I would say to Kevin, just be with her for sometime and see if its really true.

True story,

I have a really wonderful woman friend who we knew eachother for a while. and three yrs ago I asked her out and we started dating and one thing led to another she outright told me she does NOT believe in marriage. I said, wow, that is new coming from a girl. I said, well, I do and I am really in time where want to build r/s that is long lasting and leads to marriage and we terminated our relationship.

Soon after I introduced her to my boy who totally doesnt care about long lasting r/s and the hooked up and heated up. I said, well, you two match and I gave em my blessing.

Three years letter(two wks ago) she can no longer hold it apparently and gave him un ultimatum that 3 yrs is long enough for him to make a move and if he doesnt he has gotta go. They broke up soon after.

Moral of the story,

True again there is an exception to the everythin but I dont believe a woman saying she isnt into marriage and long lasting r/s. More often than not, its a reverse phsycology to get the man into what they want.

could I be wrong, true, but I just dont believe it.

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i am glad that the example given the story worked out but that is truly an exception. in most cases when a man or woman does not want to get married for whatever reason, the marriage never takes place and the other person winds up heartbroken. as adults, we have to respect other people’s perspectives. if i met a guy who was adamant about not getting married…ever. that’s it for me. no use in frustrating myself if i know that’s something that i want. we spend too much time trying to change other people’s minds. that energy is better spent being involved in situations that can lead us to what we desire.

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Good Morning blog fam!

Rule of Thumb: NEVER date someone with the intent of trying to change what they fundamentally believe in. More often than not you will be disappointed.

If you want marriage and he/she doesn’t…keep it moving.

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t mack…that’s about as bad as dating a woman who says she doesn’t want any kids when you met her…two years later…talking about getting married and starting a family…I am stand there in my boxers thinking…hell that came from!!

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A.red….I feel you there, who knows…maybe they saved you a lot of headache. back when I was a half way decent brother…I realize, that woman’s no…probably save me years of pain and anger.

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maybe they saved you a lot of headache.

Thanks Alvin. It’s already been proven that they have. There is a real sense of relief leaving a relationship you know isn’t going anywhere.

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Alvin- So people should not rush marriage, but it’s ok to rush having kids without being married? I think it’s funny when people are “anti-marriage”, but have kids without marriage seemingly with no qualms. smdh.

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Page…all the same to me…I don’t have any kids, so I am unable to comment on that. you need to ask them baby makers and poppers…

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Morning….
No, i’ve never dated a “non-believer”. Like kinderbabe stated earlier: You respect a persons position and move on. Don’t use all your energy on trying to convince, or persuade a person into believing.

Kinderteach good to see you hanging out with us a lil more.

Btw – “Hawthorne” was good. But i’m still trying to figure out why Jada’s hair was looking disheveled, though.

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I’m not sold on Hawthorne. The episode had soooo much going on. And yes, Jada hair had this certain “Seabiscuit” quality!

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“Seabiscuit” look…LOL

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think it’s funny when people are “anti-marriage”, but have kids without marriage seemingly with no qualms. smdh

- I AGREE

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What’s wrong with DATING someone that doesn’t want to get married?

For Real – Because most people date to ultimately get married.

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LOL ARed. It’s just funny to me. People do’t want to be “tied” to marriage, but to me, having a child with someone is the “ultimate tie-down”. I just don’t understand the concept of someone good enough to have a baby with but not good enough to marry.

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Like Tmac said this is one of those things that you don’t really know if you should believe of not from the start. I have dated women who did not believe in this or that.. come to find out 2, 3 months later that’s what they wanted all along. I dated a woman for 2.5 years in college and she said she did not want to get married until after she graduated college… well a few months before she graduated she asked why I had not proposed to her through 3 years of dating.. I reminded her that she stated very clearly 2 years prior that she did not want to get married before graduating college.

But on another note… I would not so much be concerned if a woman was anti marriage, as long as she was ready for a committed relationship. Or as long as we came to an agreement of what our relationship would be. The marriage ceremony and license is not important to me… its the relationship that matters. I would just have to be sure that she was not anti marriage because of some fear of committment or due to a plan to keep her playa card…LoL

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For Real: Well, then the dude needs to strap his stuff up at all times. You say women trap dudes, then ummmmm the dude needs to seriously check who is sleeping with. No, I don’t condone a woman doing this, but I am sick of men not taking responsibility for THEIR own actions. If dude doesn’t really know who he is sleeping with, tell me, where is the trap??

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Morning Bloggers…i would never date anyone who didn’t want to get married because that’s what i would like to do one day…For Real you still got it Man it’s always good to read you. I’m traveling to
Toledo, OH this weekend for the Edwin Hawkins Music & Arts Seminar…have a great day/weekend everyone TTYL

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Cee-

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Maybe we should change the word “dating” to “marriage auditions” to end the confusion.

Page: I agree with you 100%

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Maybe we should change the word “dating” to “marriage auditions” to end the confusion.

Fine with me. I don’t get the concept of dating just to date. Even long term “non marrieds” like Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell aren’t just “dating.”

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last thought on all them kids…I blame woman, lol

fuggwitit

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Why is it ok to have a child with someone, but not marry them? Coming from a sociological perspective, this is quite sad to me.

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Page I can’t believe some people are good enuogh to co habitate, but not good enough to marry. Always using the excuse of not having enough money to get married.

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@ Page I think I understand this ***I just don’t understand the concept of someone good enough to have a baby with but not good enough to marry.****

Two things are occurring here (1) when people fail to make a decision using precaution/birth control prevention a decision to have a baby is being made by default, and (2) people are very free with their bodies and sex. I mean you will find people that get intimate on a one-night stand (I am not judging anybody). Simply stated, do you really think people want to marry everybody they knock the boots with???

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the decision to have a child with someone you wouldn’t marry is often not a “decision” at all. It is an unintended consequence.

SexyCool – This happened to my sister. She got pregnant and now she’s married. The point is, marriage had been on their agenda all along.

If I ended up pregnant by the dude I am seeing, he’d likely marry me because we should be on that page in the first place. It just may have to happen sooner than we hoped.

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I won’t date anyone at this stage in my life who is not potential “wife material” now things can happen that might mess things up..but that is the ultimate goal. I’ve heard women who are anti-marriage because they have been hurt..that type I can win over…The one’s who are anti-marriage for whatver other reason I won’t even try. But hell, who wouldn’t want to marry me…LMAO…just kidding….or am I? LMAO (ready for the hate..lol)

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If I ended up pregnant by the dude I am seeing, he’d likely marry me because we should be on that page in the first place. It just may have to happen sooner than we hoped.

I know a lotta chicks who thought that. They’re single parents now.

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Page: Responsibility for ones actions is not the point. Everyone is accountable for their own actions. The point is some women have babies to trap men and that’s a fact.

Lioness: I agree marriage should be the hardest thing you can get into and dayum near impossible to get out of. Kind of like that imaginery fence in the movie Life.

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Life perfect ain’t perfect, If you don’t know what the struggle’s for.
Falling down ain’t falling down, If you don’t cry when you hit the floor.
It’s called the past cause I’m getting past and I ain’t nothing like I was before
You ought to see me now.

Yes I was burned but I called it a lesson learned.
Mistake overturned, so I call it a lesson learned.
My soul has returned so, I call it a lesson learned.
Another lesson learned.

It’s alright.
It’s alright.
It’s alright.

It’s really alright…

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Tried to do the right thing, got married young because we were pregnant. Country boy had to do the man thing and marry the woman, lead my house and be a father..we ended up divorced and two of the best parents ever…not to say that their werent any good times but it took us 9 years to realize that we werent each others soulmates. Having a kid is no reason to get married..point blank

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I won’t date anyone at this stage in my life who is not potential “wife material” now things can happen that might mess things up..but that is the ultimate goal.

W8 – I totally agree!

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SASSY…girl are you my sista from another mista? I have the same experiences and the same view point. I even run away from the bridal bouquet toss at receptions. I have no desire to ever marry. Heck I doubt if I will ever want a relationship again. I have become so happily single….I wonder if I could go down that road again.

