Because He Kept Me Off the Pole
Sunday is Father’s Day, a rare day when some men get as good as they give. If you are fortunate enough to have a father that is still here, I urge you to spend time with him. If that is not possible then I think a card or phone call can go a long way!
I am so thankful for my Father, for always being there for me. He has been such a great example of what a good man is. I remember listening to comic Chris Rock joke about being a father to his daughters and the importance of being a good dad: I realize my only job in life is to keep her off the pole. I mean they don’t grade fathers but if your daughter is a stripper you messed up.
I love my Dad because he’s kept me off the pole and kept me from doing outrageous things to a man on a dance floor (I’m still in disbelief, sorry). I love my dad because he is always supportive, loves me unconditionally, and has always been there for me. In a lot of ways, I think he has set the standard for my relationships with men.
Ladies, why do you love your father? What has he taught you about dating, relationships, and men?
If you are dating a single dad, do you plan to celebrate Father’s day with him? Do you show him that you admire him for being a wonderful father?
Guys, do you have daughters? What kind of lessons do you think they should learn about men? Have you ever dated a woman who had “Daddy Issues?” or was not raised with a father in the home? How did you handle it?
How do you think our relationships with our fathers impact our dating and relationship habits?
To all our readers who are fathers HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!!
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MACKNIF
June 19th, 2009
3:15 pm
there are times when i’m bout to explode, but i have self control of that part of my life. i no longer want casual sex
-LOL….WE DONT BELIEVE YOU…YOU NEED MORE PEOPLE…..brothers in cali must really be on there simpin…cause if you were in ga i would smell your juices way ova here….yes yall i am in a nasy mood today…i am being real mannish…
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
3:15 pm
@Beautiful- they did a press release in regards to the killing of the fly
http://www.reuters.com/article/newsOne/idUSTRE55H4Z220090618
B-team ReporterDemi (on the way to discover the cost of puddy and why the cost of puddy is on the rise)
June 19th, 2009
3:15 pm
angie…kids got in the way of their sex life…too many kids a one time…
W8…I go over to the man spa..find out the cost of happy ending…sum dum ho was talking about 300 dollar…me being fool…ask what can I get for 5 dollar…you should seen the look on her face…my crew was over here rollind
W8…you are right, haven’t seen a chewed yet
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
3:16 pm
@RAQI
calm down woman! picking a word to go with the flow doesn’t make a lick of sense i guess.
i just asked why eclipse? i can’t ask you a question?
AmazonRed™
June 19th, 2009
3:18 pm
I dunno why but when you two go back in forth, I think of Regina George and Cady Heron from Mean Girls.
PG –
I’m mad you have not ONLY seen Mean Girls, but you remembered the characters first and last names.
But good analogy cuz the back and forth is just fun for me and plays to my teenybopper side.
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
3:18 pm
You know what i appreciate? Folks that will “meet you” and be stand up no matter what time, place, or age. I always tell my mom i’m astonished all the time how grown folks ack like like teenagers, than that of their proverbial state of person they “say” they are.
That’s why i stay true to myself and not anyone else’s daughter, son, dog or cat. I promise most people that sign up for the same “realness” would stop playin the Cat Mouse game and be surprise at how silly they look to others.
When i see silly stuff and i’m to tired to tell grown folks they bs i just think to my self. “i’m already raising a child, i can’t babysit grown folks too”.
How’s that for subliminal?
Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season
June 19th, 2009
3:19 pm
Raqi – I’ve read some of SexyCool’s more steamier stuff and I knew you were asking for trouble when I read that request
Raqi
June 19th, 2009
3:21 pm
Rell it would not be me not to read something a make it literal.
i would smell your juices
One Saturday Mason and I were just hanging out around the house and we were sitting on the couch watching the movie Unfaithful. He had his head on my lap and out of no where he asked “you want me don’t you?”. I said no, I don’t. He said “yes you do. I can smell it.”
You men truly are dogs aren’t you? LOL
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
3:22 pm
…someone needs a new GPS.
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
3:23 pm
@W8
it’s nice to see him that way . . . joking around, etc.
@ALVIN
yea, kids can be distracting.
@RELL
why does it bother y’all that i don’t do casual sex. if i did, then i would be a w hore!
Raqi
June 19th, 2009
3:24 pm
Beautiful I know you just want attention so I will oblige for just a few minutes. I have to put some shirts in the dryer.
Do you even know what SC and I were talking about? Do you know why I even gave her ONE WORD? I guess not because if you did we would not be having this discussion. Why do you insist on making people irritated by you? You can be better than that. Just join in on the discussion and folks (meaning ME) will respond to you. I have told you that before.
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
3:24 pm
@Ce- I think it starts of with people being real with themselves first and foremost
oh You know I got your subliminal
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
3:25 pm
@Ce- STOP IT!!
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
3:27 pm
@Ce- I think it starts of with people being real with themselves first and foremost.
“oh You know I got your subliminal.”
W8 Guy. I promise it’s some silly ones. And i don’t even call my folks broads. But, i see what the bandit is talking about.
