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AmazonRed™

May 18th, 2009
8:51 am

Happy Monday all. Hope you had fun weekends!

Great topic Foots. I’ve been feeling that song lately for some reason.

This topic definitely has the potential of hitting home for me. A guy I’ve been out recently doesn’t have kids. But he’s the support system for his niece and nephew – he’ll be putting his nephew through school next year when he goes off to college. And we all know that college costs a pretty penny. His niece is still in elementary school, so he’ll be supporting her for a while. While I admire that in him, I do worry that taking care of kids that aren’t his will impact our relationship if we enter into one. Especially since it seems the kids fathers have no responsibility to their kids at all. Guess we’ll just have to wait and see…

Kym-Smile and wave..just smile and wave.

May 18th, 2009
9:02 am

I am thinking..and really I can’t think of one thing that I initially liked about a guy that made me later break it off with them. My son’s father made me laugh and we could talk for hours..we broke it off because he didn’t want to take a straighter path in life. One of my first loves was dedicated and a loving dad but I dropped ties because he would rather I be his best friend in and out of the sheets. I couldn’t do both. I file this topic under the “you knew the job was dangerous when you took it”. If a person is opinionated and you like that..why in the world would you expect different behavior two or three months down the line? If anything it is not the person who has the problem it is you. I don’t think we turn the mirror around enough and get to really know ourselves so that we learn what we can and can’t handle when it comes to personalities and relationships.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
9:03 am

I guess it boils down to knowing what you can and you can not put up with in the beginning. It’s not the persons fault for being who they are at least they are consistent. Take the time to get to know the other person as much as you can to see if you can deal for the long ride…Have a good day wonderful people.

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
9:11 am

Steve Harvey made a good point in his book, about mama’s boys. It’s cute at first that he’s so committed and loving of his mother, but then when you realize mom comes first a woman gets mad and wants things to change.

If you set the standards and requirements of front, he’s going to have to find balance between the woman and his mother. I think that can also apply to other aspects in relationships that you love in a mate, but dont want them to go overboard with it.

Professor

May 18th, 2009
9:16 am

Great topic Foots!

I have been on both sides of the coin with this one. I have dated guys that claimed to be “proud” of my achievements and were my biggest cheerleaders, yet I felt like I was punched below the belt during disagreements when they talked about my career and achievements. I went through a phase of really downplaying my career because of that (it made a difference for the best in my dating).

Next, I have valued guys that communicate well, but now at the ripe age of 33 I realize that communicating well includes substantive communication and listening is KEY. Needless to say, I do want a “water sandwich” when it comes down to communication I want substance and listening.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
9:26 am

I like ice cream. It is a very comforting choice when my days are just a little funky. But I wouldn’t want to have it every day at every meal. Heck I couldn’t have it every day for every meal.

Having to deal with something every now and then is totally different than having to deal with it on a regular basis, in every situation, at every corner you turn no matter how much you adore it or find it stimulating.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 18th, 2009
9:29 am

Godd Morning WD, Foots, all.

I cannot say that I have broken up with a lady because of these, but have had instances where that may have contributed.

Dated a lady who was very devoted to her children, church, and work (a teacher). I liked her caring spirit, but we could only see each other maybe twice a month because she was so programmed to put all of these first that there was ALWAYS a conflict. Another lady, overhearing my cell phone conversation with her told me, “you just con’t get it do you, if she was really into you she would find a way”. Harsh reality, hurt like a biotch to hear, but probably was right on the money.

Another lady I was involve with was a borderline nympho. It was great until we both realized we never talked anymore, just spent all of our time jumping each other’s bones. Eventually the relationship died because it became all about the sex, not the relationship. Both of us wanted more. (One side comment, sex ALWAYS changes the dynamics of a relationship. Once it is introduced into a relationship, it dominates the relationship).

Professor

May 18th, 2009
9:36 am

Raqi- Excellent point.

I guess there some truth to the old saying; “there is a time and a place for everything.” I guess during the early stages you need to find out if that person’s quality is his/her foundation and core, which truly defines their existence. (I don’t feel my accomplishments defines me, nor the car I drive), but men always comment on those things about me.

Fast forward, I have a very good friend and his wife left him after a few years of marriage due to his extensive involvement with the Church (no he is not a pastor). He is at Church doing something 5/7 days and all day Sunday and at least a ½ day on Saturday. She simply could not bear it any longer. A nod at this whole topic, they met at Church.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
9:41 am

Good morning everyone!

Great topic, Foots! Yes, a particular trait that one liked about me in the beginning (independence) became a sore spot over time. One disagreement I remember in particular dealt around me hanging pictures. I had asked for his hand on 3 different occasions. When I realized he was taking too long I did it myself. When he visited me and saw I had hung the pictures he became sullen saying I don’t need a man if I can’t wait until he’s able to carry out what he said he would do. Ok, he had a point (albeit a small one at that time). His “waiting time” and mine always clashed so my independence (as he called it) ended the relationship.

Melo

May 18th, 2009
9:49 am

Great topic Footsie! Hie everybody!

I agree with what others have said.U have to know urself and what u can tolerate and what u cannot,for the long haul.
When i introduced my girlfriend to one of my grannies,she asked if she knew that Tee had a trailer load of people looking up to me for support.Granny was warning her of my family obligations/responsibilitues.If she wanted to bail out,this was her opportunity to do so.I do care for my family greatly and their welfare.I was the 1st to go to college in my family and that meant a great deal.
If u are true to urslef and what u are seeking,u go into/out of the relationship with a clear conscience.
Have a good day all.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
9:49 am

Professor I am very familiar with this subject.
I love guys that are bundles of information. Useful information. Something the men that I actually entertained relationships with had in common. However those same types tend to be know-it-alls. They are never wrong as far as they are concerned. Why? Because they know everything.

I have never been for a guy that is a “challenger”. You know the type…“He challenges my mind”. Yeah give me a guy that keeps it lively and keeps me thinkin.g, but a challenger? Nah. Those types will be forever opposing and disputing any opinion that you have on anything.

The laid-back type? Usually evolves into lack-luster and nonchalant.

You are right, a time and a place for everything. But no one can escape the faults of any one that we choose to make a part of our lives. We have to know what we can and cannot live with.

Be careful what you ask for.

Kym-Smile and wave..just smile and wave.

May 18th, 2009
9:55 am

@Leggs you know that is really lack of communication. If I ask a person to do something for me I am going to set a timeframe for it to be done. For example those pictures. If you called him on Saturday and said can you come over this afternoon and hang a few pictures for me and he says yes but does not show up until Sunday. You can rest assured the pictures were hung on Saturday. Why? Because I clearly asked you to come this afternoon you said yes..and didn’t show. Now if I asked when you get a chance can you stop by and hang these pictures that’s different..his chance to stop by and my expectation of the work getting done are off balance.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
9:56 am

morning –

“careful what you wish for?”

I don’t think most of us know what we want in mate, until we encounter what we DON’T want in a mate. The results of having experienced that helped me realize my desires and needs, from a mate. It is obtainable, and I realize the needs, the wants, the quirks, irritants, and unfavorable qualities are a two edge sword. This circles back to “compromising” for that, which you most desire.

Foots still has both her feet!!! Good topic.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
9:57 am

Ok, he had a point

Leggs I don’t think so. How long did he expect you to wait? Heck I would have not even asked a third time. If he calls that being too independent…

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
10:00 am

Like WiseDiva mentioned the guy with confidence…

We often mistake arrogance as confidence in the beginning, until it starts to get on our last dang nerves and then we see it for what it is.

M'

May 18th, 2009
10:01 am

Interesting topic…and yes, it does sometimes seems as if the initial attributes that we find ourselves attracted to in a person can also become the bane of our attraction when they expose themselves as “obsessive” behaviors…there is no balance there…and I believe that balance is the key.

Professor

May 18th, 2009
10:02 am

@Raqi- You are so on point with your description. I cannot deal with the challenger type. I guess I need to put a caveat in when I start asking for the qualities I want in a mate…LOL

@Melo- How did your girlfriend take Granny’s warning? Did she shake it off…did it concern her…how did it work out?

SlimDiva

May 18th, 2009
10:11 am

Good morning everyone!

I can certainly relate to this. The man I am currently dating is committed to this children (the adults and minors). Because of this we don’t get an opportunity to spend a lot of time with each other. However, when we are together it’s quality time…and worth every moment. Yet, I want more time. We have discussed this numerous times, but I don’t think he is comprehending. I have compromised in more ways than one. I have decided to make my own plans for the summer, and if he’s available to join me, it’s cool. If not, it’s still cool because I have to keep living and enjoy life to the fullest.

Melo

May 18th, 2009
10:14 am

@Melo- How did your girlfriend take Granny’s warning? Did she shake it off…did it concern her…how did it work out?

“M” shes Queen now.She didnt want to shake off this zuluness!

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
10:15 am

@Kym, I too chalked it up to lack of communication, but he didn’t see it that way.

@Raqi, I say he had a point because that was what he believed. I decided not to argue over what he felt was “independence” as opposed to what I thought was “common courtesy.” Do what you say you’re going to do. Weeks shouldn’t have to go by after the initial date you offered to assist.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
10:16 am

@Professor, I was wondering if that girlfriend became Queen when I read that. What happened Melo?

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
10:24 am

Great topic idea, Foots

The antithesis of the topic – The things you did to get me are the things you need to do to keep me.

Today’s topic is about what happens when what you did to get me is getting in the way. The opposite is when what you did to get me stops happening.

Three Words Daily – Get regular exercise.

Melo

May 18th, 2009
10:28 am

Hey Leggs!!! When u are a first born child in the family,some of these responsibilites come with the territory.Thats esp. true in african families in general.
But a person born in a more wealthy family(my Queen) may not have seen it the same way becoz those types generally depend on the mom and dad resources than they do on a sibling who has made it.It was good that my Granny was kinda of conscientizing her to my fam set-up so as to ward off potential issues down the road.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
10:36 am

@SexyCool’s antithesis- Big thing for me is when women put up that initial front then change up when they feel they’ve got you..but there’s always a “reason”

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
10:39 am

Morning Blog Fam. Hope errbody had a good weekend!

Fabulous topic Foots!

Yeah, the stuff that you find “cute” in the beginning can get on your last nerve down the line. I dated 2 mama’s boys that took it to another level. One very important lesson I learned out of those 2 experiences is that just because a guy treats his mother well does not necessarily mean he’ll do the same for you. I know plenty dogs that adore their mothers!

Melo – Great lesson your example gives is know what you are getting into and pray you find out early. Eases problems down the road. Also, you found out what “potential Queen” was really made of! Great for you!

If a person is married to their job while dating, no need to complain later on down the line when you marry. You knew going in what you were getting into.

NY2GA, Inc.

May 18th, 2009
10:47 am

Timely topic. I’m dealing with this right now as well. The guy that I am talking to has so many great qualities. He is a nice man. However, his competing priorities have left little time for us. In between taking care of his child, his master’s programs(that’s right I did say programS), his 9-5 and his side business…well…we’re going downhill without a paddle. I am supportive and undertstanding of what he has on his plate. But, if a relationship is not nurtured, it dies. Ours is dying.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
10:54 am

W-Eight Sometimes it is not a front or change, but selective viewing on the on lookers part. Sometimes we meet people and are so overtaken by one thing or characteristic that we blind ourselves to the obvious. We are mesmerized. Then once we see clearly we sometimes feel that we were mislead when it was there all the time.

