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Because He Kept Me Off the Pole

Sunday is Father’s Day, a rare day when some men get as good as they give. If you are fortunate enough to have a father that is still here, I urge you to spend time with him. If that is not possible then I think a card or phone call can go a long way!

I am so thankful for my Father, for always being there for me. He has been such a great example of what a good man is. I remember listening to comic Chris Rock joke about being a father to his daughters and the importance of being a good dad: I realize my only job in life is to keep her off the pole. I mean they don’t grade fathers but if your daughter is a stripper you messed up.

I love my Dad because he’s kept me off the pole and kept me from doing outrageous things to a man on a dance floor (I’m still in disbelief, sorry). I love my dad because he is always supportive, loves me unconditionally, and has always been there for me. In a lot of ways, I think he has set the standard for my relationships with men.

Ladies, why do you love your father? What has he taught you about dating, relationships, and men?

If you are dating a single dad, do you plan to celebrate Father’s day with him? Do you show him that you admire him for being a wonderful father?

Guys, do you have daughters? What kind of lessons do you think they should learn about men? Have you ever dated a woman who had “Daddy Issues?” or was not raised with a father in the home? How did you handle it?

How do you think our relationships with our fathers impact our dating and relationship habits?

To all our readers who are fathers HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!!

643 comments Add your comment

M.

June 19th, 2009
8:18 am

Blog,

A successful guy once told me that if you meet a woman and she dosen’t respect her father….run…

All that to mean, if she can’t respect the man that helped bring her into the world, what makes you think she can/will respect you?

I dated a woman with Daddy issues and I suggest you leave them where they are…keep fishing in different waters!

anonymousella

June 19th, 2009
8:30 am

not to sound bitter and wreck the happy vibes of this post, but my dad – and mom too – were failures in the healthy parenting department. only thing my dad has taught me about relationships is to be cynical, make my own dough, and don’t be afraid to show a n-word your crazy. it’s a problem when your relationship ethos is “don’t start none won’t be none,” lol.

he’s mellowed out now, but the damage is done. the effect of my childhood is a mixed blessing though. good thing is that i’m mad independent and headstrong. the downside is that i am also very self-protective and a bit co-dependent when do enter one. my therapist has a steady gig, yo.

AmazonRed™

June 19th, 2009
8:52 am

Happy Friday All! We made it. :lol:

I love my Dad because he’s kept me off the pole and kept me from doing outrageous things to a man on a dance floor (I’m still in disbelief, sorry).

WiseDiva, I’m with you there. :lol:

Gosh, there aren’t enough words to express how awesome I think my Dad is. He didn’t have a Dad growing up, and he was ALWAYS there for us. Even those times in his marriage where it would have been easier to walk away. He knew nothing about raising daughters, yet he was always a shining example of manhood. He worked and came home and took care of his family. There was no clubbing, no man weekends, no drinking, no foolishness. EVER.

I don’t mind dismissing the misfits in my life, because I know what to look for in a man, and won’t accept ANYTHING that falls short.

Thank you Daddy!

i'm swiss (aka Buckshot Prior)

June 19th, 2009
8:53 am

Morning everyone. I’ll get to the topic later — but for right now…

Which one of y’all burned down the Georgia Theatre? Swiss would like to state for the record that he was NOT boozing at the GA Theatre last night…

Deeva4Life

June 19th, 2009
8:58 am

I love my daddy because he’s just that…daddy. I wish I could type that we had this wonderful relationship when I was younger and that he taught me so many things about life, love and relationships, but I can’t. For many years I was angry because I felt he’d let me (us) down by not showing us what a “real” man looked like. But as I got older I realized that, he did the best he could with what he knew.

My grandfather passed away when my dad was 5 and not to speak ill of my grandmother but she had different men in and out of her and her children’s lives, so I’m not sure if there was ever anyone around to deposit “what it means to be a man” gems into my father’s life. When he decided to marry my mom (at 22)he had no clue what it was to be a husband or a father. Our relationship has been nothing short of rocky but I’ve learned to love him because regardless of his flaws, we never went without a place to lay our heads, food to eat or clothes on our back. There wasn’t a lot of affection but I know deep down he did/does love us. I wouldn’t trade my father for another because then I wouldn’t be me but I do wish things could’ve been different back then…that he would’ve said I love you more, spent more time with me and my sisters, been a better husband to my mom…but it is what it is. Whew! Didn’t mean to get this deep with my post.

