Put your foot down
One of the frustrating things about the dating scene is dealing with disrespect. It seems inevitable that you run into that person who is inconsiderate, inexperienced, or flat out clueless. You would think that the older we get, the less likely we are to meet this type of person. Sadly, that is not always the case and then you have to put your foot down.
If a guy has some bad behavior that is unacceptable to me, I always wonder how he has managed to get away with it. I mean, all the women he dated never told him when he was being a jerk? Have you ever met or dated someone who was unaware of their bad dating behavior? Did you call them out on it? How did they respond.
Are you guilty of any behaviors that others have called out before? I once had a guy call me out on being late all the time. He finally had to put his foot down and let me know that he wouldn’t tolerate it anymore. So much for being fashionably late! He saw it as disrespectful and he let me know. I quickly corrected that problem and now I am always on time or early for dates
How do you put your foot down or call someone out without alienating them?
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Melo
May 28th, 2009
10:47 am
There’s this one guy that never speaks back – that’s fine with me, I give him the same smile and greeting.
Bless ur heart!! I dont do that.Im usually kind most times but once i figure how u wired and u dont respond after a cple of times of trying to say hello,
piss off….
Leggs
May 28th, 2009
10:47 am
Dagnabit, why did you eat that beautiful post? Sheesh!
AmazonRed™
May 28th, 2009
10:49 am
I was having brunch after church with a friend at Thumps Up Diner in East Point.
There are two doors in succession at that establishment to enter.
We approched at the same time as an elderly man and his family.
He reached for the door, so I slowed to allow him to open it for me. Knowing there was another door coming, I was going to open the 2nd door for him, and then speak.
Well, after I passed through the first door he says: “YOU’RE WELCOME! THAT’S WHY Y’ALL AINT GOT NO HUSBANDS.”
I explained to him that I was most certainly going to speak and that I also wanted to make sure I got the door for him. In addition, his comment was rude and unnecessary (he’s lucky I had the word that morning because I am not above tripping a rude old man!
)
His family look totally embarrassed and he apologized but he mean mugged me and my friend the whole time.
I guess guys our here are fed up.
Get over it. 
AmazonRed™
May 28th, 2009
10:50 am
That’s should have read “I guess guys out here are fed up”
Beautiful
May 28th, 2009
10:51 am
**singin’**
**i got a question why they hatin’ on me . . . ain’t did nuttin’ to ‘em but count this $, put my whole team on, got my whole click stunnin’**
that is my jaaaaam! lol.
what’s up y’all?
Cemeeli
May 28th, 2009
10:53 am
Raqi – So you sayin’ i’m a desperate, pinning for a man to visit, typa “precious flower”? Nah, i kid.
Yes. I understand your stance, surely. The “no-notice” visit was a surprise and thereafter was him calling prior to a visit. I guess i don’t see it as taking me for granted because i surely could have been doing whatever else there is and trip out. but i’m cool with it.
Leggs
May 28th, 2009
10:53 am
Good morning everyone!
@Raqi, sorry to hear about your son’s injuries. I can pretty much picture you standing there wanting to wring his neck. Broken arm and collarbone….Yikes! Also, I missed Hitched or Ditched. Is the show any good?
To show up at one’s place uninvited is disrespectful. The first time I will probably let you in and explain that I would appreciate a phone call in advance. If you do it a second time, more than likely you’ll find yourself staring at the door.
I have very good manners and expect thouse around me to use manners. It certainly is a form of respect and home training. Chivarly can go both way, and it should go both ways. Certainly not a one-way street!
@atlwen, I am an “on time” person. I’m not late for many things. I lived 2 blocks from The Fox Theatre and left my 2 gfs in the bathroom because they weren’t ready for the play we were going to see. 2 blocks away and still couldn’t manage their time properly. Well, I sat in my seat and saw the entire show I paid for. They arrived 30 mins later. All I could was SMDH! Time management is important tool to have to navigate through life.
THE INFAMOUS DK
May 28th, 2009
10:56 am
Ladies its all how youre raised.. My 3yr old opens the doors for the ladies and they love it and I get plenty of helllllooooo Daddy smiles for it but I digress.. Manners go a long way and having a southern grandma that would smack your fingers with a ruler for not asking to pass the jelly gets the point across..
kimmie
May 28th, 2009
10:56 am
Good morning good people!
