Cougar Duty
In an attempt at full disclosure (sort of) of my dating life, I have to confess that yours truly is dating a younger guy. He is a solid 9 years younger than I am! It started out pretty innocently because I had no idea just how young the guy was until our first date. He just looked my age and I was too distracted by his muscles to card him!
After polling my friends for their opinion (sometimes I live my life by committee), I received some interesting advice. It ranged from “give him a chance” to “why not play a little bit with him”, and not one person advised me against it.
An older woman and younger man relationship can bring it’s own unique set of dating issues. Not to mention how some folks think that younger men date older women because they have “Mommy issues”. What do you think? In your opinion what is the prognosis for such relationships?
Guys, have you ever dated an older woman? How much older was she? What attracted you to her? Do you have an age limit to how old you would date?
Ladies, am I completely insane for dating a 28 year old? Would you do it? How young would you go before it’s too creepy for your taste?
HAPPY FRIDAY!
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Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
1:05 pm
she was 43 she had the body of a woman in her late 20s to early 30s
Okay I have read statements like this numerous of times and especially on here. How does one accomplish that? How do you stop the aging of your body while your mind and heart just functions right along?
I am 41 and I have a 41 year old body. All of my close friends are within 1-2 years older and younger than I am and we all look pretty much the same physically. Will someone please tell me what product can I buy to preserve my body that it does not age another year.
(Disclaimer: That is Raqi being a snide b1tch.)
This is how I see it. Being healthy and fit has no age in adults. I try to eat right for the most part and I get in what form of exercise that I can. But I am 41 years old and so is my body. I love it, my husband loves it.
If all 25 years olds looked exactly the same. Were all shaped and cut the same then I would see how one could say that they are close to having a the “body” of a 25 year old.
Even the fittest most healthiest individual’s body is the age that it is.
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
May 22nd, 2009
1:06 pm
AmRed – that song is in my head too, because it was on my iPod when I fell asleep last night. Did you go when he was here last time? I saw him in Houston and had a ball. Still trynna decide if I want to go see him this year – I mean why do we keep having concerts in the middle of the week? I doubt I can handle Stevie on a Wednesday and Anthony Hamilton ‘nem on a Thursday – all during my busy time at work.
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
1:08 pm
Jamoca Elizabeth is going to be her father’s child. LOL Where he goes, she will go.
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
1:09 pm
Tazzee – I didn’t go when he was here last time, and you know we were told it was “the last time.” We could ever see him.
I know Anthony Hamilton is the next day, but I’ma pass because I’ve seen him and I don’t really care to see Musiq in concert. Not a fan enough.
But wouldn’t you know, new boo is not a Stevie Wonder fan!
Professor (living for the 3 day weekend)
May 22nd, 2009
1:12 pm
Hey Beautiful, you are correct I will do right by my friends…I do not “roll” with just anybody so most of my friends go back 2.5 decades.
As for “could actually be married right now. holdin’ out for the ONE could be a bad idea. whatcha think?” I think you should keep holding out for the right one…the last thing you want to do is marry the wrong one that would be an abomination I meant to yell on that ABOMINATION!
@ Raqi…as stated her doctor told her she had the body of someone in her late 20s or early 30s. I do not think her doctor was judging her by “club” standards I would think he was applying medical standards and backing his medical opinion by the fact that she did not have complications. Fast-forward she now in her 60s and she is doing well no medical problems and she is not on any maintenance medication e.g. diabetes, high blood pressure, cholesterol etc. Maybe it is genes because my doctor told me keep doing whatever it is that I am doing because my medical report is always excellent.
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
May 22nd, 2009
1:13 pm
WHAT!?!?! NOT A STEVIE WONDER FAN?!?!?!
That’s cause for dismissal in my book. You definitely should go – do like I do, get two tickets and whoever’s lucky gets to go.
hmph, not a Stevie Wonder fan…blasphemy!
