Love them like my own
NFL player Tom Brady has a child from a previous relationship with actress Bridget Moynahan. When Brady dated his then girlfriend Giselle Bundchen, I remember reading a comment from Bundchen about Brady’s son:
“I understand that he has a mom, and I respect that, but to me it’s not like because somebody else delivered him, that’s not my child. I feel it is, 100 percent. I want him to have a great relationship with his mom, because that’s important, but I love him the same way as if he were mine.”
Now I thought it was a noble and endearing perspective to take, but after talking to a couple of real parents, it seemed to strike a nerve. If you have children, wouldn’t you want the person your ex is dating (seriously) to care for your child as if they were your own?
Have you ever dated someone with children and became close to their children? Did it cause a problem with their parent because you were too close?
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who treated your children like their own? Isn’t that a little litmus test to see if the person is compatible to you and your kids, since you are a package deal?
Is there a line that one should not cross when it comes to dealing with someone who has children in terms of parenting them? What would you say are the boundaries? Do you set those ground rules with your significant other and their children?
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mytw♥cents...the most beautiful
June 18th, 2009
3:24 pm
JANELL She is a sweet pea for sure. But ya know she’s crazy like a fox sometimes.
SEXYC I’m a chameleon and can be comfortable N-E-Where…Grimey to top of the line, but always in moderation. I do chuckle sometimes cuz it’s almost like living a double life. Like on my bday, we’re at Chops, eating lobster tails, sipping Riesling … weighing the Pros & Cons of going to Central Station lololololol I didn’t feel like I deserved that much of a treat, tho!
Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones
June 18th, 2009
3:24 pm
Page- You can’t deny that there are a TON of haters in the “A”,,
Glad I am not one though 
Kym -declaring a holy war on Bull-shiggidity
June 18th, 2009
3:25 pm
I think I have met the one man in America who would turn any woman into a Lesbian. King of the Jack-legs.
Poppa Grande
June 18th, 2009
3:25 pm
W8
I love Womens BBall and Women’s Vball for reasons that I will not post on here
I knew a few of the UGA womens players (some thanks to Brandi and Brice), but I liked those UGA volleyball women. They really were amazons. I knew a couple of the gymnast there too.
I grew up around Basketball. My dad played in HS and tried to get me down that route. I played in junior high, but stuck to football in HS. I should have listened since they have guarantee contracts and all.
Looking at the group in next weeks NBA draft, I probably should put my name in. It looks weak. Blake Griffin is considered the best and he is still really raw.
AmazonRed™
June 18th, 2009
3:25 pm
Is he ur guy,are u eyeing him or wanna send a message to that effect or he is jus a friend(thats a song by the way)??
LOL. What difference does it make?
I guess we’ve eyed each other for several years now, but he’s just a friend.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 18th, 2009
3:25 pm
W8…nope…she has no clue. I got cute picutres from last week of her and her dance group. She will be so shocked. She’s really good too. You should bring your daughter…if she is not busy. Try to get there by 6:30 to get the best seating to shock the crap out of your sister.
Page1908
June 18th, 2009
3:26 pm
Considering I am new to the “A”, I can honestly say I don’t know any “haters”. Guess I am lucky:)
Poppa Grande
June 18th, 2009
3:26 pm
My nephew is 5′8″ and he is 12 years old. He loves b-ball. We might let him play this year. Grades first though.
-W8©*N8*
June 18th, 2009
3:26 pm
Why Cali girls on here always causing beef?
(Runs from ARed and Page) lol….it’s a joke!!! lol
For Real Ballwood
June 18th, 2009
3:27 pm
Spoil independent woman convo……
Chick: I spoil and treat myself all the time.
Dude: Okay.
Chick: I expect my man to at least treat me as well as I treat myself.
Dude: Okay so how do you treat yourself?
Chick: Very well, like yesterday I went to Macy’s and bought 4 skirts they were on sale for $4 each.