I was guilty in the past of not speaking up when I should and letting small things fester. Like Raqi said, the small things take root and grow into very large trees. Then I would explode and become the tornado. I did not start out that way. In my very early dating days I would not let the slightest thing go. I foolishly listened to my friends and softened up. I too did not want to do the angry woman thing.
You live & you learn. It’s no longer an issue now. I choose my battles, but tolerate no disrespect of any form. My parents did not allow my brothers to disrespect women and I won’t allow it either. And I speak up in a respectful way.
I have always given guys the respect of at least listening and considering if they offer CONSTRUCTIVE criticism of me in a kind way. More often than not, though, I was talked down to. Even though what he says might have some merit, it’s all in the delivery. If it’s not right I tune him out.
As for the chivalry, that’s not an issue with me. I have impecible manners but I know everyone was not raised like me. I still show everyone the upmost respect. I hold doors and offer my seat to the elderly or those juggling babies and kids and bags. Even the dogs I’ve dated had good manners, so no problems there.
Showing up uninvited or unannounced will get you left standing outside. One I had to threaten to call the police. Don’t need anybody checking up on me. Simply call and I will invite you in, no matter who is there.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
May 28th, 2009
10:57 am
RAQI…OMG I am sorry about your son. I broke my arms as a child. Thank God I was too young to remember and was still at the age where Mamo bathed me. Till this day we do not know if I was born Ambidextrous or did it happen due to the fact that one arm healed faster than the other. But I hope he will be ok.
SASSY….”Chivalry isn’t dead but it’s definitely somewhere layin’ up on life support teetering on the edge of obscurity”…Girl you are crazy!
That is so true though.
ARED..you know the sad thing is…we will always be deemed the Difficult Black Woman if we don’t put up with their shyt! The reason some men flock to other cultures is that what we deem as disrespectful..the other think it’s wrong to call a man on it. Like standing somebody up…running late without so much as a text to alert the person waiting for them, cheating, etc. I will be happily accept that title if it means that I will not tolerate disrespect. Men want respect but don’t want to give it. It’s a 2 way street….if you do not want me standing you up or making you wait then don’t do it to me. Treat me the way you want me to treat you. Your time is NOT more valuable than mine. I could be out doing something else…hell I could be out with SOMEBODY else rather than waste my time on some inconsiderate moron!
RAQI…even though your son was joking…you were right to call him on it. More parents need to do that. But what’s sad is that she had to be told by YOU that she should not tolerate that. That should have been taught to her by her parents. Glad you stepped up girlie! KUDOS! I knwo now that you are having a girl you will lead her in the right direction.
TAZZEE…girl I throw out “Whatever” at a lot of stuff!
DAN…so a woman with a tattoo on her lower back does not deserve respect? UGH…men! I happen to have one and I have more class in my size zero pinkie finger than a lot of tattoo-less women. So please! Most of the time you do not see my tattoo..so would your treatment of me change because one day I was spotted in jeans and a mid-riff top wiht my butterfly being very visable? And just because a woman is not smiling at every dude in her sight…does that means she’s mean mugging? I happen to know smiling gives you laugh lines!
ARED…the dude that said you are not that tall….was he saying this while his short a$$ was looking up at you?
You should have said…neither are you now Smurf Off! 
SASSY…now you had to bring up Dwight this early in the morning. I done tol you what dat boy does to me!
Lions & tigers & bears..OH MY!
Oh and the reason you are late is because your are Trini…..you know West Indian People time is worst that CPT. Come on man…the parties in Trinidad don’t start until 3 in the morning!
I’m just messing with you girl! I told my Mami she’s adopted…she is always early!
Dan
May 28th, 2009
10:59 am
@Ared
It’s not being fed up (at least for me) to the point of reaction. It’s just that after a while you begin to wonder “where’d you get that mess?” Same token, I’ll get after a young boy for not opening the door and will tell one “I don’t wanna see yo draws, lil homie, pull ‘em up”
Melo
May 28th, 2009
10:59 am
Tazzee,true story!
I wrked,one time, back in the day,in the corporate finance dept of a major fortune 5 organization thats in the Atl(shall remain nameless).The place wass ‘all swiss’ except for myself and 2 other guys.
I tell u,everyday and morning was so stress field coz nobody would talk to u,acknowldge ur presence or hello unless it was really bizzness.I soon figured it and my mind changed from then on.
