to his daughters and the importance of being a good dad: I realize my only job in life is to keep her off the pole. I mean they don’t grade fathers but if your daughter is a stripper you messed up.
I love my Dad because he’s kept me off the pole and kept me from doing outrageous things to a man on a dance floor (I’m still in disbelief, sorry). I love my dad because he is always supportive, loves me unconditionally, and has always been there for me. In a lot of ways, I think he has set the standard for my relationships with men.
Ladies, why do you love your father? What has he taught you about dating, relationships, and men?
If you are dating a single dad, do you plan to celebrate Father’s day with him? Do you show him that you admire him for being a wonderful father?
Guys, do you have daughters? What kind of lessons do you think they should learn about men? Have you ever dated a woman who had “Daddy Issues?” or was not raised with a father in the home? How did you handle it?
How do you think our relationships with our fathers impact our dating and relationship habits?
To all our readers who are fathers HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!!
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Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
11:21 am
Kimmie I send love to you and yours. I appreciate the post & your dad being that proactive daddy.
Are you taking Ginseng out for Dad’s day?
Melo
June 19th, 2009
11:21 am
Hey Page,send me the pics!
Phew,no wonder all the drama on MIA,man or man…….
Happy Father’s Daddy.
Mine is Mandingo.All he needs from his lil’ US based melo is mula.
I will send him some.
Happy Fathers Big Zulu!
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 19th, 2009
11:22 am
“I think he was down for the “swirl” and everyone knows I certainly am lol.”
Page — Hey there, baby. How you doin’? Allow me to introduce myself…
Raqi
June 19th, 2009
11:23 am
Very good SexyCool
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
11:23 am
i called my dad wednesday to see what he was doing this w/e. he was on his way to monterey with his wife. good for him! i hope he has a wonderful time. monterey is gorgeous and a great romantic spot.
i send a happy father’s day text to my baby’s dad every year despite our relationship. he is the best dad i know right now. he does what needs to be done for jr., he does what i say, and he pays his child support. a great father and a hard worker are his best qualities.
Page1908
June 19th, 2009
11:24 am
LOL @ Buckshot. I *heart* white dudes! *wink* lol
Kym -in honor of Friday will call a cease fire.
June 19th, 2009
11:24 am
@Staceye..I made up those cards.
My son just IM to say he is having a blast with his dad’s fam. He is going to the fair and then to the pool. I am soooo happy that boy is gone. We needed this time away.
Melo
June 19th, 2009
11:24 am
W8,beside being my boy,from now on,u’ll also be my body guard, eve now and then!
-W8©(Spaceships don't come equipped with review mirrors)
June 19th, 2009
11:25 am
lol@Swiss
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
11:25 am
lol @ LOOZA!
AmazonRed™
June 19th, 2009
11:25 am
Did your daddy’s never teach you that kissing leads to other things???
Raqi –
Good thing my dad taught me how to drive, with a focus on how to BRAKE! lol
Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)
June 19th, 2009
11:26 am
W8 – I saw those guys pull up behind you and Staceye and then back up. I waited for Page1908 to get in her car too. I thought they were a lil suspect and the looked as if they had no clue where they were going. Wow, you never know…..
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
11:26 am
@Melo- I got ya homie!!
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 19th, 2009
11:26 am
W8…thanks for looking out for us man! Sniff. sniff…you so nice!
You guys know me..I am a smart a$$ and would normally ask, “Why you want me to walk in front of you…you wanna look at my a$$”?
But I knew something was up so I just did as I was instructed to do and kept it moving! 
I can ACT a fool…but i’m NOT a fool! 
SexyCool - Yeah - I got that 'Drake' status.
June 19th, 2009
11:27 am
On to kisses…
Will you miss me
if you kiss me?
Will it make me say your name?
Will I get the real you
if I feel you?
Or will you be just the same?
If I kiss you
Will I wish you
Were some other man?
If you hold me
will you mold me
into one who fits your plan?
If I taste you
Will it make you
Want to fall in love?
If I leave you
Will it grieve you
And make you pray to God above?
Can I show you
That I know you
And I want to love all my life?
Yeah, we’re kissing
It starts me wishing
That I could be your wife.
Spoiled Lioness- Loving Life!
June 19th, 2009
11:27 am
Cee- You got mail
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
11:28 am
@Mo before I turned around I lifted up the rear of my suit jacket and shirt to show them the 9mm
kimmie(Sheree)
June 19th, 2009
11:28 am
Sister Cee – Since the kids are out of town & his dad is with them, we are going over to a friend’s house that’s having a Father’s Day cookout. Thanks for the love, sister! Did you read my first post about the service? Girl, it was something else, but loved seeing so many TOGETHER AA men, FAMILY men! I mean MEN in every sense of the word!