I think my relationship with my dad has molded my behavior in relationships as anonymousella stated, I am very self-protective and a bit co-dependent when in relationships…not in a clingy type way but always searching for assurance that I’m loved and cared for.

With that being said, Happy Father’s Day to all the father’s who are loving, providing, and protecting their children every day. There’s a lot of pressure in this world and it’s not easy being a father but you do it because that’s your duty to your children…that’s a beautiful thing.

Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity

June 19th, 2009
9:08 am

Reflections on My Daddy

My daddy is a mixed bag..on any given day he can be dependable and helpful, next day he can be aloof, missing in action. Come back the next day and be “mister can I borrow your car”. What I can say about him…he is, hard working(if it suits him), on the spot in a crisis, and loving.

See my daddy is not my biological dad, he married my mom when I was two and adopted me..so he is the only daddy I have known(saw my really dad a few times when I was teen-but thats a whole other Oprah). My daddy has had some hard time and made some crazy, unhealthy decisions(that is a whole other Oprah too) But when he and my mom split up and my mom got to sick to care for us. He fought for custody of me and my little sister. And with the help of my aunties and granny(for a bit) raised me and my sister(he learned to braid and plait hair.)

Now it has not always been gravy with my daddy, I gave him hell for a bit when I was a teen, drove the whole family to therapy once(my sister three or four times). But he stuck it out.

I credit my aunties with alot of things..but I always tell people my dad let me be me. He nurtured that independant part of me. Even now if I call and say “Daddy how do I light the pilot on the water heater?” He tells me how, and doesn’t run to my rescue. But he will if he has too. Also, my daddy gave me the opportunity to screw up. Some parents try to prevent the screw up but my daddy would give advice and watch you not take it..lesson learned.

I think when I look at all the men I have loved before..I always look for that stick to it quality,that my daddy has- which is rare as hell in men today. His pride gets in the way alot but he stays on the grind.
It is that willing to stay down even when stuff is sucking to hell(and it is a hell of his own making) that makes my daddy alright with me.

(Now watch he calls me and give me a reason to eat all these kind words this morning.)

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 19th, 2009
9:13 am

How do you think our relationships with our fathers impact our dating and relationship habits?

My father told my brother and I(many years after my mom left him and they divorced) that he never wanted to be a husband or father and his treatment of our family showed as much. He was/is a momma’s boy who opted to take care of his mother and not his wife and children and what’s saddest is that his mother NEVER liked us and he NEVER asked her why? Anyhoo the things that a girl learns from her dad in regards to how to treat a woman and how a woman should be treated were things that I learned when I was ~21 when I moved to Atlanta. I’m not close to him at all but not b/c my siblings and I didn’t try but he just wasn’t intereste. Just last year his mom told me to leave and never come back as long as she was there and he just stood on the side and watched. So me being the hot tomale I am,in anger and hurt gave them both the finger and kept it moving.

How do you think our relationships with our fathers impact our dating and relationship habits?

Until I was about 27 or 28 I didn’t respect guys a whole lot and only used them for what I wanted at the time. I’ve met men who act like my sperm donor and I leave them alone with the quickness. When it comes to obvious mamas boys I don’t deal with them at all….fast forward to now and I realize that not all men are like my father and that relationships aren’t all bad. Now that I am single I can reflect on some of my past behaviors and see what I want in/for the future…..if that future includes a man cool but if not then I’ll still be okay. It’s all been a huge learning experience and although things aren’t how I would want them to be things are as they should be. You can’t make a man step up….you can’t.

AmazonRed™

June 19th, 2009
9:17 am

My father told my brother and I(many years after my mom left him and they divorced) that he never wanted to be a husband or father and his treatment of our family showed as much

Sassy – Wow. Well, at least he was honest. Some folks go for years wondering why their dad treated them like he did. Did this statement bring any closure to you?

Page1908

June 19th, 2009
9:25 am

TGIF!

