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City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

Protect Me

In his book Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady, Steve Harvey offered some great insight about men and protection:

Encoded in the DNA of the male species is that we are to be the provider and the protector of the family, and everything we do is geared toward ensuring we can make this happen.

This is really interesting to me because I don’t know if men realize how much it impresses a woman when a man seeks to protect her. I am not talking about simple chivalry, here. What I am referring to is that innate sense of protectiveness that men in love have about their women.
How do men show they are willing to protect their women? I think it can be found in subtle ways such as showing concern if she made it home safely. Checking her car for potential issues that may pose a threat. Then the not so subtle ways such as defending her honor, addressing anyone who dares to disrespect her in his presence.
I was sent an interesting quote from our friend “Sexyleggs”:
“A woman should not be dependent on the protection of a man, but should rest on her own”
I suppose this can be interpreted in many ways, but what are your thoughts about the quote?
Guys, what do you really think about protection? Is it difficult to provide this when you are in a relationship? At what point do you feel the urge to become protective of someone you are dating? Do women ever perceive it as overbearing?
If a guy does not show protective gestures toward the woman he is dating, does that mean he doesn’t care for her at all?
Ladies, do you feel comfortable with having a man protect you, in dating? Do you feel taken care of and cared for? Is there a line that crosses into overbearing for you?

239 comments Add your comment

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
2:03 pm

Truth – I thought we were still hitched! You told me you had highjacked the paperwork on the divorce! Here I am walking around thinking we were still married! NOW I find out the TRUTH!!

I guess I misses yous too!!LOL!!

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
2:07 pm

@ Cee The beginner classes start at 10:30 on Saturday morning and there is a league. You got a pistol there Ms. Cee?

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
2:09 pm

Cee

I know. ATL is good for changing names on folks.

I still give some people directions as if Lowery was still Ashby, Hollowell was still Bankhead, or Boone was still Simpson. Some of my aunts remember things by the old names. I tried giving the new names and they got lost. Give them the old name and they got right to my house.

W8

May 19th, 2009
2:12 pm

@PG/Melo- you two should come out boar hunting with my family..you have a knife a throat dog and 2 leg dogs..you send the throat dog in then the 2 others..then you jump on the boars back and stab the life out of him…good eating

@PG- ever have the first shot miss the hogs head or just graze him…boy do they get pissed off

Raqi...31 Days to ML

May 19th, 2009
2:13 pm

Infamous DK how has life been treating you? How is the little man doing?

W8

May 19th, 2009
2:15 pm

See now that would be a gathering I would love to be a part of..all of us at the shooting range..although Ce kinda freaks me out with a gun..lol

Kimmie- How are you..you Dawg!!

Melo

May 19th, 2009
2:17 pm

Big game hunting is scary and fun if u are in the company of knowldgeable hunters.So much adreanalin rush.
When u hunt elephants for example,u got to be very careful coz they are such cerebral animals.U dont wanna pick a fight with them and stick around,esp after u have downed one of their own.
With lions, u cant let ur guard down.They are the premier hunters.When in the wild,they go undercover and pretend to have gone away unless u keeping track of them.They want to strike at u when u least suspect,when u guard is down.And when they hungry,u got a whole another problem on ur hands.
Wild Buffalo are dangerous but more fun to hunt.But when u shoot one,u better be accurate coz they come after u and gore u if u miss!
Wilderbeast,deer and buck….now that u can hunt in the company of females: :lol:

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
2:19 pm

@W8 It is a sure bet someone will take a bullet to the azz out of this group just on gp.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 19th, 2009
2:20 pm

Kym – I don’t know about red handles, I’d prefer a red handle over a pink one but I’ve seen pink. I just want to make my gun a little more fem…

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
2:25 pm

Kym Watch out there now…I’m “protected” under the law! lol…hahah :grin:

PoopaG – Your aunts think like the old layout of the city. I get caught in that too. Just take a lil adjusting to the re-names.