I have a scar on my belly. One day while hanging out at the house my now husband pointed out the scar and touched it in surprise. It is a scar that I got as a child and it’s been there forever. I told him he had touched with his hand and/or lips several times. He was not even aware because that is not where his attention was focused. Once his focus became clear he saw it. It was always there.

For me to mask it in makeup would have been a front. For me to have obtained it since our last time together would have been a change. But it was there the whole time. His focus was elsewhere.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
10:58 am

As is the case with many things, if it’s not nutured it eventually dies away. Feelings cease to exist. The level of understanding is quickly diminished. The heart hardens, you’re more nonchalant about the relationship and no longer care if it survives or not. You have lost interest in helping the relationship thrive. Then, it’s time to acknowledge it and peacefully end the relationship giving room for new, hopefully more fulfilling experiences.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
10:59 am

@Raqi-you and I are talking about two different scenario’s

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
11:03 am

Sometimes we meet people and are so overtaken by one thing or characteristic that we blind ourselves to the obvious.

Raqi – You are so right about this.

NYGA – That’s a tough spot to be in and I’ve been there. Sometimes it is truly a timing issue, other times you say to yourself that that person would make the time to be with you if they put forth the effort. Hope he does not wait too long and wake up and see he lost a good thing!

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 18th, 2009
11:03 am

Good morning guys…….it’s Monday already…dayum

I can related to todays’s topic b/c my ex had the opposite personality that I have. Where as I can be aggressive AND assertive(there is a difference),straight forward,attentive and somany other things he is the opposite and at first it was cool b/c it “balanced out”. Further down the line it became obstacles in our relationship b/c I realized that he was a soft mama’s boy who had to almost constantly to be told what to do and wasn’t always communicative. Anywho, that was just one of the nails in the coffin that lead to the ultimate demise of the relationship.

Off topic: I am in such a funk today and I feel kickin’ my ex and a whole lot of other people in the knee caps!!!

Professor

May 18th, 2009
11:04 am

As I think about this topic I also think about Goffman, who talks about front/back stage behavior. I am not a sociologist so if we have any on the blog please step in, but I really feel that during the getting to know you stage a lot of people give you the “front stage” they are dressed and telling you what is pleasant and easy. After time moves on you get a “peep” at the “back stage,” thus revealing the real person without all the props.

@W8 – personally I always think of Goffman when a man does XYZ to get me, and once he has me he stops, and starts beginning himself. At that point I chalk it up as seeing the “play” behind the scene. If I can roll with it I stay, if the contrast is too great I throw up the deuces.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
11:06 am

W-Eight No we are not. I just used an actual physical example to make my point.

Yes people sometimes front and/or change. But sometimes they don’t. Sometimes that thing is there the whole time but we don’t see it because our focus is else where. I would compare that to the laid back dude. I dated a laid-back guy. It was nice at first because he was not difficult to deal with. He was not confrontational. He was just you know easy going. I had to kids at the time so that was a good thing. Turned out the guy was just lazy. Didn’t really give a damn about anything.

I was so enamored by the fact that he was just easy and did put up too much of a fuss, I totally missed he was just lazy. He didn’t change. I just missed it.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
11:09 am

@Professor, there’s plenty of talk on this blog about the “representative” showing up for the first 3 months or so and then the “real” you surfaces. Not in all relationships but in quite a few of them.

M'

May 18th, 2009
11:12 am

@Professo

Wow…Irving (or Erving) Goffman…love his work on “Deference and Demeanor”….assymetrical and symmetrical communication paradigms of exchange that either eliminate or reinforce “superordinate” and “subordinate” caste in communicated behaviors and attitudes.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 18th, 2009
11:13 am

W8…I agree with you. The one thing any guy who has date dme can say is that I am consistent with my antics! Some may evn call me stubborn because I am not persuaable. Once I have my mind set there is no convincing me…but if you continue to try you will only p*ss me off! I think people have these new expectations once you become committed. Then a new bunch of expectations if you get married. I hear people say well now that I am in a relationship…or now that I am married I have to change this. Usually it’s the woman who thinks this more so. I think you should continue to be who you are. After all…if the person is with you…they should love the person you ARE not who they think thay can mold you into. Women take the men they think they can fix up to be their perfect man. If he was a work-a-holic before you…what makes you think he will stop now? You are asking somebody to change their life as they know it for you…and be happy about it. Could they do it…..sure! They could also resent you for it. I will not change any aspect of my life for a guy.. He has to know I am a busy woman…an ambitious woman who will work relentlessly to get where I am trying to be. And I will not slack off because he is in my life. He can either join in and support me as I would do for him in his career…or keep it moving. I personally will not date a man who is not as ambitious as I am or more. He doesn’t have to be where he wants to be in life right now…but he had better be hard at work trying to get there. I am not the clingy woman who needs QT. Business is first with me…handle it…and we can link up after it’s done. Also I am not a very affectionate mushy girl. So don’t think I will change because you want me too! I have stopped trying to make a guy be the right guy. I tell you what I like and do like and will or won’t accept. If you do things that I won’t accept. I will not try to change that. I will simply leave you be….because that is who you really are. It doesn’t make you a bad person…just not the right one for me.

RAQI..are you having Chunky Monkey for breakfast?

RANDY… “(One side comment, sex ALWAYS changes the dynamics of a relationship. Once it is introduced into a relationship, it dominates the relationship)” So very true my man. That is why I am celibate…and if I were to get into a relationship. I would hold off on sex until we are over the honeymoon stage. If he can’t except that….he is not right for me.

LEGGS..he was a loser anyway! He thinks you are just supposed to wait around fro when he is ready to do something? Come on! There is nothign wrong with you that you could not do it yourself. And if he felt like you were too independent for it…then be glad you are not with him. He needs to get his Man-ties (man panties/punk panties) out of a bunch! I hate asking anybody to do something for me. I do it myself…or pay somebody to do it because I know if I do it…it gets done and gets done right w/o all the BS!

Kym-Smile and wave..just smile and wave.

May 18th, 2009
11:14 am

@NYC sorry things are not going well..but didnt this guy have all that going on when you met him? So what exactly are you looking for? Because if he is giving you all the time he has alotted for a relationship in his life at this present time, and that is not enough for you then why was it enough at the start?

Professor

May 18th, 2009
11:14 am

@ Kimmie you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned timing. I do believe timing is everything especially as it relates to NY situation. There is a line from a Faith Evans song that states “I can’t believe that you chose me when I was choosing you.” I always think of timing when I hear that line.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
11:15 am

@Professor I agree with you just from a man’s point of view.
@Raqi- How can I tell you that we are talking about two different things even though you used a physical example? I fully know what I was talking about and stated “that we are talking about two different things” I think I know what I think better than anyone..now if there was a breakdown in my relaying those thoughts to the board…I could understand that.:)

Professor

May 18th, 2009
11:16 am

Thanks M I could not remember his first name. The funny thing is I always think about his theories. Were you a Sociology major?

Professor

May 18th, 2009
11:19 am

@Leggs you are right I have those times when the rep shows up for 3-6 months…LOL.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
11:25 am

the getting to know you stage a lot of people give you the “front stage” they are dressed and telling you what is pleasant and easy. After time moves on you get a “peep” at the “back stage,”

Professor & W8 – There’s usually a long road before you get pass the “representative”. And then getting through a person’s shell or “cosmetic behavior” you have to do some filtering. We all like the flattery, and raft of what makes us feel good, smell good, and sounds good. But after the “facade” we need to be observant and wait…Time is a precious commodity, we all know this but when you are about to invest your time in a relationship/dating, the only way you’ll know if that person is not a scytsophrenic or bi-polar is by….waiting and observing.

M'

May 18th, 2009
11:25 am

<strong.@Professor

I created a Sociology-Anthopology major when I was at Agnes Scott…a combination of social history, social culture and cultural anthropology…Goffman is one of my favorite Sociologist’s…I have used his piece often when writing about caste culture systems in communication.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
11:26 am

“Man-ties (man panties/punk panties)”

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
11:32 am

@Cee- Thats why I observe for atleast a year…dating you through every season..do you get cold- in the winter, do you spring in the spring, are you to hot in the summer do you fall in the fall..lol

@ Staceye-Ms Mamba- I applaud that response. I am the same way when it comes to women I am who I am, short comings and all. I also state that she just needs to be who she is don’t try and be all extra coming out of your “shot group” trying to be someone who you arent just to appeal to me..because the truth will eventually come out..you can look at this on a physical level ****you meet me at the gym and find out i go everyday so for the next few months you step your game up because you THINK that is what I might like(in reality if you are comfortable with yourself i am comfortable with you)…but once we get together you just fall off..deception**** spiritual level*** I meet you in Church you start coming more and we start praying together..your heart isn’t in it you are just trying to impress me*** business level***I’m making moves you show interest I help you get on path but you let things fall by the wayside because it’s not your passion but yet you talk and showed a good game***intimate level***all the little freaky things to get me open…once we are there you pull back…lol*** random***she’s wearing fake nails and weaves and push up bra’s….that aint the real you woman just let it hang…lol

Professor

May 18th, 2009
11:33 am

M’ Sociology-Anthopology IMPRESSIVE. I enjoyed the caste culture systems as well, although all of my formal education has been centered on business/human resources (I don’t think about my education degree) I really enjoyed Sociology.

Beautiful

May 18th, 2009
11:35 am

good morning Professor, Amazon, Foots!

hi ev1. can we get a repeat of this past w/e? lol. it was a good one!

someone told me about a week ago that i’m a smart chick but not about men. i agree and you know what? life is better that way. i do not question their weird behavior. i do on here, because of course this is a forum. it is what it is. if a guy wants to run because she is caring blah blah blah, i take it that he is just not ready for what she has to offer.

when he gets a lil more mature, he’ll come back around. and the best age for a man to get married is starting at 35 yrs. old.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
11:36 am

Dag!

There’s no “lurker” that has posted some’n crazy about dating a Ivy League girl, that turned out to be the daiper wearing astrounaut chic?

mytw♥cents

May 18th, 2009
11:40 am

Confucius say: Balance is the key, gwasshoppa.

RAQI There are people who’ve known me for 20+ years that accuse me of penciling in a Marilyn Monroe mole every single time I see em. I’m fairly consistent overall, but come on!

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
11:43 am

@M/Professor- NIce minds!!!

@Cee- you are funny..lol

M'

May 18th, 2009
11:44 am

@Professor

Thank you…it is funny, I discovered that is what I have been most of my life…my early educational format from 2nd to 5th grades shaped that desire…and the life I have lived provided the substance of my “studies”…so it just seemed to be a natural outcome of completing my degree.

I have always been fascinated with human evolution through life experiences…from other cultures and POV’s…how we become who we are…what shaped, influenced, directed and determined the outcome of our identity…how nature vs. nuture impacts upon it and how volition also plays a part in the end results of our being.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
11:47 am

Beautiful – It seems incongruous that can you admit to being not smart about men but know that the best age for them to get married starts at 35.

Just an observation, chica.

M'

May 18th, 2009
11:50 am

SexyCool

Nothing new in the field of expression…consistent with all other past expressions…but you be knowing…lol

@W8

Thank you…peace!!

Beautiful

May 18th, 2009
11:56 am

@SEXYCOOL

i learned the lil that i do know from a guy friend i used to chat with online when i lived in the A. we never met which was great because he had the opportunity to tell it to me straight. he broke it down for me quite a few times. he met me when i first started dating. he felt i was lost and he was right! i was so sheltered in my past relationship. i had no clue what i was in for.

are you playin’ ball this summer? i just signed up.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
11:58 am

(Raqi-you and I are talking about two different scenario’s)

W8…my home boy actually married a woman who put up a serious front…ish her mother tried to wrong his behind, that her daughter is just playing games —————>On their wedding day!!

