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Love them like my own

NFL player Tom Brady has a child from a previous relationship with actress Bridget Moynahan. When Brady dated his then girlfriend Giselle Bundchen, I remember reading a comment from Bundchen about Brady’s son:

“I understand that he has a mom, and I respect that, but to me it’s not like because somebody else delivered him, that’s not my child. I feel it is, 100 percent. I want him to have a great relationship with his mom, because that’s important, but I love him the same way as if he were mine.”

Now I thought it was a noble and endearing perspective to take, but after talking to a couple of real parents, it seemed to strike a nerve. If you have children, wouldn’t you want the person your ex is dating (seriously) to care for your child as if they were your own?

Have you ever dated someone with children and became close to their children? Did it cause a problem with their parent because you were too close?

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who treated your children like their own? Isn’t that a little litmus test to see if the person is compatible to you and your kids, since you are a package deal?

Is there a line that one should not cross when it comes to dealing with someone who has children in terms of parenting them? What would you say are the boundaries? Do you set those ground rules with your significant other and their children?

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Alvin

June 18th, 2009
9:07 am

get too close t the child…relationship end…the woman , is an adult…understands fully…what’s going on…but the child…my God…my God…becomes attache to that person….like no other…tell that child you and the mother are no longer together…the pain in the childs eyes will cut you like no other…they spend a long time thinking they were the reason for the break up…

There is a lot of drama involves if you’re trying to be a respectable parent and be involve in the child’s life. you and the mother try to maintain a nonsexual friendship and keep conversations focus on the the child, which is a good look for the child…bad for any new dude that shows you on the scene. most men are jealous by nature’ will immediately think your intentions is to get back with the chlid’s mother. on top of that, you’ve been with the child since birth…that child want his father and being that most kid are selfish by nature…isn’t looking for another father, he already has one. new dude has very little chance of making an impresion on the child.

can you imagine how dude I feeling loss…not lookig at the big picture…lil dude has a good father figure and provider for the child…it makes his life easy…nah, dude gotta act like a bish igga and run complain.

for my men folks…before getting involve with a woman with kids, ask yourself…are you here for the long haul or just a booty call….and play your role accordingly.

single moms…I walk down that road before….being a single parent aint easy…on of the hardest jobs in the world…no matter how much money you got in the bank…the sacrifices yall make aren’t always easy….but it is important you make wise decisions concern your children and dating….what you do will affect them for life…

amen to yall mother who doing the dayum thing…

(this post aint got ish to do with the topic…on marta thinking…see a lot of aimless moms on this bish.)

Kym

June 18th, 2009
9:09 am

Wisey,

Since I know this is going to be a hot topic for all those who “I don’t date people with kids” let me start the party off.

Attention: You are dating me not my child. Ladies and Gentleman with children when you go out on a date. The woman/man is dating you and not your child. Your first dates(3-4 maybe 5 ) should not include dragging little Rollo or Tanizna along cause you are a “package deal”. Matter of fact Wisey I found that whole phrase offensive. I am a parent..but when I am dating I am a single person with a child who is dating. Other than scheduling I am no different than any other single person dating.

That line you are speaking of does not cross until those who are dating become more than a notion to each other and they wish to commit to something more serious like marriage(insert shudder here) or a long term thang. If are dating the person there will be plenty of opportunities to see if that person has parenting potential without subjecting your child to the madness of meeting mom or daddy’s new friend.

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
9:12 am

Alvin- You are a VERY SPECIAL PERSON!! Hope you find someone that will appreciate all of you! :mrgreen:

Deeva4Life

June 18th, 2009
9:16 am

Good Morning…great topic Wise Diva

This entry is the reason I’m usually leery of dating guys with children…I recognize the odds of meeting a man without any is often times slim, but these type situations often put a huge damper on things. I love children and when dating someone with children it’s easy for me to become attached to the child/children. I try to make them comfortable around me which creates a better overall atmosphere. However, I’ve never tried to overstep any boundaries by “trying to be” their mom…they have a mother.

Now I’m not a mother, so I can say what I would or would not do…however, I would hope if I had a child and me and the father didn’t work out that whomever he had in his life would treat my child kindly and lovingly. Her being nice or accommodating to my children won’t change the fact that I’m the mother and when my children are in her presence I would want them to feel loved and safe. I also want them to be respectful to her and in times when they are not, she would have permission to put them in their place. Now physical reprimanding is a little blurry for me…I personally would have a hard time spanking someone else’s child. I have a hard time spanking my own nieces and nephews (don’t get it twisted, I have and I will if the situation calls for it). With that being said, there are times that people make bad judgements on who they introduce and allow their children around…that’s a whole different story for a different post. But if the father has chosen someone who ultimately has my child/children’s best interest at heart, I pray I wouldn’t be ignorant about the situation and causing unnecessary friction for everybody (my kids, myself, their father and her). Too many times I feel these antics or “reservations” have more to do with keeping tabs on the ex than it does about the well fare of the children. And that to me is when it gets real ridiculous. Just my .02

Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity

June 18th, 2009
9:16 am

Awww Alvin..

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
9:21 am

Good Morning All :)

I used to be one of those people who didn’t like to date people with children because of the lack of attention that would be paid to me but I’ve learned to not limit myself to specifics because I could be missing my blessing. The special person in my life has children and whatever he loves, I love harder..

I remember reading that comment Gisele made and I totally feel her because she loves her man THAT much! That is what I got from her comment. Straight up LOVE for her man & whatever comes with him! I give respect where respect is due! I totally agree with Alvin! A person SHOULD NOT introduce their kids to just anyone.. Kids tend to become attached to people very easily and it is not fair to them if they become attached to an individual who means NOTHING to their parent OR if the individual is not in their parents life for the long term.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
9:26 am

Morning everyone,

Not a parent, but I would hope the step parent would love the child as their own. Folks with kids are a package deal and if you can love your spouse unconditionally, you should work to achieve that with their child. Not like he’s going anywhere. Easier said then done, I’m sure tho.

If I date a man with kids, I expect them to be close, which causes a conflict. Biblically your spouse should come first, but when the kid was there before you, and you’re just the girlfriend, I can see where it could be come a competition for time.

Blow Me

June 18th, 2009
9:26 am

Good Morning All..

LIONESS: I completely agree. I could have not said it better. I would rather someone to love my kids like their own as opposed to mistreating them.

But I do feel if you love someone you have to love thier child as well because it’s apart of them and it’s a package deal. I know if I had a child I would want or rather they would have to love me just as well as my child.

If not it’s a NO deal!

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
9:29 am

Good morning. I figured Rell or Alvin would be first to post.

I too remember the comment made by Gisele and understood what she was saying. Co-sign you Lioness = straight up love for her man and all he brings. Now, when dating not everyone will have the privilege of meeting my daughter. There is absolutely no need to introduce her to every person I go out on a date with.

@Alvin, you’re a good man!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
9:32 am

I don’t have any children but have experienced two situations that left a bad taste in my mouth. First let me say that when it comes to children I am old school in that the parent runs the child not vice versa and rude children are a no no. Now in the first situation I dated a single father whose “baby mama” was out of state and it was obvious he needed help but he tried to MAKE ME mother his son and I was in school at the time so that really wasn’t happnin’. To make matters worse he tried to muscle me into moving in with them waay in College Park(they didn’t even deliver pizza at night over there) and I was still living Downtown PLUS dude didn’t have a car so that was an extra hellz naw…the final straw came when he told me that he didn’t want me on the pill anymore and I was like “biotch is you crazy?”. I have Never heard a man say that unless and I felt like he was tryna trap me so I bounced.
Second situation dealt with the ex and his two bad azz kids with ADHD and the baby mama with the i.q. of a brick. He wanted me to discipline the boys but I felt like two things can happen: 1.They would tell their mama and all hell would break loose and 2. They would resent me b/c I aint they mama and I had no right to discipline them. He couldn’t control them and sometimes I wanted to shake them but I just had to remove myself from the situation. I tried to help as best I could but in the end I realized that the situation wouldn’t change and I HAD TO GET OUT so I did. For ME dating a man with children took away from the relationship. Would I do it again?…..I don’t know but I’m not completely closing the door but my first/last two experiences were whack.

abc

June 18th, 2009
9:45 am

If a child is not your own, then that’s that. A step-parent is not a father nor mother. Such surrogacy is important to perform to your utmost, don’t get me wrong; but to say that one treats another person’s child as if they were their own is to not know what having your own child really is.

I don’t fault anyone for so saying, though. It seems to indicate to me that their heart is in the right place, at least. But I have kids of my own, I’ve been a step-child, and I’ve been a step-parent. I know what I’m talking about.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
9:48 am

Hello blog.

I just had a morning of “traffic from hell”….a 20 minute drive to the office, took me 1.5 hour to get in today….really should have just made a U, and went back home…but I am thankful for the job and do not take it for granted. I made it in here.

Wooosaaaaaahhhhh.

I appreciate this read:

no matter how much money you got in the bank…the sacrifices yall make aren’t always easy….but it is important you make wise decisions concern your children and dating….what you do will affect them for life

Thanks Alvin! You have ministered to what I need this morning…

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
9:49 am

Abc- Wouldn’t you like if the man that your child/children’s mom gets with next(if you are not with her currently) takes your children in as if they were his own? I would prefer to have an individual say that then say, I not really into kids but they are OK.. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with my kids being with that individual..

Sassy- Just learn from those experiences and use EXTREME caution when dating men with children. Don’t shut ALL men out because they have kids cause not everyone has parenting issues :)

SexyCool - Like tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
9:52 am

With Coach’s youngest son, I was a fully participating part-time parent. Homework, bath times, trips to Chuck E. Cheese and Storytime at Barnes and Noble, driving him to school in the morning, teaching him the alphabet, reminding him that he goes to school to “get an education”.

After I ended the relationship, Coach attempted to keep me tied into his life by involving the child. I decided that it was in the child’s and my best interest to allow that bond to fade. I no longer wanted to be the hand that rocks the cradle. Besides, at six years old, he didn’t need to be party to the confusion of our failed adult relationship.

I emailed his mother and thanked her for sharing him and to give him all of my best love. I let her know that if ever there were anything that I could do for that child, I am only a phone call away, but that I would leave it to the judgement of her and his father as to what if any involvement. I didn’t receive a response to that email and I have not heard from them since and I am okay with that.

Do I miss this child? Sometimes, I do. But most often, I am glad for the experience and just take it for what it was, a part of the life that I was living at the time. Like everything I do, I put a 100% effort into being a part time parent and I was d@mned good too (lol). But that was then….

Three Words Daily – Enjoy life’s journey.

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
9:53 am

@Sassy “(they didn’t even deliver pizza at night over there)”…cute! Yes, both of your situations reaped with controlling YOU. Especially the first one!

abc

June 18th, 2009
9:55 am

No. They’re not his own. They’re MY own. Now, my kids are grown, but projecting back, if they had had a stepfather, he would have had a job to do or answer to me, but he’d never be their father. That’s MY job.

If a father doesn’t do his job, then the surrogate (i.e. stepfather) does the best he can, but he’ll never be the father. Trying to be so will simply cause friction. The child won’t accept it.

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
9:56 am

abc- You are the type of parent that Wise is referring to.. Got you ;)

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
10:01 am

I emailed his mother and thanked her for sharing him and to give him all of my best love. I let her know that if ever there were anything that I could do for that child, I am only a phone call away.

This one got to my heart, SexyCool.

I’ve never been to make a decision to an ex that had bonded with my child and after the breakup figure out whether or not my child or I should keep the relationship going. Wow! Now that i think about it that would be a really hard decision.

You willingness to still be there for the kid is selflessness at it finest.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
10:02 am

Correction: I’ve never had to make a decision of an ex that had bonded with my child…

Melo

June 18th, 2009
10:12 am

Daaaaan SexyCool,that was tight!

Ull be a good mum,i can see that!

Good morning crazy bunch!!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
10:17 am

I used to not date women without kids, because of an incident that happened with a woman who did not have kids. She stated that she wanted me to love her like I loved my daughter. I told her no matter what my daughter does I would love her unconditionally and that my love for her as a girlfriend had some conditions. Anyway I ended that relationship because she gave me grief about spending time with my child, So I started dating women with children because they understood the commitment of being a parent better..then I realized that there are some women without kids who understand also. For me my kids are the most important thing in this world until I have a wife, then she becomes first and foremost. I said a wife not a girlfriend. I recently met a girl who said that she just wanted to be my kid’s friend and “good times” partner..I told her she and I could not be, because I needed someone who would help me raise my kids as their own. Now my ex knows how I am about my kids and they know that I am not having anyone around them before due time and trust the decisions I make regarding my son and daughter. I have to admit my last serious girlfriend stepped up to the plate bigtime helping me with my newborn son. I would have been lost if that woman was not in my life at that moment, I did not know what I was doing with an infant and she stepped in and helped big time, hell she spent more time with my daughter than I did(I was jealous..lol the weekend I had my daughter they would hit me up for my credit card and be gone for the weekend..lol..but I was glad that they had a great relationship..even though the girl and I have no conversation she and my daughter still hang out and kick it) she had a young son also of which I grew extremely close to. I miss him dearly, he was in the 3 year old range and he and I used to do everything together..I used to actually miss him when he went to visitation with his father.

Long story short, if you can’t get with my kids and be a positive influence in their lives you can’t get with me…It’s a package deal. People ask if I want more kids, I tell them it’s up to whomever I marry if she wants them I want them if she doesn’t I am fine with that also. I dated a woman who once was adamant about meeting my daughter’s mother because she thought it would be better if my ex wife knew who was around my child…lol..I told her it was a bad idea but he called her on her own. My ex proceeded to tell her :”Why are you calling me?” “W8 loves his daughter to death and I am not worried about her at all when she is with him, I don’t need to know you or have any sort of relationship with you, he makes sure his daughter is well taken care of, so unless W8 has been killed or seriously injured and I need to come pick up my daughter don’t call me ever again” lol

SexyCool - Like a tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
10:20 am

The leftover effect from being a part of a toddler’s life – I like Disney television way too much, The Penguins of Madagascar is almost Must See TV and I’ve got a boatload of Chuck E. Cheese tokens.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
10:20 am

Good morning Melo.

MR. Unknown

June 18th, 2009
10:25 am

Good topic,, Im not a parent,, Im currently or I guess as recent as yesterday formely dating a woman with child… Me and ol girl have been dating off and on for the past three years. Due to business, getting back into school, we just haven’t had time in the past… But we were giving it another go and she is a now a mother of a new 1ish child…

I don’t know how to feel around the child, because her prev relationship ended badly, buddy hasn’t seen his kid.. blah blah.. and Im not going to step into it as if im the savior.. I really value the friendship, and regardless i will be in the childs life… but do ya’ll think i push the ejection button to early.. and remember I used the classic I value our friendship line yesterday,,, and she hasn’t spoken to me since…

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
10:25 am

Whoa I didn’t know I was typing a long Jamoca/Kimme post..sorry :(

Melo

June 18th, 2009
10:30 am

Morning Cee! What up Big EGO!
I was caught up in traffic too on Rockbridge whilst taking my son and dghter to camp.
Had to do a 360 degree and was at wrk much later!
Looks like the traffic gods were hovering over the A this morning!!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
10:30 am

@Mr Unknown- based off your post you need to keep it moving and leave her alone. Do you know why the father hasn’t seen his child? Anyway doesn’t sound like you have a desire to play the role that is required in dating her as a single parent

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
10:31 am

I think this is the crux of the dilemma: Now I thought it was a noble and endearing perspective to take, but after talking to a couple of real parents, it seemed to strike a nerve. If you have children, WOULDN’T YOU WANT the person your ex is dating (seriously) to care for your child as if they were YOUR own?

This concerns me and I always feel uncomfortable inquiring about or having contact with a guy’s kids because of it. Some women just love their kids and are offended on GP when another woman seeems to be insinuating herself. But sadly, I there are those who thought a baby would keep him or use the child as a bargaining chip and they’re probably the worst. The last thing they want is another woman who probably has more sense than them taking too much of an interest in their pawn…I mean pride & joy.

My girl bought her dude’s kids like 3 outfits each for Christmas- wrong move! The kids were grilled and BOTH baby-mamas wanted them not to visit with her anymore b/c they didn’t want to keep hearing her name. So eventhough she was just being generous, it came across as threatening the hold they seem to want to keep on him.

SexyCool - Like a tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
10:32 am

Mr. Unknown – wth? You’ve been dating off and on for THREE years, but she has a new ONE year old? Did I read that right?

From the way you read, it sounds like you don’t know what it is that you want from the relationship anyway and that all you ever were was ‘FWB’.

And hell, it’s only been since yesterday, what were you expecting her response to be? Or was the ‘valuing the friendship line’ some sort of ultimatum?

More info, please.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
10:33 am

W8 – You and SexyCool’s comments are really what’s up….

And, from one single parent to another single parent, thanks for keeping it real. With my left handed writing self, I am signing your 10:17 with my sterling silver felt tip pen.

And my man, one comment to that lady…You know when I saw this:

she wanted me to love her like I loved my daughter.
I called her a silly broad….Sorry, I did. :???:

Willie Dynamite

June 18th, 2009
10:36 am

Morning All,

This topic really needs to be addressed in depth when out dating. Whether you are the single parent or the suitor. Like Alvin (BTW that was some real Grown Man ish, pound to you) says you have to fully understand the situation you are getting yourself into. The child is an innocent bystander in whatever your intentions are. Some young adults are really not redy mentally to move into a situation like that.

@SCool- That was real stand-up. Win lose or draw you can always be on my Life Team.

@ABC – I tend to agree with you. The love for a child may not always be transparent. When you have your own kids you understand the depth of that love and whether intentional or not the Step Parent can not reach those depths for the most part. Thats just how it is.

Melo

June 18th, 2009
10:38 am

and she is a now a mother of a new 1ish child……….and regardless i will be in the childs life hmmmmm,didnt realise u and her are tied tgether like a joint of weed(the jamaican herb leaves and their wrapper! :lol:

What u talking about stranger?? Why dont u bring ur drama later on this afternoon after everyboidy has had their cup of coffee.

Goodness!! :lol:

SexyCool - Like a tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
10:38 am

MyTwo – sounds like your girl was dealing with some immature and/or insecure mothers.

I will say this though – each situation has to be judged on its own merit. The way that I was with Coach’s child may not be that way in my next serious situation should it involve children.

I don’t own the rose colored glasses that allow me to think that the next situation will involve parent meetings where we all decide schedules, private schools and after school activities.

Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity

June 18th, 2009
10:42 am

SexyCool the value our friendship line means..I enjoy screwing you but we are not getting much farther up the road than that. Dude needs to push the hell on.

Grace

June 18th, 2009
10:43 am

Have you ever dated someone with children and became close to their children? NO, when I’m dating I NEVER bring my kids in the equation until it evolves into a healthy two way relationship. He would be aware that I’m a single parent upon initial meeting, and be fully aware taht there are no “drama” surrounding it if and when we go from dating to a full blown relationship. some people will try to buy the kid(s) with presents, and such thinking if they can win the child(ren) over and the person they are dating/relationship with sees it that can bump them up on the richter scale, and they’ll be in the house.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
10:43 am

Months ago, this dude sent me a crazy text asking me to follow a certain script if his child’s mother were to text me :???: Included was acknoledging her as the mother of his child, yaka, yaka, yaka.

Why would she have my # to text me?
Why would she need validation from an unknown?
WTH was he smoking to think I’d go along with this?
WTF do I look like explaining myself to anyone when I’m grown?

Grace

June 18th, 2009
10:51 am

LOL mytwo that’s some crazy mess….

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
10:55 am

Now my daughter tells me “Dad, you need a girlfriend you are a good guy, you are just to mean at times and you should not always say what you think, atleast have some tact about what you say”…lmao I am like why is my daughter giving me dating advice..but ummm she is right..lol

Now to her mother’s boyfriend when she met him:”Don’t try and do anything special for me, don’t buy me anything, don’t call me any nicknames and don’t try and get close to me, I have a daddy and you are not him so don’t try to be”..lol

Her mother called me and was like will you tell your daughter to lighten up on my boyfriend she gives him a hardtime all of the time. I told her I didn’t have anything to do with that but I will talk to her. So I told her “Scoot, mommy is entitled to be happy with her new man so you need to ease up a bit and let them enjoy each other” She says,”Dad how was he supposed to be your friend but then start dating mommy while yall are going thru the divorce, that is not right she needs to find another boyfriend”…Me:”Babygirl, they started dating before the divorce but daddy’s at fault with that also, sometimes you have to let things go”..Her:”Well I just won’t talk to him ever” Me:(just shakes my head)..lol

Melo

June 18th, 2009
10:58 am

Dad how was he supposed to be your friend but then start dating mommy while yall are going thru the divorce, that is not right she needs to find another boyfriend”

W8, and u were telling ur daughter that grown up mum/dad mess,why?? Coz ur were pissed at her??
That wasnt fair still, i think.
Hw old is ur dghter?