That is the only way i was able to cope,mentally,otherwise i wld have had a mental breakdown.
That lesson was valuable and has shaped how i treat pple.
U dont care for me,i dont care for u either!
AmazonRed™
May 28th, 2009
10:59 am
LOL @ Leggs rolling out on folks.
New boo invited me to dinner, he told me “7ish”.. I took that to mean between 7 and 7:30 (ish…
). He was thinking it meant between 7 and 7:10. I know that for next time.
I had to remind him to open the car door for me after the first couple times he didn’t. He was completely unaware, but he didn’t make a stink, he just started doing it.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
May 28th, 2009
11:02 am
INFAMOUS DK…I love when little boys open doors for me. Its so cute and shows how he is being raised. Speaks a lot for his parents. I do acknowledge the parents after he does it. I tokk my friend’s little boy out for his birthday to eat and I went to open the door…he said, “that’s my job. I mean even though I was driving he told me I have to wait for him to get out and come around to open my door. I was so shocked. It reminded me that chivalry can be revived in our younger generation. I see how he does it for his mami….he brings in the grocery if his dad is not home and brings in her gym bag. It’s just so sweet.
Dan
May 28th, 2009
11:04 am
@Staceye
Laugh lines are not that bad. It takes more muscles to NOT smile than it does to smile. Think about those lines.
@Ared
I’ll give you five dollars if you tell the next dude shorter than you to step to “smurf off”. HAHAHAAHHAHAHA
Leggs
May 28th, 2009
11:04 am
@SlimOne, you say you’re in a gospel production June 5 at 7:00. Is the location secret?
kimmie
May 28th, 2009
11:05 am
Tazzee – I had not heard of FitFlops until you mentioned them. I just pulled them up on the web and I am definitely getting some! Bath & Body Works had a web-exclusive price on some styles for 39.75, normally 49.99. Where were you going to get yours and what price?
mytw♥tatas
May 28th, 2009
11:07 am
Foot down seems like a production. It won’t be vicious, but it will be obvious from the nuances of the words I speak. I’m sorry? I must’ve misheard you… Sounds like there may have been a disconnect because… And if it’s a real crazy statement, my response starts with ‘Surely you recognize you’re in the presence of a lady, so…?’ It literally baffles me when I’m disrespected in any realm, though, so my corrective behavior is universal.
CEE —>WOW at the recollection. Cuz I do not recall it being documented as such in the minutes taken at the debrief. Hahhaaaaaa! Two Sweet Teas will help me calm my memory down, tho. By the by, has Lil Cee had his chat with him mama. Neither have reported back.
DAN ——-> WOW. No, WOWSERS. Between the tramp stamps and the jelly sandals you hold tight to the preconceived notions. Do you know how many skanky attitude broads don’t have tattoos or just have them in other spots. And of those how many may have a great shoe game? Plenty. And since she may be quite a bit more high maintanence, she probably will continue to saunter along at same pace & cut her eyes too. Whateva! (That’s dedicated to Tazzee)
But on that door opening, I think you give the vibe of either resentful door opener or expectant woman walking through and it affects the interaction. I do pretty much look forward to these niceties and it’s a pleasant surprise. Especially when they insist I don’t hurry to get thru before the chivalry clock stops. My appreciation is shown, wash, rinse and repeat.
AmazonRed™
May 28th, 2009
11:08 am
ARED..you know the sad thing is…we will always be deemed the Difficult Black Woman if we don’t put up with their shyt!
Staceye – Very true. I told one guy to stop texting me like he knew me and to pick up the phone and call. His response: “Black women”
the dude that said you are not that tall….was he saying this while his short a$$ was looking up at you? You should have said…neither are you now Smurf Off!
I told him I was tall enough for him to ask such a stupid question.
He started to argue with me and then just scampered away. 
Beautiful
May 28th, 2009
11:09 am
@RAQI
that is the reason why i have my two babies drink a lot of milk. if they break a bone it will heal faster.
i hope he gets better soon. it really doesn’t matter how old he is, kisses and hugges and awwww’s always do the trick.
Cemeeli
May 28th, 2009
11:10 am
I’ve also had a guy to wait for me 1hour and 28 minutes on a date because he wanted too. I warned him i was not ready, and let him know i was not going to rush. He said okay, and waited. He invited a friend of his and that freind’s date to join him. They were late also, so he chilled and hung out in the area. By the time i arrived he told me i owe him 1.5 hour more of my time.