He was a good dude too…not any more through…I call him “bitter Rell” (that’s his nick name Rell of blog).

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
12:00 pm

W8 Not a year you say?

Yea, i guess in a years time i’d let a guy know why i eat my Cheerios wearing a wife beater, ankle bracelet, bluetooth heastset, while cleaning my Craftsman 500vlt Electric Drill.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 18th, 2009
12:01 pm

W8…I see nothing wrong with a bit of enhancement from time to time. I only think it is a problem when ti is doen all the time. I knoew a girl who always wore weave. I guess because she had hair that was short and would not grow. I wear wig/weaves hair pieces from time to time especially when I perform. I wear the weaves to let my hair rest from heat styling from time to time so that I can maintain the long healthy hair that I do have. I wear acrylic overlay on my nails because my nails are very thin and break to easily. But the nails are mine. I wear push up bras in certain outfits because it calls for it….namely my costumes. So do not knock the woman who takes pride in herself. There are woman who wear stuff ot make their booty look bigger. Heck I try to do the opposite! LOL

By the way….I attended a shindig with your peoples…..Kappas this past Saturday!

Demi

May 18th, 2009
12:02 pm

>>>warn…

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 18th, 2009
12:03 pm

W8…..I see nothing wrong with a bit of enhancement from time to time. I only think it is a problem when ti is doen all the time. I knoew a girl who always wore weave. I guess because she had hair that was short and would not grow. I wear wig/weaves hair pieces from time to time especially when I perform. I wear the weaves to let my hair rest from heat styling from time to time so that I can maintain the long healthy hair that I do have. I wear acrylic overlay on my nails because my nails are very thin and break to easily. But the nails are mine. I wear push up bras in certain outfits because it calls for it….namely my costumes. So do not knock the woman who takes pride in herself. There are woman who wear stuff ot make their booty look bigger. Heck I try to do the opposite! LOL

By the way….I attended a shindig with your peoples…..Kappas this past Saturday!

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
12:04 pm

@Demi- Way to make an entrance this morning…lol..gotta heed a warnings especially if it comes from her mother

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
12:04 pm

Beautiful – I have been on the diamond since the beginning of March (with the exception of all the rain-outs). I play in a College Park league on Tuesdays and down at Piedmont on Wendesdays.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
12:05 pm

(I wear wig/weaves hair pieces from time to time especially when I perform.)

Staceye…what type of performances are you speaking of…
And when can I view your performance?

M'

May 18th, 2009
12:08 pm

Back on the subject of frontstage/backstage…meant to say something earlier…it is so very true in many instances that this is what ppl do…they project the “frontstage” personality and behaviors while trying/vying to get the attention/affection of a desired object of attraction…and then once they believe this has been accomplished…BAM!!…the backstage persona comes out.

It seems that most ppl believe once they have the “emotional” attachment of the other, then all true colors are good to go b/c the attachment seals the deal…yeah, right…only for a fool IMHO…once the game is on the board and it ain’t what I play…then all bets are off…I do not care when it happens…I will protect my emotional best interest at all cost…and ain’t no amount of “love for another” gonna change that agenda…I can not love what I do not like.

NY2GA, Inc.

May 18th, 2009
12:09 pm

Kimmie- Thanks!

Kym…I hear your point. As background, I was not the person that initially reached out to start this relationship. I was chilling. As a matter of fact, I did not pay attention to him first off because my heart was already hardened. He was persistent. He put in some work, and softened me up until I decided to open up and give this relationship thing a chance. Now, I’m right back on one of those off streets on the Monopoly board when when I thought I’d invested in premium property:) In the words of Florida Evans “Da!n, Da!n, Da!n.”

My thing is that he knew what was on his plate and “the timing” before he pursued me. He got me and gradually shifted my azz to the bottom of the priority pile. Lesson learned.

I’m putting and 8 foot fence and chicken wire around my heart now folks. It’s a wrap.

(Curtain closes)

Scene.

Professor

May 18th, 2009
12:11 pm

@M I am envious! I enjoy reading up on the caste system culture and nature vs. nurture as well. I can spend hours in Barnes and Nobles reading up on those things along with Dave Ramsey (I like reading about money also).

@ Cee- Whew I remember the astronaut chic from the news and I could not believe it…a diaper.

@ Beautiful…I am glad you had a great weekend. I spent part of my weekend playing Cinderella (scrubbing floors and organizing my closets). Hopefully you will learn more about yourself and men with each relationship.

@ W8 thanks

M'

May 18th, 2009
12:11 pm

The motivation for using enhancements speaks more volumes than the enhancements themselves…as Staceye stated…when the enhancements “become” who a person is…then that is more of an ish to me…if a person has no identity without the added extras, then that person is co-dependent on a lie of existence…and when it come off…who is left????

Demi

May 18th, 2009
12:11 pm

W8…I agree!! The signs were there, he just chose to ignore them…Heck, li’Demi didn’t like her spirit and wouldn’t let her even talk to him…and he was 2 years old at the time!!

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
12:12 pm

@Staceye – nothing wrong with the occasional…but when it’s stated as fact then I have a problem…kinda like the dude that owns a “land rover” but doesnt own any land..lmao..j/k (it’s a joke people**disclaimer before the bitter brigade jumps on me and my standards)

@Ce- lmao. that reminds me of back in 98 when my daughter was 5. When I let her know it was time for dinner she would go put on her Barney suit, a towel for a cape, one of her small blankets over her head and then put her bicycle helmet on top of that..I used to be like WTF and my wife(now my ex) would be like as long as she doesnt go outside to play like that..different strokes for different folks…lol..lmao

Beautiful

May 18th, 2009
12:13 pm

@SEXYCOOL

i was invited out to watch y’all play and i regret not going out of my way to make it out there. i’ve been playin’ since about 7 yrs old. i love it! all the sexy scars on my legs have stories to tell. lol.

@RAQI
are you gonna do that ultrasound where you can actually see the baby’s face? it’s kinda creepy, but fascinating all at the same time.

Don Pablo

May 18th, 2009
12:16 pm

The ladies here seem like some smart women. By a certain age we all know the “signs”.

Cee, you always have a happy and easygoing personality.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
12:17 pm

Hey ‘M. Stop flaunting your smar-ness . How are you?

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 18th, 2009
12:18 pm

DEMI…you know I sing, act and bellydance man! Don’t act brand new!

M'

May 18th, 2009
12:19 pm

@Professor

It seems to me that since all things in existence are the consequence of cause and effect…effect and cause…that the best way to get at a better understanding about ppl and our backstories is to deconstruct the macro and micro layers of human identity…how the major and minors influence and develop the evolution of human existence and identity…maybe somewhere in that reasoning and knowledge is a more effective way to replace hate with love, anger with peace…which are each in its category the same thing at different rates of vibration…a lot like hot and cold…both temperatures at different rates of energy.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
12:21 pm

Staceye – I have an acquaintence that is opening a new spot right next to The Tavern on Camp Creek and he is looking for performing artists. If this something that you may be interested in, send me an email to cscfromajc@yahoo.com and I will get you the information.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
12:22 pm

@Don Pablo–they ladies here are “aight”…lol

Professor

May 18th, 2009
12:22 pm

@M- You are on point with the front/back stage and the emotional attachment. I was sharing this with some friends a few months ago. On the flip side I have seen this same behavior with new employees as well…they say good stuff on the interview and after the 90-day probationary period they call out, come in late and leave early…

I used to date a guy that house was spotless when I came over. After about nine months or so he slipped and said that he cleaned up for me. I did not think much of it until a few months later he asked me to stop by when I finished doing some errands and his place was a mess (I guess I arrived faster than he expected). He told me he was trying to clean up before I got there. This is simple he was trying to hide the fact that he did not keep a clean place. After I “caught” him needless to say the house was never clean after that.

M'

May 18th, 2009
12:22 pm

@ Cee

Me be ok…jes tryin’ ta keeps up wid da Professor…lol…gotta hab sum kinda livin’ gwine on and sech…hey-ale…maybe all dat break dem voices of insanity in me head…lol

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 18th, 2009
12:23 pm

SEXYCOOL….I also have a friend that is opening a place there. What is the name of it? He asked me to perform. I wonder if it is the same place.

Professor

May 18th, 2009
12:23 pm

@ M I just read your 12:19 that is deep…definitely food for thought!

Demi

May 18th, 2009
12:23 pm

Don Pablo…as in columbian Drug Lord Pablo?

Sup bruh!!! When they let you out?

(Demi is now being dropping into the sea…tied down..with feet clemented…thinking to self: Mayne this sucks!)

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
12:24 pm

Blackwood

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
12:25 pm

“as long as she doesnt go outside to play like that”..

W8 The Barney suit, “towel-cape”, and that bicycle helment was the 1998 Barney unior Wedding Fashion line. How come you the last to know that babygirl was about to marry? Pay attention!

Melo

May 18th, 2009
12:27 pm

Cee, you always have a happy and easygoing personality

Oh, u see that sunny side too Pablo??Too bad for u and all other marauding bros,this one is getting hers!
Bounce……

M'

May 18th, 2009
12:28 pm

@Professor

Those behaviors shifts are an immediate turn off for me…I am just a what you see is what you get kinda gal…no pretense, no show…I have my on days…and I have my off ones too…I appropriate the “ideal of me” for whatever it is I need to do or be into at that moment…but it is still all me…not a sham…I like what is real…that is a truth that I can bank on…and if that does not work for someone else…then cool…dey can carry dey arse…lol.

By the same token, if I feel that someone is scrutinizing me according to a preference of personal standards that do not allow me to exist independently of that perception of me…then dey can carry it again…lol

Tmac

May 18th, 2009
12:29 pm

Why do I feel like there are so many women up in here who trying to pretend like who they wish they are——-

As a str8 fwd man you are who can smell such behaviour, do you feel the way I do Mr. Melo ???

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 18th, 2009
12:30 pm

I’m putting and 8 foot fence and chicken wire around my heart now folks. It’s a wrap.

NY2GA I feel the same way right about now. I think I’m going into a relationship hiatus….I’m am just not feelin it right about now and am not sure if it’ll end anytime soon. I usually get this way in the winter but the last two weeks just took something out of me yet it opened my eyes to a whole lot as well….did I lose you?….sorry. I’ve never,ever back tracked with any ex that I have BUT I was contacted recently by one that I hadn’t spoken with in 17yrs. and it was cool b/c we only broke up b/c I moved away. Anywho, things were all good until he came out of left feild with a whole lot of “you really hurt me when you left” ” because of you” type statements and I’v apologized to him for it but enough is enough. So I told him that we should just stay in each others pasts and left it at that. It’s like he still wants me to pay somehow but what for.

The funny thing is that in some of our “catching up” conversations he said things that relate to today’s blog topic and me being me, they’re definite deal breakers like: he just moved back home with his mom and doesn’t like to clean up behind himself and some other ish I won’t say. When I heard that I was thinking to myself “All we’ll ever be is friends” and “I’m glad I know this stuff now instead of later”.

I met some pretty impressive azzholes this weekend that has me thinking “I’m gonna be single foreva”.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
12:31 pm

repost

That’s “Junior Wedding Fashion Line”, W8

Thank you Don Pablo!

