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Protect Me

In his book Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady, Steve Harvey offered some great insight about men and protection:

Encoded in the DNA of the male species is that we are to be the provider and the protector of the family, and everything we do is geared toward ensuring we can make this happen.

This is really interesting to me because I don’t know if men realize how much it impresses a woman when a man seeks to protect her. I am not talking about simple chivalry, here. What I am referring to is that innate sense of protectiveness that men in love have about their women.
How do men show they are willing to protect their women? I think it can be found in subtle ways such as showing concern if she made it home safely. Checking her car for potential issues that may pose a threat. Then the not so subtle ways such as defending her honor, addressing anyone who dares to disrespect her in his presence.
I was sent an interesting quote from our friend “Sexyleggs”:
“A woman should not be dependent on the protection of a man, but should rest on her own”
I suppose this can be interpreted in many ways, but what are your thoughts about the quote?
Guys, what do you really think about protection? Is it difficult to provide this when you are in a relationship? At what point do you feel the urge to become protective of someone you are dating? Do women ever perceive it as overbearing?
If a guy does not show protective gestures toward the woman he is dating, does that mean he doesn’t care for her at all?
Ladies, do you feel comfortable with having a man protect you, in dating? Do you feel taken care of and cared for? Is there a line that crosses into overbearing for you?

239 comments Add your comment

Wise Diva

May 19th, 2009
8:45 am

GOOD MORNING! Sorry about the late start guys, it’s been THAT kind of morning. Have a TERRIFIC TUESDAY :)

Kym wonders who told Mike Strahan he could act?

May 19th, 2009
8:51 am

Good Morning All,

Somehow it is hard to consider Steve Harvey as an advice giver but that’s a whole other Oprah.

Ladies, do you feel comfortable with having a man protect you, in dating? Yes..as I quoted Heather Headley two weeks ago. Please be “the sole defender of anything I fear.”
Do you feel taken care of and cared for? If I feel protected by you..I will trust..if I trust you..we can go places and do things..if I don’t trust you, we are not going to make it out of the driveway.

Is there a line that crosses into overbearing for you? Yes, when your protection becomes calling ever hour on the hour, and texting, and sending IM’s. – Less is more..Less is more.

Professor

May 19th, 2009
8:52 am

Good Morning:

Great topic WD and great quote by Leggs, IMO I feel that it is important for me to have a man that can serve as a protector. I did not realize this about myself until I realized that I did not have this in a mate. Although I have my modern ways, I am still a cauldron traditional and innate behavior. Yes, I can check my oil and change a tire, or “bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan.” I still like a man that serves as a protector. In other words when I am dating a man that is a true protector there is a certain trust that I have for him and the relationship that deepens the bond.

LIONESS- Preparing for my Trip

May 19th, 2009
8:59 am

Good Morning All :)

I think it can be found in subtle ways such as showing concern if she made it home safely. Checking her car for potential issues that may pose a threat. Then the not so subtle ways such as defending her honor, addressing anyone who dares to disrespect her in his presence.

^^^^I Agree! What you mentined are just some of the makings of a good man.. None of what you mentioned should be perceived as overbearing.. There is nothing wrong with a person showing that they care about your wellbeing! Now, if I am out with a dude and he wants to fight a dude because the dude is looking @ me.. Then we might have a problem..

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
9:06 am

Good morning lovelies. I know it shouldn’t but the incorrect book title is kind of irking me this morning. :lol:

On to the topic, I’m all for a man protecting me. At the very least walking me to my car, making sure I’m home safe and looking out for me when we are together. That’s the basics

It feels good when you are in the car together and the car suddenly has to stop short and he instinctively stretches his arm out to prevent you from jerking forward. Not like his arm will do anything to keep you from flying through a windshield, but the gesture means a lot (at least to me).

Raqi...31 Days to ML

May 19th, 2009
9:07 am

Security. I need to feel a sense of security with the man I am with. Security takes on many forms and being physically protected in one of those forms.

I will never just go out running off at the mouth, starting confrontation and expect my man to fight my battle. However I do need to feel that he has a genuine concern for my safety and well being. For me it is a simple as him allowing and/or insisting on me walking on the safe side of the sidewalk.

As far as the quote is concerned, I disagree with it. Men are intimidating creatures by nature. They were built to protect so when I am in the presence of one, one that cares for me, I automatically feel a sense of being protected. I feel less exposed while walking across a dark parking lot on the way to my car when the one I love is there beside me. Yeah, an attacker could harm him just like he could me, but I feel safe with him. If I can’t feel safe then I can’t be with him.

mytw♥cents

May 19th, 2009
9:11 am

Well just wrap me up in a cocoon, because I must feel protected and I must feel like it’s an innate response on his part. In general, this is how I believe men should be with women, it’s definitely an unspoken expectation on my part. And as a guy’s girl, this may be why I can hang out with those neantherdals since they instinctually look out for me and any women in their lives. And I’m just used to neantherdal commentary too, so that helps.

But when a relationship dimension is added I’m gonna need him to slay the dragon almost before I have an inkling it’s been circling around. And really I don’t need to hear the details <– please don’t list all you’re doing in this respect cuz that’s what you’re supposed to be doing in my estimation. In return, I’ll protect his heart, which I think is lost element these days. (Which is why I think so many women disrespect their men, emasculate them in public or private…but Kym would say that’s a whole notha’ Ofrah) It seems like a fair trade to me.

But please don’t smother me. I need to breathe.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
9:11 am

Oh yeah, as for the quote, I disagree with SexyLeggs. One thing that Steve Harvey also mentioned is that ladies stopped remembering that they are ladies. We’re always trying to do it on our own. I do think we’re going against our nature a bit by trying to do it all.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
9:12 am

That should have read I disagree with the quote provided by SexyLeggs.

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
9:16 am

Good morning everyone!

@WD, its very appropriate that you put that quote out today because I’m somewhat struggling with the realization that I’m walking this walk alone. I’m not depressed just struggling as many of us single women are! I was thinking last night that I would love to have the protected arms of a man. Meaning, I need to know that someone has my back and my interests at heart. One who cares for me and want to protect me from the evils of the world, and I in turn can reciprocate.

I was surprised to open the blog and see the quote! Need breakfast.

Foots

May 19th, 2009
9:20 am

Good morning! I was talking with a female friend of mine yesterday about the elusive male species and parts of this topic came up.

I am the type of woman who has always appreciated the protectiveness of a man, in terms of him helping me down stairs, checking to make sure I made it home, making sure the doors are locked when we are in for the evening, checking to make sure that I have gas in the car and air in the tires, etc. I’m just feminine that way. I’ve dated men who have done some of these things and men who have done none. I know that my fairy tale mind wants to tie whether or not he performs these gestures to how much he cares about me, but my rational mind knows that all men are different and thus show caring in different ways. For me, that cuts down on the “if you really love me, you SHOULD do this” conversations. And I’ve had too many of those to count over my dating life. Now I’m resolved to continue to be who I am and let dude be who he is. If he’s not equipped with the “appropriate protectiveness programming” for the small things, it’s not a deal breaker.

Now, do I think that if my door got kicked in at 3 in the morning and he was there, dude would come out blazing? Yes, and that’s what really matters. :grin:

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 19th, 2009
9:21 am

Ladies, do you feel comfortable with having a man protect you, in dating? Do you feel taken care of and cared for? Is there a line that crosses into overbearing for you?

Yes I feel comfortable with a man protecting me in dating(in platonic friendships,too) and for/to me littlel things mean alot. I feel taken care of and cared for when he does things like opening doors,giving me his arm when we’re walking and even making sure that I’m on the inside of the sidewald while he’s closer to the street. All women like to feel cared for and be treated like ladies.

Now there comes a time when it can be overbearing like him needing a minute by minute account of my activities,calling me too often with the very first question being “Where you at?” followed by “Wathcu doin”(I’m thinking the same thing I was doing 30 mins ago, but I digress).

Professor

May 19th, 2009
9:29 am

“A woman should not be dependent on the protection of a man, but should rest on her own”

Although I am not dependent on the protection of a man, I feel that protection from a man ranks as one of the highest form of respect. To me it is about embracing showing that you care and you are concern with my well-being. In order for a relationship to grow I have to have protection—its essential to me. I would not feel comfortable meeting a SO at Atlantic Station for dinner knowing that I am on my own, because he does not care enough to see me to my car safely. Yes, I can “rest on my own” safety with my S&W and other means, but to me the comfort lies in having someone serving as my protector.

Kym wonders who told Mike Strahan he could act?

May 19th, 2009
9:30 am

And I don’t totally disagree with Leggs quote. I think you have to know when you are out there dating what exactly you are looking for. Protection and Security should not be the sole reason you are playing the dating game. If it is then you will follow whatever hard-leg rubs up against you. That leads to the “I got a man syndrome” Mind you he is a sorry, shiftless, ball-less, piece of a man, but you got one.

LIONESS- Preparing for my Trip

May 19th, 2009
9:32 am

My two- In return, I’ll protect his heart, which I think is lost element these days <- Real Talk! I am all for that!

Foots- I agree!

I don’t mind if a secure man texts/calls/emails me to say hello or ask what I am doing etc several times a day cause that means I am on his mind.. He MUST be secure with himself, if he is not, he won’t get far wih me :)

Leggs- What made you say your quote?

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 19th, 2009
9:34 am

Morning Folks!

“Well just wrap me up in a cocoon, because I must feel protected and I must feel like it’s an innate response on his part.”

I just had to quote that mytw♥cents because I am the same way.

