Protect Me
In his book Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady, Steve Harvey offered some great insight about men and protection:
Encoded in the DNA of the male species is that we are to be the provider and the protector of the family, and everything we do is geared toward ensuring we can make this happen.
This is really interesting to me because I don’t know if men realize how much it impresses a woman when a man seeks to protect her. I am not talking about simple chivalry, here. What I am referring to is that innate sense of protectiveness that men in love have about their women.
How do men show they are willing to protect their women? I think it can be found in subtle ways such as showing concern if she made it home safely. Checking her car for potential issues that may pose a threat. Then the not so subtle ways such as defending her honor, addressing anyone who dares to disrespect her in his presence.
I was sent an interesting quote from our friend “Sexyleggs”:
“A woman should not be dependent on the protection of a man, but should rest on her own”
I suppose this can be interpreted in many ways, but what are your thoughts about the quote?
Guys, what do you really think about protection? Is it difficult to provide this when you are in a relationship? At what point do you feel the urge to become protective of someone you are dating? Do women ever perceive it as overbearing?
If a guy does not show protective gestures toward the woman he is dating, does that mean he doesn’t care for her at all?
Ladies, do you feel comfortable with having a man protect you, in dating? Do you feel taken care of and cared for? Is there a line that crosses into overbearing for you?
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Melo
May 19th, 2009
3:53 pm
How did you get that from me saying I have the itis???
Oh shoot Ared!!Blame it on my itchy squind left eye.As i finished reading that itis bit, my eye started to itch and i was scratching but all i had in my mind was a ryhmy wrd and unfortuantely it sounded and ryhmed with one of the my mental default wrds in ma menatal vocab.
I cant wait for the day when u come on the blog and tell Truth in hiz face that smebody scored Big previous nite.Whats itis anyway??
For a moment, i was happy for u thinking u got urs.
LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White
May 19th, 2009
3:56 pm
Melo- WTH? Goodness..
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
4:00 pm
I cant wait for the day when u come on the blog and tell Truth in hiz face that smebody scored Big previous nite.
melo –
That’s not going to happen anyway! If I’m getting mine, I don’t feel the need to announce such a tidbit. So there.
Melo
May 19th, 2009
4:04 pm
Melo- WTH? Goodness
Cuttie, im sorry babe if I prompted a flashback.Ur previous guy was a loser but i hope the dry spell wont last!
Ared,cool.I think i will just tell by the vibe or non thereof that Truth will be getting.
Unknown Blog Not For Real
May 19th, 2009
4:05 pm
I can’t hold my peace about the piece I got last night. I stuck my stankin leg in Ared last nite.
Whew!! I feel soooooo much better.
Should I tell Mo that’s not my knee or keep quite for 4.8 more second…. ooops nevermind
-W8©
May 19th, 2009
4:07 pm
Later good people everyone is where they are supposed to be…been a longnight/day..hitting the gym then heading home to go to bed..cya tomorrow..
Strawberries and triangles!!!!!!!!!!!..lol
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
4:08 pm
I can’t hold my peace about the piece I got last night. I stuck my stankin leg in Ared last nite.
Whew!! I feel soooooo much better.
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
4:09 pm
Strawberries and triangles!!!!!!!!!!!..lol
Triangles huh? You must like Deltas
Game 1 tonite W8…It’s going down!
LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White
May 19th, 2009
4:09 pm
Melo- You are a MESS & you not lying! LMAO @ the dry spell.. It DEFINITELY won’t last long.. TRUST
Have a wonderful evening All
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
4:09 pm
Lioness, you and your man broke up?
LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White
May 19th, 2009
4:10 pm
Ared- Hit me on the email..
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
4:11 pm
OK!
For Real
May 19th, 2009
4:11 pm
I’m watching the game at Crickets on Camp Creek. 1st round on me.
Melo
May 19th, 2009
4:16 pm
1st round on me.
U gotta be more clear on that 1st round bro.Are u talking beer or u saying ‘nothing for nothing’?
LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White
May 19th, 2009
4:21 pm
Strawberries and triangles!!!!!!!!!!!..lol
Ared-I think he is talking about what he likes.. LOL! Just an educated guess **shrugging shoulders**
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
4:22 pm
Lioness – I’m pretty sure you’re right!