- Metropolitain Ave., is Stewart Ave.
- Veterans Memorial, is Bankhead
- Hollowell, is Bankehead too (which definitley confuse people)
- HIghtower, is Hamilton Holmes
- Hartsfield Airport, is Harsfield-Jackson Airport…

Let’s not start with the renaming of downtown landmarks.
- James P. Brawley, is The Bluff
- Andrew Young, is International Blvd.
- Briarcliff, is Williams Rd.
- Capitol Ave, is McDonough Blvd.
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The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging

May 19th, 2009
2:26 pm

The Truth now erasing the previous post to Kimmie and acting like he never wrote it. What you talking about Kimmie? Dam girl you be tripping. We’ll always be together.

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
2:26 pm

W8 – Dawg-buddy-inna-suit, I am just fine. Trying to get some of this work off my desk so I can enjoy the holiday weekend. I have a little side cake-baking business and I have 3 orders to fill this week.

I see you’re a little stressed with work stuff. Don’t get addicted to coffee like me!

According to my SO’s kids, I threw down this weekend. The boy, 8, planned the menu – mashed potatoes from scratch, meatloaf, green beans and cornbread. I threw in some brownies and my special lemonade punch. He, his little sister(6) and SO loved it! My SO said the kids asked for leftovers for breakfast yesterday! That’s a major compliment coming from those kids because they are picky eaters. Made me feel good though!

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
2:31 pm

Truth – Dang, you got me TWISTED!!LOL!!

Sister Cee- I’m really gonna go back on ya – ML King is Hunter Street. I know cause my daddy’s old office was over by the old Paschals, Bronner Bros and Sellers. Decades after they changed the name he would still occasionally get mail with Hunter Street on it that the PO forwarded!

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
2:35 pm

Cee

Your aunts think like the old layout of the city.

Yeah, what we call MLK, they call Hunter Street. (After all, that old church by Publix was Ralph Abernathy’s Hunter Street Baptist back in the day before they moved)

W8

May 19th, 2009
2:38 pm

@Melo- I’ve never been big game hunting..i dont hunt what i dont eat though

@Kym-lol@someone getting shot in the azz..by the way where is Demi today..lol

@Ce- what do you know about The Bluffs, techwood…hmm let me take you way back in the history of college park..remember the “Stray Cats” and “Down by law”..do you remember “Dose” spray painting everything..lol

@Kimmie- GO Dawgs!!

Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.

May 19th, 2009
2:38 pm

@Kimmie you beat me too it. That’s where I grew up. My granny lived off of Hunter Street(right near Paschal Bros).

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
2:41 pm

Kimmie and Tazzee – Neither of you guys have kids right? But your s/o do? How is that experience? Were you opposed to dating men with kids before?

Kimmie – I’m glad the kiddies liked dinner!

Foots

May 19th, 2009
2:43 pm

W8 Wow@ some of these comments…how do you invite/allow this stuff into some of your lives?

man when I was married I did something to cause my wife to wake me up in the middle of the night face to face..

Just catching up on comments. So what did you invite into your wife’s life to make her encourage you to remove the guns from the house? Inquiring/nosy minds want to know!

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
2:51 pm

LMAO @ Foots. Yes W8…tell us a story. :lol:

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
2:51 pm

W8

ever have the first shot miss the hogs head or just graze him…boy do they get pissed off

They sure do….but then again, wouldn’t you be pissed, too?

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
2:52 pm

PoopaG and Kimmie One of my Spiritual mother’s live over in Hunter’s Run Subdivision so you know she still calls that area Hunter’s Street. That neighborhood has alot of good history. I remember having my first marching parade over there.

remember the “Stray Cats” and “Down by law”..do you remember “Dose” spray painting everything”

W8 Yes i remember. What you know about that Down by Law? oooooohh..and you’r Law Enforcement!!!

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 19th, 2009
2:53 pm

AmRed – I gave up dating a man without kids about 5 years ago. Then 2 years ago when I realized that it wasn’t just a phase – I really don’t want kids, I actually wanted to date a guy with kids. With my current, his kids are 13 and up, so they pretty much have their own lives. The 13 year old is the one that has latched onto me, but the others don’t pay me no mind.

I always prayed for a man with a child at least 13…the legal age you can leave them home alone

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 19th, 2009
2:55 pm

should read ‘gave up on’

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
2:57 pm

Amred – I dated guys in the past that had kids. Only one had baby mamma drama, but that did not last long because I let her have him back – she was welcome to him. He liked the drama and there was unfinished business. Other than that, it’s never been an issue. Those that had kids were not deadbeat dads. That is a dealbreaker with me. Also, dudes with bad, spoiled kids – that’s a dealbreaker too. A good friend of mine is dealing with that. Her boyfriend has 2 that are spoiled, unruly and the oldest(9) is just plain mean. On top of that the bf lets them run all over him and their mother is not much better. I don’t see how she deals with it.