Ladies, do you feel comfortable with having a man protect you, in dating? Do you feel taken care of and cared for? Is there a line that crosses into overbearing for you?

Yes, I feel very comfortable having a man protect me in dating, in friendship – anytime. It does take some getting used to because after all these years, my first instinct is to walk in the house first, etc. That’s the latest one with my guy – when we go to my house together, he wants to walk in first and case the place. That one is a first for me. I’m accustomed to getting out the car and gathering all my stuff myself – so I have to allow him to help me, essentially remember that he’s there.

I’ve never had a man be overbearing with his protection – just times when I felt his protection was inconvenient. Like when we get to the house together, I usually park in the garage and him in the driveway – well, I’m closer to the door and just want to go inside…

Elijah

May 19th, 2009
9:38 am

A sunny good morning to all the ladies!

I believe a man should be a woman’s protector at all times! It is very critical for men to provide the security/protection for women and his family.

Part of our security role is to teach the ladies how to protect themselves when we are not around!

Lioness you must be super fine if a guy is going to fight someone for just looking at ya! :lol:

Professor

May 19th, 2009
9:47 am

@ Elijah interesting point. Part of our security role is to teach the ladies how to protect themselves when we are not around!

I have had men esp. my father and brother tell me about protection when they are not around.

@ Lioness, I agree about being on his mind…that is always a nice gesture when it is someone that you like, but if you don’t like him that is a different story.

The Truth

May 19th, 2009
9:47 am

Relationship advice from Steve Harvey – a guy who admittedly cheated on his wife and ended up in a messy, public divorce. So much for protecting the family…

Some women emphasize their independence to the point where it is difficult for a man to know when he is over stepping on the protection thing. Also, some women think a man’s concern for their safety is an attempt a controlling their behavior and dismiss the man’s efforts. I once knew a young lady when, upon learning she was going out to a house party thrown by friends of a friend, I advised her not to accept any drinks from any guys (especially if she didn’t know them) and to make her own drinks. She said I was too controlling, went to the party, had glass of “punch” given to her by the friend of her girlfriend’s boyfriend, blacked out, and was sexually assualted.

Ladies, sometimes men give you warnings about other men because WE ARE MEN AND KNOW THE EVIL THAT MEN CAN DO!! So the next time, your man advises you to be cautious or wary of certain situations, take heed.

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
9:48 am

Thanks ARed, because it’s not my quote. It’s a quote from Susan B. Anthony!

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
9:54 am

@Lioness, you see my 9:48.

I submitted the quote because I found it interesting. Do I agree with it, NO! As Professor stated, it’s the highest form of respect that a man steps up and desires to protect his woman. We as women need and want to know that our men will come to our defense. As Sir Truth always states, we need to know that the “alpha dog” will bark when the need surfaces.

@ARed, I meant thanks for the clarification!!

Elijah

May 19th, 2009
9:57 am

@Kym tell us how ya really feel!

I have dated some ladies who did not know what it’s like to be protected! Making sure they are safe when the get home! Checking out the house to make sure it is safe, checking all security measures to make sure they work! In the wintertime in Cleveland always keeping your tank on full and make sure the car is in good working condition.

Some women tend to either take protection advice for granted! Why is that ladies?

LIONESS- Preparing for my Trip

May 19th, 2009
9:58 am

Truth- I agree!

Leggs- That is why I didn’t bother commenting on the qute cause I figured it had to be more to it.. Didn’t think you would say anything like that :)

Prof- Understood.. If I am not feeling a dude, homey won’t be ringing my phone muchless texting me asking how am I.. I don’t casually date.. Too boring :)

FEE

May 19th, 2009
10:00 am

Im late.. dont have time to read all the comments, I have my firing jacket on, just in case bullets come-a-flying…

One issue I have with SH quote, Its in a mans DNA to be a provider and protector… Well if that is the case WHY oh WHY are there so many fatherless children!!!!!!!!

LIONESS- Preparing for my Trip

May 19th, 2009
10:01 am

Elli- Who knows why women think that they are man enough.. I think it is ridiculous.. Just be a lady and let that man check for you.. Not rocket science..

As far as your comment to me.. Maybe I am just a nice person..

Not their Mother

May 19th, 2009
10:01 am

Yes, I want the man to be the protector. That makes him the MAN in my estimation. Here is why I’m leaving my current relationship:
He goes to bed and leaves all the doors unlocked leaving me to do a late night check. He lets my little dogs out to go to the potty then forgets they are out there in a neighborhood with wild packs of dogs. He NEVER has enough gas in his vehicle to take me or himself anywhere in an emergency. He makes me call 911 if there is dangerous activity in the area. He wants a “feminine” woman yet when I’m wearing a dress and heels I can be carrying heavy packages and he doesn’t even offer to help me carry them. He doesn’t know how to operate power tools so I end up doing house repairs. He wants a great yard but I’m the one that ends up moving all the mulch and doing the digging while he sits inside on a sunny day and plays on his computer. He NEVER takes out the trash without being reminded so I end up doing it myself while he sits on the sofa and watches t.v. I can be vacuuming in front of him, shoving heavy furniture around to get the job done, and he won’t get up to help me.

I am not the “feminine” woman in this relationship, he has given up his MAN card and made me his MOMMY and the responsible MAN! And it is not sexy for me to make-out with a boy. I never get to rest in the knowledge that he is thinking ahead and that he has my back. I always have to be the one who makes the plans, makes sure that the bills got paid and kill the bugs. Guys, does this sound like you? Then you’re not pulling your weight.

Professor

May 19th, 2009
10:02 am

@ Truth- you are correct I always ALWAYS take heed and when someone is giving me the heads up. There is a CD by Branford Marsalis that is called “I Heard You Twice the First Time.” I love that caption because when someone is telling you something especially when it depends on your safety and life you really need to hear him or her clearly and of course “twice the first time.”

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
10:05 am

@Lioness, stop acting like you know me (J/K) :wink: WD and I both thought it would make for good discussion!

@Fee, clapping, clapping, clapping!!!

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
10:06 am

Relationship advice from Steve Harvey – a guy who admittedly cheated on his wife and ended up in a messy, public divorce. So much for protecting the family

The Other Truth – Good grief, why do folks keep bringing that up like that automatically discounts them from knowing what men think? I know you’ve been married for like a zillion years, but Steve Harvey can speak on dogging out women, cuz he dogged out women. How does that not make sense to you? His book is not about being a perfect husband.

-W8©

May 19th, 2009
10:08 am

A man is supposed to be a covering.. a protector of all things spiritually, mentally and physically..also equip her and your children to do so own their own when need be. Have a great day ladies and gents..I’m in a pissed off mood dealing with these idiots, at some point people in general have to start doing better. Have a great day… catch up with you all later this afternoon if possible

LIONESS- Preparing for my Trip

May 19th, 2009
10:08 am

Not- WOW! You are AMAZING! He was like this before the two of you moved in together..

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
10:08 am

Ladies, sometimes men give you warnings about other men because WE ARE MEN AND KNOW THE EVIL THAT MEN CAN DO!! So the next time, your man advises you to be cautious or wary of certain situations, take heed.

Oh and by the way, this is exactly what the point of Steve Harvey’s book.

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
10:08 am

Morning All,

I love MEN and I love it when they ACT like REAL MEN, which includes taking on the role of protector. I grew up with a dad and 4 brothers and they looked out for me without being overbearing. I expect nothing less from one I am dating. I actually dated one that seemed to go out of his way to NOT take on the protector role – it seemed to kill him, and sometimes circumstances were such that I need to ASK for assistance. For example, I got a call from a neighbor that my alarm was going off at my house and the police were looking around. I was at work in Alpharetta and I live in SWATS, so I knew by the time I got home it would be dark. I called the guy and asked him to meet me at the house and look around to make sure everything was okay, even though it appeared to be a false alarm. He reluctantly met me, entered the front door behind me and promptly plopped down on the sofa and turned on a game, leaving me to look over the house myself. I dumped him that night.

Truth, that chick you described in your post are the same types of chicks that complain when a guy holds a door open for her, pulls out a chair, or takes anything gentlemanly as an insult. Those chicks don’t count in this discussion.

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
10:10 am

@NTMother, did you marry my ex?? Again, just kidding. I once asked my ex to put a deadbolt on the door leading from the backyard to the laundry room and then put a deadbolt on the laundry room door leading into the kitchen. He said if I wanted them installed then I needed to do it myself. I did exactly that! Now, that right there said a lot to me about being my protector and showing concern for my feelings and level of discomfort in my own home.

Kym wonders who told Mike Strahan he could act?

May 19th, 2009
10:10 am

Also, protection is not about running up and slaying dragons. Protection may mean protecting me from my own fool self at times. I am an enigma, wrapped in a mystery, somedays I plunge head first in other times I test the waters. It’s nice to have someone around that provides that balance..when I am dreaming up my next adventure or challenge. My son’s father was great at this. I would say something..like lets go bungee jumping..he would pat my hand, kiss my forehead and say calm down speedy..how about we just have sex?

LIONESS- Preparing for my Trip

May 19th, 2009
10:13 am

Leggs- PLEASE tell me you are joking about your lame azz ex!

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
10:17 am

Good morning folks. Just got in from 2 hours of jet skiing in the ocean and a bruh is wupped. You cannot beat the elements, period. Also smoked some shisha yesterday and had real indian food. The international fest begins.

On topic: A dude should take care of all that he calls his. Not out of some great chest beating session but simply because its his. This is the trick in modern dating, determining what is yours and what is community property. some chicks just go to the wind.