Dude: That was a great deal
Chick: Yeah it and then I treated myself to dinner at Crickets.
Dude: Oh okay. Well let me treat you to dinner. Where do you want to go?
Chick: Bones!
Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones
June 18th, 2009
3:27 pm
Mytwo- Funny you mentioned Central Station.. All the hood chicks I have been around mentioned Central Station and my silly tail was correcting them saying “You mean Atlantic Station” those heffas was like ” NO CENTRAL STATION in East Point” I was like OH HELL TO DA NAW!! Chop is a Yummy restaurant & so is the Greek one.. Can’t remember the name of it but it is apart of the Buckhead Life Group..
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)
June 18th, 2009
3:28 pm
W8 I have openly lusted after basketball players and sometimes I think I just can’t help it….it’s like a reflex or somethin’ or maybe it’t that whole opposites attract thing I don’t know(i’m 5″3′ and I like a man I can climb when I get on top)….but I feel like Pookey it just be callin’ me and I gotta go to it man
Page1908
June 18th, 2009
3:28 pm
LOL *mean muggin* @ W8. Don’t look at me…*looking at ARed* lol
-W8©*N8*
June 18th, 2009
3:29 pm
@PG- Our world is way to small I know Brandi Personally and me and Brice grew up together when I lived with my mom. We played ball in highschool together I was in his funeral..You know Jeff(JT) , Busta, Randell,Ivory…hell Brandi sold me 2 homes…
AmazonRed™
June 18th, 2009
3:30 pm
Cuz we’re OGs.
*throws 4 fingas up, two twisted in the middle*
-W8©*N8*
June 18th, 2009
3:30 pm
@Staceye- she is putting together some wellness cruise next year did you get that info yet?
SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.
June 18th, 2009
3:30 pm
If he’s JUST a friend, why plan a DAY?
Send him a ‘Happy Birthday’ text and be done with it?
Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones
June 18th, 2009
3:30 pm
Page-
Welcome to the “A”! Not sure if it is luck but you can call it that..
Page1908
June 18th, 2009
3:31 pm
LOL ARed. *now crip walking rocking my pink Chuck Taylor’s* lmao
Cemeeli
June 18th, 2009
3:33 pm
Dang, ya’ll like family for real!
Showin’ out in front of company.
I have one guest come out and cain’t get DK to stop whispering in her ear talkin’ crazy.
lol…lub yall.
Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)
June 18th, 2009
3:33 pm
Page1908 – thanks for letting me know about tonight!! They been working a sistah!!
Lioness – yeah Im rolling to Barley’s, I know im late as h3ll responding to you!
We are doing Barley’s right, I’ve never been there during the week
Cemeeli
June 18th, 2009
3:33 pm
Lioness rotf…:lol:
AmazonRed™
June 18th, 2009
3:34 pm
If he’s JUST a friend, why plan a DAY?
Uh, cuz he’s a friend, he’s in town and we have a free day. *shrugs*
Do you tell friends that visit you that they’re on their own, and send em off with a map, they can’t even get sight seeing out of you?
Page1908
June 18th, 2009
3:34 pm
Thanks:))
Leggs (Karyn)
June 18th, 2009
3:34 pm
FYI ~ Barley’s has 7 parking spots that they own (LOL). There are two paid parking lots next to them. One is $10 and the other is $15.
mytw♥cents...the most beautiful
June 18th, 2009
3:35 pm
SASSAFRASS When it comes to the NBA, I luv that game. But I have been very promiscuous the way I go thru my NBA boyfriends. And I paid the price by going with the Magic because the ones I truly love aren’t all on the same team. Plus, the Celtics just didn’t make it far enough. I used to wanna go to LSU based on the football team. That was shut down
CUTIE I think the first time, I thought that’s what she meant too. But I knew they had some hangout spots, so thought nothing of why we’d head out so late. I ain’t grown enough to see some of the stuff I’ve seen. I know enough about you to say you are too delicate for it hahaaaa. Now if I go again, I’ma ask DEMI to escort me cuz that sommamabench is pscyho!