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
10:59 am

On my 10:55 we were legally spit for two years before the divorce and the both of us were doing our own thing. It was shocking but not suprising or maybe i just didnt care..lol

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
11:02 am

@W8- How old is your daughter?

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
11:02 am

This is a very touchy situation with me because I am very active in my Son’s life.. I only think a child has one mother and one father everything else is extra. The extras should always yeild to the parents of said child to keep drama down.. Now if dude or mama is not doing what they are supposed to do then ok step in and fill that void but you had better tread lightly when it comes to a child that is being raised by their biological. See women dont have to worry about this because ya’ll usually get custody and then some dude tries to step in and do what he can to impress ya’ll which includes acting like a surrogate father. I have said it time and time again if any man every disrespects me or my child I will be on the news..

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
11:03 am

lol…HUSH Melo!

Dang that’s funny.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
11:04 am

and I was like “biotch is you crazy?”.

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

M'

June 18th, 2009
11:05 am

I believe that if you are going to get involved with someone who has offspring, then there has to be some measure of awareness for the child(ren) best interest…and if that is not something that a person wants to consider, then do not become involved with the person.

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
11:05 am

LOL @ Dos Centavos.

I don’t mind dating men with kids, however, it seems that the men I come across with kids, don’t typically date women without kids, similar to what W8 mentioned earlier.

I used to work in Child Welfare and I also spent a few years as a preschool teacher, so I absolutely adore kids, especially littles ones lol. But, my career was always a problem because I would get dudes asking me “hey what can I do with my son who is acting out in preschool, or my daughter’s teacher said she doesn’t socialize with the other kids, what should I do”? I would be like OMG, I am not on the clock lol. Then, when I was a social worker for child protective services, I would get “hey, my friend’s son said his dad leaves him at home alone all the time, can you go over there and see what’s going on”? Or, hey, my baby’s mom is accusing me of things and now I have to appear in juvenile court…what should I do, you know a bunch of attorneys and judges”. I’m like OMG, I am not on the clock! *sigh*

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
11:06 am

@Melo- My daughter will be 16 in a few months an we all went to the same Church and worked in the same ministry so it was no secret that he and I were friends the whole Church new it. I understand what you are saying but I never lie to my daughter and she made that observation on her own.(plus later own I found out my dughter used to sneak and read my ex wifes diary so she knew what was going on before I did..lol) Never been pissed with my ex, if I still had active feelings I probably would have been but nope..My role is Daddy to my child and thats what I do. Nobody can tell me anything about raising her at all except my ex and I must pat us both on the back..My daughter is not “fast” nor is she “green” she is not perfect but she is not a wyld child and the realness we give to her allows her to talk to us about anything under the sun..Whether it be about God, school , music, masterbation, her crushes on boys, even to why she gets picked on for still being a virgin..I always keep it real and straight forward with her

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
11:10 am

ALVIN/SEXYC Y’all were bout the business of acting in the best interest of the chirren and that’s admirable. Eventhough it hurts, you’ve gotta know when to remove yourself from the situation for your mental stability as well.

Crazy mess, indeed, GRACE. Let’s tune in to one of our convos:

.02 – How old is your daughter?
Dude- Three months
(.02 starts calculating and carries the 1)
.02 – Soooo she was like 6 months preggers when we met?
Dude- I guess
.02 – Soooo when did you break up?
Dude- We didn’t.
.02 – HUH!?!
Dude- We were never together.
(.02 now has a revelation)
.02 Soooo you like to raw dawg chicks you don’t even wanna be with?
(Dude allows phone line to crackle, praying .02 won’t realize he hopes she’s that stupid too.)

This is my life… as a covergirl…

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
11:11 am

What up Blog Fam!

My kids come first in my life period. I think some people do not place the proper value on their kids. If you ain’t willing to give that chick or ole boy access to your bank accounts then don’t give them access to your kids. I think we need to make a distinction here:

1. Dating = You don’t get to meet or see my kids even if you introduce them to me. My kids and I are not a package

2. Girlfriend = You MAY/MIGHT/POSSIBILY/PERHAPS see my kids but you will have no interaction with them. My kids and I are not a package

3. Wife = Full Monty – My kids and I ARE a package.

If my kids mom decided to remarry I would require a meeting with dude to express the importance of my kids to me. Based on that conversation we can move forward. However, ANYBODY that is in possesion of my kids better know to take care of them as if they were they own because I JUST AIN’T GON UNDERSTAND and that goes for my kids mother too!!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
11:13 am

I was listening to Micheal Baisden one day and he actually said that when he gets with a woman that has kids the Dad has to understand that he needs to back off.. I was like are you serious?

I figured out though with me being in my Son’s life it weeds out a lot of pretenders cause for the most part I’m sure his mom tells them that he aint going no where.. He is the coach of his baseball team, stays at home when he is sick, buys all clothing, pays for private school, is at every Dr’s appt and still pays child support on top of it all..

Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)

June 18th, 2009
11:17 am

Morning All! Okay since I am a newbie to this I will lurk for the most part. I am jumping back into dating after a divorce and having a kid. I will admit to saying right off I wouldnt date a man without kids though. Now my ex had a girlfriend and I only met her once, I was just glad he had a girlfriend! At this point, right now, I cant say I would feel threatened by another woman caring for my kid. If she’s going to be in Dad’s life then that is whats expected right?

Alvin – you are a good dude man

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
11:17 am

@DK- Amen to your 11:13

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
11:17 am

Man its that little stuff too that kills me.. He was at the house last night and I had to teach him the pee hole goes to the front thats how you know youre drawls aint on backwards.. See ladies ya’ll cant hand a lil dude that kinda a jewel cause ya’ll dont have pee holes.. It takes two parents to raise a child..

SexyCool - Like a tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
11:19 am

Question – If you are dating with the intent to marry, how can you expect that your intended would have NO interaction with your kids?

For me, if I were dating someone with kids, I would expect there to be SOME real contact at some point so that I can determine if I fit into your total picture. You know, I, too, have a decision to make. I would like an opportunity to find out if I LIKE your kid(s) and/or if THEY like me and if there is no reciprocated affection, can we at least get along? Shouldn’t that come into play before a decision as major as marriage is made?

I’m not trying to come in and replace a parent/buy affection/be a friend/or whatever. I just want to get a real picture of what I would be dealing with before it gets to THAT point.

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
11:19 am

Grown Man pound to Alvin

Grown Nasty Man hug to Scool

Yall some standup folks

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
11:20 am

There are a lot of women I have heard make comments like “my child don’t need a man. I am his mother AND his father”. I would like to know what some of the single fathers and mothers feel about that statement.

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
11:22 am

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs on God’s green earth. To deal with divorce, dating again, step parents (if it gets to that point) is all surreal to a child. The only important thing is the safety and happiness of the child. And, that both parents remain in the child’s life riding the “positive” train. No negative talk about the other in front of the child. I do not believe in that. Using the child as a bargining chip reeks nothing short of “bad parenting.” @W8, I wholeheartedly agree with you :arrow: “Nobody can tell me anything about raising her at all except my ex and I must pat us both on the back..My daughter is not “fast” nor is she “green” she is not perfect but she is not a wyld child and the realness we give to her allows her to talk to us about anything under the sun.” ^5!!

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
11:24 am

^5 because you certainly could be talking about my daughter!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
11:24 am

LOL- Old boy called me about two years ago asking why I bought my ex wife new tires for her car, I told him don’t feel threatened. I had been noticing that her tires were worn out everytime that we met at the spot for me to pick up my daughter and I would constantly ask her about them..so on this particular day I saw that they were bald..I got on her for having my daughter ride in an unsafe car. She said she was having money issues and had lost her job, I didnt even know that. So she followed me and my current girlfriend (who was in the car with me) to NTB and I just paid for her some new tires..told him it had nothing to do with her but with my childs safety…He then proceeded to tell me that my ex was throwing it all in his face that he should have been the one taking care of her car and not me..I just laughed and was like hey patna she is your problem not mine…lol

Grace

June 18th, 2009
11:26 am

We were never together – I’m willing to bet the mother is saying something totally different mytwo

W8 you’ve got your house in order. Your daughter proves that you can’t fool kids they are much smarter than we give them credit for.

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
11:27 am

Scool: “For me, if I were dating someone with kids, I would expect there to be SOME real contact at some point so that I can determine if I fit into your total picture.” – My kids are first in my life. I understand that it’s your choice too but if I ain’t planning on moving you to the number 1 spot, then their is no point in you meeting them. You and I can test the waters all we want but when it comes to my kids you will have to jump in head first.

abc/WillieD: I feel yall on the point having child of own and loving a child is different. My nephew was the first grand baby and I love that joker like nobodies business until my first son came along.

Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity

June 18th, 2009
11:29 am

@For Real..I like your breakdown. I have guys who I have dated on and off for 10 plus years who have only seen my son in pictures. My son knows I date, has seen me leave to go out, but as for meeting everyone I date or have dated. Nawww that is not happening. Meeting my kid ranks up there with getting a audience with the Pope..there has to be something major going on.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
11:29 am

Infamous – Some moms are forced to show theri sons what to do about his “pee whole”, musty arm, balls, jock itch, etc. So don’t put the :jewel” on one gender parent.

And I totally agree, that it takes a man to raise a man (two parents, indeed). But don’t forget some of you<–(connotative), where raised with mom dukes playing both roles.

@ 11:13 Good to see you are activley involved in your kid’s life.

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
11:30 am

Sassy – Its hard for people without children to properly understand the child dynamic.. My child has given me the patience of Job and a clear understanding of what a child is.. A boy especially is a bundle of energy, a neverending questioning machine because everything is new to them.. I try and just put myself in his shoes and let him be free to enjoy his childhood but rest assured that when he gets wrong daddy doesnt spare the rod. Inquisitive Minds..

Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season

June 18th, 2009
11:30 am

Morning Folks!

Alvin – your first comment really set the mood for today’s discussion. Thanks for sharing.

I wish I had time to REALLY respond because my guy has kids and I’m trying to wrap my mind around being involved with them on a greater level. I’ve met all 4 but only spent any real time with his youngest.

I’ll be reading and taking notes throughout the day.

Melo

June 18th, 2009
11:32 am

would like to know what some of the single fathers and mothers feel about that statement.

the mums are confused,proly have a lot of hate targeted at men based on their previous ex relationship(s) and they are obviously leading their kids down a slippery slope.
The female kids will proly become the future men mean muggers and azz biattches whilst the sons become the perpetual male hoes,dogging females like nobody’s bizz.

NY2GA, Inc.

June 18th, 2009
11:32 am

Interesting convo. Thanks for the insight, But, I’ll be honest-the more I read this, the more I am shying away from dealing with a man with children.

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
11:32 am

Page: “I am his mother AND his father” – Only woman spout that nonsense. You will never hear a man say that especially if he has a daughter. That goes back to this new day woman and their Superhero complex. Funny how those same women that say that say “Wellll his daddy was never around and I just did the best I could” when lil JohnDavis is being locked up.

SexyCool - Like a tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
11:32 am

First of all, if I’m in your number one spot, that implies that there is a number two, three, four or however many more. (LOL)

Secondly, it’s not logical to ME to seriously considering marrying someone with kids who I have NO interaction with. Surely, SOME sort of interaction on SOME level is warranted when you get to the point of seriousness in a relationship.

Naw, casually dating, your kid(s) shouldn’t even know my name. A few levels past that, you keeping your kids away from me – I would see that as unseemly.

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
11:33 am

I say it all the time.. My son is the best thing that has ever happened to me because I didnt know unconditional love but I do now. From the moment I held him I knew I would do everything in my power to make sure he was ok. I’ve never felt like I would give my life for anything willingly except my Mom and I’m ex military but now my son. I would give every organ in my body just so he can experience life.

Grace

June 18th, 2009
11:35 am

Meeting my kid ranks up there with getting a audience with the Pope – Kym I’m with you on that!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
11:35 am

@Grace- Kids are way smart and very observant

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
11:37 am

Cemeeli- Yeah but I wasnt my parents have been together for 40+ and my Grandparents were together for 60+ years before my Grandfather died.. So I understand a Father being there for his son. Its important..

And you have to tell him about the pee hole. I can show him.. :-)

Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)

June 18th, 2009
11:39 am

Page1908 – I dont see how any parent would that they as one parent are all the child needs. You can be the only provider, if the other parent is non-active but you arent all that they need, you just happen to be the active parent. I would never, even if me and ex were on bad terms, say that I am all Lil Mo needs. Lil Mo needs dad and mom doesnt interfere with that.

Infamous – cosigning your 11:33, I would surely rot in h3ll for someone trying to hurt my kid….

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
11:39 am

Cee: “But don’t forget some of you<–(connotative), where raised with mom dukes playing both roles.” – I understand what you are saying but a boy being raised without his daddy is hard as hell on boy. Boys need someone with the ability to check them at all stages of their lives including manhood. Woman just can’t do that. Now the boy will love and respeck their mothers but it’s the thought of disappointing them that hurts the most to boys. Whereas, the thought of your daddy actually killing you because you are not 100% sure he wouldn’t actually do it is another thang.

Kym: That’s why I give my Who In The Hell Does He Think He Is speech face to face on the first date so there will be nooooo consequences and reprocussions.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
11:39 am

ZULU, You can’t really think these types are usually the result of single parents?

The female kids will proly become the future men mean muggers and azz biattches whilst the sons become the perpetual male hoes,dogging females like nobody’s bizz.

I KNOW you know that there are so many other factors. And I wonder too if you’d really want to shield your little girls from some of the grittier truths, when they will likely go elsewhere to quench their curiosity. Give them good information at home or they’ll find misinformation outside of it.

Professor

June 18th, 2009
11:40 am

Good morning!

Great topic WD, I have never really thought about this one until a few weeks ago. When I look back on my serious relationships none of the guys had children so this was never an issue until recently. However I am with Giselle if you love that man or if you are building a relationship with someone you should just naturally fall into place and build a relationship with the child(ren). I love well-behaved, well-mannered children (my first degree was in education), but I know I could not tolerate some disrespectful sassy @ss child cutting up in public embarrassing the he.ll out of me.

Willie Dynamite

June 18th, 2009
11:43 am

@1908 – I know you asked single parents the ? but I’ll chime in. Some mothers are forced to be the Mother AND Father, no disputing that. I would like to hope that single parent does understand that its some things that a Woman CAN’T teach a boy. Its some things that a Man CAN’T teach a girl. Unfortunately it is that simple. You may play both roles whether intentional or not but it will get learned whether from a parent or the streets good or bad.
@Similac – I was raised by a Single Mom and I get what you are saying. As a parent now I understand erything MaDukes went through and sacrificed. She may have raised me but she didn’t teach me how to be a Man or a boy for that matter.

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
11:43 am

Sexy- AMEN to your 11:19 comment!

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
11:44 am

Its hard for people without children to properly understand the child dynamic.. My child has given me the patience of Job and a clear understanding of what a child is.. A boy especially is a bundle of energy, a neverending questioning machine because everything is new to them.. I try and just put myself in his shoes and let him be free to enjoy his childhood but rest assured that when he gets wrong daddy doesnt spare the rod. Inquisitive Minds..

DK I understand what you said and yes children are naturally inquisitive and are balls of energy…..MY PROBLEM was that they truly didn’t know how to act at home or in public……for instance they used to eat with thier hands(at home or a restaurant),were constantly loud and embarrassing(people looked at us like “Do somethin’ with them”), had to always be told to do the same thing a MINIMUM of 3-5 times and always had some kind of backtalk and at times I just couldn’t handle/manage it. I told their dad that he talked too much but that’s as far as it went. I asked myself if that was something I could live with and the answer was always NO. Inquisitive minds are one thing but rude is rude and that I won’t tolerate.

I knew he needed help and tried but he acted as if he din’t have any backbone and at times I felt like I had more balls than he did.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
11:45 am

W8…your lil’ lady got your back for life son! :lol:

LEGGS…”Parenting is one of the hardest jobs on God’s green earth.” Hence the reason I choose not to do it. There is no vacation…you do not get paid, sick days or get to quit. I gotta give it to those who do it. You have to really want it. You have to have patience. I have ZERO…and as the days go by I get less patient…if that is even possible. I can deal with a guy who kid is older….teenager. I can talk to them..bond with them. I love L’il Leggs because she is a good kid and a teenager! But the little kids get on my d*mn nerves. The cuteness wears off quickly. Not to mention when the kids are young…the motther thinks you are trying to take her place. No trick…I don’t have kids for a reason…so why the hell would I want yours? :evil: I can play with them and send them home….if I had my own…I am stuck. No thanks.

I am the ultimate comit-a-phobe..anything that I can’t see getting out of without a battle frightens me. Like now guys are trying to make me a “girlfriend” Hellz no….I am happy by myself. I get irritated when they try to get all lovey dovey and affectionate. I have been told that I am cold. Oh well! :lol:

W8…sounds like your boy’s manhood was threatened because he couldn’t man up and help her out. Lame a$$!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
11:46 am

My son mother and I have already agreed once he gets to the age of smelling himself he comes to live with me..My daughter kinda fell back on her own towards her mother once she started turning into a woman..Point is a plenty of single mothers raising boys into men..props to you..but there are some things done by a father that drives the point home moreso..Heck not saying this in a negative way but look at women who were raised with their father in their life..there is a difference. A woman can stand in the gap and do a damn good job, but at the end of the day she is not the father.

Melo

June 18th, 2009
11:46 am

Dealing with a female or guy with kids is lots of drama most times.In a majority of cases,one of the ex still has feelings for the other,the parting was acrimonious or both and that leads to major issues.
If the arriving new female or male has security issues,thats taking it to another whole level.
To pacify that drama requires a man with a strong hand who really knows how to handle his bizz(much like Truth hardened guy) and does not give a whole lot of phluck about some hurt feeling etc.
Be4 u decide to enter that fray,ask urself if u secure within urself.If u are and dont take a lot of ish nonsense,then go ahead.But if u are a softy,u better of leaving that drama alone coz trust me, u are going to get drama at some point,it be from the blood parent,grandmas,aunties or other relatives on the ex family side.
It happens!
Proceed with caution.

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
11:48 am

Kym-I have guys who I have dated on and off for 10 plus years who have only seen my son in pictures.<– I believe there is a difference from a woman’s stand point because most of the time, the woman Has sole custody.. So, to me, your stance should be a given for all women with kids..

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
11:48 am

LOL Staceye. Remember dude at Lenox said you were mean! LOL

Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season

June 18th, 2009
11:50 am

You and I can test the waters all we want but when it comes to my kids you will have to jump in head first.

I am SO glad my guy didn’t feel this way.

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
11:50 am

W8: I agree with you about not lying to your kids. Tell them the truth all the time and your word is like God to them and can’t nobody and I mean nobody tell them otherwise until they hear it from you. Oh and they know every single aspect of you from your happy face, mad face, I’m getting an ass whomping face, to the clothes and shoes you wear.

Since I don’t want to be married it is perfectly logical to me to keep interaction very minimal but if I wanted to get married I would start the long process of interaction with my kids.

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
11:52 am

Stacy and Sassy I had no patience with children before I had one.. I mean I would break up with you if you had a bad child. Just turn off your oxygen and not talk to you anymore, but now.. Man please I am a Daddy.. Its crazy. I laugh when I pack juices and chips for a park outing.. Its a 180 from where i was. Its super funny.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
11:52 am

PAGE…at Lenox…oh no..you meant at Perimeter the other day? :lol: Wel if I was…he deserved it. :evil:

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
11:54 am

Sassy – Oh I got my son on the eye now.. The same eye my Dad used to give me. That eye that means I told you once and I’m about 3.5 parsecs from being on dat a$$.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
11:55 am

“I am his mother AND his father”

I do not try and play both rolls. That’s some craziness.

I do not have hatred towards my son’s father because he is not as active as he should be. I even go as far to compliment things about his dad, even though his dad still has a lot of owning up to do.

Trust me, that man has a lot of explaining to do to his son, a young man that will one day have a conversation with him that probably will make him question his own manhood. Now that he’s older and pieces it togeher,…the way my son questions his father’s absence now from some stuff, If he goes off and light into him like a grown man now at 10 year old…My response: OH WELL!