KP…”If you want marriage and he/she doesn’t…keep it moving.” So very true.

ALVIN…its funny…when I say I don’t want kids guys look at me like i have 2 heads!

PAGE…” I think it’s funny when people are “anti-marriage”, but have kids without marriage seemingly with no qualms. smdh.” Girl I say it all the time. A marriage can be dissoved…but kids are for life. Yet they are taken too lightly. I think if people really thought stuff through befoer having kids…a lot of heartache could be spared. Since when is being a baby mama/daddy more acceptable than marriage? I feel if I can have your child we should be married. Even on my anti-marriage & kids status…I feel if you are going to do something…do it right. No half-a$$ing it!
And you are right…a dude is quick so say she trapped him…but did dhe put a gun to your head and say, “do me raw dog”? Highly doubt that! So stop playing the victim dudes…you are just as guilty as she is. Birth control is not only on the woman. If you really don’t want kids…either don’t have sex, get a vasectomy…or strap up! Don’t leave to to chance…although condoms are not 100% But if your h0rny a$$ can’t turn down the booty…then be prepared to suffer the possible consequences. That should make a man think more before sleeping with anything born female with a pulse. Don’t even get me started on diseases!

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If ppl have protected sex there won’t be ANY babies out of wedlock.. POINT BLANK PERIOD! Responsibility is Key

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Lol…Hilarious!

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@Staceye- Shut up, you will be the one to fall the hardest.

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ARed – Just checking my interpretation.

So, when you typed that statement at 1008a, you were not typing it as your expectation, just as a seemingly general statement that refers to others’ states of mind?

I ask because your 1015a totally contradicts your 1008a….unless I am reading it wrong.

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Ared: “If I ended up pregnant by the dude I am seeing, he’d likely marry me because we should be on that page in the first place. It just may have to happen sooner than we hoped.” – Two key words in your post “Likely” and “Should” have lead to many situation Page speak of. Oh and you are right Kurt and Goldie aren’t dating they are in a relationship.

Wise: I have a topic idea about this (kids out of wedlock) but it might be too deep. I need your opinion.

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“Whew! you had me going there for a minute WISE, opening up the headline I thought the topic was going to be on religion.”

Grace — I thought the same thing… I was all set to be the token agnostic on here. Guess I’ll just stick to being the regular token.

On topic: As others have said, it’s pretty pointless to attempt a relationship of any sort with someone who doesn’t share your fundamental goals for said relationship. It’s just not going to work, period.

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Here’s another one I’ve heard “we don’t need a piece of paper to say we’re married a paper doesn’t prove anything”.

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Totally off topic — Um… Staceye — nice pic on FB. You starting a new career? (kidding)

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@Lioness I agree with the whole glitz and glam thing. Most of my friends are divas with that said when one of my friend’s sisters was going through her divorce she and her husband was still paying off the wedding and they were married for a minute. The wedding was a huge event.

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Page- It IS the woman’s fault because she has to live with her decision for the REST of her life! The woman has the GREATEST burden.. Dude could be Up & GONE and not have to think about that child a day again in his life.. Happens everday! So.. Can’t MAKE a man be there for his child.. Dude will want a paternity test and take that chick through the wringer cause of one night of unprotected sex that could have been avoided if the chick would have been about her business!

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Okay quick question, just a poll (not knocking anyone for their answer just wondering)
Who here saw a potential wife/husband for every sexual experience had? Oral included.

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but did dhe put a gun to your head and say, “do me raw dog”?

Staceye – You are crazy!

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I totally agree with you on that one Staceye, it baffles me often times.

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On Dead Bead Dads…She should have known the kind of dude she was dealing with before she opened her legs. Men should handle their business and take care of their kids but c’mon women..he was perfect before he busted off in you? Thats BS!

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Lioness JMO – it’s both parties responsiblity to protect themselves to risk pregnancy/disease…burden is always placed on the women…men get a way with so much.

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Lioness, well, then you and I will agree to disagree because I disagree with your 10:27.

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wondering)
“Who here saw a potential wife/husband for every sexual experience had?”

This brings me joy.

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But I don’t understand folks who sleep with people they could NEVER envision marrying in the first place

Lioness – What is there to explain? What’s confusing to you?

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I meant that I had more to add and will do so in a sec……where is a pepsi when you need one!

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LIONESS…it’s not her FAULT…but it is her burden. The fault is equal between to willing people to have sex. But in the end..her decision and hers alone will determine if that child comes into this world or not. This is what I have told friends of mine who found themselves in that situation. But they were delusional thinking once he saw the baby they’d be a family. Now years later they are still single parents. I mean that is your own dumbness. If dude told you from the get go that he did not want that baby….although it does not excuse him from his responsibilites and he needs to man up…you are getting a glimpse into your future that you would be doing it alone. Now the decision you make afterwards…totally up to you. Look at it with rose colored glasses and be naive…or take the smack of reality and make a smart decision.

SWISS…. you got jokes? Hey at least my clothes stay on.

W8…I’ma kick your a$$!

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Don’t want to have a kid, don’t let the wood anywhere near your taco..

On Another Note: the song “Birthday Sex”..lol dude is cheap..lmao..
you want to go out to eat…nope..lets go to my house and have sex
Candles and cake..nope..let’s go to my house and have sex
Flowers on the bed..nope..you got me instead..

LMAO..I love it!!!! LMAO

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If you’ve never had a sexual encounter in the heat of the moment, driven by passion or chemistry, with no thought of the future or any unintended consequences (or say you never had), then you’re not fully living life. (or you’re lying.)

Date hotter people. lol….

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He thinks she is the “total package”

How “total package” can she possibly be if she dont wanna be married?
Women with potential marriage qualities display those qualities even as u are dating.And when u get convinced that she can do a,b,c and d in marriage, thats when u decide to put ur neck on the block and ask her in marriage.
Ur friend WD is lame and i know lots of guys who are the same,cant differentiate between a good phluck and a good marriage-quality lady.

…I don’t understand folks who sleep with people they could NEVER envision marrying in the first place

who said this dating blasphemy,i didnt get a chance to read back??

If we guys only messed with those we wanna marry,what happens to the rest of u chics who arent marriage material? U will go dry for ages and thats neither fair,human nor biologically healthy.A good D helps to ease tension and high blood pressure and generally makes both sexxes happy.U walk with a bounce and increased vitality and productivity each day u wake up after a good D.
Staceye,u need to change ur modus operandi.See how ur verb/vibe is angst and ur brow is tense.U need a good rub sweetie.When are we getting tgether??

Hey gang,missed uall!

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it’s pretty pointless to attempt a relationship of any sort with someone who doesn’t share your fundamental goals for said relationship. It’s just not going to work, period.

Swiss – So true. It really sucks to be in a relationship when you know you are never going to get what you want out of it. I personally can not do it.

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@Melo- Hey!! Glad you are back to lighten the load on us other fellas here.

@Ared-LOL-take the kids with him..so if he leaves so do your maternal instincts?

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Lioness: Only women can legally give up their right as a parent. Men never lose their right as it pretains to money. There are several cases where older women have had babies by minor boys and the court made those boys pay child support even though the child was born under criminal circumstances.

Grace: A marriage certificate doesn’t have any magical powers to keep two people together if one or both don’t want to be together. The commitment is wayyyyyy more important than the certificate ask Kurt and Goldie.

W8: How you put that much work into someone that not on the page as you are? If you have to talk her into marrying you will have to talk her into staying with you as well because it wasn’t her choice, you induced her. Oh and to answer question Everytime, everytime????

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W8…I thought it was just me. When I hear that song I think…that had better be the icing on the cake. If your idea is just givng me sex….I would cut your cheap a$$! You can keep your raggedy dizznick. I mean what is so different about sex today than sex last night? Oh I am year older??? GTFOH!

MELO…I do not tense my brow…it could cause wrinkles. I am all about early prevention! I use anti aging cream now to hold off getting wrinkles when I hit that age. Dizznick may cause me to tense my face.