As I got older, I started kinda wanting guys that had kids. In case I cannot have any, I did not want anyone feeling I made them miss out on something.

As you know, my SO is a widower. His family has greeted me with open arms and said his late wife would want someone in the kids lives like me. His kids are well-behaved and an absolute joy.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
2:57 pm

i dont hunt what i dont eat though

U dont have big money yet bwa!! :grin: Big guys pay Big money to do trophy hunting,u know that, do u?.Just for sport and the trophy of a lion/elephant/buffalo head in ur living room.And the meat goes to the locales.
We talking about sme other people existence.Watch cnbc/bizz on weekends and u see how they living….

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
2:58 pm

Thanks Kimmie and Tazzee, I was just being nosy curious. :lol:

Poppa Grande

May 19th, 2009
3:01 pm

Cee

PoopaG

Poopa????? :shock: :grin:

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
3:04 pm

Amred – No problem. Ironically, on 104.1 they have this little relationship show on late Sunday nights, and dating with kids/blended families was the topic this past Sunday.

Foots

May 19th, 2009
3:05 pm

Amazon I mean, I’ve had some issues with guys, but not once have I ever been so PO’d that I had to warn the guy to get rid of his guns. There has GOT to be an interesting story there along the lines of A Thin Line Between Love and Hate!

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
3:08 pm

Sowwy PoppaG…:Lol:

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
3:10 pm

Sister Cee – Speaking of Down by Law – my mother believed that everyone’s wardrobe should include a khaki trenchcoat or “all-weather” coat as she used to call it. One of my cousins was having a dinner at her house and it was kinda rainy that day. My parents, me & my younger 2 brothers all had on our trenchcoats that day. One of my older brothers was already at my cousins house. When we all walked in with our trenchcoats on, he said “Dang, what are yall, Down by Law or something?”. We all cracked up!

Lord Velonese

May 19th, 2009
3:10 pm

Wait a minute, I thought women fought for there equal rights. Doesn’t that mean defending yourself? Contradiction anyone?

Sexyleggs wrote: “A woman should not be dependent on the protection of a man, but should rest on her own”

Agreed, signed, sealed, in blood.
I know plenty of women who can kick men’s back side. What the problem is?

-W8

May 19th, 2009
3:10 pm

@Foots/Ared- I don’t know that was way back in 1996 I wasn’t bout a damn thing back then

@Ce- skills of a mispent youth..lol..I went to and lived right behind Lakeshore HS

@Melo- I just don’t kill what I don’t eat..its my way.unless its work..besides I hunt people who shoot back animals dont

For Real

May 19th, 2009
3:10 pm

What up Blog Fam!! Count me as one of the Chauvinist. There are just some things a woman can’t do in my present. Even if she ain’t my lady but that goes back to my paw-paw saying about a man. Oh and that goes for kids too. For Real has the quickest belt from waist to azz time in the history of the world. The World Craig!!

Truth: You right about society fugging up the “man thang” but it ain’t easy being man because everything we do is either illegal or not PC. I don’t know about you but sometimes I have a strong urge to get into a fight and it not because someone did something to me. I think that’s why the movie Fight Club was such a big hit. But now you can’t even get into a fight without it having to be his last one.

For Real now scratching his ballz for the cause.

Foots

May 19th, 2009
3:13 pm

W8 I don’t know that was way back in 1996 I wasn’t bout a damn thing back then

Maybe that will help you understand why your little brother isn’t on the straight and narrow. He’s just doing what you did growing up.

Cemeeli

May 19th, 2009
3:17 pm

Kimmie Walking around in Trenches i would have thought you guys where some wannabes too. That’s funny.

Tazzee “13- The legal age to leave them home alone?” I can dig that. AND at 13 they have already passed some stages that wouldn’t be as clingy as a lil bitty kid.

speaking of…Did you hear about the 66 year old lady that recenly found out she was pregnant?

