Cougar Duty
In an attempt at full disclosure (sort of) of my dating life, I have to confess that yours truly is dating a younger guy. He is a solid 9 years younger than I am! It started out pretty innocently because I had no idea just how young the guy was until our first date. He just looked my age and I was too distracted by his muscles to card him!
After polling my friends for their opinion (sometimes I live my life by committee), I received some interesting advice. It ranged from “give him a chance” to “why not play a little bit with him”, and not one person advised me against it.
An older woman and younger man relationship can bring it’s own unique set of dating issues. Not to mention how some folks think that younger men date older women because they have “Mommy issues”. What do you think? In your opinion what is the prognosis for such relationships?
Guys, have you ever dated an older woman? How much older was she? What attracted you to her? Do you have an age limit to how old you would date?
Ladies, am I completely insane for dating a 28 year old? Would you do it? How young would you go before it’s too creepy for your taste?
HAPPY FRIDAY!
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326 comments Add your comment
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
10:53 am
**I thought about giving him your number**
i’ve thought about this over the years. if your gf told you that a guy approached her and was really interested in her, but she wasn’t interested in him and thought that you would be a better match. is this ok with you?
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
10:57 am
@ALVIN NOT DEMI
depending on the maturity, i’ll go as low as 28! oh and shuddup! lol.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
10:57 am
@ARed, you should have given him my number. I know I enjoy life and don’t look nor act my age, but come on, what’s up with all these men and their ailments and all the medication they have to take? Some folk are aging too dang fast. Go find that dude and tell him to call me. First, was he cute to you?
@Beautiful, no, I’m not watching it.
Well…..I’m gonna get my cleaning on, and I’m gonna get my bbqing on, and I’m gonna get my drink/bid whist on, all weekend along. Hey, fellow blogger, its on you, so whatcha gonna do?
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:00 am
Hey Cee, I hadn’t refreshed my screen before I posted my Friday song, but now have to laugh at you calling me out to post when I already did. Why you guys acting like you know me!
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
11:00 am
i’m gonna get my datin’ on, i’m gonna get my chill on and i’m gonna get my sleep on . . . all weekend loonnnng!
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:03 am
@Beautiful, I did that exact thing. This guy was interested in me, but I wasn’t interested in him. Thought my gf would be a better fit for him and told him. He resented me for suggesting one of my friends would really like him when he was trying to get at me. I still laugh when picturing his face when he first approached to the disgust on his face when he walked away.
Demi
May 22nd, 2009
11:04 am
i’ve thought about this over the years. if your gf told you that a guy approached her and was really interested in her, but she wasn’t interested in him and thought that you would be a better match. is this ok with you?
Holy Cow Manure!!! A darn good question.
I do this all the time for my boys…providing there was no sex involve. I think it’s best to introduce both parties in a neutral environment…if sparks fly, they fly…if not, just keep it moving.
No harm no foul.
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
11:04 am
Go find that dude and tell him to call me. First, was he cute to you?
Very handsome, very fit. I could tell he stays very active because he had the body of someone 20 years younger. I didn’t think he was that old when I saw him, so 49 caught me by surprise.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:04 am
@ARed, how the heck do you get multiple lols in a row????
Demi
May 22nd, 2009
11:06 am
Angie…LOL
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:06 am
Well, you already said he said a woman over 42 was too old. Hell, I’m past that (not by much (LOL)).
Bah humbug, it’s going to be a rainy weekend!
Blow Me
May 22nd, 2009
11:06 am
Demi- Don’t start…And yes I am..lol
Beautiful- How old are you again?
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:06 am
Anybody going to the Decatur Festival this weekend?
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
11:10 am
Well, you already said he said a woman over 42 was too old. Hell, I’m past that (not by much (LOL)).
Leggs – Right. But remember, he said that because he had the same complaints about women his age as you do. I think that both of you would date a person your age if they did more than lay around and talk about ailments.
To get the multiple
s you have to put a couple of spaces in between each one.
Melo
May 22nd, 2009
11:13 am
I’m currently 31 tht was at 9.00 am,u still 31 still Deeva?? Oh, and 21 yrs is kinda young,young, i mean the boy,i mean man dont even know how to drive properly yet?? cmeon.21 sounds desperate!
Diva,has he watered the garden yet coz thats where that matters??.U what 37? so u know u are at that stage when u going to peak and ebb.Go with a raging bull, i say.I say YES YES YES!!!!!
And u know Demi Moore looks young, just like Ashton.Must be smething in that younger juice juice!