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
11:57 am

INFAMOUS…its a bloody production to go anywhere when you have kids. Hell I have enough trouble packing my togo bag….and packing kiddy bags…NOT my thing. I don’t want to have to deal with car seats, getting them dressed, etc. I love the freedom of coming and going when I please…not looking for a sitter. Just making plans that only effect me. If I want to move like a gypsy…I can. If I want to do something at the last minute…I can. And most important…I can spend my money on me. I want those hot shoes….I can do so wihtout thinking if my kid needs shoes or clothes. I am my own child. I LOVE IT! Now why would I want to give up such a great life? :lol:

Grace

June 18th, 2009
11:57 am

Man please I am a Daddy.. Its crazy. I laugh when I pack juices and chips for a park outing – awwwwww that’s so sweet @ DK…btw do you pack juciy juice or the jungle juice?

Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity

June 18th, 2009
11:58 am

@Shandra..I know it is not the norm and I am ok with being the rebel when it comes to my son. I read this book about 12 years ago “Single Mamahood” (I mentioned it on here many moons ago) and of the jewels I took from that book. One was that everyone can not meet your kid. My son went through “his life changes” this year and I called in family. His uncle, my dad, family friends to talk and deal with him. I can’t see me calling in some dude I chat, chew and screw with to give my kid advice. Our relationship is not like that.

Right now he is with his dad’s family for summer because we needed a break from each other. Someone was going to hell and the other to jail..and since I can only take so much heat..it was for the best.

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
12:01 pm

“I am SO glad my guy didn’t feel this way.” – I don’t think you understand my point. My point is your SO did his due diligence on you first or he should have before introducing you to his kids.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
12:02 pm

W8…your lil’ lady got your back for life son!
@SheDevil/Staceye- My daughter has turned on her mother and grandmother for bad mouthing me..lol..

@For Real: Yup your word is bond with your kids until the parents break it. To many parents are trying to be friends with their kids before being parents..I remember about 2 years ago my daughter and I were riding and she was being borderline disrespectful and I guess she felt that it was her moment to try me..her being 14 and all.(now in her life I may have had to spank her about 3 times..her mom on the other hand had to dang near beat her to death, where usually all I have to do is talk**my son at 2 years old..ive already had to beat him i dunno how many times..lol) So anyway she gets sideways about the mouth and I tell her how something is going to be and if she backs talks again I am going to pop her in the mouth. She says”You are not my custodial parent” then she smirks and says sarcastically”Dad, you are going to pop me in the mouth, yeah right” Slammed on breaks pulled over her eyes got big and “POP”..she got mad and didnt speak to me for 2 months it drove me crazy..but once she came back around I told her she would never be old enough to disrespect me nor her mother and she would get the same thing for as long as I am alive

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:02 pm

Kids eating with their hands??????????????????????????????????? WTF??

Melo

June 18th, 2009
12:03 pm

ZULU, You can’t really think these types are usually the result of single parents

No,not single parents but bad parenting.There has to be balance.A single parent,raising her boy or girl must give that kidd the balance to go out,get education from a diverse pple u respect,either within ur fam or outside if ur own is limited.
But to shun outside help when u are a single parent(mother) and pronounce urself the god,the father and the holy spirit(like page described) is wack! As most have observed, a daddy cant teach a girl on how to be a woman and neither can a mum to a boy.
So u have to seek outside help and association.
(Chantil,why u reading me wrong today) :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:03 pm

Stacy – U know I had that same attitude but to know my money is actually going towards my child life is OK with me. I used to drop 900.00 on Polo Croc loafers because I could but now I put that money into his education or college fund/529.. Now trust I still like to stay clean but style comes within and it doesnt take 900.00 croc loafers to be fresh.. Instead of Banana Republic Khakis maybe I go Gap.. No big deal. From Tailored suits to off the racks tailored to fit me but again style comes from within.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
12:03 pm

@W8 – I’m glad you had the conversation with your son’s mother about he coming to you when he gets to the “smelling hiself” stages. Cause I have NEVER thought/talked/dreamed that. Hump, the older my son’s gotten the stronger the bond.

In the event of needed “intervention”, i will revisit the thought.

Wheeeeewwww….I promise that little boy is my road dog! Won’t let ANY man hold the door open for his momma or talk to her too long without coming up standing next to me looking like Ike Turner.

:)

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:05 pm

Sassy – Yeah kids eating with their hands is a situation that is beyond you. I would not deal with a chick that has kids like that. But know this.. Kids will sabotage relationships..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
12:07 pm

Infamous I’ve been told that once you have children you do become more patient(most parents) but I still feel the way I do about rude children. Me ex never gave “the eye” and in the four years I dated him I rarely,if ever, knew of him disciplining them and as I posted previously whenever I asked myself if that was something I could deal with on a daily basis the answer was always NO. I don’t have kids and at this point in my life have resigned myself to the fact that I’m not having any. Right now my life is simple and uncomplicated and I quite ennjoy it….is that some of the selfishness that comes out of being single for soo long?….is that wrong? Some women feel that maternal urge to procreate and some don’t…..I’m of the latter. Sometimes I wonder if it bothers my fam ’cause they’re always looking at me like “whatchu waitin’ on girl?” and I look at them like they’re aliens and say “waitin’ on for whaaat!!”

SexyCool - Like a tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
12:07 pm

I’m not Catholic. That audience with the Pope thing is lost on me. (JUST playing – GNR!)

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:08 pm

Grace – No maam I pack capri suns.. Soft fruit granola bars, chips and grapes.. Its the routine setup..

Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity

June 18th, 2009
12:13 pm

Oh yeah and for the record..I am normally wary of dudes who want me to meet their kid. Like my son is coming over for the weekend. But you can stop by…nawww thank you and good night. I have no desire to meet your little mini me.

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
12:15 pm

W8: Yeah I’m with you on respecting you and their moms. I have two boys and their mom is only 5′4″ my oldest is already 2ft taller than she is and I told she has to sweat the small disrespectful thing he does because those are build blocks to out disrespect. One day we were taking her out to eat for mother’s day and my kids where in the back playing video games and they started to argue. She told them to put the games up. They ignored her so I asked both of them for their games and promply thru them out of the window.

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:15 pm

My last BF had a daughter and she was 6 at the time.. Her mom was in jail and his daughter lived with the moms sister. Ghetto as ALL HELL! They lived in the projects off of Redan Road(sp?) and the sister was living with an older dude (15yrs her senior) & she had 3 or 4 children of her own.
Everytime she would come over to stay with us, she would look a MESS so I would take it upon myself to ALWAYS buy her clothes when she came over. My ex & I never saw eye to eye on issues having to do with her because he was a VERY irresponsible person. I asked him MANY of times, why didn’t he get custody of her? He would ALWAYS have some lame tail answer as to why. The apt wasn’t big enough etc… My heart used to HURT every time he took her back to the sisters. She was SUCH a smart girl & loved her daddy immensely. I told him that i was willing to get a bigger apt or buy a house if he REALLY wanted to have custody of her.. NO ANSWER.. He preferred to go out and party.. Long story short, the sister got evicted from the projects & moved into a hotel room with all 5 of the kids PLUS that man( I don’t trust most men around children but I digress) then the moved somewhere in GA and til this day hasn’t been able to find her. It has been 3 years since he has heard from or seen his daughter and I am not sure he could live with himself everyday not knowing where his baby girl is & how she is doing..
I don’t have any kids but I was more than willing to do WHATEVER I could to give that child a better life with or without her father!

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
12:15 pm

@ Infamous – Yea that mula does get diverted when you’re a parent. Golden ticket for my son is his education. I promise i will break the bank so i can give him the best oppurtunity out there. If i havta pay for it then, bet!!

Cute – Lol @ the Caprisuns are too sweet for the little man’s teeth! Get some Apple&Eve drinks…kids love them.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
12:16 pm

Kids eating with their hands?????????????

I know right, crazy but like I said their mama had the i.q. of a brick…never graduated from high school and still hasn’t. I realized that he upgraded when he met me and he realized it,too but there were some things I just didn’t want to deal with and I didn’t HAVE TO so I didn’t.

Yeah kids eating with their hands is a situation that is beyond you. I would not deal with a chick that has kids like that. But know this.. Kids will sabotage relationships..

DK you’re dead on with that ’cause that’s what happened. They were just one of the deal breakers. What’s a single, gainfully employed woman in the “A” to do?………

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
12:18 pm

INFAMOUS….I prefer my money going to me! :lol: I am an only child…never had to share…so why start now? :lol: I mean I do not spend $900 on one pair of shoes. I could take that $900 and come out with a crap load of bags.

Please I am very moody…by living alone…when I do not feel like dealing with somebody…I don’t have to. If I had a kid….again..I am stuck. The thing is at least I know myself and I would not subject a child to feeling like they are a burden…or in the way of my life. And if I had one…that is exactly what they’d be. I saw the cutest 2 tiny kittens the other night. I was going to take them home and keep them. Not even considering my asthma & allergies they first thing I thought of was the responsibility of caring for them. I was caught up in the cuteness but the reality set in quickly. When I travel I would have to take them somewhere or ask somebody to feed them, etc….too much work! :lol:

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
12:18 pm

@DK- Man I go to Filienes(sp) Basement for my son they have all of the Polo Gear for little boys at discount prices. Then the times I find stuff where he and I can match…”Watchoutdernow”

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
12:19 pm

Man yall spoiling your kids caprisun, juicy juice… hell I remember when kool aid was the ish. Naw dem jockers get a bottle of water and they should be thankful they don’t have to drink out of a waterhose.

Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)

June 18th, 2009
12:21 pm

W8 & Cemeeli – I had that talk about Lil Mo going to live with his dad when he got to smelling himself as well. I know that it happens. I have an older brother and all my older cousins here in the A are male, I saw them all go thru it. Trying mom, sometimes dad and having to get that chest caved in. I wont like it but I know at that age I wont understand what he is going thru, so off to dad’s it is. Now if dad wasnt around I have a great support system of family members to back me, all men

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:22 pm

I can’t stand when kids don’t have manners!! Chew with your mouth closed!! That should be ENFORCED!! I was in chic fil a the other day & while I was on line, this little girl(1 or 2) was with her grandma just yelling & screaming. The grandma was like ” I know you are mad..” I was thinking , that little kid is too young to bed mad.. WTH?? People need to teach their children respect from young!
I have NO problem spoiling a child & getting them any & EVERYTHING BUT they WILL respect me at ALL times! Spanking is cool only if necessary! I prefer my child to straighten up by the TONE of my voice :)

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:23 pm

Stacy – I am a shoe whore.. Sorry.

W8 – You know its a couple of thrift stores I go to in the affluent areas and get stuff for the low. I actually found a purple label suit the other day.. I will check out Filleans(sp)..

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
12:23 pm

CEMEELI…since I am watching my sugar intake…I get the Aqua juice from Welch’s. It comes in a lot of flavors. They are real fruit juice…but diluted so it’s less sugar. Tastes fine to me. I also drink Crystal light..and I buy the sugarless Kool-Aid to go packets. Just pour into a bottled water..shake and drink. When I do have my friend’s kids I have dried fruit & nutragrain bars with me too. Hel I eat thst stuff so they get what I get! :lol:

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
12:24 pm

ForReal- We earn a little more now than the loved Wylers&Koolaid being the only thing to the next drink other than water back in the day.

Come on man.

SexyCool - Like a tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
12:25 pm

Lioness – that was a bullet dodged and a glimpse into what your life with kids would have been like with him.

It is paramount that if I deal with someone who has kids that he is supporting them, financially and with his presence. Failure to do so is evidence of a major character flaw and all I can say is “Run, Negro. Run!”

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
12:25 pm

OOps, Staceye, yeah it was Perimeter lol.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
12:26 pm

*sorry, I’ve been in meetings back to back this morning so I’m way behind.*

when he gets with a woman that has kids the Dad has to understand that he needs to back off.. I was like are you serious?

DK – I think Truth feels this way too. I think it’s a “head of the household” matter. The kid is living under his roof, the woman is his wife, he should have to make decisions that affect his home without answering to anyone else. This is with the knowledge that he’s gonna want the best for anyone that is under his care.

Not trying to speak for him, so I hope I didn’t get this wrong. But it makes sense from that perspective.

Wise Diva

June 18th, 2009
12:26 pm

I am fascinated by the male comments today, wow, it’s nice to hear the male side of this kind of situation for a change.

Staceye, hey, what kind of services do you usually have at the Nordstrum’s spa, any favorites?

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
12:28 pm

@Ce/Mo- It happens to all of us male’s growing up..and with my bloodline I know the lil man is going to be a handful

Oh yeah they have sugarfree Caprisuns..I remember when my little man was still on milk and I snuck him a taste of a Mango Smoothie…LMAO that lil joker just lit right up like he stuck his finger into an electric socket..lmao..I remember the first time he pissed on me also..I was changing him and I looked away to get the wipes next thing you know i feel something warm and wet on my face I look up and around and I see nothing..I look down at him and see the lil pee stream dying down..I look at his face and those glowing eyes and smile were looking dead at me…he had a grin on his face..I swear he knew what he just did..I laughed made a fist and gave him a soft punch to the chest..lol

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:28 pm

Amazon – But thats just it.. you cant just erase Dude. What about that childs Father thats been there for that child before him. My thing is that Fool wasnt there when I was making the child so come on with the jokes..

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
12:31 pm

Trying mom, sometimes dad and having to get that chest caved in, Now if dad wasnt around I have a great support system of family members to back me,

Mo Girl you know we alerady kindred. That’s why i said i will revisit the invitation for my kid to go with his dad if it becomes to much for me. Only God knows how i will really be able to do that.

Infamous/W8 This is whay i say J.O.B. for a 10 year old is not a bad idea. My son is addicted to Polo. I’m driving up 85 to Tanger Oulets trying to get all the pastel colored (dunno why he likes the peach/pastelgreen/yellow colors) polos.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
12:31 pm

Vanity thy name is woman

Goin to the gym to run some “stuff” off my chest….y’all done got me all verklempt n such…….

Off topic: I heard Jeremih sing live on Ryan Cameron’s show yesterday and the boy can sang hear…..also heard him rap a taste and the boy got skill…he calls his rappin’ alter ego Ohaji….thought that was cute…..okay carry on.

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:31 pm

Sexy- You are right BUT I was tired of that relationship because i had to make sure everything was in order because of how irresponsible he was..

Staceye- I am a shoe fanatic and I can’t WAIT to have children :mrgreen:

Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity

June 18th, 2009
12:33 pm

For Real I packed all my son’s stuff up and took it out of the house. You would have thought I killed him. I looked at him and told him point blank..You don’t own a damn thang in this house. If you can’t follow my rules you can leave here the same way you came in this world..naked. I am not your friend I am your mother…and until the appointed time I am the CFO, CEO, Chairperson, and founder of (his name here) Enterprises. You want out..that can be arranged. Otherwise all decisions I make are for the good of the enterprise so that when I give over certain powers to you..you don’t fall too far on your azz. He told me last week..I will sure be glad when I get control of the enterprise..I said son as founder I will always have a perm seat on the board of directors.

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:33 pm

Off topic- This story made me laugh TOO hard yesterday!
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31400926/ns/world_news-weird_news/?GT1=43001

Jam- I can’t take this name anymore.. By 1pm it is GONE 4eva!!!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
12:35 pm

@DK- You can go to the Goodwill in Alpharetta on HWY 9 and find Polo gear with the tags still on them…don’t tell anybody It will be our secret…Oh yeah I am shoe whore also. I am not going to give up my Gucci loafer connect publicly..lol..ooh snap..we need to get the lil boys and go shopping..my son’s mother dresses him and kiddie fun clothes..I dress him in button down collared shirts, cardigans..slacks lil blazers..lol..unless we are going fishing or something..Man being a father is the best..I love my daughter to death..but the mini me…is just plain old fun and surprising all of the time…that lil’ tude of his is hilarious..I just had him for a bit lastnight…Im calling his mom and teling her its mandatory MAN TIME tonight.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
12:36 pm

Staceye Crystal light the peach raspberry is the drink!! But i cain’t have too much…since i’ve found all these drinks my water intake has not been so good.

Raw nuts, dried fruits, kettle chips, veggie chips…..are the next best snack other than fruit for kids and grown ups too.

Let’s see if i can run to Trader real quick.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
12:36 pm

WISE…the Moor Mud wrap, the slimming and tonning wrap are good. I want to try the detoxifiying wrap.

W8..I too have the baby baby waterhose treatment. They know what’s up. They smile afterwards like, “ha ha sucka…I got you”! :evil: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:37 pm

Amazon – Truth and I have had that convo and it didnt go very well.. We are totally on the opposite sides of the fence because i feel you have to give that childs Father some level of respect. See if it were a woman there would be new laws on the books but since we are dudes and we dont contribute anything to our childrens lives we sould just accept another guy telling us that we should back out of our kids life.. Man that dont even sound right coming from a cat who’s a fixture in my childs life and I’m sure it doesnt sound right for any Real DAD.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
12:38 pm

@Ce- go to Felienes basement..cheaper than the outlets
@For Real _- I instill respect in my kids by any means necessary..lol

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:38 pm

Cee- I need to go to that place.. Maybe next week we could run there together :)

Grace

June 18th, 2009
12:39 pm

Lioness @ your 12154 – a man who doesn’t take any responsiblity in taking care of his child(ren) have NO place in my life! If he could care less about his child what makes me think that he would take care of me?

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
12:41 pm

You and I can test the waters all we want but when it comes to my kids you will have to jump in head first.

Sounds like a recipe for disaster. If she’s gonna be your wife, you’ll need to trust her with you kid beforehand. The roles and responsibility of a wife and a mother are two differnt things and you’ll need to screen for both roles, not just one.

M'

June 18th, 2009
12:42 pm

@WD

True, there have been some very good insights from the bro’s point of view today.

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:43 pm

Grace- I TOTALLY feel you! Listening to some of the dudes on here, you wouldn’t find out that that was the case until you are neck deep in love with them..

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:44 pm

Amazon – Oh yeah now its coming back to me.. I told truth that he’s technically not the head of that household because my money is coming there also. I said there is a easy fix.. Tell her to give me custody and ya’ll pay me child support and I’ll keep it 100..

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
12:46 pm

@DK- I wish my son’s mothers new man would tell me to back off..If they were married I would respect the household..but that is MY son..My son would have to abide by the rules of the household that he lives in..but to tell me to back off..lmao..I am to much of a man for him to even say that type of crap to me..lmao that is just funny….Oh yea Goodwill in Alpharetta Polo with tags still on them, located off of HWY 9…I have a guy that makes custom shirts etc.also for the low..quality stuff…we need to go shoppingg!!! lmao..

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
12:49 pm

I have two boys and their mom is only 5′4″ my oldest is already 2ft taller than she

Uh…your kid is 7′4?

Wise Diva

June 18th, 2009
12:49 pm

Thanks Black Mamba/Xiomara :)

@Infamous, I love it when you pop in, you always convey your opinion in a way that makes me think deeper.

I’m not currently seeing anyone with kids, but I’m marinating on so much of what has been said already!

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:52 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:52 pm

W8 – You already know.. I got the Lil one this weekend so I might have to do a little light shopping.

I just see it as respect of everybody’s position cause I aint going anywhere and I’m ok with her marrying someone else but I’m just not ok with being pushed out my childs life. I am a true fathers advocate because I know what it took for me to get joint legal custody. I know how much money I had to spend to even get the courts to hear my plea. Now for some new booty to come up to me and say anything about what I do with my child, he’ll probably get all the frustration I had dealing with the court system unleashed on him.

Tracee aka TiTi @ 47

June 18th, 2009
12:53 pm

Voice of Experience! I learned the hard way about the blended family thing. I totally mistook a man that was raising his children as a nuturing man. . NOT! Parenting styles can be soooo different. If you want to marry a man/woman with child(ren) be patient! All children are different and there is no set standard in raising a child. Parents (biological and non) must have clear and understood rules and principals in which to guide your children to adulthood AS A FAMILY which includes all adults involved! You gotta be on the same page or you might as well just give it. Amazon Red has the right idea.

