Violence against women, sadly, is nothing new in society, but it still is so unnerving to hear the reports. I always think, that could have been me. In the last few weeks, I have seen some disturbing news about women being attacked after turning a man down.
In the first attack, a woman was shot by a man while driving in her car, reportedly after she rolled her window up to avoid speaking to him. Then there was the story of a woman’s actual neighbor attacking her in her own home when she rejected his advances.
I have a lot of theories about the increasing numbers of attacks on women who reject men. I think there are contributing factors that stem from male and female dynamics, misogyny that infiltrates in different mediums, and mental illness that goes unchecked. What are your thoughts?
Guys, when you were being raised, what were you taught about handling rejection from women? How did you cope with it in your younger years, compared to now? Have you ever experienced problems with women after you rejected them? How did you handle it?
I remember reading about a speech that was given at the American Psychological Association, “What’s Good About Men” a few years ago. Dr. Roy F. Baumeister made some pretty interesting points. To wit:
“The essence of how culture uses men depends on a basic social insecurity. This insecurity is in fact social, existential, and biological. Built into the male role is the danger of not being good enough to be accepted and respected and even the danger of not being able to do well enough to create offspring.”
Do you agree with this idea? If this is true, I am interested in hearing how men cope with this type of pressure.
Ladies, do you try to use a little caution in letting a guy down because of incidents you hear in the news? Have you ever had an encounter with someone you rejected that was terrifying? How did you handle it?