Seems every woman on here wants to be protected but not many want to be directed, though alot need that too. As soon as a chick bucks she goes to the wind. When she falls its on her to get up. If you dont roll with my program you get none of the protections I offer. Thats the only offer on the table and we aren’t negotiating any points. Either bow down or bow out. While in my care though I’ll gove you everything I have, never deny you. And you never deny me. After that all else is easy.

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
10:18 am

Oh, and dudes that have to call every 5 minutes and need a play-by-play account of what you are doing all day are being more than overbearing – they are crazy-possessive, stalking and insecure. Plus, they obviously don’t have much to do or have anything worthwhile going on in their lives.

I would define overbearing as a guy whose behavior goes beyond gentlemanly and caring. He treats the woman as if she is completely helpless and can’t do anything for herself. Suffocating.

Professor

May 19th, 2009
10:18 am

@ NTMother- Wow he is a scandal and a shame! That is ridiculous.

@ Kimmie- Girl I grew up in the SWATS, and I am still close to it! When he plopped down on the sofa that was an abomination!

Le Siren

May 19th, 2009
10:19 am

“Not Their Mother”- That is one SORRY AZZ MAN! Why have you stuck it out this long? Are yall married? Do you have kids? Just trying to figure out why you would put up with a man that weak…

Foots

May 19th, 2009
10:21 am

Elijah Part of our security role is to teach the ladies how to protect themselves when we are not around!

I see that this is the case in my relationship. He installed Google Maps on my phone so that if he can’t drive me, I won’t get lost. He has also tried about 3 times to teach me the appropriate MMA way to take a man down if I’m attacked from behind. I can’t do it perfectly, but his teaching hasn’t been in vain.

It would probably irk me if I had to wait for a dude to case the house everytime we came home to make sure there wasn’t anybody in it. This is the first time I’ve even thought about that. I live alone and 6 days out of 7 (and even more if we spend the weekend at his place), I have to come home alone, so that’s not too helpful to me. But if I told him that the battery for my alarm system was dead, I know he’d get a replacement for me quickly and install it, even though I can do it myself. That’s practical protection and I appreciate that.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
10:25 am

Wow @ Not Mother and Leggs!

Yeah, my ex was really good at protecting at first. He used to check out my car, watch out for me when I’m out, etc.

I knew the end was near when he didn’t come stay with me one night after my single female neighbor suffered a home invasion. She was unharmed, but it could have ended badly for her. When I asked him why he didn’t come over, he said that his condo community was also suffering break ins, so he wanted to keep an eye out. :???:

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
10:26 am

Not His Mother – You’re joking right?

I know 4 year old boys that will help their moms out better than this.

And you actually call this a relationship? You actually can muster up desire for this dude?

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
10:27 am

@Lioness, wish I could, but no joke there. He comes over and cuts the grass and calls to see if anything around the house needs fixing. There are things that need fixing, but he didn’t want to do squat when he lived there so now I have my own handyman for repairs. (I purposely didn’t say “maintenance man” because I don’t want to wake up Melo!)

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 19th, 2009
10:31 am

Morning Elijah how you doin’ :)

Not their mother If you’re doing all of those things with him, it’s obvious and apparent that YOU CAN DO IT BY YOUR YOURSELF sistergirl. Is he younger than you?…..is he the youngest or only boy of the family?(he’s not acting like a man so I didn’t call him one). Sounds like you’re frustrated and need a change of scenery,mainly him. You’ll do it when you’re ready just don’t wait too long and look back on it and wondered why you stayed sooo long. YOU CAN DO IT :)

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
10:32 am

You guys Mother already said she’s leaving her relationship. I believe her. Anytime she has any doubts all she has to do is read her own post. Crazy!

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
10:33 am

YES, YOU CAN DO IT!

@ARed,I divorced for all the right reasons and married for all the wrong ones! That’s the bottom line!

Foots

May 19th, 2009
10:39 am

Leggs, I once broke up with a dude because he was sort of like that. He was the type to go to bed with doors unlocked. Once at his place, I took my dog out to potty; his house and neighborhood were new, so there were no streetlights or flood lights out there. All he had to do was stay with us, but he went inside. I was bothered, but not mad at the time. When I got ready to come inside, lo and behold, THAT was the time he mistakenly locked the door. So here I am, in winter, with a puppy, standing in the garage ringing the doorbell, at night. I put down the garage door to make me feel safer, and eventually he came to open the door. Said he was upstairs and didn’t hear the doorbell. I completely flipped out that not only would he leave me outside, AND lock the door (by mistake or not, the door was still locked), he wasn’t even close by in case something happened. That was an all-night argument because he refused to see my point. He didn’t have an ounce of protectiveness in him. And that was one of the reasons I broke it off.

Fast forward 8 years, we’re friends and I know that he’s matured way past where he was then. I’m glad he did, cause dude was lacking in that area.

FEE

May 19th, 2009
10:46 am

I have one Protector.. God the father… He has equipped us all to be self preservors….

My thing is, If you didnt walk the walk, dont write a book. We place to much trust in the wrong people…

That is SH opinion, it dont make it factual or Law… His words dont work for everybody, cuz all come from different backgrounds, situations, and circumstances….

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
10:49 am

@Foots, I somewhat chuckled at your story. He could have at least stayed with you. New subdivision, no street lights. Hell, he was only ocncerned w/getting to your honey pot when you returned (if you returned). I cannot understand those who don’t check their doors and windows at night. I go in my laundry room every evening to make sure no one has kicked in the back door. I have to check this for my own comfort level.

FEE

May 19th, 2009
10:51 am

LEGGS>>> I DID TO>. Lesson learned… date stamped.. move on…

FEE

May 19th, 2009
10:51 am

By The way leggs… I have dinner with my son and the big… it was awesome…. awesome… awesome… awesome… did I say awesome…

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
10:52 am

For any of you that planned on meeting W8 at Bigelow’s this evening, feel free to make other plans. He’s working on a big case and will not be able to meet up.

Professor

May 19th, 2009
10:55 am

@ Foots he was tripping, but it is good to know that he has matured.

I just want to throw this out there even when I am hanging with the girls we always make sure that everyone is safe (we call each other when we make it home and etc.). So if my girls are concerned about my safety my man should be as well. Hey thats just my logic

FEE

May 19th, 2009
10:56 am

Truth… I dont think a woman dont mind being directed… by someone who knows where he is going…. too many times, dudes try to lead without having any direction themselves….

If you have no vision, I cant run with you….

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 19th, 2009
10:59 am

.… I dont think a woman dont mind being directed… by someone who knows where he is going…. too many times, dudes try to lead without having any direction themselves… If you have no vision, I cant run with you….

FEE I co-sign withcu on that….

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
11:00 am

@Fee, glad you’re stoked! :lol:

FEE

May 19th, 2009
11:02 am

Leggs, yes mam… he was a sight of splendor… oh my… I actually made some fresh raspberry lemonade, squeezed them myself.. hehehehehe.

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
11:05 am

You made my mouth open wide….fresh raspberry lemonade…I’m want some! I love anything raspberry.

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
11:07 am

Fee- Cosign that 10:56 & the raspberry lemonade!

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
11:08 am

Fee, I agree alot of cats couldn’t plan their own bday party. In alot of cases its not their fault. Society is breeding out that part of a man that would cause him to do things normally associated with manhood, just as its breeding out the soft chick with a heart to give. Now its a criminal act to do what guys normally do. And believe me most cats cant play joe cool then flip the script and get straight vicious. Its something that has to be practiced and embedded. If you think your guy is gonna jump out of bed and stop some cat because he’s your guy you’re wrong. He’s gonna call 911 and hide in the closet, prolly with you outside guarding the door. Same thing with planning his life. His mom did it all for him so he’s waiting on the right chick to step in and do the same. Thing is he wants to be the man all along. Doesn’t happen that way.

Being a man is easy, if you have the right tools.

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
11:08 am

Guess I could have said that somewhat softer…W8 reqrets that he will not be able to meet up at Bigelow’s this evening. His workload has increased preventing him from attending. Hope everyone has a good time! :lol:

Sybil

May 19th, 2009
11:08 am

Give me a man who’s at least 3 or 4 inches taller than me with just a bit of size to him. Put some smooth light skin (light skin optional) on him, some swagger in him, give him a beautiful smile and strong hands, surround me with a protective, secure feeling and HE can get anything I got!

I will have my momma over at his house cleaning and cooking three times a week. LOL

jus’ playin’….

FEE

May 19th, 2009
11:16 am

Truth.. I dont believe “society” is breeding that part of a man… I think parents are abandoning their jobs and letting society raise their children…

I personal dont want a Momma’s boy, I dont Mind a man that loves his mother though….

But otherwise I understand what you are saying.. and shoot he can try to run to the closet if he want to, I will trip him in the hallway and get their first… hehehehehe

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
11:17 am

@Truth, I wholeheartedly agree with your post, but take exception with him in the closet and me guarding the door!

FEE

May 19th, 2009
11:20 am

@KIMMIE… that lemonade was hard work… but it was the bomb the next morning… glory… LOL….

FEE

May 19th, 2009
11:21 am

LEGGS>.. we are on the same page.. thats funny.

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
11:24 am

Yes, I was going to post about being on the same page, but knew you would to so I stayed in the cut…you didn’t disappoint me…that’s too funny!

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
11:24 am

If you think your guy is gonna jump out of bed and stop some cat because he’s your guy you’re wrong. He’s gonna call 911 and hide in the closet, prolly with you outside guarding the door.