Alvin

June 18th, 2009
12:55 pm

All…thanks for the love…but I believe my mind was hi-jack by Demi, LOL

DK…you are so right…I didn’t know what love is or was, until li’Demi came along. Dude force me to grown up with a quickness, LOL

For Real…that’s the thing about stand up dad…(They ignored her so I asked both of them for their games and promply thru them out of the window)…we don’t play that bullish!! Ladies, I am speaking only of stand up fathers, not the lames….I don’t want no shoes flying my way

Staceye…arte your tubes tie yet? Don’t be those moms having babies at 40, talking about, “Dayum what a blessing my baby is…IN MY LIFE!!” lol

Mayne…how bout lil dude just called me…without his mom knowing…and said, “ALVIN!!! Luv U…BYE!!” LOL…mayne I miss his uptonogoodbouttogetintosometroubleahhhhhshytivedonefuggupnowletmetrytoputitbacktogetherahhhshytdonefuggitupworse…first words out of his mouth, “I luv you!” while trying his damnest to look cute and adoreable…the nerves of li’demi!!! But he knows that mess don’t work with me, LOL.

It’s in God’s hand now…but the memories will live on./i>

LOL

Shandra aka Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
12:57 pm

Demi- “ALVIN!!! Luv U…BYE!!”<– AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
12:58 pm

Wise – Hey thanks..

And Ladies I know its a bunchhhhh of deadbeat dudes out there.. Some because they sorry and some because their baby moms are psychos but whatever the reason, they will pay for that later on and so will you if you are being a Biatch keeping that child away from their father.

Oh and on a blog side note. I love the kids and know how to make em too.. Love to practicing making them..

Vick

June 18th, 2009
12:58 pm

RElationship kids involved is just a tough spot to be, I just with not to be in that situation. Period!!

SexyCool - Like a tight verse over a hot track

June 18th, 2009
1:01 pm

English is not your first language, huh?

Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)

June 18th, 2009
1:02 pm

I am very glad to read a lot of the responses from the fellas especially. Kudos to ya’ll for doing what you are supposed to without all the drama. I dont think any of you has said anything really unreasonable.

Cemeeli – I have always checked Lil Mo but since I am only 3 apples high I know when he can see over me (which is shortly) he will try me. He is well aware that his dad/grandad/uncles/cousins/godfather will get in that azz

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:02 pm

Tough reading you Vick..

Vick

June 18th, 2009
1:03 pm

Need some advice guys, totally out of topic but I seriously do not know how to deal with this,

I met this south American chick a couple of yrs ago and we started dating but few months later we went our own ways. Two yrs later we found ourselves talking about a possiblity of a come back. Here is the issue, she is talking to this guy who just to to US and i myself talking to another girl. I want the girl to be with me but she wants to talk to me while she is talking to her guy and ok with me talking to the other girl. I want her and me to start dating and develop something. how should I go by this and what and how should I tell her…

thanks for ya’ help.

it took me almost 2 hrs to get home yesterday. this 85 traffic is getting prettier and prettier….agrrr

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:04 pm

DK- You are a SPECIAL person :evil:

SlimOne

June 18th, 2009
1:04 pm

I gave my step-daddies hell! It was like a scene out of Color Purple when Ceelie came home to Danny Glovers house for the first time…and the kid threw a rock and hit her in the head, “You ain’t my mammie!” :lol:

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:04 pm

DK – I’m so glad you and Truth had a conversation on this topic. I was surprised at reading his stance, especially when he said the father of the child wouldn’t even be welcome in his home…he’d have to pick his kid up on the curb!

Crazy stuff sticks with me. :lol:

REALLIFE

June 18th, 2009
1:05 pm

Thanks for the interesting comments in this blog. The first man I was interested in after the birth of my son (by then about 14 months old) and I married. He immediately adopted said child, (bio father out of the picture – COMPLETELY), followed by another child, both boys only know dad, will never know the difference, and the unconditional love is there. No one in the family even remembers that there are different gene’s there. So it does work, you just have to know when it’s right…. by the way, this was over 20 years ago and still going strong!

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:06 pm

Real- That is WONDERFUL!!

Vick- How old are you?

Ared- That is some ISH right there!

Vick

June 18th, 2009
1:08 pm

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:11 pm

Vick- Date her and let the chips fall where they may

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
1:12 pm

ALVIN…unfortanately…since I have no children I was told I can not have my tubes tied.

Grace

June 18th, 2009
1:14 pm

your kid is 7′4? @ Amozon blame it on the hormones in the food….and another thing, these kids are very well endowed these days. I’d bust a cap in a man’s head for looking at my 11 year old daughter.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:15 pm

DK/W8 – I don’t think Truth was trying to say not be involved in your kid’s life. I think he was saying is that you don’t have a say in household matters. You know some guys don’t want a man raising his child, even if he is married to the mother.

Y’all know I say controversial stuff, so today’s “bytchism” is that the choice was made to break up the home and co-parent. Someone else is scooping in and taking the load you decided you didn’t want to handle anymore. You should always be involved, but I can see why the new hubby may opt for as litte input from the bio dad as possible when it comes to what goes on in his home…

Elijah

June 18th, 2009
1:17 pm

Hello Folks!

This is some good advice on parenting or dating people who already have kids!

@W8 I love the honesty with your kids!
@ Mr. Infamous… You are holding it down, you do have to become unselfish in order to raise your child! Plus it does take a sensible man to raise a son to be man! Not a man who is foolish about life.

I do not have any children yet but I did date a young lady with 2 kids. In fact I usually only date women with no kids. What an experience I was not ready to become their father. I did become close to the son even though I was not ready and tried to teacher him about being a man but my mind was not on marriage or a ready made family. So I had to bounce and it did not go well with the break-up because I know the kids would miss me!

I truly did not want to become a huge part of their lives but due to her having some hardship I was thrust into that role. Now I am ready to assume the mantle of fatherhood!

@Kym you want to go out on a date I like that corporate talk, of course I will chairman of the board, CEO and COO. I would let you maintain CFO!
:LOL:

Their are some real stand-up folks in here with some good hearts!

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
1:21 pm

DOnt get me wrong I’m all for trying to make a normal life out of a not normal situation for my child. I do all of it because he needs to see adults acting like adults. He needs to know just because Mommie and I didnt work we love you and are working together to make sure of youre happy. Its been hell and high water to get that thru sometimes to his mom but because of him I will never give up, turn my back on him, disrespect his mom or stop loving his mom to a certain extent. See when you dont allow yourself to hate someone there is only love there and that love stops you from doing alot of things, that the hate would have you drown yourself in. See what we fail to realize is that the child loves both parents not just one.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
1:21 pm

Vick- Let that girl go it’s not going to work neither one of yall respect each other enough to get into a relationship..with all of this other person talk

I don’t even go into my ex-wifes house now why would i go there when she is married? Set boundaries and keep respect..it makes things easier

@Staceye- you are going to fall for someone hard one day and be all super wife and super mom…just dont forget to blog about it..lmao

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:23 pm

See when you dont allow yourself to hate someone there is only love there and that love stops you from doing alot of things, that the hate would have you drown yourself in.

Lawd, y’all about to make me misty eyed and I don’t do tears. ;)

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:23 pm

Random thgt: I LOVE Haribo Gummi Bears ONLY!! Won’t eat any other brand.. I don’t share the red & green ones cause they are my FAVORITE!! Well, I might share them depending on who ask me :mrgreen:

Carry on

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
1:23 pm

Amazon – I have said I would prefer a dude yeild to me for punishment because I’m not raising a disrespectful child and I always know my punishments are done in love with his best interest at heart.. I wouldnt want to question why a dude has done such and such to my child.

Vick

June 18th, 2009
1:26 pm

how old are you Staceye?

Alvin

June 18th, 2009
1:26 pm

A.Red…no real man will ever tell a stand up father to ‘back off’, as long as it doesn’t interfer with his relationship with the mother…like I said…most jealous or insincere men think that way.

At the some time…I do understand new dudes position as head of household…that’s way I feel it is important all parties to be on the some page.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:27 pm

Vick- Good Luck ;)

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:28 pm

I have said I would prefer a dude yeild to me for punishment because I’m not raising a disrespectful child and I always know my punishments are done in love with his best interest at heart.. I wouldnt want to question why a dude has done such and such to my child.

DK – Hmm…I don’t know about that. You’d have a guy, there everyday with your kid, the head of HIS household not render punishment? Essencially saying “wait til your father gets home?”

Remember, you aren’t the only example of manhood he’ll see. And to me, that just weakens the stepdad in my eyes (and probably the kid’s.)

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
1:28 pm

W8…I need you NOT to put that voo doo on me. I htought you like dme…why would you wish that on me.

VICK…I’m young enough to live and love my life…but old enough to know what I want and don’t want! :wink: :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
1:29 pm

Amazon – Also I dont just beat my child like that.. I get him when he needs it but just all the time no because I’m not gonna break his spirit by beating the crap out of him.. So seeing as though I just dont beat his behind and his mother dont, it just would be unacceptable for a new cat to come in and turn him into a whipping boy. Ya know. I can talk to my child and give hime the EYE and he’s good.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
1:30 pm

@Ared- I feel you..I took custody of my little sister, she was a child of my mom and step father…my mom married him when I was 3..He did not pay any support or way or nothing but yet he tried to set rules for her in my household…I told him he lost his chance for that..now she loves her dad to death but under my roof she follows my rules..they are still close…the difference was that he didnt want to support or help raise her unless it came to her doing fun stuff. The difference with some is that the father is active in the kids life so he still has a say in the kids life not how the household is ran. I got my lil sister to graduate highschool and college and that is after her drug stage, her lesbian stage her just going everywhichaway stage..but yet he would just pop up and try and set rules out of the blue..nope wasn’t happening on my watch. My lil sis and my mom dont talk to this day so she didnt even try once I got custody of her..@The end of the day a man has to respect a man’s household, and find the boundaries

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:31 pm

Amazon – Also I dont just beat my child like that.. I get him when he needs it but just all the time no because I’m not gonna break his spirit by beating the crap out of him..

DK – Why would you assume some other man will? Why would you assume your ex would chose someone who would…?

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
1:31 pm

Amazon – well my son is with me just as much as he is with his Mom soooo.. we have split custody. Hey we all men and we can come to a understanding about this and if not I’ll be on the news.. Its that simple.

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
1:33 pm

Amazon – Thats just it I can only be accountable for my actions towards my son.. Well I have to be honest.. I had patnas growing up with their stepdads and it just wasnt a cool situation and both of those cats are on one for real.. Two are certified GA Regional crazy and one is in jail for 200 years.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:36 pm

Hey we all men and we can come to a understanding about this and if not I’ll be on the news.. Its that simple

:lol:

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:36 pm

Alvin

June 18th, 2009
1:36 pm

(he said the father of the child wouldn’t even be welcome in his home…he’d have to pick his kid up on the curb!)

I agree!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
1:37 pm

Amazon – I mean I’m getting better with the step dad thingy but I just think that all of us can come to an agreement because I would respect his moms wishes when it came to my new wife also.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:38 pm

I pray to GOD that when my husband & I have our children that we stay together forever cause all of these rules & regulations seems like too much DRAMA!!

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
1:39 pm

WD I told you I always like when the men come forward. I actually thought in reading that a male probably presented the topic.

ZULU Chantal almost emailed Boaz to let him know you deserve a spankin’ for (making me laugh at) your harrasment of ‘Cuttie,’ yesterday. But I told Chantal that you’re the type that might like the idea too much. So gotta make sure you’re in check today. ;)

CUTIE I don’t believe in all out spoiling children or adults for that matter. Unless you’re spoiling yourself, but some folks are just rotten.

CEMEELI I am just not a huge fan of letting the lil dudes go full blown with the pastels. Promise you’ll draw the line if a skinny jean thought passes those lips. (I feel an essay in the making.)

Gotta love how FILTHY VILLANOUS one wants to re-focus our energies from the good dad stuff to the kinda stuff that just might make him INFAMOUS.

I like when we’re all on one accord. Think I’m hittin’ Nordstrom Rack this weekend. Yeah-Ya!

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:39 pm

..@The end of the day a man has to respect a man’s household, and find the boundaries

W8 – Well, I don’t know nuffin about manhood or birfin no babies so thanks for y’alls feedback.

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
1:40 pm

Ared: “Sounds like a recipe for disaster.” – You do not understand my point either. Diving head first into water demonstrates your commitment level. Testing the water with me is our due diligence period. Oh and pulling your bra strap for the 7′4″ comment.

DK: I agree with on that step back ish. Truth doesn’t have any kids so that’s why he said that. However, that why is their mom decided to get a SO or remarry I would have a man to man with ole boy and we will settle all issues right then and there before my kids will ever do anything with him. Cause like I said “I Just Ain’t Gon Understand Your Excuse”!

Vick: She just like one aspect of you that’s why she holding on to the other dude. You need to find out which aspect she like and then decide if you can or can’t live with it but if she is from South America take 8 months to make a decision.

Wise: My topic was going to be about Fathers since Father’s Day is Sunday.

PSA!!!!! SUNDAY, SUNDAY, SUNDAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY! IS FATHER’S DAY PLEASE DON’T DO THE FOLLOWING:

1. Take him out to dinner and he has to pickup the check.

2. Take him out to dinner at a spot he goes to all the time on his own.

3. Buy him a grill and then expect him to cookout.

4. Power tool should be purchased for his birthday IF he is into that.

5. If he ask for Madden 2010 please don’t get him a gift certificate to Barnes & Noble.

6. If you buy him a gift and you decide to wrap it. Please make sure the wrapping doesn’t look like it came from the Retarded Wrappers of America.

7. In addition, to #6 please wrap the dayum gift. A shirt still on the hanger ain’t cool.

8. NO WE DON’T LIKE THAT DAYUM TIE!!!!

9. BUYING YOURSELF A NEW DRESS TO LOOK PRETTY FOR ME DOES NOT CONSTITUTE A GIFT FOR ME!!!!

10. GIVING ME SOME DOESN’T CONSTITUTE A GIFT FOR ME!!!

11. Hand made gifts from Jameekca and DonTerrious is not a gift when dey 24 y.o

12. I DON’T LIKE YO MAMMA WHY IS SHE GOING TO DINNER WITH US!!!

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:40 pm

(he said the father of the child wouldn’t even be welcome in his home…he’d have to pick his kid up on the curb!)

I agree!!!

:shock:

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
1:42 pm

Amazon – You know honestly I have had to pray about it and leave it in Gods hands.. I honestly hope that we all can be cool.. Birthday Parties, graduations and etc.. I dont want it to be weird. I just want the respect I deserve as his father. That’s all. I respect anyone who respects me. i dont want to run that mans home cause thats disrespectful but my child is in his home and if there is a problem he can always come and live with his dad. Thats all I want is the respect due to me as being Daddy, not the dude that comes thru every so often and is relegated to uncle status in my childs life.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:43 pm

Ared- Lawd!! I tell you! I just PRAY I make the right decision with the man I choose for my husband!!!

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:44 pm

Ared: “Sounds like a recipe for disaster.” – You do not understand my point either. Diving head first into water demonstrates your commitment level.

For Real – Diving head first into water means nothing if you don’t know how to swim.

Not everyone knows how to swim. You’ve had X amount of time to be a parent and to learn to be a parent. It’s unfair for you to keep your kid away from someone you see a future with, then expect them to swan dive in and not drown.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:44 pm

DK- You should respect people PERIOD!! Even if they show blatant disrespect for you, you should ALWAYS take the higher road!

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
1:44 pm

Hey Vick-

If I am reading you right (I am finding it difficult to read you), but anyway…you said:

****Here is the issue, she is talking to this guy who just to to US and i myself talking to another girl. I want the girl to be with me but she wants to talk to me while she is talking to her guy and ok with me talking to the other girl. I want her and me to start dating and develop something.*****

I say: If that girl wants you she would focus on you and try to build something with you. Vick, IMO it seems like she wants to talk to you and old boy to see whom is the last man standing. That game is cool for those that play it, but I just feel you should go for WHO you WANT and NOT WHO is LEFT.

Kelly

June 18th, 2009
1:44 pm

My significant other (SO) has two children and his ex-wife uses them to try to manipulate our relationship. I treat the children very well. Their mom is jealous and questions them about everything we do and everything at their father’s home. My SO and I now have children. She tells them to treat us badly and manipulates them emotionally. She is destroying her children emotionally and needs to move on with her life.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:45 pm

Ared- Lawd!! I tell you! I just PRAY I make the right decision with the man I choose for my husband!!!

I think we all do, Lioness. Remember spouses die too… :(

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:45 pm

Ared- I AGREE One million Percent!!! Sounds retarded to me!

Melo

June 18th, 2009
1:45 pm

that is after her drug stage, her lesbian stage her just going everywhichaway stage.

Daaamn!!!

I tell u,each society has its share of crap.
We africans,we dealing mostly with our poverty crap and Aids crap,but none of this drug and lesbo/homo/drag/ stuff.

pheeeeeew hmmmmmpf!!

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:46 pm

Ared- They do but hopefully not before we have a family..

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
1:46 pm

Lioness – Most times I do take the high road but when it comes to my child there is no road.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
1:46 pm

LOL. If you’ve never celebrated a wedding anniversary, yo azz doesn’t get a father’s day gift. :lol:

(I’m kidding…kinda)

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:47 pm

Kelly- Sorry for your situation! Question: Did you know all this before you had children?

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
1:48 pm

PoppaG/Fellow Bloggers

Does anyone remember the name of the Spa for men that has the sports theme?

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:48 pm

DK- Huh? Are you saying if the DUDE disrespect you or your child?

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
1:49 pm

Random Words of Wisdom – You can’t be big and small at the same time.

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
1:49 pm

@ Lioness I agree with that 1:38 post…I want to stay together forever and not deal with the drama, I don’t want what Chrisette Michele calls “typical American shady love.”

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:49 pm

For REal- Just be appreciative for WHATEVER you get!

Vick

June 18th, 2009
1:51 pm

Professor

I wanted us to date and build something but she wants just talk and see how it goes. I am not feeling right about that rout(tell me if I am wrong) but she talking to her guy, me talking to my girl and us talking just doesnt sounds a good way to go…what do you think

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
1:53 pm

Vick – Always trust your instincts. You have said more than once that you don’t like what she is proposing. Just turn and walk away.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
1:54 pm

I am just not a huge fan of letting the lil dudes go full blown with the pastels. Promise you’ll draw the line if a skinny jean thought passes those lips.

Mytwocents all I can do is laugh because you know my son. ha!

Mo You’re right. There will be a time to give up the ghost and havta punch them or let them get punched. dad/uncle/grandad/goddad…

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:54 pm

Professor- Reading some of this stuff is givin me a headache because it seems like a sad situation.. My life has ALWAYS been simple & I would like to keep it that way!

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
1:56 pm

Mytwo- I SPOIL kids if they are good! Shyte, I love to be spoiled and I will damned if they see me being spoiled rotten and it is not being reciprocated!

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
1:57 pm

Vick,

You are correct. You cannot build a solid relationship with all of those folks in the picture. If you all are serious about being in an exclusive relationship you are going about it all wrong. It appears that she just wants to keep you in the bullpen, because her man is the real pitcher. I will admit I have an ego, so there is no way I would play that role, but hey that is your call you are in the bullpen.

I don’t want to add confusion to your situation, but how do you feel about the girl you are with? How long have the two of you been together? It doesn’t seem like that relationship is too solid either? I have not read all the post so forgive me if you have already touched on this.

Melo

June 18th, 2009
1:58 pm

told Chantal that you’re the type that might like the idea too much

u make me laugh Chantal.But u know what,for all his seemingly loud and lewd mouth on the board,Boaz is so disciplined when it comes to his off road liasons,but then u wldnt know coz u scared. :lol: U dont seem the scared type tho.(im goarding and daring u there)

Truth doesn’t have any kids so that’s why he said that

For Real,u made me laugh with that one.
Never ever say that to a kidless african with a wife or long term relationship,they take that as a diss to mean he is a mule! :lol: good for nothing Big balls.
:lol:
She tells them to treat us badly and manipulates them emotionally
KELLY,simple qstion:how do u know this?

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
1:59 pm

When something is “spoiled”, don’t you get rid of it because it’s not any good anymore, harmful even?

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
2:01 pm

You have said more than once that you don’t like what she is proposing. Just turn and walk away.

Right…this is how people purposely invite drama into their lives. Stop giving folks a chance to play you.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:02 pm

Sexy- I am spoiled and I have YET to be thrown away..