M'
May 22nd, 2009
11:13 am
@Raqi
Yes, I am not very comfortable with the idea that the young dude was learing to read and write as I was out exploring the world…so to speak…something about that is a little weird…it was funny, when I thought about the year that he was born…mayne, I was jammin to some cuts…I was already in my rites of passage age when he was still doing diapers…lol
@Leggs
Yo…what is up with some of these oldheads…dudes have 17 vials of meds to take…and inevitably the meds interfere with other body functions…this don’t wokr, that don’t last…this needs fixing…lol…bedtime at 7 pm…neveh mind.
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
11:13 am
@LEGGS and DEMI. i wouldn’t like it one bit. the key words are INTERESTED IN HER. i’m not saying though that i would turn him away, but i would be one step ahead to the fact that he may still be feelin’ her.
Mo (aka Moeisha- wishing she had a hammock, a good book and some fresh lemonade)
May 22nd, 2009
11:17 am
Demi – why thanx! Add the fact that Im so short and there you go, Im a prime younger man target!
Cemeeli – that is cute!! I get all the old dudes when me & Lil Mo are out.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:18 am
No doubt, he needs to meet me! And I’m not laughing (said w/hands on hips mean mugging). Wait, that’s an old person’s stance!
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
May 22nd, 2009
11:18 am
if your gf told you that a guy approached her and was really interested in her, but she wasn’t interested in him and thought that you would be a better match. is this ok with you?
Yup, I am a firm believer of the referral system, as long as there was no physical.
Professor – glad you were able to get your tickets. I got first row in the first balcony, great seats!
Deeva4Life Thanks!!!
Cemeeli
May 22nd, 2009
11:18 am
Go Leggs -
Get your bid whist oooon….get your cleaning ooonnnn, get your partying oooon….aaaaaalll weekend long!
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
11:23 am
No doubt, he needs to meet me! And I’m not laughing (said w/hands on hips mean mugging). Wait, that’s an old person’s stance!
Leggs – I’ll see if I can pull a bait and switch on him.
I’ll agree to a date, and then you can show up. 
Besides, I wouldn’t want to have kids with a guy who is 50. He’d be someone’s grandpa at graduation!
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
11:24 am
LOL Leggs so you don’t do aged men.
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:25 am
@M, you are so right with all the medication. I’m quite fortunate at the moment. I am not on medication for anything and I still like to skip and jump! Hell, I’ll even still play a game of dodge ball if I could find one.
Melo
May 22nd, 2009
11:27 am
Yup, I am a firm believer of the referral system, as long as there was no physical
Cmeone Tazz,at least the other lady has already guinea pig tested herself for STD and quality so u know when u mess,there wont be no stress!(ryhme?i want to be a songwriter now)
DJ Sniper
May 22nd, 2009
11:27 am
I’ve never really dated a woman older than me. When I was 18, I messed around a couple of times with a 25 year old chick, but that was about it. Now my brother-in-law could speak on this topic. He’s 23 and his wife is 35. They got married last August and now they are expecting their first child together. The age difference doesn’t seem to be a big deal for them at all. She’s just as goofy and silly as he is, yet she does keep him on the up and up. She’s also a good role model for his daughter from a previous relationship. Now if only we could figure out how to completely eliminate the daughter’s mother from the picture, life would be great. lol
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
11:29 am
She’s also a good role model for his daughter from a previous relationship
DJ how old is the daughter?
Melo
May 22nd, 2009
11:30 am
Now if only we could figure out how to completely eliminate the daughter’s mother from the picture, life would be great
murder for hire is one otpion
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
11:31 am
@TAZZEE
**as long as there was no physical** GREAT POINT!
@LEGGS
i think he would be able to handle you. ;o) go for it!
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:32 am
@Raqi, the men I meet that are my age act old. Don’t know what happened, but there zest for life is a slow crawl. I would love to meet an aged gentlemen with spark and spunk in his spine! But I’m not so I’m going to try the younger generation. (I see Demi running toward me, must trip him when he gets to me).
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:34 am
@Beautiful, what am I going for? He approached ARed, not me!
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
11:37 am
@LEGGS
nevermind chile’.
AmazonRed™
May 22nd, 2009
11:37 am
your bait and switch. I could actually see him doing a dbl take asking “where you come from, you’re shorter and hair is a different color?”
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
11:43 am
Leggs I guess it all depends. The only woman that I know personally that married a much older man did so because she wanted a guy that was done with running the streets, partying and chasing skirts. She wanted a guy that is settled. They vacation and travel together and all that but the partying and all that is out.
And it could very well be because she is of childbearing age and wanted a good settled man to father her kids. They have three and he spends time with his kids as a family man would rather than hanging out allllll the time with his buddies.
It just depends on where you are in life I guess.
