Today’s entry is courtesy of one of our wonderful, fabulous readers. I hope she doesn’t mind that I took her topic idea almost in it’s entirety! Check out what “Foots” had to say:
The things that made me love you are the things pushing me away now. – Nothing Left to Say (Mint Condition)
I believe that many desirable and undesirable qualities are flip sides of the same coin. In their song, they speak of wonderful attentiveness becoming crazy possessiveness. In my past, I dated a guy who I admired that he was such a good friend and concerned family member and that he kept in touch with his friends/family often. But part of the reason we broke up was that we never had any time together because he was ALWAYS on the phone taking on other people’s problems.
Here are some others that I have read or seen before:
So, now, not only do we have to deal with good and bad totally separate qualities that a mate may have (i.e. person may be responsible/dependable, but not terribly romantic), we also have to accept that qualities we love tend to always come with a flip side of the very thing that irritates us the most.
I can really relate to this, on both “sides of the coin”. What drew me to a guy, was the very reason we ended up hitting the skids: confidence. Oh, confidence is cute in the beginning, but after a while it can be a bit too much.
What do you guys think? Have you experienced this in your relationships?
Is this an example of “careful what you wish for?” or are we a little clueless about relationships are about?