I’m sure i can get a laugh out of myself from time to time. Life is too short, and the opputunities you miss out on laughing and living you can never regain.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
12:31 pm

@Demi- nice knowing ya..lol
@Cee- I just didn’t get it at the time..lol

Demi

May 18th, 2009
12:32 pm

Staceye…Don’t be stepping to me with this girly girl action…i want that goth look…black mini…with the whip action from you woman!!

(now go ahead and change, while I go and grab W8’s sweet’n’spicy bbQ sauce…I know he have some left over)

Don Pablo

May 18th, 2009
12:34 pm

Demi ’sup.

Nahw man I’m just a regular fella. No drug king here.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
12:36 pm

@Tmac-”Why do I feel like there are so many women up in here who trying to pretend like who they wish they are——-”

Those that are, easily expose themselves as the day goes on,but there are quite a few real one’s here also…but I do agree with you

M'

May 18th, 2009
12:36 pm

@Sassy

Dere go dat substance in a tube and the impermeable vs the permeable cataylst dropped into the mix…lol…some times you feel like a nut…some times you don’t.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
12:36 pm

@SassyOne, I definitely can identify w/your last sentence.

@Cee, it’s a basic need of mine. You must laugh a lot, act silly, enjoy life and not turn into a walking/talking robot. Time here is going by faster than we think it is.

@W8, there was a Blues Baby cartoon I kept on my fridge when my daughter was about your daughter’s age. She had a getup on that screamed has baby girl lost her mind. The mother in the cartoon decided right then and there that you have to pick your battles. Let her dress the way she want while playing in the house or even her own backyard. Now, going to school in the outfit was another story.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 18th, 2009
12:37 pm

SEXYCOOL…yep…that’s it! Small World isn’t it?

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 18th, 2009
12:38 pm

Ooompa loompa is tryin’ to get it started with that dumb ish again today, I see…..

Demi

May 18th, 2009
12:41 pm

W8…LOL…how you gon up’n'out watch me get drop into the sea…so much for the folks at home land, HA HA Haaaa!!!

…Funny story, kids help keep us young.

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 18th, 2009
12:41 pm

M I know it’s just that sometimes it gets to me. I’m strong but sometimes it leaves me a bit winded.

Leggs I know they’re not all like that but I must’ve had my “I only want to meet azzholes” sign on and didn’t know it. Go figure…….

LIONESS- Busy Bumblebee today

May 18th, 2009
12:42 pm

Good Afternoon All

Been there and didn’t find out until it was too late (feelings were already involved) so I had to deal with it until it finally ran its course.. Having a man that is ALL about his family is a rough situation because it is a double edge sword.. Either way, you will always be the one in the wrong..

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
12:44 pm

@Sassy-lol
@Demi- Don made a plea deal..sorry bro

ed

May 18th, 2009
12:45 pm

Isn’t that why women are biologically disposed to having both a husband and a lover (two different people)?

M'

May 18th, 2009
12:45 pm

@ Sassy

At least when you say something…you have something to say…long or short wind…at least it ain’t flatulence coming out of you mouth…lol

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
12:46 pm

@Lioness-How did you find out to late, were there not signs?

Melo

May 18th, 2009
12:47 pm

Tmac,the taste of the pudding(sp?Leggs?) is in the eating, bwa.Dont be shy,invite a cpple to sme dates and some romp around town.U’ll be pleasantly surprised.Take it from me,ur big bro.
Dont be intimidated by what they write here.There are some real nice,cool sisters arounf this blog.In any case,if u single,this blog is the place to be in the A!
Do u have a wallet?

Beautiful

May 18th, 2009
12:49 pm

**replace hate with love, anger with peace**

this is really not hard to do. but there’s a draw back. your haters will hate you for it!

Professor

May 18th, 2009
12:50 pm

M-

You are so correct. I feel you on that. Also I hate when people in general, but mostly guys judge me by certain things. I am not a “Material Girl” so I always cringe when someone judge me by what I am driving instead of what is driving me. In my heart of hearts I know that I am real in spite of what is on my head (weave), because it is what is in my head (brain) that truly counts.

I meant to ask if you are working in your field? Did you have to go back to grad school? Girl you made some good points to day, I need to dust off my sociology book

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2009
1:04 pm

Interesting topic. On one hand, I’ve never been the type to put on a front and act like a completely different person in the beginning, only to completely change up down the line. On the other hand, I can’t lie; I have been in relationships where things are very good in the beginning, but as time goes on, I haven’t put the woman as high on the priority list as she should have been. That is one issue that my wife has had with me for a minute, but I’m working to try to change that. We had a pretty good end of the weekend, so hopefully that will kick start things.

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
1:22 pm

LOL. Good morning to you Angie. Since it’s still morning where you are.

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2009
1:31 pm

Afternoon all,

No real issues for me on this front. Never really been the flip/flop type. Never really had this happen to me. Had a few try to graduate from jump-off to main but of course no haps for that.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
1:33 pm

@DJ- good stuff, you recognizing and making the proper adjustments for you and yours

Tish

May 18th, 2009
1:34 pm

OMG – this is a great topic! Good work Foots! . I’m a geek and I swear my fiancee LOVED my computer prowess (and exploits it from time to time) but then in counseling complains about how much time I spend on my computer LOL! On the flip side – I love(d) how much we time we spent on the phone when we were dating but now I find myself thinking (and saying) … SHHHHHH!

It’s a wash I guess …then eh?

All of these people running around here jumping, skipping, falling in love…falling in love ain’t s**t. Somebody talke to PLEASE about how to stay there…- Savon (Isaiah Washington) Love Jones

Demi

May 18th, 2009
1:35 pm

@Demi- Don made a plea deal..sorry bro….Mayne, thats cold…Ha Ha Ha

LIONESS- Busy Bumblebee today

May 18th, 2009
1:38 pm

W8- I met him while visiting Atlanta and we decided to keep in touch with each other while I was in NY. He used to fly me down here twice a month on the weekends so I never met his family.. I decided to move down here 6 months later and I stayed with him. While staying with him, he brought to my attention that his mom had an apt in the same complex AND she lived one building over.. I was like HUH? It all went downhill from there.. I moved out a month later because his family was a bit much but we continued our relationship. I knew he was the oldest of 5 kids but I didn’t know his mom depended on him for everything.. Long story short, him & I had very many discussions about his family coming before me & blah blah blah.. After 3 years, we ended our relationship because we had been through too much BS with each other and it wasn’t going to get any better..

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
1:39 pm

@Sassy, I commented back to you on your azzhole comment, but the blogmaster ate it!

There’s a lot of dawgs out there ready to bite and run back to the pound when their deed is done. Recognize upfront and keep it moving. If a sexuaul relationship is not what you want don’t sweat it. You will go crazy.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
1:41 pm

Had a few try to graduate from jump-off to main but of course no haps for that.

…Yeah, you just got through hump’n, thump’n, and puff…then the woman bust out with: “So when are you taking me out?”

You look over all slow’n'ish…and be like: “Huh?”

Demi

May 18th, 2009
1:41 pm

…Puff’n

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
1:41 pm

Still on topic?

Mo Go head and get your high-chair. I gotta gig lined up that’ll make us some money on a Reality show.

M'

May 18th, 2009
1:42 pm

@Professor

No, I have not done any grad school…I am going to circumvent the whole process and just write the books…lol…and I am self-taught computer software specialist…so that is the skill that I have been marketing for the last almost 15 years…go figure…but hey, a girl got to eat

Mayne, I am drained…I just translated a tarot card reading from English into Spanish…so much spiritual energy…wow.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
1:44 pm

LIONESS…I am glad you woke up after 3 years…I’ve seen folks going on 15/20 years…with no change in sight.

That’s not a way to live.

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2009
1:45 pm

Demi- Bruh ya better check that Plea Deal again. When the feds say Plea Deal we both know what they really mean.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
1:46 pm

M’…hey bey, I will hit you up later…I had a busy weekend.

LIONESS- Busy Bumblebee today

May 18th, 2009
1:46 pm

Demi- You know what, I don’t understand people that are like that. Happiness is a requirement in my life!! Good dyck can’t keep me ANYWHERE!!!

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2009
1:53 pm

Reading the comments about men whose families are dependent on them makes me so grateful for my family. My folks are 7 hours away, and have never interfered in my life once I got grown and moved out. It’s one thing to want to do stuff for your family from time to time, but when they start to leech off of you, it’s time to cut the strings.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
1:54 pm

Lionessaka “BusyBEE” – You’re not cooking, “gettin’ hair did”, killing someone’s cat, or slappin’ a fool for forwarding that KFC coupon, today?

Well, i’m surprised???

Demi

May 18th, 2009
1:55 pm

(Good dyck can’t keep me ANYWHERE!!!)

Lioness…only a few years, huh?

Bey, that’s all I need!! Let’s get this party started, LOL

(lioness is now attempting to claw one of Demi’s eyes out)

Demi

May 18th, 2009
2:00 pm

You never really know a person until you live with them…

M'

May 18th, 2009
2:01 pm

@Demi

Cool…I am in for the day…not ready to venture out much and too far…done got internet social…lol…and at the moment that is fine with me…lol…nut that I am.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
2:01 pm

Are we still discussing, you can’t live with ‘em and you can’t live without ‘em?

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
2:01 pm

Doesn’t “Hawthorne” – Jada Pinkett’s new show air tonight?

M'

May 18th, 2009
2:02 pm

LMAO @ Cee’s 1:54 @ Lioness…where my coupon at???…lol

LIONESS- Busy Bumblebee today

May 18th, 2009
2:04 pm

Hey Cee Sweetness! LOL! Thank you for the daily blog LOL! Greatly Appreciated

DJ- I agree!

Once I get a chance, I will go back and read the comments..

Professor- LOL @ putting “weave” in parenthesis!

Demi- Watch yourself

Demi

May 18th, 2009
2:04 pm

DJ Sniper…it depends. Some times you just gotta do what you gotta do. I am help my mom with her medical bill…that ish is rough, but thank goodness I am at a place in my life were I can help my mom and pay my bill too!! LOL

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
2:04 pm

Cemeeli what channel is airing that show?

Demi

May 18th, 2009
2:05 pm

LIONESS…yes ma’am, young lady.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
2:09 pm

Cemeeli – Not taking anything from Jada or her talent, am I the only one that sees this show as a bootleg attempt to copy Shonda and Grey’s? (Keeping in mind that I’ve only seen the commercials, that’s the first responding thought that crossed my mind.)

However, I will check it out and hopefully be able to judge it on its own merit.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
2:12 pm

SexyCool I actually thought that about Grey’s versus the long running ER. I only starting watching Grey’s because I curious when I heard Shondra was the writer. Not that I watched ER all that much but I was curious.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
2:15 pm

SexyCool…has my girl jada, alway been that thin? Baby is looking stressed out. I guess t.v. sitcom does that to you…I have my fingers cross as well…I don’t want my baby canceled after two shows.

Shoot…Jada has been my girl since menace to society…ghetto braids’n'all.

Roller3

May 18th, 2009
2:17 pm

He was a church-going, devout kinda man, which I thought meant stable, serious and kind. Turned out it really meant he thought he could do anything — and I mean anything — and I’d have to accept it because we were married in the church and God doesn’t like divorce.

I think God doesn’t like people abusing their spouses.

Melo

May 18th, 2009
2:18 pm

am I the only one that sees this show as a bootleg attempt to copy Shonda and Grey’s?

SexxyCl,stop the female biaatching..if both sisters are talented,let them do what they gotta do.How many sisters are in this bish of writing successful shows anyway? See….