Mo, Staceye, Leggs, For Real, Demi, SexyCool, W8 are ya’ll tired from last night? I’m not lol. OMG it was soooooo hot in there! LOL @ W8 @ “dayum it’s hot in here…I’m gonna cut out in about 10 minutes (2 minutes later)…man, bump that, let’s go now, it’s too dayum hot in here” lmao. LOL @ the pics…I was looking at those this morning….crazy!!

German Potato Salad in a can

June 19th, 2009
9:26 am

Oh…this is so sweet. I think Im gonna cry.

Page1908

June 19th, 2009
9:29 am

I’m lucky that my father is really great. I don’t have any “daddy issues” and I get along quite well with him. My parents are still married, which I know people sometimes say is really uncommon nowadays, so I am thankful for that. They know I have always made good decisions and have never gotten into any trouble, so they trust me a lot and support me no matter what. Now, if I can just get my grandmother (my dad’s mother) to stop asking me “so, Page1908, how’s your love life”? LOL, ughhh do you know how embarassing that is! Sheesh! lol

Atltwen

June 19th, 2009
9:33 am

Don’t forget us men who aren’t biological father’s yet, but do our best support the women in our lives when they have children, married or not.

When they’re ready to break “the news”, we get the phone calls. We’re at the baby showers bringing all kinds of gifts. Visiting and checking up on them during the pregnancy. Going to the hospital, before or after birth. Sometimes babysiting. Celebrating that BIG # 1 birthday. Ballet, football, basketball, baseball, cheerleading; we attend the activities.

Really, we are like that cool “uncle” or “cousin” that treated like a niece or nephew who you thought was blood family because they were always around, but decades later found out he is just a good friend of the family — yeah, that’s us!

We have no children of own on, but we love kids and deeply desire to be parents. So thank you the mother’s and FATHER’S who share their kids with those who don’t!

AmazonRed™

June 19th, 2009
9:33 am

LOL @ Page. I could have written the exact same thing above, it’s the same for me too, except that it’s my mom’s mother who asks about my love life. :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 19th, 2009
9:33 am

Did this statement bring any closure to you?

AmRed yes and no. Yes b/c we kinda knew that already but he never had the heart/ballz to say it…so at least he finally verbalized what we knew. No b/c we still didn’t understand why he let his mother shyt on his wife and children and not defend us…whether he wanted the responsibilty or not WE had/have HIS name and owed us that much,at least. No AmRed b/c he has at least 6-7 OTHER children that he’s doing the same thing to. I have a two half-sisters(one 34 and the other 13…by tow different women of course) who are both suffering through the same things I did growing up and that fact that the cycle is still going on with/through them makes me wanna buts that bytch’s knee caps but that would only make ME feel better and would not solve ANYTHING. When I talk to my hslf sisters they sound like I did as a young woman and the pain is so fresh and raw and it’s not fair. If he were dead sometimes I think it would’ve been easier to deal with but that’s neither here nor there. Some members of his fam and including my own mother says “never think he doesn’t miss his family b/c he does”…..and that maybe true but parts of me want the bastard to hurt the way all of his children has…but vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord. So we don’t bother him and he doesn’t have the courage to face us so we leave it. Since he’s showed us that he loves his mother more than us then that’s how we leave it….him and his mama.

Leggs (Karyn)

June 19th, 2009
9:38 am

Good morning everyone!

@Page, not tired at all. Had a great time. And yes, it was too damn hot in there especially for me and my “private summers.” :lol:

@W8, it was nice meeting you. Thanks for the little dance. @ForReal, you’re a nice man! @SexyCool, you are a delight. @Lioness, girl, you are off da chain. I enjoyed meeting everyone!

On topic ~ I wasn’t raised with my father. I have never used the word “daddy” a day in my life. :cry: As I matured, I sought him out so he could see what I made of my life. My mother did a fabulous job raising me (probably cuz I was scared shytless of her). I got to have a somewhat decent relationship w/my father in my early 40’s (mostly via the telephone). I didn’t know the man very well, but went to his funeral simply because he was my father and I respect my place on this earth because of him. Fast forward, main reason why I’m making sure my daughter knows and interacts w/her father as much as possible (almost daily). Reading all your stories no doubt will make me sad, but looking forward to reading your experiences w/your dads.