When I went the crowd was VERY diverse and everyone was rocking to the music. I’m talking myself into trynna go…
-W8(out drinking-shopping-just blessing the "A" today)
May 22nd, 2009
1:13 pm
@Ared-Go Nuggets
@Demi- yeah my older woman experience was cool until I took a trip south and saw a strip of gray hair(that freaked me out)..so I bout some stuff and shaved it for her…weekly. I actually prefer a woman over 33 but younger than 45…but there are exceptions to the case….
Its friday and I don’t have a thing to do…just going with the flow!! I’m at Danatana’s having a drink and a cigar..who’s coming..lol
The Truth-Developing a camel hump
May 22nd, 2009
1:13 pm
Leggs, that was a brief but exhilirating marriage if I do say so myself. We must do that again.
I was so hooked on All I Do I wore the grooves off it. I get stuck on songs like that. Then its over.
Ared, you can believe whatever these chicks say but I bet when they meet a cat in the breeding mode they arent screaming that I dont want kids noise. They’re prodding and starting with that lame azz “you’d be a great father” mess. Check please. LOL
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
1:14 pm
WHAT!?!?! NOT A STEVIE WONDER FAN?!?!?!
That’s cause for dismissal in my book.
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
1:16 pm
Professor I have had diabetes since I was a teenager, how old does that make my body?
Okay let me stop. I just find some comments rather interesting. And BTW you are not the first one to make such a statement so no it’s not you.
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
1:20 pm
Ared, you can believe whatever these chicks say but I bet when they meet a cat in the breeding mode they arent screaming that I dont want kids noise.
Truth – If my husband really wanted kids, I wouldn’t deny him that. But he’d have to sell me on it and make it sure we lived a lifestyle where we could properly support them.
And if we split, he’d have to take em with him.
Professor (living for the 3 day weekend)
May 22nd, 2009
1:20 pm
@ Raqi, although I have three degrees I am not a medical doctor…you can forward that question along with your co-payment to my uncle who is a medical doctor. I am merely a professor of business and human resources.
LIONESS-Doing one too many things @ once
May 22nd, 2009
1:21 pm
I just made it into my 30’s and I have craving a baby for minute but I am too picky to have one with anybody.. If I don’t have a child by 35 then it is a WRAP
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
1:21 pm
**I think you should keep holding out for the right one…the last thing you want to do is marry the wrong one that would be an abomination I meant to yell on that ABOMINATION!**
@Professor
i’m hoping that you read me right on this comment, but i do have doubts SOMETIMES. and i shouldn’t because then i’m doubting what God has in store for me. (why am i thinking about SEXYCOOL right now?) but i don’t want to grow old alone. i’m not going to put an age on it, but one morning i’ll prolly wake up and just pick one. lol.
i know what i like, and everytime i find it it’s bad timing.
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
May 22nd, 2009
1:26 pm
AmRed – yeah, I guess if he’s not from here, I’d give him a pass. My guy said that he’s not a big EW&F fan, I told him he’s lucky he has such a beautiful smile because I might have had to let him go
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
1:29 pm
My guy said that he’s not a big EW&F fan, I told him he’s lucky he has such a beautiful smile because I might have had to let him go
What is up with these dudes! I love love love, EWF. I’m not going to their concert but LOVE. THEM.
Demi
May 22nd, 2009
1:33 pm
Mo…Where’s my MONEY?! LOl
W8…ish, the gray looked good on her, LOL
Raqi…Again that’s no problem…providing there was no sex involve. I hang with mostly lesbian women nowadays…so I know I will get some good picks…because those ladies know my favor for now…D’s, thick wit, and a gap of an a$$ (a seconds from pancake booty, LOL)
With my home boys…I don’t date any woman they’ve slept with…ladies, that is cool with Demi!!
they like what I like
(My girl got a girl friend, that sex be that whirl wind)
Note: Demi is currently celibate…just in no mood to hang out with straight women…unless they’re blog folks.