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
2:02 pm

Lioness I agree this stuff is making my neck tense up which exacerbate my hunger…Lol.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:02 pm

Vick is 27 and has to learn his OWN life lessons.. Enjoy the drama Vick & make sure you learn from it ;)

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
2:03 pm

Ared: First of all, if a chick is stupid enough to dive into water and know they can’t swim then that chick wouldn’t be with me in the first place. If I remarry my wife want ever have to worry about drowning. I don’t think you read my earlier post since you got here late but basically if I decided a chick has the potential to be my wife then I would start an intergration period with my kids and the chick before I marriage is even talked about. By the way, everyone that gets married takes a swan dive. Oh and on Truth’s point you seem to be posting from the aspect that the father is around on on weekends and I think DK, W8, and myself have a joint arrangement which makes Truth point sound crazy. I will respect his marriage, his household, and my kids will too but he better respect that my kids are being raised a certain way long before he showed up. I am fine with picking my kids up on the curb.

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
2:03 pm

Yep. Vick will be setting himself up to get thrown away.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:04 pm

Professor- Try eating plain yogurt in the morning and your lunch will become more filling I promise ;) Oh, plain yogurt takes a while to get used to :)

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
2:05 pm

Ohhh please don’t throw me away I am spoiled…everybody always told me it was sorta cute….

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
2:05 pm

Besides, Lioness, if Vick wanted to be learning his OWN life lessons, he wouldn’t have come asking for input/advice.

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
2:06 pm

Vick are you 27 for real? You should know when you are getting setup for the bullpen…I thought you were a young person…now I feel bad because the game is SOLD not TOLD and I am in violation.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
2:06 pm

The only place that I’ve ever been to is called Knock outs. It was on Peachtree. It is a boxing themed spa/salon. It has been a minute since I’ve gone.

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
2:07 pm

I am not spoiled. I am rewarded, pampered and appreciated.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
2:08 pm

don’t think you read my earlier post since you got here late but basically if I decided a chick has the potential to be my wife then I would start an intergration period with my kids and the chick before I marriage is even talked about.

So when does the gf get to meet your kids?

By the way, everyone that gets married takes a swan dive.

It’s not about the dive, it’s about the prep beforehand. Some folks are more prepared to be wives and mothers than others. Doesn’t mean they can’t learn or that they can’t be with you.

you seem to be posting from the aspect that the father is around on on weekends

No, not really. Even if it is 50/50, the man should be empowered do disipline your kid while he’s in his home. He shouldn’t have to wait for your authority or approval.

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
2:08 pm

@ Lioness I will have to try that…I am so hungry I am getting ready to munch on some oatmeal w/ dried fruit but it is just too hot to eat that…

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
2:08 pm

@Vick, you already have your answer. It is not going to work. The both of you are already starting on a rocky foundation. She told she she just wanted to talk and see how things are going. She’s pitting both of you against each other without eithe of you knowing to see which one will come out on top with the demands she’s about to place on both of you. In the end, mark my words, you’ll be home alone wondering what just happened with the 2 of you! She’s playing you because you’re letting her. She has the upper hand so don’t be surprised at the outcome if you stand your ground and stick to your beliefs. Time to man up and walk away from this one.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:10 pm

Sexy- No one wants to learn on their own nor do people REALLY want to be told which direction to take in life.. Ultimately, he is going to do EXACTLY what he feels no matter what any person on here suggests to him :)

Tomato, tomatoe.. As I have said before, I am simple.. Spoiled works fine for me.. I just don’t like to be called a spoiled BRAT :evil:

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
2:10 pm

Lioness: Respect is EARNED not GIVEN. I can show anyone common courtesy but you will earn my respect and i will earn yours. That always taking the high road doesn’t work in real life cause sometime those fools are on the high road too. Oh and why are the commercials for Father’s Day soooooo different that the ones for Mother’s Day. I mean dayummmm every kiss don’t start with Kay for dad’s?

Vick

June 18th, 2009
2:10 pm

thanks sexyCool, isnt that what this blog is all about, sharing experiences so we dont do same dang thing while possibly avoided,

Thanks for the input but am just afraid it might sound like an ultimatem if i tell her pick one. And I like her so much to just let her go and call it quit myself.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
2:10 pm

There is also a men’s spa in the Terminus Building in Buckhead. I haven’t been there.

The only reason that I went to Knock Outs was that the wifey paid for it. She knows how I feel about boxing.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:13 pm

@Ce-Entebello has a nice male spa with some sport themes..it’s on Paces Ferryy

@Vic- Man the phuck up I cant stand a whining azz indecisive dude, handle business dont let a woman lead you around. You are on here asking a bunch of women to help you make a damn man decision..

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:13 pm

Oh.. I forgot to add I am VERY BLESSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:14 pm

Thanks PoppaG.

Is there anonther place just a man’s hangout? Like a good billard that offer giftcards?

Elijah

June 18th, 2009
2:14 pm

Heavy* your new woman Lioness( enchantress/spoiled isoff the chain)!

I agree whole heartly about boundaries they are a most in extendedfamily relationships. Once established it will helpkeep the drama down!

I applaud all the men and women who have stood in the gap for a child due to a missing parent!

I myself have 2 nieces where I took over for the parents until they became young ladies then they wanted to hang-out with my sister!

They turn on me, you just cannot trust little girls! :lol:

You guys are funny trying to convert the Devil (mamba)! :wink:

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:15 pm

AInt nobody meeting my kids until I put her through ALLL of the paces..period

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
2:15 pm

Vick,

I am not saying give her ultimatum, but you need to let her know what works for you. Does knowing about the other guy she is with works for you? Are you going to get upset and jealous knowing that she is getting busy with old boy and that is the reason your calls are being sent to vm? If you are okay with that sit on the sideline and wait to see where things fall. You should tell her where you stand (I said it before and I will say it again relationships are about timing)…

What about this girl you are with?

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:15 pm

Terminus, thanks i just read that.

W8 That’s near me. I’ll check that out…

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:16 pm

For Real- We’ve had that convo before & you are entitled to your views on it as I am. I ALWAYS take the high road cause in the end I have to live with my decisions.. I don’t get in my feelings easily NO WAY!

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
2:17 pm

BOAZ It would take LOTS to scare Chantal cuz she’s seen so much. You know she’s not naive enough to take that bait, tho. That’s why ya luv her!

CUTIE See the reciprocation thing implies that them lil buggers have the means and are tryna ’spoil’ you too. Now if you reward them for behavior and grades and sometimes treat em, I think they’re cool. But when they’re just ’spoiled’ for no reason, they gain a sense of entitlement. Betta go sit ya lil @zz down somewhere… again, this applies to adults too.

Gentlemen, do you think there’s a difference between “spoiling” your woman and treating her well in general? If not, has this ever backfired?

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:17 pm

Eli- Why am I off the chain??????

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:19 pm

@My2-good question

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
2:19 pm

W8…LOL at that 2:13 and I thought this woMAN was giving Vick some good advice…

Melo

June 18th, 2009
2:21 pm

Vick

Few qstions to u on ur issue:
First are u a Christian,as in practicing or just regular guy having fun in his 20s in the A.
I got male gems to pass on after the qualifiers are in.

Lemme know!

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:22 pm

Mytwo- I have a godson that is AMAZINGLY smart & an overall AMAZING little boy. That dude gets WHATEVER from me!! Ya hear?? WHATEVER!!! He is very appreciative for EVERYTHING he gets!!! Just because a person is spoiled doesn’t mean they are obnoxious.. I have ALWAYS been spoiled but I don’t go around boasting about NOTHING I have!! I am very humble & confident..

All the single ladies, put your hands up!!!

June 18th, 2009
2:23 pm

As a single woman without kids, I have dated men with children. In some cases it’s easier to date men who don’t already have kids. But on the other hand, men who do have kids are often more mature, dependable, etc.

While I can understand parents wanting to be protective of their kids, I could not become serious with someone who wouldn’t allow me to spend time around their children. Bottom line is that I have a choice in this relationship too, and I should have an opportunity to decide whether I want to deal with your kids, your baby-mama drama, and everything else that comes with dating someone who’s a parent.

I think it’s all in how you handle it. You don’t have to introduce the person you’re dating as “the new mommy” or anything heavy like that. Rather, I think a few casual interactions would be appropriate, thereby giving all parties a chance to see if they get along, etc.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
2:25 pm

Cee

I guess that you could contact ten pin alley (they have billiards there) at Atlantic Station or 300 Atlanta bowling for something like that.

Ten pin Alley is part of the Dolce group so I guess that they would have giftcards.

Most guy hangouts really don’t have giftcards. I mean I have yet to see a gift card to Magic City, Blue Flame Lounge, Strokers, etc. You’d be better off giving him a stack of singles. j/p

Seriously though, I really can’t say about the giftcard thing. The only giftcards that I seem to get are to The Home Depot (They are really appreciated because there is always something to fix on a house), and I don’t giftcards for men.

I’ll tell what giftcard that my dad like a lot. (He’s the only male that I really get giftcards for). Last year I gave him a $50 QT giftcard. I seemed to like the idea of someone else spring for the gas for his ride. He said that it was something practical and something that he’d know that he would need and use.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
2:25 pm

CEE Yeah, I know my dude is too damn cool for skinny jeans, but I thought maybe some lurkers somewhere were out there letting them boys bring that back from the bootleg summercamp (read: mall) with their summer spending monies.

LEE LOVEBONE I’m with you… WTF is dude going thru and why? This ain’t a struggle to figure out- his candle alone ain’t good enough and she wanna get burned at both ends… (I took the liberty of editing the phrase a bit.)

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
2:25 pm

“So when does the gf get to meet your kids?” – When I decide I want to marry her.

“It’s not about the dive, it’s about the prep beforehand.” – I feel you on that but married is one thing you can’t prep for due to the infinite variables. I agree you shouldn’t do anything without a plan but with marriage just be ready to change it often.

“Even if it is 50/50, the man should be empowered do disipline your kid while he’s in his home.” – Again, I agree but in my case my kids have been raised a certain way long before he arrived on the scene. If he thinks he can come in and change their direction just because it’s his house he has another thing coming. Like I said before me and old boy will have a man to man and that conversation will determine everything concerning my kids.

Melo: If Truth is crazy about his dogs imagine what he would be like with his son.

Baby: Crying, crying, crying

Truth: HEAL!, SIT!,

Baby: Crying, crying, crying

Truth: (calling the baby’s mamma) The boy is crying and want stop

Mamma: He may need his diaper changed. Make sure he is finished before putting a new diaper on.

Truth is trying to walk the baby.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:26 pm

@Professor- You can hold it for him while he takes a piss also..lmao

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:26 pm

Single Lady- I agree!!

Melo

June 18th, 2009
2:27 pm

there’s a difference between “spoiling” your woman and treating her well in general?

Yeah there is.”Spoiling” depends on her/ur level of contentness and ur ability to do so.
Treating her well is a given, a default that we should accord our mates.
Spooiling to me alludes to the splashing of money/gifts,treats,left right and center in order to please to please her.Can be jus pure innocent love or may be motivated by other ulterior motives.Only the spoiler can truly tell.

You know she’s not naive enough to take that bait, tho

naive?,No,no way! Grown,i think so.Boarz is as tame as the tiger in the zoo!

:lol:

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:28 pm

mytwocents Sometimes being “spoiled” is the beauty of the relationship. If he and she are low maintenence in eachothers own regard.

What he likes/wants is peon work/peanut cost to her meeting the need.

What she likes/wants is pleasing for him to do for her because he doesn’t want anyone else to outdo him.

Professor (went to lunch early and now I am back hungry)

June 18th, 2009
2:29 pm

@W8 No comment on that I had something to say but I am going to hold back

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
2:30 pm

My initial post about being spoiled was actually rather tongue in cheek. However, since it seems to be a point that makes you stand and roar, I will say this – I simply take issue with the negative connotation of that specific word, not the premise that seems to be behind it.

I am all for indulgences when earned, praise to reinforce good qualities and rewards for outstanding performance. It is MY opinion that ’spoiled’ infers overindulgence and excess to the point of ruin.

(That’s just the view from my window on the world).

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:31 pm

@MY.02- You and Jam have so many dang names for me I cant tell when you are talking to me or not? lol

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
2:32 pm

“So when does the gf get to meet your kids?” – When I decide I want to marry her.

For Real – Just goes back to my “recipe for disaster” statement. You decide you want to marry her, then she meets your kid and you realize she won’t make a good mom.

Now the kid has met some woman you aren’t keeping anyway.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:34 pm

baby mama drama..no matter how crazy she is or tries to be HANDLE THAT CRAP.. a woman only does what you allow her to..yeah I said allow..it may take a minute but handle that crap

Alvin

June 18th, 2009
2:34 pm

(Most times I do take the high road but when it comes to my child there is no road.)

it’s do or die…fugg the rest…

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
2:35 pm

Hey are we Blog hanging again today? I had a really good time last time. If so, I suggest Barley’s http://www.barleysatl.com/ they got pool tables.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:35 pm

Most guy hangouts really don’t have giftcards. I mean I have yet to see a gift card to Magic City, Blue Flame Lounge, Strokers, etc. You’d be better off giving him a stack of singles.

PoppaG Of course! I’m such a female! lol…The HD and gas card come off as “work/domestic”, as nice and practical as the are. The idea is…”baby go play with your potnahs”…so billards, spa…thangs.

Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season

June 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

Been in meetings and trying to catch up – but I had to comment on this:

Random thgt: I LOVE Haribo Gummi Bears ONLY!! Won’t eat any other brand..

Lioness, I only like gummi worms and the best are at the airport by snack club. None other compares….I was craving those gummi worms this morning – gonna get some when I fly to NOLA for the EMF ;-)

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

How does a woman I am dating decide when she is to meet my kids? “Where dey do dat at?” If and when she meets the kids and it isnt vibing then we decide if it’s something we can work on since we are that much closer to marriage. You can’t work on fostering a relationship with your girlfriend while you are still working on your initial relationship.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

Yeah, MAYA, me too on the negative spin. That’s why I’m trying to qualify it. And see how others do as well.

ELIJAH Ahh, so you had the niecies? I bet that’s helped you have a way with the ladies. And probably why you seem to play so well with others of the opposite sex lol. You, I could definitely see having a super spoiled little princess.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

sorry for the bold tag ya’ll.

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

I agree with SCool and her opinion of being spoiled. IMHO I see it as a negative connotation, especiallys if a grown azz woman is walking around saying she is spoiled. Seems kinda immature in my opinion.

I am an only child and people generally assume I am spoiled, especially dudes. I’m like “how can I be spoiled when I worked way through college on my own, moved out of the house when I was 19 years old and have always worked and payed for EVERYTHING myself? Not only that, but my parents don’t spoil me in any way”. It’s just funny when some women spew “I’m an INDEPENDENT WOMAN”, then contradict themselves by saying “I’M SPOILED”. Seriously. GTFOH. Spoiled and independent is an oxymoron imho.

I guess everyone has their own definition of being spoiled.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:38 pm

@For Real- I like Barley’s

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
2:39 pm

Yeah Barleys is nice..

Ahhh Bloggin from the park is cool except it is hotter than hookers in Brazil out here.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
2:40 pm

Yup, Barley’s is the spot. Like their game nights too.

Alvin

June 18th, 2009
2:40 pm

I will get better with typing on my pda…my spelling and typos suck without microsoft words to help me out

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
2:40 pm

W8 a daggone minute! That’s a name you gave yourself. See, I try to allow you some freedom of expression, and this is the thanks I get. Back to the bad boy corner with Zulu :evil:

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:40 pm

lol @ W8 tombout – “Where day do dat at?”

Alvin

June 18th, 2009
2:42 pm

Ahhh Bloggin from the park is cool except it is hotter than hookers in Brazil out here.

Hellz Yeah…I am loving these ladies in sundresses…there is a God!!

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:42 pm

Ared- I agree with your 2:32 comment.

Taz- Yum! Have fun in the NO. You would have to pay me to go to that place..

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:43 pm

There is a difference in a person being spoiled and a person acting like she is “self-entitled”

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
2:43 pm

LOL @ “tombout” …SCool, 2Can used to say that all the time. Tell him I said hi if you still talk to him. That reminded me of him lol.

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:45 pm

Page- I am a GROWN TAIL woman that is SPOILED!! You might have a problem with me if we meet but you will HAVE to get over it ;)

Mo- You going out tonight?

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:45 pm

@MY.02- You can only call me Lee Lovebone on PornStar Wednesday’s…lol

lol@Ce- that is one of the best saying of all time…lol

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:45 pm

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
2:45 pm

Ared: I don’t have to see you interact with kids to know if you will/are a good mom. Since I have kids finding out what type of mom she would be is a must before I would even consider marrying her. It’s called due dilligence.

W8: I agree with you on that so called baby mamma ish. I don’t refer to her as my baby mamma so I don’t put up with any of that foolishness. My kids, my responisbility, my rules period. I don’t have time to waste on someone tripping about their feelings or trying to prove something themselves. I got two grown men I’m raising.

Alvin: Agree 100%. I’m ready to die for mines at any given moment.

Cee: I don’t know how much you planning on spending but a good friend of mines rented me a limo for me and my crew.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:46 pm

Tazzee – I forgot you’re going to Ne’Awlins for the Essence Music Festival. You’ll see Maze! GOOD!!!…lol…i’m laughing hard.

…you are going to love it!

Alvin

June 18th, 2009
2:47 pm

For Real…thats my spot…they got the BBBBIGGGG table…I owe you an a$$ whipping for that skit from last year…I will try to leave you with 9 balls on the table…and if I am semi-drunk…you may not get off a shot, LOL

I am now hoping F.R. Jacob over look this post

Melo

June 18th, 2009
2:47 pm

Spoiled and independent is an oxymoron

I dont think it is.

Spoiled jus means the guy or who ever spashes stuff on her,it dont mean she cant do without that.In some instances, the gerlz who are spoiled have the men on a spell,they dazzled by the beauty,the nice smelling honey jar or both.In other cases,the man just loves hiz girl and spoils her but still,it dont mean she aint independent as such.
I will spoil if im angling for it and i want a quick exit.
Spoiling can be the quickest way to get to ooohhh daaaamnn!,ugggghhhh,jesus umphhhhh!(i tend to make lots of noise when in-deep) :lol:

:lol:

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
2:48 pm

Lioness, ok well, you go girl. I wouldn’t have any kind of problem with anyone who claims they are spoiled. No need for that. We will agree to disagree.

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
2:48 pm

You got baby mama drama – Eat my dust!

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:49 pm

Barley’s is ghetto, they don’t have giftcards.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
2:49 pm

LEE – Stop limiting yourself. Those LOVEBONE talents should not be confined to Wednesdays!

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:49 pm

Page- YAY!! Like yesterday :mrgreen:

Sexy- :lol: :lol: :lol:

Lioness- Just Keeping it Real!

June 18th, 2009
2:49 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
2:50 pm

See all the new dude is doing is trying to mark his territory with his rules and guidelines but the guidelines change when a child is involved. I’m beyond the chest thumping, tongue wrasslin and Dyck Measuring. I have a son that needs me and that the bottom line with that.

As far as a woman meeting my child.. We will know when the time is right. It will just happen when its supposed to.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
2:50 pm

But they have GREAT karaoke.

Tazzee

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
2:50 pm

Cee

We don’t groom together so spa/barber thing really wasn’t a hang with the potnahs thing. Think about it. Star Jones ex-hubby did the spa thing with his “friends”.

We hang to most at cool spots to get a drink or sporting events or both. The last time that we all hung out was at Game 4 of the Hawk v. Cavs playoff game. One of the guys is a bartender so we hang out at his bar from time to time. Christmas ev,e we went there and got all appetizers on the menu for free. We drunk Sake, watched a Christmas Story, and talk a lot of shyt. We had the bar to ourselves.

In a related note, the guys tried to get me to hang out with them last night at Luckie Lounge since I live right down the street from there. I am glad that I didn’t since folk were acting up in there. Two people got stabbed in there last night.

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
2:50 pm

Random Words of Wisdom – It’s usually not as bad as it seems, only as bad as YOU think it is.

Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season

June 18th, 2009
2:51 pm

Cemeeli – we’re not staying for the Sunday night concerts so I won’t have to endure Maze for the 5th time with no new songs ;-)

For Real – so even if she doesn’t have kids and has never interacted with yours you’ll know if she will be a good mom? I guess… I know that I deal with kids very differently. Because I don’t interact with them on a regular basis, sometimes its difficult for me to remember that they aren’t adults.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:51 pm

@For Real- I feel you on that drama crap..

@MY.02- YOU STINK!!!! And i am not telling anyone else

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
2:52 pm

Ared: I don’t have to see you interact with kids to know if you will/are a good mom. Since I have kids finding out what type of mom she would be is a must before I would even consider marrying her. It’s called due dilligence.