Stiff d* and bubble gum

June 19th, 2009
9:39 am

Cool post

Page i was going to come out but i had zero energy!!!

Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season

June 19th, 2009
9:39 am

Morning All!

I’m loving the daddy stories. I do thank my father for providing the sperm that created me. I also thank him that we can have a decent conversation now and he doesn’t act as if he’s entitled to all the parental benefits like my mother does. He’s had enough sense to make sure he can take care of himself so that he’s not a burden on the children that he did not help to raise (like my mother is).

Now my Uncle? That’s another story. I thank my Uncle for showing me what a real man looks like, for loving my aunt and taking care of her. I thank my Uncle for treating my sisters and me like we were his own daughters and helping to raise us into the responsible women that we are. I thank him for helping all of us get our first cars and helping me learn how to drive. I thank him for showing my nephew what a real man is. My Uncle is the one that convinced my grandmother to move from Cleveland to NC so he could take care of her. I didn’t like it at the time but my mother and my other uncle weren’t doing a good job. My life has changed drastically since I stopped bucking and joined the rest of the family in NC. Finally, I thank my Uncle for continuing to be there for me – even if it’s just to chit chat.

AmazonRed™

June 19th, 2009
9:41 am

Sooo….Lioness and W8 were in the same room together, huh? Looks like no blood was shed or bunnies were boiled! :lol:

-W8©

June 19th, 2009
9:41 am

I think Dad’s instill confidence in their daughters. Dating women you can see the inner REAL strength of those who were close to their Daddy. Not just a man in the house who was her father, being led around by the mother there is a difference. As a man you can figure out when dating who had a strong bond with a real father in their life. Those women tend to not be a rotating door for relationships and know how to respect a man. And that garners respect from a man who is seeking a relationship from them right off of the bat.Not respect a man as in bow down or just submit to whatever man..But just to have a genuine understanding and confidence in herself that does not need to be bragged about but something you can just feel in the way she handles and deals with life.

Fellas I am sure you will agree that when you meet a woman in which you can tell that her father was very instrumental in her life you tend to know right of the bat that she is serious business. I have even seen this in women who have lost their fathers at an early age in life, he still left an impression on them that it affects them to this day.

On my daughter I always teach her to be strong she comes from a very strong lineage and she is expected to keep it going. She is at the age where we don’t sugarcoat stuff for her. Her mother and I are on point and even though her mother is a handful by my standards, which is saying alot, she knows that at the end of the day I am Daddy and if I dont agree with it it ain’t happening. Her mother grew up very close to her own father and it shows in her life. It’s not about keeping them off the pole per say it’s about grooming them into a person who makes wise decisions and if and when she does fall to get up brush herself off and keep going…to adapt and overcome..to never give up..to know how to define yourself and still be able to love.. I tell my daughter about my player days the wild stuff I used to do , some of the wild stuff I still do know. I talk to her about what was good about my relationship with her mother and what was bad. She was telling me about a boy who she likes, but he is having sex or has had sex with other girls and he told her that he respected her even though she didnt want to have sex with him. I told her “yeah, daddy played that game also…your mom was a virgin when I met her and I told her the same thing..and look her you are” Point being you equip them the best you can for life, and always let them know you are there for whatever, whenever. My daughter is more comfortable talking to me than she is her mom about certain things. I ask her why does she feel more comfortable talking to me than mom and she says that I am easier to talk to, I let her know that I am going to tell her mom anyway…I think she prefers it that way.

AmazonRed™

June 19th, 2009
9:42 am

Reading all your stories no doubt will make me sad, but looking forward to reading your experiences w/your dads.

Leggs – I was reading someone’s blog and they asked what the greatest gift their father gave them and one poster said “his absence.”

While I’m sure you needed your father in your life, some fathers did the best thing for their family by staying away.

Stiff d* and bubble gum

June 19th, 2009
9:44 am

Those women tend to not be a rotating door for relationships and know how to respect a man

- word to the whole post fam…now that is REAL TALK

Cemeeli

June 19th, 2009
9:46 am

Morning!

I love my dad cause he is why i’m so country. Even though he calls me a city girl…

I give thanks for my son’s dad for suppling me with my “only begotten”…

I adore my old man because his kids are his first passion.

Happy Father’s Day!