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 18th, 2009
2:18 pm

Afternoon All!!!

Great topic, not sure if you’re still on it. This song trips me out – I like it, but I don’t like it because I’ve had a relationship fail because of this very thing. Not the overly possessiveness, but a dude admiring/liking something about me and then deciding he can’t handle it later on.

I’ve got a scar on my left cheek that’s been there since I was 10 (almost 29 years) – people have known me for years and then one day ask ‘what happened to your cheek’ I know I’m late with that one, but Raqi and Mo’s examples made me think of it

GO DENVER!!!

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
2:20 pm

Demi I know you didn’t ask me but…

IMO Jada being almost 40 and she has always had somewhat hard sharp features her age is starting to show. Angela Bassett and few others looks to have aged better than Jada. Angela B has a more softer look and features IMO.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
2:23 pm

Raqi – I never made that connection because I’ve never watched a whole episode of ER.

Demi – Jada is looking super-narrow these days especially when you consider that the camera adds ten pounds. But then too, she ain’t never been bigger than a minute.

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
2:24 pm

Raqi – I agree, she actually might look a little better with a little more meat on her bones. Still an attractive sister though.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 18th, 2009
2:25 pm

I haven’t really watched the previews for Hawthorne, but I’m planning to watch the show just because Jada’s in it. I think it’s going to be on TNT for some reason – maybe because I’ve seen the previews during the games….who knows.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
2:25 pm

As I hold my palms out for the fans to give me my paddling. I know I’ll be a “blasphemous” when I say this, buuuuuuttttt….

I’m not a “Grey’s Anatomy” viewer so I wouldn’t know whether “Hawthorne” would compare to Grey’s. I just have noticed the 100,111,111 times they have shown the commercial with Jada as a nurse looking stern as if the show will give something new.

I said I’ll give it a try or two. It airs on TNT network, dunno the time.

Deacon Demi

May 18th, 2009
2:25 pm

He was a church-going, devout kinda man…

STOP RIGHT THERRRRE!!!/STRONG>

That is a classic sign dude is crazy and may whip on yo a$$, while being filled with the Holy Ghost!!

Let the Bloooooo’gh’, stay A….MEN!!!

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
2:26 pm

Lioness No problem sis. I amd here for your entertainment.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
2:27 pm

Kimmie yeah she is pretty. Her features are just kinda sharp edged which can add an aged look at certain angles. And yes she is super petite.

Melo

May 18th, 2009
2:28 pm

Speaking of Angela Basset,she wld have killed that Obsession wife Beyonce played..i think.She has a natural ugly mouth that gets long when acting angry.And crying comes naturally to her.She wld have killed it.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
2:28 pm

Melo – so, if I had been a man that made that observation, it would have been fine? Melo, every now and then, you come back with a response that makes me want to emphatically invite you to go to H#ll. This is just such a time.

I will even continue to entertain your bullsh!t comment by pointing out my intent to support her show with its seeming similarities to Grey’s. I really don’t give a crap how many medical dramas there are on television. My only concern is that the entertainment that I choose to spend minutes of my life actually be ENTERTAINING – unlike some of the adolescent oversexed drivel you have a tendency to lean towards.

And that was said with MUCH blog love.

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
2:29 pm

LMAO. Did Sassy just call someone an Oompa Loompah?

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
2:29 pm

looking stern

Cemeeli that is her look.

Deacon Demi

May 18th, 2009
2:29 pm

Raqi..you maybe right…Imma see if I can find some swim suit photos of Jada online…If I see a rib, Demi will be p!ss!!!

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
2:33 pm

SexyCool

Not taking anything from Jada or her talent, am I the only one that sees this show as a bootleg attempt to copy Shonda and Grey’s?

C’mon SexyCool, of course.

There are very few original ideas in two areas. (1) Automaking and (2) Entertainment

For Example: Friends is just the Caucasian version of Livin’ Single. (A group of men living near A group of girls. One of the girls marry one of the guys, yada, yada, yada)

Foots

May 18th, 2009
2:34 pm

YAY!! My topic made the cut! But yeah, it would be on a day when our network wouldn’t let me access the blog until now…

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
2:35 pm

SCool – Thank you for your 2:28! I have pointed out to Melo a few times where a man has practically said the same thing & it’s okay, but let it be one of us ladies and he feels the need to scold!

I’m down for my sisters and all that they do, but that does not mean I can’t offer constructive criticism, just like I would about anyone else.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
2:35 pm

Raqi – hmmm maybe someone should give her pink hair-barrettes back.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
2:36 pm

Friends is hilarious.

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

I’m kinda interested in Hawthorne myself. I think I’ll give it a shot, especially since all my other shows(Fringe, Supernatural, Terminator) have all ended. I do still have Rescue Me to keep me entertained during the week.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
2:37 pm

Jada has always been tiny even when she was on A Different World.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
2:38 pm

emphatically invite you to go to H#ll.

Melo – See, there is a place for Toto!

Leee folk alone.

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 18th, 2009
2:40 pm

There’s a lot of dawgs out there ready to bite and run back to the pound when their deed is done. Recognize upfront and keep it moving. If a sexuaul relationship is not what you want don’t sweat it. You will go crazy.

Leggs It’s not sexual b/c I’ve had kept one on the side for the wood before…what I don’t like is the b/s some try to push and the smoke they blow up my azz thinking I’ll be impressed with the mediocre frivolities that they seem so focused on. My name is not Lisa Lunchmeat and I don’t like when I get approached with some obviously suspect game. I don’t like having my time wasted and in turn I don’t waste anyone else’s…..

Melo

May 18th, 2009
2:44 pm

Enter your comments here

i'm swiss

May 18th, 2009
2:47 pm

Howdy, folks. I’m way late & don’t have time to catch up, however…

I promised to post this a while back & I’ve finally got my home server back online after the move to Swiss Miss’s place, so here’s a link to my bootleg recording of Prince live @ Phillips Arena from a few years back:

http://karaokebus.tzo.com/files/Concert%20Bootlegs/Prince/

You’ll be prompted to login — just use:

Username: superfreak
Password: jenny8675309

Actually, if you navigate around the parent directories, there’s a crap-load of other stuff up there as well. Not sure how much of it will be of interest to anyone (I am a white boy, remember), but knock yourselves out…

Hope everyone’s having a great day…

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 18th, 2009
2:48 pm

Did Sassy just call someone an Oompa Loompah?

I did Ared ….it was like a reflex or something

Melo

May 18th, 2009
2:48 pm

Enter your comments here
Leee folk alone
Cee, i will!

SexxyL really went nyucular there(As George Bish wld say,for nuclear)

I-85

May 18th, 2009
2:48 pm

At first I liked my gf when she drank and was outgoing but now I am about to leave her cos she kinda alcoholic. But sex is gr8 when she is drunk. Deep down I know I can’t live with her with the way things are. Please help I am torn

Demi

May 18th, 2009
2:49 pm

Terminator…I really enjoyed that show…for now…Smallville is okay, for now.

For those who can view youtube on cell phones…check out Joshua and katee hip hop routine to “no air”…they ended the song beautifully.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
2:49 pm

As far as Hawthorne goes, It made me think to Diahann Carroll’s show Julia in that they are both nurses.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
2:50 pm

I thought I was crazy…I-85, stop picking up woman from “Pink Pony”.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
2:51 pm

LOL, Melo – you know how I feel about all that ‘you female’ generalization stuff that YOU MEN tend to do. LOL!!!

It can get me steamed!!! Obviously…

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
2:52 pm

Smallville still comes on?

I used to watch it but after a while it seemed to be too much Dawson’s Creek-like and less Superman.
I lost interest.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
2:55 pm

LOL Poppa I hate all of those hyper teenage shows. 90210, Dawson Creek, Smallville, Gossip Girls, and all of the rest of them. Anything that has teenagers acting way older than the ought.

LIONESS- Busy Bumblebee today

May 18th, 2009
2:55 pm

85- You might be the one that has the drinking problem typing that BS

I-85

May 18th, 2009
2:55 pm

@ Demi – I am not crazy but thats the real truth. It’s just hard to make some1 your wife who’s way too outgoing than me. I go out but she is off the chain. Every Friday and Sat and sometimes midweek she is out.

Kym-24- 2 hours -tonight? I'm there

May 18th, 2009
2:56 pm

Are we talking tv now? Go get’em Jack Bauer!!! July is coming..and so comes Saving Grace, Leverage, ohh yeah and my boy is back in June..BURN NOTICE!!

Now back to your regularly schedule blog already in progress.

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2009
2:58 pm

I-85

Not taking a shot at ya but was she like that when you met her???

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
2:58 pm

Football season please get here soon
@Demi- Homey is not doing it right..lol

Sassy Me....Mmm, mmm, good :-)

May 18th, 2009
2:59 pm

I-85, stop picking up woman from “Pink Pony”.

I’ve never been but would I seem weird if I said I wanna go?

At first I liked my gf when she drank and was outgoing but now I am about to leave her cos she kinda alcoholic. But sex is gr8 when she is drunk. Deep down I know I can’t live with her with the way things are. Please help I am torn

On the real Demi if your gf means alot to you thenI would at first calmly, share with her how you feel and suggest some changes that you BOTH agree on. Don’t attack or seem argumentative as that will cause her to retreat. If things don’t change then you may have to make some other decisions,some of which she may not like. You have to be responsible for YOUR own happiness.

I-85

May 18th, 2009
3:00 pm

@Dynamite – Yes I knew she was like that but I thought we were jus kicking it. But I wudn’t want some1 like that for a wife. It’s double standards on my part but I am being honest to myself.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
3:00 pm

I liked my gf when she drank and was outgoing but now I am about to leave her cos she kinda alcoholic

I-85 see you kinda got the idea. But auh, did she try to microwave a cat or something when you realized she was a lush?

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:01 pm

LOL 85 what are you saying, party girls aren’t so fun after the party? Or when they “Party all the time”?

Hell who told Eddie Murphy he could sing? They lied big time. LOL

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:01 pm

Kym

I’m with you on Burn Notice.

You can have Jack Bauer, Leverage, The Closer (that is a horrible Atlanta accent), Raising the Bar, & CSI – Stockbridge, etc.

LIONESS- Busy Bumblebee today

May 18th, 2009
3:02 pm

Demi IS 85? WOW!

Roller3

May 18th, 2009
3:03 pm

Deacon Demi (2:25 pm)
didn’t even need the Holy ghost excuse cuz he would beat anybody over the head with the bible any time, being so much better than the rest of the sinners and all, then come home a raise hell. Really.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
3:03 pm

@Lioness- Be nice
@Kym- I love “24″
@Kimmie- GO Dawgs!!
@Pg- wassup man
@I-85- Is this something new or was she like that when you met her? At any point sit her down talk to her and hey sometimes things dont work out…but it is “mating season” in Atlanta when it starts to get warm out people get antsy and relationships end for some

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:03 pm

24 comes on @ 8pm tonight?

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:05 pm

Jack Bauer??? When does that guy ever sleep???

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2009
3:05 pm

85-have you had this talk with her?

Mo (aka Moeisha- in such a Funk)

May 18th, 2009
3:05 pm

Cemeeli – girl I cant lug around the high chair but I keeps a booster seat so we are good!!

Demi – dont folks know that in the job of Cut Buddy-ist there is no room for advancement?! You cant be promoted from CB to main squeeze…folk trying to mess thangs up…

Ok so whats the topic again?? And why cant I shake this funk of a mood Im in???