Melo
May 19th, 2009
4:26 pm
Cuttie,good nite.Whenever u feel angst,think Irrigation.Imagine u in the garden holding a hosepipe,watering the rose flowers.
That shld help some.
Good nite all.
Foots
May 19th, 2009
4:27 pm
W8 For the most part, we are ALL still learning and growing from our experiences. That’s why a lot of these ladies experience sorry dudes, then get the hellz on.
It surprises me though that you were wowed by the ladies telling stories of no-count dudes when you were on that same path yourself a while back. It’s good that you’ve learned how to be a better man for your next wife.
Have fun at the gym. I may have to walk the treadmill a little myself today…
Foots
May 19th, 2009
4:30 pm
Beautiful What does Married until proven Single mean? That was you, right?
kimmie
May 19th, 2009
4:34 pm
Foots – Maybe she means she assumes every man she meets is married until he proves he’s single.?
LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White
May 19th, 2009
4:36 pm
Foots- WOW if it was her.. Never heard that BS before..
Melo- Thanks but no thanks..
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
4:36 pm
Maybe we can all bash our heads against the wall and it will make more sense.
Consider the source ladies! lol
LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White
May 19th, 2009
4:36 pm
Kimmie- Good call.. If that is the case, good for Angie!! Smart girl
Demi
May 19th, 2009
4:38 pm
Infamous DK…Sup Bruh!!
W8…I still have a bullet in my upper back…I dang near died on the way to the hospital…I don’t joke about getting shot…oh long story short…some dude got p1ss over his stolen puddy, LOL
LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White
May 19th, 2009
4:43 pm
Demi- WOW!
Foots
May 19th, 2009
4:46 pm
kimmie Oh, maybe you’re right, but I thought that our monikers were our names for ourselves, so I thought she was calling herself that.
In that case…
Amazon You’re definitely right!
Melo
May 19th, 2009
4:48 pm
some dude got p1ss over his stolen puddy, LOL
next time u do that again Demi,make u sure u take the pudsy with u and run…spite the nikker
Demi
May 19th, 2009
4:48 pm
Lion…no biggie, bey. I was a different person then. You live and you learn.
Demi
May 19th, 2009
4:53 pm
Melo…dude, here is the worse part…I didn’t steal dude’s puddy (who was his money maka)…my boy did and made her work the streets for him…me I just use to help organize strippa party across the southeast.
Demi
May 19th, 2009
4:54 pm
How Dude gon up’n'out shoot-up my car…that was some Bullish!!!
Alvin
May 19th, 2009
4:57 pm
I made a lot of money in those day…but too dumb to know what to do with it.
Melo
May 19th, 2009
4:58 pm
So u took the fall Demi?? Dude came back and sees chic but on prying open,no pudsy! what
Dude is like Kimm,where is our pudsy?
Looks around and Demi is climbing atop wall..it was on..
Neva do bizz with pimps Demi,direct or otherwise,Big lesson.
Cemeeli
May 19th, 2009
5:02 pm
Time to go….Ooooh, it’s time to go….
I have to agree with the stated “we are ALL still learning and growing from our experiences”. After my “fumble” (that would be my ex) I learned and realized he is who he is. But for the most part WE do the choosing of who/when/where we fumble. So if you chose (past tense) a trifling man, (like myself) allow that dosage of “I choose a trife” = “big girl pill” cure you such of viruses.
Let’s pick up this one manna.
goodnight.
Alvin
May 19th, 2009
5:03 pm
Melo…LOL, want it seem like.
I now understand how far a person is willing to over puddy.
I am no longer in the game…I am now earning honest pay.
Alvin
May 19th, 2009
5:04 pm
Cemeeli…but you have not been in a relationship in years…am I missing something?
Alvin
May 19th, 2009
5:05 pm
>>>what
For Real
May 19th, 2009
5:07 pm
Cem: Are you quitn me on the blog? Baby please, baby, baby, baby please
Cemeeli
May 19th, 2009
5:09 pm
Alvin
Thanks. That’s my point exactly!!!
I wouldn’t go for the trifling man now, at all! Lesson learned.
Alvin
May 19th, 2009
5:09 pm
I am trying to see when this camp will close