This weekend I had a flat, so I called AAA and they came out and put on the spare. I asked the AAA guy if men ever called him to come change their tires. He told me “all the time” and quite often they call and he rolls up and they have their girlfriends sitting their right there next to em. :lol:

I told new boo after the fact and he asked why I didn’t call him. I didn’t want to bother him at the time, but I did ask if he knew how to change a tire and he looked at me all crazy and was like “of course!”

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
11:26 am

Piggybacking on what Truth said, my ex would often tell me that I took away his manhood. My reply was always the same, “no, I didn’t, you handed it to me on a silver platter.” Truth is right, if you have the right tools it’s a breeze to be a MAN!

DJ Sniper

May 19th, 2009
11:27 am

Truth, I do agree with society frowning more and more on traits usually associated with masculinity. I’ve read a couple of articles about this, but I may need to go look up some others that may be more recent. You also bring up a good point about how too many boys are spoiled and coddled by their mothers, and when they get grown, they don’t know how to do jack.

DJ Sniper

May 19th, 2009
11:29 am

ARed, that is a damn shame. Every man should know basic car maintenance. When I was a teenager, my dad made sure I knew how to work on a car before I could drive one. I wish I would call AAA to change my damn tire. lol

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
11:30 am

My reply was always the same, “no, I didn’t, you handed it to me on a silver platter.

Leggs – :lol: :lol: :lol: I admire you for sticking it out as long as you did. Was he this lazy before you married?

FEE

May 19th, 2009
11:32 am

Leggs… your funny.. funny… funny… Im glad I didnt disappoint you… LOL.. you blog know me.. huh… LOL

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
11:32 am

Hey…

I add to the topic my personal opinion with this dicussion. (really the comments left by the ladies)…As i read a few of my sisters, it is a pain to know any of you ladies have been with a man that wasn’t protective of you. Most of you are well aware of how to take care of a man (and i say that loosley), but then i read that some have encountered the punks that want the girlfriend experience, but then can hold up to their first, and foremost headship!

A man that will not protect his woman and family is just trifling.

Kym wonders who told Mike Strahan he could act?

May 19th, 2009
11:37 am

Well now I know protective men who can’t change a tire..or rather won’t change a tire. So I can’t say that factor is a done deal for me. But checking doors and stuff..heck my son does that.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
11:37 am

Reminds me of a cat that came to work at the pen for one day. Big dude, muscular. I’m watching this cat and he just didnt have the right nerves for that kind of work. He wasnt emotionally able to take what was going on. Good thing is he never came back. Day one was his last day. I bet he’s telling everyone how he worked at the pen and all he did. LOL

BTW, the same gear that would make a cat go to adudes azz is the gear that will make him keep a chick in line. All these metrosexual cats talking about “lets discuss this” are ruining the work our forefathers put in.

Tip: Sometimes these moments we’re speaking of show us how much our mates really care for us. It’s to ez to say I care about you but in that moment when a quick decision is necessary then you see where their true allegiance is. If your dude runs in the closet just think of that as an indirect goodbye. LOL

Sybil, lmao at that visual.

FEE

May 19th, 2009
11:38 am

HEY… Is the key word Protective.. or should it just be plan ole “knowing your and taking care of your “RESPONSIBILITY”

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
11:38 am

SexyCool

May 19th, 2009
11:39 am

Of course, being the Libra that I am, I often look at the other side of the topic. The opposite of a man who is not protective of you is a man who is destructive to you.

He does not honor you. He does not respect you. He does not support you. He cheats on you. He talks down to you. He hits you. He does not protect you.

Protection is not just a physical thing. It can also be emotional, mental, and financial.

Three Words Daily – God’s my source.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
11:42 am

Yeah Kym, can’t and won’t are two diffent things. If I were strong enough to jack the car up, I could change a tire. :lol: I think a guy should know such things. It certainly helps in a pinch rather than having to call for help.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
11:43 am

Leggs, Ive heard a few cats say the chick wouldnt let them be the man, including my best friend. I always wondered how they can stop you from being what you are. I dont need your permission to be me, I’ve been working on this program for 2 many years.

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
11:47 am

Lord bless those that believe a man shouldn’t be the protector in the first place. Cain’t believe i read that one. Oh, yes i can….

SexyCool

May 19th, 2009
11:47 am

BTW – I can and have changed my own tire.

In fact, Wise – remember that day you had TWO flat tires and you were trying to get down to the Falcons game? (At least, I think it was a football game you were going to>)

LOL – now THAT was an adventure.

FEE

May 19th, 2009
11:49 am

Hey CEMEELI>..

Truth,, men who use that line just looking for excuse to cover the sorry booties… thats all…

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
11:50 am

SCool I wouldn’t say it’s the Libra coin spin. I should just be innate that a man in your space would do what he’s suppose to do as a born protector.

My son has been locking doors and making sure the phone works since he was like 6or7 years old. Now that’s some sense of what’s in him. I didn’t teach him that…dunno where he got that from anyway.

mytw♥cents

May 19th, 2009
11:50 am

NOT THEIRS How could you have gotten to this point? Can you admit you should be more upset with yourself, than him?

Another form of protection is definitely teaching us how to fend for ourselves. Someone I know who just got married…they live out in the country and he hunts & stuff. Well before they got married, he told my friend’s cousin he was gonna teach her how to hunt and skin the animal b/c if ever his health failed, and he couldn’t provide, she’d be able to survive. I was like WOW. (In theory, cuz it’s a lil too primitive in practice for .02) But still, WOW at the foresight.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
11:51 am

Truth, I do agree with society frowning more and more on traits usually associated with masculinity

Really?, i have never experienced that nor seen that about society.Society frowning on masculinity??? Thats a new one.
Every man should know basic car maintenance
Depends on what u consider basic.Im not a car guy, i dont do maintenance as in engine stuff,other than looking at the battery connections to see if they are tight.I can change tyres and do other mechanical stuff as long as it has nothing to do materially with vroooom,vrooom stuff,u know engine stuff.Please tell me im still a MAN,waaaait,where is my meloid?? :grin:

Now as for mama’s boys….i think thats a big syndrome/disease in af/american communities.
Now Ared i will call hero guys if im on the hyway and i have a flat coz they can do that stuff waaaaaay quicker than myself! Done it be4 when i was with Queen one time, even tho i carry my own jack.But if im at home,then yeah, i do it by myself.
Most stuff at home, i pay pple to do it.My hands cant do a drill as efficiently as i do a keyboard.Man still??? Pleazse send me ur ratings. :lol:
And u females who want to be with a protector,nothing wromng with that,in fact every man shld do that/Are uall nurtureres tho.Can u make him some soup,dinner,a hot bath when he gets outa the yard etc.Do u go the extra mile??
If u are a nagger all the time,or u are DIY type,then he will let u do it.Dont blame him.

LIONESS- Sitting @ the Car Wash

May 19th, 2009
11:52 am

The changing the tire issue.. If we were on our way somewhere, got a flat, and we pay for AAA every month, then we are going to call them.. Nothing wrong with that..

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
11:55 am

he was gonna teach her how to hunt and skin the animal b/c if ever his health failed, and he couldn’t provide, she’d be able to survive.

mytwocents that is something we all should adhere too. Your friend reminds me of this proverb.

“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

SexyCool

May 19th, 2009
11:59 am

I will pass on the animal skinning skills. However, I can preserve the helloutta some garden vegetables. Blanche, rinse, cool, bag and freeze.

One time for the country girls!!

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
12:01 pm

Melo, used to be we fought. Now its assault with deadly intent and punishable by years in jail. Same with you disciplining your kids, you could go to jail for doing what you’re supposed to do. The list goes on as we become more civilized and less able to do what we are here for.

They’re locking up cats with that gear in them which means the candy azzes get to breed. Sounds like selective breeding to me.

DJ Sniper

May 19th, 2009
12:05 pm

Melo, here’s what I consider basic car maintenance: changing a tire, changing the oil, at least having general knowledge of where certain engine parts are located. I’m not saying you have to know how to completely tear down and rebuild an engine, because I don’t, but still, you get my point. I also know how to change out my brake pads and rotors, as well as give my car a tune up. Speaking of that, my brakes are damn near done.

Kym wonders who told Mike Strahan he could act?

May 19th, 2009
12:06 pm

@Truth Do you ever check out the onion? I thought I sent you this video link from their site on the prison economy.. Funny!!!

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
12:07 pm

Lunchtime is always a good time.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
12:08 pm

Melo, used to be we fought

Truth,u can still fight.Was listening to Charles Barkely on Larry King i believe, and they were talking about the incident when he threw a guy thru the window.He regrets it but says random pple provoke him from time to time, i guess, coz hes a loud mouth himself.BUT he says if smebody hits him first,hes gotta a good excuse to whip their fccking azz.The law will protect u.
Same here.
If some dude attempts to break in my house and we in der sleeping,he gets hiz brains knocked out.
U just got to channel the aggression properly,thats all.

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
12:09 pm

@ARed, no he wasn’t always lazy. After we got married and I got a better paying job he soon realized that if he didn’t want to do something that NEEDED to be done that I would handle it. That’s where the problems rests, with ME! We had a family and he if he got his manties in a twist he just sat back and let me handled things. I was going to provide for my family come hook or crook, and I almost turned into crooking (i know this is not a word, but you know what I mean). I turned into the man in the house and I wore the pants because I had to in order to survive. As I got stronger, I truly realized my survival included no longer being married to him. He was a piss poor provider and and spiteful SOB.

Truth is right, his mother coddled him and he never grew into being the man he was suppose to be. Now, here I come along only to further delay is development. Better believe he developed in the past 4 years since our divorce!