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
3:06 pm

@I-85:”Yes I knew she was like that but I thought we were jus kicking it. But I wudn’t want some1 like that for a wife. It’s double standards on my part but I am being honest to myself.”

Sounds like you caught feelings bro and she is just handling business as usual..

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:07 pm

Further proof that entertainment has lost originality….There was a Knight Rider show last year, A-Team movie is in the works and is set to be released in 2010. Miami Vice was a movie nearly 20 years after the show was on TV. (The movie “Sparkle” was on BET yesterday. Philip Michael Thomas is one old dude. Irene Cara ain’t no spring Chicken)

The movie “Fame” comes out later this year. (Debbie Allen is head of the school. But there who will replace Leroy?)

It goes on and on.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 18th, 2009
3:08 pm

SWISS…”Username: superfreak Password: jenny8675309″ You are a hot mess! A Rick James song for your User and an 80’s throwback for the password?

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
3:08 pm

Smallville’s a good show!

@I-85, your case is right on this topic. You liked it at first, but now you don’t. Have you guys discussed her drinking? Are you making snide remarks to her about it (which won’t work) or are you buying her liquor/wine/coolers??

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:08 pm

We all know you can’t tell anyone that consumes WAY TOO MUCH alcohol that they are an alcoholic.. Waste of time..

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
3:09 pm

@Lioness- it comes on tonight the Finale I think..times to not call W8, during weekends with my daughter, If the Bulldawgs or Falcons are playing or if 24 is on..lmao

@Raqi- Nope the whole season takes place in one 24 hour day

@Mo- Make it plain for him please..lol

I-85

May 18th, 2009
3:10 pm

Raqi – It goes with today’s topic, at first it was nice and dendi but now to get serious, ohhh NO.

W-8 – I know what she is gonna say ” You met me like this and you knew this is what I am like.” She already has her defense ready. The problem is I like her BUT Minus the alcohol/outgoing

Lioness – Yep I know I went too far now and it’s all my fault thus why I am trying to correct that.

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:10 pm

Leggs- LOL!!!

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:10 pm

W8

@Pg- wassup man

Nuthin’ but the price of gas. But I’m sure that you already knew that. I live downtown and only fill up about once every two weeks. I just really noticed it this morning when I got gas.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
3:11 pm

@Staceye I thought I was the only one who caught the 867530 niiinnnnnnneeeeeeeeee

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
3:12 pm

Regarding Hawthorne

One of my friends is in programming for Turner. He really wants folks to support the show. The network execs are nervous…they have never greenlit a show with a black female as the lead. If the show flops they won’t be very receptive to creating such shows in the future.

They’ve seen the success of House of Payne and Meet the Browns on TBS, which let them know that such shows can work. However, TNT is thinking this may be a one and done if no one supports.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
3:12 pm

As someone who drinks only in social situations, I have a hard time understanding people who sit around the house and drink themselves drunk.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 18th, 2009
3:13 pm

Yup Lioness 24 @ 8:00 tonight. The two hour season finale. I’ve got my HD hooked up to the home theater system to listen to the bullets flying LOUD. This has been a greeeeaaaatttt season!!! Possibly the best since the first season. I wrote in Jack Bauer for Prez four years ago when I could not in good conscience vote for Bush or Kerry. Figured Jack could save the world in 24 hours (one hour per week but 24 weeks is okay).

On another note, just read where Cynthia Nixon from Sex In The City just announced her engagement to another lady. It is getting downright unfashionable to be straight I guess. I wonder if I still have time to become a lesbian too…just to be current you understand.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:13 pm

I-85

The problem is I like her BUT Minus the alcohol/outgoing

You can’t change someone else. She has to want to change for HERSELF & NOT YOU. Therefore, you know the deal. Its on you to make the best decision for you.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
3:13 pm

@I-85 – Hey man can’t change anybody, they have to want to change themselves or they will revert back…it may be hard but leave her alone..you will get over it..eventually

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 18th, 2009
3:17 pm

@I-85 I heard Tony Robinson (that TV self-help guru) say something once that made a lot of sense. He said that the only way people change a bad habit or behavior is if the pain of continuing is greater than the pain or the bad habit. Many never get there from drinking…until they have an accident or something…or they love their children enough to change.

i'm swiss

May 18th, 2009
3:17 pm

Staceye & -W8 — Yes, I am a child of the 80s.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
3:17 pm

The season finale of 24 tonight is going to be FABULOUS!

@PoppaG, you went all the way back to Julia.

@I-85, you say you don’t want someone like that for your wife because it would be a double standard for you. So, what are you doing about. Keeping her in your hip pocket while you look for someone much more worthy? If that’s what you’re doing is that fair. Since you seem to be looking for a wife why not end this one since it won’t end down the road you’re wanting to go down. Who’s stringing whom along!

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 18th, 2009
3:18 pm

Re my comment above

I meant when the pain of keeping the bad habit is greater than the pain of changing. Sorry

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:18 pm

Sexy- Me neither.. My coworker is a funtioning alcoholic.. Very sad! People who become addicted to things have an addictive personality.. There is NO WAY I could be addited to anything but…

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:18 pm

Poppa there are only so many ways that you can go with televised entertainment. That’s why it nice to find a writer takes the old and put a new spin on it. About like these blog topics. Only so many avenues a relationship can go in. It has to presented in a different way to keep the audiences attention.

I think the reality television was an interesting change in prime time televised entertainment. Although most of them are just plain ridiculous, it was an attempt in something new.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
3:18 pm

I-85 Are you an offical lurker? If so…THANKS for your story.

I was about to say something else real thupid, but i got a text and i’m causing folks to really catch’a asthma attack from laughing.

Please forgive me for calling your lady a lush. I ain’t mean it like that, K?

dapps

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:19 pm

85- Are you serious? You can’t be! How old are you?

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:20 pm

Cee-LMAO!

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:20 pm

They’ve seen the success of House of Payne and Meet the Browns on TBS

Amazon I think Tyler Perry is paying somebody under the table to keep those shows aired. Entertainment blasphemy.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
3:23 pm

O – okay. I didn’t call her a lush. I asked if she was a lush?

Okay, i need to …

Mo Please bring the steep stool ova here so i can use it to dust off the top of my cabniets. They are really missing the cleaning crew at night. hmmph…do i need to complain. All the sneezing…

Kym-24- 2 hours -tonight? I'm there

May 18th, 2009
3:24 pm

PoppaG

Mike Weston is the man. As for your opinion of Jack Bauer..when the revolution comes you will be looking for Jack to save you. LOL@ CSI-Stockbridge( I haven’t watched CSI in a min but I want the video game) Have you ever watched Damages? Lord Glen Close is a just awesome. Patty Hewes is a bad woman.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 18th, 2009
3:25 pm

How is it that House of Payne and Meet the Browns is ’successful’ but The Game is going off the air.

Definitely watching Hawthorne, but isn’t it going up against 24 (which I do not watch)?

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:26 pm

Leggs

@PoppaG, you went all the way back to Julia

Its pretty sad that I had to go back that far for something comparable. There aren’t many shows with black female dramatic leads, and even fewer that have their name in the title.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 18th, 2009
3:27 pm

There aren’t many shows with black female dramatic leads, and even fewer that have their name in the title

Ain’t that the truth!

Professor

May 18th, 2009
3:29 pm

@ -I-85 you might as well leave her on the next exit because she is who she is…you changed and caught feelings.

@ ARed- I am not much of a TV watcher (I used to love Prison Break), but I will try to remember to tune in.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
3:30 pm

You’re absolutely right, PoppaG, and to have to go that far back should be an eyeopener for the tv executives. What am I say, hell, they don’t care!

@Raqi, I too do not understand why House of Payne is still on the air. But, must admit I said the same thing abt The Bernic Mac show when it first aired. I thought he looked and acted like a buffoon when it first aired. Turned out to be a decent enough show!

Roller3

May 18th, 2009
3:30 pm

shallow group yall are

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:31 pm

Tazzee

House of Payne and Meet the Browns have the power of Turner behind them. Hous

The Game has the CW. Viacom is only willing to go so far. Viacom doesn’t seem to fund the CW shows like they fund CBS, MTV, etc. The one exception is America Next Top Model.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 18th, 2009
3:32 pm

Poppa Grande comments about TV’s lack of originality reminds me of the only other TV show I watch (besides “24″) with any consistency and that is “Dexter” on Showtime. It is definitely original to have a serial murderer as the star and hero of the show. I have tried to analyze what that says about me to be cheering for a serial killer. Weird.

Kym-24- 2 hours -tonight? I'm there

May 18th, 2009
3:32 pm

@Raqi you got that right..House of Shuck and Jive, Meet the Ignorants..that is some of the worst programming ever. All they need is some cotton fields and a few yes sir bosses. Yeah I said it..I had support for Tyler P back in the day but now-Foolishness!!!

I will watch Hawthorne..give Jada a chance.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2009
3:33 pm

Tazzie Mae Jekins – If you ain’t never told the truth before in YO’ LIFE, you told the truth in your 325p comment!!!!

And did you see the one hour episode Friday? And will SOMEbody PLEASE tell me that it was NOT the last ONE?!?!?!?!?!??????

(mild hyperventilation here – lol)

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
3:34 pm

Anyone seen the Spongebob prom dress?

wow!

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
3:34 pm

@Tazzee- I just started watching the game this year..lol i’ve 63 episode on DVR i think I watched the finale the other day..baby born, derwin married med school and kelly knocked tasha out? Is that the finale or is there more?

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:34 pm

Leggs in order for that to be a decent show T. Perry needs to scrap it and start all over. One of the ladies here is married to a fireman and they make half way decent money.

How is it that boy cannot get out of his uncle’s house and get a place for him and his kids? That show is just dumb. Everytime I need I want to give it another try it disappoints me all over again. LOL

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2009
3:35 pm

Regarding 85’s situation; I’m not gonna assume ol girl is now a lush or an alcoholic. Just going by what I read it seems she’s no more the party type than him. Thing is he wants to grow the relationship and ol girl doesn’t see it that way. In my opinion she’s given you a reason to slow down hangin but Ion think you’ve given her a reason to slow down.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:36 pm

Kym

As for your opinion of Jack Bauer..when the revolution comes you will be looking for Jack to save you.

I’ll take my chances. Dude must drink a lot of Red Bull. That is a lot to pack into 24 hours. My suspension of disbelief won’t suspend for this show. I don’t hate on those that like it though. It’s better than more “reality” shows.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:37 pm

I haven’t seen the finale of the game…thanks W8 for ruining it for me. LOL

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:37 pm

Cee- Email me your email address.. michellecamille@live.com

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
3:38 pm

Son’s on Anarchy- another good tv show last year

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:38 pm

That is a lot to pack into 24 hours

Poppa I know. That show is just too far out there with him doing all that he does in a 24 hours span.

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
3:40 pm

Amazon I think Tyler Perry is paying somebody under the table to keep those shows aired. Entertainment blasphemy.

Raqi – I agree. I told my Turner programming friend that I don’t watch it, nor do any of the black people I know. He said that he didn’t know a lot of blacks who watched it either.

If the numbers are what they say they are, then SOMEONE is watching if the black people arent’ which is encouraging. That’s why networks like TNT are willing to take a gamble. It doesnt’ hurt that Jada’s husband has a WIDE crossover appeal to all races.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
3:40 pm

@Raqi- oopsssss LOL, I still left out some out.

Melo

May 18th, 2009
3:41 pm

One of the ladies here is married to a fireman and they make half way decent money.
How is it that boy cannot get out of his uncle’s house and get a place for him and his kids?