AmazonRed™
May 28th, 2009
11:10 am
WOW. No, WOWSERS. Between the tramp stamps and the jelly sandals you hold tight to the preconceived notions.
mytw♥tatas
May 28th, 2009
11:12 am
Lemme try the BEAUTIFUL/CEMEELI style of dear diary posting today. Whateva crosses my mind…whether it be here or there.
I’m sad that I can’t find either one of my HARDCORE cds.
MR. Smith
May 28th, 2009
11:12 am
“I too try to dispel the angry black woman stereotype when dealing with the opposite sex but I’ve realized that some dudes just need to get told.”
Soo you guys are not smart enough to find a better way of dealing with life issues… Other than the angry black woman syndrome. Just seems a little to convenient to have that as your only option to deal with stuff..
Anyway, uhh I think men learn as we go.. I do all the nice things, such as opening doors ect… But something that im working on would be if I feel not appreciated, even if on the first date. You probaly will not see all the nice gestures… But like I said Im working on that,, she may not realize her own actions.(oblivious to the world outside of her own mind thing) lol
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
May 28th, 2009
11:13 am
DAN…boy oh boy….I saw so many dudes in Miami with their pants under their a$$ I wanted to smack the crap out of them. They looked so nasty and trife! Then wonder why I gave them the stank face when they approached me. You’ve got a mouth full of metal,….you can’t speak proper English and you have to walk like a bloody duck to keep your pants from dropping to your ankles…so you’re a wanker and yet and still you approach a woman! UGH! They made me so ashamed of my own people…especially when other races were around. I would hate foreigners to think all of our men are like that. They already have a bad wrap….now this just adds to it. I know everytime I hear about a crime or whatever I secretly pray…please don’t let him be Black!
The flippin’ DC snipper has now added brothas to the “you fit the description” bill fr serial killers now! Way to go jackhole! 
Lioness- I need Water
May 28th, 2009
11:13 am
Taz- I agree with your 10:35 comment!
The last person I dated was very insensitive and I checked him on it. Did he change? No. It is very unlikely that mentioning a persons flaw to them is going to make them change for you. Since they have been that way for years, the probability of them changing is highly unlikely.. If a person is acting in a way that you do not like, then keep it moving.
Sassy Me....Cocoa cure :-)
May 28th, 2009
11:14 am
Oh and the reason you are late is because your are Trini…..you know West Indian People time is worst that CPT
Staceye if I had a cent..five cent…ten cent..dolla(get it) everytime I heard that I wouldn’t be running any experiments today
Those Jamaicans started it with that “Mi soon come” business…soon come could be 10 minutes or an hour.
Did you go to carnivale in the Atl. this past weekend?…I went and it was great.
I know you’re gonna be hoarse tomorrow from cheering for Dwight tonight? I wish I could be part of his welcome home party when he comes back home to the “A”. He’d get a vigorous welcome from me for sure…..oooh lawd.
Cemeeli
May 28th, 2009
11:15 am
mytwosense No need for the sweet syrup to help you.
Your memory serves you correct. AT FIRST i was not feeling all fuzzy, but after the fellowship i found myself all in all for it. Granted he never thought i WOULDN’T have tripped. We are just a trip!!! You know…
P.S. No talk that Lil Cee has brought up with me. I thought Saturday was deadline. is he scared?
Melo
May 28th, 2009
11:16 am
Ared,dont hang with Mamba,she will corrupt u with her man repellant.
Dan
May 28th, 2009
11:16 am
@My2
Is my post not clear. The “stamp”, the jellies, all that has NO bearing on how I carry myself or what my response to the woman is. But like being on the street and seeing some saggin’ britches teenager walking toward me, expectations and prejudice have their place.
I, too, like pleasant suprises – but am much more accustomed to not getting them
THE INFAMOUS DK
May 28th, 2009
11:18 am
This is how I’m feeling this morning.. My Pradas and Gucci’s got me tied up with hoochies.. My hotel room smeels like a lot Bedussie and I’m a God I could crucify you exclusively – Classified ft Royce da 5′9′ and B.o.B… I love good music in the morning..
kimmie
May 28th, 2009
11:19 am
Amred – Your 11:10 – I was thinking the same thing. In fact, I knew what would be said, so I just skimmed over the posts. Sad really.