DJ Sniper

May 19th, 2009
12:09 pm

Truth, that’s a good point. Back in the day, if you fought, then someone won, someone lost, and that was it. When your kids acted up, you got in their asses and let them know what the deal was. These days, ish is just all out of wack.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
12:14 pm

I also know how to change out my brake pads and rotors, as well as give my car a tune up

All that,i cant do.I know how to operate the ATM tho,to get the cash to pay the repairman.
Now my brother is an aircraft engineer and a pilot and all that he can do as well as tear up and down, a car engine.But boy is so lame with hiz wife and so much under petticoat(slip) government(thats what we call it) u wonder why when he seems so manly??
His wife says jump,he will jump,crawl and do a cow mooooo,moooo imitation all in 30 seconds.Man my azz!!!

THE INFAMOUS DK

May 19th, 2009
12:16 pm

Ha thats funny.. I dont see checking your house to make sure no ones there, changing your tire or jumping up with the Attitude Adjuster in the middle of the night as protection. I just see it as Man Stuff. The price you pay for wearing your pants.

-W8

May 19th, 2009
12:18 pm

Wow@ some of these comments…how do you invite/allow this stuff into some of your lives? My father raised us to be men first and foremost, now for my youngest brother. I don’t know what his problem is..hopefully he will get it together. My question is ladies..it is so easy to define the roll that men are supposed to adhere to…but let’s hear what you as women are supposed to do..instead of complianing bashing etc..what are you doing yourself to get the treatment that you are or are not getting. (I can’t believe I’ve become so interested in this blog that I’m posting from my bberry, maybe its just stress relief..lol)

THE INFAMOUS DK

May 19th, 2009
12:21 pm

Society wants men to be more talkative, feel more and more intouch with their feminie side. 1. Women talk alot 2. Women are more emotional 3. women are in touch with their feminine side. I have deduced that society wants men to be women.

Beautiful

May 19th, 2009
12:23 pm

good morning W8! you’re addicted like the rest of us. lol. it’s ok booboo, just let it flow. oh . . . and have fun!

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
12:23 pm

@W8, some of are just plain stupid and got caught up. I cried walking down the aisle. I now believe those tears were me knowing I was making a mistake. I stuck it out and did my best at being wife. I cooked everynight, made love, cleaned, kept my appearance up. However, it some became apparent that my role was more as provider than wife and the wife in me slowly died. That’s all I can say, she died right before both our eyes!

Leggs

May 19th, 2009
12:24 pm

I’m out…enjoy the rest of the day!

DJ Sniper

May 19th, 2009
12:25 pm

DK, some men feel for that okeydoke, thinking that’s what women actually wanted. Not this one.

LOL@ Melo talking about the dude mooing like a cow!!!!

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
12:30 pm

Good afternoon, all,

I definitely agree that every man (really every person) should know basic car maintenance. Changing tires, Changing spark plugs, Changing air filters, Checking oil level (looking at dip sticks), Checking transmission (differential) fluid (usually another dipstick), check that the headlights and tail lights work, etc.

AAA is good to have, but you have to wait on them to come. While you are stranded and waiting, you are vulnerable. Some things are major and you have to wait.

For example, recently this woman needed to go to the bank and she had her kids with her. When she came out, her car wouldn’t start. She was approached by two men who seemed to want to help. She declined because she had AAA coming, but it was a 30 minute wait for her. At which point, the men asked again and she saw that one had a .45 and it was pointed at her children in the back seat. Of course, they told her to be quiet or else. One went back in the bank with her and the other stayed in the car with the kids, just in case. They made off with an undisclosed amount of cash.

She is a single mom, and had a good car (Acura TSX). The problem with the car was the battery. It died (which happens). She was vulnerable. Security was inside the bank, but not in the parking lot at the time that this happened.

I’ve taught my wife gun safety. We go to gun ranges regularly. I’m thinking of going one day during the upcoming memorial day weekend. It looks like it will rain all weekend anyway.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
12:32 pm

W8, womens roles will be discussed tomorrow. Today we’re talking about cats that are coming up short and require a nice douche after lovemaking.

Btw, there’s talk of a cure for MIA blogging but right now its just a rumor.

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
12:38 pm

I just see it as Man Stuff. The price you pay for wearing your pants.

You darn skippy. You gotta pay the cost to be the boss.

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
12:48 pm

Poppa, so true. Just the price you pay.Thing is it shouldn’t be that hard to do. Who wants a chick they love to have to take out trash or change a car tire? Simple things to do but I’d rather do it then her.

DJ Sniper

May 19th, 2009
12:50 pm

Poppa, my wife wants to get her weapons permit as well. Also, I found it quite hilarious that when you go to the Gwinnett County courthouse, you can apply for your marriage license and gun permit at the same time! LOL!!!

-W8

May 19th, 2009
12:56 pm

@Truth- some dudes are used to peeing sitting down..I can’t stand weak individuals. And discussing womens roles on hear…yeah right..lmao..lmao. But seriously some of this stuff is so foreign to me that I’m reading..maybe I’m just comfortable in being a male chauvinist to an extent..flip side of that is that the woman in my life is taking care of and is equipped to handle business if I’m gone..I dunno I was taught to take care of home and defend everyone under that roof at all cost..

@PG- I believe in a woman knowing how to defend herself also..and I teach them as such..she just can’t use those moves on mw when I piss her off..lmao

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 19th, 2009
12:57 pm

I think I’ll hit up the gun range this weekend too. I’m trying to find a pink handle thingy and cute carrying bag for my gun. I saw my gun with a pink handle – but I’m not paying for a new gun. So I’ll just switch out the handle…

Married until proven Single!

May 19th, 2009
1:00 pm

@W8
**instead of complianing bashing etc.**

thanks for the warning. i haven’t read any of the comments on page one yet and now i don’t plan too. i’m trying to stay positive regarding men. i know there is one out there for me and he will protect and provide. i just have to get thru these bad apples who are trying to phuck up the game for the good men out there!

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:01 pm

DJ

In the state of Georgia most courthouses combine marriage licenses with gun licenses. The same is true in Fulton Co.

My wife loves going to the range. We actually have her first target framed and on the wall in our guest room.

We’ve even done skeet shooting. There is a range for that in the Camp Creek area and it is part of Fulton County Parks and Recreation. Fulton residents get a discount.

Truth

Thing is it shouldn’t be that hard to do. Who wants a chick they love to have to take out trash or change a car tire?

So true. I’ve spent this morning getting my wife’s car serviced. Fuel injectors (I know that she has put some cheap stuff in there), tune up, oil change, and tire rotation. I can do these things, but they have things like air guns and such that make this thing quicker. Also, I did the calculations on changing the oil myself and the oil changing places have come down to the point that they are the same price or less than doing it myself.

On a side note, knowing about cars lets me review their work and know if they are trying to trick me into buying a service that I don’t need. That is something that can save you a lot of money.

Then I cleaned her car myself.

By the way, the bold part of my post came from DK’s earlier post. I just thought it deserved its own spotlight..

Professor

May 19th, 2009
1:02 pm

Before my schedule became so crazy I was at the range every Wednesday because all that was ladies night at the range and the lanes were free from 6-8pm. I still go from time to time, but I really need to get back on it.

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:05 pm

W8

Teaching the Mrs. has a downside too.:

One night I got out of class early (I am in law school) and I didn’t call saying that I was on my way. She wasn’t expecting someone to come in. I opened the door and there was a red dot on my chest. I started saying, “Its just me! Papi( her nickname for me)!” I said it really calmly…LOL

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
1:13 pm

My ex gf took my dog out for a walk one night after dog. Most of you know about my big boy Tysun. Anyway, they were gone for a while and i started worrying so i go running to the place we take them to let them run around. I get to the corner and they’re coming around and Tysun starts barking and stepping in front of her blocking her. Of course after that i’m the second most important dude in the house. Thing is ol girl was handling dude. She wasnt scared inthe least. Just held his leash and let it out slowly, just like i told her. LOL Luckily he realized who it was and all worked out well but i know she got a charge out of him doing his thing.

Every cat should have a gun, knife, old skillet and a pair of pliars. Never know whats needed to get the job done. And take the chick so she can not only fire but get comfortable with the gun. When she needs it she really has to know how to handle it.

W8, I’ve been noticing suspect convo out of some people I know. Talk of coming up on womens work and letting her do the work. Times are a changing. I’m like you, just an old chauvinist.

Tazz, yeah, the pink thingy is real important. LOL

Coded message. The pigeon will be flying the coop tomorrow. End of coded message.

Married until proven Single!

May 19th, 2009
1:13 pm

since i am against having a gun in my home because of the boys, what should i do when i meet a man who carries one in his car and keeps a couple in his home?

not dating him because of this is silly, correct? how do i get past this issue?

if i can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em?

-W8

May 19th, 2009
1:15 pm

Ladies if your man pee’s sitting down..you might have a problem..lol

@truth- I will definitely be around tomorrow

@PG- man when I was married I did something to cause my wife to wake me up in the middle of the night face to face..she told me “get the guns out of the house now”..now right then and there I had a decision to make…hmmm old miss ivy league by way of southside chi town convinced me not to say a damn thing…I just got up took all 5 weapons to the neighbors at 2am..lol..(Yeah big badass me ex-army ranger, fed…blah blah blah knew that she wasn’t playing…damn I miss her at times..lol)

Melo

May 19th, 2009
1:18 pm

The pigeon will be flying the coop tomorrow

That means u phuccking an arab-muslim chic tmrw!!
U need to use code whilst over there inorder to survive.U cant be phuccking a muslim woman when ure an infidel. :lol: They will stone u alive.
Be careful Truth, altho I envy u. :grin:

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
1:20 pm

Are we still on topic?