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Melo I am glad you are back! I hope that all is well on your end.

@Mo/W8 I love that stupid song. I meant to download it yesterday…

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@Ared-LOL-take the kids with him..so if he leaves so do your maternal instincts?

They’re his kids too. I’m not one of those women who HAS to have kids. So if he wants to leave me, he can take em too.

Ideally, I’d like to be married with a guy who doesn’t want kids either. So if we have em, he’d probably be the one who REALLY wanted them in the first place!

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AmazonRed I am not with being engaged 2-3 years… if I am going to propose I plan on being married within 1 year… if that long.

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staceye…you are setting your self up for failure…and not realize it.

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I have never heard the “birthday” song. O.KAY.!

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@For Real- I dunno man, If I am feeling her that strongly I guess I would do what it takes to make her comfortable.

@Ared- I am not knocking you on what you do, but I just find it far fetch for every mic song on for every taco licked for every insertion..that person was seen as a possible spouse. I am not condoning random sex at all, it’s just odd.

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I wish I could have full custody of my kids..that would be the best, seriously.

It is the best. I would chnage it for all i have in the world.

Seriously.

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if I am going to propose I plan on being married within 1 year… if that long.

EPO – You said she asked within a few months of graduation. So again, if she got married within a year, she still would have been a college graduate, right?

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W8- you and that playilist…pure comedy! LOL!

Kinder – Im cool, just getting a lil work done

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W8 – Sounds like you really love being a Daddy. That’s cool and nothing I find more sexy. One of the things that attracted me to my SO. Notice I said Daddy and not Father. It’s a difference.

Hope you and all the other great dads on here have a nice Fathers Day.

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@w8..fam….only song you need is “straight flucking”..by the transitions…it was on the baby boy soundtrack but they had an album out before that on biv 10 records…love that track…real gritty and raw….vocals that is..an here is the link…if you at work stick on your headphones…lol

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urUPQIPoc2M

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far fetch for every mic song on for every taco licked for every insertion..that person was seen as a possible spouse

W8 – You find it far fetched…so?

I haven’t been with a lot of guys, nor do I do one night stands or cut buddies. When you place a value on sex, you don’t sleep with a lot of people, but especially ones that bring nothing to the table but dyck.

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girl are you my sista from another mista? I have the same experiences and the same view point. I even run away from the bridal bouquet toss at receptions. I have no desire to ever marry. Heck I doubt if I will ever want a relationship again. I have become so happily single….I wonder if I could go down that road again.

Mamba you know we some kin….and you know I run from the bouqet,too…how wild is that? I went home last week and errbody kept asking me when I was going to have children but no one asked when I was getting married, how backwards is that ish. My last relationship left me not wanting another one and I’m just not into it right now. I wonder if I’ll always continue to be anti-relationship and seriously wonder if I’ll go down that road again myself. I can honestly say that I just don’t have the desire. What to do?…….

I have male and female friends who are in love with being in love and relationships and have seen them make some asinine decisions in pursuits of it….only to ultimately get burned in the end. It reaffirms what I feel and how I think…is that wrong?

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@Page- I feel you on that sometimes Dad’s get a raw deal
@Kimmie- I do love it it’s the best thing in the world..nothing comes before my kids until I get married, then my wife would..Being a father is the best feeling in the world (doing a happy dance)

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W8…that song is the ish, lol

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kimmie being able to believe what a person says is vital to a relationship. As I said before people often say things they don’t really mean, or that they have not thought through. If you take every word from your partner literally you will have problems just the same as if you doubt every word they say. You have to have a general understanding of wht you think their beliefs are, despite what they might say on any given day.

Just like the man who was reported missing by his girlfriend but when the police found him he said he wasn’t missing… he said his wife told him to “go away” so he left for a few days… LoL

I do agree with you as far as dealing with men… what we say the first time is usually how we really feel, so if a man says he is not with committment or marriage I would say believe him… but you ladies are different. I have been in plenty of “friends with benefits” situations where we both agreed that we were not trying to become a couple.. but after a couple weeks guess who wants a committment??? not me… I said up fron that that’s not what I wanted, and I still didn’t want it after 2 months.

BUt even if sex if not involved… women tend to actually change their minds about certain things after you have been together a while… where as men tend to still feel the same way about most issues as the day you met.

How many times do women say things like he “he had to grow on me”? Men don’t typically say a woman had to grow on him.. we tend to know at first sight (Or after the first date)if we are interested in a relationship, marriage, or just smashing. Dudes know that certain women tend to spark that “I can see myself marrying her” feeling shortly after meeting.

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Hey Melo.

How’s your family doing?

my BIL 2 brothers died when he came here and he was not able to get bac to neither of his bother’s burial when they died. The first brother did within a year or 2 of him coming to the country, and then his eldest brother about 6-7 years after being here.

His father and the brothers all died for HBP.

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Yep, W8- Don’t I know. I had to get out of the Child Welfare/Social Work field because it was too sad and depressing. It’s a thankless career, and I learned a lot. Thus the reason why it’s so easy for me to read between the lines and analyze people and situations.

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AmazonRed The point is that my mind does not work like that… she said she didn’t want to get married until after graduating… so I did not bother to ask… I would have preferred to ask a long well before then. But I actually listen to what people say they want. I understand what you are saying… that’s not how my mind works. If you don’t want somethig until a certian date, I am not going to bother you about it until after that date.

Which brings up another point for kimmie If men took every word women say literally relationships would never last more than a few weeks, and that’s a fact.

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@Ared-yeah the marriage was anulled, four days later..I initiated the procedures.

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Memo you will have to give me a nick name.

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I wish I could have full custody of my kids..that would be the best, seriously

Always the best! Thats why i wont consider divorce at all unless i had lots of money,then i wld have lots of alternatives and fincial muscle.Thats why i dont stress small stuff in ma Kingdom coz i cant fathom having a silly argument about her pubic hair on the floor when there are other,more important stuff in the house to deal with,kids.
And the thoght of Ray-Ray/Tyrone/JaRule etc coming to my kids house to phluck ex,in the presence of my kids….i cant envision that…

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No, I would not date anyone that wasn’t on the same relationship path as me.

Who here saw a potential wife/husband for every sexual experience had? Oral included. Not every sexual experience, but every one since college.

If you’ve never had a sexual encounter in the heat of the moment, driven by passion or chemistry, with no thought of the future or any unintended consequences (or say you never had), then you’re not fully living life Not sure who said this initially, but I have to respectfully disagree – I am fully living the life that I was called to live and honestly I don’t even want to have this type of experience.

Hawthorne was good to me. I loved how they used Alicia Keys’ songs in the show too.

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@Alvin- This is your theme song huh? lol
(link to the lyrics..lmao)
http://www.mp3lyrics.org/l/lil-wayne/every-girl/

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Melo I am messing with my phone.

Correction- Melo, you will have to give me a nickname…

I need some coffee!

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At this point in my life I am the same way, but I know in my younger days I was not..

W8 – Yeah, it didn’t take my youth to realize this. My parents had 3 daughters and we grew up in L.A. of all places. They probably went a little overboard trying to make sure we didn’t wild out. I appreciate that. Cuz at the very least, if we weren’t going to remain virgins til marriage, we were going to have sex with someone we cared about.

I lost my virginity at 18. I told my boyfriend that I was going to graduate HS a virgin (and I did). When we finally went there, he made it really special, a romantic date and a room at a hotel over looking the marina. I had known him for two years and dated him for 1.

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@Ared- How long do you wait before you have sex or oral with a guy you are dating?

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I have 2 kids, I have only had sex twice (raises my eyebrow)

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Now remember you prefer to not answer stuff that’s been noted “foolish” verbiage.

Ceemeeli – I know what infidelity is. My question is where did all that come from? Were you speaking on your experience or something?

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Tazzee – I am the one that initially made that statement.

I am not advocating an all out fcukfest at all times for no reason. I am also not encouraging anyone to fail to make good decisions about who they are involved with.