Spoiled Lioness- Loving Life!
June 19th, 2009
11:29 am
My two- You got mail too
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
11:29 am
@ Kym – Aren’t you enjoying every moment of the “break” from first born? And you miss him a little, even on break?
Promise Message – “Take a second to enjoy a moment”.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 19th, 2009
11:32 am
@W8 re: “lesson learned always be aware of your surroundings”
I can never understand why this is not the very first thing everyone does, but I guess it does not come naturally. It has been decades since Officer’s Basic at Ft. Bragg, (and growing up in some tough environments), but it is still instinct for me to always note everything/everyone around me, make a “threat” evaluation, and form action plans in my mind if the “threat” should materialize. When I have told ladies that if something happens andy see me make a move, they are to run like hell and don’t wait for me. They give me one of those WTF looks, but it is one of those times when I expect them to just do what I say and don’t give me any ish. It is the training and the training never really goes away. There was a method to the madness in the Army.
AmazonRed™
June 19th, 2009
11:32 am
@Staceye..I made up those cards
Kym – You are talented! Those were hilarious!!!
Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)
June 19th, 2009
11:34 am
W8 – I noticed that you lifted your jacket but didnt catch that you were ‘flashing’ them. Good looking out though and thanks. Like I said, I noticed them pull up behind you guys and I made sure Page1908 was in her car. Then I made sure they pulled off in front of me.
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
11:35 am
@Randy- I feel you on that
Raqi
June 19th, 2009
11:35 am
Kym although my sons are five years apart I am so glad they had each other for entertainment. LOL Bought me plenty of hours of kid free time while they played together.
Now my 14 yr old even when he is home he is preoccupied with his own little life. He is either reading a book, watching tv or outside kicking the soccer ball around. Oh or playing the video game. Outside of when he wants to tell me something “awesome” the most ruckus he makes around the house is when he has a friend over. And still then he is doing his own thing.
I think I’ll take him to lunch next week. I miss my little monster man. sob
SexyCool - Yeah - I got that 'Drake' status.
June 19th, 2009
11:35 am
I’m glad I missed all that excitement. That would have effed up my mellow.
Jamoca
June 19th, 2009
11:36 am
Hello all…
What did I learn from my biological father? Hmmmm…
Well being that my father came in and out of my life as he pleased…it wasn’t until about at the age of 12/13 yrs old that I had realized that it wasn’t necessarily me that he took issue with, it was my mother and the secrets of their short lived marriage. However, I had to pay the piper. And it wasn’t until I reached 23 (y.o) that I had respectfully brought up how his running in and out of my life effected me, the need to fell loved, protected, etc…that is when he had finally given me the missing piece of the puzzle to what happened…and right or wrong, he did the best that he knew how. Which still surprised me, because his own father (my paw paw) was such a stand up man and my time spent around my paternal grandparents, were those sweet memories of my paw paw sitting me on his lap, crossing my legs and pulling my skirt over my knees….while telling me to sit up straight and look at him while he spoke to me. “to be open”. And that I truly am. My step father is truly a beautiful man and upstanding gentleman…heyal my mother’s always been fawned over most of her life, when it comes to her attractiveness, but I’ve gotta give it to her husband…he makes HER look good…or rather even better as a respectable married woman.
…and I will add, that my biological father and I have buried the past and have a much better relationship, since we visit him and his new wife (to include my paternal grandmother) quite often these days. And my mother and I are closer now than we’ve ever been. It’s a lot easier now that I’ve learned to simply let certain things go.
Hey Raqi I’ve created a directory of regulars blog “gubment” names and you’re Gloria.
And although I did not have much time to post yesterday as I initially thought, to the majority of the blog men, I absolutely loved your perspectives. Have yourselves a memorable Father’s Day!
AmazonRed™
June 19th, 2009
11:36 am
RandyT – Your 10:58 was touching. So glad you were such a solid example to your own children. Much respect.
Page1908
June 19th, 2009
11:36 am
Yeah, Mo, I noticed W8 do that, too. Ughhh those dudes were thugs! AS IF!
Raqi
June 19th, 2009
11:37 am
SexyCool do you have those saved somewhere are do you just roll them out of your head at the moment you post them? If I give you a word or two could you come up with something quickly.
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
11:37 am
Kimmie – NO i missed you first post. I’m bloggin’ and tryna help my other gf Kim plan the Father’s Day bbq. We are trying to decide if we’re going for the yardbird at all. Of course the steaks have been marinating.
