Protect Me
In his book Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady, Steve Harvey offered some great insight about men and protection:
Encoded in the DNA of the male species is that we are to be the provider and the protector of the family, and everything we do is geared toward ensuring we can make this happen.
This is really interesting to me because I don’t know if men realize how much it impresses a woman when a man seeks to protect her. I am not talking about simple chivalry, here. What I am referring to is that innate sense of protectiveness that men in love have about their women.
How do men show they are willing to protect their women? I think it can be found in subtle ways such as showing concern if she made it home safely. Checking her car for potential issues that may pose a threat. Then the not so subtle ways such as defending her honor, addressing anyone who dares to disrespect her in his presence.
I was sent an interesting quote from our friend “Sexyleggs”:
“A woman should not be dependent on the protection of a man, but should rest on her own”
I suppose this can be interpreted in many ways, but what are your thoughts about the quote?
Guys, what do you really think about protection? Is it difficult to provide this when you are in a relationship? At what point do you feel the urge to become protective of someone you are dating? Do women ever perceive it as overbearing?
If a guy does not show protective gestures toward the woman he is dating, does that mean he doesn’t care for her at all?
Ladies, do you feel comfortable with having a man protect you, in dating? Do you feel taken care of and cared for? Is there a line that crosses into overbearing for you?
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-W8
May 19th, 2009
12:18 pm
Wow@ some of these comments…how do you invite/allow this stuff into some of your lives? My father raised us to be men first and foremost, now for my youngest brother. I don’t know what his problem is..hopefully he will get it together. My question is ladies..it is so easy to define the roll that men are supposed to adhere to…but let’s hear what you as women are supposed to do..instead of complianing bashing etc..what are you doing yourself to get the treatment that you are or are not getting. (I can’t believe I’ve become so interested in this blog that I’m posting from my bberry, maybe its just stress relief..lol)
THE INFAMOUS DK
May 19th, 2009
12:21 pm
Society wants men to be more talkative, feel more and more intouch with their feminie side. 1. Women talk alot 2. Women are more emotional 3. women are in touch with their feminine side. I have deduced that society wants men to be women.
Beautiful
May 19th, 2009
12:23 pm
good morning W8! you’re addicted like the rest of us. lol. it’s ok booboo, just let it flow. oh . . . and have fun!
Leggs
May 19th, 2009
12:23 pm
@W8, some of are just plain stupid and got caught up. I cried walking down the aisle. I now believe those tears were me knowing I was making a mistake. I stuck it out and did my best at being wife. I cooked everynight, made love, cleaned, kept my appearance up. However, it some became apparent that my role was more as provider than wife and the wife in me slowly died. That’s all I can say, she died right before both our eyes!
Leggs
May 19th, 2009
12:24 pm
I’m out…enjoy the rest of the day!
DJ Sniper
May 19th, 2009
12:25 pm
DK, some men feel for that okeydoke, thinking that’s what women actually wanted. Not this one.
LOL@ Melo talking about the dude mooing like a cow!!!!
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
12:30 pm
Good afternoon, all,
I definitely agree that every man (really every person) should know basic car maintenance. Changing tires, Changing spark plugs, Changing air filters, Checking oil level (looking at dip sticks), Checking transmission (differential) fluid (usually another dipstick), check that the headlights and tail lights work, etc.
AAA is good to have, but you have to wait on them to come. While you are stranded and waiting, you are vulnerable. Some things are major and you have to wait.
For example, recently this woman needed to go to the bank and she had her kids with her. When she came out, her car wouldn’t start. She was approached by two men who seemed to want to help. She declined because she had AAA coming, but it was a 30 minute wait for her. At which point, the men asked again and she saw that one had a .45 and it was pointed at her children in the back seat. Of course, they told her to be quiet or else. One went back in the bank with her and the other stayed in the car with the kids, just in case. They made off with an undisclosed amount of cash.
She is a single mom, and had a good car (Acura TSX). The problem with the car was the battery. It died (which happens). She was vulnerable. Security was inside the bank, but not in the parking lot at the time that this happened.
I’ve taught my wife gun safety. We go to gun ranges regularly. I’m thinking of going one day during the upcoming memorial day weekend. It looks like it will rain all weekend anyway.