Even at this point, I tend not to get ‘carried away’ by passion and actively choose to participate in any encounter.

I’m just saying that there have been times when passion has ruled out thought. Most often though, if I’m not going to be into a dude like that or eventually expect that to happen anyway, I’m probably not going to waste my time spending time with him anyway.

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Ceemeeli – I know what infidelity is. My question is where did all that come from? Were you speaking on your experience or something?

I answered you because you asked: Hunh?

No, my experiences are very small when it come to infidelity.

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@Ared- How long do you wait before you have sex or oral with a guy you are dating?

W8 – First of all, oral and sex go hand and hand. On average it’s at least a few months.

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Halle Berry, Halle Berraaaaayyyyyy

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How old was everyone when they lost their virginity?

I was 17 when I was “deflowered”…..many moons ago

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What’s the difference between a bytch and a hoe?

What’s the difference between a hoe and a slut?

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Melo you better make sure it is good…it must encompass my intellect and beauty. In other words don’t sell your girl short.

I hate to hear about 2003 for you 2008 was like that for me so I was ready for 2009

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My last post was eaten so I’ll try to reinterate what I said Kimmie I got where you’re coming from with the intiamacy part and dating but for me I date to get to know the person, see how they act in public and such and through that process where I find out if our belief systems are in sync, and if we both are on the same path in life with morals, values, goal, etc etc…we can decide to go to the next level of a commited relationship that can hopefully turn into marriage.

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W8/N8- “The Trapper”….ohh she is cute with good hair…imma get her pregant….

ohh.look at her she ugly she probably got a disease or something

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Oh and when Jamoca comes on later – I emphatically reject the name Linda, that name reminds me of somebody’s Auntie or something

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@ Melo – He silently grieved during/afer his relaives death. I couldn’t imagine being in a totally different country than my close relatives. That had to be hard for you too!

Again, sorry for your loss.

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Melo – I’m not talking about a spiritual calling per se, I already said there were times that I had sex with someone that was a potential husband back in my younger days. But it was never without thought for the future. My mind is always thinking about the future so before I even engage with someone that I find extremely sexy, I’m thinking about what may or may not happen.

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And did I mention that I make real mistakes?

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I wish i could be so lucky. LikeReal, I DO BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE I just don’t want to be married. NOt every womans dream. The men I meet want to rush me to the alter.

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What’s the difference between a bytch and a hoe?
What’s the difference between a hoe and a slut?

a hoe does it for money.A bytch can hoe for money but bytch can jus be an attitude.
A slut is loose with it,but not always.She can pull them down pants at short notice for the right man with good verb skills.

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Rell – fireman!!!

maaaan,ur 11.32.Seems like u and i have swapped seats in magic/strokkers/ many times.I didnt even read u be4 i posted but im proud of ur authenticity!

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Amred/Kiely – Wanted to let you know I respect your views on sharing yourself with someone special. I was brought up the same way actually. Some people can’t fathom that everybody is not out here running the streets, “sharing” with everybody. I can’t say that I’ve been as disciplined as you, but when I was not, I felt empty. Was not worth it – to ME.

Thanks kimmie, I appreciate your words.

There have been a couple of instances where I’ve messed around on a first date and things were getting way to far. I admit that I haven’t been the most graceful getting out of them. But fortunately, for a man on “the hunt” he’s willing to slow down and go more my speed.

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…I was 21….will my neighbor and her two girl friend…three months after the woman I love…but couldn’t share intimasy with…pass away.

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Yes, I understand that people say things they really don’t mean all the time, but they need to be careful when it comes to serious things like marriage & children & health issues. Sit up and take notice and yes, take it LITERALLY.

@ Kimmie – Point taken.

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So basically,SexxyCool pegged everyone(regulars) correct.
Kimmie has been there,done that,so has Ared.(these 2 are the most conservative on the blog as far as revealing intimates,well incl Tazzee)
Well i know Ared has hinted about the guys who came to clean her nana good while in college(am i right Ared?),even tho u said u neva gave them a return fav!
I believed u and still do,with a wink

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Leggs Jeremih sing that song.

W8 you know Halle is not thicker that Janet….lol

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@Tazzee, I’ve seen the words to the Halle Berry song, but don’t know how it sounds. I want to hear about the birthday song so I know what to say to lil leggs should she know about this song.

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What’s up party people?

On topic: Their maybe a lot of statements made at the beginning of a relationship but as we all know people do change once you get closer and build up trust! If Mr. Roland thinks she is the one he needs to continue dating this woman and get to know her better their maybe a reason that she has not reveal on why she does not want to get married!

@W8…. first stated he was slinging dyck all over the place, then stated he only had sex with his 2 wives!

Mamba is good just a little radical with the germs and control issues!

Hello Ms. Sassy!

SexyCool: I agree with you about heat of the moment and you were not prepared with protection! I bet a many of us have had sex in the heat of the moment and no protection was around! Let’s keep it real!

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W8…lol on my theme songs…not today though…I am playing a lot of r&b…and reliving one special memory of a friend long gone, lol…I will be manning up before that day is over, ha ha ha

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BTW – my definition of sexual encounters is/was not strictly limited to those that include insertion.

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Let’s keep it real!

Sure thing…wait, I already was. *shrugs*

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I am not going to say I don’t believe in marriage..lets just say I am not a big fan or avid seeker of the way. I desired it at one time and frankly I am over it. What works for me will not work for all.

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V1
See, I know what you’re thinkin’
You’re feelin’ like a lucky guy
I was the same way
’cause she was hard to come by
I was on her so hard
That I almost lost my hustle
So go ‘head, playboy, do your thing
Don’t be mad if she calls my name

Chorus
Walkin’ around, supportin’ her, holdin’ her hand
Doin’ it big like you’re the man
But she was my girl
She used to be my girl
I must admit that she’s a 10
Bet she didn’t tell you about way back when
When she was my girl
She used to be my girl

V2
See, I know how you’re feelin’
I used to be in your shoes
So calm down with the attitude
You’re just a next somebody new
You never know how much she’s feelin’ you
So be happy that you got her
Don’t know much about you, dude
Sorry, I gotta break the news

Hook
She’s still thinkin’ ’bout me
And I’ll tell you why
She couldn’t even hold her head up when you walked by
Well, don’t go hatin’ on me
It’s just a game
You want her, you got her
Take her, you got her
To me it’s all the same

Chorus
Walkin’ around, supportin’ her, holdin’ her hand
Doin’ it big like you’re the man
But she was my girl
She used to be my girl
I must admit that she’s a 10
Bet she didn’t tell you about way back when
When she was my girl
She used to be my girl

Walkin’ around, supportin’ her, holdin’ her hand
Doin’ it big like you’re the man
But she was my girl
She used to be my girl
I must admit that she’s a 10
Bet she didn’t tell you about way back when
When she was my girl
She used to be my girl

Bridge
Erotic, exotic,
You must admit she’s got it
She used to be my girl
Sexy with talent
Built like a stallion
She used to be my girl
You got her so flaunt her
Know everybody wants her
She used to be my girl
’cause you might not be the only
So never leave her lonely

Hook
She’s still thinkin’ ’bout me (she’s still thinking ’bout me, and looking here)
And I’ll tell you why
She couldn’t even hold her head up when you walked by (hey, yea)
Don’t go hatin’ on me
It’s just a game
You want her, you got her
Take her, you got her
To me it’s all the same

Chorus
Walkin’ around, supportin’ her, holdin’ her hand
Doin’ it big like you’re the man
But she was my girl
She used to be my girl
I must admit that she’s a 10 (she used to be down with me)
Bet she didn’t tell you about way back when (she used to be a freak for me)
When she was my girl (we used to hold hands, she used to understand)
She used to be my girl (she used to be down with me)

Walkin’ around, supportin’ her, holdin’ her hand (she used to take trips with me)
Doin’ it big like you’re the man (she used to wiggle her hips for me)
But she was my girl (she used to lick her lips for me)
She used to be my girl (she used to, she used to)
I must admit that she’s a 10 (she used to, she used to)
Bet she didn’t tell you about way back when (she used to be my girl)
When she was my girl (she used to be my girl)
She used to be my girl (she used to be my girl)

Yea, yea, yea, yeaa, used to be my girl (x3)

Walkin’ around, supportin’ her, holdin’ her hand
Doin’ it big like you’re the man
But she was my girl
She used to be my girl
I must admit that she’s a 10
Bet she didn’t tell you about way back when
When she was my girl
She used to be my girl

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You better not reveal that you are my ex-wife on her ever..