Melo
June 18th, 2009
3:36 pm
LOL. What difference does it make?
If a friend boght me boxers or some such nether area dressings,i wld be in a conundrum,esp knowing shes dry right now!
hence my qstion.
U arent considering geting him that are u,if not why?
Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones
June 18th, 2009
3:37 pm
Cee-
You coming out?????
Mo- Cool! Can’t wait to meet you
Leggs- I don’t pay for parking.. Park on the street over from that place..
AmazonRed™
June 18th, 2009
3:38 pm
U arent considering geting him that are u,if not why?
I’m not buying him a gift. Especially something like boxers.
SexyCool - I'm gettin' my Maya Angelou on right now.
June 18th, 2009
3:39 pm
Cause you said pampering and gifts and birthday all in the same sentence. That implied that you wanted to do something special for him for his birthday.
One of my bff’s was here recently. I took her to eat at Chow Baby, to the King Center cause she had never been. We rode through Atlantic Station, down Peachtree Street starting at Lenox Road all the way through the Five Points/Underground area.
Then I took her butt back to the hotel. Friend/Tour Guide duties fulfilled.
-W8©*N8*
June 18th, 2009
3:39 pm
@Ared- umm is he Husband material?…lol
Spoiled Lioness- No Clouds In My Stones
June 18th, 2009
3:40 pm
Mytwo- I just might surprise.. Not too much is delicate to hood spots, I just tend to avoid them cause of the “haters”.. I am cute but I don’t have no time for anyone to carry any kind of way.. I have heard of the stuff that coes in that place BUT I heard that people can’t resist the $3 drinks
-W8©*N8*
June 18th, 2009
3:40 pm
…Hop up out da beeeeeeeeddddddd..turn my swag on……
For Real Ballwood
June 18th, 2009
3:40 pm
lol…. Parking is free during the week.
Demi I will be looking for you bruh. I will have on something tailored by Musing.
Mo: Make sure you wear that tennis skirt. I can’t wait to see you hike a leg on the pool table.
Janell: I am a very good friend of Cee. We went to the same college. I would like to welcome you with some complimentary Black Cake. God made with his own hands.
mytw♥cents...the most beautiful
June 18th, 2009
3:41 pm
PAGINA 1908 Did you live here before and come back?
Sassy Me...juicy fruit AKA Victoria :-)
June 18th, 2009
3:42 pm
Mytwo guul when it comes to NBA boyfriends I’ve been around myself…it started with Allen Iverson and them cornrows and tats….oooh. Dwight Howard is my man right now though…..he’s sooo tall and everytime I see him I squeel!…tastey
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 18th, 2009
3:43 pm
W8…yeah she FB’d the info. I am thinking of going.
DOS CENTAVOS…you know I got my NBA hubbys….Hedo Turkoglu, Dwight Howard (yeah it’s skanky that they play for the same team
)
LIONESS…girl I am wiht you…I do not pay to park either. I will walk my happy a$$ around the block and park. Why would I pay you to park..but if something happend to my car in your lot you wanna claim no repsonsibility? Hellz nah!
Poppa Grande
June 18th, 2009
3:43 pm
Page – MY definition of being spoiled is obviously different from others.
IMO rewarding yourself and spoiling yourself are two different things. So, I guess that I agree with you more.
I dropped that last girlfriend before my wifey came along because of her being spoiled. Parents paid her way through Princeton. She got a scholarship to Georgetown Med School.
She got everything when she wanted and how she wanted. She asked for a BMW 5 series car and complained when her parents gave her BMW 3 series car. She even complained that it wasn’t the color that she asked for. They gave her a black American Express to put her expenses on while in college and kept it active after she got her own job as a pediatrician.
She was like some of the kids on the Sweet Sixteen show on MTV. It ain’t cute for them, and it ain’t cute for a female over 20 years old either.