Willie Dynamite

May 19th, 2009
3:28 pm

afternoon all,

I’m down right allergic to some of this talk. Its easy to blame Men for this because for the most part it’s their fault. On the flip side Women do the choosing. So if you chose a triflin azz dude then its on you.

As for me I am somewhat chauvinistic in my ways. I however am not CaveMan with it. I also dont have a CAPE on going around saving em (NEVER DID). A long time ago I learned that I Need a woman to Want me but I don’t Want one that Needs me.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
3:30 pm

I really want to duck into one of the empty offices and take a little nap. I’ve got the itis for real!

Mo (aka Moeisha- in such a Funk)

May 19th, 2009
3:32 pm

Afteroon all! I see the topic is guns today……well alrighty then. I have always wanted to learn to shot but never could get anyone to go with (I prefer someone go with me the first time). :sad:

Totally off topic: is there anyone here that has been on a hot air balloon ride??

For Real

May 19th, 2009
3:33 pm

Tazzee: You wrong for wanting a pink handle for your gun. You gon fugg up dudes chances of getting into hell.

The Devil is now LHAO after learning that W8 was killed by a girl with a pink handle on her gun.

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
3:34 pm

Amred – No problem. Ironically, on 104.1 they have this little relationship show on late Sunday nights, and dating with kids/blended families was the topic this past Sunday.

Kimmie – I think the Lord knows which folks have the temperment to deal with blending families and such, especially if you don’t have kids prior. I’m still one of the few women that can claim I find the few men in the world without kids past 30. Everyone keeps telling me that I need to get used to the idea, but I’m still not attracting them…for got reason I guess!

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
3:35 pm

is there anyone here that has been on a hot air balloon ride??

Mo – Closest I came to that was the Gasp at 6 Flags!LOL!! I am terrified of heights, though, so no hot air balloons for me! I can deal with a plane because it’s closed in, but that’s it. Might be a great experience though!

For Real

May 19th, 2009
3:35 pm

For Real now handing Mo a noisy cricket.

Melo

May 19th, 2009
3:39 pm

one of the empty offices and take a little nap

Did anything rompy and fun last nite Ared? :grin:

-W8©

May 19th, 2009
3:39 pm

@Foots- No I was married to young and for the wrong reason and just doing what I wanted to do back then with no respect for my wife..thank goodness for learning from my experiences. My brother on the other hand is in the streets dealing in and out of jail etc..My father is immobile now and my youngest brother is taking full advantage of that…but thats another story

Mo (aka Moeisha- in such a Funk)

May 19th, 2009
3:40 pm

For Real – dont make me bust ya knee caps out, ‘k?? :mad: And take Jiminy Cricket back to wherever you got him!

Kimmie – I am afraid of heights as well but I want to do a hot air balloon ride (dont ask me why). I just thought maybe someone here had done it

Willie Dynamite

May 19th, 2009
3:41 pm

Off Topic-

Did anyone see the Michael Irvin Reality show last night? If so what did you think of it?

AmazonRed™

May 19th, 2009
3:44 pm

Did anything rompy and fun last nite Ared?

How did you get that from me saying I have the itis???

:shock: What do you know, melo?! :oops:

:lol:

kimmie

May 19th, 2009
3:48 pm

Amred – I understand that. You know what your limits are and the Lord does too. I was 31 when I dated the 1st one with kids. I had planned things differently for myself – wanting husband & kids of my own, and in that order. God had other plans for me! All the stars must be lined up right for me to deal with it, though. I won’t deal with deadbeats, drama and kids who are not being raised properly. That’s not how I was brought up and I’m not walking into a crazy situation.

I also truly, truly LOVE kids! They seem to sense that and are attrached to me like bees to honey! It’s a sight to see. I met these 2 girls that come to an earlier martial arts class, about 9 & 11 yrs old. They just started chatting when I got there early last week. They came up and hugged me at the belt testing on Sat. I have always looked younger than my age and my aunt says kids think I’m still a kid.LOL!!

My SO’s kids are 6 & 8. Fun ages!

LIONESS-Feeling Lovely in White

May 19th, 2009
3:50 pm

It is a beautiful day outside.. My My :)

The last guy I dated LOVED guns! He would sleep with his gun on his nightstand unloaded but with the loaded clip right next to it.. Problem was, he was a sleep walker, night terror person and spending the night with him was very nerve racking for me cause you never know..