W8 – LOL!! No chance in that – haven’t birthed no babies!

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So having oral sex performed on you is different than performing oral sex? …marriage material, everytime?

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Would you believe someone if they said they hadn’t been intimate with anyone in 9 years?

Yeah i wld.I actually met one in my younger wild years and she professed,she hadnt been tched in years.I proved it coz when i eventually sampled,there were cob webs there,dry and virgin-like.
Thing is,she had mothered a kid,broken up with daddy,she was crushed,went to the church and then yrs later met this Bad boy and got sucked in.(i used to revel in and exploit my charmness which was a magnet)
The experience with me was kinda of an encore 4 her buuuuuut,thats lyfe!
(i aint proud of that experience tho)

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Its so funny runnin into you
It has to be three years
Since we last seen each other
Many flashbacks come to mind
Of the wild and crazy times
We used to have with one another

We absolutely didnt care
We would do it anywhere
Eye contact, and it was over
But thats when I was wildin out
I couldnt care less about
Someone gettin hurt
Ive done my share of dirt
But I done wised up

1 - seein you reminds me of
All the nights I used to beat it up
I would do it again, but I cant
Cuz everything is different now
I finally have settled down
And became a one woman man

Ooh
There were many others after you
Quite a few one night stands
Some of their names I cant remember
Imagine wakin up to someone new
You barely even knew
Time and time again

But theres someone for everyone
Ive been blessed to find that one
Who makes me feel like no other
You are lookin good as hell
But I cant go home with you
Because Im goin home to her

Repeat 1

Long gone, are the days
When I ran the streets
Tryin to get laid
Ooh, and now
(see now that I found the love of my life)
(I dont have to trick no more)
Girl, it was nice seein you
But I gotta go home to my baby

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So having oral sex performed on you is different than performing oral sex? …marriage material, everytime?

Yes, I think giving and taking are two different thing. But he was marriage material anyway. *shrugs*

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Kimmie- DEFINITELY wasn’t referring to you TRUST that!

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Hey Elijah..what it do?

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I am a firm believer that NOT every man, no matter if he is marriage material or not, is deserving of oral sex..

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All of my lies are true stories..I promise @W8 LOL

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@Melo- My point is if you are giving or getting there is no high road you are both there

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I am a firm believer that NOT every man, no matter if he is marriage material or not, is deserving of oral sex..how do you determine that Lioness

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Unbeweavable

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Wait did I fall back in here in the middle of a blog fight? Why is W8 telling true lies?

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@Kym- it’s the blog thing to do

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Now when I talk about the sex with husband-material, I’m talking about intercourse. Which goes back to the origin of this discussion about sex = babies, having babies with someone you wouldn’t marry, etc…

Tazzee – I agree, but everyone has their own interpretations. But either way, randoms aren’t allowed to do the oral either.

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Grace- That is just what I believe.. Just me.. I don’t just slob knobs.. We have had this convo on here before.. I have had sex with a person that I wasn’t really feeling but the sex was great.. If I perform oral on a dude, I am FEELING you.. I am not with the “if you do me, I do you” thing.. I do what I want to do & you do the same..

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a good friend just told me “denial is deadly.” ain’t that the truth?! no matter what the deal is, take your truth serum daily folks…lol.

Agreed!

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Own your lies, Own your truth..its your reality.

Now what are ya’ll lying about.

@For Real..I have been out for three weeks I am going to need a update. Who did who.. who did who where..who did who where and with what..who did who where with what and why. You get the idea.

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DJ- Felt what way about women?

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heyale to the naw everyone ain’t deserving of oral sex…truly…not in these days and times.

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M- THANK YOU!!! Goodness.. Some women just LOVE to slob knobs.. Just ain’t me!

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There are some that impregnates a woman hoping she’ll stay. Bingo, Leggs. Nuff said. I’ve given my biography on several occasions. And no, I am not condoning kids before marriage, but it’s obvious who’s accountable for their actions versus those of us who’d at the first glimpse of an opportunity that presents itself, would give their children away and/or have someone else raise or pay for a decision that they damned well had their hands in, as well.

And check this: everything is not for “you” to understand about another individual’s situation or past decisions. Cuz I’ll be dayumed if I spend my days and nights trying to “understand” someone else’s viewpoints, when I clearly won’t make or break their very existence…not to mention self validation. All assumptions and speculation as usual…and water under the bridge. And with that I can honestly admit, while I would have liked my daughters to experience the two-parent experience up close and personal….I can’t deny being relieved that I did not make matters worse by going that route. Kids should not be an excuse for jumping into marriage. Knowing what I know now, the situation would have been worse for us all. Last I heard, this was Jamoca’s bed, so excuse me while I lay…

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heyale to the naw everyone ain’t deserving of oral sex…truly…not in these days and times.

M’ – Oral sex or intercourse!

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If I perform oral on a dude, I am FEELING you.. I am not with the “if you do me, I do you” thing.. I do what I want to do & you do the same..

Lioness I cosign witchu on that. I want to be able to let my hair all the way down but there are some things that we shuouldn’t do to/with any or errbody.

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lol@Melo- Depends on the mother..lmao

I guess so.

A hoe mum will proly ask if and how much she got in return

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My daughters know the drill and make it a point to drill it often…since I’m no fool into thinking/underestimating the odds that they’re up against out here. A lot of today’s children/teens are ruthless and relentless with the kind of shyt they love to put on their peers’ minds. BBB b/c BBB = Books Before Boys b/c Boys Bring Babies…if YOU allow them.
Responsibility stops babies from being born out of wedlock. …and to go a bit further….ABSTINENCE stops babies from being born, since NO BIRTH CONTROL is 100% effective…for our serial daters…movers and shakers.
Bringing it back….it’s not solely about the cards we’re dealt in life, but more so how we play the hand we’re dealt. Much love to all of the single parents (not just mothers) doing the damn thang…no matter what the people say… you’ve got to find a way to survive, cuz they win, when your soul dies. ~ Pac (Happy Belated Birthday)

N8 – Regarding age, it depends. Consensual or Non?

Linda/Shaundra – I’ve already stated their will be no modifications to any blog gubment names. Sorry…and Shaundra like I stated earlier, they way a person comes across at times or the majority is the “energy” that’s given off. So per your responses, you’ve got more than enough “Black” in ya’ than you can possibly handle. Now…quit whinnin! lol

Boaz – Professor’s is Lauryn (typo yesterday) oh…and since Queen is vicariously a regular on here…her name shall be “Arswayah” . But please note that you were given the name Boaz, from the stories you’ve shared about her…and the scenario when meeting your grandmother and the elders of your tribe. She knew at that moment….”your people, shall be her people”. (Tho’ the Bible says it was Ruth who said that, but she joined Boaz even still..)

Kinderbabe – Ashleigh

M’(karyl) – Jocelyn or Josephine (Josie for short)

WiseD – Julia

SassyMe – Lucia, Inez, or Victoria (Vicky for short)

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slob knobs…too funny…too funny.

Well, it ain’t worth the risk…buy one and work it out…lol…if all you “need” is the feel of slobbing the knob…the same STD’s and HIV issues pass through with oral sex too…both ways…ya’ know.

Yeah, Jamoca….kids should not be the reason for jumping into marriage…I am very glad that I did not marry my child’s father b/c that would have been a straight divorce court issue…and the woman he did marry divorced him 2 kids and a few years later…no, I have no regrets…and when ask why we did not marry…or when my daughter ask me why her father and I got together…I tell’em simply put…he liked mine and I liked his…lol

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AmRed – no oral randoms but I have had some oral from a guy that wasn’t husband material.