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
May 19th, 2009
12:32 pm
W8, womens roles will be discussed tomorrow. Today we’re talking about cats that are coming up short and require a nice douche after lovemaking.
Btw, there’s talk of a cure for MIA blogging but right now its just a rumor.
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
12:38 pm
I just see it as Man Stuff. The price you pay for wearing your pants.
You darn skippy. You gotta pay the cost to be the boss.
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
May 19th, 2009
12:48 pm
Poppa, so true. Just the price you pay.Thing is it shouldn’t be that hard to do. Who wants a chick they love to have to take out trash or change a car tire? Simple things to do but I’d rather do it then her.
DJ Sniper
May 19th, 2009
12:50 pm
Poppa, my wife wants to get her weapons permit as well. Also, I found it quite hilarious that when you go to the Gwinnett County courthouse, you can apply for your marriage license and gun permit at the same time! LOL!!!
-W8
May 19th, 2009
12:56 pm
@Truth- some dudes are used to peeing sitting down..I can’t stand weak individuals. And discussing womens roles on hear…yeah right..lmao..lmao. But seriously some of this stuff is so foreign to me that I’m reading..maybe I’m just comfortable in being a male chauvinist to an extent..flip side of that is that the woman in my life is taking care of and is equipped to handle business if I’m gone..I dunno I was taught to take care of home and defend everyone under that roof at all cost..
@PG- I believe in a woman knowing how to defend herself also..and I teach them as such..she just can’t use those moves on mw when I piss her off..lmao
Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)
May 19th, 2009
12:57 pm
I think I’ll hit up the gun range this weekend too. I’m trying to find a pink handle thingy and cute carrying bag for my gun. I saw my gun with a pink handle – but I’m not paying for a new gun. So I’ll just switch out the handle…
Married until proven Single!
May 19th, 2009
1:00 pm
@W8
**instead of complianing bashing etc.**
thanks for the warning. i haven’t read any of the comments on page one yet and now i don’t plan too. i’m trying to stay positive regarding men. i know there is one out there for me and he will protect and provide. i just have to get thru these bad apples who are trying to phuck up the game for the good men out there!
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:01 pm
DJ
In the state of Georgia most courthouses combine marriage licenses with gun licenses. The same is true in Fulton Co.
My wife loves going to the range. We actually have her first target framed and on the wall in our guest room.
We’ve even done skeet shooting. There is a range for that in the Camp Creek area and it is part of Fulton County Parks and Recreation. Fulton residents get a discount.
Truth
Thing is it shouldn’t be that hard to do. Who wants a chick they love to have to take out trash or change a car tire?
So true. I’ve spent this morning getting my wife’s car serviced. Fuel injectors (I know that she has put some cheap stuff in there), tune up, oil change, and tire rotation. I can do these things, but they have things like air guns and such that make this thing quicker. Also, I did the calculations on changing the oil myself and the oil changing places have come down to the point that they are the same price or less than doing it myself.
On a side note, knowing about cars lets me review their work and know if they are trying to trick me into buying a service that I don’t need. That is something that can save you a lot of money.
Then I cleaned her car myself.
By the way, the bold part of my post came from DK’s earlier post. I just thought it deserved its own spotlight..
Professor
May 19th, 2009
1:02 pm
Before my schedule became so crazy I was at the range every Wednesday because all that was ladies night at the range and the lanes were free from 6-8pm. I still go from time to time, but I really need to get back on it.
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:05 pm
W8
Teaching the Mrs. has a downside too.:
One night I got out of class early (I am in law school) and I didn’t call saying that I was on my way. She wasn’t expecting someone to come in. I opened the door and there was a red dot on my chest. I started saying, “Its just me! Papi( her nickname for me)!” I said it really calmly…LOL
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
May 19th, 2009
1:13 pm
My ex gf took my dog out for a walk one night after dog. Most of you know about my big boy Tysun. Anyway, they were gone for a while and i started worrying so i go running to the place we take them to let them run around. I get to the corner and they’re coming around and Tysun starts barking and stepping in front of her blocking her. Of course after that i’m the second most important dude in the house. Thing is ol girl was handling dude. She wasnt scared inthe least. Just held his leash and let it out slowly, just like i told her. LOL Luckily he realized who it was and all worked out well but i know she got a charge out of him doing his thing.