Demi
May 22nd, 2009
11:45 am
(He’d be someone’s grandpa at graduation!)
providing he live that long…
(Now if only we could figure out how to completely eliminate the daughter’s mother from the picture, life would be great. lol)
Dj…ain’t you a sniper, LOL
Angie…you need to be a bit more opening minded bey…you never know how things will turn out…to often we are blinded by what’s not for us…when what’s for us is standing right in front of us.
Yes he was ‘INTERESTED IN HER’…but because of that fact…you chose to over look that person…like I said, as long as no sex is involve, you are good to go:
Yuh up inna di club and di music sweet
Yuh fi jook gal (Jook gal jook gal jook gal)
Hand pon di wall, look inna di mirror
And jook gal (Jook gal jook gal jook gal)
Hand pon di ground bumpa inna di air
And jook gal (Jook gal jook gal jook gal)
Junk in di trunk, wine up yuh rump
And jook gal (Jook gal jook gal jook gal)
Shake that ass (Wine wine) y’all lookin fine (Wine wine)
One ting deh pon yuh mind (Wine wine) bend over and wine (Wine wine)
Di Jamaican girls (Wine wine) di New York girls (Wine wine)
Mi see di down south girls dem a (Wine wine) ([Lil' Jon:] Hey!)
Dem a wine wine dem a wine wine
Leggs
May 22nd, 2009
11:45 am
Seriously, you said he could handle me that I should go for it. There’s nothing to go for. Metaphorically yes, but you….aww nevermind chile!
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
11:46 am
Beautiful I don’t think I could do the date referral if the guy approached me first. Even now being married I can’t see myself telling a guy “Unfortunately I am spoken for, but I have a friend that you might like to meet.”
M'
May 22nd, 2009
11:46 am
@Cee…did not deliver…send me the addy again
-W8(at the barbershop and off the clock for the weekend)
May 22nd, 2009
11:48 am
I like a “seasoned” woman. I checked a 40 year old who had the body of a 22yr old. Mmm mmm mmm..some younger women tend to still have somthings to work out..lol
DJ Sniper
May 22nd, 2009
11:49 am
Raqi, his daughter is 3. Her mother’s is trifling to the nth degree. Granted, my BIL ain’t perfect and he’s made his share of mistakes, but the mother is way worse.
Melo, we did think about that option! LOL!! On the real though, for the longest, my wife was just waiting for an opportunity to administer a beatdown to her for all the nonsense she’s pulled.
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
11:50 am
@ALVIN NOT DEMI
**i’m not saying though that i would turn him away, but i would be one step ahead to the fact that he may still be feelin’ her**
did you actually READ my post?!?
Cemeeli
May 22nd, 2009
11:51 am
“I get all the old dudes when me & Lil Mo are out.
Mo – Have you started going to the sporting event/store. Lil Mo is your pawn, USE HIM!
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
11:53 am
@LEGGS
i was being supportive and at the same time kiddin’ witcha bout he can handle you.
M'
May 22nd, 2009
11:53 am
Speaking of being a grandparent at graduation…did y’all read the 66 y/o woman who preggars for the first time???…wow
Grace
May 22nd, 2009
11:54 am
Happy Friday! Way to go Wise, I’ve dated a younger man, he was 6 years younger. For me it was more of the thrill of dating a younger man than the actual date. Although it was short lived, I enjoyed every bit of our time together, I doubt I’ll ever date a much younger man again, I’m more in tuned to older guys.
Cemeeli
May 22nd, 2009
11:55 am
M’ I heard about the 66 year old pregnant women the other day. So she will be 85 when baby is in 12th grade.
Raqi...The Wife of one Sleepless in Seattle
May 22nd, 2009
11:57 am
did y’all read the 66 y/o woman who preggars for the first time
M’ I heard about that. She must have been a late bloomer because God in heaven knows I hope I have gone thru menopause by that time and getting knocked up can be the furthest thing from my mind.
Beautiful
May 22nd, 2009
12:00 pm
@RAQI
but from what we’re reading, it seems like we should keep our friends in mind. i’ve never thought of referring the guys i meet to my single gfs.
i’m bout to send out a blast text message and get ev1’s pov on this. and if the response is good, i guess it’s on then!
M'
May 22nd, 2009
12:00 pm
@Cee & Raqi
Yes…mid-80’s and getting a child ready for prom…uh!!!!…and yes, I would not want to be in the baby making stage at that age either…heck, I am done with it now…truly.
Demi
May 22nd, 2009
12:03 pm
(did you actually READ my post?!?)
Hellz NO!!! LOL
Mad badd…angie, if I read wrong.