She had a sense of entitlement that really irked me. Her parents made her that way. So they should have her. She has been engaged (of course folks tell me about her and showed me the engagement announcement from the local paper) since our split. However, they never made it to altar for whatever reason.
What Lioness is talking about doing for herself sounds more like rewarding herself. She works and earns what she does for herself. It isn’t given to her just because.
Instilling a sense of entitlement doesn’t help your kids to become productive members of society. In my day, I didn’t get paid for stuff that was expected like good grades, cleaning my room, etc. IMO giving rewards for what is expected just lowers expectations. That is why you hear someone say “I take care of my kids” and expect some praise for some shyt that they are supposed to do.
-W8©*N8*
June 18th, 2009
3:44 pm
@For Real- you holding it down tonight? You left me hanging last week
AmazonRed™
June 18th, 2009
3:44 pm
@Ared- umm is he Husband material?…lol
He has everything in place, but since I’ve known him he’s been quite the man wh0re, which is why we are friends.
Y’all ain’t got any suggestions? Some use you are!
Mo (aka Moeisha-counting down to the haircut!!)
June 18th, 2009
3:45 pm
For Real – I’ll see what I can do
Cemeeli
June 18th, 2009
3:46 pm
Lioness – My other cousins, 97 degrees, downtown ATL, at Barley’s,and Monkey Worth together?
hmmm….
Staceye AKA Black Mamba AKA Xiomara
June 18th, 2009
3:46 pm
NEWSFLASH…..I just bought a rhinestoned Skulls & Crossbones flask!
You know how much I love S & CB!
PAGE…they had matching table accesories…you know I was tempted to get them.
Ok…now back to our regularly scheduled madness!
mytw♥cents...the most beautiful
June 18th, 2009
3:47 pm
CUTIE WTF Eva! If you reject Ultimate on Camp Creek, ain’t no way you gonna accept ‘The Station :p: And I believe the dranks are $2. Wanna go with me & DEMI (We’ll tell him he’s takin us later)
Lil MO It’s been 6 months since you mentioned those highlights ncut! My hair seems like it’s halfway back now. This heat makes me wanna revisit the chop shop, tho.
Cemeeli
June 18th, 2009
3:48 pm
Oh and my hair aint fixed. I promise if ONE person come back talking about my pull back!
Rell - playmaker!!!
June 18th, 2009
3:49 pm
Whats the resume fam?!?!
For Real Ballwood
June 18th, 2009
3:50 pm
W8: I was the dude cleaning up after 2E’s. Yeah I’ll be there tonight. I got some brakes I got to beat off.
Ared: Get him drunk and then take him on a balloon ride. Or get him drunk and take him to see Hangover. Or get him drunk watch him pass out and then get his wallet and then call me and get me drunk.
-W8©*N8*
June 18th, 2009
3:50 pm
@Staceye- I dont do cruises..yall are on your own with that one
Page1908
June 18th, 2009
3:52 pm
Dos Centavos- No, I moved to Atlanta in November 2007. I have never lived anywhere else but the West Coast, so this is all still very new to me.
Staceye- OMG didn’t I tell your butt to stay outta the stores! Ohhhh matching table accesories…NICE…lol. After you got me caught up in Hobby Lobby I thought you were done lol. We gonna spray paint this weekend? I found some S & CB fabric at Michael’s. Do you need some??
PG- ^5.
AmazonRed™
June 18th, 2009
3:52 pm
One of my bff’s was here recently. I took her to eat at Chow Baby, to the King Center cause she had never been. We rode through Atlantic Station, down Peachtree Street starting at Lenox Road all the way through the Five Points/Underground area.
Then I took her butt back to the hotel. Friend/Tour Guide duties fulfilled.
SexyCool – Thanks. That’s more of what I had in mind.
I said we were on the subject, doesn’t mean I was trying to pamper or give gifts. Though I think birthdays of my friends are special whether they are male or female, especially milestone bdays.