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:22 pm

W8

Sometimes, you get the message really quickly.

I just tell my wife to RESPECT the power of the gun, but don’t FEAR it. Don’t be careless with it. It isn’t a toy.

We also have some friends who graduated from West Point who have all types of guns and they teach us some things about different guns. One of the guys has a six foot tall gun safe in his “man lair” a/k/a basement. That basement looks like a gun museum along with her saber from the Army Academy.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
1:24 pm

I’ve taught my wife gun safety. We go to gun ranges regularly.

PG – On one of earliers dates, new boo asked “when is the last time you shot a gun?” I went :shock: and said “never!” (CA bleeding liberal side of me). So looks like we are going to go. LOL

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:28 pm

AR

You didn’t get a gun in your welcome to GA kit when you moved here!! Sonny lied!!

WE give out guns with bottle waters down here.

My wife was surprised when she saw my grandma pull a pearl handle .38 out of her purse. My other grandma has a shotgun by the bed.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
1:29 pm

We’ve even done skeet shooting. There is a range for that in the Camp Creek area and it is part of Fulton County Parks and Recreation. Fulton residents get a discount.

I’m so doing that! I used to love the game Duck Hunt! :lol:

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
1:30 pm

I want a gun. Do they make them with red handles. I want one with a red handle Tazzee

W8

May 19th, 2009
1:30 pm

@Kym- Are we ever?..lol

@Truth- Yup, I like my male chavunistic ways..but im balanced with it..i think..lol

@PG-I love the range, just picked up a fully automatic shotgun(work allows me to have it)..i got kicked off of the range with it..lmao

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
1:31 pm

@PoppaG my son wants to go skeet shooting. I saw they train kids as young as 6 on skeet shooting.

W8

May 19th, 2009
1:34 pm

@kym- probably so..my daughter has a pink .22 semi automatic hunting rifle..she can hit a rabbit 50 yards out with deflection..

**ok back on topic**lol

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
1:35 pm

W8, you an ex ranger? Ever hit Savannah?

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:36 pm

Kym

Yeah, they have kid classes. There is a classroom portion before you even go out to the range. They do this for adults as well.

You can rent the gun there (skeet shooting range), but you have to buy the ammo.

W8

May 19th, 2009
1:37 pm

@Truth- we hit hunter field over there but I was stationed in 3rd Bn at Fort Benning

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
1:38 pm

Hmmm maybe that can be one of our summer outings. Skeet shooting class. Why not..hell.

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:38 pm

AR

It is probably in your backyard. It was only about 5 minutes from the Walgreens on Camp Creek. You can see the buildboard on 285 southbound (from Cascade Road to Camp Creek) right before the exit.

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
1:39 pm

W8 – I don’t mind a male chauvanist that much as long as he can back it up – and be balanced with it!LOL!! A lotta weak dudes talk a good game. The few dudes I’ve known that feel they have to beat their chests and say they’re the man and they run things – I told them by all means do it. They scurried away in their little holes.

Truth – In my opinion, a real man can’t have his “manhood” taken away! What is that – how do you “take away” what should be natural or at least inbred? I never understood that.

Luckily I’ve got a boo that does not ask permission to what he do!

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:40 pm

Kym

It is pretty fun. Of course, it is hot because the skeet shooting is outside, but you are a nature chick so you can handle it. There is just a lot of concrete out there, so you know concrete holds heat.

They furnish goggles (eye protection) as well.

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
1:42 pm

That’s what I get for trying to be cute with the words – My boo does not ask permission to do what he does – be the man.

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
1:42 pm

ya’ll talking firearms now?

I respect.

Shot a 9mm with the ex. I have been very respectful of guns since. He had me to keep it several times. When i drove those nice cars of his, he told me never be to slow to retrieve and use it. (all the coaching wasn’t neccesary). NEVER HAD TO USE ONE. God knows i did not wasn to.

Anytime i went driving around city and the top was down on that car, expecially at Stop signs, and exit ramps i’d make sure my hands would be down low ready to grab the handle. All these woods and off roads we have in GA. you need something to keep these crazies away.

anyway…..lunch was good.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
1:43 pm

You didn’t get a gun in your welcome to GA kit when you moved here!! Sonny lied!!

PG – I got it. But the liberal in me threw it in the Chattahoochie! :lol:

That skeet shooting place really is in my backyard. I’m not far from there at all…Thanks for the tip.

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
1:44 pm

PoopaG -Are you talking about Wolf Creek Park, shooting range?

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
1:49 pm

Truth – By the way, I’m an orange belt senior now. The test Saturday was easy.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
1:50 pm

Today we’re talking about cats that are coming up short and require a nice douche after lovemaking.

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
1:51 pm

Ared, it really is in your backyard. When i was over there the other night i heard some shooting going on. Did i really say that out loud? Btw, you got mail.

Kimmie, im so glad you never took my manhood. Give me ol boys addie again so i can make him an offer he cant refuse. I gotta get him outta the way so we can get hitched again. I misses yous.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
1:51 pm

W8,Poppa, hunting small game..deer,buck etc with dogs is more fun than hunting with guns.
Big game hunting,elephants,buffalo,lions etc thats when I need a gun.When u come face to face with a lion in the wild,u can literally urinate be4 its time if u not strong.Ur muscles will just give way. :lol:

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:52 pm

Cee

Are you talking about Wolf Creek Park, shooting range?

Yep, but it is now called Tom Lowe shooting grounds. It is on Merck Road.

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
1:56 pm

Melo

I’ve never been a big hunter. I have shot a few deer, but that was because they were digging up my grandparents sweet potatoes and eating the collards in the garden.

I killed chickens by hand, not gun. Pop their necks.

We did use guns when it was time to slaughter hogs, though. Shot them in the head before putting them in a barrel of hot water to get the hair off.

My grandparents lived in the country. In the shadows of Pine Mountain (Callaway Gardens).

Raqi...31 Days to ML

May 19th, 2009
1:56 pm

WOW is that the Infamous DK that I see?

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
2:00 pm

@ PoopaG You know as a Atlanta head i can’t seem to get new names in my head until i have to give specifics.

Tom Lowe and Tom Lowe Hwy are both new names to the area. It was Wold Creek Gun Club back a few years…

THE INFAMOUS DK

May 19th, 2009
2:00 pm

Raqi – Yes by golly it is the Artist formerly known as The Filthy Villianous DK

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
2:03 pm

Truth – I thought we were still hitched! You told me you had highjacked the paperwork on the divorce! Here I am walking around thinking we were still married! NOW I find out the TRUTH!!

I guess I misses yous too!!LOL!!

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
2:07 pm

@ Cee The beginner classes start at 10:30 on Saturday morning and there is a league. You got a pistol there Ms. Cee?

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
2:09 pm

Cee

I know. ATL is good for changing names on folks.

I still give some people directions as if Lowery was still Ashby, Hollowell was still Bankhead, or Boone was still Simpson. Some of my aunts remember things by the old names. I tried giving the new names and they got lost. Give them the old name and they got right to my house.

W8

May 19th, 2009
2:12 pm

@PG/Melo- you two should come out boar hunting with my family..you have a knife a throat dog and 2 leg dogs..you send the throat dog in then the 2 others..then you jump on the boars back and stab the life out of him…good eating

@PG- ever have the first shot miss the hogs head or just graze him…boy do they get pissed off

Raqi...31 Days to ML

May 19th, 2009
2:13 pm

Infamous DK how has life been treating you? How is the little man doing?

W8

May 19th, 2009
2:15 pm

See now that would be a gathering I would love to be a part of..all of us at the shooting range..although Ce kinda freaks me out with a gun..lol

Kimmie- How are you..you Dawg!!

Melo

May 19th, 2009
2:17 pm

Big game hunting is scary and fun if u are in the company of knowldgeable hunters.So much adreanalin rush.
When u hunt elephants for example,u got to be very careful coz they are such cerebral animals.U dont wanna pick a fight with them and stick around,esp after u have downed one of their own.
With lions, u cant let ur guard down.They are the premier hunters.When in the wild,they go undercover and pretend to have gone away unless u keeping track of them.They want to strike at u when u least suspect,when u guard is down.And when they hungry,u got a whole another problem on ur hands.
Wild Buffalo are dangerous but more fun to hunt.But when u shoot one,u better be accurate coz they come after u and gore u if u miss!
Wilderbeast,deer and buck….now that u can hunt in the company of females: :lol:

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
2:19 pm

@W8 It is a sure bet someone will take a bullet to the azz out of this group just on gp.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 19th, 2009
2:20 pm

Kym – I don’t know about red handles, I’d prefer a red handle over a pink one but I’ve seen pink. I just want to make my gun a little more fem…

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
2:25 pm

Kym Watch out there now…I’m “protected” under the law! lol…hahah :grin:

PoopaG – Your aunts think like the old layout of the city. I get caught in that too. Just take a lil adjusting to the re-names.

- Metropolitain Ave., is Stewart Ave.
- Veterans Memorial, is Bankhead
- Hollowell, is Bankehead too (which definitley confuse people)
- HIghtower, is Hamilton Holmes
- Hartsfield Airport, is Harsfield-Jackson Airport…

Let’s not start with the renaming of downtown landmarks.
- James P. Brawley, is The Bluff
- Andrew Young, is International Blvd.
- Briarcliff, is Williams Rd.
- Capitol Ave, is McDonough Blvd.
-

The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
2:26 pm

The Truth now erasing the previous post to Kimmie and acting like he never wrote it. What you talking about Kimmie? Dam girl you be tripping. We’ll always be together.