And bringing YOUR kid into the equation could be a whole different thing. That’s the kid the woman has to live with and parent. Your kid has it’s unique personality and make up and it’s not going to mesh well with every person who comes around him, doesn’t matter if you want to wife her.

It’s cool. Agree to disagree.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
2:52 pm

Barleys is maybe one step above Louise’s (poolhall on Boone formerly known as Simpson).

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
2:52 pm

HAHAhaaaaaaaaaaaaa CEE You is CWASI, chica! Why come they gotta be ghetto cuz they don’t have gift cards? Maybe whoever answered the phone thinks you’re ghetto for tryna buy a giftcard! Note to All: I HATE Giftcards! (Sorry, Lioness, but it’s worse than a strong dislike.)

Alvin

June 18th, 2009
2:52 pm

For Real…sad thing though…I am like that even when I am at the Boys and Girls club…folks be like…don’t fugg with kids under Alvin’s care…li’dude is the truth!!

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
2:52 pm

I have no problem spoiling myself.. Actually, I almost ALWAYS do :mrgreen: Can’t help that I am SUCH a DESERVING person **shrugs**

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:54 pm

@Cee- get him floor seats to the Atlanta Dream game so he can sit there and wathc thos tall women run back and forth with the sweat glistening all over their baaaaaaawdddddiess..mmm hmmmm

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
2:55 pm

Mytwo- You are soooooo FUNNY!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
2:56 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
2:58 pm

PG – I limit my time in the Hollywood spots. I like the underground spots that aint hot yet. The ones that have a nice sensible crowd and everybody knows how to act. Now when I start seeing pants around ankles, Bandanas and bling(generic or real), I usually find me a new spot.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
2:58 pm

LOL every year my daughter asked me what I want for Fathers day /bday/xmas…ever since she was a baby I have always replied with a big hug amd a kiss on the cheeks and on those days I get them..that lil convo is or thing..lmao..so the other day she asked me and I say Filet Mignon and Steak..she paused and laughed cuz she remembered thats what she asked for the last time she and I went out on a date..lmao..she said okay Dad, I got money…I love that lil girl…I aint going to let her pay but i am darn sure going to get my hug and kiss…

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
2:59 pm

SEXYCOOL I wanna go to the place you had your birthday party last year. I heard they have skating but couldn’t verify. Reminds me to order my purty skates. Lemme find a reason I deserve the treat.

W8 Me nub u too, sucka! Now shhhh

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:00 pm

barley’s is crowded on weekends..how is it during the week?

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
3:01 pm

Page: “It’s just funny when some women spew “I’m an INDEPENDENT WOMAN”, then contradict themselves by saying “I’M SPOILED”.” – Real talk right there!!

“I owe you an a$$ whipping for that skit from last year…I will try to leave you with 9 balls on the table…and if I am semi-drunk…you may not get off a shot” – For Real now throwing sand on the floor and starts doing the ritual “Tap Dance” for a challenge in front of Alvin.

Cee: Dayumm!!! Too funny!

PG: I read about that this morning but I have never been to Lucky I couldn’t get pass the $20 for parking.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:01 pm

Thanks folks.

ForReal and PoppaG My girl friend thanks you all for the great ideas. She is lurking.

She’s shy, but the sistah is bank! Lol…I ain’t mad at her.

My boo gets a card. :wink:

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
3:02 pm

MyTwo – we were at MetroBowl, which is connected to MetroSkates, which is connected to MetroFitness, formerly Run and Shoot on Metropolitan, formerly Stewart Ave. (I keeps it hood – gnr!)

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
3:02 pm

Oh and one more thing on the fathering.. If you got kids but you do more for somebody elses chillren than you do for your own you dead wrong. Thats what a lot of cats do get all enamered with the new chicka and forget their responsibilities they already have.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
3:03 pm

W8

Speaking of the Dream. Chamique Holdsclaw is an old friend of mine. She is now on the Dream.

I gave my little sister a signed t-shirt from the 1996 Tenn. Vol. National Championship team.
My sis went on to play basketball for Syracuse in the fall of 96.

I had tickets to the opening game of this season but gave them away.

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:04 pm

Page- “It’s just funny when some women spew “I’m an INDEPENDENT WOMAN”, then contradict themselves by saying “I’M SPOILED”.” <– What doesn ONE have to do with the OTHER?

I LOVE IT!! Keep it coming :mrgreen:

Jamoca

June 18th, 2009
3:04 pm

sigh…skimming through

As for “dating” …pleeeaaassse what’s that??? But honestly, the answer is absolutely NOT. There is no reason for someone that I’m simply interested in and vice versa for them to meet my daughters AT ALL. Come to think of it, it’s been many moons since my daughters have seen ANY man (besides family), walk through my door, especially since they already know by that move alone, would definitely mean it’s the real deal….but even then, I would suggest different location for such an introduction. Which is another reason why I refer to stay in my own “circle”. Since there will be occasions that one must be able to relate, without a whole lot of explanation, insecurities, and second guessing.

Again…I’ve stated my daughters have no contact with their “other halves,” and that’s unfortunate enough as it is, but from where I sit, it is in their best interest that the decision was made. I’m not one for the in & out relationship, since I know first hand what that kind of thing does to a child. My thing is, you’re either in their life or you are not. There is no in between. So when I began to notice the trend years ago, as their mother I put a stop to it. Not one for confrontations, battling or any misunderstandings that can easily escalade into more serious matters. But at some point, someone has/must take the reins —> for the sake of the child(ren). And that is where I am…that is where I’ve been for some time now.

And for the record, I know exactly who and what I am in this equation. I am their mother. Simply put. However, if I see there is a need I will do my best to fulfill it and give it all that I have. Be it “the man’s job or not” – there is a need. No time to blow smoke and pity because of an absent parent. There is a need. Fulfill it.

Does this make me a superwoman? Do I proclaim to the mountain top that I am in fact “that superwoman? No.

But I will say this: I refuse to be or allow myself to feel inadequate and/or belittled for giving my daughters the best that I’ve got. This is not a competition. IMO, it’s survival of the fittest by making due with whatever resources you have. Sure, I have plenty family to extended family. And I’ve long ago come to the realization that it does not compare..even still…to not having their father(s) as an active role in their lives. Hmph, truth be told, little girls need their fathers just as badly…for he is/would be the very first relationship she has ever had with a man…sure there are certain things I can “tell” …but he’d be the better candidate for “showing” her. And although I am a woman, and I’m raising young ladies myself…sure theirs a plethora of issues that I can relate to, but then there are others that would be interpreted better or rather efficiently from a father figure.

However, I refuse to dwell on such an unfortunate fact with such wasted energy. For it is also my duty to show them how to carry on and make the best of a bad situation. Life is full of them. However, it’s no excuse to allow such things to define who you are. We still have a responsibility to make the best decisions possible, no matter the cards we’re dealt.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:07 pm

@PG- I love Womens BBall and Women’s Vball for reasons that I will not post on here

janellscloset

June 18th, 2009
3:07 pm

Cemeeli that was funny.

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. Men are har to shop for.

Don’t let Cemeelii fool you all she is a great person. I simply love her.

Thank you.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:09 pm

W8 – I’m going to WNBA games too if he get those tickets. And no sitting next to the players. You silly.

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:09 pm

Jcloset- I agree she reads like a WONDERUK person! Can’t wait to meet her :)

Being spoiled means that you aren’t independent??

Melo

June 18th, 2009
3:09 pm

Now when I start seeing pants around ankles, Bandanas and bling(generic or real), I usually find me a new spot.

So DK/PG,uall afr/american men,is bandanas,saggy pants and neck tats just a juvenile thang,a gang thang,a hood thang or an ill informed youth thang or an afr/american societal thang??

Whats ur take?

As a pure breed african,ofcourse some thangs to me are askance but i wanna understand from ur perspective,assuming uall afr/american.
Thnx

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
3:09 pm

Janellscloset – Well if you love Ce, I bet you wont kiss her. Hold up for a minute until I get there though..

Had to get you cause that sounded so “Happy”

Thank you.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:09 pm

Janell!

Hey you!

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
3:09 pm

Cee dude talking to his boys……

Cee Dude: What fellas, check it my girl got us some spa passes!!!

Fellas: What?

CD: Yeah spa passes my nizzel. We gon be ballin up in there!!

Fellas: We going with our ladies?

CD: Nawwwww boy it’s the crew!

Fellas: Magic City got a spa now!!!

CD: Naw man dey ain’t got no spa. It’s Spa Seyedell…

Fellas: You know how I know you gay?

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
3:10 pm

DK

I limit my time in the Hollywood spots.

I do too. I haven’t been to Luckie yet.

I live less than two miles from the place. I am a fan of places where I can just chill. I will give them credit, you can’t tell that it was auto repair place just a few years ago. They didn’t tear down the building, they worked it out.

For Real

The $20 parking thing kinda erks me, too. Rays on the River is nicer and they don’t charge that kind of money.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:11 pm

DK – Now how you gonna me ME twisted?

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
3:11 pm

Lioness, what? That’s my opinion. If you don’t agree with it, then it’s really fine, really. Like I already mentioned, to ME it’s an oxymoron.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:12 pm

Hey Janel and Ce are about to kiss?

@Melo- When I see that I know it’s not my environment. I see it as a youth thing..I don’t know why adult males do it

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
3:12 pm

I love Womens BBall and Women’s Vball for reasons that I will not post on here

Hmmm…that’s one or two of the reasons I like to watch the NBA and NFL ;) :mrgreen:

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:14 pm

awww…

ForReal – How bout Janell was gonna send him to Spa Sydell for real!?!?! I voted NO!

She meant well.

Melo

June 18th, 2009
3:14 pm

but the sistah is bank
meaning CEE??

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:14 pm

LMAO@For Real-3:09 You just don’t do somethings with fellas..I get manicures..i am comfortable with that but that is nothing I would go do with the fellas..lol

ON the Independent spoiled thing…I dont care if a womoan is that way..just don’t try and hold me to your standard or keep telling me..I dont give a fudge..I give from my heart.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
3:16 pm

Being spoiled means that you aren’t independent??

Lioness I was wondering the same thing b/c I get called that often BUT I’m like if it’s ME spoiling ME then why are YOU hatin’…cause that’s what it really sounds like pure-d-hateration in this nation….

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
3:16 pm

POPPA…I gave my dad a $50 BP card and he loved it…you know since gas in NY is Ri-d#mn-diculous!

PAGE..I am spoiled because I spoil myself! :lol: I just got back from the mall…bought a thing during a lunch time break! And at least I know why I spoil myself…I don’t have anybody thinking that I owe them anything because they bought me something. No thanks. I will get it myself and take pride when I wear it because I bought it.

W8….your father’s day is going to be great!

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:16 pm

Page- I didn’t mean to type your name AT ALL!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:16 pm

@Sassy- I was at a womans Volley Ball game when I was married and living in Hawaii..I got elbowed in the gut by my then wife..she goes Don’t look at them like that ..that is the look that you give me when we are…….lmao

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:16 pm

I read about that this morning but I have never been to Lucky I couldn’t get pass the $20 for parking.

Been there, done it.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
3:17 pm

POPPA…I gave my dad a $50 BP card and he loved it…you know since gas in NY is crazy!

PAGE..I am spoiled because I spoil myself! :lol: I just got back from the mall…bought a thing during a lunch time break! And at least I know why I spoil myself…I don’t have anybody thinking that I owe them anything because they bought me something. No thanks. I will get it myself and take pride when I wear it because I bought it.

W8….your father’s day is going to be great!

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
3:17 pm

Since we’re talking about pampering and gifts and all…

What kind of day do you plan for a guy here in ATL. He lives in DC but is in town and will be turning 35 while he’s here.

And no, black cake is not an option! :lol:

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
3:18 pm

Melo

So DK/PG,uall afr/american men,is bandanas,saggy pants and neck tats just a juvenile thang,a gang thang,a hood thang or an ill informed youth thang or an afr/american societal thang??

Its an immature thang to me. Most kids aren’t gangbangers. So are, but most aren’t. Most kid’s want it because it is what they see their hip hop folks wearing and they think that it is cool.

It was like when I was in high school and everyone had to have a starter jacket or cross colors. Or when I was even younger, the fat boy laces in the addidas (Thanx to Run/DMC). Kangols with LL Cool J. The list goes on and on.

Most of the kids are just emulating what they see.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:18 pm

Ifa woman is spoiled and independent that is fine..I just dont want to hear how you spoil yourself…you dont need to tell me for validation…hell good for you keep spoiling yourself..save me some money

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:18 pm

W8- Thank the LAWD!!

Sassy- Shyte, I am VERY independent & I am spoiled SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.. I think only the people who haven’t EVER been spoiled in their lives feel so passionately about other people being spoiled :) I don’t hate, I congratulate ;)

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:19 pm

Ared- Birthday Sex

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
3:20 pm

Melo: That’s just young boys trying to fit in to what the young ladies like and since the young ladies like rappers well you get it. My son tried it one day and I snatched he jeans over his head.

Janel and Cee are kissing. Let me get my backup cameraphone battery!

Melo

June 18th, 2009
3:20 pm

janellscloset,u shopping for ur man and were asking for suggestions??
missed that.

Wld have asked u for his age.If he 55/60 :arrow: get him a pack of cialis/viagra,u do good on the day. :lol:

Younger,get him the spa treatment thang like the guys suggested,when he comes home,hes ready to go .
Merry father’s Day!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:20 pm

@Staceye-Yup Sunday will be a great day..lil man will be with his mom somewhere..me and the princess will be at Church first the dinner aftewards…then I have to come see you and my sister dance…you didnt tell her I was coming did you?

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:22 pm

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
3:23 pm

Ummmmmmmm ok, like I said earlier, MY definition of being spoiled is obviously different from others. LOL @ hatin on that. Seriously? DO YOU!

Melo

June 18th, 2009
3:23 pm

He lives in DC but is in town and will be turning 35 while he’s here.

Is he ur guy,are u eyeing him or wanna send a message to that effect or he is jus a friend(thats a song by the way)??

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:23 pm

Melo- LMAO!! I had to post twice cause you ARE a FOOL!

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
3:24 pm

JANELL She is a sweet pea for sure. But ya know she’s crazy like a fox sometimes. ;)

SEXYC I’m a chameleon and can be comfortable N-E-Where…Grimey to top of the line, but always in moderation. I do chuckle sometimes cuz it’s almost like living a double life. Like on my bday, we’re at Chops, eating lobster tails, sipping Riesling … weighing the Pros & Cons of going to Central Station lololololol I didn’t feel like I deserved that much of a treat, tho!

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:24 pm

Page- You can’t deny that there are a TON of haters in the “A”,, :lol: :lol: :lol: Glad I am not one though :lol:

Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity

June 18th, 2009
3:25 pm

I think I have met the one man in America who would turn any woman into a Lesbian. King of the Jack-legs.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
3:25 pm

W8

I love Womens BBall and Women’s Vball for reasons that I will not post on here

I knew a few of the UGA womens players (some thanks to Brandi and Brice), but I liked those UGA volleyball women. They really were amazons. I knew a couple of the gymnast there too.

I grew up around Basketball. My dad played in HS and tried to get me down that route. I played in junior high, but stuck to football in HS. I should have listened since they have guarantee contracts and all.

Looking at the group in next weeks NBA draft, I probably should put my name in. It looks weak. Blake Griffin is considered the best and he is still really raw.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
3:25 pm

Is he ur guy,are u eyeing him or wanna send a message to that effect or he is jus a friend(thats a song by the way)??

LOL. What difference does it make?

I guess we’ve eyed each other for several years now, but he’s just a friend.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
3:25 pm

W8…nope…she has no clue. I got cute picutres from last week of her and her dance group. She will be so shocked. She’s really good too. You should bring your daughter…if she is not busy. Try to get there by 6:30 to get the best seating to shock the crap out of your sister.

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
3:26 pm

Considering I am new to the “A”, I can honestly say I don’t know any “haters”. Guess I am lucky:)

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
3:26 pm

My nephew is 5′8″ and he is 12 years old. He loves b-ball. We might let him play this year. Grades first though.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:26 pm

Why Cali girls on here always causing beef?
(Runs from ARed and Page) lol….it’s a joke!!! lol

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
3:27 pm

Spoil independent woman convo……

Chick: I spoil and treat myself all the time.

Dude: Okay.

Chick: I expect my man to at least treat me as well as I treat myself.

Dude: Okay so how do you treat yourself?

Chick: Very well, like yesterday I went to Macy’s and bought 4 skirts they were on sale for $4 each.

Dude: That was a great deal

Chick: Yeah it and then I treated myself to dinner at Crickets.

Dude: Oh okay. Well let me treat you to dinner. Where do you want to go?

Chick: Bones!

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:27 pm

Mytwo- Funny you mentioned Central Station.. All the hood chicks I have been around mentioned Central Station and my silly tail was correcting them saying “You mean Atlantic Station” those heffas was like ” NO CENTRAL STATION in East Point” I was like OH HELL TO DA NAW!! Chop is a Yummy restaurant & so is the Greek one.. Can’t remember the name of it but it is apart of the Buckhead Life Group..

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
3:28 pm

W8 I have openly lusted after basketball players and sometimes I think I just can’t help it….it’s like a reflex or somethin’ or maybe it’t that whole opposites attract thing I don’t know(i’m 5″3′ and I like a man I can climb when I get on top)….but I feel like Pookey it just be callin’ me and I gotta go to it man

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
3:28 pm

LOL *mean muggin* @ W8. Don’t look at me…*looking at ARed* lol

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:29 pm

@PG- Our world is way to small I know Brandi Personally and me and Brice grew up together when I lived with my mom. We played ball in highschool together I was in his funeral..You know Jeff(JT) , Busta, Randell,Ivory…hell Brandi sold me 2 homes…

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
3:30 pm

Cuz we’re OGs.

*throws 4 fingas up, two twisted in the middle* :lol:

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:30 pm

@Staceye- she is putting together some wellness cruise next year did you get that info yet?

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
3:30 pm

If he’s JUST a friend, why plan a DAY?

Send him a ‘Happy Birthday’ text and be done with it?

Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:30 pm

Page- :lol: Welcome to the “A”! Not sure if it is luck but you can call it that..

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
3:31 pm

LOL ARed. *now crip walking rocking my pink Chuck Taylor’s* lmao

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:33 pm

Dang, ya’ll like family for real!

Showin’ out in front of company.

I have one guest come out and cain’t get DK to stop whispering in her ear talkin’ crazy.

lol…lub yall.

Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)

June 18th, 2009
3:33 pm

Page1908 – thanks for letting me know about tonight!! They been working a sistah!!

Lioness – yeah Im rolling to Barley’s, I know im late as h3ll responding to you! :smile:

We are doing Barley’s right, I’ve never been there during the week

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:33 pm

Lioness rotf…:lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
3:34 pm

If he’s JUST a friend, why plan a DAY?

Uh, cuz he’s a friend, he’s in town and we have a free day. *shrugs*

Do you tell friends that visit you that they’re on their own, and send em off with a map, they can’t even get sight seeing out of you? :???:

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
3:34 pm

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
3:34 pm

FYI ~ Barley’s has 7 parking spots that they own (LOL). There are two paid parking lots next to them. One is $10 and the other is $15.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
3:35 pm

SASSAFRASS When it comes to the NBA, I luv that game. But I have been very promiscuous the way I go thru my NBA boyfriends. And I paid the price by going with the Magic because the ones I truly love aren’t all on the same team. Plus, the Celtics just didn’t make it far enough. I used to wanna go to LSU based on the football team. That was shut down :)

CUTIE I think the first time, I thought that’s what she meant too. But I knew they had some hangout spots, so thought nothing of why we’d head out so late. I ain’t grown enough to see some of the stuff I’ve seen. I know enough about you to say you are too delicate for it hahaaaa. Now if I go again, I’ma ask DEMI to escort me cuz that sommamabench is pscyho!

Melo

June 18th, 2009
3:36 pm

LOL. What difference does it make?

If a friend boght me boxers or some such nether area dressings,i wld be in a conundrum,esp knowing shes dry right now! :lol: hence my qstion.
U arent considering geting him that are u,if not why?

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:37 pm

Cee- ;) You coming out?????

Mo- Cool! Can’t wait to meet you

Leggs- I don’t pay for parking.. Park on the street over from that place..

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
3:38 pm

U arent considering geting him that are u,if not why?

I’m not buying him a gift. Especially something like boxers.

SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.