Poppa Grande
May 22nd, 2009
1:35 pm
Stevie gives a great concert. I’ve seen him perform a couple of times. One time Al Green also performed.
One show he got on top of the piano. The look on people’s faces was priceless when he got close to the edge.
On topic
Two words….”Do you”. If it works, it works. If it doesn’t, it isn’t for nothing if you learn something from it.
I served my Cougar duty as a 24 year old with a 41 year old. It really wasn’t a relationship, it was just what it was.
We more or less met at the designated place at the designated time for the designated activity.
AR
Kenyan Martin told me to give you this message (and pass it to your Laker Lovin’ friends):
“It’s not going to be us and Orlando laying down so those two could play in two weeks. It ain’t going to happen,” Denver’s Kenyon Martin vowed. “I’m going to make sure it don’t. Y’all can go home and play ‘NBA Live’ if y’all want to see that matchup.”
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
1:36 pm
Demi actually 95% of the men I know are lesbians.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
1:40 pm
@Raqi, “where he goes, she goes” = built in GPS system.
I love, love All I Do. I pulled into the gas station last week and the song was blazing. I cranked up the volume and had the lady in front of me singing and the man on the side of me laughing at us both.
Who doesn’t like Stevie Wonder. His clothes maybe, but not the man himself!
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
1:41 pm
PG – I know you are not listening to K-Mart’s ghetto azz!
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
May 22nd, 2009
1:41 pm
PoppaG How in the world did I miss that Kenyon comment? Prolly cause I was sleep, but that’s classic!
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
May 22nd, 2009
1:43 pm
His clothes maybe – and his hair…
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
1:45 pm
Who doesn’t like Stevie Wonder
I think that happens when you find out that the good seats are at $145 a pop plus fees.
Willie Dynamite
May 22nd, 2009
1:45 pm
Afternoon all,
On Topic- As an 18 yr old college student my 1st real GF was a 27 yr old. I’ve since had several older women as I seem to be able to relate more with them. Young gurls really couldnt do nothing for me but a few thangs then bounce.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
1:46 pm
@W8, you had me laughing at freaking out on the gray!
@Truth, the next time you’re in between wives look me up. Do you remember who your attorney was for our divorce. Just curious?
Mo (aka Moeisha- wishing she had a hammock, a good book and some fresh lemonade)
May 22nd, 2009
1:48 pm
PG – I heard that Kenyon Martin comment and laughed hard! He is a mess…..but I agree!
And how in the h3ll can you NOT like EWF or Stevie Wonder?!?! That just isnt right…..I know I would have look at a dude straight crazy if I heard some blasphemy like that. My favorites by the two are Love’s Holiday and AS…..gets no better…
Mo (aka Moeisha- wishing she had a hammock, a good book and some fresh lemonade)
May 22nd, 2009
1:49 pm
Demi – What money?? Mo now stuffing all the dollars Demi earned in her bra like the old ladies do!
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
1:51 pm
Speaking of Stevie, how ghetto would it be for Mase to sing “Isn’t she lovely” at Elizabeth’s christening?
Melo
May 22nd, 2009
1:53 pm
until I took a trip south and saw a strip of gray hair(that freaked me out)..
U kidding me,grey hairs there too??!!
Leggs,can u confirm,from ur experience that its possible.If she dont shave,and its ur first time to see her nekked,then ur wondering,why does this chic want to do this and play with lil chickens same time.Coz it sure looks like shes tryin to throttle a young chic tween her leggs.
Poppa Grande
May 22nd, 2009
1:53 pm
Mo
Did you see Dwight Howard mock LeBron’s Power thing? He did it last night at the end of the halftime interview.
Both the Magic and Nuggets players have started talking about the LeBron/Kobe commercials including the puppet ones.