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
2:26 pm

W8 – Dawg-buddy-inna-suit, I am just fine. Trying to get some of this work off my desk so I can enjoy the holiday weekend. I have a little side cake-baking business and I have 3 orders to fill this week.

I see you’re a little stressed with work stuff. Don’t get addicted to coffee like me!

According to my SO’s kids, I threw down this weekend. The boy, 8, planned the menu – mashed potatoes from scratch, meatloaf, green beans and cornbread. I threw in some brownies and my special lemonade punch. He, his little sister(6) and SO loved it! My SO said the kids asked for leftovers for breakfast yesterday! That’s a major compliment coming from those kids because they are picky eaters. Made me feel good though!

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
2:31 pm

Truth – Dang, you got me TWISTED!!LOL!!

Sister Cee- I’m really gonna go back on ya – ML King is Hunter Street. I know cause my daddy’s old office was over by the old Paschals, Bronner Bros and Sellers. Decades after they changed the name he would still occasionally get mail with Hunter Street on it that the PO forwarded!

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
2:35 pm

Cee

Your aunts think like the old layout of the city.

Yeah, what we call MLK, they call Hunter Street. (After all, that old church by Publix was Ralph Abernathy’s Hunter Street Baptist back in the day before they moved)

W8

May 19th, 2009
2:38 pm

@Melo- I’ve never been big game hunting..i dont hunt what i dont eat though

@Kym-lol@someone getting shot in the azz..by the way where is Demi today..lol

@Ce- what do you know about The Bluffs, techwood…hmm let me take you way back in the history of college park..remember the “Stray Cats” and “Down by law”..do you remember “Dose” spray painting everything..lol

@Kimmie- GO Dawgs!!

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
2:38 pm

@Kimmie you beat me too it. That’s where I grew up. My granny lived off of Hunter Street(right near Paschal Bros).

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
2:41 pm

Kimmie and Tazzee – Neither of you guys have kids right? But your s/o do? How is that experience? Were you opposed to dating men with kids before?

Kimmie – I’m glad the kiddies liked dinner!

Foots

May 19th, 2009
2:43 pm

W8 Wow@ some of these comments…how do you invite/allow this stuff into some of your lives?

man when I was married I did something to cause my wife to wake me up in the middle of the night face to face..

Just catching up on comments. So what did you invite into your wife’s life to make her encourage you to remove the guns from the house? Inquiring/nosy minds want to know!

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
2:51 pm

LMAO @ Foots. Yes W8…tell us a story. :lol:

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
2:51 pm

W8

ever have the first shot miss the hogs head or just graze him…boy do they get pissed off

They sure do….but then again, wouldn’t you be pissed, too?

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
2:52 pm

PoopaG and Kimmie One of my Spiritual mother’s live over in Hunter’s Run Subdivision so you know she still calls that area Hunter’s Street. That neighborhood has alot of good history. I remember having my first marching parade over there.

remember the “Stray Cats” and “Down by law”..do you remember “Dose” spray painting everything”

W8 Yes i remember. What you know about that Down by Law? oooooohh..and you’r Law Enforcement!!!

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 19th, 2009
2:53 pm

AmRed – I gave up dating a man without kids about 5 years ago. Then 2 years ago when I realized that it wasn’t just a phase – I really don’t want kids, I actually wanted to date a guy with kids. With my current, his kids are 13 and up, so they pretty much have their own lives. The 13 year old is the one that has latched onto me, but the others don’t pay me no mind.

I always prayed for a man with a child at least 13…the legal age you can leave them home alone

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 19th, 2009
2:55 pm

should read ‘gave up on’

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
2:57 pm

Amred – I dated guys in the past that had kids. Only one had baby mamma drama, but that did not last long because I let her have him back – she was welcome to him. He liked the drama and there was unfinished business. Other than that, it’s never been an issue. Those that had kids were not deadbeat dads. That is a dealbreaker with me. Also, dudes with bad, spoiled kids – that’s a dealbreaker too. A good friend of mine is dealing with that. Her boyfriend has 2 that are spoiled, unruly and the oldest(9) is just plain mean. On top of that the bf lets them run all over him and their mother is not much better. I don’t see how she deals with it.

As I got older, I started kinda wanting guys that had kids. In case I cannot have any, I did not want anyone feeling I made them miss out on something.

As you know, my SO is a widower. His family has greeted me with open arms and said his late wife would want someone in the kids lives like me. His kids are well-behaved and an absolute joy.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
2:57 pm

i dont hunt what i dont eat though

U dont have big money yet bwa!! :grin: Big guys pay Big money to do trophy hunting,u know that, do u?.Just for sport and the trophy of a lion/elephant/buffalo head in ur living room.And the meat goes to the locales.
We talking about sme other people existence.Watch cnbc/bizz on weekends and u see how they living….

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
2:58 pm

Thanks Kimmie and Tazzee, I was just being nosy curious. :lol:

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
3:01 pm

Cee

PoopaG

Poopa????? :shock: :grin:

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
3:04 pm

Amred – No problem. Ironically, on 104.1 they have this little relationship show on late Sunday nights, and dating with kids/blended families was the topic this past Sunday.

Foots

May 19th, 2009
3:05 pm

Amazon I mean, I’ve had some issues with guys, but not once have I ever been so PO’d that I had to warn the guy to get rid of his guns. There has GOT to be an interesting story there along the lines of A Thin Line Between Love and Hate!

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
3:08 pm

Sowwy PoppaG…:Lol:

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
3:10 pm

Sister Cee – Speaking of Down by Law – my mother believed that everyone’s wardrobe should include a khaki trenchcoat or “all-weather” coat as she used to call it. One of my cousins was having a dinner at her house and it was kinda rainy that day. My parents, me & my younger 2 brothers all had on our trenchcoats that day. One of my older brothers was already at my cousins house. When we all walked in with our trenchcoats on, he said “Dang, what are yall, Down by Law or something?”. We all cracked up!

Lord Velonese

May 19th, 2009
3:10 pm

Wait a minute, I thought women fought for there equal rights. Doesn’t that mean defending yourself? Contradiction anyone?

Sexyleggs wrote: “A woman should not be dependent on the protection of a man, but should rest on her own”

Agreed, signed, sealed, in blood.
I know plenty of women who can kick men’s back side. What the problem is?

-W8

May 19th, 2009
3:10 pm

@Foots/Ared- I don’t know that was way back in 1996 I wasn’t bout a damn thing back then

@Ce- skills of a mispent youth..lol..I went to and lived right behind Lakeshore HS

@Melo- I just don’t kill what I don’t eat..its my way.unless its work..besides I hunt people who shoot back animals dont

For Real

May 19th, 2009
3:10 pm

What up Blog Fam!! Count me as one of the Chauvinist. There are just some things a woman can’t do in my present. Even if she ain’t my lady but that goes back to my paw-paw saying about a man. Oh and that goes for kids too. For Real has the quickest belt from waist to azz time in the history of the world. The World Craig!!

Truth: You right about society fugging up the “man thang” but it ain’t easy being man because everything we do is either illegal or not PC. I don’t know about you but sometimes I have a strong urge to get into a fight and it not because someone did something to me. I think that’s why the movie Fight Club was such a big hit. But now you can’t even get into a fight without it having to be his last one.

For Real now scratching his ballz for the cause.

Foots

May 19th, 2009
3:13 pm

W8 I don’t know that was way back in 1996 I wasn’t bout a damn thing back then

Maybe that will help you understand why your little brother isn’t on the straight and narrow. He’s just doing what you did growing up.

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
3:17 pm

Kimmie Walking around in Trenches i would have thought you guys where some wannabes too. That’s funny.

Tazzee “13- The legal age to leave them home alone?” I can dig that. AND at 13 they have already passed some stages that wouldn’t be as clingy as a lil bitty kid.

speaking of…Did you hear about the 66 year old lady that recenly found out she was pregnant?

Willie Dynamite

May 19th, 2009
3:28 pm

afternoon all,

I’m down right allergic to some of this talk. Its easy to blame Men for this because for the most part it’s their fault. On the flip side Women do the choosing. So if you chose a triflin azz dude then its on you.

As for me I am somewhat chauvinistic in my ways. I however am not CaveMan with it. I also dont have a CAPE on going around saving em (NEVER DID). A long time ago I learned that I Need a woman to Want me but I don’t Want one that Needs me.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
3:30 pm

I really want to duck into one of the empty offices and take a little nap. I’ve got the itis for real!

Mo (aka Moeisha- in such a Funk)

May 19th, 2009
3:32 pm

Afteroon all! I see the topic is guns today……well alrighty then. I have always wanted to learn to shot but never could get anyone to go with (I prefer someone go with me the first time). :sad:

Totally off topic: is there anyone here that has been on a hot air balloon ride??

For Real

May 19th, 2009
3:33 pm

Tazzee: You wrong for wanting a pink handle for your gun. You gon fugg up dudes chances of getting into hell.

The Devil is now LHAO after learning that W8 was killed by a girl with a pink handle on her gun.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
3:34 pm

Amred – No problem. Ironically, on 104.1 they have this little relationship show on late Sunday nights, and dating with kids/blended families was the topic this past Sunday.