June 18th, 2009
3:39 pm

Cause you said pampering and gifts and birthday all in the same sentence. That implied that you wanted to do something special for him for his birthday.

One of my bff’s was here recently. I took her to eat at Chow Baby, to the King Center cause she had never been. We rode through Atlantic Station, down Peachtree Street starting at Lenox Road all the way through the Five Points/Underground area.

Then I took her butt back to the hotel. Friend/Tour Guide duties fulfilled.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:39 pm

@Ared- umm is he Husband material?…lol

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:40 pm

Mytwo- I just might surprise.. Not too much is delicate to hood spots, I just tend to avoid them cause of the “haters”.. I am cute but I don’t have no time for anyone to carry any kind of way.. I have heard of the stuff that coes in that place BUT I heard that people can’t resist the $3 drinks

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:40 pm

…Hop up out da beeeeeeeeddddddd..turn my swag on……

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
3:40 pm

lol…. Parking is free during the week.

Demi I will be looking for you bruh. I will have on something tailored by Musing.

Mo: Make sure you wear that tennis skirt. I can’t wait to see you hike a leg on the pool table.

Janell: I am a very good friend of Cee. We went to the same college. I would like to welcome you with some complimentary Black Cake. God made with his own hands.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
3:41 pm

PAGINA 1908 Did you live here before and come back?

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
3:42 pm

Mytwo guul when it comes to NBA boyfriends I’ve been around myself…it started with Allen Iverson and them cornrows and tats….oooh. Dwight Howard is my man right now though…..he’s sooo tall and everytime I see him I squeel!…tastey :)

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
3:43 pm

W8…yeah she FB’d the info. I am thinking of going.

DOS CENTAVOS…you know I got my NBA hubbys….Hedo Turkoglu, Dwight Howard (yeah it’s skanky that they play for the same team :lol: )

LIONESS…girl I am wiht you…I do not pay to park either. I will walk my happy a$$ around the block and park. Why would I pay you to park..but if something happend to my car in your lot you wanna claim no repsonsibility? Hellz nah! :lol:

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
3:43 pm

Page – MY definition of being spoiled is obviously different from others.

IMO rewarding yourself and spoiling yourself are two different things. So, I guess that I agree with you more.

I dropped that last girlfriend before my wifey came along because of her being spoiled. Parents paid her way through Princeton. She got a scholarship to Georgetown Med School.

She got everything when she wanted and how she wanted. She asked for a BMW 5 series car and complained when her parents gave her BMW 3 series car. She even complained that it wasn’t the color that she asked for. They gave her a black American Express to put her expenses on while in college and kept it active after she got her own job as a pediatrician.

She was like some of the kids on the Sweet Sixteen show on MTV. It ain’t cute for them, and it ain’t cute for a female over 20 years old either.

She had a sense of entitlement that really irked me. Her parents made her that way. So they should have her. She has been engaged (of course folks tell me about her and showed me the engagement announcement from the local paper) since our split. However, they never made it to altar for whatever reason.

What Lioness is talking about doing for herself sounds more like rewarding herself. She works and earns what she does for herself. It isn’t given to her just because.

Instilling a sense of entitlement doesn’t help your kids to become productive members of society. In my day, I didn’t get paid for stuff that was expected like good grades, cleaning my room, etc. IMO giving rewards for what is expected just lowers expectations. That is why you hear someone say “I take care of my kids” and expect some praise for some shyt that they are supposed to do.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:44 pm

@For Real- you holding it down tonight? You left me hanging last week

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
3:44 pm

@Ared- umm is he Husband material?…lol

He has everything in place, but since I’ve known him he’s been quite the man wh0re, which is why we are friends. ;)

Y’all ain’t got any suggestions? Some use you are! :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)

June 18th, 2009
3:45 pm

For Real – I’ll see what I can do :smile:

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:46 pm

Lioness – My other cousins, 97 degrees, downtown ATL, at Barley’s,and Monkey Worth together?

hmmm….

Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara

June 18th, 2009
3:46 pm

NEWSFLASH…..I just bought a rhinestoned Skulls & Crossbones flask! :lol: You know how much I love S & CB!

PAGE…they had matching table accesories…you know I was tempted to get them. :lol:

Ok…now back to our regularly scheduled madness!

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
3:47 pm

CUTIE WTF Eva! If you reject Ultimate on Camp Creek, ain’t no way you gonna accept ‘The Station :p: And I believe the dranks are $2. Wanna go with me & DEMI (We’ll tell him he’s takin us later)

Lil MO It’s been 6 months since you mentioned those highlights ncut! My hair seems like it’s halfway back now. This heat makes me wanna revisit the chop shop, tho.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
3:48 pm

Oh and my hair aint fixed. I promise if ONE person come back talking about my pull back!

Rell - playmaker!!!

June 18th, 2009
3:49 pm

Whats the resume fam?!?!

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
3:50 pm

W8: I was the dude cleaning up after 2E’s. Yeah I’ll be there tonight. I got some brakes I got to beat off.

Ared: Get him drunk and then take him on a balloon ride. Or get him drunk and take him to see Hangover. Or get him drunk watch him pass out and then get his wallet and then call me and get me drunk.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:50 pm

@Staceye- I dont do cruises..yall are on your own with that one

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
3:52 pm

Dos Centavos- No, I moved to Atlanta in November 2007. I have never lived anywhere else but the West Coast, so this is all still very new to me.

Staceye- OMG didn’t I tell your butt to stay outta the stores! Ohhhh matching table accesories…NICE…lol. After you got me caught up in Hobby Lobby I thought you were done lol. We gonna spray paint this weekend? I found some S & CB fabric at Michael’s. Do you need some??

PG- ^5.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
3:52 pm

One of my bff’s was here recently. I took her to eat at Chow Baby, to the King Center cause she had never been. We rode through Atlantic Station, down Peachtree Street starting at Lenox Road all the way through the Five Points/Underground area.

Then I took her butt back to the hotel. Friend/Tour Guide duties fulfilled.

SexyCool – Thanks. That’s more of what I had in mind.

I said we were on the subject, doesn’t mean I was trying to pamper or give gifts. Though I think birthdays of my friends are special whether they are male or female, especially milestone bdays.

Melo

June 18th, 2009
3:53 pm

Cam,for u to roll into Central Station,u might want to get ur neck tat first.That way,they think u roll with them.
Cause those hood chics might molest u if u walk in there plain plain.
First they mean mugg u in ur plain eye sight,biaacth about ur behind within ur earshot, whislt ur azz is smelling itself at the counter getting a drank and if u make the mistake of talking back,they smack ur tiny fragile azz.
U be lucky if after that,the hood shims dont take u to their E.Point hide out for a phuck fest just to spite u.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:53 pm

Staceye- Girl, we are NYers FOR REAL!!! LMAO @ the flask!!

Cee- W8 has nothing to worry about.. I will be preoccupied anyways :) Bring your sweet self on!

MYtwo- The Ultimate is cool just the first & last time I was there I was TOW DOWN!!! The news guy from channel 2 was there and trying to feed words into my head! We did the WHOLE of Old Nattie that night.. It was the night that time fell back an housr and we used the HELL out of that hour! Lawd!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:53 pm

Ce- Whats wrong with your hair?

@Staceye- Only the devil likes Skull and Bones…just saying

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
3:54 pm

For Real now pickup up the brush they threw in Poetic Justice and handing it to Cee.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
3:54 pm

STACE I can see you after Turkgolu since he’s off the beaten path. Now pass me the vaseline. SASSAFRASS must know that me & AI have reconciled and are tryna make this work. Why she gotta let his name come out her mouth?!?!

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
3:54 pm

That big body of water with all the big fish underneath is mind boggling, HUH?

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:55 pm

PG- THANK YOU!! Sometimes I feel that you are one of the FEW people on here that get me :lol: :lol: :lol: Like I really care who doesn’t but ya know :)

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:55 pm

@Central Station- thats like a free strip club…was in there under cover a few times

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
3:55 pm

Or get him drunk watch him pass out and then get his wallet and then call me and get me drunk

:lol:

That may be doable. I asked him if he was checking bags (avoid fees!) and he said yes because he has a big ole bottle of Henny that he’s bringing with him. I had to remind him that we have liquor stores here, but that bottle is already paid for. :lol:

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
3:56 pm

CUTIE/STACE I was just thinkin’ I need a new, engraved one. I keep getting my silver one mixed up.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:56 pm

Lioness going to Barley’s yall can count me out

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
3:57 pm

Even more out than i already am..lol

Demi

June 18th, 2009
3:57 pm

I tell yuh if yuh come wid yuh competition come straight way
Cause yuh come sideways rudebwoy, phenomenon one, oonu listen

There’s nothin you can do that make me run away from this clash yah, this clash yah
And there is no DJ can put the competition to Ninja, Ninja
Yes I’m tellin yuh from the start I will break yuh little heart
And leave oonu dung a ground cause I’m the real poison dart
There’s no word you can say that it could offend the Ninja, yuh tell mi

Chorus:
Mi gone murder dem, murder dem inna competition a go murder dem
Yuh tell oonu murder dem, murder dem
Inna competition mi a go murder dem

For Real blows back out…trying to keep up with Demi’s serious Reggie move…,peep this=========>In flip flips…

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:57 pm

Melo- They could TRY all of that and be PLEASENTLY surprised that I don’t play a quarter of that! Don’t let the cute face fool you ;)

Melo

June 18th, 2009
3:57 pm

and expect some praise for some “shyt” that they are supposed to do.

The capitol building downtown has been hit by alien asteroids or else some is gonna happen today,watch fox five news for updates!

Poppa cursed today! :lol:

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
3:58 pm

Now pass me the vaseline. SASSAFRASS must know that me & AI have reconciled and are tryna make this work. Why she gotta let his name come out her mouth?!?!

Mytwo that’s cool y’all go ‘head and work it out….so long as I get “my turn” first…he can leave and go back to you afterwards…..OOCHIE WALLY WALLY OOCHIE BANG BANG ;)

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
3:59 pm

ARED Is he staying with you? Regardless, I need for you to work that equation out. He’s bringing liquid courage to fuel his weekend with you. At the very least he’s gonna try to give you a taste test, ya know, as a sign of his appreciation for your hospitality. :mrgreen:

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
3:59 pm

W8- :evil: Peace bro man! Your loss not mine ;)

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:00 pm

Page…Page I will send the message.

Are you hanging too? You are still the voyager i’ve always known.

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:00 pm

thats like a free strip club…was in there under cover

U absolutely sure about that strip club ref, W8 ???,
might have to go there then, myself!

:loL:

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:01 pm

My two & Stac- What yall drinking out of a flask? I mix my drank & put it in a dixie cup and drive wherever I got to go..

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:02 pm

@Melo- Those girls in Central Station…bust it open and bring it back

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:02 pm

At the very least he’s gonna try to give you a taste test, ya know, as a sign of his appreciation for your hospitality

Chile, he’s tried since I’ve known him. He’s flown to see me a full weekend before. He will be staying 1 night as he only has a hotel for 3. And now I have a house with guest bedrooms.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:02 pm

Sassy & Mytwo- LAWD!!!!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:03 pm

@Lioness- Drinking and driving is not cool no matter how you look at it..

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:03 pm

People that go to Central Station blaze where EVER!!! Smelling tail & weed all throughout the club

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:04 pm

Hey Melo my partner owns Body Tap now…just saying

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:04 pm

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:04 pm

Lioness – I knew you were gonna tell on yourself.. You aint spoiled drinking out a dixie cup.. Gangsta maybe but not spoiled

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:04 pm

@ W8 – My hair is jacked up! I’m wearing it pulled back.

@ ForReal – Poetic Justice brush? i’m lost. btw- I went to State waaaay after your time. You old.

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:04 pm

Central Station- thats like a free strip club…it is.

W8…y’all don’t bust weed smoker do you…that would sucks…Demi doesn’t do drugs…does beatin and eating puddy count?

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:06 pm

DK- :lol: :lol: :lol: That is what I try to tell people that INSIST that I am spoiled.. If they only knew I am the MOST down to earth SPOILED Lioness that they will EVER meet in their entire life!!!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:06 pm

@Demi- I dont go after weed smokers..I turn the other way..

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:06 pm

Hey Melo my partner owns Body Tap now…just saying

so are u saying,with ur promo code, i can get goodies on the hush hush and low low??

lemme know takpat78@gmail.com

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:06 pm

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
4:07 pm

my partner owns Body Tap now…just saying

I’ve been there before it was under new mgmt. and it was aaiight. What I did like though was when the chicks would go waay up that pole and dance their way down……

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:08 pm

Lioness – Ohh so you low budget spoiled. You go hard in Family Dollar spoiled. Oh OK I got ya..

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:08 pm

Infamous Lol…aaaaaahhhhh

What about drinking out of an old glass pickle gar? Like faithful sweettea glass.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:09 pm

Melo

Poppa cursed today!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

I do that from time to time. I used to be really bad about it. That what I heard on the football field from age 13 or so. Coaches cussed all the time. So, I did too.

Now that I am heading into law firms and such I don’t want to get into habit. Unfortunately, blacks are really underrepresented in the legal field and most CEOs of companies(aka clients or potential clients) will judge me differently than other races if I am foul me. How can I go to a business lunch being all foul mouth? So, I try to limit it.

If you’d met me 10 years ago, you thought I was a black Popeye with all the cussing that I did.

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:10 pm

Melo…it’s wild there…see girls giving head on the dance floor all the time

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:10 pm

Ared,if u really want ur friend on the str8 and narrow,give him a full demo class in ur house,then send him on his way!

Ur punish him and his wang coz i tell,he be hot as he leaves and then he will re-evaluate ur position since u so close,possibly to ur advantage.
(disclaimer:this only works on condition he hasnt taped ur azz in the past)

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:10 pm

Lioness – We have progressed to the red plastic cups cause the regular dixie cups leak after a while and waste ya drank.

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:10 pm

smh drinking liquor out of a dixie cup and driving. wow.

ARed- Girl, you know they don’t call them “liquor stores” out here lol. You know they are called “package stores”. I just realized like 8 months ago that a package store is not like a place where you can got to ship packages lmao. How would I know a package store is a liquor store? lmao. And I just realized like back in January that the place called Taco Maco is not a mexican restaurant. lol. man i was pissed!!

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:11 pm

ctfu at going hard at Family Dollar.

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:11 pm

full demo class

or s*,i meant pole dance class in ur house

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:12 pm

Ce – Thats fine the old mason jar is the best for drinikn tea out of.. I do it all time in a wife beater on the porch. Its so funny. reminds me of my grandfather.. Thats how he used to do it. I just refuse to cut the toes out a pair of tennis shoes though..

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:13 pm

(Demi- I dont go after weed smokers..I turn the other way..)

Whew…don’t want to bail my cousins out of jail…but mayne do y’all boys toss dudes left and right out of the place, LOL

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:13 pm

@Melo- youve got mail

So yall are meeting at Body Tap instead of Barley’s..lol

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:13 pm

OMG DK! ctfu lmao. totally omg.

Rell - playmaker!!!

June 18th, 2009
4:14 pm

see girls giving head on the dance floor all the time

- yep, i got some on my bday one year…it was wild!!!

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:15 pm

Drinking and driving ain’t cool…any more. Not worth it.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:16 pm

lol@Demi- Im not a local law enforcement so I really dont pay attention to small stuff Im on the Federal Level..but I will unleash all the hell I can if i see someone drinking and driving or trying to get behind the wheel tipsy…as a very close intimate family member died because a drunk driver hit them..but that’s just me.

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:16 pm

Paige – We call em liquor stores dont get it twisted.. At least me and my patnas do.. Now in from of the kids its the package store, bottle shoppe or glass house. whatever

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:17 pm

@Melo- youve got mail

W8,from today onwards,u ma boy!

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:17 pm

DK- I don’t do the dollar store cause I never had them in NY.. I am referring to the red plastic cups.. I could be a low budget spoiled tail! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Cee- Oh Heck NO :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Page- Don’t get a headache from shaking your head :) So the Pink Taco IS a mexican restaurant..

Disclaimer: I don’t condone drinking & driving but I do tend to have a drink while getting dressed before I go out.. A person IS allowed a drink per hour..

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
4:18 pm

CUTIE Don’t mix then put in the flask, silly! You should put skrait likka in the flask. For me, it’s usually Bombay cuz once I get on it, I wanna stay on it.

PAGINA Oh I knew that’s’ when you moved-moved. But sometimes it seems you had a prior history with the A. Maybe your legendary Taco-style proceeded u, girlie.

See how you do, SASSAFRASS? I had more faith in you. If you can’t wear him out, I’ma have to take you off that pedestal! (He’s mine…you mighta had him one but I have him all the time hahahaa Hated that song!) And that Oochie Wally reminds me of our weekly visits to Jaguars on W. Peachtree. Good times…

ZULU Yeah, my homegirl said a female kinda tried her the last time in the bathroom.

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:19 pm

..yeah, dance floor action is the ish…providing you have a look out crew.

Rell…have you been to IDEALs in lakewood?

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:20 pm

Ur punish him and his wang coz i tell,he be hot as he leaves and then he will re-evaluate ur position since u so close,possibly to ur advantage.
(disclaimer:this only works on condition he hasnt taped ur azz in the past)

melo – I’m not trying to play with that man. If he wants some azz he knows what he has to do to get it. I ain’t worried bout him. If he’s ready to step it up, he can go for it.

That wang has a lot of miles on it. I’m not doing cartwheels to get to that!

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:20 pm

Lioness – Im just kidding. We know you Paris Hilton bump on your lip spoiled..

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:21 pm

For Real

Don’t mind Cee. I don’t know who she is calling old. She and Mrs. Jane Pittman played red light/green light together. She is old enough to remember Dr. J dunking with the red,white, and blue basketball with his big afro.

She gotta go to Lee Dental on Cleveland Avenue to get her tee-fees with the gold toof on it.

Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season

June 18th, 2009
4:21 pm

Cemeeli – my friends tried to put my one glass jar in the ‘giveaway’ pile while helping me unpack. I jumped on that REAL quick. I’ve had that jar 4evah! I don’t drink kool-aid or sweettea at the house, but just in case I get the notion. That jar is not for water or OJ ;-)

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:21 pm

ARed- Girl, you know they don’t call them “liquor stores” out here lol. You know they are called “package stores”. I just realized like 8 months ago that a package store is not like a place where you can got to ship packages lmao

Page – You know I thought the SAME thing too!!! I’m like, I can’t ship my packages here? :lol:

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:21 pm

LOL @ bottle shoppe or glass house. Ok maybe I can see those, but package store?! I guess I am too literal in my thinking “packages + store = package store”. Ok, package store, a place where I can go and ship packages. *shrugs*

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:22 pm

SASSAFRASS<— That is the FUNNIEST name EVER!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

ARed- That wang has a lot of miles on it. I’m not doing cartwheels to get to that! <– :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:22 pm

@Melo- Fo Sho!!

@Ared- lmao

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:22 pm

Melo…it’s wild there…see girls giving head on the dance floor all the time

That’s disgusting.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:23 pm

DK- :evil: Don’t do BUMPS ANYWHERE!!! :evil:

SexyCool - SMDH

June 18th, 2009
4:23 pm

I’m so hood
if you not from here then you can walk it out
and you not hood if you don’t know I’m talking bout

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:23 pm

@PG- um those jokes are old…lmao..Hey do you know any of those people I mentioned earlier or did I miss your response?

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:23 pm

W8©*N8*…I have the some stance on drinking and driving now…out for a late nite ride…a good friend of mines was hit and killed by a drank driver…beside, DUI fees are no joke.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:24 pm

They condone head on the dance floor @ Grown Folks on Old Natiie too

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:24 pm

Cee, I agree with DK about the mason jar. It is better than a pickle or mayonnaise jar. Even Folks agrees. Some of them still use mason jars.

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:24 pm

Lioness – Just kidding thought for real.. Be spoiled but dont be a biatch and if you do be a biatch be a good one.

“Dont slap me cause Im not in the mood”

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:24 pm

We know you Paris Hilton bump on your lip spoiled..

u had me rolling dawg! :lol:

Wise Diva

June 18th, 2009
4:24 pm

I REFUSE to believe chicks are on the dance floor doing that. NO! Are they hookers getting paid for it?

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
4:24 pm

If you can’t wear him out, I’ma have to take you off that pedestal!