Melo
June 19th, 2009
3:27 pm
SexyCool’s more steamier stuff and I knew you were asking for trouble when I read that request
Is that right Tazzee??
I may have to work out smething with Cool,for my Queen’s upcoming birthday.I wl take her out to dinner then come home to read that specially prepared poem as we retire to bed.
Queen is a hopeless romantic and im sure she will sqirt all nite coz of that.
Lemme me put sme on my calendar right now so i remember as Oct 9 apprches..
Poppa Grande
June 19th, 2009
3:28 pm
AR
I’m mad you have not ONLY seen Mean Girls, but you remembered the characters first and last names.
While I am not the biggest fan of TV shows, I Love movies (except stupid ones like the Notebook)
It was actually better than I expected. The wife and I saw it as part of a double feature at the Starlight drive in. So, we didn’t go to see it, but it wasn’t bad. The funny thing is that I don’t remember other movie (which is the one that led us to the drive-in) Between that and 30 Rock, Tina Fey is pretty good at writing those kinds of things.
I remember the names because TBS just got rights to broadcast it and one night earlier this week it was on back to back to back. (Like they do on TNT.) Mean Girls is not a drama, and we should all know by now that TNT knows drama and TBS is “very funny”
B-team ReporterDemi (on the way to discover the cost of puddy and why the cost of puddy is on the rise)
June 19th, 2009
3:28 pm
W8…no sign of tall chocolate…down stairs in the vip dranking a grown man’s tea…but awwww…dayum…there is a cute red red bone with a mean six pack here though
AmazonRed™
June 19th, 2009
3:28 pm
I promise most people that sign up for the same “realness” would stop playin the Cat Mouse game and be surprise at how silly they look to others.
Cee –
Folks sure take this blog and perceptions seriously. Why would anyone care about that…really?
Most of us regulars on here sit around and take way too much time out of our work days in the first place. None of us particularly stand up when you look it at on those terms anyway, so it really matters not how deep or vapid you are after that. Just my opinion of course.
Melo
June 19th, 2009
3:29 pm
CEE,hw tall are u?
Mytwo, hw tall are u?
Prof, hw tall are u??
Raqi
June 19th, 2009
3:30 pm
LOL Tazzee. See my comment to Rell.
If you leave a peach in the sun it will get hot enough that you can smell it’s nectar from a distance.
Imma leave you all alone. When my husband gets home and finds me in the shower imma tell him I got dirty playing with me friends today. LOL
I will talk to you all in the near future.
Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers. And the mother’s who are having to make it happen in a father’s absence. Been there.
You all be good.
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
3:32 pm
Ce- STOP IT!!
W8 Imma stop. Cuase i can get reeeal, for real. And i don’t even wann go there. I know better.
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
3:32 pm
@RAQI
i read the dialogue. her prior poems were about relationships. this blog is about relationships. picking a word that has nothing to do with relationships just didn’t make any sense at all.
you know what? this is stupid. i asked a simple question. next time just don’t respond!
Professor
June 19th, 2009
3:32 pm
Hey Melo I came in just in time I am 5′5. Why do you need to know I have not read through all the post so hopefully you are not setting me up.
B-team ReporterDemi (on the way to discover the cost of puddy and why the cost of puddy is on the rise)
June 19th, 2009
3:32 pm
sexyC…short and to the point…real talk on that one
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
3:35 pm
Only one blogger recognize my stance, and they ain’t even met me.
As Jamoca tell it all the time – “I stay, sitting in the cut.”
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 19th, 2009
3:35 pm
W8…I’m into a lot of things..but being shot si NOT one! :lol
RAQI…I’m gonna need you and Mase to wait the full 6 weeks thanks!
DEMI…I used to do gymnastics from 5-17. I haven’t done a back flip or handstand ever since. I can still split and do a round off.
LIONESS…Miami…ahora? No sabes que esta muy caliente. Como El Diablo!!!
MO…so Demi loves your dimples…but todl me they are tired of mine. I told him if I had dimples on my a$$ I’d moon him…since he said he wanted to see new dimples!
KYM…dangit…you are hitting from all corners today girl!
CEMEELI…which salon do you go to? I go to Juanita’s.
I Love babies too…girl they get all my attention. But Lawd knows I do to want any of my own!
Page and I saw so many cute babies last Saturday. She said it was an omen for me to have one…I said hellz no..that was for YOU and YOu ONLY! 
LEGGS..please take a lot of ice and water for yourself and Lil Leggs. Keep a ziplock bag of ice to go behind your necks..
I eat chocolate covered strawberries all the time..no libido effect. OH Lawd…it died. R.I.P to staceye’s libido.
RAQI…girl I love a good smelling man. I love to sniff around the neck for a minute…inhale them in…ahhhhhh
POPPA..I LOVE Mean Girls.
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
3:35 pm
I’m not even…Girl, what are you talking about?
SexyCool - Sexual Chocolate. (And drops the mike.)
June 19th, 2009
3:36 pm
Beauty – Raqi wanted to throw a word out and see what my flow be like coming back. That’s all. You throw me a word, babygirl.