Kimmie – I think the Lord knows which folks have the temperment to deal with blending families and such, especially if you don’t have kids prior. I’m still one of the few women that can claim I find the few men in the world without kids past 30. Everyone keeps telling me that I need to get used to the idea, but I’m still not attracting them…for got reason I guess!

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
3:35 pm

is there anyone here that has been on a hot air balloon ride??

Mo – Closest I came to that was the Gasp at 6 Flags!LOL!! I am terrified of heights, though, so no hot air balloons for me! I can deal with a plane because it’s closed in, but that’s it. Might be a great experience though!

For Real

May 19th, 2009
3:35 pm

For Real now handing Mo a noisy cricket.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
3:39 pm

one of the empty offices and take a little nap

Did anything rompy and fun last nite Ared? :grin:

-W8©

May 19th, 2009
3:39 pm

@Foots- No I was married to young and for the wrong reason and just doing what I wanted to do back then with no respect for my wife..thank goodness for learning from my experiences. My brother on the other hand is in the streets dealing in and out of jail etc..My father is immobile now and my youngest brother is taking full advantage of that…but thats another story

Mo (aka Moeisha- in such a Funk)

May 19th, 2009
3:40 pm

For Real – dont make me bust ya knee caps out, ‘k?? :mad: And take Jiminy Cricket back to wherever you got him!

Kimmie – I am afraid of heights as well but I want to do a hot air balloon ride (dont ask me why). I just thought maybe someone here had done it

Willie Dynamite

May 19th, 2009
3:41 pm

Off Topic-

Did anyone see the Michael Irvin Reality show last night? If so what did you think of it?

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
3:44 pm

Did anything rompy and fun last nite Ared?

How did you get that from me saying I have the itis???

:shock: What do you know, melo?! :oops:

:lol:

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
3:48 pm

Amred – I understand that. You know what your limits are and the Lord does too. I was 31 when I dated the 1st one with kids. I had planned things differently for myself – wanting husband & kids of my own, and in that order. God had other plans for me! All the stars must be lined up right for me to deal with it, though. I won’t deal with deadbeats, drama and kids who are not being raised properly. That’s not how I was brought up and I’m not walking into a crazy situation.

I also truly, truly LOVE kids! They seem to sense that and are attrached to me like bees to honey! It’s a sight to see. I met these 2 girls that come to an earlier martial arts class, about 9 & 11 yrs old. They just started chatting when I got there early last week. They came up and hugged me at the belt testing on Sat. I have always looked younger than my age and my aunt says kids think I’m still a kid.LOL!!

My SO’s kids are 6 & 8. Fun ages!

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
3:50 pm

It is a beautiful day outside.. My My :)

The last guy I dated LOVED guns! He would sleep with his gun on his nightstand unloaded but with the loaded clip right next to it.. Problem was, he was a sleep walker, night terror person and spending the night with him was very nerve racking for me cause you never know..

Melo

May 19th, 2009
3:53 pm

How did you get that from me saying I have the itis???

Oh shoot Ared!!Blame it on my itchy squind left eye.As i finished reading that itis bit, my eye started to itch and i was scratching but all i had in my mind was a ryhmy wrd and unfortuantely it sounded and ryhmed with one of the my mental default wrds in ma menatal vocab.
For a moment, i was happy for u thinking u got urs. :lol: I cant wait for the day when u come on the blog and tell Truth in hiz face that smebody scored Big previous nite.Whats itis anyway??

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
3:56 pm

Melo- WTH? Goodness..

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
4:00 pm

I cant wait for the day when u come on the blog and tell Truth in hiz face that smebody scored Big previous nite.

melo –

That’s not going to happen anyway! If I’m getting mine, I don’t feel the need to announce such a tidbit. So there. :P

Melo

May 19th, 2009
4:04 pm

Melo- WTH? Goodness

Cuttie, im sorry babe if I prompted a flashback.Ur previous guy was a loser but i hope the dry spell wont last! :lol:

Ared,cool.I think i will just tell by the vibe or non thereof that Truth will be getting.

Unknown Blog Not For Real

May 19th, 2009
4:05 pm

I can’t hold my peace about the piece I got last night. I stuck my stankin leg in Ared last nite.

Whew!! I feel soooooo much better.

Should I tell Mo that’s not my knee or keep quite for 4.8 more second…. ooops nevermind

-W8©

May 19th, 2009
4:07 pm

Later good people everyone is where they are supposed to be…been a longnight/day..hitting the gym then heading home to go to bed..cya tomorrow..

Strawberries and triangles!!!!!!!!!!!..lol

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
4:08 pm

I can’t hold my peace about the piece I got last night. I stuck my stankin leg in Ared last nite.

Whew!! I feel soooooo much better.

:lol: You experienced the joy and sunshine.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
4:09 pm

Strawberries and triangles!!!!!!!!!!!..lol

Triangles huh? You must like Deltas :lol:

Game 1 tonite W8…It’s going down! :twisted:

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
4:09 pm

Melo- You are a MESS & you not lying! LMAO @ the dry spell.. It DEFINITELY won’t last long.. TRUST ;)

Have a wonderful evening All :)

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
4:09 pm

Lioness, you and your man broke up?

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
4:10 pm

Ared- Hit me on the email..

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
4:11 pm

For Real

May 19th, 2009
4:11 pm

I’m watching the game at Crickets on Camp Creek. 1st round on me.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
4:16 pm

1st round on me.

U gotta be more clear on that 1st round bro.Are u talking beer or u saying ‘nothing for nothing’?

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
4:21 pm

Strawberries and triangles!!!!!!!!!!!..lol

Ared-I think he is talking about what he likes.. LOL! Just an educated guess **shrugging shoulders**

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
4:22 pm

Lioness – I’m pretty sure you’re right!

Melo

May 19th, 2009
4:26 pm

Cuttie,good nite.Whenever u feel angst,think Irrigation.Imagine u in the garden holding a hosepipe,watering the rose flowers.
That shld help some.

Good nite all.

Foots

May 19th, 2009
4:27 pm

W8 For the most part, we are ALL still learning and growing from our experiences. That’s why a lot of these ladies experience sorry dudes, then get the hellz on.

It surprises me though that you were wowed by the ladies telling stories of no-count dudes when you were on that same path yourself a while back. It’s good that you’ve learned how to be a better man for your next wife.

Have fun at the gym. I may have to walk the treadmill a little myself today…

Foots

May 19th, 2009
4:30 pm

Beautiful What does Married until proven Single mean? That was you, right?

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
4:34 pm

Foots – Maybe she means she assumes every man she meets is married until he proves he’s single.?

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
4:36 pm

Foots- WOW if it was her.. Never heard that BS before..

Melo- Thanks but no thanks..

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
4:36 pm

Maybe we can all bash our heads against the wall and it will make more sense. :lol: Consider the source ladies! lol

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
4:36 pm

Kimmie- Good call.. If that is the case, good for Angie!! Smart girl :)

Demi

May 19th, 2009
4:38 pm

Infamous DK…Sup Bruh!!

W8…I still have a bullet in my upper back…I dang near died on the way to the hospital…I don’t joke about getting shot…oh long story short…some dude got p1ss over his stolen puddy, LOL

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
4:43 pm

Foots

May 19th, 2009
4:46 pm

kimmie Oh, maybe you’re right, but I thought that our monikers were our names for ourselves, so I thought she was calling herself that.

In that case…

Amazon You’re definitely right! :lol:

Melo

May 19th, 2009
4:48 pm

some dude got p1ss over his stolen puddy, LOL

next time u do that again Demi,make u sure u take the pudsy with u and run…spite the nikker :lol:

Demi

May 19th, 2009
4:48 pm

Lion…no biggie, bey. I was a different person then. You live and you learn.

Demi

May 19th, 2009
4:53 pm

Melo…dude, here is the worse part…I didn’t steal dude’s puddy (who was his money maka)…my boy did and made her work the streets for him…me I just use to help organize strippa party across the southeast.

Demi

May 19th, 2009
4:54 pm

How Dude gon up’n'out shoot-up my car…that was some Bullish!!!

Alvin

May 19th, 2009
4:57 pm

I made a lot of money in those day…but too dumb to know what to do with it.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
4:58 pm

So u took the fall Demi?? Dude came back and sees chic but on prying open,no pudsy! what :shock: :evil:

Dude is like Kimm,where is our pudsy? :shock: :evil:
Looks around and Demi is climbing atop wall..it was on..

Neva do bizz with pimps Demi,direct or otherwise,Big lesson.

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
5:02 pm

Time to go….Ooooh, it’s time to go….

I have to agree with the stated “we are ALL still learning and growing from our experiences”. After my “fumble” (that would be my ex) I learned and realized he is who he is. But for the most part WE do the choosing of who/when/where we fumble. So if you chose (past tense) a trifling man, (like myself) allow that dosage of “I choose a trife” = “big girl pill” cure you such of viruses.

Let’s pick up this one manna.

goodnight.

Alvin

May 19th, 2009
5:03 pm

Melo…LOL, want it seem like.

I now understand how far a person is willing to over puddy.

I am no longer in the game…I am now earning honest pay.

Alvin

May 19th, 2009
5:04 pm

Cemeeli…but you have not been in a relationship in years…am I missing something?

Alvin

May 19th, 2009
5:05 pm

For Real

May 19th, 2009
5:07 pm

Cem: Are you quitn me on the blog? Baby please, baby, baby, baby please

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
5:09 pm

Alvin :lol: Thanks. That’s my point exactly!!!

I wouldn’t go for the trifling man now, at all! Lesson learned.

Alvin

May 19th, 2009
5:09 pm

I am trying to see when this camp will close