Have you ever heard the song by recording artist, Keri Hilson called Energy? She sings of a relationship that is all-consuming and requires a great deal of her energy. That is what I thought of as I read Raqi’s guest post. Don’t ask me how the woman managed to write anything for us with a newborn baby. It further proves my theory that women are superheroes! Check out what she has to say and weigh in!
Are you in a space war with your mate? We are all human and we all have our personal needs, issues and desires. But do your needs, issues and desires monopolize the intimate space within your relationship? By intimate I am talking about that interpersonal time that a couple shares.
Have you ever been invited to share a chair with someone and they took up most of the space? Not because of their size but merely because they didn’t take the time to realize they weren’t leaving enough space to accommodate your needs. In many of these instances due to lack of space we are forced to move to a different seat or room.
This is very much how many of us handle our personal relationships. We take up all the comfortable space with our own matters not leaving room for our partner to deal with theirs. When all the energy and time in the relationship is spent with dealing with one individual’s issues the other is left with nothing. No room to function within the relationship.
As it has been stated many times, to be unselfish just does not come automatically. We have to stay mindful of the fact that this is not “my” relationship but it’s our relationship. It is not all about me.
Raqi makes a compelling case about being self-absorbed and selfish in a relationship. I also think that a lot of single people avoid commitment because giving another person consideration is simply not what we are used to. What are your thoughts?
Have you ever been involved with someone that took so much of your energy? Have you been the one that took all the energy in the relationship?