Page1908

June 19th, 2009
9:47 am

Leggs how come you didn’t say it was nice meeting me? LOL

ARed- LOL, man, img I get so embarassed when my grandmother asks me how my love life is going. I turn red, which is not hard to do lol.

Bubble Gum- You should have come, it was totally rad, but it was soooo hot in there lol.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 19th, 2009
9:47 am

Did this statement bring any closure to you?

AmRed yes and no. Yes b/c he finally verbalized what we already knew but at least he said it. No b/c I have two half sisters(by different women of course) one is 34 and the other is 13 who are going through the same thing I went through as a young woman and the pain I hear when I talk to them is too raw and fresh. I hear myself when I talk to them and they tell me that all they want is to be accepted by him and his family. No AmRed b/c the cycle is still going on with my other half siblings and I think if you don’t want children then why are you still making them…..just to abandon them. No it’s not all the way closed b.c once in a while I still wanna bust the bytch in knee caps but that would only make ME feel better and that’s selfish. Members of his fam and even my mom tell me “he miss y’all…don’t ever think that he don’t” but I’m like well he made sure we know he loves his mama more than us so his azz will hav to ride just like that…with his mama. I think if he were dead it would be easier ’cause just the THOUGHT that I could run into him when I go home makes me a little edgy with violent undertones. So for the best for all involved we just stay away and hope to NEVER see him. See my sperm donor had 4 children with my mom, some more while they were married and more when they divorced but I digress ’cause that’s a whole “nother Oprah”. Moving on…….

Cemeeli

June 19th, 2009
9:47 am

Page sounds like you all had a ball. Good deal!

SexyCool - Can you feel me feeling it?

June 19th, 2009
9:48 am

My father story is a bit different. For anyone who cares to take that journey…you can read a bit here: http://sjeaspeaks.blogspot.com/2005/09/dancing-with-my-father.html

Three Words Daily – Shift your perspective.

Professor

June 19th, 2009
9:48 am

Good Morning All:

My daddy was great he taught me a lot about life and he was the one that gave me the birds and the bees’ talk. When I look back on our relationship I know that I am blessed to have had him for 21 years, but I still hurt from him not being here now…I know always will. Now, Father’s Day is one of those days I try to avoid and stay busy on, because it is too painful to deal with the memories.

Cemeeli

June 19th, 2009
9:49 am

W8 – You cool and all, but your gonna havta pay for that doggone long post.

AmazonRed™

June 19th, 2009
9:50 am

I think if you don’t want children then why are you still making them…..

Sassy, that’s some real talk. I’m so sorry that the cycle is still continuing to this day. Thanks for answering.

Page1908

June 19th, 2009
9:51 am

W8- Don’t make me cry today with that long 4 paragraph post lol. I’m totally upbeat today for some reason, so chill lol.

Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season

June 19th, 2009
9:52 am

If you are dating a single dad, do you plan to celebrate Father’s day with him? Do you show him that you admire him for being a wonderful father?

I am going to a family dinner with my guy and I’ll be giving him a nice card and a gift for Fathers Day. I tell him all the time how I love the way he interacts with his children and especially when he spends time with his daughters. He took his youngest daughter out on a date earlier this week and I expressed to him how much I adored that.

Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)

June 19th, 2009
9:57 am

Morning All & TGIF!

Page1908 – I am good chica! Had a blast with everyone, it was good to see ya’ll.

I must say I love my dad dearly and there is so much that dad taught me and is still teaching me. Dad taught me about the importance of family (my siblings and I were to ALWAYS look out for each other no matter what), NEVER quit (give it 100% everytime or not at all), dont be afraid to speak up for yourself, pride in being an African American, support (my dad was at EVERY ONE of my high school football games since I was in the band), enjoy life (have fun, you only get to do this once), etc the list goes on. One thing though that my dad always assured us of was that in life things happen, learn from them. Even when I divorced, my dad took me out to dinner and asked me ‘what did you take from this?’ He was never afraid to give it to us straight and always made sure that we could go to him about anything.