U arent coherent Raqi!! but neva mind tho if u talking about House of Payne..

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:43 pm

Kym I like some of T. Perry’s movies. But those two sitcoms and those ridiculous stage shows have to go.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
3:44 pm

Anh how in the mess did Lil Kim become a contestant on “Dancin’ with Stars”?

Okay yall…

Melo

May 18th, 2009
3:44 pm

I think Perry wld have better ratings and more money on BET…u think?

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
3:45 pm

WilleD What chu’ tryna say? I mentioned the Lush. I know of 1-85. Holla at cha’ girl.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
3:47 pm

…auh, em>what she want?

Lioness -Sis, if you don’t know nothing about putting 24s on my Chevy, I cain’t fool with you lil mamma.

Holl at cha’ girl.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:48 pm

Tazzee, AR, Raqi

My feeling is that people are watching it, but not admitting that they do.

I mean Tyler Perry’s Chitlin Circuit plays (Meet the Browns is one of them) have done extremely well. I saw DVD copies of the plays on sale by the register at Walgreens. There has to be some market for them to go that far. It is even in syndication and under legal rules there has to be a separate contract for each channel on which it plays. Therefore, there is a syndication contract for TBS and a separate syndication contract for Peachtree TV.

Why would Turner go that far if they didn’t get the numbers?

For Real

May 18th, 2009
3:49 pm

Chick: Hi my name is Tanateshia and I have been sober for 12.. no 13 minutes.

Dude: Hey Tanateshia my name is I-85.

Kym: I’m with you on Burn Notice and Leverage. My other show is Breaking Bad.

I want believe anything on 24 until I see him take a pizz break, a nap and limp.

Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 18th, 2009
3:50 pm

W8…I was an MTV head as a lil kid. So I know a lot of songs from the 80’s! Bon Jovi was one of my favorites…so much that even now I have a dance to Blaze of Glory.

Speaking of Tyler Perry…I was shocked to see him in Star Trek. I did not know he was in it.

ARED…I will have to record Hawthorne. Gotta watch the season finale of Gossip Girl & One Tree Hill. It comes on at what time?

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:54 pm

For Real- God Bless You!

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
3:55 pm

Poppa I tried watching one of TP’s stage shows on DVD at a friend’s house during one of our girls nights out, and that darn thing was like 1-1/2 hours too long. It just gets stupid after a while. After the first thirty minutes or so it’s just stupid. He needs to make them shorter, maybe.

But I will agree that someone out there is watching because he continues to make them. And I would be willing to watch the sitcom if he just did something different with it. Watching those shows are about like watching the Rosanne shows… Makes me want to stab myself in the eyes.

LIONESS- It is Freezing in my Office!

May 18th, 2009
3:55 pm

Have a good evening everyone..

Cee- You got mail

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
3:56 pm

Pretty much if you look at TV programming as a whole the “Sit-Com” is pretty close to being dead. So, it doesn’t take much for House of Payne to be a successful sitcom. What competition does it have?…Jim Belushi’s horrible sit-com. Even George Lopez’s show is gone.

I-85

May 18th, 2009
3:56 pm

Cemeelia – No I aint like that…

@ Lioness – YES I am serious and I am 30 she is 25

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
3:57 pm

Testing, testing, testing….

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:02 pm

Tyler Perry showed love and was shown alot of love during the strike a few years back…and people are spending money on him. I skipped over it a year or so ago…now I may catch the occasional episode…seems like the story line is better now-a-days..His plays ahh hell no…i cant watch them..I hate all of that singing etc..

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:03 pm

Sassy…what I do? I is no i-85.

Lioness…I don’t date women who drank more than I do…beside, me them cops on I-85 don’t seem to get along…so I will never stake claim on that route…that’s not me bey.

i-85…time to check your feelings out. There are plenty of ladies at New Birth, who are more than able to give you what you’re looking for…without the heavy drinking.

Mo…did you just school me…yeen right!!! LOL

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
4:04 pm

The 30 minute spots that I like are The Big Bang Theory, Rules of Engagement and Two and Half Men. The Game when I remember it is on.
I like the reruns of Friends, Seinfield, The Family Guy and Drew Carey (Sunday evenings).

Poppa George Lopez comes on over in the night but I can’t remember which night. I caught it one night when I got up to go to the bathroom. I think it is on CW.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
4:04 pm

Cemeelia – No I aint like that…

I-85 – I know!

Lioness – Look out for me in that bubblegum orange Chevy roll up on you with 24s and my matching outfit.

Don’t be scurred, check your mail.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
4:05 pm

Raqi

He sells out the Fox everytime he plays here. My friends in Tallahassee says that same thing happens down there. Tampa has good sales down there. He travels around with those plays in which he dresses like a woman. Heck, my mom has been to a couple with her friends. (She doesn’t go to them all, though)

With that in mind, he has a built following already. Note that they always put his name on the show. It isn’t just called House of Payne, it is called Tyler Perry’s House of Payne. (Same thing goes for Meet the Browns) They are marketing him just as much as the show.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:06 pm

@Demi- Don’t steer him towards church girls….geesh if I had a nickel for everytime “the Lord told someone I was their husband”

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
4:08 pm

3 of my posts are gone!!! Testing???

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
4:08 pm

I saw George Lopez on Nick on Nite back when I was studying for finals.

That show ended in 2007.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
4:09 pm

Leggs

The mouse that powers the blog must be sick today. He can’t keep the power going.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:10 pm

@Ce-lol@ the box Chevy wit da trunk rattlin!!!…aint no colleges in College Park!!

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
4:10 pm

“if I had a nickel for everytime “the Lord told someone I was their husband”

aahhhaa….now way in HAYO can i deal with you saying that ^^^^, and my silly personality at the same time! AINT NO WAY!

W8 NOw see…I’m cain’t breath….

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2009
4:10 pm

Similac- what I do???

Anybody got a Boondocks update? Any new shows or am i just missing something.

Raqi...32 Days to ML

May 18th, 2009
4:11 pm

Poppa I will give him his props on some of the movies. I love The House that Preys. Excellent script and exceptional cast. I like one of the others but I can’t remember which one.

But those shows…just to darn long. Maybe it’s the set that I get annoyed by. The one or maybe two back drops and added with the over the top comedy. Fingernails on a chalkboard.

Kym-24- 2 hours -tonight? I'm there

May 18th, 2009
4:12 pm

George lopez is on Nick at Nite. I am not a fan of sitcoms..I liked “How I Met Your Mother” but I got tired of waiting on who the mom was..so I switched. I watch cartoons before some of the sit-coms
Penguins of Madagascar is the best.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
4:14 pm

Willie Dynamite

The last that I heard is that MacGruder was done with it. The station wanted to censor him a bit more. Like the episodes that aired in Canada, but not here. He didn’t like that. He was a bit hard on BET in one of them, but they deserve it.

He either has or will finish his strip as well.

Lord Velonese

May 18th, 2009
4:14 pm

I think this whole topic deserves a giant FACE PALM, sheesh those reasons stated by WD or foots have to be the most epic fail people I have ever heard of. But to stay on topic I’d leave an indecisive chick in a heart beat regardless of what excuses she came up with. I can’t stand a person who can’t make up there own mind. You know folks, you can’t always have your cake and eat it, deal with it. That’s why I stay single, Most women would not know what to do or how to treat a real man if a real man landed in there lap. Oh wait I know either rob him blind or take out there past flops on him, go figure.

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2009
4:14 pm

Kym, I’m a fan of Damages as well. Patty Hewes damn sure ain’t no joke. She doesn’t give a damn who she has to screw over in order to get what she wants. Very good show. I can’t wait to see what they have in store for next season now that Ellen has gotten some closure about her fiancee’s murder.

W8, I’m feening for football season as well. I’ll be going through sports withdrawal once the NBA season is done. I give less than a damn about baseball. Just bring on the start of training camp and I will be fine. lol

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:16 pm

W@WillieD- I’m waiting on the Boondocks also…but I cant find any information..oh yeah “Willie Dynomite” one of my favorite movies…who knew he was the same guy who played on Gordon Sesame Street..lol

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:17 pm

Bullish…

That is because dude reminds you of Alien Nation.

Beautiful

May 18th, 2009
4:18 pm

did anyone see COLLEGE HILL? lol. when the guy made the chick pay $10 for the ribs she stole. THEN he wouldn’t except the $10. he made the heffa put the $10 BACK in the microwave where she found the ribs. lol.

y’all have a cool one! it’s 102 degrees out here.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:20 pm

I really try and stay away form BET..that Boondocks parody was hilarious, but the dude jilted McGruder so he had it coming.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
4:20 pm

I was asking 85 if his old-lady was a lush earlier, i thought you were on my tip tryna offer that i’d called her out as a lush.…

WillieD Bruh, i’m trippin’ dont’ mind me. I think i just need to hymmn somebody up in the corner somewhere, den I’d probably be alright after i get that outta me.

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May 18th, 2009
4:23 pm

Off topic scenario: My friend needs feedback, especially from men (cuz you know what her girlfriends have told her)

Say you’ve been single for a few years (perhaps casually dated, but no true loves). One of your exes and you broke up on good terms several years ago, primarily because of the distance, but also because there wasn’t a true future between you two, but it sure was fun for a little while. Once a year your ex comes to visit just to hang out. They typically stay at your place because it’s cheaper than a hotel. You two are friends now. The type of friends who can talk about dating new people without getting all jealous and wishful about what you used to have.

Your ex books a trip in April to come visit you in August. You start dating somebody in May. End of July you are still dating that person and it’s looking pretty good (it’s exclusive, and you really like them).

What should you do about the ex that’s coming to visit in a month?

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2009
4:23 pm

Pops- Preciate that. I figured it was gonna be a backlash about the BET thing. I think it really started getting bad for him after the MLK episode (Classic). Missing him and Chappelle.

W8- hows that for type casting. You go from putting a chick on notice to Sesame Street.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:23 pm

@Ce- I Love giong to Church and being active but I will not date a church woman, the women in the ministry I lead all laugh when I talk about it, if a girl hits on me in church I fleeeeeee!!! nope nada aint gonna happen…been there done that..nope

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
4:24 pm

Wikipedia states that there are some episode in production to air in late 2009.

But it also states that Aaron has had to deal with issues in regards to statements that he made about President Obama not being black as well. Then McGruder issued statements that he was misquoted and all that mess.

So, I guess that we’ll see.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:27 pm

@Ared- Tell him not to come or talk to the current and see if he is cool with it..but by no means would the ex be staying at the girls house.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:28 pm

(That’s why I stay single, Most women would not know what to do or how to treat a real man if a real man landed in their lap.)

Wow…your whole post read: “Bitter Rell” (not rell of the blog). Could it be…You are a boy in men clothing?

I am just going by the info you put out.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:31 pm

What should you do about the ex that’s coming to visit in a month?

Be up front and honest. Just let your friend know you are seen some one on a serious level.

If he is a real friend, he will step aside and allow your relationship to grow.

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2009
4:32 pm

Similac- Gone and get it out ya system without catching a case. I’m tripping off you and your Bubblegum Orange Chevy with the matching outfit.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:33 pm

>>>seeing

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
4:34 pm

Wow Demi! You almost sound like Alvin!