Lioness – my raised eyebrow to your statement was that you said even a guy that is husband material might not be worthy of oral. I guess that’s what I didn’t understand – you’re willing to marry a guy but not ’slob the knob’ as you say

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do guys lose virginity or we lose innocence?!!

I lost my innocence with an older chic many moons ago and dont remember precisely what yr.
My memory is puddsy clouded.

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if all you “need” is the feel of slobbing the knob…the same STD’s and HIV issues pass through with oral sex too…both ways…ya’ know.

It is extremely rare to get HIV through oral sex. Extremely. Same for most other STDs. And some can not be passed orally at all.

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but some ppl seem to think that the oral is less of a danger and less risky…duh!!!!…

It is though. Fact are facts.

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Lioness, I was asking if you would stay with a guy who felt that not every woman was deserving of oral sex. Would him not wanting to do it to u be a dealbreaker?

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Jocelyn or Josephine….say WTF!??!?!?!??…lol

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Thanks for that clarification Lioness.

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WOW, I added my gubermt name just in time for Ms. Jamoca’s appearance.

@Mo, I thought I made an official announcement blog bar always open at 11:45. Just saddle up to the bar and tell me whatcha like. Everytime we talk about blog bar and blog breakfast I always remember how some of our lurkers dislike us doing this….so, here’s am X-Rated Mimosa Royale for you = 2/3 glass of champagne, 1 ounce of x-rated Fusion Liquer. Drink up!

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I bet if i lick any one of u’s boob teets,ull raise ur leggs and wide in anticipation of Big Joe’s entry!

melo – It’s really just about self-control. I want sex much more than I actually have it!

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DJ- Depends on what our deal was.. Would I take offense to a man not wanting to kiss my taco? Nope! He would be eating tacos sooner than he thinks.. Actions speak louder than words

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Well shyt since y’all bartending can a girl get a shot of Patron Citron on the rocks please……

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had an acquaintance that was diagnosed as HIV positive from oral sex encounters…and another person I knew years back got some sort of mouth version of a genital STD from oral sex…really…viruses are viruses…and body fluids are body fluids.

M’ – And I don’t discount that at ALL. You have to know the stats and risk. And especially if you are using condoms, oral sex could be more risky than protected intercourse.

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Melo- I guess I am trying to stick out of the crowd then

If a dude mentions oral, I get sick to my stomach & I reconsider answering his calls..

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Thanks Leggs, I mean Karyn! Your gubment name is nice! LOL

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@Ared

Yepper…there are risk…maybe not as high…but still risk…I remember the patients that became infected with HIV from the dentist being in their mouths…and I do believe he was taking precautions with gloves, etc…makes me wonder.

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Grace

it’s both parties responsiblity to protect themselves to risk pregnancy/disease…burden is always placed on the women…men get a way with so much.

I think that is just a matter of opinion.

There are plenty of men who have gone through court proceedings that would beg to differ. Child support alone affect a man and any potential woman he considers to marry. That is money that goes to another household. Court records show that court weighs heavily in favor of females when it comes to spousal and child support.

People get away with stuff when they aren’t held accountable by those affected by their actions. This is not gender specific.

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Andrea (formerly known as Mo’) – You do know that as your blog gubment name, right? My posts to you finally appeared at closing time.

Hey Cheryl (formerly known as Kym)!!! Missed reading you on here. How’s school going?

See, Josie (M’karyl) – That’s what I’m tombout. You know, my aunt (daughter’s paternal) told me of the story where her son’s father asked her father (& mother) for her hand in marriage before graduation…only to marry someone else and she found out she was having their son (who is now 39-40 yrs old). She said that she was so devastated that she totally lost it…(mind you she came from a pretty decent two parent household), but she allowed that (humiliation) to break her for years…and boy, did her life take a downward spiral. After awhile, she got it together (years later) and it took the loss of her mother for it to all click. And come to find out, her son’s father…though he married the other woman (and is still married to her)he’s now an alcoholic AND…gave that woman plenty of azz whuppins and all sorts of unspeakable things.

Now tell me that she did not dodge a shyt load of bullets? Shyttin’ me!?! lol

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M’/A.red….so true so true…not even worth it.

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but there are some ppl who seem to think that they reduce the risk with just oral…NOT!!!

M’ – but statistically they do. But still doesn’t help if that test comes back positive.

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Personally, I don’t care for the oral – it doesn’t make me want to go further.

so when it gets done on u,do u feel it since u not there, mentally??

I want sex much more than I actually have it!

so u saying,more often than not,u fend it off??

Kinda hating on the blog guys right now coz of their inabilities, I know,if we eva were to get tgether(u Tazzee included),u wld all want to finish me off!! (that was a Kathy Griffin joke on Larry King last nite,speaking of Levi Johnson,Bristol Palin ex)

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What’s the spill now?

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“Should obesity be classified as a disability????”

Bootydo is a disability

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Melo Thanks for answering my earlier question. btw- my bad boy has not broken my heart.

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I would imagine dyckdo would be labeled a disability by women also

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Many of us have, and yet ppl are still trying to devalue who that person is today because of the best irresponsible past.

Everyone has a past.

Some just cain’t be seen by the beautiful face looking at you from that past.

^^^ Cee-Rhonda, I’m shoulder to shoulder with you on that, sis.

Jamoca You have a smoother shoulder. Why is that?! To bad “someone” would not approve of me at the Vegas rendevous, or else we’d finally shuck and jive, live.

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DJ- I guess My man gets blessed very well so I am done with questions that don’t pertain to me

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Staceye- That is what my gyn’s assistant told me too! People with STD’s need to have sex with people that have the same

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WD- LMAO!

Cee- I think so mama

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@WD

Patron…naw, I thought that it was Jagermiester that caused that problem…lol…now, that one I will not mess with in any but small amounts…like one shot every 3 months.

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Jamoca – Andrea? Okay I can roll with that…..LOL

W8 – stop please! LOL! A dyckdo??

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Sassy…LOL…all that ish is on the backburner now…I am sure the next women I am intimate will pay for my backdafuggupness, LOL

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Most guys I encounter want to sleep with me

I wanted to knock off all the chicks i encountered.But u proly attract a fair share of guys who are bamboozled too and cannot hide their intentions coz of u know what.Which makes ur weeding/qualification process mighty difficult.
But i wld hazard that the qualified dudes who were serious have left their dna.

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Cee – thanks for reminding me that I had cherries in my lunch pail. I bought some at Whole Foods this past weekend and they are DELICIOUS!

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Ared- a cold sore<– I care VERY MUCH about this!

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W8- Feel better yet??

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WiseDiva – you know I’m a lightweight, but Patron doesn’t affect me like others. Now of course – moderation is key.

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I met a girl who gave me her sign in and password to her medical history and all of her test results…I didnt even ask for them, just got an email…it was alll clean and good…she has kinda raised the bar since then

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Ared- Shyte, I do I am not a random kisser either.. If I am kissing you, we have our results already.. Promise!

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@Lioness- I think I did to much yesterday and didnt take my medicine..so I am taking it easy today after a shot from the Doctor this morning, thanks for asking. They are just trying to make sure our systems are clean..my little girl along with everyone else I know has jokes about me being a meth head..lol

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Melo – never said I didn’t feel, just that I don’t care for it

well i was trying to process that, thinking “not-care” will go to ur brain and affect how u respond/feel to oral.
If u telling me that there is a disconnect tween ur non caring 4 it and how u feel when u have it,then i see leeway.
A good, skilled and experienced man shld be able to make u go off and and make u want to bite him.
It depends on how he gets u to undress and makes u feel comfortable…letting ur hair reaaaaal down and remove that sexxy pony tail.

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@Ce- Detoxing from a raid/drug bust inhaled some stuff after the explosion

I have eaten 2 meatloaf sandwiches w/cheese, salad, Rum Raisin Ice Cream, Half a box of Cap’n Crunch, some steak, 2 pop tarts, some green tea, some white grape juice and powerade, a corner of hennesy and a 1 liter coke..