Check your earlier post asap.
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
11:38 am
Jamoca Hey gurl!
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
11:39 am
@Page/Mo- Now yall got me wondering why yall were watching me walk away to see me do that..lol
W8 aka “SmoothyNoButt”
Kym -in honor of Friday will call a cease fire.
June 19th, 2009
11:40 am
Cee I am enjoying it and thinking we should have done this every summer not just for the fam reunion. But he is going back every year. I am thinking two weeks at camp and then on to your people for the rest of the summer.
AmazonRed™
June 19th, 2009
11:40 am
If I give you a word or two could you come up with something quickly.
Raqi – I was thinking she had them saved too then she posted this poem about Demi using just the intials of his name and I realized we have a pro on our hands!
Jamoca
June 19th, 2009
11:40 am
Oh heyal, don’t know what happened to the middle portion of my post….
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
11:41 am
I just wrote a poem from the dome.
Roses are Red
Violets are Blue
Don’t let my self confidence
Bring out the insecutirites
In You
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
11:42 am
insecurities
Page1908
June 19th, 2009
11:42 am
LOL W8- Dude my dad is a Sherrif and does the same thing. He even did it one time at a Laker game in the parking lot lol. Plus, when I worked in that correctional facility with all of those INS and US Marshall inmates, man, I was on high alert 24/7. I mean, I don’t have a weapon, but I hope no one is dumb enough to try me, with my kick boxing skills and all lol. You shoulda let me punch you in the stomach last night lol.
Raqi
June 19th, 2009
11:42 am
Gloria??? I have never met a “gloria” that I like.
Jamoca
June 19th, 2009
11:42 am
Hi Cee!
Jamoca
June 19th, 2009
11:46 am
Raqi – I have and one was an AA, the other was Cuban and the third was Blatino.
And they were all riots!…so full of life.
Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)
June 19th, 2009
11:46 am
W8 – we were making sure you and Staceye got to your cars safely as well. Mr SmoothBooty! LOL!
SexyCool – I am snapping my fingers for you chica! Your verses are sumthin….
Page1908 – not AS IF!! You are too funny!
SexyCool - Yeah - I got that 'Drake' status.
June 19th, 2009
11:47 am
Raqi – I type straight into the keyboard. Don’t save anything. Only recently started keeping the stuff that I post here.
Give me a word. Let me see what I can come up with.
Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)
June 19th, 2009
11:49 am
@ARed thanks but I’ve made plenty of mistakes…I don’t think anyone totally “gets it right”, but I was and am involved, even though they are all grown now. I had a pretty toxic marriage, but every time my hand would reach for the door, I would remember my kids. Divorce eventually happened anyway, and I have my share of regrets, but my children still call me and want me in their lives…and that is what I hoped, prayed, worked for.
Page1908
June 19th, 2009
11:49 am
LOL Mo- Sorry, that was a “Cali-ism” that slipped out. W8 didn’t really clown me that much last night lol.
Jamoca
June 19th, 2009
11:49 am
…and with plenty of experiences and stories to tell.
Awww…wooo, wooo, wooo…Don’t worry, you’re not the only one who rejects your blog gubment name. However, there are plenty who actually got a kick out of theirs.
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
11:49 am
W8 did exactly what he was suppose to do . . . be a protector. that’s a trait in men that i hope women look for. there’s nothing better than feeling safe.
Ballwood
June 19th, 2009
11:50 am
On topic: Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope
Scool: I ain’t heard the Big Daddy Kane thang in a minute. lol Your name fits you to a T. What did I tell you about posting your ish!!
Mo: You confirmed my global world view that short people are always happy.
Page: Everytime I looked at your brestestesess I felt like saying mamma (now making baby sucking face). Oh and when I took my shirt off last night it still had your breastesteses imprint on it.
Leggs: You are such a girly-girly and I like it.
2E’s: You are slipping on your job. Why you didn’t make Terence Trent D’arby buy me a drank. For Real now humming Wish Well
Demi: I would have beat the brakes off you last night if it wasn’t for all those fine ass chicks walking bye everytime I was trying to shoot but it was good meeting you bruh and we gon rip the ATL up one night soon.
W8: I told you that white girl is going to photoshop that picture with you eating her taco. Oh and that scene you describe with 2E’s makes me think you and 2E’s are the new Bobby and Whitney. See you at the game.
SexyCool - Yeah - I got that 'Drake' status.
June 19th, 2009
11:53 am
For Real – I was waiting for you to come on here and blast me for posting…lol…