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2009
4:35 pm

Did somebody say new episodes of Boondocks are on the way? Please let that be true. I have both seasons on the hard drive at home, and I watch them whenever I needs a good laugh. The R. Kelly trial was a classic. lmao

ARed, part of me says that the woman in your scenario should tell the ex to find another spot to stay, since she’s exclusive with the new guy. On the other hand, there’s always the chance that the ex won’t try to make a move at all. Hell, when I met my wife, she was roommates with one of her ex’s from a few years ago, and everything was cool. He was in a relationship of his own, so I never felt threatened or anything.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
4:35 pm

The ex can’t stay at her place if she expects to continue in the relationship.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:36 pm

A.red…now tell her home girl not to talk about her friend with knew dude…I don’t like for my lady friends to do that…sometimes you gotta know when to “X” yourself out of the picture.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:37 pm

>>>>ared, tell your homegirl…sorry

>>>>new…i am trippin

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
4:38 pm

if a girl hits on me in church I fleeeeeee!!! nope nada aint gonna happen…been there done that..nope

Cee now commencing to pour W8 with oil, along with the sister-ens from the Greater Harvest–Missionary- Episcopal-AME-COGIC Baptist Church “Sheet Ministry”, and praying “Da devil to get the from here!”

While strongly choking Brother Eight into an induced comma until he marries’s sister Odessa’s youngest daughter Malia.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:39 pm

AmazonRed…it was. I forgot to change my sceen name.

Melo

May 18th, 2009
4:40 pm

Hell, when I met my wife, she was roommates with one of her ex’s from a few years ago, and everything was cool

Cool??

Hw can u be Cool when ur chic is sitting right by the alligator’s jaw?

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:41 pm

>>>screen

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
4:41 pm

Amred – This is real easy to me. If girl & ex are such good “buddies” as you described, even talk about new dates to each other, it is simple. Ex can’t stay at girl’s house. He should have enough money saved up to afford a hotel by now. Ex should completely understand – if he truly is an “ex” and a friend. The fact that she’s even sweating it tells me there is more to the story though.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 18th, 2009
4:42 pm

@Ared … your 4:23 really hits a nerve with me. From a male standpoint, if a man is serious about a woman, he does not like this scenario AT ALL. I’ve dealt with this a couple of times and ultimately the “it doesn’t mean anything, I’m with you” meant “yes he is an old flame, and yes there is still an ember burning there”. I hate it. The first time I ran into this ended what was probably to this day a relationship that still to this day hurts a little. “Nothing will happen” …some how turned into “he has really changed” and then to “he just wants to stay a few more days” to my “don’t darken my doorstep again”.

I hate to admit this because I am normally a pretty mellow guy, but there is ALWAYS an underlying competition amongst men…and this is the kind of scenario that can really be destructive to a relationship. Just my two cents.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:43 pm

@DJ- Never underestimate black peoples love for R.Kelly..lol

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:43 pm

Poppa Grande…Dude, I can spent hours in wikipedia…I learned how to play pool, thanks to that site…LOL

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May 18th, 2009
4:45 pm

Randy – My friend is the female. It’s her new man. The ex is coming to stay with him.

But the rules should be the same no matter what the players. I’m a little concerned that the guy hasn’t told the ex to pump her breaks. It could all be innocent, but why create an uncomfortable situation for the current if you don’t have to?

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
4:45 pm

You dont “deal” with church women, but you lead them?

hmmmm

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
4:47 pm

LMAO @ Cemeeli.

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
4:48 pm

Randy – A good friend of mine’s fiance’ pulled this crap on her. This chick was supposed to be just a “good friend” that was moving to ATL and needed somewhere to stay until she found a place. My friend said she thought she had already met all of his family and friends and this chick just came outta nowhere. She told him she was uncomfortable with it, but he insisted on “friend” staying with him. She broke it off.

How about a year later, dude & “friend” were married!

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
4:48 pm

Demi

Wikipedia is something else. It has help me in class as well when I couldn’t remember what happened in a particular case that the professor asks me about. (All those darn cases run together after a while)

That’s cool that it taught you something knew like pool. If only, it could teach me a better golf swing…lol. Then again, my swing is still better than Charles Barkley.

On another note: Why did Chuck tell that old joke last night? Ernie Johnson asked Charles why he doesn’t buy a watch for his lady? Charles answered with “Because there is a clock on the stove!” Only Charles can get away with that mess…

Melo

May 18th, 2009
4:49 pm

What should you do about the ex that’s coming to visit in a month

he shld stay in the hotel..adult thing to do.Her most concern is to the new guy….

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
4:49 pm

I went to visit an engaged ex and stayed at his place that weekend. He tried to sleep with me the whole time. I was the only one respecting his bride to be!

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
4:50 pm

My friend is the female. It’s her new man. The ex is coming to stay with him.

Still a jacked-up situation, Amred.

Poppa Grande

May 18th, 2009
4:51 pm

W8

Don’t count me in number of R. Kelly fans. He got off (just like OJ) because the cops didn’t do their jobs correctly. They should have known that Robert Kelly would have good representation and they had to do their jobs correctly. Get the warrant for the camera before taking it.

As a resutl, The camera with the pictures was excluded from the trial.

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
4:52 pm

Still a jacked-up situation, Amred.

I’ll say! I would offer to pay the cost of ole girl’s ticket. I mean, what’s $200 for some Bytch Be Gone spray! lol

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
4:53 pm

RandyT’s explanation works for both sexes. If he was really into his new GF, he will not allow his ex to stay. You know the motto, we now want back what the other girl now has. She should stay in a hotel because jealously and suspicion will rear it’s ugly head and the guy will now see his gf in a different light just by her actions.

Melo

May 18th, 2009
4:53 pm

I went to visit an engaged ex and stayed at his place that weekend

Young chics who havent had much experience in da dating game do this.U get dinerred up(wrd??)!!! U fault.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:53 pm

@Cee- heck yeah..lol..i know me!! Seriously though I dont mess around there, for multiple reasons…keeps you out of the gossip circuit, if it doesnt work out you are black balled…and most (not all) want to streamline to marriage..besides if the good Lord told ME that one was my mate I would act on it…but until then i’m chilling…lol

Melo

May 18th, 2009
4:53 pm

I went to visit an engaged ex and stayed at his place that weekend

Young chics who havent had much experience in da dating game do this.U get dinerred up(wrd??)!!! Ur fault.

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2009
4:55 pm

Melo, my thought process is different from most people when it comes to situations like this. If I truly felt that she and ol boy had something going on while they were roommates, I wouldn’t have pursued anything with her. As it stands, everything turned out fine. We got married, and he married the woman he was with at that time.

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
4:55 pm

WilleD You know the matching plaid outfits (i actually call ‘em “kits”) that you’ve seen floating around Colli Park and Decatur too (hush Mo with the Chevy crowd.

That’s that kit i’m talking about.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:55 pm

W8…Dude, I went to church on Easter…I thought I was at a meat market.

I now go to church looking bommmie…LOL

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
4:55 pm

RandyT’s example works for both genders.

Not surprised a year later friend and dude got married.

If he insists, he’s not your man!

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
4:56 pm

It’s for the Mini-stray!

~ Ya’ll be easy.

Randyt (aka Been there, Done that, Got a Closet FULL of t-shirts)

May 18th, 2009
4:56 pm

Ared and Kimmie…mine was her ex-husband who had just had his father die and just got a divorce so the kids thought it waould be nice to invite “Daddy for Christmas since he had such a rough year”. He could have stayed with his grown son but she felt sorry for him and told him he could stay at her place. He just kept “innocently” asking for more and more until I drew a line in the sand. She stepped over, I got drunk, told her it was over. Three weeks later she flew to Dallas and slept with him. Seven months later she was my real estate agent and we sort of got together, but she never could find a “good” time to tell him it was over and I moved on. She later told me that the next three years were totally wasted. Too late.

A side note. The four relationships in my somewhat long now life that I valued the most ALL ended in December…I have been very tempted since to stop all relationships from Thanksgiving to Valentines Day and spend that time with one of my oldest friends Makers Mark.

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May 18th, 2009
4:57 pm

melo – I didn’t “get” anything except a fun visit to a place I hadn’t been too. The word “no” still works as good as ever.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:57 pm

Cemeeli…I blame B.E.T.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
4:57 pm

@PG- I can not deny R.Kelly Public Announcements influence on my college years..lol..Ob Barkley hate his golf swing but I like the guy.

@Ared- B*tch Be Gone Spray is a must

@DJ- When it’s yours you know it’s yours..you got your woman

@Cee- When we riding thru the hood for old times sake..lol

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
4:58 pm

DJ – But they were roommates, not some “ex” rolling into town for their annual visit. Don’t seem like the same type of situation to me.

Demi

May 18th, 2009
4:58 pm

I have been very tempted since to stop all relationships from Thanksgiving to Valentines Day…

Ish saves me a lot of money, LOL

Cemeeli

May 18th, 2009
4:58 pm

W8 Ima get on you bout the church women…cuase OBVIOUSLY you don’t CEE who is throwing that sheet around you.

Ain’t nothing wrong with marrying a church women. Atleast there will be fried chicken and peach cobbler at your Repass.

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
4:58 pm

Maybe its me, but my ex couldn’t even suck my big toe!

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
4:59 pm

Oh, that crap will post but not when I’m making a boatload of sense! Go figure!

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 18th, 2009
4:59 pm

Ahh The Boondocks – I miss them too. ‘you gon’ pay what you owe!’ my favorite Riley line

Demi

May 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

Statement of the day…

When it’s yours you know it’s yours..you got your woman

AmazonRed™ - Lakers rocked L.A. - LITERALLY!

May 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

LOL @ Leggs. But I’m with you. That’s why I don’t remain friends with exes. Don’t need the headaches! Your friendship is not that great! lol

Night everyone.

Tazzee - all moved in (sort of)

May 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

Have a good night all!

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
5:00 pm

@DEMI- Yeah thats why i sit waaaaayyyy of front at Word Of Faith….no distractions and I beeline out.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
5:01 pm

@Ared- I dont talk to exes either…ever

Demi

May 18th, 2009
5:01 pm

Ain’t nothing wrong with marrying a church women. Atleast there will be fried chicken and peach cobbler at your Repass….

Yep, they seems to blow up after marriage…uh huh!!

kimmie

May 18th, 2009
5:01 pm

Nite All!

W8 – Nite my Dawg buddy!

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
5:02 pm

Goodnight.

@ARed, have your gf ask her man to put his ex up at a hotel. If he insists HE’S NOT HER MAN!

Demi

May 18th, 2009
5:03 pm

W8…that’s why a lot church put the oldda sisters upfront..

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
5:04 pm

@Ce- and thats why I dont eat fried foods..lol

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
5:04 pm

@Kimmie- Cya, soon

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2009
5:10 pm

W8, you go to Word of Faith over by Six Flags? That’s the church my in-laws go to. We went there for Mother’s Day.

Randy, my boy introduced me to Maker’s Mark last year. It’s now one of my favorite drinks. He calls it the Mind Eraser. lmao

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2009
5:13 pm

To touch on another comment that a couple of people have made: With the exception of one woman in particular, I’m still cool with most of my exes. One of them even went bowling with me and my wife a while back. Some of them don’t even live here, so it’s all good. The one ex that I’m not cool with, I’ve forgiven her for what she tried to do, but on the other hand, we ain’t about to be best friends anytime soon.

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
5:17 pm

@DJ- Yep

Leggs

May 18th, 2009
5:24 pm

I’m cool w/my ex because he’s the father of my child and she doesn’t need to see any friction. We’re divorced but I’m civil for her sake!

Demi

May 18th, 2009
5:34 pm

open?

-W8©

May 18th, 2009
5:34 pm

TIme to go to work cyall

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