Every cat should have a gun, knife, old skillet and a pair of pliars. Never know whats needed to get the job done. And take the chick so she can not only fire but get comfortable with the gun. When she needs it she really has to know how to handle it.
W8, I’ve been noticing suspect convo out of some people I know. Talk of coming up on womens work and letting her do the work. Times are a changing. I’m like you, just an old chauvinist.
Tazz, yeah, the pink thingy is real important. LOL
Coded message. The pigeon will be flying the coop tomorrow. End of coded message.
Married until proven Single!
May 19th, 2009
1:13 pm
since i am against having a gun in my home because of the boys, what should i do when i meet a man who carries one in his car and keeps a couple in his home?
not dating him because of this is silly, correct? how do i get past this issue?
if i can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em?
-W8
May 19th, 2009
1:15 pm
Ladies if your man pee’s sitting down..you might have a problem..lol
@truth- I will definitely be around tomorrow
@PG- man when I was married I did something to cause my wife to wake me up in the middle of the night face to face..she told me “get the guns out of the house now”..now right then and there I had a decision to make…hmmm old miss ivy league by way of southside chi town convinced me not to say a damn thing…I just got up took all 5 weapons to the neighbors at 2am..lol..(Yeah big badass me ex-army ranger, fed…blah blah blah knew that she wasn’t playing…damn I miss her at times..lol)
Melo
May 19th, 2009
1:18 pm
The pigeon will be flying the coop tomorrow
That means u phuccking an arab-muslim chic tmrw!!
They will stone u alive.
U need to use code whilst over there inorder to survive.U cant be phuccking a muslim woman when ure an infidel.
Be careful Truth, altho I envy u.
Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.
May 19th, 2009
1:20 pm
Are we still on topic?
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:22 pm
W8
Sometimes, you get the message really quickly.
I just tell my wife to RESPECT the power of the gun, but don’t FEAR it. Don’t be careless with it. It isn’t a toy.
We also have some friends who graduated from West Point who have all types of guns and they teach us some things about different guns. One of the guys has a six foot tall gun safe in his “man lair” a/k/a basement. That basement looks like a gun museum along with her saber from the Army Academy.
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
1:24 pm
I’ve taught my wife gun safety. We go to gun ranges regularly.
PG – On one of earliers dates, new boo asked “when is the last time you shot a gun?” I went
and said “never!” (CA bleeding liberal side of me). So looks like we are going to go. LOL
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:28 pm
AR
You didn’t get a gun in your welcome to GA kit when you moved here!! Sonny lied!!
WE give out guns with bottle waters down here.
My wife was surprised when she saw my grandma pull a pearl handle .38 out of her purse. My other grandma has a shotgun by the bed.
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
1:29 pm
We’ve even done skeet shooting. There is a range for that in the Camp Creek area and it is part of Fulton County Parks and Recreation. Fulton residents get a discount.
I’m so doing that! I used to love the game Duck Hunt!
Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.
May 19th, 2009
1:30 pm
I want a gun. Do they make them with red handles. I want one with a red handle Tazzee
W8
May 19th, 2009
1:30 pm
@Kym- Are we ever?..lol
@Truth- Yup, I like my male chavunistic ways..but im balanced with it..i think..lol
@PG-I love the range, just picked up a fully automatic shotgun(work allows me to have it)..i got kicked off of the range with it..lmao
Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.
May 19th, 2009
1:31 pm
@PoppaG my son wants to go skeet shooting. I saw they train kids as young as 6 on skeet shooting.
W8
May 19th, 2009
1:34 pm
@kym- probably so..my daughter has a pink .22 semi automatic hunting rifle..she can hit a rabbit 50 yards out with deflection..
**ok back on topic**lol
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
May 19th, 2009
1:35 pm
W8, you an ex ranger? Ever hit Savannah?
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:36 pm
Kym
Yeah, they have kid classes. There is a classroom portion before you even go out to the range. They do this for adults as well.
You can rent the gun there (skeet shooting range), but you have to buy the ammo.
W8
May 19th, 2009
1:37 pm
@Truth- we hit hunter field over there but I was stationed in 3rd Bn at Fort Benning
Kym does not like this month's bookclub selection.
May 19th, 2009
1:38 pm
Hmmm maybe that can be one of our summer outings. Skeet shooting class. Why not..hell.