Oh and before I forget, my dad also made it a point to have time with each of his children individually, even now. He and I may catch a Falcons game, he & my brother go out for breakfast when we visit my brother and he and my sister may have porch time (chillin on the porch while Dad is cooking). When we were smaller he took a road trip with each of us individually. Gosh I love that……

Page1908

June 19th, 2009
9:57 am

For Real, did you like that tennis skirt Mo had on last night? She told me she wore it just for you. lol *wink*

Cemeeli

June 19th, 2009
9:57 am

Tazzee – I ran into a lady (team mom from my lil cee’s baseball team) at the store that said her and her in-laws (all the women) are taking the men bowling tonight, and then Sunday they are all meeting at one in-law’s home to prepare all the favorites for the hushands. And presenting gifts during dinner.

I thought is was a great idea. I think family dinners are so much fun.

-W8©

June 19th, 2009
9:58 am

@Leggs- when the old school song came on, I remembered seeing your pics of you dancing and i had to break out the two step..lol

@Page- it was hot as hell I had to go..and for the record your inner hood came out when your food was not right

@For Real/Demi- Nice to meet some real men…also I know how to beat the both of ya in pool…just have a bunch of good looking women walk by..

@For Real- Looking forward to hanging with ya

@Demi- “hey W8 I could tell something was wrong with you by the way you were posting this week”..lol yeah man I went to the doctor this morning for some test I am drug free now..lol

@Mo/CDB- Whet it is???

@SexyCool- Turn down your cool

@Staceye- You are going to stop fooling everyone here with that anti- relationship crap we all saw you with the dude with the dreads..who came right in the middle of the group for you..I was wondering what he was doing after walking by us about 10 times

@The Random White Girl- Who were you and why did you want to take a picture with me? I thought that was your camera Page

@Lioness- Nice to see yo and live to tell about it..lol

@All of yall, yall are some alcoholics, I was the only one who didnt drink..shame shame shame

SexyCool - Can you feel me feeling it?

June 19th, 2009
10:00 am

-w8 – Head nod to ya’.

Demi – Bwoi, don’t be walking up to folks just putting your ’stuff’ in their hands. Everybody don’t know what to do with it. lol.

For Real – That whole Big Daddy Kane laid back, smoothed out vibe you got going on is the shiznit. (I’ma get wit you and we gone get PAID!!!)

Lioness – Acting all elitist and spoiled and s#!t. LOL!

Staceye – Didn’t even see the mack coming.

Mo – We are >>>>HERE<<<<!!!

Page – The papparazzi

Leggs – You are my ambassador………of quan!!!

As for me – them two martinis had me feeling rather mellow and sexy about my s#!t. (gnr)

Raqi

June 19th, 2009
10:00 am

I love my dad. I didn’t always like him because as with any growing child he did not let me do everything I thought I was big enough to do. And for that I love him. As kids we really don’t get it and we few authority figures, mainly parents, as the enemy when they are really doing what is in our best interest. My dad was disappointed that I turned down going to college to get married instead. He was angry with me for getting involved with my second son’s father. But he never turned his back on me. He has helped me out in many ways that even my family doesn’t even know. He has made me learn lessons the hard way but he also has come to my rescue.

Seeing my dad as I was growing up created a mental foundation in my mind as to what to look for in what I consider to be a good man. My dad was a good provider, even when he didn’t give us any and every thing we wanted. He treated my mom good and the way she treated him taught me a lot. He worked. He brought his money home. He paid the bills. He interacted with us. He took us on family vacations. He took my mom on vacations. When something went wrong in the house or with us he dealt with it. He lives believing that it all points back to the man of the house. I love my father.

The thing about growing up in whatever household environment you do not realize the impact of what you are witnessing will have on you as an adult. You don’t sit back and take notes saying “imma treat my spouse and kids this way” but what you see and hear molds your expectations and notions and tend to play out in your relationships as an adult. And my parents never just out and said “you are going to need to know XYZ when you get into relationships”, they just lived it. They taught about life in general but the first either of my parents singled out a particular male-to-female issue (other than sex) was when I was getting ready to marry my first husband.

Spoiled Lioness- Loving Life!

June 19th, 2009
10:02 am

Good Morning All :)

Sassy- Interesting Story!

Spoiled Lioness- Loving Life!