AmazonRed™
June 19th, 2009
3:36 pm
Cuase i can get reeeal, for real. And i don’t even wann go there. I know better.
I thought you were already real, Cemeeli.
Cuz folks want to talk about how real they are, and then post all this passive aggressive stuff. If you are gonna get real, you might as well name names.
And if the names don’t matter, the statement probably doesn’t either.
SexyCool - Sexual Chocolate. (And drops the mike.)
June 19th, 2009
3:37 pm
Ce – I’m reading and hearing – and like you, most often, cooling in the cut.
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
3:38 pm
**I’m gonna need you and Mase to wait the full 6 weeks thanks!**
that is tough! they always ask, *can i put it in just a lil bit?* lol.
Page1908
June 19th, 2009
3:39 pm
LOL Staceye omg I forgot about alllll those cute babies last Saturday. Man, it was like cute baby day lol. It was a sign for me and you that we need some babies lol. I don’t know about anyone else, but my so-called biological clock is on “snooze” and I am not ready or rushing nothing, but the PRACTICE? lol….hmmm yeah, I need to practice this weekend lol.
LOL @ Demi. Did you like those 5 inch heels I had on last night? *wink*
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
3:39 pm
@Ce- I know..I know..
@Demi- maybe you made it after shift change
MACKNIF
June 19th, 2009
3:40 pm
@angie….you all excited….call me and i will give you phone sex…that should calm you down…lol
@raqi…i have surprised a few women with my noise for that…
mytw♥cents...what's the scenario?
June 19th, 2009
3:41 pm
SENSIBLE CEMEELI Your 3;18 may be the realest thing you ever wrote. You should keep that grown folk exposed more often…for more than just TnT, chick!
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
3:41 pm
@SEXYCOOL
i didn’t even mean nothing by it. i know my name ruffles feathers BUT DAYUM!
Page1908
June 19th, 2009
3:42 pm
LOL Angie ur crazy. They always say “c’mon, just let me put the TIP in for a second” lmao. I’m not messin with you today girl lol.
Staceye, Mo let me borrow one of her dimples last night. It’s in my purse still lol.
SexyCool - Sexual Chocolate. (And drops the mike.)
June 19th, 2009
3:42 pm
If you REALLY trynna seduce your man, rub a little of GoodPssy smell behind your ears and at the pulse point on your neck. Works EVERY time.
Melo
June 19th, 2009
3:43 pm
so hopefully you are not setting me up
Set u up,Me??
A male lion can neva eve set u up with another lion.
I just pic bloggers in ma mind,that is if i havnt met them.It just helps the brain pretend i know u for real when infact i dont.
Nting major.
Unless ofcourse when my divorce cmes thru,then i know who to call or who not to!
picking a word that has nothing to do with relationships just didn’t make any sense at all
Now thats biaatchy!!!
How can u say that about a 2 pple convo??
i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)
June 19th, 2009
3:43 pm
“I eat chocolate covered strawberries all the time..no libido effect. OH Lawd…it died. R.I.P to staceye’s libido.”
“RAQI…girl I love a good smelling man. I love to sniff around the neck for a minute…inhale them in…ahhhhhh”
Okay, Staceye — these two statements do not compute. You’re not a Gemini, are you?
MACKNIF
June 19th, 2009
3:43 pm
hmmm yeah, I need to practice this weekend lol.
-yep its the weather
@cee…love i been on that angle..but i do feel you and cosign your realness…folks kill me hiding behind the screen…come out come out wherever you are…lol
only big women and booger wolfs hide behind the screen
Beautiful
June 19th, 2009
3:43 pm
@RELL
i don’t do phone sex and your number has beeeeen deleted. lol.
Wise Diva
June 19th, 2009
3:43 pm
say what? I am totally confused, wait, I think I’m ok with that.
It’s FRIDAY, let’s end on a light note. Does anyone have any jokes to tell? A funny story? Anything to wrap up our Friday blog discussion
Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season
June 19th, 2009
3:44 pm
I’m so confused…
-W8©
June 19th, 2009
3:44 pm
@beautiful- SexyCool is just asking you to throw a word out there and she will write you a poem..cool off
Page1908
June 19th, 2009
3:44 pm
LOL Rell, callate:)
MACKNIF
June 19th, 2009
3:45 pm
If you REALLY trynna seduce your man, rub a little of GoodPssy smell behind your ears and at the pulse point on your neck. Works EVERY time.
-yep..better yet just show him….ala basic instinct style..lol
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
3:45 pm
Amazon – If i was saying you TRUST ME, I would post ARed. Naming names (again elementary) when you’re ejecting a thought is not necessarry.
They know if they’re a dog.
Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season
June 19th, 2009
3:46 pm
If you REALLY trynna seduce your man, rub a little of GoodPssy smell behind your ears and at the pulse point on your neck. Works EVERY time.
SexyCool – umm, is that a literal statement?
Cemeeli
June 19th, 2009
3:46 pm
anything else?