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:38 pm
AR
It is probably in your backyard. It was only about 5 minutes from the Walgreens on Camp Creek. You can see the buildboard on 285 southbound (from Cascade Road to Camp Creek) right before the exit.
kimmie
May 19th, 2009
1:39 pm
W8 – I don’t mind a male chauvanist that much as long as he can back it up – and be balanced with it!LOL!! A lotta weak dudes talk a good game. The few dudes I’ve known that feel they have to beat their chests and say they’re the man and they run things – I told them by all means do it. They scurried away in their little holes.
Truth – In my opinion, a real man can’t have his “manhood” taken away! What is that – how do you “take away” what should be natural or at least inbred? I never understood that.
Luckily I’ve got a boo that does not ask permission to what he do!
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:40 pm
Kym
It is pretty fun. Of course, it is hot because the skeet shooting is outside, but you are a nature chick so you can handle it. There is just a lot of concrete out there, so you know concrete holds heat.
They furnish goggles (eye protection) as well.
kimmie
May 19th, 2009
1:42 pm
That’s what I get for trying to be cute with the words – My boo does not ask permission to do what he does – be the man.
Cemeeli
May 19th, 2009
1:42 pm
ya’ll talking firearms now?
I respect.
Shot a 9mm with the ex. I have been very respectful of guns since. He had me to keep it several times. When i drove those nice cars of his, he told me never be to slow to retrieve and use it. (all the coaching wasn’t neccesary). NEVER HAD TO USE ONE. God knows i did not wasn to.
Anytime i went driving around city and the top was down on that car, expecially at Stop signs, and exit ramps i’d make sure my hands would be down low ready to grab the handle. All these woods and off roads we have in GA. you need something to keep these crazies away.
anyway…..lunch was good.
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
1:43 pm
You didn’t get a gun in your welcome to GA kit when you moved here!! Sonny lied!!
PG – I got it. But the liberal in me threw it in the Chattahoochie!
That skeet shooting place really is in my backyard. I’m not far from there at all…Thanks for the tip.
Cemeeli
May 19th, 2009
1:44 pm
PoopaG -Are you talking about Wolf Creek Park, shooting range?
kimmie
May 19th, 2009
1:49 pm
Truth – By the way, I’m an orange belt senior now. The test Saturday was easy.
AmazonRed™
May 19th, 2009
1:50 pm
Today we’re talking about cats that are coming up short and require a nice douche after lovemaking.
The Truth-Wearing a towel on my head and nothingelse while blogging
May 19th, 2009
1:51 pm
Ared, it really is in your backyard. When i was over there the other night i heard some shooting going on. Did i really say that out loud? Btw, you got mail.
Kimmie, im so glad you never took my manhood. Give me ol boys addie again so i can make him an offer he cant refuse. I gotta get him outta the way so we can get hitched again. I misses yous.
Melo
May 19th, 2009
1:51 pm
W8,Poppa, hunting small game..deer,buck etc with dogs is more fun than hunting with guns.
Big game hunting,elephants,buffalo,lions etc thats when I need a gun.When u come face to face with a lion in the wild,u can literally urinate be4 its time if u not strong.Ur muscles will just give way.
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:52 pm
Cee
Are you talking about Wolf Creek Park, shooting range?
Yep, but it is now called Tom Lowe shooting grounds. It is on Merck Road.
Poppa Grande
May 19th, 2009
1:56 pm
Melo
I’ve never been a big hunter. I have shot a few deer, but that was because they were digging up my grandparents sweet potatoes and eating the collards in the garden.
I killed chickens by hand, not gun. Pop their necks.
We did use guns when it was time to slaughter hogs, though. Shot them in the head before putting them in a barrel of hot water to get the hair off.
My grandparents lived in the country. In the shadows of Pine Mountain (Callaway Gardens).
Raqi...31 Days to ML
May 19th, 2009
1:56 pm
WOW is that the Infamous DK that I see?
Cemeeli
May 19th, 2009
2:00 pm
@ PoopaG You know as a Atlanta head i can’t seem to get new names in my head until i have to give specifics.
Tom Lowe and Tom Lowe Hwy are both new names to the area. It was Wold Creek Gun Club back a few years…
THE INFAMOUS DK
May 19th, 2009
2:00 pm
Raqi – Yes by golly it is the Artist formerly known as The Filthy Villianous DK