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@MO- Dunlap..lol

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gave me her sign in and password to her medical history and all of her test results”

W8 We can get it on out keychain like a photokey size. They offer that with health insurance plans. I didn’t opt for it. I believe all that only for a need to know bases, not everyone needs to know…cause not everyone get the cookie.

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I have eaten 2 meatloaf sandwiches w/cheese, salad, Rum Raisin Ice Cream, Half a box of Cap’n Crunch, some steak, 2 pop tarts, some green tea, some white grape juice and powerade, a corner of hennesy and a 1 liter coke.

Now see I don’t drink, so help me try and understand this.

You needed the entire contents of the fridge to chase your Hennessy? Now that’s new. All that coa-cola (notice I say coa-cola) and you ain’t done chasin’ it.

lol

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Jamoca – It’s crazy out there now. I’ve been part of discussions and little girls are sending out mass texts asking “anyone wanna have sex” (and actually doing it).

^^^ See, and this is part of the reason that oldest daughter is not allowed a cell phone. She spends enough time around “the hellions” as it is at school. What da heyal do they have to really say off campus??? Mama knows…lol. Besides, those little girls of mine, STAY busy. I know all about idle time = Lucifer’s stompin’ grounds.

Ummmm,N8 – What in the world is dyckdo?…lol Okay, okay, nevamind…it’s when the stomach sticks out more than his dyckdo? Got it!…btw, I think “the booty-do” is a stupid dance. Lol and I despise the song “Birthday Sex”…. everybody wanna be Roger (Computer Love)

Andrea aka Lil Bit –>(Mo) – LOL @ Dunlap! I like that one better!

Karyn (Leggs) – What would you suggest, while you’re holding down the fort at the bar? I could you a lil sumthin…especially since Chantal(.02) isn’t anywhere to be found in this piece to bless me with one of her concoctions… And why hadn’t anyone told me about the Jolly Rancher brand sodas? LOL…only in the hood, b/c lawwd knows folks in Publix would give me nothing but the blankest of stares.

Rhonda(Cee) – oh…WE WILL be shuckin’ n’ jivin’ before the summer’s up. Be-leee ‘dat! I may even surprise some of you. And you ARE a Rhonda type chick…keep giving off that energy.

Josie (formerly known as M’karyl) – When I think of that name, I think of Josephine Baker and her free spirited, liberated ways.

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CORRECTION: I could “use” a lil sumthin…TO DRANK! Karyn, you’re up sis.

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@Jam- ON that Bday sex song that is his real voice not a computer like Roger or T-Pain..someone posted the link on here with him doing a raw session..just him and the piano..no effects thats his voice
HEre it is again:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQVbrZDekDw

@Ce- She planned on giving it to me so I guess before the convo she just sent me the login. lol My appetite came back strong…the fridge is not safe…Im thinking of making some cheese grits

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@Jam my name is not Cheryl..who in the heck is Cheryl and why is she using my name. School is going well..(I haven’t passed out from the stress). Work is what has me really busy.

Are we on STD’s and oral sex now? STD–no Oral sex enjoy being the giver and the givee. Next

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W8 – just reading what you inhaled gave me the bubble guts!! Dayum bruh!! LOL!

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Melo- WOW! Your wife GOTS to be blazing someone else!

A nude beach in jacksonville florida.. Not a Good Look AT ALL!! More of a HOOD look

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just found out the hard way a few years ago never leaves once you’ve had it (just goes dormant & can come back as shingles if your immune system gets weak

Swiss – The wife of one of my coworker has shingles. She reportedly got it from the airplane seat on their honeymoon flight to Hawaii.

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@Melo- Did they go ahead and open it? I know there is one down near Miami

@The ladies here is a work safe pic from me at the beach last year..just taking a stroll on the sand
http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2163/1974248817_3130646c1a_o.jpg

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W8 — Drug bust… Meth lab explosion… Um, you busted some of my cousins, didn’t you? Feel better soon, dude.

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Ared- Was she on the plane in her drawls? I NEVER fly with my leggs, arms or feet exposed..

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W8- Does your girl know you post nude pics of yourself on a public blog?

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@Swiss- Thanks man

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<strong.@W8

Uh…Durex?!?!??!?…lol

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@Ce- Hey you have to love proactive women..lol
@Lioness- You are starting to sound like Ared..lol..I thought it was a nice picture
@M’- Durex..lol

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Melo why is it you get to go around setting up potential screw downs but if your wife does it you going apeshyt batty?

u asking me or u asking bill clinton,elliot spitzer,grand ol philanders(GOP) or all men.
That qstion and the answer is as old as civilization.

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Kym- Good question.. She must be that type of woman cause GOD ONLY KNOWS if he was MY man, his tail would be a WRAP!!!

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So Easy..lol

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LOL @ Cheryl! Kym – all the Cheryl’s I knew were not about the BS – at all. Outspoken as all get out and liberated as well. And Lmao @ —> Melo “Mojo”…naw, him name Boaz (with one ‘z’) lol.

N8 – It just reminds me of T-Pain and ‘nem trying with their renditions whether it be natural or engineered. But then, I’m pretty biased towards Roger. That’s about all that I can take of that annoying sound. LOL

LOL @ Luscious with “Dyck in A Box” idea…and I meant to add, on yesterday, I thought of Roscoe for you, but could only picture Steve Harvey’s alter ego, or Welcome Home Roscoe Jenkins’. So Luscious and Warren (which the name is one of my family members too)…they just better suit you. They sound more attractive, yet rough around the edges.

So may be that is why Chantel (sp?) calls me Esperanza….I got that esp thang going on. LOL Wait, did I just co-sign to Luscious referring to me as a witch from The Crucible???

Julia – Heyal, I KNEW YOU’D like it.

Hey Josie, yeah….you worked that ‘nana tutu’ sis! Lmao You’re a trip!

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ARed- Nothing about me is unbelievable.. I don’t slob knobs unless I feel they are worthy, I don’t kiss folks, & I don’t board planes with my skin exposed except for my hands & face.. Nothing unbelievable about that! Reread some of what people post, there is a BUNCH oif UNBEweavable stuff posted.. It is kind of like people WISH they lead the life they try to protray on this piece

W8- I was just kidding cause I don’t click links Could actually care less

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Summer drinks.
Supa-Fly Sweet Tea consists of – Firefly sweet tea vodka, sparkling water, and lemon twist.
John Daly – Firefly sweet tea vodka, hand-pressed lemonade, peach schnapps and mint(optional).

I received that tea cocktail drink via email mytwocents.

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Really? Had she never had chicken pox? My doc told me it wasn’t contagious for those who had already been exposed to the chicken pox virus — i.e. the symptoms weren’t contagious; it was only an issue for those who had never been exposed to chicken pox

swiss – Like I said, I don’t know the details. I really didn’t even know what shingles was at the time. I’m not sure why he even told me the story. Maybe the topic was bad honeymoons or something.

So either she got it from the airplane seat or she was waiting til after the wedding to drop the news.

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The way he explained it, that virus never leaves your body once you’ve had chicken pox — it goes dormant & camps out in your spinal chord.

Yes unfortunately shingles is a biotch and the virus lies dormant in the dorsal root ganglia until a person somehow becomes immunocompromised…..herpes virus can also be contracted through anal sex as well. Eeeewwww I know but I would be remiss if I didn’t put that out there.

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It’s an icebox in my office. I’m going outside to thaw out.

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Nothing unbelievable about that! Reread some of what people post, there is a BUNCH oif UNBEweavable stuff posted..

Lioness – It all depends on your perspective tho. Someone could think you not kissing folks without test results is unbelieveable. It might be quite common and realistic to you.

I don’t really see the point of portraying anyone but who you really are, but I know it happens.

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“Hey you have to love proactive women”.

True. or man.