June 19th, 2009
10:03 am

Hey FOR REAL.. YOU ARE A LUCKY MOFO THAT I DIDN’T BIYATCH SLAP YOU FOR TOUCHING MY TAIL :evil:

Page1908

June 19th, 2009
10:05 am

LOL W8- My inner hood came out when my fish and chips wasn’t right lol. The white girl I have no idea who she was lol. She just came up to me and was like “wanna take some pictures, I have a camera let me show you…it even has a case” lol.

LOL @ Staceye’s dread loc dude. W8, I told you to rescue her and I knew I wasn’t gonna do it because I have already witnessed a dude tell Staceye she was mean, so I wasn’t gonna touch that lol.

Leggs- did you drop it down low on W8? LOL don’t lie, the pics are in my camera lol.

AmazonRed™

June 19th, 2009
10:06 am

The thing about growing up in whatever household environment you do not realize the impact of what you are witnessing will have on you as an adult. You don’t sit back and take notes saying “imma treat my spouse and kids this way” but what you see and hear molds your expectations and notions and tend to play out in your relationships as an adult. And my parents never just out and said “you are going to need to know XYZ when you get into relationships”, they just lived it.

*nodding head*

Page1908

June 19th, 2009
10:07 am

Lioness, what? For Real touched your tail? I didn’t notice that lol. At least you didn’t get your boobs grabbed like I did lol.

SexyCool- yes, I am the queen of taking pics and blackmailing people lol.

Spoiled Lioness- Loving Life!

June 19th, 2009
10:08 am

Cee- :evil: Why didn’t you come out last night?????? You were supposed to!

AmazonRed™

June 19th, 2009
10:08 am

She just came up to me and was like “wanna take some pictures, I have a camera let me show you…it even has a case” lol

:lol: Page – You’re on someone’s Facebook page this morning under the guise of “look, I do have black friends!” :lol:

Kym -in honor of Friday will call a cease fire.

June 19th, 2009
10:09 am

What trouble am I going to get into this weekend? Hmmmm..

Page1908

June 19th, 2009
10:11 am

LOL ARed, exactly. It’s funny because my bff in San Diego is white. I *heart* white friends lol. I’m glad W8 didn’t clown me on my voice last night…lol he should be used to it by now. I know Staceye and Leggs are lmao. They don’t even notice it anymore lol.

SexyCool, omg For Real does look like Big Daddy Kane!! lmao I just realized that lol.

Cemeeli

June 19th, 2009
10:11 am

…i’m a lil upset i didn’t come out and hang with ya’ll folks.

Leggs and Demi dancing is where i would have been. Sandwhich.

-W8©(Spaceships don't come equipped with review mirrors)

June 19th, 2009
10:12 am

@Stiff- What’s up and thanks..um who are you?..lol..Rell?

@Page- read my 941..lol..just this mans POV I didn’t even realize I made my own Kimmie/Jam post

@Kimmie- Where’s my Dawg at?

@Ce- How much do I owe you for my long post?lol

My Fathers’s Day Schedule

Early a.m. I am being taken to breakfast..then I go pick up my daughter..we go to Church them brunch..she goes back home(lil man is doing something with his mom so they are going to join us at Church)..going to the game with For Real..then gonig to check out my lil sisters performance

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria... :-)

June 19th, 2009
10:12 am

AmRed No problem. When my parents were still married my mother told me “You see how your father is….never let a man treay you like that..you have to be self sufficient and independent”. And that was trye b/c he didn’t do for her so she did for herself instilled independence in my other 3 siblings as well. That’s part of where my strength and resolve comes from…my mom. Later she said she styed b/c she wanted us to have a father b/c hers was not in the picture….we shared with her that maybe we would’ve been better off had she left waay before she did but that’s okay ’cause now she is re-married and is very happy. We had to move on for our own happiness’ sake.

Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)

June 19th, 2009
10:13 am

Page1908 – you know my tennis skirt was off da chain!! LOL! Did we tell that guy thanks for getting our drinks?? I hope so!

W8 – ain nettin shawty, jes chillin folk

SexyCool – gotcha chica, all day!

For Real/Demi – ya’ll are good peoples, all day!

Staceye – you with ya NY Self!! My girl….

Leggs – Ms Diva, loved those shoes chica

Lioness – nice to meet you chica

As for the random white girl – I thought ya’ll knew her!!

Leggs – imma