Van Gundy used LeBron’s catch phrase at half time of game one when he talked to his team. He told them that they were just out there “wtinessing” LeBron and the Cavs, but not playing against them.
Poppa Grande
May 22nd, 2009
1:53 pm
Powder thing not Power.
Melo
May 22nd, 2009
1:55 pm
I’ve since had several older women as I seem to be able to relate more with them
Do ur thang..oh wait!! U divorced now man?? Sorry to hear that.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
1:55 pm
I don’t think that’s ghetto at all. Don’t forget that there’s a part that says the meaning of her name.
Poppa Grande
May 22nd, 2009
1:56 pm
Well, I must admit (I think that I have on here before) that I can take or leave Frankie Beverly & Maze.
Raqi
I’d say more Cheesy than ghetto.
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
1:56 pm
Do ur thang..oh wait!! U divorced now man?? Sorry to hear that.
melo – You are just messy.
Demi
May 22nd, 2009
1:57 pm
Mo…mayne, you know T&T folks don’t like to tip…just look, LOL.
(Demi actually 95% of the men I know are lesbians.)
Raqi…you see…You women need to get with the program!!!
Raqi is now beating Demi to the white meat with her baby’s bottle
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
May 22nd, 2009
1:57 pm
Raqi – it would only be ghetto if he can’t sing. Or if he has to do it through a karaoke machine. Or if the family has a choreographed ’sway’ to his serenade.
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
1:58 pm
Well, I must admit (I think that I have on here before) that I can take or leave Frankie Beverly & Maze.
Yeah, but we weren’t talking about them. To me, they never blew up like Stevie or EWF for that very reason. Seems to me their appeal is stronger in certain regions.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
1:58 pm
Melo, I literally almost choked. Can’t believe you called me out on that grey shyt! You are truly crazy.
Yes, some grey strands there but none on my head…go figure!
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
2:00 pm
You are not divorced, are you????
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
2:01 pm
Leggs I know, but I have already figured out how that can be fixed using her name. I know Mason would do it because not only does he love to sing, the words to that song are appropriate for how I know he feels.
Poppa Cheesy is good. Ghetto is to be avoided. LOL
Mo (aka Moeisha- wishing she had a hammock, a good book and some fresh lemonade)
May 22nd, 2009
2:01 pm
PG – yes I did!!! Classic!! They are making this thing so entertaining!!
Poppa Grande
May 22nd, 2009
2:02 pm
AR
I will say this much….in the post game comments last night, Carmelo kept saying that the Nuggets gave away game one and refused to let that happen again.
I actually agree. If they knew how to in bound the ball late in game 1 Trevor Ariza doesn’t get that crucial steal.
Either team could be 2-0 in that series. Both teams are lucky to be 1-1.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
2:03 pm
And btw, the first time I saw it, I freaked. I stared and stared all the while holding it in disbelief!
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
2:04 pm
if the family has a choreographed ’sway’ to his serenade
LMBO Tazzee I have met some of his folks so maybe we will save the singing portion for the reception afterwards.
Willie Dynamite
May 22nd, 2009
2:05 pm
Enter your comments here
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
2:05 pm
@Raqi, since you’ve figured out that part, the song will be perfect. Although I don’t know him, the things you do say has given me a good picture that would be the perfect song coming straight from his heart!
Willie Dynamite
May 22nd, 2009
2:06 pm
No not divorced I was speaking of my single days with the since then quote. Should have said until I was hitched. Dont wanna be in the Divorce pile. Definitely dont wanna be in the game anymore. If I was I’d be more of a GM or VP of player personnel. j/k bnr
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
2:06 pm
in the post game comments last night, Carmelo kept saying that the Nuggets gave away game one and refused to let that happen again.
Good for him, and K-Mart. The Lakers are not about to just lay down tho, so even though they aren’t on TV making “guarantees” it’s still anyone’s game.
Nice sound bites tho, I’m sure the NBA appreaciates all the extra attention.