DK – You are so right – manners will always get you far. Once a couple from my church invited me to come along with them and their nephew who was around my age to a 100 Black Men event. I went and sent them a thank you note the next day for inviting me. They were blown away. They both have pretty prominent positions in the community and they get tickets to events all the time and invite others. They said I was the only person that has ever sent them a thank you!
Cemeeli
May 28th, 2009
11:20 am
Whateva crosses my mind…whether it be here or there.”
I’ve told you Ms. Beautiful “just be real”. I dont.
.
mytwocents I have India and Hamilton on deck. listening to my “My Souls on Fire” now…you might wanna holla at that track.
THE INFAMOUS DK
May 28th, 2009
11:21 am
The cure for lateness is to leave. After waiting for a while and you have served warning before.. Just leave. Now when they call just say you left plain and simple. Like its no big deal and we’ll get together some other time. Look there is nothing more important than your time.. its the only thing you cant get back..
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
May 28th, 2009
11:22 am
DAN…I prefer to keep a straight face..that requires less muscles.
For Real
May 28th, 2009
11:23 am
men behaving like men + women behaving like women = chivalry – It doesn’t exist if both parties does not play their part.
No one deserves respect. Respect is earned, simply being a woman doesn’t warrant respect nor does simply being a man warrant respect. Put in the work required and stop begging for something you didn’t earn. – People are who they are. You don’t have to the power to correct anyone because you didn’t make them. All you can do is correct yourself and remove that person from your life. You can’t make somebody treat you the way you want to be treated. If you don’t like the fact that I cuss, fart and chew with my mouth open, all you can do is leave. You correct children and if the person you are with needs your correction what does that say about you?
“What I also thought was key is that he mentioned that he needs someone to “teach” him things in regards to how to treat a woman and I thought that spoke volumes b/c he saw an area where he was lacking and didn’t let his ego stop him from: 1. Admitting what he didn’t know and 2. Asking for help about the matter.” – And you felt honored because this fool ran you a line. Teach me… I don’t know no better… HAHAHA he is 28 years old!!!!! But you soaked it up because he appealled to your ego. HAHAHA…. What do you think you could have taught him about being a man a 28 years old? I bet you gave him your number didn’t you?
Willie Dynamite
May 28th, 2009
11:23 am
Morning All,
I was just having this convo with my Son. We were discussing doing things for an expected response. I was telling him you do things for others because its the right thing to do. Whether its acknowledged or not doesn’t change whether its the proper thing to do. Same with girls/women (yeah he’s at that stage now) and being respectful. It was funny to me because he said something about how one girl did this but it was alright because she was tight and her friend couldnt pull it off because she wasnt all that. It took me a good hour and a few brews to get the ism in him. Funny thing is he actually seemed interested in how to do things the right way but admitted he knew he wouldnt because at times thats not how he rolls. Funny and Sad at the level of manipulation already at 12/13. This boy is gonna be a monster on these chicks, ima need reinforcements the force is strong in this one.
Staceye AKA Black Mamba
May 28th, 2009
11:25 am
MELO…I do not have man repellent because they keep flockig to me. I just have BS repellent! I am allergic to it so I avoid it!
Tazzee - partying with my girls tonight!
May 28th, 2009
11:25 am
kimmie – I hadn’t even thought about where I’m going to get them, I just got an email from amazon.com about them and remembered I wanted to check them out. I’ll probably get them from Macy’s (I’ve got SO many coupons/rewards there) because I can’t order online – my feet are different so I definitely need to try them on first. But that’s a good price at Bath & Body works so I may just try them on at Macy’s then order online
Melo – in the situation you described, I can totally understand not speaking. In my situation, almost everyone speaks back and I’m in my natural state. So I’m not going to do the ‘extra’ to remember he’s a non-speaker. Plus, I catch a smile from him every now and then. Personally, I think he’s just not a morning person.