Mytwo I ride a d* to sleep chile :oops: He’s comin’ back to you but trust me when I say he will be very well “spent” when he stumbles back….squirt…squirt..hehehehehehe :)

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:25 pm

How do people ACTUALLY drive TWISTED?? Baffles me!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:25 pm

@Body Tap- My partner is ex law enforcement so all of that stuff is not happening on his watch..unless you are off in a corner…

Platinum and ONyx you can get head, smoke weed er’thang all over the whole club…fellas if you want more bang for your buck..go to the strip clubs during the day…usually working mothers who have to be home for the kids at nighttime…and anything ANYTHING goes during the day

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)

June 18th, 2009
4:26 pm

SASSAFRASS<— That is the FUNNIEST name EVER!!!

I like it,too….actually think it’s kinda cute. Who’da thunk it?

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:26 pm

Lioness- The Pink Taco, yes, is restaraunt in Phoenix, which I lived for 3 years and used to go all the time.

Dos Centavos- I had only been here once in 2005 prior to me moving here.

LOL ARed- I was like “dayum there sure are a lot of package stores around here…who are these people that are shipping all these packages so much that there is a package store almost on every block” lol.

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:26 pm

Paige – Awww damn not a place where you ship packages.. Nooooo! You would have done better if you were thinking a spot where you pick up your package of controlled substances but not a UPS…

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:26 pm

dance floor @ Grown Folks on Old Natiie too

No,not there! Dance floor is small anyway and the pple are grown and classier than that.
That doesnt even happen at the hood Ritzy, either jus a block or so away.

U havn’t been there,thats a tale tale u mouthing!

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:26 pm

DK- I do EVERYTHING like I do it for TV!

Sassy- Clutching my pearls.. You should have slapped his tail awake!

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:27 pm

I was like “dayum there sure are a lot of package stores around here…who are these people that are shipping all these packages so much that there is a package store almost on every block” lol

Page – Girl, we are twins. :lol:

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:28 pm

Melo- Yes it does.. Nasty tail Ritz too..

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:28 pm

@WiseDiva- I know @ Platinum off of Piedmont many a wang gets licked by strippers..during a normal dance…LOL I remember I was at Oasis and the dancers there know what I do for a living..girl was dancing and a sack of cocaine fell out of her nana..I was like “ummm you dropped something”..lol

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:28 pm

PoppaG “Folks” still use mason jars? GET OUT!

:lol: at Tazzee doing the tackle move on her unpacking party for trying to throw away her glas drinking jar.

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:29 pm

(fellas if you want more bang for your buck..go to the strip clubs during the day)

Nah…most of those puddies looks as if a cookie monster gotten a hold of them…

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:29 pm

@Lioness- Last week you said Jock and Jills was not your type of place and you dont do bars but you darn near are naming every hoodspoot today that you have been to.

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...listening to UGK :-)

June 18th, 2009
4:29 pm

Lioness….LMAO :lol:

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:29 pm

@Demi- I have to bed to differ my friend

Tazzee (Linda) - countdown to NFL season

June 18th, 2009
4:29 pm

My first package store encounter – I got my hair braided on Memorial Drive. I was hungry when I left so the lady recommended this place where I could get some good wings. She told me I would see it right after I passed the package store. It was about 9pm on a Saturday and I asked if the package store would still be open and she was like ’sure it is’. Needless to say, I didn’t get my wings that night as I was riding down the street looking for a Mailboxes USA or something like that :lol:

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:30 pm

I mean beg to differ

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:30 pm

She gotta go to Lee Dental on Cleveland Avenue to get her tee-fees with the gold toof on it.

Negros get on my nerve sometime.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:32 pm

Sorry, I missed the post where you asked me about the people. I don’t recognize any of the names.

I met Brice through Hines (he is from Clayco and so am I), and Brandi through Lekeisha Frett. (I actually went out with her once when she was at UGA).

I have a ton of friends that went to UGA. Heck, between me going to South Carolina, my uncle playing for Auburn, and my friends going to UGA, I know a lot of SEC folks. (I got my current job because the managing partner went to Auburn and we met at a alumni function that I attended with my uncle (he is only 9 years older than me)…It is all about networking and relationships)

THE INFAMOUS DK

June 18th, 2009
4:32 pm

Tazzee – Not you too Damn!!! A package store and UPS again..

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:33 pm

W8- What are you talking about? I never said Jock & Jills was anything.. Never been there.. Just said I don’t do bars cause ladies don’t do bars.. Tonight I feel a little less lady like maybe but who really knows.. What I really DO know is that I do what I like when I feel like it..
What you know about that?

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:33 pm

lmao DK, well, that’s what I was thinking

LOL ARed. When are you going back to Cali? This summer? Maybe you can roll with me so you can see the behind the scenes of BH.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:33 pm

Cee- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Make sure you bring your tail OUT tonight!!

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:34 pm

LOL Tazzee! See what I mean. I’m not the only one! LOL DK…see!!

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:34 pm

hw u know Ritzy is nasty Cam? Smeboidy told u and u believe?

I like those hood gerls in Ritz,partial to them.

Well,i almost got head in the car,not on dance floor! But Queen got into ma mind real quick and i zipped my fly!
:lol:

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:35 pm

LOL ARed. When are you going back to Cali? This summer?

Page – Am I? I have 4 weddings to attend there. *sigh*

I heard BH got cancelled…

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:36 pm

Cee

PoppaG “Folks” still use mason jars? GET OUT!

Some still use them. Recently I went to the one on Cobb Parkway (near Windy Hill) and they had other glasses. So, I guess that they are getting uppity now that they aren’t “Po” anymore.

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:36 pm

(I REFUSE to believe chicks are on the dance floor doing that. NO! Are they hookers getting paid for it?)

A lot of young kids are poppin X-pills…and grown women…

but you r paying in strippa clubs…not Demi though…i’ll buy her a drink.

SexyCool - Giving the side eye.

June 18th, 2009
4:36 pm

Random @$$ Observation – Some people read completely different from one week to the next, one day to the next, one post to the next.

I value consistency in the quality of my entertainment.

GNR!!!!

Beautiful

June 18th, 2009
4:36 pm

hi alvin! :o )

i like kate. she should’nt have spanked the lil girl in front of the cameras. she should have took the child in the public restroom and beat her azz! then said *try it again, i’ll beat your azz again when we get home!* ppl need to lighten up. a good beat down is good for a youngster.

why these crackheads over here set the bus to pick up Kel at 6:10a?! who in the h3ll would allow their kids to stand at a bus stop at 6 in the morn? i swear.
now i have to get up and take him every morn. ugh!

rant over.

topic: the man i marry, i hope he has a daughter. i will treat her as if she was my own.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:36 pm

melo – Car head is not uncommon, at least it’s just the two of you (hopefully) and not a club full of people!

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
4:37 pm

You have to be kidding about women giving head on the dance floor, and

@Rell, you have to be kidding that you got head there on your b-day. Are you guys joking?

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:37 pm

4 weddings just this summer? my cousin is a PA on BH and he didn’t mention it to me unless it was cancelled in the last couple of months since I talked to him at All Star weekend. Ughhhh ok let me find out. You know I love Gerren! lol. and Seiko too lol

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:37 pm

Melo- You make me SICK to my stomach sometime excuse me MOST times :evil:

I have been in the Ritz before and it is hella dark & YOU know what goes on in dark places.. Don’t ya?? Paid $10 to get in there and left cause the hating tail bartender was mad cause dudes was buying us drinks and ALL OF A SUDDEN they weren’t serving anymore drinks.. *smh* We left there & went to the Ultimate..

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:38 pm

@Lioness- lol, but those spots you mentioned are ladylike? lmao..

@PG- Me and Brice went to High School together great friends I was in his funeral, Brandi was my agent a few times..this world is to small

Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria...listening to UGK :-)

June 18th, 2009
4:39 pm

Lioness I live about 15 mins away from the Ritz and that shyt is GRITTY for real.

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:40 pm

W8…I am going to Plat tomorrow…I’ll blog from there and tell you what I see, LOL

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:40 pm

W8- Darling.. Nope more like hood like.. I supposed I was with my hood tail friends.. That is a possibility.. I could be VERY versatile sometimes :mrgreen:

SexyCool - Giving the side eye.

June 18th, 2009
4:40 pm

What is the difference between a bar and a club? One has more seating than the other? One has a DJ and the other has mixed tapes(cds)? One has waitresses and the other has servers?

Isn’t The Ultimate a sports BAR? What dahell am I missing?

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:41 pm

@Car Head/ Road Head- there is nothing wrong with that AT ALL

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:41 pm

LOL omg Lioness. Everyone hates on you? What do you mean when you say that all the time? Just curious…

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:41 pm

Sexy- Some people have alter egos.. LMAO

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:41 pm

LOL SCool, yes it is. Thus the name.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:42 pm

@Demi- I can give you two to look up and you will get what you are looking for for sure..I promise

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:43 pm

Page- Not just me.. Why are you concerned? Just be LUCKY that you don’t have to experience it :)

Sexy- Please don’t take what I type on her to W8 specifically as gospel ;)

SexyCool - Giving the side eye.

June 18th, 2009
4:43 pm

And some people have alternate personalities, alternate realities and outright lies.

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:44 pm

(@Rell, you have to be kidding that you got head there on your b-day. Are you guys joking?)

LOL…HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA…I think that is what most men want on there birthday.

And Legg, there is a spot I use to go to, that allowed you to watch women bump kats…and other things…a regular club at that!!

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:44 pm

Ummmmm smdh.

lol @ Scool.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:45 pm

PoppaG – I haven’t been to Folks in years. But the one in Windy Hill always seems packed.

Ultimate is cool before the knats arrive.

And that’s all i have to say about that….

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:45 pm

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:46 pm

dreamgirls…I miss that spot…they use to allow me to bring in my own drinks. It’s close now…

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:46 pm

lol @ rell and demi. lol @ cutty.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:46 pm

Sexy- Great possibility but TRUST it ain’t me!!!!

Melo

June 18th, 2009
4:46 pm

is hella dark & YOU know what goes on in dark places

no u misrepresending the place.No way that stuff u mention goes on in there.
I luv some of my hood places and this one aint one of those.
Its not classy,its hood but some of us are rough on the edges too.
I think those chics were just too strong for u..

Sassy, i know u like Ritz,why u fronting?

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:47 pm

Leggs- Mail Call

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:47 pm

And some people have alternate personalities, alternate realities and outright lies.

Hey i’ll ask. Who?

Cuase i sure know WHO knows…

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:48 pm

Melo- To each its own but I KNOW what I’ve experienced :)

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:48 pm

@Page- Hey Mo, Professor and SexyCool..Page remembered what cutty is..lol

Okay Page use it in a sentence

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:48 pm

Oh…Hey Angie!

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:48 pm

Cee- :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Just may be ME.. :mrgreen:

Rell - playmaker!!!

June 18th, 2009
4:48 pm

@w8…i am justsaying dude….the females interact with us daily so they get the playbook the behind scene locker room talk all for free…now having said that…imagine the less informed women out here that run into a cat like me….the rake…they have no defense unless i am just actin a azz or they prefer light skin dudes…every women i approach with the mindset like she is already mine…thats just me…i am not scarred or bow down to rejection or any of that propganda they throw my way…you not interested cool..not going to break my reality!!

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:48 pm

*raised eyebrow*

I don’t think your children would approve of the way this discussion turned. Wise Diva are you loving the men’s comments, NOW? lol

Jamoca

June 18th, 2009
4:49 pm

SCool – I heard that 4:36 all the way down here! Your Random Azz Observation is a daily one for me. It’s the nature of the blog beast!

Sheeeeuuuuttt, when I dipped my head in & out earlier today, I thought that I was somehow in the wrong spot. Had to shutdown and restart my computer just to make sure.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:49 pm

(in my best college park twang) Yall flaw as heall

Grace

June 18th, 2009
4:49 pm

LOL @ Rell @ 443

Beautiful

June 18th, 2009
4:49 pm

you came to mind when i read the topic.

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
4:50 pm

“…you can get poo see before you get a meal…bee lee dat.” That much I do know to be true! Just a crying shame!

@Rell, I don’t know what to say so I’ll leave it alone!

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:50 pm

LOL W8- Thats why I was LOL.

Sentence: Some dudes get cutty at bars that are really clubs. lol how’s that?

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:51 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Lioness – It’s okay to have an alternate ego. We had one in here name Silky that was off the chain when he came out.

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:51 pm

lol….:) @ Jamoca – lol

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:51 pm

Page

In the hood they are called package stores. In higher cliente areas, they are called bottle shoppe (can’t forget the “e”).

In the hood you get your liquor in a brown bag that makes it look like a “package”. My gramps always sent me to the store to get a “package” for him. This was when I was a kid, too. Inside the package was usually a bottle of gin.

We have a few ABC’s here too. They aren’t called package store. Well, I do remember one in Athens on Highway 78 in front of a Kroger. That was years ago though.

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:52 pm

hey angie.

lol @ rell. lol @ light skin dudes.

Rell - playmaker!!!

June 18th, 2009
4:52 pm

@cee…next time you talk to silky tell em to holla at his folk!!!!!!!..he MIA

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:52 pm

@Rell- play on Playa!! I aint mad at you..do your thang bro. I am just laughing at you being super candid today..I know the life and I know that there are women out there down for whatever and they arent even “hoes” by the word some of them just get the feeling and get down for theirs..some people aint ready to hear that..lmao..preach preacher

Jamoca

June 18th, 2009
4:52 pm

Yes…consistency is best. I agree. I can truly appreciate a person being who they truly are…as long as they know which one it is…be it jaded or gullible, a beast in the sheets or a plain Jane…just pick one already and go with that.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:52 pm

Cee- :lol: :lol: :lol: I guess..

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:52 pm

That much I do know to be true! Just a crying shame!

:lol: Yeah, not like that’s anything to aspire to, right Leggs? :lol:

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:52 pm

W8©*N8*…LOL at the hook up…cool, I need a russian and african chick…both must be 5′10…without heels…wear matching S&M out fits…and carry handcuff, LOL

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:53 pm

PG- Ok, I get it now. But what is a ABC?

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:53 pm

I know the life and I know that there are women out there down for whatever and they arent even “hoes” by the word some of them just get the feeling and get down for theirs..

W8 – You don’t call them hoes cuz you want them to keep being this way. How’s that for some truth. :lol:

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:54 pm

lol@Page- good job..lmao way to use it in a sentence..now use the word “cut”in a sentence

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:54 pm

Cee

I went recently to Folks recently and it was my first time since they were “Po”. 22 years to be exact. The gizzards were pretty good. The Peach muffins were great, but small.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
4:54 pm

For some reason, the dance floor action ain’t sounding sexy At All to me. Skanky, yeah…

Package store got me for awhile, but RED DOT & ABC had me sober for the longest! I’m used to a set of initials (let’s say C&J) with the wordd Liquours right behind it…

Beautiful

June 18th, 2009
4:54 pm

sup PAGE!

W8, where y’all meeting tonight?

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:55 pm

Page

I thought ABC were liquor stores out west. I even heard Ice Cube rap about them.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:55 pm

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:55 pm

lol@Ared- I dont know of what you speak..but my woman is my own personal”lady,woman,Queen, Dime,hoe,slut,bytch” whatver I need her to be..she wears that hat…everything I need when I need it in one woman.

mytw♥cents...the most beautiful

June 18th, 2009
4:56 pm

BEAUTIFUL I saw your reply the other day too late. I’m done with you and all that hair just laying there. You’ve been growin it forever so give it some layers or something to freshen it up. It’ll probably make you feel/look younger & fresher!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:56 pm

@Beautiful- Jack in the Box…they are meeting not me

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
4:56 pm

@ Rell – You cool as a fan with me. Check.

Demi

June 18th, 2009
4:57 pm

(For some reason, the dance floor action ain’t sounding sexy At All to me. Skanky, yeah…)

its call heat of the moment…you just haven’t met the right one…that push all the right buttons…goes for men and women

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
4:57 pm

@PoppaG, if you eat pork you have to try their pork chops…tender and you get 2 or 3 big ones!

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:57 pm

W8 – You don’t know of what I speak huh?

I know the life and I know that there are women out there down for whatever and they arent even “hoes” by the word some of them just get the feeling and get down for theirs..

^^^ Is this how you want your daughter to approach sex? Will you encourage that?

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:57 pm

Page

Keep in mind that 2008 was the first time that I went to LA.

At 6′8″ , I can’t fly all willy nilly. I can’t do cattle class aka coach. I gotta have some leg room.

Beautiful

June 18th, 2009
4:57 pm

**the most beautiful**

define this pls. you have 3 mins. i wanna know if your def is the same as mine.

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
4:58 pm

PG- I never heard of an ABC. I usually just say liquor store or 7-11. lol

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
4:58 pm

Mytwo- STOP IT!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
4:59 pm

its call heat of the moment…you just haven’t met the right one…that push all the right buttons…goes for men and women

:lol: Y’all keep saying that like it’s an absolute. You can meet someone that pushes all your buttons, and you still ain’t gonna dome em up on the dance floor. Sorry!

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
4:59 pm

@Ared- if she does I will love her just the same

For Real Ballwood

June 18th, 2009
4:59 pm

Cee: remember the dude in Poetic Justice that was always brushing his waves and Tupac got mad and threw his brush. lol on calling me old but if your hair looks like a busted umbrella Imma jone you bad.

Poppa Grande

June 18th, 2009
4:59 pm

Leggs

PoppaG, if you eat pork you have to try their pork chops…tender and you get 2 or 3 big ones!

That is good to know. I tried to get something that I can’t get at home. My wife is a yankee and won’t cook gizzards. She cooks pork chops all of the time.

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

Ared- Okkkaaaayyyyy!!! Ain’t NO knobs getting slobbed in a club! The car YES but not the club!

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

Peach muffins?

PoppaG I didn’t know they had those. Folks/Ryan/Golden Corral are all on the same scale to me. Good place to take growing little boys after they’ve played at amusement parks all day.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

Mytwo – You’ve got 3 minutes to explain yourself or else girl! Ha ha ha!!! :lol:

Wise Diva

June 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

LOL @ Amazon, no, not so much. It’s a double edged sword (um no pun intended, seriously) isn’t it *sigh*

Beautiful

June 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

i already look young and fresh! hehehe. i’m turning 41 next week and ppl still tell me i look 28ish. YES!

Demi

June 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

Melo…LOL…

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
5:01 pm

@Ared-How’s your dad feel about your nana getting cleaned by all the potential husbands of your past?lol

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
5:01 pm

Ared- Okkkaaaayyyyy!!! Ain’t NO knobs getting slobbed in a club! The car YES but not the club!

Especially in this age of camera phones.

I’m trying to be a Senator’s wife. :lol:

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
5:01 pm

W8 – Answer my question first, boo. :D

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
5:02 pm

IN poetic Justice- Chicago was his name he was played by Joe Torry..lol

Beautiful

June 18th, 2009
5:02 pm

my2, i can wait till tomorrow.

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
5:02 pm

Wise – I couldn’t even give em props, cuz I knew it’d be short lived! :lol:

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
5:02 pm

ForReal – Please know that i can not stand to wear my hair pulled back. But it doesn’t look like i was in a fight with Tanika from Bankhead this morning.

Yea, you old bruh. Didn’t you say you graduaddded State in ‘72?

Demi

June 18th, 2009
5:03 pm

AmazonRed™…LOL…I said woman will ever cuff me to the bed too…

Cemeeli

June 18th, 2009
5:03 pm

The brush incident! NOW i remember.

ok Real.

Jamoca

June 18th, 2009
5:03 pm

…here we go.

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
5:03 pm

I said if she did I would love her just the same once she is adult she is an adult

Demi

June 18th, 2009
5:03 pm

>>>I said no woman will ever cuff me to the bed

Leggs (Karyn)

June 18th, 2009
5:03 pm

Goodnight….Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass! It’s about learning to dance in the rain…

Peace!

Page1908

June 18th, 2009
5:04 pm

Demi

June 18th, 2009
5:05 pm

SexyCool…you have a great day!!!

W8…email me…demigod33@yahoo.com

AmazonRed™

June 18th, 2009
5:05 pm

W8 – He’s fine with knowing I have respect and decorum about myself and body.

Demi – Handcuffs to the bed is NOT head on the dance floor!

Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones

June 18th, 2009
5:05 pm

Leggs- Cute saying but I ain’t dancing in a storm :)

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
5:06 pm

email sent Demi

Beautiful

June 18th, 2009
5:07 pm

@LEGGS
i ‘preicate you and your closings. ;o)

-W8©*N8*

June 18th, 2009
5:07 pm

@Ared- Guess people have different definitions of respect