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AR

I don’t know how she got shingles from flying in a plane. How old is she? The plane usually wouldn’t have as much to do with it as her immune system. The immune system usually suppresses herpes zoster (shingles) once it enters the body from chicken pox.

For example, my wife dealt with shingles after a lumbar puncture (similar to a spinal tap) procedure while in the hospital. Her immune system was weakened from the procedure. That is why it is more common in older folks. Their immune system can be more susceptible to weakening.

Being trapped in the airplane cabin probably didn’t help but there has to be more to the story.

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herpes virus can also be contracted through anal sex as well.

Sassy – from what I understand, herpes is more about skin contact right? So it makes since you can get it from anal as well.

One of my friends dated a guy who was a pro wrestler. She said that often those guys caught “mat herpes,” I guess reoccuring blisters that occured on their legs and stuff from contact with different folks on the wrestling mat. (don’t know if that’s true either).

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Ared- I just don’t kiss random folks.. I have ALWAYS been that way! It just so happens that the people I kiss, I happen to have test results from.. Call ME lucky & call them fortunate

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Being trapped in the airplane cabin probably didn’t help but there has to be more to the story.

From what I gather, she picked it up from the last person in the seat before her? It was a long haul flight so maybe that was a factor? I can ask my co-worker, he’s here today, but I’m sure he’d think it was suspicious if I bring it up out the blue.

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ARed- Actually, herpes is transmitted through the stuff the blister oozes out and it getting into an open sore on the other individual. My homegirl told me that she knows a guy that contracted herpes from a chick while they were dry humping and he now has herpes around his waistline..

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Here I am, trying to eat my lunch and be entertained by yall, and you keep talking about dis-eases! Can we please talk about something more pleasant, like W8’s photos that I’m going to check out on my home computer?LOL!!!

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anal sex as well

who do anal sexx in here blog fam???
Maaan or man,lyfe is passing me by!

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@Kimmie- it’s work safe

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Sup Everybody..

Sorry I’m a little late today but Kevin has found the perfect babe.. IMO..

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Chunk bunk?

lol…That aint right.

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melo – Not me. But no surprise there.

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Melo…word…I would like to have 2 or 3 wives and no kids…i was born to the wrong tribe…

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Melo…tell ‘em how we do the African way…hahaha

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Sassy – from what I understand, herpes is more about skin contact right? So it makes since you can get it from anal as well

AmRed you’re right but you would be surprised at how many grown folk are in the dark about such things….and I’ve encountered people who didn’t know that…they only thought you could get from the wood or the vajay jay.

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Melo- A LOT of folks on here play in THAT hole & LOVE it

u wanna name names if they dont tell us or send info to my personl box Cam??

thanx Cam!

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Jam….Pony….Express…Feel da beat rock….Jam….Pony….Express…

This take me back to riding down Highway 90 with my dopeman boyfriend wearing my dopeman Nikes headed to the club. The heavy chevy with the windows down and the truck rattling. My hair up in a pineapple wave and with a leather Mother Africa medallion around my neck. Laughing with my girlfriends, all of them pregnant….

Let’s Dance….Let’s..Let’s..Let’s Dance…Listen up y’all cause this is it…forget that old dance and throw that d–k…Let’s Dance..

Riding down to PCB in Lifton’s car, sitting on Shannon’s lap…hoping I was gonna get back home before my grandmother came home from church. Going to Miracle Strip, refusing to get on the roller coaster. Running down the beach barefoot with not a care in the d@mn world…

I need an around the way girl….

Back in those days…that was all I wanted to be…

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Ared-I know somoene who has tested positive for herpes who have never had an open sore or blister in their life.<– Sooooooooo, Is their name listed on a “look out for this one” list? Are they currently sexually active? That is ridiculous! Are they sexually active?

DK- Sometimes, ppl who are TRULY in love with each other don’t consider the things you mentioned as being complicated at all.. To each its own

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Hey, that’s a great new topic – summer drink recipes!

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Melo- Google it.. As far as naming names.. I don’t know not a nan person on this piece.. But I will say that people aren’t going to just confess that they like the dookey love

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you would be surprised at how many grown folk are in the dark about such things….

I’m not surprised at all. It’s sad how many men I deal with who don’t even broach the topic of STDs. So I doubt many care about the details of transmission.

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Yeah…it’s time to take a few days off and find a beach to run on, relax on, sip martinis on, make love on……….

Yeah…it’s time to find a beach…..

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height, i meant

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@Swiss- Darn right..unless you are in Australia..lol

@Melo- If you rent a boat head to the cocktail cove on Lake Lanier, plenty of nice nude women and water

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A word of warning about nude beaches/nudist resorts/etc

swiss,no warnings,just give me a spot,dang maaan!

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W8 – Sexy – Ya’ll talking about those Jam Pony Tapes but it wasnt nothing like a KING EDWARD J Tapes.. Edward J J J J J J I say..

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I need you…sha-na-na-na-na – You’re what I want…aw, girl…

Driving around the whole damn town, picking up all my best girlfriends for school in my grandma’s two-tone brown buick skylark, car cutting off two blocks from school because I ran outta gas but was going fast enough that we coasted all the way to the senior parking lot and into a parking space…

Oh, Oh..Sheila…Let me love you till the morning comes, Shei-lah…

riding the bus to Marianna to play volleyball…loaning buying Linda a bag of barbecue potato chips because she didn’t have any money…she was so hungry she said they tasted like meat…

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Melo- You are a horny toad

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Grace- Yes ma’am.. That sex game is NO JOKE!!

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i am not into anal…but will do it, if that’s what she wants…most women I date puddy are tight enough as it is…my head is too fat for the bullish.

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When I first moved to Atlanta I used to hang with this chica from Miami who turned me on to Jam Pony and I thought that shyt was IT….whenever he said what he had to say he ended it with “oooh lawd” and we would lose our minds….those were the good ole days……

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Melo — Trust me, dude — save your eyes the horror… just go to Strokers & take a bucket of sand & a snorkel.

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Cemeeli – but you aren’t going to drink either of those. Firefly with Simply Lemonade is one of our tailgating drinks. Supa-Fly sounds like it might be too bitter for me, John Daly….well I had a bad experience with Peach Schnapps back in 1991, so I try to stay away from that

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Blame on it on the goose..gotcha feeling loose
Blame it on the tron..gotcha in the zone..

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Shaundra <— Lioness. Lol

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@M ~ Jagermiester should have been taken out of all bars in the 80’s. That’s some wicked, nasty arse stuff!

@Jamoca…hell I can’t remember.

At all of you, what is wrong with you guys. From marriages, to age of losing virginity, to oral sex to herpes…you guys have some twisted souls, GOTTA LUV IT….CARRY ON! I still have a lot to read.

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@Kym- wasn’t “my name is not Susan” a song by Whitney Houston?

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2 more drinks.

Hibiscus Lemonade – Ketel One Citroen vodka, hand pressed lemonade, and hibiscus.

Spa Lemonade – Ketel One Citroen vodka, hand pressed lemonade and pureed cucumber.

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bummmm….bump-bummmmm….bummm….bummmmm….bump-bummmmm….when I’m alone in my room…sometimes, I stare at the wall and in the back of my mind, I hear my conscious call……

One of my best gf’s introduced me to her half brother Kevin…I thought he was the cutest thing going, we ‘did it’ on a blanket in my backyard…My first Valentine’s gift was from Travis, he sent me roses and balloons to school, when my grandmother found out, she made me give the roses back and wouldn’t let me date him because everyone around town said his mother had AIDS, she didn’t want his mom to breathe on me.

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Tail is an exit & not an entrance..

Melo- I guess your wife needs that “like a virgin” spray stuff. I’ve heard it works WONDERS on getting that taco back in shape!

I LOVE me some Grey Goose!! LAWD!!

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LOL @ Dunlap.

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Cemeeli – but you aren’t going to drink either of those.

Tazzee Lee me lon’.

Kimmie Allright, don’t forget about me.

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I LOVE MY ENTIRE NAME! I hope & PRAY my husbands last name fits my name

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