I also love when little boys hold doors open, all they while praying they won’t get jaded as they get older. I taught my nephew to hold doors for ladies and sometimes it would take us forever to get into IHOP after church because he wanted to hold the door for EVERYONE! After a while I started to leave him there and put our name on the list then go back for him
East Point's Own
May 28th, 2009
11:26 am
Sooooooo….. How bout dem Braves????
wrong blog… my bad
But umm… I start off giving everyone I meet the same level of respect and courtesy. But Umm once you start to chip away at it, I am not going to keep going out of my way to be polite and courteous, because its sooo much easier to go through your day if you don’t think about being nice to folks. If you give me reason to do less work that i am not getting paid for I shall…
I don’t find that I have to remember who is rude/nasty, those memories never fade, so it’s no extra work for me to remember to not to hold the door open for them… it is in fact extra work for me to stop and hold the door when I could have been on my merry way.
http://hispointofview.com
mytw♥tatas
May 28th, 2009
11:26 am
DAN Of course you’re not getting them cuz ya face is already screwed up because your EXPECTATION has already been set that she’ll be unappreciative! If he’s 8 to 80, blind, cripple or crazy (aww I still ♥ Big Daddy Kane, I’m kinda thinking I’m bout to get a pleasantry, a door held or something. Because I hope for the best, and it is rare that I’m disappointed. I don’t expect for them to be bitter and expectant of whatever some dudes have entitled as the Black woman’s demeanor, totally ignore me or shut the door in my face. Now if they do, I may raise the brow but I don’t break stride.
CEE Uhmm so you saying no Sweet Tea for me (Insert Pout Here. Borrow one from the guys.) And yeah, he had til Saturday. The one which has long passed. I need you to do betta!
THE INFAMOUS DK
May 28th, 2009
11:26 am
For Real – I was taught the opposite.. Everybody deserves a level of respect until they show they dont.. I mean basic respect is deserved by everyone. Thats the problem nobody uses the basic respect principle. I will respect you as long as you are respecting me..
kimmie
May 28th, 2009
11:28 am
There is nothing sweeter in the world than a well-mannered, well-behaved little boy! And yes, I hate to see them get jaded as they get older!
Leggs
May 28th, 2009
11:30 am
@kimmie, thank you notes are important in my house. When residents of blogsville helped me out in getting lil leggs to Nationals in Nebraska, I made sure she sent a thank you card to everyone who contributed. Even had her write about her placement so they know she got there because of some of our residents. I’m pretty sure quite a few were surprised to receive the note, especially SIR TRUTH (LOL). Manners, respect, acknowledgment, appreciation to name a few are very important traits to possess.
mytw♥tatas
May 28th, 2009
11:31 am
SASSY Thanks, chick. Now all I can hear is Dolla, Dolla, Dolla, Dolla! Arrgghh Take me with you to Carnival and we’ll call it bygones…
Mo (aka Moeisha- so excited)
May 28th, 2009
11:31 am
Morning All! You know there is something to be said for the innocence of children. Lil Mo’s b-day is sunday and he could careless, yet his mommy is super excited!
As many have stated, being on time is an issue for me. I also dont do ‘drive-by’ visits or tolerate those, you will be talking to me on the phone outside my door if you do that. However my other is people ‘changing’ my plans, i.e I call you and say ‘hey blogsville Im going to Perimeter at 4pm, wanna come’ and you say “why dont we go at 7 b/c…..”. Okay first of all, I told you what time I was going and asked if you wanted to come, so a simple yes or no would suffice. If it didnt matter the time I would have just said ‘you want to hit perimeter mall later’. May seem petty but that drives me bananas….
Okay what are FitFlops Tazzee?
Tazzee - partying with my girls tonight!
May 28th, 2009
11:31 am
Soo you guys are not smart enough to find a better way of dealing with life issues… Other than the angry black woman syndrome. Just seems a little to convenient to have that as your only option to deal with stuff..
Mr. Smith If you’d read the full contexts of our posts, what we were saying is that we were a little too closed mouth so we wouldn’t be viewed as angry black women just because we said something. Additionally what we were saying is that we learned how to properly tell a man that he’s being disrespectful without caring if we’re being labeled as ‘angry black women’ just because we stood up for ourselves.
So my question to you is, are you not smart enough to read an entire post in context before making a comment?
Cemeeli
May 28th, 2009
11:32 am
mytwocents I ain’t really trippin. Cause what the book says about relationships and dating doesn’t work us crazies.
Crackin up at WillieD taking a few brews and the “silly stick” to help his son out. It’s a long road ahead.
Professor
May 28th, 2009
11:33 am
@ Kimmie I concur with your 11:28 100%
Tazzee - partying with my girls tonight!
May 28th, 2009
11:39 am
Mo – FitFlops are these flip flops that are supposed to give your legs an extra workout when you wear them. Some microbeads waah waah waah, insert other technical words, etc are in the soles – or something like that.